Motor City Hypnotist
Motor City Hypnotist
Support in Relationships, Part 2
Support in Relationships, Part 2, Show Notes
In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast, we are discussing support in relationships.
And I’m also going to be giving listeners a FREE HYPNOSIS GUIDE! Stay tuned!
FIND ME:
My Website: https://motorcityhypnotist.com/podcast
My social media links:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/motorcityhypnotist/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCjjLNcNvSYzfeX0uHqe3gA
Twitter: https://twitter.com/motorcityhypno
Instagram: motorcityhypno
FREE HYPNOSIS GUIDE
Text the word “hypnosis” to 313-800-8510
Please also subscribe to the show and leave a review.
WINNER OF THE WEEK: Miguel Cabrera
Born April 18, 1983 in Venezuela
Marlins 2003-2007
Tigers 2008-2023
12x All Star
World Series Champ 2003 (Marlins)
2x AL MVP (2012, 2013)
AL Triple Crown (2012)
7x Silver Slugger Award
2x Hank Aaron Award
4x AL Batting Champion
2x AL Home Run Leader
2x AL RBI Leader
Cabrera finished his career with a .306 average, 3,174 hits (16th), 511 home runs (tied for 25th), 627 doubles (13th), 1,881 RBIs (12th), 1,258 walks, 1,551 runs, 103 sacrifice flies (tied for 25th) and a .900 OPS. He also ranked in the top-25 in MLB history with 11,796 plate appearances (23rd), 10,356 at-bats (22nd), 2,797 games (25th), 5,368 total bases (14th), 1,155 extra-base hits (14th) and 897 multi-hit games (17th)
Support in Relationships
While partners are not objects to be possessed, it is common for individuals to desire a sense of belonging and support from them. It is reassuring to have the confidence that your partner will be there for you during moments when you need emotional expression or someone to confide in. This type of support can contribute significantly to the quality of a relationship.
It is essential to have a solid support system in life, and it is equally important to reciprocate that support. Creating a healthy relationship involves having shared romantic interests, such as going on long walks, enjoying ice cream outings, or simply spending time together by the fire.
A solid support system is crucial for our overall well-being and happiness. It offers us a sense of security, comfort, and motivation in both positive and challenging situations. Reciprocity is an essential element in cultivating a healthy relationship. It involves both partners actively contributing to support each other emotionally, mentally, and physically. This mutual exchange of support is crucial for maintaining a balanced and fulfilling partnership.
A great way to foster mutual support in a romantic relationship is by sharing common interests. By participating in activities that both partners enjoy, the bond between them can be strengthened and deepened. This shared engagement can contribute to a healthier and more fulfilling partnership. Engaging in activities such as long walks enables you and your companion to spend quality time together, fostering a deeper connection. Additionally, enjoying simple pleasures like sharing ice cream or sitting by the fire can create intimate moments of relaxa
FIND ME:
My Website: https://motorcityhypnotist.com/podcast
My social media links:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/motorcityhypnotist/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCjjLNcNvSYzfeX0uHqe3gA
Twitter: https://twitter.com/motorcityhypno
Instagram: motorcityhypno
FREE HYPNOSIS GUIDE
https://detroithypnotist.convertri.com/podcast-free-hypnosis-guide
Please also subscribe to the show and leave a review.
(Stay with me as later in the podcast, I’ll be giving away a free gift to all listeners!)
Change your thinking, change your life!
Laugh hard, run fast, be kind.
David R. Wright MA, LPC, CHT
The Motor City Hypnotist
In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast, we're continuing our series on relationships. We're finishing up with support in relationships as part two. If you haven't listened to part one, jump back in episode, or you can listen to this one and jump back to that one. Either way works and as usual, we're giving away free stuff. We will be right back folks.
Speaker 2:Get ready for the Motor City Hypnotist, david R Wright. Originating from the suburbs of Detroit, michigan, he has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis. Welcome the Motor City Hypnotist, david R Wright.
Speaker 1:What is going on, my friends? It is David Wright. We are back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast.
Speaker 2:Welcome back sir, welcome back to you.
