You Are Lovable By Nature, Not By What You've Done

We follow a sparkling winter morning into a deep dive on self-love, boundaries, and why worth cannot be outsourced. We unpack early programming, reframe sacrifice as focus, and share a simple lens: every behavior is either an expression of love or a call for love.

• how conditional love is learned in early childhood through reactions and rewards
• why self-sacrifice fails and focus works
• you cannot control others’ feelings, only your interpretation
• empathy versus sympathy and avoiding burnout
• setting boundaries and noticing who disappears
• lovable by existence, not by performance
• the “expression of love” or “call for love” lens
• behavior as communication across all ages
• four daily statements to reprogram self-worth

I am lovable. I am worthy. I am deserving. I am important to the world.

Transcript

SPEAKER_04 0:10

We are on the line.

SPEAKER_00 0:13

On an exquisite day, there's no weather terminology to seek to. The sun is shining bright, the sky is blue, there's a wonderful mist over the river. The snow is shiny white. There's little frozen crystals on everything. It looked like diamonds. Some people might say it's a sunny cold day, but not me. That doesn't even come close. It's a good day.

SPEAKER_04 0:43

It's a good day.

SPEAKER_00 0:44

I officially judge it as good.

SPEAKER_04 0:47

The judgment is in.

SPEAKER_00 0:49

Judgment has been passed.

SPEAKER_04 0:52

Oh my gosh. Yeah, it's definitely crispy out there in the chat. It's crispy cold there where you are. Yeah. And I hear the birds outside.

SPEAKER_00 1:02

You're saying it's cold, but it's beautiful.

SPEAKER_04 1:04

They're coming around. I actually put feed out for them this year. Or not this year. Started. I started a c a couple weeks ago.

SPEAKER_00 1:16

Declaring this as the last cold day of the year. Yeah. Minus 24.

SPEAKER_04 1:22

That's just not right.

SPEAKER_00 1:25

It's amazing how humans survive that stuff. Well, now that we have houses.

Weekend Joy And Feeling Loved

SPEAKER_04 1:31

Oh my. So yeah, it's Monday morning, and we're I think we are very full from the weekend. We are very lucky to have a full fridge of leftovers. Yeah. Yeah. Had a great time. And we played pickleball yesterday. That was a lot of fun. And then went out for a dinner. That was a riot.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

We laughed till we couldn't breathe.

SPEAKER_04 2:07

I'm surprised they didn't kick us out. Yes. Oh my gosh. But it was a ton of fun. Ton of fun. And I I felt loved. I felt loved.

SPEAKER_00 2:19

Good start.

Defining Love Beyond Conditions

SPEAKER_04 2:20

Yeah. Yeah. It was just nice to have that energy of everybody together. That was really nice. So today we're going to expand on love. Yes, community is love. Absolutely. Absolutely. Today we're going to expand on love. And if you have any questions, not that you know, we'll try our best to answer them, but love is one of those topics that we just try our best to feel and sort of muddle through. And so, but if you have any questions, please drop them in the chat. Because yeah, it's Monday morning and our brains are probably just as slow as yours today.

Self-Love As The Core Issue

SPEAKER_00 3:04

Well, it is it is the topic, right? It is the topic. It is the thing to try to wrap your mind around and embrace. It is the force of life. It is icing on the cake. It is the sunshine in the day. You know, love is a huge idea. And, you know, I think I'll offer this as a first reframe. It's hard to describe a box when you are inside it. It's hard to know the outside of your home when you're living inside. And I think that we are love by our nature. And to then think we can step outside of that and give a full description of it, I think is really hard. I think it's really easy for us to talk about how it feels when we feel love. When we feel love for others, when we receive love from others, when we open ourselves to love from others. I mean, that's what we talked about last time. It's so important to be open to love because love is something you have to allow, something you have to admit into you. It is something you have to accept because we're so good at blocking it. But to consider love as a creative force, an extending force, a vibrational expansion might sound, you know, technically correct. But I think you know, love is discoverable. You know, we can find ourselves within it and discover new things there, new things about us, new things about others, new things about feelings. Um yeah, I think there's a lot of value in just trying to dwell in love. But really, our topic is self-love.

SPEAKER_01 5:13

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:15

You know, that's really where we're headed because you know, as hypnotists, that's what we find to be a huge problem. It's a it's a huge component, let's use that word, of just about everything we do.

