You Are Worthy! Part 2

We talk about why we want to untie ourselves from place and stuff, then use that as a bridge into the deeper question of what makes a person worthy. We challenge the myths that link self-worth to money, status, and other people’s approval, and we share a practical way to release “I’m not worthy” from the body. 
• wanting freedom without losing connection 
• the three myths of worth being external, variable, and judged by others 
• how “being a good worker” becomes an identity trap 
• why career culture turns salary and status into a value system 
• money stories rooted in shame, jealousy, and protection 
• the superiority traps on both sides of wealth and lack 
• how striving keeps people locked in a system and headed for burnout 
• questions that reveal what you truly want versus what you were taught to want 
• a worthiness exercise using parts work and somatic release 
If you have any questions, please let us know. 

Transcript

Summer Morning And A Fresh Start

SPEAKER_01 0:10

We are on the line.

SPEAKER_00 0:12

Birds are singing, sun is shining. It has the whole appearance of the beginning of summer out there. Seems like yesterday we were talking about the snow and the rain. We were whining and complaining. I don't think it gets any better than this.

SPEAKER_01 0:30

No, it really is gorgeous. On days like this, I'm like, come on, people, you gotta look at our house. It's so beautiful.

SPEAKER_00 0:39

Come and buy it.

SPEAKER_01 0:40

Yeah, hang me money.

SPEAKER_00 0:43

We want to move. We have places to go, things to do. We want to release the ties here. Create create non-ties.

SPEAKER_01 0:55

Non-ties, ties.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

Not a bunch of stuff. Not a single place. Be a citizen of the world.

SPEAKER_01 1:03

Be uh a ladysmith resident.

SPEAKER_00 1:08

Maybe. Maybe somewhere. But all those out in Ladysmith, watch out, we're coming. Probably a place where we'll start. But yeah, be a citizen of the world. Don't be locked down to a place. Don't be locked down to stuff. Home becomes somewhere in our heart.

SPEAKER_01 1:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:33

And in our connections. It's been so great, you know, here the Fourth of Lakes, the connections we've made.

SPEAKER_01 1:40

Oh my gosh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:41

You know, and it's like, yeah, that was so much fun. Let's do it again.

SPEAKER_01 1:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:45

Because it's not like we're giving up our connections. I don't know that living in another part of the country we would see those people any last. I mean, mostly we know of them and we're aware of them, and then once in a while we cross paths.

SPEAKER_01 1:59

Yeah. Yeah. I thought about that with, you know, a family, and I think, you know, we see each other at celebrations and uh what do you call them, holidays? I feel like I've lost the English language here. But uh I do think that we might see them the amount the the same amount of time. I remember years ago, my brother and I were going to university in the same town, and I swear to god, I see I saw him the same amount of time that I see him now, and he lives three hours away. It's just funny like that, how we we get really accustomed to where we are and we see each other when we can, and it's not like we're hanging out all the time.

SPEAKER_00 2:49

Well, maybe connection has not a lot to do with proximity.

SPEAKER_01 2:52

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 2:54

Maybe connection is there no matter what the distance.

Three Myths About Self Worth

SPEAKER_00 2:57

You know, I I suppose we're talking about how we define ourselves and we're specifically focused on how we determine our worth, what we think we're our value is. And we keep coming back to the for me, I keep coming back to the three myths. I start there because when I accept the myths, I'm forced to look elsewhere. The myth that my worth is determined by something external to me. That my myth, the myth that my worth can change, that it can vary. It can vary based on what I do, it can vary based on what I have, it can vary based on who I know, it can vary based on what I'm involved in. You know, it it can vary. My worth can somehow go up and down and fluctuate. And that my worth is really, the third myth is really my worth is determined by others, yeah, by others' opinions, by others' points of view, by others' responses to me, others' approval, others my compliance with others' sets of rules, right? If if those are just obviously myths, right, then you're left with a more personal question of, you know, how is my worth determined? And I think that taking ownership of that, taking responsibility for that, you know, I am determining my worth every minute of every day in the choices that I make, in the way that I approach things, in the way of my own sense of deserving and entitlement and what I will and won't pursue for myself. I am the one truly making the choices. And so I have to take responsibility for my worth.

