Motor City Hypnotist
Motor City Hypnotist
Relationships, Part 1
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Don't be fooled; relationships are far from simple! Yet, as complex as they can be, they're undeniably a core part of our human experience. This episode is a journey through the intricate webs of relationships, highlighting the aspects that often go overlooked. We share an inspiring story of a young boy who, in a world too often filled with negativity, reminds us of the power of a simple positive message: You matter to someone, always. This moving message sets the stage as we delve into the importance of recognizing your needs and desires within a relationship and the profound impact of understanding and valuing our partners' needs.
And it wouldn't be a full discussion without addressing that all-important factor - intimacy. We've all heard it before: physical attraction isn't everything. But what does that mean in the context of a relationship? We dive beyond the surface-level to uncover the essential roles of emotional intimacy and affection. From holding hands to understanding your partner's sexual needs, we discover the depth that intimacy adds to a successful relationship. So, why not join us in this enlightening exploration of the foundations of a meaningful partnership? Let's challenge conventional wisdom and uncover the secrets of truly successful relationships together.
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In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast, we're talking about relationships, in particular couples relationships. You know some things that you must have, things that you should look for and probably some things that you probably shouldn't be doing or looking for.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Just as red flags. That happens sometimes in relationships Print call, print call. It's crazy and, as usual, we're going to give away some free stuff, as we always do. Hang in there, folks, we'll be right back.
Speaker 3:Get ready for the Motor City Hypnotist, David R Wright. Originating from the suburbs of Detroit, Michigan, he has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis. Welcome the Motor City Hypnotist, David R Wright.
Speaker 1:What is going on, my friends? It is David R Wright, the Motor City Hypnotist. We are here back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast. Hello David, hello Matt.
Speaker 4:How's it going? Good, how are you doing? You know it's Monday.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is Monday.
Speaker 4:Is it Friday yet?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know.
Speaker 4:I got a busy week this week. Yes, we do.
Speaker 1:Yeah it's busy. Yeah, that is Matt Fox, the other voice you hear. We're here in the podcast of Voice, southfield Studios, as usual per most Monday evenings. What else are we going to do on a Monday evening? Sleep I mean yeah exactly.
Speaker 4:I mean, you know, it's what every good relationship needs Someone who sleeps all the time.
Speaker 1:Well, either that or just a consistent date. Oh, okay, yeah, that would work too, like we have a consistent date every Monday, jamie Matt, I was going to say that to I have a date.
Speaker 4:You know what? I have a date with the garbage, at least two or three times a week that I take the garbage out and we have an amazing time doing it.
Speaker 1:Okay, you and the garbage.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I take the garbage out and we have an amazing time.
Speaker 1:That's cheap date it's called.
Speaker 4:That's called a dad joke.
Speaker 2:I know, I know.
Speaker 1:That's a good one.
Speaker 2:Oh great, Odin's Raven.
Speaker 4:I am excited to talk about our topic today of relationships.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, but where?
Speaker 4:can people find?
Speaker 1:you, I'm going to tell you. Yeah, my website is motorcityhypnotistcom. Check out the website. All kinds of cool stuff on there. You can find me on social media. My Facebook and YouTube are both Motor City Hypnotist, and Instagram and Snapchat are both Motor City Hypno. H Y P N? O.
Speaker 1:And, as usual, as I say every episode, grab your free hypnosis guide. Click the link. And here's to keep totally free, no strings attached, no quizzes required. None, you don't have to get approved. No tests, what happened? No tests, nothing you have to do except click and download into Jours. Fair enough, yeah. So check that out. And here's the important thing Wherever you're listening whether you're listening to the audio on a podcast platform, maybe you're out with us on Facebook live, which a lot of our people join us Check us out is leave a review. You can leave it on my Facebook page if you're on Facebook live. If you're listening to the audio somewhere else on another platform, such as iTunes or Spotify or somewhere else, leave a review there too, because that helps us. Yeah, it just helps us get in front of more people and gets a podcast out there and more people listen. So I would appreciate that very much. Love it, absolutely Love it, my friend. You know we're gonna do now Matt.