SPEAKER_04 5:28

Yeah, boils down. The common denominator seems to be a lack of self-love if somebody is coming out to us. But that's not where their mind usually sits, right? They're not thinking about self-love when when they're suffering, they're not thinking about self-love. But I think once we get started and we we start working on different things, it becomes pretty apparent that that is an area that needs some boosting, you know.

SPEAKER_00 6:00

All the time.

SPEAKER_04 6:02

And I think excuse me, that that is it's hard for people. It's hard for a lot of people to to love themselves. They think they're you know, they did one bad thing when they were five, or you know, and maybe I'm not lovable now. And that's just not the case. Right. I think you know, reframe that we do in hypnosis for self-love is we go back and we look at the baby self, you know, just born, all wrapped up. And I, in my opinion, this is my opinion, but if you think of any little baby just born, every single one on the planet, how are they not lovable? But we get older and we go through events and people tell us things, and we tell ourselves things, and then we feel bad or guilty or shameful about things, and then we develop this story of being unlovable. Or I don't know if it's just as bad, but we develop stories about others that they are unlovable because of.

Early Programming And Conditional Affection

Teen Years And Confused Models Of Love

SPEAKER_00 7:16

It's hard to think of others differently than you think of yourself. I think you can see others as lovable and question your own lovability, but I think that inside we have a deep subconscious awareness that we are all the same. And so trying, you know, I think what happens is we turn love into a response to actions or a response to conditions. Love is becomes a reward for certain conditions. Love becomes love because of this. I feel love. And I think that it's important to realize that the way we think of others will be the way we think of ourselves. And if we take on programs about how and when you should love, we're gonna see them as true about others, and they're gonna we're gonna see them as true about ourselves. And these programs are very, very often, as Hillary says, you know, as you said, you know, a baby comes into the world, and then a baby starts acting in the world, and the baby acting in the world starts receiving other people's reactions, other people's responses, mostly reactions, though. And those reactions, unfortunately, are generally a lot of frustration. I mean, uh I think about babies and how frustrated I get at my inability to know what's going on for them. When a baby's crying, they don't have the ability to say, hi, I got a little bit of gas over here, and I'm having a hard time pooping. And so, you know, I'm feeling really kind of off right now, so I'm gonna cry. But baby just cries, and what's going on on the inside you can't know. And then your desire to help becomes frustrated, and you certainly don't necessarily respond with a loving embrace. And then the baby smiles later and is comfortable because you know they had a good poop and they had a good nap, and they're looking at life differently right now, and so you're looking at them differently right now, and you're offering them a different response, a different reaction, and they like that reaction better, and they, before they can even speak language, are associating the affection that shows love with their own behavior, their own internal states. And these are all subconscious lessons. And I think it's just so important to see that it it's instantaneous. As soon as you're out there in the world as a baby, you are constantly learning, and you're learning how other people respond to you. And that creates different degrees of your feeling safe and happy and content, as well as fearful and confused and upset. And it just starts right from the get-go, like right at the beginning. And then as we get older, and you know, parents reward good behavior and punish bad behavior, even before we can speak English, right? Even before we can speak the language that our parents speak, yeah, we are receiving very clear messages. Even before we really understand communication, we're communicating. And all of that reinforces these fears and confusions about what we call love. And so by the time we're talking, we have a lot of awareness of what is and isn't acceptable to our parents, what is and isn't acceptable to others, what is and isn't feeling good. And and I believe that when when you look at anyone in the world, it's worthwhile acknowledging that long before they had an operative, logical, conscious mind, yeah, they were being shaped into what is and isn't love, their understandings of love. And they weren't based in words, they were based in feelings, they were based in behaviors. So, yeah, it can be really confusing to try to be a teenager when you've got all this programming in you about love, and now you're out there as an independent being interacting with other fresh, new, independent beings. You know, think of a bunch of 10-year-olds hanging up with a bunch of 10-year-olds, a bunch of 12-year-olds hanging up with a bunch of 12-year-olds, right? They are really interested in finding out what's different and the same about each other. And they start sharing these ideas. Love seems to be one of those things that we don't want to talk about, but we want to feel and we want to have and we want to be. And then each of them brings to the table their own immature view of love. I'm not trying to be judgmental there. I'm just, you know, they have less experience. There's all kinds of things that we call love that you experience through the course of your life. You know, I I I say to, I've said to my sons multiple times, you know, when you have your own child, you'll understand how much I love you. Right. And and it's really a thing, right? My the day that my eldest son was born, you know, my mother says to me on the phone, I call her to say, okay, you got a new grandson. And, you know, I I jokingly say, she was just, she went, she came right after my heart and she said, Oh Les, what do you think about love now? And I started crying because, yeah, my view of love went through a major shift that day. Right? So I guess what I'm driving at here is that we move through life constantly reacting to circumstances that shape the way we interpret the idea of love, and what love is, and when love happens, and why love happens, and how love happens, and what is love? Is it the hug or is it the feeling behind the hug? Is the hug always loving? Right? So we we go through life just amassing this broad database of something that we'll call our understanding of love. And then somebody says to us something crazy like, Well, do you love yourself? Right? Because that's not something we talk about. We never tell a little kid you should love yourself, right? That just makes them conceited and self-centered and selfish and right, like it's we have all these views about love, and we don't talk about self-love. Anyway, I say all of this to try to create this overwhelming picture of all the programming that we all have received about this idea of love, and it's come at us from a thousand directions and thousands of people with all kinds of levels of understanding and awareness, to the point where we're we call ourselves adults, we call ourselves mature and aware, and somebody can look you in the eye when you're sitting in the hypnotist chair and say, Well, how do you feel about self-love? And you can just start crying, right? Because that's that's not atypical, that happens often.