SPEAKER_01 4:55

Are you saying that that's a construct? Well, I'm thinking worth is innate.

SPEAKER_00 5:00

Well, that's a good word for it. What do you mean?

SPEAKER_01 5:05

I think worth, like we said yesterday, is something that we just are we are worthy. So I'm thinking while you're while you're saying things, I I'm thinking about, you know, if we're to take responsibility for our worth, isn't it already within us?

SPEAKER_00 5:21

Well, I think that that's that's the process you're going to have to engage, that thought process. Yeah, so you're gonna have to decide, okay, well, what how do I see my worth? You know, yesterday we talked about worth being about what you do and how that keeps you striving.

SPEAKER_01 5:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:42

Right.

When Work Becomes Your Identity

SPEAKER_00 5:43

You know, being good, being successful, being useful, being helpful. We see ourselves as needing to do. And then we're subject to however somebody shapes, somebody programs us with the ideas of being a good person, a good citizen, a good worker. I remember when uh when our neighbor, we were outside and he was talking to me about his wife, and he said, Yeah, she's a good worker. And I thought, oh, that's an interesting way of seeing your spouse. And it certainly explains, you know, you know, our our neighbor was a uh constant ball of motion. He was constantly working on his home and working on his garage and working on his stuff, and he was a non-stop ball of motion.

SPEAKER_02 6:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:46

Um, and you could see what he valued and how he put that value onto his wife, who might have come to the table with that value for herself, but it might have been something that developed through their relationship.

SPEAKER_01 7:02

Maybe we'll never know.

SPEAKER_00 7:04

How do we define our worth? But we were talking about money this morning, so let's talk about worth being determined by what you have. I mean, that's what we say. Yesterday I was trying to come up with a with a thought for the day for my LinkedIn.

SPEAKER_01 7:19

For your LinkedIn?

SPEAKER_00 7:20

Yeah. And I wanted to talk about worth because it's this stuff that's on my mind right now. It's on our mind. We're talking about it a lot.

LinkedIn Culture And Status Thinking

SPEAKER_00 7:30

We see it as sort of the block to accomplishing our goals. Are we are we deserving? Are we worthy? And I thought, well, how do I put that concept on LinkedIn? LinkedIn is a place where everybody's all about getting jobs and moving their career and making contacts and connections and being linked in to that inside circles. And then to put on LinkedIn. How is how is your worth determined? How do you see your worth? It just didn't seem uh Yeah, it it didn't seem like the venue to talk about such soft concepts. When when I consider LinkedIn, I think worth means how much money you're making, right? What's your salary? What's your position? What's your power level? What's your prestige level?

SPEAKER_01 8:23

Yeah, I don't know. Like I think it makes a lot of sense. For I'll give an example on school, the school platform that we love to use. Many of the top schools, the ones like churning, making lots of money, are schools that are teaching you how to make fast money. Okay. So it's like really out there. They're they're bringing in tons of people, making lots of money, teaching others how to be rich. I mean, we see it everywhere, right? Even on YouTube. The biggest biggest YouTube videos are like how to get rich quick kind of thing. But what I don't see, and what is needed, is this I think it's needed anyway. What the so that people don't churn out of your school. That means like drop out, right? Stop, stop paying you the monthly subscription or whatever. If you're teaching them how to make money, the way that you don't have more churn, people dropping out, is by empowering those people to have that worthiness, to know that, yeah, okay, I I can make money. I it I'm worthy of doing this. And that in my mind is positioned as like how to retain people. So on LinkedIn, I think everyone's out there trying to make money and trying to get jobs. But who's to say that, or I don't, I don't know how to finish that sentence, but like I think many of those people, if not all of them to a degree, need to know that they're worthy of getting that job. I can't tell you how many clients I've worked with who are in the process of getting jobs and need to release stuff to get that job, right? Release old patterns.