Speaker 1:Yes, I do your favorite part of the week. Yes, it is.
Speaker 5:That's how we did is done.
Speaker 1:It seems loud, but I like it. No, yeah, we need a loud that.
Speaker 4:That's that helps.
Speaker 1:Hey, what's got this, this, this I okay. So let's face it. We're older, older, and sometimes we see kids and we're like, oh, what a bunch of goofballs. Or you know what a bunch of hoodlums pull your pants up.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know things like that, you know. So, yeah, we think a lot of younger kids is hooligans. But so this story I just kind of I thought it was great. Okay, a young boy was headed down a neighborhood sidewalk when he made a stop at a random house with the doorbell camera. Okay, a ring right, yep. To leave a positive message of encouragement for a stranger. The video posted on YouTube by Southwest news agency does not identify the boy or the location, but the youth is an American, walking with a few friends in a tree-line neighborhood. Okay, he looks directly into the camera with an earnestness and wisdom seemingly beyond his years. This is what he said, quote you matter. All right, there's always gonna be someone who cares about you. You're a good person, no matter what people say about you, you matter.
Speaker 4:Let me see that real quick. Let me see that page yeah, real quick. Yeah, I'm gonna do something here for those folks that are on video, and I'm gonna do this. You matter, all right.
Speaker 1:So yeah, in his face was right in the camera, yeah yeah, yeah. You may, and this is the last line you matter. You matter man or girl, whoever you are, you matter to someone. Just keep that in mind. Don't forget that. Then he went on with his day, sauntering down the sidewalk with a small shopping bag, presumably headed home. Okay, so there's a little bit more to it. I'm gonna play the audio. Hopefully this comes through. Okay, we're gonna. We're gonna try it.
Speaker 5:You can see me get out of here, bub, and you matter. Alright. There's always going to be somebody that cares about you, and you're a good person. No matter what people say, you matter.
Speaker 2:Ignore them.
Speaker 5:They're losers, they're ding dong ditching you. I'm just trying to say something nice, Like I don't know what they're doing, they're running away and stuff. I'm just trying to say that you matter, man or girl, whoever you are, you matter to someone. Just keep that in mind, don't forget that.
Speaker 1:Then the kid walks away. He had a bunch of kids behind him that were trying to bother him. He pushed the one kid away because he was trying to leave this nice message. He goes I don't know what they're doing. They're ding dong ditching. I'm just trying to leave a good message here, isn't that cool? Like I said, they couldn't identify the kid or where it happened, but I'm sure at some point somebody's going to find out who the kid is.
Speaker 4:Oh they'll find him. Oh they will find him.
Speaker 1:Yes, they'll find him. I want to find him because we talked about we're going to connect with some of our winners of the weeks. I'm telling you I've already got my list at work. We're going to work on some of these, but if I find this kid, I want to talk to him Because you have a specific set of skills. Because you matter.
Speaker 4:And no matter where he goes, you will find him.
Speaker 1:I can hunt people down. You know what I did as a tent job. I was working in a clinic and it was kind of in the midst of a revamping, let's say so. I worked for Ford Credit for a while as a tent job and I did skip tracing on people to find vehicles so I can find people.
Speaker 4:You triangulate where they were based on that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we look up license plates and find out dresses and places of employment, goodness, and we call the repo guys to come and go and get their cars.
Speaker 4:We will not mess with David, that's for damn sure.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, whoever, this kid is good for you, dude, and also for shoving your friend out of the way. If go to the link in the show notes because you can watch the video of this, oh fun the ring video. Ok, and you'll see him like push this kid away and it's like he's trying to do something nice and these other kids will go. You know, they're the hooligans yeah, the hooligans behind him.
Speaker 4:He just shoves them away. Hooligans and doing shenanigans. But this kid is doing shenanigans, but in a nice way he's doing great things.
Speaker 1:I mean what a good kid. I mean again I go back to the whole thing of yeah, are you rotten kids? Yeah, you got to tell you, you know.
Speaker 2:What happened? No, it was good.
Speaker 4:That's what happened, Alan. Check to the side. You both matter.
Speaker 1:Alan, Alan, you matter too, Thanks.