Caregivers, Boundaries, And Self-Sacrifice

SPEAKER_04 15:34

So uh something I've noticed throughout the years of practice with people is uh I've noticed that the ones that are the most from the outside, the most giving, the most loving from an outsider's perspective, have are really struggling with self-love. They've been told growing up that you know you do everything for others, or maybe they were put into a position where they had to care for others really quickly, like you know, maybe their parents were not really around in any way, and they had to look after their siblings. And so they'd be they were put very quickly into these care positions. And then because of that, they never really got the chance to look at their how they treated themselves. It was always about others. Yeah. So what I've noticed is is that the carers, the biggest givers that I've worked with at least, have a really hard time imagining what self-love could be like because that's selfish, right? Well, what what will what will happen if I start to take care of myself? Maybe I won't be there for others in the same way. What happens when we look at our boundaries? Are the boundaries that I have bad? You know, as a as a giver, like as a carer, someone thinking that, are my boundaries actually bad? It's not that they're bad, but they might be unhelpful. Yeah, in the chat, self-sacrifice, big message that a lot of kids hear.

SPEAKER_00 17:25

Yeah, sacrifice is held up on a pedestal. And in my experience now as a hypnotist and just a person trying to get through this world, yeah, I reject that concept wholly.

SPEAKER_04 17:37

The self-sacrifice.

You Cannot Control Others’ Feelings

SPEAKER_00 17:39

Any any kind of idea of sacrifice, right? I think that it's a bad way of thinking of it. I think it leads to thinking about self-punishment and self-denial. And I don't think that those are helpful concepts. I think focus, you know, people say, well, what are you willing to sacrifice to get what you want? I'm not willing to sacrifice anything. What I am willing to do is work hard. What I am willing to do is focus on how to make it happen. What I am willing to do is keep myself so focused on what I want that other things seem to become less important and they seem to fall away. And I'm not going to spend time on those other things. But that's not about sacrifice, that's about focus, that's about excitement and desire. I want that thing, experience, whatever way, I want that so bad that I'm going to remain completely focused on that. That's not a sacrifice, that's an accomplishment. And if I think that to show my love for somebody, I need to suffer. I need to go through a negative so that they can feel positive. You know, I think one of the biggest reframes, let's start, let's start here. I think this is a good place to start. You cannot control what somebody else feels. You can do a lot of good things, you can do a lot of bad things. You can certainly know that there's certain things you can do that are going to trigger certain kinds of emotions, but you can't control what somebody else feels. And you know that because other people can't really control you. You know at some point or another, what you feel, what you think about you is under your control, right? Which means that you can be in control of your feelings, you can be in control of how you interpret what other people do. Yeah, and being aware of that and embracing that, I think is really powerful. Embracing and saying my state of mind belongs to me, right? When other people express love to me, that's about them. Yeah, that's not about me. I might have done something that caused them to do it, but I didn't really cause them to do it. They interpreted what I did as deserving of love, and then they offered love.

SPEAKER_01 20:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:09

And for some people, it wouldn't matter what you do, they're not going to give you any love. Right? For some people, you know, you can't, you can't control them expressing love for you. And it becomes pointless to try.

SPEAKER_04 20:28

Yeah. In the chat, there's also empaths absorb other folks' feelings and put themselves second or third. Again, the awareness is key, right?

