Self(ish) Confidence
Self(ish) Confidence is your reminder that you don’t need to become someone else to create a life you love.
Hosted by Self-Discovery and Empowerment Mentor, Jess Clerke, this is the podcast for women who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves, let go of the “shoulds,” and start living life on their own terms.
We’re talking confidence, self-trust, identity, boundaries, relationships, motherhood, ambition, personal growth, and all the messy in-between moments that come with becoming more YOU.
Because confidence isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about knowing yourself well enough to trust your choices, even when they don’t make sense to everyone else.
Each week, Jess brings honest conversations, real-life stories, mindset shifts, and practical tools to help you question what you’ve been told you should want and get radically honest about what you actually want instead.
You don’t need more permission. You need more trust in yourself.
Welcome to Self(ish) Confidence. A place to trust yourself, own your truth, and live life on your terms.
Episodes
321 episodes
[321] Stop Letting Comparison Steal Your Pride
That reflex to say “I’m fine” can be the loudest sign that you’re not giving yourself enough room to feel what’s true. I’m Jess, and I’m getting real about a tender season over here: daycare transition days, constant colds, the heaviness of dro...
[320] Becoming Unrecognizable
You know that moment when you catch your reflection and think, wait, I don’t even recognize myself? That’s what we’re unpacking today: the experience of becoming “unrecognizable,” how it can feel heavy and disorienting, and how it can also be t...
[319] Overwhelm Reset: What is overwhelm trying to teach you?
Overwhelm can make you feel like you’re failing at life when the truth is simpler: you’re carrying too much, for too long, with too few breaks. Today we’re getting real about that “chest-tightening” season where the calendar is packed, your bra...
[318] How to Trust Yourself When Life Changes Your Plans
Your plan can be perfect and life can still change by lunch. I’m Jess, and today I’m talking straight to the part of you that wants to control every pawn on the chessboard, because I’ve been there too. When my childcare plan shifted unexpectedl...
[317] Break The Thought Loop
Your brain can turn one hard moment into a full-time soundtrack, and suddenly you’re living inside a rerun instead of your real life. I’m Jess, and I’m sharing what’s been hitting me hard lately: parenthood and childcare did not go the way I pi...
[BOOST] What If Someone Needs What You Create?
Your best ideas always show up at the worst time: when you’re driving, showering, or staring at the ceiling right before sleep. I'm jumping on the mic for a short bonus boost to turn that familiar spark into something bigger, a reminder that cr...
[315] How To Let Go Of Identities That No Longer Fit
You can outgrow a label and still keep living like it’s true. We’re talking about the sneaky way old identities cling to us, even after we’ve healed, evolved, and built a life that proves we’re different now. I start with a rare quiet moment, a...
[314] Seasons That Shake Your Identity
Change can be exciting, but the part nobody warns you about is the identity whiplash. One day you’re handling life like you always have, and the next you’re in a new season, new schedule, new body, new priorities, and you’re still expecting the...
[313] What If Your Best Summer Starts With Fun
Summer doesn’t wait, and neither should your joy. I’m Jess, and I’m talking to the woman who loves a checklist but keeps putting her own fun at the bottom of it, the “I’ll relax after the dishes” mindset that quietly steals the best parts of th...
[312] The Things I Swore I'd Never Do
“I would never do that” can feel like a boundary, but sometimes it’s a wall. Today we get honest about the weird moment when you look back at your past self and laugh because you did the exact thing you swore you’d never do and it actually made...
[311] Your Lack Of Confidence Is Showing 🙈
The fastest way to spot a confidence dip is not in what you say, it’s in what you do next: the overexplaining, the defensiveness, the mental replay of a one-minute interaction that suddenly feels like a life review. If that sounds familiar, you...
[310] What If Your Distractions Aren’t Random At All
Your attention is getting pulled in a hundred directions, and it’s not because you’re lazy or “bad at discipline.” It’s because modern life is designed to distract you and if you’re parenting, building a business, working a job, or just trying ...
[309] Stop Letting Other People’s Fear Lead
Someone hears your dream and suddenly it feels risky, unrealistic, or “too much.” That moment can look like advice, concern, or even excitement, but underneath it is often the same thing: projection. We’re talking about what happens when other ...
[308] Being Delulu in Barbados: a BTS Look of the recent Self(ish) Retreat
Mom guilt tells us we have to pick a lane: be fully present at home or fully committed to the dream. I’m fresh back from our Barbados Selfish Retreat, and I’m here to tell you what it actually looked like to host a week-long women’s retreat as ...
[307] How To Quit The Comparison Trap And Trust Your Own Path
Comparison has a sneaky way of dressing up like motivation, then leaving you with that heavy “I’m not doing enough” feeling. While I’m in full pre-retreat mode packing for Barbados (organized chaos and a suitcase that’s barely under 50 pounds),...
[306] The Compliment Effect
If you’ve been doing the juggling act of motherhood, work, relationships, and big dreams, you know the “enoughness” spiral. We talk about that shaky energy head-on, and how societal pressure quietly convinces women there’s one correct tim...
[305] [INTERVIEW] Painting Pictures with Sound: Confidence, Storytelling & Being Seen w/Melody Rose
A lot of people want to “use their voice” until the moment their voice can be judged. Today, I sit down with Halifax radio host and storyteller Melody Rose to talk about what confidence really looks like when you’re vulnerable, thin-skinned, an...
[304] Get in the Room (Your Confidence Will Catch Up)
Some weekends don’t just feel fun, they snap you back into yourself. After the Fredericton Women Show and the She Leads women’s panel, I walked away with that buzzing reminder that confidence grows faster when you’re surrounded by women who act...
[303] Become Unfuckwithable
You know that moment when someone shares an opinion and your stomach drops because you can feel the judgment coming? I wanted to talk about the skill that changes everything: becoming unfuckwithable, not in a rude way, but in an unshakable way ...
[302] Overstimulated & Under-Joyed
Your brain isn’t broken, it’s overloaded. I’m sitting down with a cup of tea and naming the thing so many of us feel but rarely say out loud: life is loud, busy, and weirdly serious, and we’ll do almost anything to avoid an empty moment. If you...
[301] Mother Yourself First (and this is not just for Moms)
You can be wildly capable and still be running on 0%. That’s the tension we’re naming today: how so many of us show up for work, partners, kids, friends, and family without hesitation, while our own needs get whatever crumbs are left. When life...
[300] From 0 to 300: How One Scary Choice Changed Everything
Ever feel the air shift and know something is about to change? That’s where we are as we hit our 300th episode—a milestone built on messy first takes, wobbly courage, and a relentless promise to show up even when it’s scary. I trace the arc fro...
[299] From Flu Prep To Life Prep: Building A Space, A System, And A Sisterhood
When life gets loud, confidence needs a home. We start with a chair, a candle, and a cup of tea—and end with a blueprint for handling chaos with more ease. After a week that knocked our whole household down with the flu, I share how a simple ro...
[298] Cheerios Off The Floor And Other Parenting Wisdom
Ever feel like your brain won’t stick to one task, your to-do list breeds at night, and every decision carries the weight of a parenting manual? Same. Jess sits down to unpack the first year of motherhood with candor and humor: why trusting you...
[297] Build Your Life On A Foundation of Self-Belief
The world feels loud, the energy is weird, and anxiety is riding shotgun. We open the mic anyway and get real about what self-belief looks like when life is messy, opinions are everywhere, and you’re still figuring out who you are after big cha...