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You were born with a program installed. This podcast is the override. Join Theresa Marie, Ambassador of Chi, as she exposes her raw and vulnerable journey of spiritual awakening. She’s living proof that shedding old beliefs and finding your authentic self isn't always easy, but it’s the most powerful thing you'll ever do. It's time to delete the old code, embrace your power, and step on the path to being FREE2JustB!
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The Naked Truth: How Transparency Creates True Freedom
What does it truly mean to be transparent? Beyond the clichéd calls for governmental transparency lies a more intimate, challenging question: are we transparent with ourselves? In this deeply personal exploration, we journey through the layers of transparency—from governmental institutions down to our own hearts.
Transparency isn't just about transmitting light—it's about allowing that light to shine through without scattering, without distortion. When we wear masks, both literal and figurative, we block our authentic light from reaching others. The journey toward true transparency begins with uncomfortable self-reflection and a willingness to be vulnerable, even when it feels threatening.
Through a powerful personal story of family reconciliation, we witness how one courageous moment of vulnerability can create a ripple effect, opening space for others to share their deeply held truths. After decades of believing my family had open communication, one child's brave revelation about their feelings regarding my potential reconciliation with my husband unleashed a cascade of honest sharing that transformed our family dynamic overnight.
As Mother Teresa wisely noted, "Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway." This vulnerability—though frightening—is the gateway to authentic connection and healing. By removing our masks layer by layer, we create possibilities for genuine transformation, not just in ourselves but in everyone around us.
Whether you're struggling with family relationships, seeking personal growth, or simply tired of wearing masks, this episode offers a compassionate invitation to take that first small step toward transparency. Your courage might just become the catalyst someone else needs to begin their own healing journey. Listen now and discover how being truly seen—first by yourself and then by others—can create the freedom you've been seeking all along.
Trust happens when leaders are transparent and the peanut gallery goes wild. Well, that's exactly why we don't trust our leaders, because they're a bunch of liars and nobody tells us the truth. And we can't live like this. And the government is all guilty, and on and on it goes. What a can of worms that one little quote about leaders needing to be transparent. But let us instead pluck one of those worms out of the can and have a conversation while we're on the fishing boat.
Speaker 1:Today, shall we Welcome back to Free to Just Be, the podcast empowering humanity to courageously step out of old patterns and programs and give a big old hug to new ways of being. And I hope this finds you in the greatest of health, with vibrant energy today, because you have chosen to accept full responsibility for your body, mind and soul. Here on Free To Just Be, we're going to attempt to inspire each other to truly be who we came here to be, and it starts by being authentic ourselves so that we can be free and align with our highest potentials. So join me, teresa Marie, the traveling ambassador of Chi, on this transformative journey to rewrite our narratives and live lives of purpose and passion. Ooh, baby Transparency. What an incredibly hot topic that is.
Speaker 1:In this day and age, it's amazing how many ways this conversation can go when we talk about transparency. So we opened with how trust happens when leaders are transparent, and, of course, we live in a world of duality. So the opposite of that is a lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity is what the Dalai Lama said. Now, I want you to think about this, but not in the broadest sense, because, see, that's what we as humans do. We want to take the focus, any focus, off of me, myself and I when it comes to stuff like this. Now, we want to keep the focus on us when you know our ego's involved and we're doing something good or what have you, but you know when the can of worms gets open oh no, our three chubs. You know we want to take our whole hand and not have anything pointing back to us, but we want to blame and point the finger to everybody else, and the government gets a lot of that right.
Speaker 1:Okay, so this is true, but how do governments change? And that's what we're going to delve into. So we're going to pluck out one worm and we're going to take this down to. Let's go down from the government. And, yes, I am absolutely in agreement that if government officials around the world were more transparent and live lives of honesty and they let people come in to help make decisions and listen to the voice of the people, everything would change right. However, true change is not going to start on the government level, so let's just take it back down to, like, a corporation level, right? Well, go back to what the Dalai Lama says Even in the corporation that you work at, a lack of transparency with the people who are giving you your paycheck is going to cause distrust and might even affect the workload in that corporation, correct? All right. So let's take it down even further than that. If trust, honesty, humility and there's the word again transparency and accountability are the building blocks of a positive reputation, that trust is the foundation of any relationship, said Mike Paul. So transparency is the main thing I want to focus on today. The big fatty worm today is transparency.
