024 - Take The Responsibility

“When life is beating you up and you decide to hit back… Make sure it’s not your loved ones catching your punches. “ - Johnnie Williams III

With so much of our lives saddled with responsibility, I want a more focus upon our emotional responsibilities to manage and conduct ourselves in a suitable manner for cohabitation.

Statements like:
“I’m sorry” “I didn’t mean to be mean” “I was just mad" “I’ll try to do better” “I didn’t mean it" get old really fast. And love and respect shouldn’t be challenged to ignore these and many more lapses and personal accountability.
But...
-parents do it
-Siblings do it
-husbands and wives do it
-Boyfriends and girlfriends do it
-Best friends and friends do it to

How often do you engage with your loved ones in a verbally or physically aggressive manner?

Why is it that these folks (maybe we are the folks) struggle to find the confidence to face the root cause of their real frustrations?

Where does this suggest that Love should be tested in such a way for us to endure this type of treatment for the sake and preservation of it?

It’s time we better play the cards we’ve been dealt in such a way we better ACE the situations. This can be managed by:

A... awareness of our emotional struggles
C... control over the things we say to others
E... esteem to pull through instead of pulling others down.

We live in a country with major issues and many tragedies that resort from domestic violence amongst loved ones. Does that make any sense? Taking personal responsibility doesn’t mean being perfect – but it does require that you steward over your energy at all times.

ASK YOURSELF:

1) In what ways have you taking out your anger on a loved one or someone close to you?

2) Why did you choose to release your frustrations on them?

Visit JohnnieWilliams.com for more information or call (315) THOUGHT to ask a question or leave a message.

