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Truth Over Trends

• THeresa Marie

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What happens when your truth finally outweighs your need to be liked? We go straight at the moment you stop chasing approval and start leading your own life, even if it means stepping off the merry‑go‑round and standing alone for a while. From the first shock of realizing how much you’ve been following trends to the relief of aligning your daily choices with your values, this conversation maps the messy, liberating terrain of authenticity.

We unpack the difference between honesty and integrity—why telling others the truth matters, but telling yourself the truth (and staying with it when people push back) changes everything. Expect real-world examples: quitting the habits you never wanted, choosing health over convenience, reclaiming time and money from image maintenance, and setting boundaries at home and at work. We also talk about the misunderstood phase—the stretch where you stop people-pleasing, risk being seen clearly, and learn to be comfortable being misunderstood.

Zooming out, we name the larger pattern: systems thrive on division, and polarization is a control tactic. Our antidote is rigorous truth-seeking paired with radical respect—holding firm to what’s right for you while refusing to turn differences into hatred. Along the way, we share personal stories of reconciliation, faith, and choosing peace without abandoning self-respect. If you’ve felt the friction between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming, this is a hand on your shoulder and a map in your pocket.

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When you find a truth that surpasses your desire to fit trends and meet approval, you can be certain it's worth fighting to spread that truth. Because after all, those of us that want to be free to just be observe what the world does, and we do the opposite. And I welcome you back to the podcast Free to Just Be, which is here to empower humanity to courageously step out of old patterns and matrix programming and give a big old hug to new ways of being. And I hope this finds us all in the greatest health with Vibrant Energy today, because we have all chosen to accept the full responsibility for our body, mind, and soul. Here on Free to Just Be, your host, that'd be me, Teresa Marie. I'm going to try to inspire us all to truly be who we came here to be. And that begins with authenticity, freedom, and being aligned with our highest potential. So take a minute, press that like button. Let's raise the algorithm so that many, many other people can get on this free to just be journey and join us on this transformative transformative awakening journey to rewrite our narratives and live lives of purpose and passion. And today I do welcome you back to this tremendous Tuesday. No, this isn't Tuesday. This is Thursday. And I'm free to flub up as much as I want on Free to Just Be. And I want to welcome you back to our continuing series on authenticity, where we have taken the word authenticity and wrote it vertically, and now we are working through the acrostic, the first letter of each of the words in authenticity. We have done letter A, appreciating our divinity, U, unlocking our inner child, T, trusting our inner voice, H helping humanity by honoring ourselves. E experience. And yesterday we talked about natural states. And today we are going to talk about trending truth. And that's a biggie. And it's it's one of the most difficult parts of this ascension journey. It's absolutely the most difficult part because there are a lot of people that don't want to trend truth, baby. I tell you that, that's for sure. And I know for sure that sharing the truth that we are in a matrix is not the most popular thing to talk about. Now, there's many, many, I mean there's thousands of people talking about it now, but I tell you, it was even harder 10 years ago. And it was something that you didn't even want to talk about 20 years ago. And so I am definitely of the belief that we don't want to follow the trends. We want to learn how to be ourselves so much that we are setting the trend, that we're the leaders, we're not the followers. That's that's the um trajectory of my life. Um and I've recognized that when I followed others, I was at my worst. And the more I step away from following and leading out, the happier I am. So many things about this aspect of this awakening journey have to do with the truth. We uh always need to be truthful, but most especially to ourselves. The worst thing that we can do is lie to ourselves. In fact, that's what we have been doing. When we're in the matrix, we go along with the herd. We we don't do anything without checking with social media, without following the trend. We follow. We follow, we follow, we follow. That is what being in the matrix is all about. So when we step off of that merry-go-round, it is it it almost appears to us at first that we are literally like alone. We are deserted by everybody around us. And to a great extent, that is what it does feel like in the beginning. It