SPEAKER_00 10:22

Well, I agree with you. I mean, it's but it's an interesting conversation, right? So it's it's like if I am seeing myself as worthy and understanding that what I do does not define me, what I do is how I learned, then I free myself up to learn and to try and to open my heart to positive results, and I'm completely there, and I see that as just you know completely valid. At the same time, I don't know that people are busy on their LinkedIn for the purposes of self-awareness, and more so to the purpose of self-advancement.

SPEAKER_01 11:23

For sure.

unknown 11:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:24

Yeah. So anyway, uh I was struggling with how to approach that. And I think that it's valuable now today to sort of say, okay, so what does it mean when we attach our self-worth to our our stuff and our salary and our position? And you were thinking about money.

SPEAKER_01 11:45

Yeah, I was thinking

The Hidden Origins Of Money Shame

SPEAKER_01 11:46

about money. I I think that I don't know when money was first put out there on the planet when it first came around. But as I was thinking about money, I was connecting with my guides, I was sort of taken back in time in my mind to look at how humans started to interpret money, and something that started out as people in hot, I don't know, what what do you call high society? High is that a way of saying like kings, queens, people with money, they would hoard the money, and it became positioned in people's minds to be to have jealousy about it, anger about it. Then I was shown like kids growing up saying, why can't we have that? I mean, we see that now in society, but why can't we have that? And then there's shame around that developed over the ages. But was it what was interesting is as I went through the ages in my mind, it became a part for, you know, in hypnosis, we talked about parts work, but it became a part that was a protector for individuals so that they didn't have to feel the anger and the jealousy and the shame. The part said, okay, I am a good person if I'm in lack because I'm not taking. So the part in the method of protecting the person switched the bad emotions for a good emotion, saying you're a good person because you don't have all that. So of course, now I like to think I'm a good person. So I'm gonna hold on to that. I like to feel those good feelings of being a good person, so I'm gonna hold on to that part. But what also came to me is we don't live in that day and age, right? Yes, maybe hundreds, thousands of years ago, we needed to feel that to just get by. But now we've sort of turned it into this ego trap of well, I'm uh I'm a good person because I don't have all that. I don't, I'm not greedy like them. I'm not a bad person like them. And so we've sort of switched it uh over the eons from anger and jealousy to this part that's very much protecting us, making us feel better to have to not have.

SPEAKER_00 14:40

Yeah, it's become like a meme in the Dawkins sense.

SPEAKER_01 14:44

Does all that make sense? Please drop it in the chat. Sometimes I tell stories and I don't even know if they make sense. What were you saying, Dawkins?

Rich Versus Poor Superiority Traps

SPEAKER_00 14:54

No, it's be it's become a meme. It's become uh sort of a mental construct that's passed down, and and it's sort of two sides of a fence. One that I am superior if I have lots of money and it makes me a better person. And we can see what that's created on our planet, where people with a lot of money think they can do things that nobody should do, and they sort of take control over society by essentially owning politicians. And we've seen that direction go. And then there are those who see themselves as superior because they're poor, and and they start to have really messed up views on what it would mean to have a surplus, to have extra, to have lots, to have what they want. They they'll engage in self-judgment because part of them wants to live in a great big house with a big spanky car and particular kinds of vacations on the Riviera, whatever that is.

SPEAKER_02 15:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:58

And then and and and so then they have all that internal self-conflict. And this is where the idea of attaching money, which has nothing to do with your value as a person, although it can be a tool you can use to enjoy in your life and to utilize for a broader benefit. You know, the the idea of my value as a human being, my value as a person, my value as an individual being tied to what you have and how much you have, and how much you can have, and how much is right, good, justifiable to have, and how we use that that variation from person to person as a as a method or a criteria to judge them. And it just creates inside ourselves. I mean, we have a whole division in our school. Brian's life is focused on sort of understanding people's money stories, the the things we talk about money that get in the way. And fundamentally, the problem is that we attach money to our perception of our value as a person, our goodness, our our our worthiness, our deservingness.

SPEAKER_02 17:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:29

We start to think that having money is about deserving. And I think if you look around and observe those with money and those without money, that deserving really has nothing to do with it.