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Welcome to another Thoughts During Experience. I'm happy to present season two, episode 24. Take the responsibility. Take the responsibility that belongs solely to you. With so much of our lives saddled with responsibilities, I want to aim this podcast and our focus upon the emotional responsibility for each of us to manage and conduct ourselves in a suitable manner for cohabitation. This is so we all can thrive and move forward, move along in our lives, but there's some folks that struggle to manage the responsibility of staying respectful when engaging with us, and far too often resort to phrases like, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be mean. I was just mad. I'll try to do better. I didn't mean it. You know I love you. These and many, many other statements like them are getting old. So if you use these statements on a frequent basis, know on behalf of your loved ones, your friends, your associates, it's getting old. These statements lose their value. And if you're the recipient of some of these seemingly meaningless statements, they lose their value and their power and their relevance in the moment when they're used so often and no change comes about. Although we value you, you repeat. And then I'm sorry again, but you repeat it again. See, people aren't operating in a suitable manner for cohabitation. So we gotta work on these lapses in personal responsibility. But I get it, life is tough, and many of us are dealing with some things and feeling out of sorts, frustrated, trapped in some cases. But we gotta play the cards we've been dealt. Life is the dealer, and you're receiving the cards dealt to you. Some people inherited a winning hand, and some people just got some cards in their hand. But nonetheless, you gotta play the game. And the only way you're gonna win is when we ascend from our lower selves and our lower natures and our pitiful behaviors that need to be checked, that need to be shed. And the only way that we all win, we tap into our inner power and we move forward and we move about this world and around the people that we say we care about with awareness, with control, and with esteem that's in check. And we aspire to be that ace. A C E ace. Self-awareness, self-control, self-esteem. Self-awareness is important because we need to be more aware of what's going on inside of us as we speak out in such a way that we hurt someone else. We need self-control because it's time we become better at controlling our own emotional baggage. We need to check and evaluate our self-esteem, and it should be supervised when it's running low. Ace, ACE, self-awareness, self-control, and self-esteem. This is how we play the cards we've been dealt without hurting someone else or cheating the game or finding ourselves in a position where nobody wants to play the game of life that is with us. This week's thought, pulled from my book Think About It, says that when life is beating you up and you decide to hit back, make sure it's not your loved ones catching your punches. Let's think about that for a second. When life is beating you up, how does life show up sometimes? Test you sometimes, sends people your way sometimes that really get to you. The stress, the bills, the disgruntled supervisors or bosses, the angry customers, the coworkers that are hard to coexist with. Life has a way of beating you up. It gives a lot, but it tests you just as much. But we don't often hit back where we're being hit. We don't often attack those who are attacking us. Unfortunately, we take it home and we reveal the frustration and we release the frustration on loved ones, little ones, husbands and wives, wives and husbands, girlfriends and boyfriends. We release all this baggage on the people that we care most about, that we do anything for. Siblings do it, husbands and wives do it, girlfriends and boyfriends do it, friends and our best friends do it too. Take our stuff out on the people closest to us. Parents get testy when they had a rough day at work, or the pills are due. Take it out on the kids. There's some kids that would shake their head and be like, Mr. Williams, uh, you are right. There's some siblings who are mad that they got in trouble with their parent. And they take it out on the younger or another sibling. And there's some kids saying, Yeah, that's true. Husbands come home far too often and take things out on their wives. Wives come home sometimes and take out their frustrations on their husbands. Girlfriends and boyfriends do the same. See, we gotta be more aware of what we're doing because we got a major issue with this in our country. Domestic violence doesn't make much sense. People within your own home are the ones that you're most violent to. Doesn't make sense. So, with the pandemic, with rapid job loss, with mask being asked to be worn all day and the frustrations of that, domestic violence has been on the rise in our country. You can Google it, maybe check out the evening news. If you struggle to find some things, maybe I'll include a link or two in the subject section of this podcast, just so you know that I'm not stretching the truth on this. And the only way we're gonna ace this problem is to take personal responsibility of our expressions, our communication. We gotta be self-aware, we gotta have self-control, and we gotta have self-esteem this in the right place. But how often do you engage with your loved ones in a verbally or physically aggressive manner? Tough questions this week. Why is it that these folks, and maybe we are the folks, struggle to find the confidence to face the root cause of their real frustration so they bring it home and release it on those they call loved ones? Where does it suggest that love should be tested in such a way or have to endure this type of treatment for the sake and preservation of it? Where does it suggest that? That with love these things should come, this type of treatment should come. Has anybody suggested that to you? Maybe somebody who was abusive, but not in any books that I've read on love does it suggest that these are the type of things that come with it. You should take punches and you should take verbal assaults on a regular and allow somebody to get away with saying, I love you. No one else is better for you in this world, and I don't want to let you go. So we gotta do better. We gotta take responsibility for things we've said, things we've done, and the things we continue to do. And going forward, we need to own our stuff. And we can change. Whether we had a bad example growing up and you saw these things, you heard statements mentioned like I've mentioned before. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be mean. I was just mad. I'll try to do better. You know I didn't mean it. You know I love you, right? Maybe you heard those as mop-up statements and think that in your life you can now get away with those same low vibrational, invaluable statements. That's a waste of oxygen. Save your breath. Slow the game down before you just throw your next card onto the table. Think, what's the next best move? Do I need to take a walk? Do I need to meditate? Do I need to sit in the car and leave all that stuff from work at work? Because your loved ones deserve your love. They're gonna be the ones bringing flowers to your grave. They're gonna be the ones sitting next to you holding your hand in the hospital. They're gonna be the ones that step up to watch your back or maybe step in front of you before anybody attacks you. So be very, very, very slow on attacking them. Now, taking personal responsibility doesn't mean being perfect. No matter how much we practice, there is no perfect, practice makes improvement. But it will require that we steward over our energy at all times. So as I conclude this podcast, I would like you to ask yourself the following questions. In what ways have you taken out your anger on a loved one or someone close to you? You cursed at them and that's not necessary. Maybe you demeaned them and that wasn't necessary. So, in what ways have you taken out your anger on a loved one or someone close to you? And lastly, why did you choose to release your frustrations on them? Why them? Why did they catch it? Why were you so comfortable that you could just say what you need to say and expect the relationship to continue? Why should you still benefit from having engagement or receiving more love from this person when that's what you've done to reciprocate the love? Tough questions this week. It's time to take the responsibility. As your encouragement specialist, every conversation, every podcast is not gonna be light and fluffy. Everything's not gonna be about success. My thoughts were very diverse, and they covered a variety of range of topics. Because for 20 years, traveling around the world, I seen a lot of good and I seen a lot of not so good. I gotta speak on all of it. And the only way we clean up the world is we all take the responsibility personally to clean up our own house, ourselves. So, with that being said, I invite you to subscribe to this podcast because I got more and more messages coming. I ask that you download the Think About It app, an Apple, and the Android store. I invite you to text me your thoughts on this particular message or leave me a voice message, whichever one you prefer. That's 315 Thought 315 846 8448. As always, I invite you to visit johnnywilliams.com and just know that each of my quotes comes with questions, writing prompts. I want to make sure that you have some positive outlets for some genuine, thought-stirring, thought-provoking content that'll help you become more self-aware, challenge your self-control, and aid your self-esteem. My name again is Johnny Williams. I'm happy to be on this journey with you. I appreciate you listening, and I look forward to talking to you soon. Until