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Falling Off Cliffs: How to Transform Life's Setbacks into Opportunities for Growth
Have you ever considered that your life's greatest derailments might actually be your most powerful opportunities for growth? That roller coaster moment when everything stops at the highest point, leaving you dangling and uncertain—what if that's exactly where your transformation begins?
Throughout human history, we've approached problems by placing ambulances at the bottom of cliffs rather than building fences at the top. We treat symptoms instead of preventing causes. We medicate pain rather than addressing its source. In this episode, I vulnerably share my own recent derailment experience and how I'm navigating through it, offering a framework for turning life's most challenging moments into catalysts for profound change.
We explore the predictable stages of derailment: the initial shock, the survival mechanisms we activate, the mind games of guilt and shame, and the procrastination born from fear of repeating our mistakes. Rather than seeing these as failures, I invite you to recognize them as universal human experiences—opportunities to rebuild ourselves "the way we wished we had been all along." As Confucius wisely noted, "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall."
Like training a champion Tennessee Walking Horse, our spiritual journey requires patience, practice, and countless falls before mastery emerges. The path isn't about perfection but persistence—about falling off the horse, getting back in the saddle, and continuing forward with newfound wisdom. What unique contribution might your cliff dives offer to humanity? What segment of the world could your stumbles help to heal?
Join me in reframing our relationship with failure and derailment. Together, let's become the iron that sharpens iron, helping each other rise like phoenixes from the ashes of our missteps to create a more aligned, balanced world. Your journey matters—falls and all.
If people are constantly falling off a cliff, you could place ambulances under the cliff or build a fence on top of the cliff. We here on the planet, especially in the Western world, are placing all too many ambulances under the cliff. And if you're tired of watching people around you go off the cliff, if you're tired of experiencing the derailing of your life path again and again and again, how about we begin to change that way of thinking and talk about what to do when you derail on Free To Just Be, that podcast, helping humanity to courageously step out of old patterns and programs and give a big old hug to new ways of being, because a new earth is going to require new human beings. Right, and I hope this finds y'all in the greatest health, with vibrant energy on this Open your Mind Monday, because you have chosen to accept full responsibility for your body, mind and soul. And here on Free To Just Be, I'm going to really do my best to bring value and inspiration into your life and inspire you to truly be who you came here to be, which begins with authenticity and transparency and especially being honest with yourself, and that ushers in freedom, and then we can be aligned with our highest potentials. So won't you join me on this transformative journey to rewrite our narratives and live lives of purpose and passion?
Speaker 1:That is the passion of my heart. Passion of my heart is to use every dang lesson and get good out of it, not just learn it myself, because it's kind of like the artist or the scientist, the inventor who has this incredible idea but never shares it with anybody and he or she goes to their grave and nobody knows how to do what they did. To me, that's a tragedy, and so my life, the big part of my mission, is literally 40 years in the making. I am now stepping into what I was called to do, and that is to authentically and rawly and vulnerably share the experiences that I'm going through on this ascension journey, this journey of everything changing here on the planet, everything changing within us, and help others along the process and help others along the process. So today I want to talk about really what's very close to my heart right now, because I'm literally in the process of walking out of it, and that is what to do when you derail. You know you're going on in life. All right, let's just use the roller coaster of life concept. Right, if you're listening to Free, to Just Be.
Speaker 1:I am not wanting to assume anything. I would venture to guess. How would that be? I venture to guess that you already know something about this incredible shift that's happening within and on this planet, and so you are trying to learn new ways to navigate it.
Speaker 1:So, that being said, you have stepped off the matrix merry-go-round and now you've been riding the rolly coaster of life, and for quite a while you've been going hands up in the air like the pig in the commercial right, and then, all of a sudden, I don't know what the picture of derailment would be for you. Maybe you're at the very top of the roller coaster and the roller coaster ride stops, and maybe it's rocking back and forth above there and you don't know if you're going to come out of that ride alive. You don't know if, because the machine has stopped if you're going to just free fall and now the machine's broken and you might be broken. Or maybe you've gone through a loop-de-loop and your seatbelt wasn't fastened and now you're dangling out of the car, of the roller coaster of life, and you're not sure how to pull yourself back into the car. Okay, those are the experiences that I'm talking about, and all of us derail, and so I want to address that, because there are things that we can do foresight wise, that we can prepare ourselves to know that these incredible falls happen to every one of us. This journey in life, this destination unknown, this time of checkout is wide open. We have no idea. This life course is not a straight, linear line from A to B to all the way to Z and it's over. No, it never ends. It's the marathon of life. It never ends until you take your last breath, and then it never ends because then you just go into a different dimension.