Speaker 4:Alan, you know what?
Speaker 1:The fuck are you doing?
Speaker 4:Because you matter that much.
Speaker 1:Because, you matter, alan, and that's for you, because we want to know how you're doing and what you're doing.
Speaker 2:Perfect. Yes, absolutely. Thanks, Alan.
Speaker 1:Thanks, Alan. So yeah, that's our winner of the week for sure. So back to you, said it Matt, so back to it have you got a sidebar have you watched? Any of these. I was going to say have you watched any of the walking dead Offshoots yet? No, no, I haven't either.
Speaker 5:That's it, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 1:I mean, here's the thing, and this is just my personal opinion. I know there's still fans of the show. I didn't even finish the original series. Neither did I. I think I dropped out season eightish somewhere in there, but I feel like it reached its peak. They should have done this much earlier, in my opinion.
Speaker 4:They should have finalized the show, in some way, shape or form, when Rick left Right, because Rick was the center point, focal point of the entire story, the entire series.
Speaker 1:I mean, he was there from episode one, all the way through, and you're right.
Speaker 4:They should have ended it with Rick disappearing.
Speaker 1:And I don't think I'm in the minority with that. I've seen a lot of posts about that. But again, there are diehard fans that have stuck with it and watched the whole thing and they're going to watch these offshoots and I hope they're good. I just kind of lost my interest in it. Yeah. So speaking of side to side, yeah, sidebars, because I have another one for you too. Strange New World. Yes, that's where I was going.
Speaker 4:I have not seen the crossover yet of Lower Decks and Strange New World.
Speaker 1:Okay, I've not seen that episode yet either, because I'm caught up until I'm halfway through, where Spock becomes human. Oh, okay. That's where I'm at that was and there's one episode after that that I've caught up on Okay.
Speaker 4:So it's been kind of weird this season so far.
Speaker 1:I still think it's. It's in. Sorry geek, we're on a sidebar for the geeks.
Speaker 4:Yeah, this is called relationship.
Speaker 5:They have a brain like a chicken.
Speaker 1:No, it's okay, we're good, but it is the most like Trek that any of the new shows are right. You're not wrong. They've running storylines they have, they have standalone episodes, they have character building. It's. It's just. It's good. I really think it's.
Speaker 4:Lawn Nunez sing Mm. Hmm, she's actually a pretty interesting character.
Speaker 1:I like her character I like I mean all of them honestly, the doctor yes, he was in the movie Dune.
Speaker 4:Yes, yeah.
Speaker 2:He fought Paula Trady's the first one.
Speaker 4:Yeah Right, he's been in so much, but to see watch him in Dune and then see him as a doctor, I'm like wow, they got the same fighting style.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, because he has that big fight near lock.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So yeah, okay, geek sidebar, but no strange new worlds. I recommend it. I I'm a big Trek fan from way back. I've watched everything. I've seen everything Trek Sure. So this is more. This is the series. That's really good in my opinion. All right. We'll sidebar later about off off off Mike, or we can do it on Mike, that's no, no.
Speaker 1:We got people that want to know about relationships. Okay, so back to it again. So we're talking about relationships, folks. So, speaking of, does your partner love sci-fi and you hate it? Does your partner love fantasy and you hate it? You sound like you're speaking from experience. No, not necessarily because so. So I'll, I'll, I'll be transparent. Kendra and I have different tastes typically to ask. This is funny. Next time you see her, ask her about Lord of the Rings.
Speaker 2:Oh, I've, we've talked, about. Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:I've actually spent nine hours just throw the ring in the fire and be done with it. One word yeah, potato, potatoes. Boil a, mash them, stick them in a stew. See, so, so, yeah, her, her tastes are not, although I give her credit like she will watch, like she went to a couple of Marvel movies with me. All right, we watched, we. We saw a couple of the new Star Wars in theaters.
Speaker 1:So, you know so. So here's the thing that that I'm going to get to, and it's part of what we're talking about. You don't have to have every single interest in common. You don't have to be carbon copies of one another, because who wants to date themselves?
Speaker 4:Well, although I might Well, the narcissistic folks, yeah, maybe.