really does. But as you continue to wake up, it becomes clearer and clearer that being transparent, clear, and truthful with ourselves, even when it is a di difficult, in fact, above all, when it's difficult, that is the time that we begin to understand that we must stand on truth. And as you begin to wake up and recognize all the things that you were lied to about, suddenly, as you know, you're years down the path of awakening, you begin to realize that the only people that are mad at you for speaking the truth are the ones who are still living a lie. And that evokes a lot of division in life. That's where families become divided. We're seeing that all over the place, politically, for example. If you don't believe in this political um opinion, then I can't be around you at all. I I'm not gonna jive with you, so therefore I don't want to be around you. And that is part of what the matrix wants. The matrix as a whole entity is all about division. It I mean, politically, we see that very clearly, that it doesn't matter what side of the fence you're on, as long as you are on one side and I am on the other. That is the point of the matrix. So when the awakening journey begins for us, it it feels very foreign, very lonely, very um heartbreaking to start seeing people fall away from you or uh to challenge you or to be mad at you. Sadhguru said something very significant recently. He said, truth is not for comfort, it is for liberation. It's not medicine, in fact, it's a killer. And what is truth a killer of? All the lies. So if you're living in a matrix merry-goround, and somebody that you love has stepped off that merry-ground and now is watching you spin around and is saying, Hey, look over here. The truth is you're on a merry-go-round. And you're not ready to leave the herd mentality, you're not ready to lead your own life, you're not ready to step off the merry-go-round. You are gonna rail against the truth. You're gonna say, come back up here. What are you doing off of there? Can't you see that you're standing still? Don't you want to move? And and so the divide becomes something very real. And we have to understand that as we begin to wake up, we cannot, we cannot take any responsibility for anyone else's distorted perception of who we are. We have to learn as we awaken, and the very hardest part, in the very beginning, you awaken to all the lies that you have told yourself. I'm not good enough. I can't, I have to always do it this way. Um, I need to drink Dr. Pepper because my spouse drinks Dr. Pepper, even though I hate Dr. Pepper. All of these things you begin to look at, and you start clearing away who you always thought you were, and you begin discovering who you really are. You are the person that doesn't like Dr. Pepper. And now you're becoming comfortable enough with the you who you always knew you were, way down deep, right? But then there comes the time where your spouse is bringing you that Dr. Pepper again, and you have to look at that lie and address it. Hey, babe, I don't want to drink this Dr. Pepper. What? Why? You always drank Dr. Pepper. Well, the truth of the matter is I drank Dr. Pepper because you liked it. Really? I didn't know that. Yeah, and it's so sickening, sweet, and I don't like it, and I I'm not gonna drink it anymore. And your spouse may say, Well, come on, you know, or maybe it's alcohol or whatever it is, right? And they're gonna try to draw you back to the old you. And the further down the awakening path you are, the easier it becomes to stand in your own truth. And David Foster Wallace reminds us that the truth will set you free, but not until it is finished with you. You cannot be completely true to yourself until all that junk, all the lies, all the untruth, all the makes programming is removed from you. And that's when truth will finally say, Ah, you're free, right? Because there is a much bigger price that we pay for living a lie. And what was that price? I want you to think about it. Before you became on this awakening path, what was occurring? You had constant frustration, you were angry, you were depressed, you were inebriating, you knew that something was off, but you didn't know what it was. You didn't want to discover what it was, so you stuffed it down and you stuffed it down. But then everything began to keep you discombuberated. You you at the drop of the hat you were angry and and you knew something had to give. Remember that? Remember that way of life. Remember how every day you woke up and you felt like you were living in somebody else's identity. It wasn't you anymore. And you began to recognize that. That is how the awakening journey begins. You start realizing that there is something inside you that is screaming to get out, and that is because you are screaming to get off that matrix merry-go-round, right? So that's how it begins. You begin to recognize that you yourself have been living a lie. You have been doing things to keep people happy, you have been uh working at a job that maybe you have always hated because she thought you had to, and all of a sudden you wake up and you say, Wait a minute. I'm choosing to go to