Speaker 1:So let's take a look at what the meaning of transparency is. It's having the property I love this of transmitting light. Now, we are light, correct, without appreciable scattering, so that what lies beyond is seen clearly. So I want you to picture for a second, your human body self, right and right there at in your chest level, right where your source of light comes from, right from your solar plexus, right where everything emanates outward. It's covered up by all those programs and all those lies and all of the opaque veils of unconsciousness. Correct? But when we are transparent, what does it say? It says that the light gets transmitted without scattering. So when you and I get transparent, our beam of light it's like a laser beam. And how many more people can we reach when our light doesn't get scattered about? Because it can only be seen through little pinholes, right? So that's one definition of transparency Fine or sheer enough to be seen through? Okay, free from pretense or deceit, easily detected or seen through, readily understood.
Speaker 1:So let's take it from the bottom and work our way back. Don't you want to be readily understood? Wouldn't you like to really be yourself? Thus, you're listening to a podcast called Free to Just Be. You want to be yourself. So we're taking the big can of worms and we're reducing it down. Here it comes, it's the focus is coming right back on us.
Speaker 1:But the examples that I want to use today before we even get to the individual, you have the government entities, then you have corporations, and then you have small businesses, and then you have communities, and then you have the very fragmented family unit, and then you have individuals. Right, and if the Mike Paul quote is true and I believe it to be that the foundation of any relationship has to be trust, honesty, humility, transparency and accountability, think about how all the way up to government levels can be shifted by you and I, my dearest, dearest siblings in the family of humanity, to our family units and then begin to utilize them in our own lives, being examples for our family, so that eventually, from the family it can go into community, and from community into businesses, and then from businesses into corporations, and so on and so on. Right, so let's look at this a little closer, because you know so on and so on. Right, so let's look at this a little closer, because you know, nevadra Mode said while transparency reduces corruption, good governance goes beyond transparency in achieving openness.
Speaker 1:How closed are we these days, humanity? Think about your own family. Do you have open communication in your family? Now, you might think that you do. For example, when my kids were growing up, they had lots of friends that would come to their house and they would say stuff like man, you guys are so weird, but we love being here and you know, when you'd ask why, they'd say because you guys talk about everything. We never do this in our family. So, as my kids grew up and I always thought that we had open communication, that we did talk about everything. But you see, our family unit, just like most of the you know 99% of the families out there, unfortunately, in this duality that we live in, this 3D play that we've written ourselves in, 99% of the families are fragmented in one way, shape or another. And even if they are together mom and dad for over 10 years, kids are together. Mom and dad for over 10 years, kids are together.
Speaker 1:Openness is not really something that is very popular in today's culture, sad but true, and achieving openness is a big, huge thing. Openness means involving the stakeholders in decision-making processes. So that would be, you know, in the government level, would be great if people came in. But what about the family level? What about considering all the collateral damage on your children when you're making decision? Oh, what? What Collateral damage? I'm the adult here, they're the children. You know, I make the decisions. Oh really. But we never did stop to think what our decision-making without taking stock of the stakeholders within our own household and our family, what that could do to them.
Speaker 1:Transparency is the right to information, while openness is the right to participate. So see if you don't have openness now. For example, I was raised with you know, because I said so. There was no discussion. Daddy spoke. There was no discussion, daddy spoke. Therefore, we were to listen.
Speaker 1:And again, I'm reiterating over and over again when I speak about my dad, I know that I know my dad loved me the best way he knew how, and I know he had no true intent to harm me, but some of those closed-minded ways of thinking did so anyway. And you pick your form of childhood trauma, right, because this has all been a target towards the family, because that unit would rise up into every hierarchy, correct? So if you can decimate the family, well then government can just do whatever the heck they want, because there wouldn't be any worry if the family was dismantled, and they did a really good job at that. But now we here on, free to Just Be, we are taking that power back, and the way to do that is by being transparent with ourselves and recognizing that, oh, baby, we weren't as transparent and as open as parents as we thought we were. Maybe you are.