SPEAKER_01 17:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:42

Like, what are your criteria for deserving? But it really creates some really messed up structures in your mind when it comes to your approach to money.

SPEAKER_01 17:54

Well, yeah, sorry.

SPEAKER_00 17:55

No, just it just becomes a complex.

SPEAKER_01 17:58

Yeah. What came to my mind is oh, well, the deserving idea. A lot of us say, oh, you know, if you work hard, you deserve money. But it it doesn't even it doesn't even compute. I mean, you see people working their butts off, two, three jobs, and still not having enough, you know. So it it just is not even a thing that you know, oh, if you work hard, you deserve just like that. It's not the truth.

SPEAKER_00 18:27

Well, and and the the approach to money, too. You know, we yearn so much to be a certain kind of person, you know, that that it changes the way we approach money and spend money. You know, for some people it's all about saving. And for some people, it's all about spending. For some people, it's all about having now and not waiting, and that they're deserving is not to plan or utilize money over the course of the next few years, but to grab as much of it as they can right now and indulge in what they think is going to make them happy and sometimes falls short of that. But I guess what I'm I'm what I'm driving at is that this this connection between worth and money is a false one, that this connection between my value as a person and how much money I have or can get a hold of is is a false one. And our view of money as as a symbol of our value as a human being has become really out of hand in our world. And it's become a problem for individuals, it's become a problem for society. It's it's a question of why. What does what does having more do for you? What does having less do for you? What does it accomplish in your reflective time when you're examining yourself and trying to love yourself? Love being another way of measuring your self-worth. Um, are you worthwhile when more people love you? Think of celebrity. Does that make me a better person if I'm famous?

SPEAKER_01 20:23

Well, the answer is no, but we have been conditioned to see them as better. I don't know. I struggle with this word that we use, better person.

SPEAKER_00 20:34

I think you should struggle with that, but keep going.

SPEAKER_01 20:39

Yeah. Maybe subconsciously I see them as better. I think let me hash it out here. I think I see them as having an easier life, a life that I want. Not maybe not celebrity, but with wealth, having a life of ease, which was mentioned in the chat, comes back to feeling worthy of having more ease or wealth in our lives. We see them as superior, yeah. But this idea of like, I want to travel, I wanna, I wanna go sit on a river in Europe and eat this. I want, I wanna see waterfalls and mountains. I wanna, you know, I want to do this stuff. And I so I see that as like easy life. I know though, in my heart that their lives aren't easy, you know, it looks easy to us, but I don't think it is.

SPEAKER_00 21:36

These are all these constructs in our mind, you know. How can one person be better than another? How is that possible? If you are if you establish worth right from the get go, you exist, you were born, you are here in this world. As a human being in the world, your worth is established. You are a person in the world. It can't change, it can't grow, it can't vary, but because we think it can, and because what others do and say and act toward us and around us causes us to think that we can be better, we get confused and we start pursuing things, even to the point of saying, I want to be famous. I had a student once say to me, I want to be famous. And I say, and the value of that. And they said, I just want to be famous. I don't care what I'm famous for. I just want to be famous. And and in the abstract, I can completely understand how she came to that conclusion. She's living in a world where famous people seem to get everything they want. Famous people seem to be living the life of the drink. Yeah. Right. But to say, you know, hey, I want to live on the Riviera and eat pâtisserie, right? Exactly. I don't even know what that means. We don't even know what that means. We don't even know what it would mean to live like that. More importantly, is that a genuine desire on our part, or is it a construct we've taken on with the thought that I would be a better person if I was rich and famous living on some foreign shore, indulging my palate with everything I want, and sitting in the sunshine. And when the sun's not shining, I get on a plane and I go someplace where it is.