this job I don't like. What would happen if I chose to leave this job? Oh my god, you wouldn't be able to pay your bills. Oh, really? Well, how about if I found a job that I actually loved, right? So, see, this is how it begins. The truth, the truth first hits you. And it's not comfortable to discover that you were living a lie, right? But then the next stage happens. Now you're comfortable with who you are. And there was a price to pay, right? The price for living that lie was way too high, and now you're willing to pay the price for speaking the truth. And what is that price in the second level of awakening? That price is telling your spouse you don't want to drink Dr. Pepper anymore. And maybe, or whatever the truth is, I have always hated this job. I have always thought that you were um very lazy at your position at being my manager, and I could do it much better, so therefore I'm gonna go and forge my own way. And all the other uncomfortableness that comes with finally speaking out and saying, No, I'm not gonna take X, Y, or Z anymore. No, I am not gonna allow you to treat me this way anymore. I respect myself too much. So then it's not you anymore sitting with your truth. Now you're speaking out about your truth, and then you get the painful realization that some of the people in your world, in your circle, in your family even, may not be too keen with the fact that you're coming out being something other than the way you always were, right? Oh buddy. Being uncomfortable with being misunderstood is the next part of this awakening journey when it comes to truth. Being comfortable with being misunderstood eventually changes your whole game. Because you begin to recognize, like I said earlier, you are not responsible for anyone else's perception of who you are. That's on them. You just need to stand strong in your own light and your own truth. Just because somebody is uncomfortable with you changing the way you eat or changing your job or the way you dress, that's not that's not up to you anymore. Because you are now becoming the leader, the lead of your own life. Maybe you were caught up in the trend setting part of the matrix. Maybe you were caught up in um, oh, let me just pick something random. Um, nails. Say you you got caught up in paying 50 bucks every two weeks to go get your nails done. And suddenly you woke up to the reality that you never really cared how your nails looked. In fact, it messes, you have to go back and get them done more frequently because you prefer to have your nails in the dirt. You love to garden, but gardening and these artificial nails don't really match up. And why were you doing it anyway? And you start to think, uh, you know, I don't need these, and it's costing me money, and I could take that 50 bucks and get a flat of plants, and that would make me a whole lot happier. Oh, but uh, your best friend gets her nails done, and she looks at your nails and says, Man, your nails look like crap. And you followed. So now you are standing on the truth that it doesn't matter what anybody says, you're not going to get your nails done. So, therefore, you have stepped away from the trend of getting your nails done. And there's freedom that has come into your life because of that. Your$50 is freed up. Your ability to purchase something for what you love to do has been freed up. That is the liberation. But you see, every aspect of your life is going to get hit with these truths. Do you continue to drink water out of a plastic bottle, even though you know the truth is that chemicals that are bad for your body are leaching out of that plastic, or it gets worse. You don't want to use plastic bowls or styrofoam in the microwave because that makes it worse. Or maybe you decide to completely step away from the microwave. And that now you have members of your family that are going, what happened to your microwave? You mean you're gonna boil water? Well, why would you do that? It only takes 30 seconds in the microwave, and then again you have to explain, okay? The splaining part, yes, the explaining who you now are is a difficult part of the awakening journey until you recognize that maybe by you sharing the things that you now do can be a wake-up call for another person or not. Some of these people are gonna just continue to think that you're nuts and decide to fall out of your timeline, to not be in your energetic field anymore. And that is a big price to pay for speaking the truth, and that is when we have to remind ourselves that there was a far bigger price your whole life that you paid for living the lie. And so eventually we become comfortable with being misunderstood, and that does change the game because we can just move on. Now, I spent years in that uncomfortability and hung and clung to trying to get family members or friends or co-workers to understand who and what it was I wasn't, you know. And that was very debilitating. It caused me to spin out a lot. It caused me to turn around and say, oh, well, maybe I'm wrong, you know. And no, the truth is not for comfort, it is for liberation. And what it kills is everything that does not belong to our