PASSING THOUGHTS

PASSING THOUGHTS with Rebecca-Monique is a soul-led podcast exploring the nuanced landscapes of loss and grief, trauma, inner healing, race, and identity.

Hosted by Rebecca-Monique—an ICF accredited grief and trauma coach, coach supervisor, and storyteller—each episode offers deep, reflective dives that blend personal insight with professional wisdom.

With compassion and clarity, Rebecca-Monique unpacks the layered truths of human experience, inviting listeners to feel informed, inspired, and affirmed. Expect rich conversations, powerful coaching prompts, and space to come home to yourself—again and again.

These are not just passing thoughts, but sacred pauses: where story meets reflection, and healing begins.

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EPISODE 79: THE DIFFERENT WAYS WE EXPERIENCE REGRET | PASSING THOUGHTS PODCAST | rbccmnq

July 30, 2023 • Rebecca-Monique • Episode 79

Number 4. Connection regret.
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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique: an ICF accredited (PCC) grief and trauma coach, and coach supervisor. My work is centred around supporting individuals through their healing and growth.

My specialist areas are grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction, sense of Self (identity), boundaries and confidence. My modes of coaching are somatic (i.e. embodied awareness) and transformational (i.e. a focus on attitudes, values, beliefs, behaviours, etc.).

I have particular interests in social sciences and human-centred disciplines, including psychology, psycholinguistics, sociology, spirituality and philosophy.

I live in London, UK with my son (who is also blessed with the awesomeness that is hyphenated first names!).

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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique – an ICF accredited coach and coach supervisor – and these are my passing thoughts.

We experience regret when we blame ourselves for a less than favourable outcome.

Author of The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward, Daniel Pink states that regret is “healthy and universal; an integral part of being human”.

In his book, he explores four categories of regret. Each can be placed into the bucket of either action or inaction.

Number one is Foundational regrets – these are choices that would have brought more stability and security later in life for example, saving or going down a particular educational or career route.
Boldness Regrets – these are behaviours that required aggressive action. They could have been opportunities missed maybe due to lack of confidence or fear of rejection, for example.
Third is Moral Regret – This is where our actions and behaviours were misaligned with our values and principles.
The fourth type of regret is Connection regret – these are relationships we didn’t maximise or adequately nurture.

My question for you this week is:

What has your most recent ‘shoulda woulda coulda’ taught you about yourself?

Speak to you next week. Until then, be well.