SPEAKER_01 23:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:38

And that my life, I would be a better person. My life would be better. And I think that that as a construct is so confusing. And is is it's the result of thinking that my worth can change, it can vary, it can improve, it can decline. My value as a human being is based not on myself and my desires and my truest, deepest, highest yearnings, but on a social construct of this is what it means to be a good person, this is what it means to have a good life, this is what it means to be successful, this is what it means. These are all constructs that don't often align with who we are. And so when we take all of those and we put all that stuff out there and we put all this judgment and we put all this value and we put all this worth attached to all these external things, it's just no wonder that we're all screwed up when we ask simple questions like, what do I want? And what do I want to do with my time? And who am I? And can I love myself?

The System That Keeps Us Striving

SPEAKER_01 25:00

We have something in the chat here that I think about a lot, actually, especially when we're on the podcast here. And to remember that there are people who want what we already have, other people who want to live in a house on a lake, just like we already do, right? People want one day with their one day having their own car, have their own house, have a full-time job. And as we acquire these things, we want the next level of it. Always being told it's better in the bigger house or fancier car and nicer clothes. Yeah, it's like we're just striving constantly.

SPEAKER_00 25:37

You know, we're that's that external worth. Well, that's that external worth to be able to say, I feel good about me because of what I've done.

SPEAKER_02 25:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:46

I feel good about me because of what I've acquired. I feel good about me. I'm having a good life. And we've really lost, we've created monetary, physical definitions of what it means to be a good person, what it means to live a good life. And the truth is, for many of us, that doesn't fit. That's not deep within us the truth. It is a program we have accepted. And the program works because the program gets everybody on side and everybody strives, and everybody thinks they're not worthy, and everybody thinks that they have to earn, and everybody thinks that to deserve is to have worked really, really hard. And and that keeps everybody feeding into a larger system that doesn't serve everybody. It's not serving most of us most of the time. And for most of us, you know, if if you're part of this system and you're feeling yourself driven by this system, if your answer to how do I get better is work harder, try harder, do more, then you're you that's the signal that says you're embedded in someone else's system of worth.

SPEAKER_01 27:14

And you're gonna burn out.

SPEAKER_00 27:16

Well, apart from the outcome, because for some people that works out. For some people, they do get more. For some people, they do acquire more wealth, they do get a better house, they do get a better car. But I don't know that they really, genuinely, deeply, authentically care about that.

SPEAKER_02 27:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:31

As much as they have been led to believe that that's the definition of being a good person, a great person, a successful person, that are if if we can get everybody afraid that they are unworthy and program in everybody the answer that you have to work harder, you have to acquire more, you have to build wealth, then they're going to just keep their head down and work the system. It's what they're gonna do. And they're gonna go to school and they're gonna go get some debt, and then they're gonna get a job that they don't like, and they're gonna fight their way through that job. And for some people, a very few people, you know, 5% of people who enter into that system, they will move up the ladder. They will get the next level job, they will get the next pay raise, they will get the extra week's holiday, right? And so we see symbols of people succeeding. We watch our celebrities, you know, pâtisserie in the south of France, right? We we and we look at them and we aspire. And the answer is work harder, try harder, figure out how to work the system, go to school, get a better job. These are the our answers, and all those answers lead you back into the system. And it's all being driven, it's all being motivated by the idea that your worth is an external thing. It's about what you do, what you have, that your worth can change, and you want it to change, you want it to go up, and that in the end, it's really determined by something external to you in terms of what other people say, what other people think, what other people react, and it just becomes a cycle.

Wanting Ease Without Losing Yourself

SPEAKER_01 29:27

I want to feel like I'm on God mode in a video game. Do you know what I mean by that? I know it's silliness, really, but I just want, you know, I want to be able to go into, and this is very simple, I suppose, in terms of God mode, but I want to be able to go into a grocery store and tap my card and not even think about the money that's in the account, you know. I I want to go with a girlfriend on a shopping spree somewhere, you know, just silly kind of things. I want, you know, it's my it's my sister's in Vancouver. She's graduating this weekend, and I would love to be out there with her, but I can't, you know? So it's like, yeah, I want my bank account to be on God mode.