highest good, to our highest self. And I tell you what, as this awakening journey begins to accelerate in your life, you will discover that more and more people, things, attitudes, ways of thinking, ways of being, they're gonna start falling off like just incredibly fast. In the beginning, it's like the Klingons, right? And you have to pry things away and you second guess and you you dance back and forth. And then suddenly, without even without even an effort, things start just falling away. And that is a little bit disconcerting. And you're gonna face it, folks, it face the fact that there are people that are gonna disagree and be mad at you for speaking truth. And we have to accept the fact that maybe they are just not there, and maybe they just want to continue to live within their own lives, and we have to let them. We have to let them. So honesty is telling your truth to other people, but integrity is holding on and telling yourself the truth about about you. Integrity is continuing to be truthful to yourself even when telling other people the truth isn't jiving with them. Being honest with yourself, literally, my dear, dear brothers and sisters in Humanityville, telling the truth to yourself is the highest form of self-respect. And in the beginning of this awakening journey, it is uncomfortable, it's it's the hardest thing to do. But uh suddenly a page turns on this awakening journey, and you realize that if you let go of who you are now, it it's like a complete diss to yourself, and uh you become comfortable with being misunderstood. It doesn't matter anymore because that's on other people's walk, and all you're responsible to do is to be true to oneself, be true to thyself, right? So I'm reminding you again today be transparent, clear, and truthful, even when it is difficult. In fact, above all, when it is difficult, that is the most important time for us to trend our truth. Be yourself, and you be the trendsetter. Don't be the follower because the worst thing that we can do is to lie to ourselves. So this awakening journey is not for the weak or the timid. It takes a lot of courage to face first your own demons and then to face the outward backlash, because you will get a backlash. Mark my words, you will get a backlash when you become more and more your higher self, who you are. So stand strong in your own love, light, and truth, because eventually it will set you free, but not until every iota that is not true to your higher self has been deleted and dealt with. And then on a daily, you still have to face a society that quite frankly might not be as awake as you. So in closing, I'm gonna leave with a quote by Abdul Baha, and he said this do not allow differences of opinion or diversity of thought. Do not allow these things to separate you from your fellow men. That is what's happening on steroids right now. And that right now, the uh those in the darkness that have not only set up and run the matrix, they are gleefully watching the division in politics, the division in corporations, the especially the divisions in family. That is what the devil he prowls around and seeks to destroy, kill, and separate. Division absolutely makes the darkness just oh, they're just so excited when they see division. So it's up to us to not allow differences of opinion or diversity of thought. Why can't you have this thought and I have that thought, and we can still get along? That's the way life should be, right? So let me finish this thought. Do not allow differences of opinion or diversity of thought to separate you from your fellow men or to be the cause of dispute, hatred, and strife in your hearts. Rather, search diligently for the truth and make all men your friends. The second half of that quote is what the darkness and the matrix controllers absolutely tremble about. They do not want us to diligently seek the truth, not for ourselves, and certainly not to share it with others, and to make all men our friends. What? We need more division. We need more hate, we need more violence, we need more death, we need more destruction, we need more babies dead, we need more euthanasia, we need to kill, kill, kill, we need to destroy all peace. When you feel that coming in, that's your time to go give a hug. It may not be received, but guess what? It will be remembered. When somebody is at odds with you, you can just quell the storm simply by saying, thank you for sharing your opinion with me. I appreciate you speaking your truth. And that's it. Don't say another word. Don't even try to share your truth. That will quell the tide of hatred and dispute. Now, I can't fix what's happening in your world because I can't fix what's happening in mine. We have this happening in our my very own family, and yet I have to allow it to play out because you see, I am the star of my own play, and all I can do is my part, and my part is to become ever more present and clear about who I am and who I want to be going forward, and what is my truth? And my truth is standing on the rock of God, having and nurturing an ever-deepening relationship with my Father God, my creator, and my divine Mother Earth. Now, I