Speaker 1:I can't speak for anybody but me, and my stories hopefully open cans of worms in your life. I'm kind of like one of those love-hate type of podcast, you know. When it's something that you've already dealt with and I'm giving a story about it, you're like, oh yeah, I remember going through that, but boy, when I poke the can opener into something that you don't want to deal with, you probably hate me. Well, that's what we're all here to do for each other. We're here to safely pull the arrow back and hit each other's triggers so that all of that BS could rise to the surface for us to look at transparently, look right at the heart of the matter so that we can skim it off the top right and move forward progress towards that new way of being.
Speaker 1:So let's continue with the transparency conversation. Well, carrie Summer says there is no beauty without truth and there is no truth without transparency. Now I'm getting in your business and you need to get in my business, because that is the God's honest truth business, because that is the God's honest truth. It starts right here. I'm pointing to my chest. I'm doing that a lot this week, right here, my chest, and you take your fingers and point to your chest.
Speaker 1:This is where true transparency has to start, and it can be in your very own safe space, in your very own bedroom, your very own bathroom, in your very own mirror, where you look yourself in the eye and speak the truth about yourself. And often that is, I mean, it's happening, whether or not we want to admit it. Those thoughts go through our head of truly who we are. Wow, you just lied. Oh, yeah, but but, and all the justifications that go off in your head. So, in all honesty, in all transparency, humanity, we already know ourselves. Come on now, let's really get real here. Nobody knows you like you know you, and when you sit with the shit storms in your life, you begin to recognize who, in fact, you really are. And that is the best place to start being transparent.
Speaker 1:And what do we as humans want to do? We want to be transparent with other people's lives. We want to throw stones at glass houses when we haven't even looked at ourselves. What does the Word of God say about that? You know, get the log out of your eye before you point to the twigs in somebody else's, or you know I've probably messed that up, but you understand the concept. It's like how dare you talk about me when the three chubby fingers are pointing back at you, right? So, if we truly want going back to the very first quote, trust happens when leaders are transparent. If we want to be leaders, if we're here on a podcast called Free to Just Be, because we ourselves want to be free from the tyrannical government that we want to point our fingers at, then somebody has to rise up, right, and that would be you and me, humanity, we, the people correct. We are millions compared to those that have the power, so it would behoove us, so it would behoove us to start being transparent right now, right now, right now, with ourselves, right.
Speaker 1:And I just want to share with you a little story about how this began to work within my own family unit. Where do I begin? Well, we believe that transparency is needed to create trust, but it is also, according to Julia Sweet, it's also needed to create a dialogue. Now, I inadvertently created a dialogue within my own family chat own family chat. We have this family chat on WhatsApp and all of my children are present and people drop messages to each other. If we're going to have a family event and you know people add little things of encouragement and that type of thing. And so because I wanted to be transparent in fact I think I even opened that little chat with wanting to be transparent I shared with my children that I was going to go and stay with my husband a couple of weekends ago. I was traveling from Florida back to Tennessee. And just to catch you up to speed, florida back to Tennessee, and just to catch you up to speed if this is your first time on Free, to Just Be.
Speaker 1:I left my marriage, left my husband, who the world would say, oh, let's hear some of the things a misogynist, a narcissist, a mean Bob, full of himself, all of the above, and he would probably own some of them at this point. Well, teresa Marie had enough. I was done. Being Terry Wilson, the hippie freak of the South, I knew I was made for more and I know that he is made for more. And it got to the place where I knew that I could not be trying to steal his energy or allowing him to continue to suck mine. I knew it was time for me to leave. So, 22 or 23 months ago September of 23, I walked and to bring it up to speed for today's conversation, about six weeks ago, a month and a half ago, my husband came here Because what occurred back in February of this year when I turned 64, he reached out to me for my birthday and what began was first text conversations and then phone calls and then video chats, and we graduated up to our first visit face-to-face in 20 months and he came to Florida and spent two nights with me, and he came to Florida and spent two nights with me.
Speaker 1:So a couple of weeks ago we were moving up to the next process. I was going to go back to our marital home and I was going to visit with my kids and we were going to try out what that would look like for four nights. Now my kids didn't know this and I was about to find out some things that I didn't really know either. So, wanting to be transparent and not pull any punches or surprises on my kids, I shared with them on my kids. I shared with them. Now, remember that Roger came to visit me several weeks ago and we are working down that reconciliation path and so next week when I come, I'm going to be staying there, and I just wanted to let you know that at our family gatherings he may show up with me, and I just didn't you know. I just wanted to make you know that at our family gatherings he may show up with me, and I just didn't you know. I just wanted to make sure you were all well informed. Well, here comes the transparency.