Empathy, Sympathy, And People-Pleasing

SPEAKER_00 20:40

I think that no, that every human being has the capacity to be empathic, the capacity to look at situations and be able to say, this is what I might feel in that situation. And I think some people train themselves to be very, very good at picking up on other people's energies in a very subconscious and unconscious way. And I think some people have learned that when they are very sympathetic, and I separate that from empathetic, empathetic is understanding what others might feel. Sympathetic is feeling what others might feel. I think that they can become their empathy, they can trigger a sympathy, and that can be very welcomed by the other person, and they might might respond with expressions of love. And that just trains people to become more empathetic and more sympathetic. And I think some people are very focused on that because they really, really want love, and they really associate getting love with giving empathy. There's a connection there. Natural human connection, and I'm not criticizing it.

SPEAKER_01 22:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:03

But I think it's a skill. I don't think it's an inherent nature. I think everyone has it. I think some people put no effort into developing it.

Changing The Dance And Losing Takers

SPEAKER_04 22:15

Yeah, and I I I think that for for listeners who are maybe on a path of creating boundaries or on a path of looking more at self-love, you can really tell who were the takers in your life because suddenly they're either mad or they just disappear. But depending so when that happens, it's important to be aware that that's about them. It's not about you. You're not a bad person or selfish because they're mad or they disappeared. They were just people in your life. And you could probably think of think of them right now. They're the ones that are just takers, right? They don't they don't reciprocate. And so when that l Les and I talk about the dance, you know, as you're changing, we've got these dances that we do energetically with people in our lives. And when that changes, when you start to dance, you know, I don't know, they're doing the salsa and you were doing the salsa and now you're doing, I don't know, the jig. Try to think of dances, that can really throw them off balance. And it's not that it's a bad thing. You are making changes, and that's why we sort of joked last week about, I think we made the joke about the the divorce plan. Are you on are you on the divorce program? But when this changes, either the person goes, oh wow, yeah, you're you're making changes. That's great for you. Let's let's see how this goes and they change along with you, or they just sort of disappear. And again, their disappearance or their anger is theirs, and it's nothing about you, like Les said earlier. And you you cannot control what someone else feels. You can be the nicest person on the planet, per perfect, there's no such thing, but you can be the most perfect person on the planet, and people are going to have an issue. They're gonna have an issue, and that's not up to you to control.

Lovable By Existence, Not Performance

Rewriting Your Internal Recipe For Love

SPEAKER_00 24:39

I think self-love is just a world of dozens and dozens of reframes because of the volume of confusing programs that we carry around. You know, we we do a self-hypnosis practice that fundamentally says I am lovable. And I'm not lovable because of anything. I'm lovable by my nature, by existing. And this is where I talk about, you know, seeing love as a creative force, as an extension. Your very existence, when you change the way you think about love, your very existence is an expression of love. And I don't mean an expression of love between your parents, though you that's certainly fair game to see it that way. I see it as the nature of creation. Creation wants to extend. You know, we all look at the pictures of the little flower fighting its way up from the concrete, you know, ground, and that little flower emerges, and we talk about life finding a way. You know, I think there's a lot of similarities, there's a lot of commonality in the force of love and the force of life. But I guess what I'm driving at is you gotta open your mind to the idea that maybe you don't understand everything you could, that most of what you understand has come to you from others, that you can take all of that that's come from others and you can examine it yourself and you can reconsider it. And you can put together your own recipe in your mind of what love is, and that that might be best as seen as a temporary recipe as you learn more and more about love, as you become more and more aware of love all around you. And you know, I want to put in that recipe for everyone because I found it to be a valuable part of the recipe for everyone I've ever talked to about it, is an awareness that your very existence, right? Like however you consider creation, you know, the universe created me. I'm here, I'm here, and I'm meant to be here, or I wouldn't be here, and the universe wants me here, or I wouldn't be here. And whatever you consider to be the will of the creation, will of the universe, whatever words you want to use, you are here. And by virtue of your existence, you are an expression of love. You are lovable by virtue of your existence, not by virtue of what you do or you say or what you wear or what you do for a living or how much money you have or what kind of car you have or what kind of things other people say about you, right? Nothing external to me can determine my value, especially when I realize everybody out there acting, doing, being, is doing it from their own center of awareness. They're not doing it from a true awareness of me, right? It's not about me. The way other people act and express, it's not about me, it's about them. I just happen to be the one here right now receiving it. And even when it's in response to something I said or did, it's still their interpretation of what I said or did, and their expression is about them and that recipe that's inside them. If nothing external to me can determine my worth, right, then nothing external to me can create value in me. Nothing external to me can take away my value, but nothing external to me can create my value. And this is a huge reframe. That means that whatever I perceive my value to be is under my control. Whatever I perceive my value to be is completely under my control. It's a function of my interpretations, it's a function of my programming, it's a function of my experiences all built up and interpreted to mean something about me. But nobody outside me can determine my value. So it's up to me to determine my value. And if the universe bothered to create you, then you're supposed to be here. And if you're supposed to be here, then you're supposed to be you, whoever that is, regardless of other people's judgments of that. Yeah, regardless of other people's interpretations of that. I think that saying to yourself and really trying to mean it that I am lovable is a really powerful thing. And it's not just meaning it, it's about feeling it, it's about letting it be you. I think that that is important on a daily basis, and always remembering that what other people think, say, and do is about them, and it can never actually be about you, because at best, it's about their interpretation of you, and their interpretation of you is based on all their stuff. I think self-love is all about reframing all the stuff we've learned through our lives. Yeah, I I like that idea of taking responsibility for your own self-love and your own worth because it it can't get past you, right? Like just like love has to be allowed and accepted, yeah, right. You got to be open to it, yeah. Right. Other people can't make you feel good about yourself if you're determined to feel bad about yourself.