SPEAKER_00 30:25

Well, you know, and there's so many layers to the program, right? Because layers to the program, I mean, like you want to celebrate her going to school for a long period of time and acquiring a degree that we all hope turns into something else. That acquiring that degree, which is an external thing, somebody else tells you that you're smart enough, somebody else tells you that you know enough that we can give you this particular piece of paper that certifies that you know enough. It's all part of the system. And and we automatically think of what we can and can't do based on do I have enough money, right? It's all part of the system. Right. It's the thing is so very well integrated. And I'm not trying to sound like some kind of, I don't know what, some kind of crazy communist. I what I'm trying to sound like is someone who can see the matrix as it is before you, to see the programs that are deeply embedded into the that define the way you think, define what you think you want, define how you think you should behave. Yeah, to to, if nothing else, in this moment, you know, be willing to say to yourself, why do I want the things that I want? Do I think they're gonna make me better?

SPEAKER_01 31:52

That's where I get caught up on the word better. I I don't associate better. I associate I would have like cute, like I want to have more experiences, I want to have more of those, like, you know, oh my gosh, exciting feelings.

SPEAKER_00 32:15

Do I think they're going to make me happier? Do I think they're going to give me a better life?

SPEAKER_01 32:23

I'm not sure at this age, with what I've been through, thinking that it's gonna make me happier because I know that I can strive for things and still not be happy. You know, I've gone through it.

SPEAKER_00 32:36

Do I think they're going to bring me peace?

SPEAKER_01 32:39

Um, I think, like Barb's saying in the chat, ease. I think the ease is what uh what I'm striving for.

SPEAKER_00 32:45

So uh do I think that having all this stuff is going to make life easier?

SPEAKER_01 32:51

To a degree, yes.

SPEAKER_00 32:53

Only within the system. What is it that's driving my pursuit of these things that I didn't know I wanted till I was brought up in this system? Are these things possible to be better, to be happier, to be more important, to be powerful? Are these things really possible? Are they already attained? Is my unease because I participate in the system? Is that where my lack of peace comes from? Is that I'm driving myself through this system, thinking I'm doing the right thing, being a good boy, being a good girl, doing the right thing, trying to establish my worth when my worth was never in question? And is my dis-ease, my uncomfortableness, because of my confusion about what money means and what it doesn't mean, what the size of my house means or doesn't mean, the size of my boat, my yacht, you know, the number of cities I have houses in.

SPEAKER_01 34:06

Now, there's a good point. I have seen people in my life acquire, acquire, acquire, and then have to maintain. And the stress from maintaining it's you know, that will wreck your ease, any ease that came along with that. So it's such a it's like you're looking for a balance, right? What is that balance? I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 34:31

I'm asking these questions as challenges.

SPEAKER_01 34:34

I don't understand.

SPEAKER_00 34:35

Not not because I think one is right and one is wrong.

Questions That Break The Spell

SPEAKER_00 34:39

I th I'm asking these questions because I think there's value in questions, there's value in looking at what is it that I use to determine my worth? What is it that I use to determine others' worth? Why would I hold somebody else in esteem? Why would I look up to somebody? Why would I try to model myself after somebody? What am I looking for that seems to be lacking in myself innately? What am I trying to acquire? And I see that we live in a world that gives us answers, but those answers are generic. Those answers are to be applied across everybody, and there's value in that. You know, the world is a more predictable place when all the kids are going to school and all the adults are going to work, and all the retired people are playing golf, and life seems like it has an order to it. And all the people that we put in charge are doing what they're supposed to do. And the rich people are all philanthropists.

SPEAKER_01 35:50

Is that what we wish for?

SPEAKER_00 35:52

This is this is, in my opinion, uh kind of a model of the system that gets promoted in us, at least as a fiction, if nothing else, as as a goal, as an ultimate outcome, if everybody would just be good and do what they're supposed to do.

SPEAKER_01 36:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 36:17

And then it we hope that it perpetuates itself. But the truth is, it doesn't take a lot of examination to see that that isn't happening, that your worth shouldn't vary. Your question of your own significance and importance and deservingness and deserving of love is not contingent on what you do or what you have. I know I'm not uh offering any answers. I'm asking questions that are, for some of us, knocking the crap out of our assumptions, the things we have built our whole lives around.