Speaker 1:In my own family unit, one of my children was bold and courageous enough to send me a private message that said Mom, I should be really happy for you and Roger. But instead this is how I'm feeling, and what blew me away was that the next paragraph described to a T everything that I felt as a child Abandoned, unsupported, not seen, threatened, not safe and I have to tell you, in all transparency, it was a mixed bag for me. I felt immediate sadness and grief, but I felt rejoicing, well up in my heart as well, and I am so glad that I am a little bit further down the deprogramming path than my children, because even if this was two years ago, I would have spiraled down into guilt and shame and self-hatred about the lack of parenting skills and how I made all these mistakes, but instead, when I read that, all I could do was rejoice and think to myself oh, my goodness, this child of mine has begun to look at their own traumas, because this is where healing begins, folks True transparency about who you are and what's really going on in your heart, in your spirit and between your ears. Heart in your spirit and between your ears. And this child went on to say that he didn't put it in the family chat because he didn't want to stir anything up. And after prayerfully responding to this child and letting them know how incredibly proud I was of the courage it took to literally share their heart, I asked them to prayerfully consider dropping it in the family chat because, who knows, it might also open other family members' hearts. And that particular child did exactly that within an hour. And within an hour of that, two more of my seven children came clean with similar transparencies in their life.
Speaker 1:And now there's conversations happening and now the openness that we always thought we had is beginning to return, and it is a beautiful thing. Truth is really beautiful, and it is ugly and it is hard and it is painful and full of sorrow, but it is still full of beauty and it is the most beautiful thing that we can offer each other and certainly ourselves. Transparency is removing the masks and literally revealing who you really are. It's getting beyond the surface to truly what's going on in your own heart, and that is what free to just be is all about. But when it comes right down to it, I can't do that for my children. My children can only do that for themselves, and I'm very, very, very glad that that's what they're beginning to do. And I'm also relieved that I had already listed all of these errors oh, I mean as long as my arm's worth of decisions that I made without taking any credence to how would it affect my children. Because, you see, I and this is not a justification, this was just the truth.
Speaker 1:I was a child emotionally stunted by the programs and traumas in my life having children, my life having children. I didn't learn how to deal with a lot of my own stuff, and thus the very things that happened to me I replicated in my children. You know the old adage I'm never going to do the things that were done to me. Well, guess what? I would bet I would venture to say that you know a lot of times it goes one of two ways right. The pendulum swings in both directions. If you were raised by an alcoholic, for example. You either become an alcoholic or you become a preacher okay, those are the two ends of the spectrum. But anywhere in between we have carried with us the baggage of our own traumas as children. Some of them may not have even come from our parents, but a lot of that is transferred. If we're honest, if we're transparent, if we want our lights to shine like a laser, we will truly look inside. That's where transparency's got to start. If we want governments to change, we have to take all that transparency, turn it right back around, right directly into our own hearts. That's where it's going to really really change things. It's going to really really change things.
Speaker 1:Mother Teresa said honesty and transparency make you vulnerable, vulnerable. How many of us want to be vulnerable? How many of us want to be out in that field in the broad daylight naked? That's what vulnerability is like when you put yourself out there as you all right. Here's another example for women. How many of you would go out in public with no bra and no makeup on? Ooh, ooh, ooh. Now some of you are already there. To me, that's true freedom. I mean, think about all the poor dudes that marry somebody that have padding and have so much makeup on and they wake up the morning after the wedding and they're like, oh my God, what did I get myself into? Oh, the masks that we choose to wear. Oh the way that we want the world to look at us when inside we are hidden, when inside we are hidden.