unknown 30:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 30:55

And I think a good exercise, what's coming to me, and I hope it stays in my brain as I talk it out, but a good exercise to know that it is about our judgment of others, uh, you know, is to think of somebody in the world that you might think, oh my God, that person is definitely not lovable. Like, what would you know that we just we just can't see past whatever they're doing. And we might be able to come up with somebody or a few people, and to then switch to, okay, well, what if that person, same person, had a different upbringing and a different version of love about themselves and a different version of how they try to access love in this world, or a different version because of how they grew up, of how they interact with the world. Would you think of them lovable then? And that right away, just sort of, for me at least, in my opinion, it it it goes, okay. Well, it is about my judgment then. It is my about my judgment because they're the same person, they're just doing different things based on their upbringing, based on their own internal version of acceptance in the world.

Expression Of Love Or Call For Love

SPEAKER_00 32:19

I think deep, deep, deep down in our deepest subconscious mind, we are aware of our sameness. We're aware of our oneness. And I think deep, deep down, it is impossible to think of one person as lovable and another person as not lovable. Deep, deep down. I think on our judgmental, superficial mind, it's very easy. In fact, it's the habit. But I think there's a deep, deep awareness, and what that does is it really sets everyone up to be unlovable if you can't see yourself as lovable. If you see yourself as only lovable based on conditions, circumstances, actions, situations. If you only see yourself as lovable as under conditions, it's hard to see others as lovable beyond conditions. You know, we talk about it as being an a sort of an evolution of the spirit, an evolution of the mind, where you begin to be able to see the inherent nature of everyone. I think what makes that easier is to see everyone as acting out a program that they have accumulated over their existence. Everyone has had a different set of experiences that have accumulated into a worldview and a self-view and a social view. And that's what they're using to interpret what's going on around them, and that's what they're using to choose how they express out there into the world, how they behave, what they say, what they think, what they do. And if you see everyone as a being that has had a collection of experiences that have led them to their conclusions, and you see that for what it is, it's just a bunch of experiences. And it's really misleading and it's really confusing, and it really has caused a lot of pain, and it's it's caused a lot of inaccurate and incorrect views about people and life and the world. If you see everybody is living that out, I call that the context of my life, the way I view the world and I view me within it. If I see everyone as acting out their interpretation of their context, then sometimes I can see past that.

SPEAKER_01 34:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 34:59

And I can remember that at the point of their creation, they were perfect. At the point of their creation, they were perfectly lovable. And it's only what they've collected and how they're expressing what they've collected that interferes with my ability to see that. And if that's true about them, then it's true about me.

SPEAKER_04 35:25

Can you add to that? This keeps coming to mind, but I can't remember the exact wording. Everything is a call. I don't know where I'm going with that.