Speaker 1:That's Matt Fox. The other voice you hear, tiz, is. I'm here in the podcast. Your voice, southfield Studios. Yes, we are Just finished up an episode of the man Cave Happy Hour. If you like man type things spirits and cigars check out their podcast. I sat in, as I often do Okay, let's go back.
Speaker 3:Yeah, let's go back. Let's go back for a quick second, because I informed you we were doing a man Cave.
Speaker 1:Your response was I'll leave right now.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 1:I'm leaving right now.
Speaker 1:I'm like all right, I'm not missing it I often record right before I record my show and I'm like, hey, I'm going to jump in for that and what we? What man Cave focused on tonight was the fall season approaching and cocktails for cider. Yeah, it was all apple cider related. Yes, all apple cider related. So if you might be interested in that, check it out. Man Cave Happy Hour. It was fun. Yeah, it was fun. It was a good time. I liked my apple cider. Glad I sat in my apple cider smash.
Speaker 3:Yeah, no.
Speaker 1:I think I like that one the best almost.
Speaker 3:It was pretty good, but the Mamosa the Mamosa was good. That was a good one too. Tell me man yeah absolutely.
Speaker 1:But yeah, we're competing. So yes, let me tell you where you can find me, folks. My website is MotorCityHippenCitycom. Check it out, shout out, before I go any further. I did a show this weekend out in Battle Creek area.
Speaker 3:You did a wedding In a catalog manner.
Speaker 1:I did a wedding reception. So congrats to Alex and Mitchell who got married this weekend, on Saturday night, and I did their hypnosis show for their reception. Now, did you hypnotize the bride and groom? Nope, they wanted to watch, so good for them. But I had, I had a, I'm not kidding. There was probably, I'm going to say, 50 to 60 people total at the party and I think we had close to 20 people hypnotized. So it was a great show, I think if you guys are listening, forgive me, but the bride's maid's name was I think it was RJ and she was a wild, what we call in the business a wild card. She was fantastic. I think she spent more time on the floor than she actually did in her chair, but that's okay because we had a blast. So again, congrats out to Alex and Mitchell on their wedding. Cheers to you both, and I'm glad I was a part of it and got to to give you some good memories.
Speaker 3:My hand is up, so I, as a professional DJ had been playing weddings. You know wedding events for many, many years. Was there a DJ there? There was not, okay. So if there were to be a DJ there and you had a hypnotist, come in, I would want the hypnotist to make sure that everybody danced to anything I would have played and I have done shows where there's been DJs and I have given that exact suggestion.
Speaker 1:Fair, At the end I'm like you guys are going to be compelled to dance the night away.
Speaker 2:All right, Love it, the show is over. Yes, so I have done that.
Speaker 1:So, yes, good, shout out to the DJs out there. Fair enough, if you want to, you know, even add me to your uh, maybe an upcharge for a little extra entertainment for 45 minutes of your rec reception. Motorcityhypnotistcom. That's where you can find me. Not a bad idea, absolutely. Find me on my social media links, facebook and YouTube, which are both MotorCity Hypnotist. If you want to see a photo of the bride and groom of the wedding this past weekend, it is on my Facebook page.
Speaker 2:MotorCity Hypnotist Check it out. I did see that.
Speaker 1:Fantastic couple, super nice. So I'm on Instagram and Snapchat at MotorCityHypno. That is H-Y-P-N-O and, as we do every single episode, the free hypnosis guide. I tell this to everybody, and then there are some people who do claim it, but it's free. Text the word hypnosis to 313-800-8510. That number will be in the show notes as well. It's 313-800-8510. Text the word hypnosis to that number. Within a few minutes, you'll get a text back with your free hypnosis guide attached. You can just download it. It's sure as to keep totally free.
Speaker 3:Oh, Scott checked in. He was wondering if there was Scott.
Speaker 1:Scott Frederick. There was not karaoke. There was not karaoke, so I got to give a shout out to Scott, my good friend. We've known each other for years. Still, in the fantasy football league we are tied this week, brother, because I won a new one. We're both three and one in our division. I'm only four.
Speaker 3:Oh, really yeah, yeah. I feel, like the Chicago Bears, all of a sudden.