Speaker 1:So it begins with us right, and vulnerability is a very, very scary venture at first. So you begin vulnerability training by taking little baby steps. You I've talked about this before you learn to let your true self out, little by little. No, I don't want to go to Arby's. To be honest, I've never liked Arby's. Really, you've never liked Arby's. You always went with me before. Yeah, but I was doing it to please you. Oh, I didn't know that. Well, where do you want to go? You see how simple that is. That is a point of vulnerability. Start small so that eventually you can hang it all out in the field, all by yourself, naked and raw. I know that sounds like oh well, who would ever do that? Well, guess what? True transparency being yourself, speaking your truth, not being people pleasers, looking at the demons in your closet, walking through the dark night of the soul, coming through those tunnels of I don't want to deal with this stuff. Your decision to get back with Roger has triggered all of this stuff in my life. I don't like it. It makes me feel bad. But guess what? Now they're looking at what makes them feel bad and I am so thankful that my husband and I evoked that in one of our children. Now they might not see that as something good right at the moment and maybe it's going to take them some time to recognize that.
Speaker 1:The one thing about my husband and I from the get-off. See, I had to steal myself when I first left. I had to keep every negative thing that had occurred in the 16 years that we lived together and the 25 years that we knew each other. I had to keep every negative, every bad thing, every harmful, everything that hurt my soul. I had to keep it in the forefront of my mind because I knew how codependent I was. This is my fourth marriage, folks, and I was not going to replicate. I'm done with the karma of all of that. I'm done, done, done.
Speaker 1:But I also knew that I was not going to run. Now to the world it may have looked like I was running. Because I did, I ran away, I left the house, I went and lived elsewhere and then I left the state and moved to Florida and had to do the solo part, solitude, all by myself. But see, in my heart of hearts I've known, just like my husband knows, that we literally went through all those marriages to finally find each other and the one common denominator that we had, besides the fact that underneath all the crap, all the erroneous ways of relating to each other, all the erroneous ways of relating to each other, we had a deep love and we weren't going to run. And that time of separation really, really magnified all of our stuff. And as we began to look at it and be transparent internally, now we're stepping up to try to do this reconciliation thing together.
Speaker 1:Now our children might not see that, and they may, because what does the world say? Oh, don't ever, you know, run from a narcissist. Really. And why is that? Because narcissists will never change. And that's funny, because the only thing besides God that's constant is change. Everything changes moment by moment. So how can you tell me that somebody can't change? Hmm, I always thought that was a real conundrum, right?
Speaker 1:So it's very true what Mother Teresa said Vulnerability is a very precarious place to be, and nobody wants to go there. Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable, but Mother Teresa said be honest and transparent. Anyway, people suffer, and her heart went out to them, and I feel like that's what God does. He sees us suffering, but when he sent Jesus, jesus was the prime example of staying in your power source. That's what he came to do. He came to give us the example that we already have the power. It's inside us, but instead we wanted to lift him up and worship him when he was just here to show us the way back home right. So, in closing, I consider what John Maxwell said. He said speak the truth, because transparency breeds legitimacy. Everybody wants to be legitimized, everybody wants to be authentic, everybody wants to be transparent. Nobody wants to be vulnerable, though.
Speaker 1:So I'm here to help break down those walls. I'm here to remind you, my dear, dear siblings in Humanityville, what Brett Merrick said our transparency could very well lead to other people's transformations. Yes, of course, I would like to think that my husband and I will successfully come to the other side of this separation and we will end up creating an incredible bond of marriage like never before and be a full example to our children and our grandchildren. Example to our children and our grandchildren. But imagine what you and I can do if, one by one, we start changing the program of wearing a mask and as your mask and your mask and my masks because there's more than one, we've got layers and layers and layers. Pick a topic and you'll see your mask, and as we continue to drop the masks and learn to be vulnerable, like my grown child was a couple of weeks ago, you have no idea the ripple effect. I am so proud of that child of mine, as I'm sure his siblings are, because they all said the same thing Well, I have to agree with, because it gave them the opening of the can of worms, the opening of the can of worms that, by the way, was festering, that was beginning to stink in their lives.
Speaker 1:That's the stuff that we need to get out of our life to make room for the new ways of being. Isn't it such a cool ride that we're on the highs, the lows, the curves that we don't expect sometimes, the pain, the joys? Isn't it better than going around and around on the hamster wheel? Isn't it better than going around and around on the hamster wheel? Oh, baby, I would much rather be transparent nowadays than to ever shut my truths back up, and I hope you'll decide that you can be vulnerable too, because you never know whose life you could help transform. And on that note, I love you. Humanity, peace out.