Speaker 2:I'm very important. I have many leather bound books and my apartment smells of rich mahogany.
Speaker 4:What is that song that's playing in the background of that?
Speaker 1:Excerpt? Oh, that's a good question.
Speaker 4:I don't don't play it again.
Speaker 1:No, why not?
Speaker 3:Because I already heard it once.
Speaker 4:What are you people I gotta? I'll figure that out. So, but a couple what our last couple episodes? We walked away say we have homework to do?
Speaker 1:We did yes, because we talked about the last couple episodes to catch people up.
Speaker 4:We talked about the psychology of surprise endings or twist endings and stories or movies and there's nothing better than watching a show or a movie with your partner, your spouse, and you're both surprised and that sparks a conversation. At what point did you think it was going to go off the rails Right?
Speaker 1:right. But no, and and that is something because there's always some common ground I mean, we've watched shows together, like like I'm trying to think of. I don't know if there's anything right now that we're watching together, but, like a handmade tale, we watch that together, you know, pretty much all the time, sure, and there's certain shows that we would like. Oh, don't watch it, yeah, you gotta wait for me. So so we had that, that commonality as far as that goes. So so here's the thing relationships can be challenging in many ways, and we're gonna we're gonna talk about a lot of those things. Um, so the the important thing is to know what you're looking for in a relationship, because often relationships start with physical attraction. That makes sense. Okay, it's the first thing you see. It's that initial, you know, physical attraction, where you start judging a book by its cover Sure but?
Speaker 1:but that's kind of human nature, you know, um, if you see somebody across the room and they're not attractive to you, you're probably not going to be inclined to talk to them, right?
Speaker 1:So that's the first, or you may feel that they're way out of your league, so you don't even attempt right, and, and that, believe me, being a geek in high school or being just that, yeah, that was me for sure. Yeah, being a short, fat, chubby kid in high school, yeah, so it's important to know exactly what you want, so, so, so I'm gonna start out with some things. As far as, when it comes to relationships, it's important that you have like a clear vision of what you expect and what you want, because here's what happens most of the time you'll see somebody who, who physically looks attractive to you and you might settle and when I say settle, that sounds terrible, but but that that is kind of the term I want to use you settle for other shortcomings because of that initial physical attraction. They got short thumbs, maybe. Uh, uh, megan Fox, his weird thumbs Do you ever see that? No, no, oh no, that's like a, it's a genetic trait, yeah it is she's got, she's got.
Speaker 1:She's got the weird she got stubby thumbs, like, like, like, hammered like a bulb, bulbous thumbs. Yeah okay, right, yeah, just just look that up sometime and again monsters vs aliens, just saying watch them.
Speaker 4:Yeah, it's crazy.
Speaker 1:So so, but it's important that you find out other things that that you know are gonna kind of help you have a successful relationship. So so I'm gonna go by, I'm gonna go over numerous categories in the episode of things that that we need to focus on, because all of these things are important and all of these things you need to have some sort of connection To make make it more likely that you're gonna have A successful relationship. Let's dig in. Okay, I'm gonna start with number one, and these are in no particular order, but number one happens to be intimacy. Okay, now, that goes along in part with that physical attraction, but that's not all of it. So, so it's important that you you're with somebody that is on your, that you're connected with on an intimate level. Now, intimacy just doesn't mean sex, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:So, in terms of intimacy. Intimacy can be Sitting together, holding hands Um, you know, walk me together with your arms around each other, of other signs of affection that go along with intimacy. So having a partner that can support your physical needs, whatever those are, that's an important thing. And and here's what I what happens with with a lot of clients that I see, especially couples come in All right, or even individuals. I it's, it'll go something like this Well, yeah, you know, we're not, we're not as intimate as I would like to be, but that's okay, because that's I shouldn't, that shouldn't be important, but it is, but it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's the correction I say to people it's that, no, that you can't. I, I believe you cannot have a successful relationship without that intimacy. If you're not intimate, then really just have another friend, right, you're, you're missing a whole component there, and and people kind of downplay it and think it's shallow, they think it's like well, I'm, I'm. You know, it's kind of dickish of me to expect these things that I like and that I want, but it's not because that's something that you like and you want, that's something you should, you should, that both parties should get.