stand in difference with other quote-unquote Christian believers who think, Why am I talking about Mother Earth? There's only one God. Well, okay, I I love you. You're my brothers and sisters in Christ. But there are Christians that will break fellowship with other Christians because of my minutia, because of differing little tiny things that should have no should have no realm of differentiation. But they do, and it causes dispute and hatred, strife and division. So I challenge you today, as you hold on to the you that continues to rise up, maybe that's the first step. Maybe as you are challenged in whatever way, shape, or form, it could be as simple as getting in your car this morning or at l at your lunch break, and you are so used to going to McDonald's, and your higher self is saying, We are so done with the artificial preservatives and the crap at McDonald's. Yeah, but that's what we always did. And maybe you're finally going to answer the call and you're going to go get a green smoothie because you want your body to feel alive and awake. Maybe that's the truth that you have to enter into today. Or maybe it's the truth that you woke up and the one you love has already poured a drink because their shakes are getting the better of them. And something inside you has clicked over, and you know that this is the morning that you're gonna have to go out in that kitchen and say, Look, either we get you some help, or we're gonna have to separate for a time because I don't want to live with your alcoholic behavior anymore because it's affecting my life. Maybe that's the hard truth that you have to face today. Or maybe the truth that you have to face today is similar to mine, where there are members of my family that do not agree with my reconciliation with my husband Roger, and they have not even taken the time to spend any time with us to see if there's any change. And I have to accept that division in my family because I know that I know that I know, because I have been living on a daily basis with this man for two months, and I've known him for 25 years. I've lived with him for 17, and I am an absolute witness of the continual change that he has happening in his life. And he is a different man than he was two years ago, and different from what he was two months ago and two weeks ago. And yes, there are still some of those aspects of him that he's working out, but we have chosen to decide. We made it a mutual decision that we are going to stand side by side each other and we're gonna help each other evolve. Now that is not something that family members want to be around, and I can't help their choice, I can't push the envelope, I have to respect and honor their decision to not come around us anymore. Does it hurt? Oh yeah, it hurts like hell. But I am no longer going to make people feel good and at the same time deny who I am anymore. And I hope to shout that they're learning to do the same. And until then, I stand on the rock of my faith and my belief that love will eventually conquer all, and I am going to continue to pray for every one of my children and my grandbabies and my future generations, and I am going to stand on that truth because I believe that that truth will eventually set the entire planet free. So I go back to that very, very first thing that says, when you find a truth that surpasses your desire to fit trends and meet approval, you can be certain it's worth fighting to spread. So through the pain of family division, through the pain of losing people left and right in my life, it is worth standing on that truth that I believe, that eventually the truth that we are all love and light, pure energy, just like our Father God, and it is our job to move those veils of unconsciousness. To me, that is worth fighting through any pain, through any dispute, through any division, because I know that I know that somewhere down the path I am going to come out of those fires not smelling like smoke. So, truth does trend. It's trending around the world right now. There are people waking up to the truth that they do not want to be controlled anymore. There are people waking up to the truth that the government has overreached and overstepped in every area of our life. You see, truth can't be stopped. And it is running rampant right now, and it's got our darkness and matrix controllers absolutely freaking the heck out. And I'm very happy about that. So, my brothers and sisters in Humanityville, stand up for the truth of who you are. In spite of any pushback, continue to stand. And I leave you with a couple of thoughts. Be yourself and set the trend. Don't be a follower. Be transparent, clear, and truthful, even when difficult. In fact, above all, stand on your truth when it is difficult. And lastly, remember the truth will not not only set you free, but it will not let you free until it's finished with you. So become comfortable with being misunderstood, and it'll change your awakening journey. Because there is a price to pay for speaking the truth, but the bigger price is to pay living a lie. I love you so much, and I hope today you can be truthful to at least yourself. Peace.