Speaker 1:I. At the time I was doing a job at Ford Motor Company. I was temping there and Scott was one of the guys I met there. I ended up being one of my good friends over the last 30 years or so. So when I left there, we had this little going away party at the Oakwood Cafe in Dearborn. Wow, it's on Oakwood and Southfield, it's right on the corner. Hello, wollte die.
Speaker 1:So we're, there and, just to be fair, it's kind of it's. It's a it's kind of hole in the wall type bar, one of those kind of bars. But we're having a good time. In the middle of the night, all of a sudden this wedding party comes in. Okay, bride, groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, people deck to the nines that they're all dressed in their wedding attire. They come in there and we just ended up having it just one of those, those nights that will live in infamy because there was also karaoke.
Speaker 2:Oh boy, and it was it was just, it was, it was, it was a it was a great fantastic time so oh, what was that there in Scott?
Speaker 1:you'll know this. What the hell is that from?
Speaker 3:a song.
Speaker 2:What happened? What?
Speaker 1:happened? What happened? So okay, so let me so that's, that's the tune that we're, that's the tune we remember from that night. Okay, and uh, it was it, oh boy that escalated quickly.
Speaker 2:I mean that really got out of hand fast.
Speaker 3:All right, so I don't want to go off on a tangent, because well, no we already are, but that's what we do though. Yeah, but we we have business to attend to. But we do but I have to share with you my karaoke story oh boy, yes, okay, okay. So let's go back to 1998. Okay, and I decided to go to karaoke bar.
Speaker 2:Uh-huh, and by yourself.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 3:I was on a date with somebody, but I've never been a karaoke person. I have actually DJed a karaoke party and I was terrible at it.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah well, because typically, if you, if you do a karaoke party, like as the DJ or as the MC, you gotta get out there. You have to sing. Yeah, absolutely, and I cannot sing.
Speaker 3:Right. So I actually got out there and a couple of pops, you know, into the night and I decided to do 99 Love Balloons. Really it was an entire falsetto. Oh, good for you, but I made up for it. When I came back about 45 minutes later I did Frank Sinatra. I get a kick out of you.
Speaker 1:Oh nice, okay, well, yeah, you can't go wrong with Frank. No, you can't.
Speaker 3:but 99 Love, balloons and falsetto. Oh boy, I'll never do karaoke again. Oh, that I, that I like this in the background.
Speaker 1:What the fuck is it with you? Yeah, yeah, good times. So, and wherever you're listening, let's get back to, we'll get back on track. Wherever you're listening, please like, subscribe, connect, do whatever you have to do to get the show and, most importantly, leave a review. Reviews are helpful. They help me out, they help more people see the show. It's all good. So just leave a review, take a few minutes, just say it's great. Two words, it'll take you 10 seconds. That's right, fantastic. It is time, is it? Yes, here we go.
Speaker 3:That's how winning is done.
Speaker 1:Yes, it is. It is so our winner this week. Now you guys know, if you've listened to me or maybe it's your first time listening I'm the Motor City Hypnotist. So we're in the Detroit area, right, because Motor City being Detroit. Yes, so our winner this week is a Detroit legend icon for of all time, miguel Cabrera, who just finished his last game of his career yesterday at Comerica Park, right, yep, that's all.
Speaker 3:you mean Tiger Stadium.
Speaker 1:Well, new Tiger Stadium as an ex-baker?
Speaker 2:Yes, I know, I know, I know it's hard not to say that.
Speaker 1:But so Miguel Cabrera is finally done with his career. So let me just give you some information about Miguel. If you guys may or may not be baseball fans, that's cool, that's all right. But I'm going to give you some some information about him.
Speaker 3:His on field baseball career is it has is going to no longer be, however. He has taken an office administrator a straight of like in management.
Speaker 1:Yes, in management with the Tigers. So he'll stay with the team? Yes, and from everything I've heard and interviews and read, he's great with the young players, one of the best teachers and mentors that there are. So he was born in 1983 in Venezuela and, again, he grew up probably not not in the best financial situation as a kid but he was.