Speaker 4:No, you're. You're a guy. You're a man. Yeah, I'm a man. Yeah, are you. Are you a walking 12 year old hormone like me? Sometimes All the time, all the time you say, perfect, I'm in good company, so I. That's the thing, you know.
Speaker 1:I feel like here's a running joke. Math that that I that I encounter, will tell you Whenever there's something like on tv or something that's like somebody attractive.
Speaker 2:I just go, I go.
Speaker 1:I like tits, jesus, which I just say, and she laughs. She, she knows you know, she. She knows what I'm talking about.
Speaker 4:No, I was just I. You know I'm. I've always wanted to be with somebody that would pull that, that, not that hormone out, but that make me want that all the time. Yeah, you know, it makes me feel good that I feel that way about that person.
Speaker 1:Well, and here's the thing that intimacy does for both people it makes them feel connected, one but, but individually. It makes you feel Attractive and wanted, yep, and important, yes, and that, oh, somebody's into me. That, and, and I'll tell you for self-esteem, that is the, that that's one of the best feelings you can have. Love it that another person really wants to be with you, and again sexually, but also just physically, just like I said. Um, I talked to a lot of couples and and I I'll ask them these some, a couple of simple questions.
Speaker 1:I'm like you guys spend time together alone. I'll not, you know, most time the kids are around or whatever. I'm like okay. So, once the kids go to bed, what's your routine? And they'll say big, okay, we watch TV. Maybe we'll, you know, have to have some food or whatever. And I'm like okay, but what's your proximity to each other? Right, because they don't think about that, they just think we watch TV together. And I'm like well, what's your proximity? I'm sitting in my locker. Do you sit in separate chairs? You all. And I'm going to tell you a majority of my clients, I see they'll say, well, yeah, I'll sit on the chair and he'll be on the couch or vice versa. I'm like, why don't you ever sit next to each other? Why don't you ever just and I'm not saying you have to cuddle, but that could be part of it but sit where you're like in physical contact, where you can like hold a hand or put a hand on a leg or just have shoulders touching.
Speaker 4:All I have to do is just reach my hand out, and my hand is getting touched by the other person. Absolutely. Might be sitting in a different spot, but we are close enough in proximity where we can hold hands or whatever.
Speaker 1:Well, and we've had this thing and this is not uncommon with married couples successful married couples that a lot of times what will happen in our house is we'll sit down to watch TV and I'll sit and kind of roll, lie down with her legs over my lap and I'll scratch her leg and she scratches my arm. It's just kind of like a just as mutual connection and it's not a big deal. It's and I'll say in general, it's not sexual, it's just connecting physically with another human being. I love rubbing shoulders.
Speaker 4:I just sit there and rub on shoulders.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, absolutely. Rub shoulders, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 4:And then, you know, sometimes they'll say hey, can you tickle? I mean scratching my back. And sometimes I'm like you know what I was happy just giving you know rubbing shoulders because we had that connection. Yep, love it.
Speaker 1:So it's important to be intimate, and again, not just sexually. Sexually is a big part of it too, and that's a conversation that every couple should have as far as before it gets I'm going to say before it gets too deep into the relationship. But once you start being physically intimate, as far as sexually intimate, it's important that you guys have an understanding, that both parties have an understanding of what the safe work limits are what you're willing to do, what you're not willing to do, because those are important things because if and I'm going to use just a way far out example.
Speaker 1:If you meet somebody and they say this is ridiculous, but I'm just going to say it. I only like to have sex once every two months because that's just the way I like it, now that's fine for the person who says that, that's honest, but if it's not up to the other person's expectations, then there's a disconnect there Very much so you know that that's going to be an issue going forward. So it's important to have these conversations regarding intimacy.
Speaker 4:So someone walks up to you and they're like hey, my safe word is Popcorn, popcorn. Oh, you want to go see a movie? Popcorn, jesus, okay, sidebar.