Speaker 1:So, knowing this, we can begin to reframe the way the matrix merry-go-round always had it to happen. You fall and they put a band-aid on it. You fall and they give you medicine. You fall and they put you in the hospital. You fall and they make money off of your fall. Now you're in a new realm. Now you're in the realm of learning to be sovereign. Now you're in the realm of recognizing that that is literally. You know, we are going to make mistakes, whether it's relationally, financially, job-wise.
Speaker 1:We are all going to have those revelationary moments where, all of a sudden, we recognize oh my God, I have. So F this up. You may have a huge aha moment, like I had. You know, it was my pride all along, dun-dun-dun-dun, oh my God. And the egg is like cake to my face, right, and the embarrassment is, you know, flushing my face. So now I have this red face covered with egg. It's, it's a very attractive look, don't you think? Or you um, you receive a huge blow, um, a truth bomb, a pointing finger that is really accurate.
Speaker 1:A? Um, an embarrassing reveal. You know the proverbial you walk out of the bathroom and you have toilet paper coming out of your pants, right? We all have these moments. Why do we think that we don't? Why are we so surprised when they happen? So I want us to reframe that aspect first into I mean, what an opportunity.
Speaker 1:Now, that's where I'm at. I'm at the opportunity to identify my unique coping skills, my weaknesses, my strengths, right or or not, and then I'm destined to fall off the cliff, place that bandaid on again or go through whatever matrix merry-go-round cycle all over again. Now, I don't know about you, but I am sick and damn tired of going around the cycle. And my last one, as I've admitted and I'm not embarrassed anymore I am sounding the trumpet that 98% of the world is going to have repeat after repeat after repeat, because we are egoic, prideful, stinking people. We have a long way to go and so much to learn on that unconditional love, first for ourselves and then for everybody else. We all want to be like Jesus and none of us really want to do the work to get there.
Speaker 1:And when opportunities come along like this, we have these certain things that we do each time. And, oh baby, if we begin to share those stories, if we begin to break open the list of just our personal survival skills and people around the world start adding to that list, then all of a sudden the people are going to be like oh wow, well, they're just in survival skill 98. Oh, okay, and this is how they did it. Oh well, I do some of that. Do you see how much easier life would be if there is some sort of predictions? And there really isn't. But you see, each one of us has our own way of navigating and if we can identify those ways, then the next time will be easier and then the next time will be easier until eventually there isn't a next time. Do you understand? That's how programs fall off of our life.
Speaker 1:So that is the stage that I'm in, and for the rest of the week I'm probably going to be talking about these different stages, like the initial reactions when you get knocked off, kilter, the initiation of survival mode, whatever your mode is, when those survival modes pull you out of alignment and not just alignment of your chakras, but alignment of your routines, of your circadian rhythms and you begin to repeat old habits. And then there's the commencement of the mind games, the guilting and the shaming. And then there's the depression and the self-abasement and the different degrees in between that might follow. And then, of course, the procrastination due to the deep-lying fear that, omg, I might recreate the same failure that got me off track this time. So all of these things are very common to us. There's nothing new under the sun, folks. That's what the Word of God says, and it's true.
Speaker 1:And so when we begin to start looking at this in a new light, instead of having to get in the ambulance all the time, these become opportunities to never be afraid to fall apart, because all of it is an opportunity to rebuild ourselves the way we wished we had been all along, which is a beautiful quote by Ray Smith. There are no mistakes. There are lessons yet to be learned, and on this journey, that's all that we're doing every single day. We're either teaching somebody or we're learning something. That really is all that we're doing. And you want to hope, to shout that when you get into your quote-unquote later years, that you have all this wisdom, and then you recognize no, I don't. Holy shit, I have so far to go.
Speaker 1:Cherie Yerubindo said this beautifully. He said the spiritual path is one of falling on your face, is one of falling on your face, getting back up, brushing yourself off, turning and looking sheepishly at God, and then what? And then taking the next step. Now I'm going to tell you that, to me, where I am in my journey, now, that's the only lens that I have to go on, and we need to remind ourselves of that. Whatever lens you're looking at your life at, it's yours, that is your lens and, trust me, if you don't know it already, not everybody is wearing those same set of lenses, and so we have to give ourselves leeway to be who we are. And then, if we want that leeway, wouldn't it also be fair to offer that to everybody else? Hello, so because I live in the walking horse capital of the world.