Speaker 1:he ended up being good at baseball, okay, so he played for the Florida Marlins from 2003 to 2007 and his manager was. His manager was Jim Leland Uh-huh, yes, correct who later became his manager in Detroit. That's correct. So, and then he he was traded to the Tigers in 2008 and he's been there ever since. Who followed him? Oh?
Speaker 3:Jim Leland Jim.
Speaker 1:Leland, yes, jim. Well, yeah, jim Leland came then to manage the Tigers, so so just let me just, I'm gonna run. I know you guys if you're bored of baseball, it doesn't matter. This guy's done some tremendous things.
Speaker 1:12 time all-star won the world series in 2003 with the Marlins. Two time AL MVP 2012 and 2013. He won the triple crown in 2012. Right, hasn't been one since Nope, and there wasn't one before that for many, many years. I can't give you the exact amount, but seven times Silver Slugger award. Two times Hank Aaron award. Four times he won the batting championship for the AL. Two time AL home run leader. Two time AL RBI leader. So career I'm gonna give you his career stats because this is see, here's the thing with sports in general. You can have a couple of great years and just be like a flash in the pan and then disappear. How many, how many promising young rookies have we seen in any of these sports teams that they come out of the gate and you think wow, and then they just fade away, hi my name is Scott McGuire.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all right so Cabrera finished his career with a 306 batting average. That's heath, that's amazing. Just that in and of itself is a huge feat 3,174 hits 16th on the all time list. 511 home runs 25th on the all time list. 627 doubles 13th on the all time list. Now, the doubles thing really gets me, because Miguel, especially towards the end of his career, was not fleet of foot.
Speaker 3:No, he's never been a fast runner.
Speaker 1:Nope, he's never been a fast runner. And the fact that he's 13th in the in history with doubles that yeah 1,881 RBIs, 12th all time. 1,258 walks, 1,551 runs, Jesus. He also ranks in the top 25 in MLB history with 11,900. I'm sorry. 11,796 plate appearances, Jesus. Think about that. Baseball players, you watch baseball, Even if you see it in passing. They come up to the plate. They might bat four times a game, five if you're lucky. 11,796 times he walked to the plate.
Speaker 3:That's called. That's called muscle memory.
Speaker 1:Well, and it's called longevity because, even through injuries and everything, sure, that is still amazing. Um. So, again, miguel retired, he's done. His last game was in Detroit yesterday, but again, definite, first ballot, ballot, hall of famer, without a doubt. Sure, he will be in first ballot, without question. If it's, if it's not unanimous, I'm going to pummel the person who doesn't vote for him in first ballot. Uh, but again, he has been um for for a team that has not been good since 2012,. Right, he has been Listen, the positive of this team even in all the losing seasons.
Speaker 3:Mcgee filled the seats Yep and he kept baseball Relevant and relevant in Detroit.
Speaker 1:He really especially on his, on his search, or on his, his, his, his uh path to 3000 hits and 500 home runs. People were there all the time. It didn't matter if they won or lost.
Speaker 3:I mean we'd like them to win, but I was actually watching the news this morning on our local Fox station and one of the you know the talking heads, you know they're like. You know we really haven't gotten to know Miguel Cabrera as much as we probably should, and now we have an opportunity to get to know him, now that he's more on the with the Tigers administration, right On the management side. We're going to get to know him and his decision-making abilities, not just on the field but off the field, and what he's going to bring to the organization itself. And I think over the next couple of years, david, we're going to get to know Miguel that much more. Yes, and because we just I don't think a lot of people really took the time.
Speaker 1:Well, here, here's the problem, and this is this is just an observation there's always been a somewhat of a language barrier, because his primary language is Spanish. He does speak English, but but not, I wouldn't say, fluently. I mean, he speaks enough to get by, he does All right, he does All right, but but I think that's, and I think for some fans that's just well. I think that turns fans off for some reason, Idiot fans yeah exactly that's what I say.
Speaker 1:But anyway, definite, definite, deserving of our winner of the week for sure, especially here in Detroit. So to McGee, cheers brother.
Speaker 2:That's how we did is done.
Speaker 1:Ah, so already so back to it.