Bulletproofing Through Self-Responsibility

SPEAKER_00 35:34

A really great way to go through life is to see everything as one of two things. Everything a human being does is one of two things. It's either an expression of love, and that's pretty easy to recognize. You can see that kind of thing. You can see lots of people doing very loving things all the time. And if it doesn't look like an expression of love, then what it is is a request for love. It is a call for love. It is a deeply felt yearning for love. When somebody gets mad, it's because they feel like they're being treated unfairly, and they just want the unfairness to end. They want to be loved. So they act angry, or they act frustrated, or they act guilty or shameful, or they act confused, they act quickly and harshly and react. It's because they're not feeling loved. Something is going on in their life that's not allowing them to express in love. So if you just split everything up into one of two categories, this is either an expression of love, which is beautiful and it all works out great, and nothing to worry about, or it's a call for love.

SPEAKER_03 37:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:01

And then everything I do is a choice between those two.

unknown 37:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:05

Am I going to express love, or am I going to express in a way that wants love? And it's really easy to sort of look around the world and sort of see everybody shouting at each other, please love me. Please love me. All these crazy behaviors, all this crazy stuff we're watching in the world, please love me. This is what I think I have to do to get somebody to love me.

SPEAKER_01 37:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:32

This is what I have to do in reaction to the way people are treating me because they're not loving me. It's it's a really simple thing. And I believe that when you are strong in the idea that I am lovable, it's much easier to interpret everything that way.

SPEAKER_03 37:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:54

But when I'm functioning from a place of, am I lovable? Am I good enough? What's wrong with me? Am I worthy? If I'm functioning from a place of I've got to do a whole bunch of things to be lovable, it's very hard to see somebody else's call for love as a call for love. And I do believe, and I've come to the conclusion because I take it for myself first and foremost. It's up to me to determine whether or not I'm lovable. I take, you know, Hillary hears me say it all the time, I take responsibility for my emotions. I have to take responsibility for my emotions because nobody else can. My emotions are occurring inside me based on how I am interpreting what's going on around me. And if I am always lovable and I'm strong in that, it's very easy to see other people's actions as all about them. It's very easy to hear other people's words as all about them. And when that's happening, when I'm really strong in my own love and I'm really strong in my awareness that everyone else is just acting out whatever they're going through, and it's got nothing to do with me. Yeah, I tell my clients, that's bulletproof. That's like anything can happen, and I'm going to be okay. Because I'm always lovable. Now I'm in a position to look at others and say, well, this is just their need for love. This is their need to feel like they're worthy. This is their need. They're screaming at me for taking their parking spot because they feel like they've been treated unfairly and the world is unfair, and that was their darn parking spot. And why are you taking it away from me? I need to stand up for myself, right? This is them saying, I want to be loved and respected and cared for, right? And it's got nothing to do with me. It's got everything to do with whatever state they are in at that time.

Behavior As Communication And Boundaries

SPEAKER_04 39:57

And this takes many forms, as you might be thinking, like listeners might be thinking about all these different forms of calling, a call for love. It doesn't mean that we have to put up with it or feel bad for them. Because there's many different circumstances where it could be just bad for us, right? Taking that on. And so it is about them. It's not about you. And and and you can decide to to not have that be in your life. But just remember it is about them. And it is in the chat, in the chat is that behavior is communication. Like we said earlier, and earlier in the chat, it was in nursing, we say behavior is communication. Sometimes people forget that a reaction from a baby crying or a confused elderly person reacting in a certain way is communication. Yeah, that's so important. Because we can, like Les said earlier, just react.

SPEAKER_00 41:04

We don't know what uh and if you're coming from a place that I am lovable and this has nothing to do with me, it becomes really easy to see it as communication.

SPEAKER_04 41:15

Yeah. Yeah.

Four Daily Self-Love Statements

SPEAKER_00 41:17

So I guess I'd like to end because way past our time. I'd like to end with four statements and feel free to write them down. Feel free to come back to this podcast and know that in the last couple of minutes, you know, there's four statements that you might want to practice. And you might just want to practice sitting with these. You don't have to, you don't have to do anything other than say them to yourself and try to mean them. I am lovable. I am worthy. I am deserving. I am important to the world. I'm going to say them again. I am lovable. I am worthy. I am deserving. Finally, I am important to the world. And just try to sit with those. Your mind might react, but consider these as statements of truth that have been true about you from the instant you were created, and everything else is programming. They were true about me the instant I was created, and everything else is just programming. And I can reprogram.

unknown 42:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 42:31

And although I know that there might be some hard reactions to it, I know it's true about you.

SPEAKER_03 42:39

Absolutely. Absolutely. All right, guys, have a great day. Thanks for hanging out, and we will see you later.