In this episode, Jeremy Amyotte and Sean Galla from MensGroup get into how to build self-assurance and self-confidence. We also get into why is so important to set our core values straight, take ownership and be vulnerable.
Today’s https://mensgroup.com/podcast guest Jeremy Amyotte is the leader of one of the highest-producing real estate sales teams in his territory and author of the book “Self-Assurance”, and he’s here to talk about self-confidence, accepting responsibility, and identifying inner values.
CHAPTERS:
00:07:01 SINGLE CHAPTER – Self-Assurance & Self-Confidence
00:11:20 Coping with Funky Times
- Pushing ourselves to do those things that take us out of our comfort zone is a great way to build confidence, as we’ll start to accomplish things that we didn’t believe we could do in the first place.
00:18:27 Human Hierarchy & Self-Confidence
- Every now and then we may find ourselves putting people above or below us, following some sort of human hierarchy. This phenomenon is pretty usual and can take place even among our loved ones, such as close friends and family.
00:26:16 Being Vulnerable
- Most of the time, building confidence is not about talking nicely to ourselves but actually about digging deep inside and dealing with any negative feelings that may be holding us back and rooting our limiting beliefs. To do this though, we have to be willing to be vulnerable.
00:29:42 Acceptance & Ownership
- The first step towards self-confidence is acceptance - we can’t change anything that we haven’t accepted first. However, acknowledging our flaws and our weak spots can be hard from an emotional perspective. What’s more, there’s a strong tendency in society that pushes us to distract and numb ourselves, rather than getting in touch with our feelings.
00:35:04 Self-Assurance & Self-Confidence
- Self-confidence is compartmental and mainly related to specific fields. For example, somebody can be a pretty confident athlete and at the same time lack confidence when it comes to public speaking. On the other hand, self-assurance involves all of those areas in which we feel confident, whilst accepting all of the others in which we don’t, also acknowledging and trusting our inner resources to get better and improve in whichever area we’d be interested in making some real progress.
00:51:32 Self-Assurance & Core Values
- Articulating our core values is crucial when it comes to building self-assurance. Values are like a compass that can guide us in the right direction, helping us make the best decisions along the way.
00:59:21 Self-Confidence Tools
- There are some practical tools that can really help boost our self-confidence, such as reading relevant books and journaling on a steady basis. Also, surrounding ourselves with people that share our core values and then encourage us to remain on the right path is key to achieving self-growth. If possible, having some trusted mentors to guide us throughout our life journey can certainly be a priceless asset.
01:01:39 Taking Responsibility
- We can’t always have control over whatever happens to us, but we can definitely have a say on how we’re gonna react to that. As Jack Canfield has stated: E + R = O, meaning that events plus response equal outcome, making it clear that the way we respond we’ll be at least half of the equation. In addition, it’s also important to avoid tying ourselves to any potential result but just focused on our actions instead, given that they’re the only part of the equation we have any influence on.