Speaker 1:So my buddy Richard, he's a nationally renowned hypnotist. He's been on Jeans Corden and the Today Show, but I've helped him in numerous shows throughout the years. And he did this adult show down in Dundee, Michigan, after the Monroe County Fair. And then his adult shows. It's adult material. Sure, it's not something you'd do at a fair or at a high school, but he does this routine where he says okay, what's your porn name? And there was this old guy on stage. This guy had to be 70-something years old. The guy was great. Okay, he was a great subject, he was hilarious. It's just something like one of those lovable old guys that you meet and see. Love it. And he got to him and he goes what's your porn name? He goes my porn name is Popcorn. So I just thought about that one.
Speaker 4:Oh my goodness, that's funny. Anyway, no, but let's say, if someone walks up to you and that's how they start the conversation and that's not up to your expectations, again there's a disconnect.
Speaker 1:Right, exactly, and these are important. These are discussions that are important to have early in relationships because it can affect things later on down the line, because a lot of people again will repress that, the needs that they have to say, oh well, this isn't important, everything else is great, but sex isn't. But that shouldn't be important. On the contrary, that has to be part of it and if there's some dissatisfaction in that area, that is going to cause problems later on. Sure. And then also again non-sexual intimacy, as far as touching and holding hands and showing signs of affection. Some people can go totally without it and be fine. Some people need that to feel better.
Speaker 1:Wanted needed, wanted, needed to feel a connection. So again, it's important to address that with each other.
Speaker 4:Intimacy is a very, very critical point of a relationship and, like you said, it's not the only part of a relationship, but it is one of the more. But it has to be there.
Speaker 1:It has to be there. You can't have everything else and skip that one because, oh, that's not important. And again I'm going back because I've heard the client say it is over and I'm like, no, it is important, that is something that you should talk about, that's something that's very important in a relationship.
Speaker 4:It is very important and the problem that some people may face is that there might be other issues within the relationship and they put the intimacy last. That needs to be addressed. They try to fix everything else and then save that for last, because they feel that's the most important part.
Speaker 1:Right, right.
Speaker 4:So, when it comes to working on relationships, you need to include it all in one fell swoop.
Speaker 1:Yeah absolutely Absolutely.
Speaker 4:So that's just my layman's thought. Yeah, no.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I feel like that is absolutely a case.
Speaker 4:Your sister just checked in and she said hi brother, hi Amy.
Speaker 1:My sis Amy. How you doing Amy? Oh Amy, I got a question for you. I got a question for you. What the fuck are you doing? Just checking in.
Speaker 5:I'm just finding out what you're up to, but yeah.
Speaker 1:I hope you're good, love you. So what's the next topic?
Speaker 4:on this.
Speaker 1:The next part is and again this sounds very cliche, but it's friendship, because most people have a very divergent view on a couple's relationship and a friendship relationship, when really the intimate, the couple's relationship, your partner's relationship, should be first and foremost a friendship. Sure, that is important and I know I've seen a lot of couples over the years and they're not friends. It's almost like they exist together, together, but but there's no connection. There's, there's no. So when I talk about friendship, what I'm talking about is, you know, having someone who's there, who's a dependable person, who will listen and support you when you're having rough times, who will be there to celebrate important dates and achievements and accomplishments. It's something, honestly, if you talk, if you think about your best friend, that's what your, your mate, should be, that's what your partner should be. They should be your best friend. So again, I see this disconnect a lot in couples where, yeah, they might be intimate, but there's not this, this, there's, there's no bond of friendship there. It's almost like you exist separately and just come together when it's when it's necessary or when it's convenient, and that that's not good either.
Speaker 1:So I'm going to give you some exercises to show and this just helps just kind of make connections as far as things that you think might be trivial. But this is like if if I were to say Matt, you have a, do you have a best friend? I do, as a Holly, yes, yeah, okay. So if I said what's her favorite color? Yes, you would know it Yellow, yeah, ok. So, so, so these are questions. I want you to sit down with your partner and go through Just and this can be a fun kind of a game that you can play just to kind of to see how well you know each other, because if you're, if you're really good friends, you should probably know a lot of these, you would know their favorite flavor of edible candies.
Speaker 2:Oh great, Odin's Ravis. You should, I will, you should know, that I already said, I'm a walking.