SPEAKER_01 36:54

This topic I've noticed, you know, I I don't know if there are really any answers, like solid answers. I would say that every time a little layer is peeled off, there's a new question about, you know, well, what about this way we look at ourselves? I think it's so multi-layered, multifaceted that it's almost like, you know, the most helpful thing to do maybe is just let go of the story, the program, like in the chat right now. Let go of the program. And that's first. I mean, first we have to call out the program, because otherwise it's just unconscious, right? It's just subconscious, unconscious. And yeah, so much to it. So much to it. What do we replace it with? Yeah, exactly. What do we replace it with?

Worthiness From Birth And Self Love

SPEAKER_00 37:45

I think it starts, and this is just speculation. It starts with accepting that my worth was established when I was born. It is the same worth that everyone else has, and that I am allowed, no matter what I say, think, or do, I am allowed, I am meant to love myself and care for myself and just take care of myself in a genuine, authentic way, knowing that myself is not the same as all the other selves. My experience is going to be different from everybody else's, but there is no one experience more important or better than another. There are just experiences that we uniquely want to pursue. And I do believe that if you reach something approaching that, you really do stop wanting to control others. You have no interest in controlling others' behavior now. And if everybody is has something approaching that self-love and they see themselves as worthy and valuable and deserving, I don't think you're going to see the kind of anger expressed at the unfairness of being someone who can't seem to fit in this illusory story that we're all supposed to aspire to. Because there's lots of people that can't fit into that, even if they wanted to. And and then they get angry, and then they act out in ways that make us think we need to control them.

SPEAKER_01 39:25

What are you talking about there? Sorry.

SPEAKER_00 39:27

Well, now we have laws about behaviors.

SPEAKER_01 39:30

Right.

SPEAKER_00 39:30

Right.

SPEAKER_01 39:31

You know, it it every time, except for one time, when I've taken people back to their baby self, day one, and I ask them, Would you ever say that this little one isn't worthy? They all say, Oh my gosh, no, I'm uh they are worthy. And I say, Well, why are they worthy? And they all say, except for one, we'll get there in a second, but they all say, Because they're just born that way, or something of that kind of that kind of saying. And, you know, only one person said, Well, because they got a good job and they got a good family. And I said, Well, they didn't have that at that time. So are they worthy? Oh, yes, they are. So, yeah, just I I think it's layers.

A Practical Worthiness Release Exercise

SPEAKER_01 40:24

I think, you know, if I was to give an example of how I work on personally, I work on worthiness with people is, you know, when you say, I am not worthy, we use it right as a tool. I am not worthy. Where do you feel that? You pull it out of your being, you look at it, you release it back to where it came from, maybe parents, maybe teachers, whatever, back in time. And then we say to ourselves, I get the client to say to themselves, I am worthy. How does that sit now? Do you do you feel worthy? Is there resistance to that? Okay, let's, you know, find that resistance. Where's that? Take that out of your body, hand it back. So it's just this like going in, taking out, going in, taking out, until we get as much of it out as possible so that when you say I am worthy, you do not have resistance to it. And I think that's the beginning. And you're replacing it with I am worthy. You're replacing it with I am worthy. I like to lately at least, I like to have the client imagine this like swirling light coming down from the sky, entering through their head, down into their body, especially to that place of where they used to store that feeling of unworthiness. And that light is encoded with words. And what do those words say to the person? And they'll come up with words, I am worthy, or I can do that, or I am loved, or I am I am held, all these kinds of words. And so the light is almost infused with those words, and they move through the body. Anyway, that's just a little bit of what I do in the work with unworthiness. So try it out if you can. If you want. Yeah. Oh, in the chat, rules, haha. My guides are just saying rules, rules, rules. Ha ha ha.

SPEAKER_02 42:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 42:35

Human rules. Yeah.

Closing Thoughts And Listener Questions

SPEAKER_01 42:38

So anyway, thanks for hanging out, everybody. Beautiful day. Enjoy the day. If you have any questions, please let us know. I have so much to think on. Yes, have a great day, too. All right. I'll see you later.