Speaker 1:Shelbyville, tennessee, is the site of this year. It is the 87th walking horse celebration this week. It starts well, it's already started this week, but the events, the celebration starts in two days and this year we have a granddaughter, ashton, who is showing a horse in the celebration here and I bring that up because that's why I added this quote that has to do with this topic In celebration of the walking horse capital of the world that I live in. Life is not about trying not to fall off the horse. Life is about falling off often and then getting back in the saddle again and again and again. If you think that those million-dollar horses that walk so beautifully in the walking horse celebration got that way again overnight, then maybe you're putting way too much pressure on yourself. If you think that you should arrive yesterday, Because those horses had months and years of training and they're horses. They're on this planet for what? 20 years, if they're lucky. We got a lot more time. We got plenty of time and that means we have plenty of falls off the cliff and off the horses and uber and uber. More lessons to learn.
Speaker 1:Our greatest glory, says Confucius, is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. You see, I am from and have raised a family of weevils. Weevils wobble and weevils do fall down, but the beautiful thing about a weevil is they're so round on their bottoms that they have no choice but to get back up. That is the human race that I am part of, and as the week unfolds and I begin to unpack the lessons that I have learned the hard way from this last proverbial fall off the cliff, it's becoming fuel and a newfound direction, because, you see, we think it's the end of the world. When we fall off the cliff, when the direction that we chose, the direction that we allowed, suddenly doesn't work, it's like devastation time, it's ambulance time, when all we should really begin to do to adjust our life course is to say oh well, that didn't work. I think I need to change direction and boom off. We would go, and then we could literally just fall off and get back on.
Speaker 1:Fall off and get back on. Isn't that what we did when we learned how to ride a bicycle? Oh, buddy, I don't know about you, but isn't that what we did when we learned to tie a shoe? I see it in the frustration of my granddaughter, emmy Emerald, who's wanting to learn how to granddaughter Emmy Emerald? Who's wanting to learn how to? Oh yeah, remember that frustration, my frustration at my fingers not being able to snap any louder than that. But that's even progress, because several weeks ago my joints were so inflamed I couldn't even make the snap. I used to be a big old snapper.
Speaker 1:Right, life literally needs to be lived from inside out, because, my dear dear brothers and sisters in Humanityville, life only begins to shift outside and around us when we shift on the inside. And it's those when the shit hits the fan, moments, when we're careening down the roller coaster of life out of control, when suddenly something's on the track and the track either stops us or gets the train car careening off track, literally like we're off the track, we're on the side of the road, we're freaking, bleeding out. That's how it feels, right. So I think it's very worthy of a conversation and we are going to unpack all the different distractions that come at us.
Speaker 1:Distractions from what? Well, how about distractions from being free to just be who we are? How about distractions from our mission, our purpose of being here on the planet? But the biggie, the big kahuna, the elephant that we are going to take bites out of one day at a ones is the major attack to all of us. Because all of us, above anything else that we're doing in life, should make our number one goal to have, first off, to just have, a relationship with God, our Creator, creator. And second, to make it the absolute, deepest, most profound, the relationship of a lifetime, the relationship that, no matter what that first goal in life, back to that, back to right inside our chest, right back to the bliss of God, our creator.
Speaker 1:And you know there is no set formula to do that. I hate to tell you this. I hate to tell you that there is not an A,123 format for doing that. You and you, and you and me as well, we all have our individual and unique paths and when we are in full moment-to-moment communication with our Creator, I can promise you that he is guiding and directing our path and that is what we need to learn how to be so in tune with. We need to learn how to remove all the static around it. We need to learn how to recognize the pitfalls and add to those pitfalls as they unravel us.
Speaker 1:Because just when you think you know something, how little you really know will be revealed in your life, and if you continue to allow those lessons to stop you, to cause you to be so afraid of failing that you never move again, well then that's a problem too. That's like getting put in the ambulance, taken to the hospital and never coming out of the hospital again. We don't want that for each other, do we? We want to rise like phoenixes. We want to be able to turn around and say come this way. We want to be able to turn around and say come this way. I've done it before.
Speaker 1:And then the other part of this equation of no equations is to recognize that some people will help us and some people will pull us down. Sometimes we're going to be the helper and sometimes we're going to be the instigator of the derailment, and everywhere in between, because we are all made to wake up, get dressed. We have a lot of similarities that we all do, and yet we are so incredibly unique. So I'm asking my dear, dear family of humanity, so I'm asking my dear, dear family of humanity, what contribution that only you have? What segment of the world can your cliff dives help? Who can you reach with what you thought was the most foolish thing you ever did? And let's begin to be the iron that sharpens iron, and let's get fully aligned and balanced again and let's help our planet. Do the same, shall we Until next time. Have yourself a magnificent Monday evening, peace out.