Speaker 3:No, thank you. Thank you for the Miguel shot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that I just I just thought that has to be on, since we just watched his last game yesterday. So definitely Cool. So we are talking about in this episode we're continuing in part two of was a don't relationships. No, we're talking about we did. We finished the don'ts on last one, that's right. That's what we're talking about support in relationships and how you can give your partner support, how to be a supportive partner.
Speaker 1:Okay, in last episode we talked about changing your perspective to take action or give space. And that's when Matt you brought up again earlier in the prior podcast when I said men are fixers, women are feelers. Mm, hmm, that's where that came from. Was that? Do I take action? Do I give space? How do I know what to do? What's right in that? Sure, and here's the thing, and I think we left off on that one. That was the third one, and we're going to continue on our list of things that you can do to improve this area in relationships. All right, great.
Speaker 1:So this sounds simple and I'm going to say it believe your partner and I'm talking about when we talk about belief. It's like Like, let me get into it and you'll kind of play out what I mean by this, okay, um, so just a simple gesture of believing someone can go a long way. And it's not a fact that you, it's not a trust issue, it's not that well, I don't believe what he or she is saying. I don't believe that's true and I'm not talking about very like if there's conflict or if there's there's some dispute about something. So I'll give you an example.
Speaker 1:I had a. I had a couple years back not so many years, probably three, three, four maybe and the wife had expressed to her husband that she had been sexually abused as a child and I don't doubt that in his mind. I don't know if he believed her or not, because his response to that was you keep bringing that up. I don't know what that has to do with anything, so I kind of downplayed it. He did and you did no. He did Okay, no, no, I yeah, that.
Speaker 3:No, I did not do that. I was about to say what so, so, so what?
Speaker 1:I don't think it's a matter in that case, and I think for him it might have been not not something necessarily intentional on his part to be a dick, but for him I don't think he know how to process that I think for him it could have been a defense mechanism to be like I, I don't, I don't know what this means for me Sure, and that could have been an issue. Um, so, really, Honestly, some of the strongest things you can say to your partner is I believe you, Whatever it is they're talking about it, whatever it is they're dealing with, you can bring comfort and reassurance just with that statement. Because, again, honestly, there are a lot of situations where people have had experiences in their life that have been downplayed or just simply not believed by family or friends, or you know other people they know.
Speaker 3:So let me play devil's advocate. Don't get mad at me for this, but when your partner, spouse, wife, husband, says something you know that affects them in the past. How? And the question is, how is that relevant to what that couple is going through at that point in time? So you know, that's the question that I have how is that? How is that relevant? How does that? What is?
Speaker 1:that. Well, see, that's that's the question to ask, and that's in a supportive relationship, you can say I believe you. How do you think that's affecting our relationship? Is there something that I'm doing that reminds you of something? Is there, is there something that that you feel uncomfortable with, that goes on between us, whether it be words or whether it be actions, or whether it be the way I interact with you? Oh sure, so there's a lot of questions to be asked, but at least at that point it's opening conversation and dialogue to say, you know, because, honestly, it could be something as simple, and just something as simple as going to a place that reminds somebody of a bad experience. The partner wouldn't know, sure, and that. And the partner, who's who experienced that bad thing, whatever it may be, may become upset or may become negative, or may become very snappy or sharp, and and the partner's like, well, wait, what'll I do? You know they get defensive at that point because it's like I'm they weren't even trying to do something nice here they weren't even aware there was a trick.
Speaker 1:Right, exactly, and that's the key. So just just the fact of just whenever your partner stressed and just saying, yeah, I get it, I believe you, if you're stressed at work and you're saying yeah, that I just feel overwhelmed and it's like, yeah, I believe you, I know that's just got to be tough, and just identifying with them and just making that connection, sure, here's a big one, and you would think this wouldn't be an issue. This is number five. Say what you want.
Speaker 1:That can get you in trouble, but this is the best way to cut through all of the BS games and back and forth that people sometimes play. Believe me If, if you're, if you're in a time of stress or something's bothering you and you say to your partner I just want to be left alone.
Speaker 1:There's nothing wrong with that, there's nothing wrong with that, but if you don't state that again, I'll put it in the in the back. And the men are fixers, women are feelers. Your, your partner, who's a man, might try to fix things. Sure, which will further?