Speaker 1:I know, I know, I know, I get it, I get it.
Speaker 2:Clean out your desk.
Speaker 1:You're gone, bye, no, go on. So OK For. So here's some questions to sit down with your partner and just ask back and forth and answer them. You take turns answering these questions. What's? Your favorite color? What's? Your favorite food Pizza. What's your favorite?
Speaker 4:movie yes.
Speaker 1:Who's your favorite actor or actress? Sure, what's your favorite vacation location? That's a loaded question Right there really is, because there's a lot of great spots Right. What?
Speaker 4:sticks out the most Right.
Speaker 1:Who are your closest friends? Mm, hmm, mm, hmm. Where did you go to high school? Oh, that's easy. Yeah, that should be an easy one, right? I would suspect, and I don't know of any. I can't give you real life examples. I would guess there are probably couples out there who couldn't tell you where the other one went to high school.
Speaker 4:Oh yeah, I'm just guessing that.
Speaker 1:No, yeah. What do I do to show people I really love them? Mm, hmm, what keeps me up at night, right? Well, other than you know, it's 12 year old, lockheed Hormone.
Speaker 2:Great Odin's Raven. Oh boy, that escalated quickly.
Speaker 4:I mean that really got out of hand fast, yeah, those are pointed questions. Well yeah.
Speaker 1:And then number 10 is well, actually there are two of what is my life's purpose. That's a deeper one that can get into a lot of conversation. And then number 11 is what accomplishments am I truly proud of? Can you answer that? About your partner? Yeah, and this all goes into this friendship thing where you know, if you have a really close friend, somebody who consider you're best friend, you can probably answer all these questions Just about yeah. And if you can't answer them about your partner, I would start to think well, let's see what's going on here.
Speaker 4:Right, that in some of those questions if you don't know them you don't just come out with it. You know it could be typical dinner conversation.
Speaker 1:Absolutely yeah.
Speaker 4:And it's just. You have to put that in the memory banks and remember that. Yeah, no, absolutely yeah, and support that and trust in it and go on.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So yeah, those are questions just to kind of sit down and ask, and it can be something that's fun, something that you just kind of have a good time with, and you know it's. You might be surprised at some of the answers. Sure, who knows you never. You just don't know who's your favorite musician. I mean, it can be just things that could be simple. Oh, thank you, amy. Yeah.
Speaker 5:Cameras right there, buddy Cameras right here, all right yeah.
Speaker 1:Hey Amy.
Speaker 2:I'm very important. I have many leatherbound books and my apartment smells of rich mahogany.
Speaker 4:I still trying to figure out that damn song.
Speaker 1:but go on, no, I know, I know Every time I play it I'm trying to pick it up in my head too, so so, so those are a couple of things and we're going to come back in next episode and we're going to finish out our our episode on relationships. And we have, you know, we have. We have a couple, three more categories to go through, and I'm also going to give you more exercises that you can work on with your partner. That's going to help you connect in many of these areas. Perfect, you know, I, I'm a, I'm a fool, I'm an idiot.
Speaker 5:But what are you people on dope, don't go anywhere.
Speaker 1:I forgot to print our dogs, our Detroit rescue dogs, for the episode.
Speaker 4:So we'll have two for next week.
Speaker 1:So we're going to yeah, we'll double up next time but go to Detroit dog rescue. Look at the their dogs and cats for adoption. Not just dogs, they're pets for adoption. We just usually pop one up at the end of the episode and kind of show that they're their cute face and they need a home and they want somebody to.
Speaker 4:The Detroit dog to cuddle with this past week.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 4:Actually saved a pig Did they really?
Speaker 1:Yes, they did. Oh, I have to go look at that. Yeah, it's great, is it on their adoption page?
Speaker 4:It's out there.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, I'll look. I'll look for it so. So my fault for not getting that right. So, those of you on Facebook Live, stick around. We're going to be right back with part two of relationships. Those of you on listening on audio, jump ahead and episode. Or if it's not there yet, it will be on Tuesday or Thursday. In the meantime, change your thinking, change your life, laugh hard, run fast, be kind. We'll see you next time.