Speaker 2:annoy you Exactly on your right the issue. Yes.
Speaker 1:And make the issue worse. So here's the thing it's. It's taking time to say what you want, and here's we. This is such a trite example, but I have to give it that this is, I bet you. Every couple out there is dealt with this conversation. What do you want for dinner? Oh, I don't know. What do you want for dinner? Okay, how about Italian?
Speaker 2:No, I don't want that.
Speaker 1:Well, you say what you want, it cuts through all of this inane conversation that doesn't go anywhere. And I know, matt, you said it could get you in trouble. Now here's the thing If you want to be honest and be real, say what you want. Right Now, the partner could say, okay, that's what you want, but but I'm not. I'm not either able or willing to give you that. Whatever, it is fair, I'm not talking about just dinner, because I'm gonna, I'll just do that, but so so it's important to be supportive and say tell me what you want. If I can do it, if I can give you what you want, of course that's an ideal outcome, but that's not always the case. But if you don't say what you want, you're guessing oh yeah, it's, yeah, it's, it's just.
Speaker 3:It just leads to miscommunication, misunderstanding and misinterpreted actions and feelings, and then you go back to everything that you've already done in the past being with somebody. David with that whole conversation of what do you want for dinner?
Speaker 2:Let's let's talk about that.
Speaker 3:There is nothing better than trying something new, having a different experience. So, instead of what do you want? Hey, I heard of a really cool place let's go try something new. And if they say you know what, tonight's not a good night for it, you know what Sidebar and cool, that's totally fine. You're still putting the option out. This is what I want. And they say you know what? Not tonight. Don't take offense.
Speaker 1:Well, no, but but see, that's the thing and that's where. Where again, if you don't say what you want, you're not going to get what you want. Typically, maybe you will, but that's crap Shoot. But as a couple, then people get angry when they don't get what they want because they haven't said what they want Right, but as a couple it's really fun to go and experience new places oh absolutely so.
Speaker 3:go somewhere you've never been before. It doesn't matter if it's American, Chinese, Italian or what. And here's the thing.
Speaker 1:Go with and not saying to have low expectations, but go with. The expectation of this is new. We have no idea what it's going to be Exactly. It might suck, it might be fantastic. You never know.
Speaker 3:But we don't know. All right, you go out and make friends, yeah.
Speaker 1:So I'm going to use a word here that's going to scare a lot of the men away Emotional availability. Bye man, it's running out of the office, have a nice day. So this this involves being vulnerable and expressing your emotions. I know for many men and this is again generalization, not all many have a hard time being vulnerable and expressing emotion.
Speaker 3:As a as a gentleman as a man, I really don't have a problem with that of expressing my emotional oh good, I really don't know that's great, that's great. You know how I feel about the movie Marley and me.
Speaker 1:Oh gosh yeah.
Speaker 3:Blubbering idiot with that movie and I, and even with my, with my partner now there are being scenes on. For God's sakes, America's got talent. You know I get a little teary eyed. I don't mind showing my emotion and being emotionally vulnerable, but I'm also emotionally available for that other person.
Speaker 1:Well, and that's the key being available to that other person when they're feeling emotional and being able to connect. Because, again, many people will shut down if the if one or one partner gets emotional a lot of times, that for for the other partner it's like I'm out.
Speaker 2:Right, I can't deal with this Right.
Speaker 1:And again, that's this something that's been learned over over time, that it's it just like you don't know what to do with it. If you don't know what to do with it, that's, that's fine. I don't expect it to just magically come to you, but you can say to the person who's who's emotionally struggling, what can I do? Tell?
Speaker 3:me what I can do, but that that. Then you take the role of a fixer.
Speaker 1:Well, not necessarily instead of a feeler, because you're not saying what can I do to help. You're saying what can I do to help you? What? What do you want right now? Right, it might be, I just need to be left alone, cool and take. No, just let me know.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Going back to say what you want, do that. That's cool, it might be. I just need you to give me a hug. Ok, now I know I can follow through and do that, but again, being emotionally available. And I, and again, I know it's hard for masculine people To just kind of just let that feeling and let those emotions out and to talk about that. That's absolutely fair. Yeah, physical affection, what about it? You have to have this in a relationship.
Speaker 1:I just knocked on the bottom of the table Just knocked on the Such a child, oh great.
Speaker 3:Odin's.
Speaker 1:So what is this again? So it's physical affection. It's physical affection. Sometimes we get, we get busy and we get with our lives, mentally and physically. We get and get overwhelmed with, with work and with things to do and with things to think about and sometimes what happens is is you just lose that feeling of affection towards your partner. And I'm not talking about sexual, I'm just talking about showing affection, smiling at somebody, kissing them goodbye when you leave, holding hands when you're walking through the store, simple things that make another person feel connected, make another person feel like they're important or they're wanted. Physical touch, like I said, it doesn't even have to be sexual, it just can be a hand on an arm or or a, you know, a lean, lean in, so your shoulders are touching and like.
Speaker 1:I said it could be something very simple, but it has huge impact on relationships and I can tell you, when I see, when I see couples in counseling the first time, that this is many times this is what will happen Bookends, bookends on the couch, and I know immediately there's been a breakdown even as far as any kind of physical intimacy.
Speaker 1:Now I will say there are many couples come in and I see them sit next to each other and hold hands, even in therapy. I'm like, OK, we have something to work with here, because that we still have that.
Speaker 3:Or are they putting out a show for at the moment? You get even so, though, you have to break down.
Speaker 1:I don't think both would be putting on a show. Sometimes one person might try to put on a show to to make themselves then you have to break down those barriers. But think about it One wanted to put on a show and the other one didn't. They just yanked their hand away.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 1:You know right. So so physical affection is super important and it will help you just again reconnect, and again it's not in a sexual way, it's just being two people who are connected. Great. So here's here's a couple of things that you can do to kind of help you with all of these things that we've listed.
Speaker 1:Daily emotional check ins Now, I know for all you masculine people you're like, oh geez really. But again, checking in daily doesn't have to be a lengthy, it can be a couple of minutes to say, yeah, how you feeling today, what's going on? Are you feeling sad? You feeling happy? What you're feeling anxious? What's going on? Just to check in, just to show that you're interested in how the other person's doing OK. And then daily appreciations. You know, I know things in households run differently and everybody has their own systems for things, but you know I try and you know Kendra may say when, but I do. I try to say, hey, thanks for doing dinner, Thanks for doing the dishes Right, Thanks for doing laundry, Just simple things that make the other person feel valued, Did you?
Speaker 3:make the bed this morning. David, I did not.
Speaker 1:I did not make the bed because I was going to. I was out first.
Speaker 1:So, so those are things, folks, to help you be more supportive in a relationship. So we're going to continue on. I know I know we're spending a lot of weeks and time with relationships, but I think these are really important because these are things that you can implement in any relationships. I mean, even if it's not romantic relationships with friends, relationships with family, with acquaintances, with whoever these are still things that you can implement that will be super helpful for you. So next episode we're going to talk about respect and building respect in a relationship. We're diving deeper on that. One and again, a lot of these overlap, but there's some very specific things on this I want to point out that will be very helpful and give you some direction. Bring it Before we leave. Oh, detroit dog rescue. Somebody needs a home. Who is it? It's Nash.
Speaker 3:It's. Oh wait, we've had Did.
Speaker 1:Nash show up. Last time Nash has showed up. He might be back again, I don't know. No, I think the last time we had the one with the black eye. That might be what you're thinking, but Nash may, or may not have been in there, but maybe he's back, but he is. As of today, he's at Detroit dog rescue. Okay, so, he or no, it's a he All right, he's a golden doodle, 70 pounds and kid friendly, 10 and over All right.
Speaker 1:But Nash needs a home. He's cute. He is cute. I just like the tilt ahead. I love tilt ahead. Some dogs, that's always cute. So yeah, detroit dog rescue. You can find the link in the show notes or give them a call at Detroit dog rescuecom. Perfect, all right, folks, we'll be back next episode with respect in relationships. In the meantime, change your thinking, change your life, laugh hard, run fast, be kind. We'll see you next time.