Therapy Unveiled - Q&A Part 1

Can therapy be your secret weapon for self-improvement, even if everything seems fine? Join us on the latest episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast as we tackle this question and more in our Therapy Q&A session. We promise you'll leave understanding the ins and outs of therapy, whether you're a newbie or a seasoned veteran of the mental health journey. Along with some light-hearted humor involving golf and cigars, we introduce an intriguing addition to our therapeutic arsenal: ketamine-assisted hypnosis therapy. This innovative approach could be the missing piece for those seeking deeper healing and integration with traditional methods.

As we unravel the benefits of professional therapy, we'll share a heartwarming tale of Bear, the retired rescue dog whose instincts are sharper than ever. Bear reminds us of the importance of being proactive about mental health, not just responsive in times of crisis. We highlight how therapy offers an objectivity and candor that even the most loyal friends might not provide. Learn about the subtle signs indicating it might be time for therapy and why early intervention can preserve your mental well-being. It's a conversation filled with insights and encouragement that demystifies therapy and dismantles the stigma surrounding mental health care.

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Transcript

David Wright: 0:00

In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast. We haven't done this in a while, matt. We're doing a therapy Q&A Questions and answers about therapy, you mean we're not talking about. This may sound redundant.

Matt Fox: 0:13

I thought you meant quaaludes and assholes. But go on, well, we can do that, sure.

David Wright: 0:16

Why not? I mean, that could go with therapy, who knows? Sure, I mean, but we haven't. We've done Q and a before, but it's been a long time. So we're going to revisit this and I think cause a lot of people who are considering going to therapy people kind of, in general, you know what therapy is, you go in and talk to someone, but but there's a lot of, there's a lot of things involved with it. So we're just going to get into some questions and answers and hopefully I can clear things up and make it more comfortable for you to seek a therapist. Okay, and as usual, we give away free stuff. Hang in there, folks, we'll be right back.

Matt Fox: 0:49

This sounds like something for the authorities in Detroit.

Announcer: 0:53

Well, joke's on you. I'm living to 102 and then dying at the city of Detroit.

Matt Fox: 0:57

Guys like this can't take over here. Out of Detroit Spawned in the hellfires of Motown.

David Wright: 1:03

Take him to.

Matt Fox: 1:04

Detroit.

Announcer: 1:05

No, no, not Detroit, no, no, not Detroit, no, no, please Anything but that no, stationed in Drambuie, it's worse than Detroit. We did not have, as a unit, the confidence that we felt like we needed to beat Detroit. Let's go to Detroit. Now you're talking brother. I don't think so. He plays for Detroit. Now. Do they have many farms in Detroit? Detroit to.

Matt Fox: 1:30

Michigan. I go to school, I know where Detroit is.

Announcer: 1:33

Get ready for the Motor City hypnotist, david R Wright. Originating from the suburbs of Detroit, michigan, he has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis. Welcome the Motor City Hypnotist, david R Wright.

David Wright: 2:20

What is going on, my friends? This is David R Wright, the Motor City Hypnotist. What is going on, my friends? This is David R Wright, the Motor City Hypnotist. As I clear my throat, we're back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast. Hey, how are you? The other voice you hear is Matt Fox. Yes, it is. He is hanging out producing my show, running everything, making the magic happen. I sit back and listen. Well, you do. You do more than that, matt. Give yourself some credit, okay. Well, you do, you do more than that Matt Give yourself some credit.

David Wright: 2:45

Okay, here's a buck.

Matt Fox: 2:47

What in blazes are you talking about? That's all you get.

David Wright: 2:50

That's fine, that'll work. So we're here in the palatial Podcast, your Voice, southfield Studios. Hey, david, it is a Monday evening, we're doing a podcast, happy New Year. Happy New Year to you too, matt. I haven't seen you since new year, so yeah I hear the week before.

Matt Fox: 3:03

But how's your year been so far?

David Wright: 3:04

it's been good. All right, yeah, we're. You know we're working, plugging along, working. You know, golfing, golfing indoors. Yeah, yeah, absolutely taking my lesson every week just to get better. You know, cheers I've, I've. I was telling matt before the show, when I'm not to, I'm gonna brag a little bit. But you know, I've gotten to the point where I can hit drives 270, 280. Look at you and I've been hitting my 7-iron fairly consistently at 160, 165.

Matt Fox: 3:31

Okay, we'll have to go out and play around.

David Wright: 3:35

We need to do that. That would be fun. Yes, it would be. We'll go knock some balls around.

Matt Fox: 3:39

I'll bring some cigars, some ball balls. I'll bring some cigars.

David Wright: 3:41

I have cigars also. Yeah, I got some cedar wrapping, oh no we're going to take the cedar wrapping off after that story you told me yeah, you don't like that thing up with that cedar wrapping on it so funny.

David Wright: 3:53

So thanks for joining us folks. First of all, let me tell you where you can find me. My website is MotorCityHypnotistcom. That out, we're right in the midst of booking for senior grad nights and post-prom parties. In fact, my schedule already is pretty packed through April, may, june. But I just got a quote. I just gave out a quote yesterday. Somebody applied online. They had their quote within minutes. You can apply online, have your quote in minutes and you can book your show all within five minutes and not ever have to talk to anybody. You can do it right through the website. So check that out. If you need to show especially, again, high schools are booking quick right now. A lot of times I hate to say this, but most of the times when these schools book shows, it's a different parent committee every year, right, and they pass along information, but then that group of parents has to now arrange everything. So sometimes they get kind of behind, sure, you know, because they haven't thought ahead. But anyway, if you need a show, go to my website, check it out.

David Wright: 4:51

Also, there's a new area on the website, the Motor City Hypnotist site ketamine-assisted hypnosis. So we're doing therapy in our clinic, ketamine-assisted therapy. We've teamed up with another company called Journey Clinical. They do the medical side and the prescription side, but we can use that in therapy sessions but also in hypnosis sessions. The idea here, and you can go back. We just did a couple of episodes on ketamine maybe a month ago. So go back and check those out, because there's not a lot of studies done yet, but the anecdotal evidence so far is that you're able to restructure and increase your neuroplasticity in your brain, which helps you to create new habits of thinking, which, in turn, changes behaviors and the way you feel.

David Wright: 5:40

So check that out. All the information is on the website. There's a whole PDF that you can download about ketamine and what it is about and what it is. And again, if you have any questions, just reach out to us on the website or through the phone number. There you go and that phone number I'll tell you right now. If you text the word hypnosis to our phone number, 313-800-8510, in a few minutes you'll get a free hypnosis guide directly texted to your phone. Sweet, yeah, absolutely. My social media Facebook and YouTube are both motor city hypnotist. My Snapchat, instagram and Tik TOK are all motor city Hypno. I've started Tik TOK, matt. I got a couple couple of small videos up. Well, you can use it.

Matt Fox: 6:23

And they're probably going to be banned in a month.

David Wright: 6:25

Right right, so I got in just in time. You know, here's the challenge, because social media is here to stay in some form or another. Sure, and definitely. We have a Facebook page, we've always had a Facebook page, but that's more. You're under 40 crowd or not using Facebook. That's the truth.

Matt Fox: 6:47

I mean it is.

David Wright: 6:48

I mean they're mostly on Instagram and other on Tik TOK and Snapchat. So I w I want to go where the people are to be able to kind of get our information out. I want to be so again follow me on.

David Wright: 6:59

Snapchat, instagram and Tik TOK, which are all motor city hyp H-Y-P-N-O. There, it is All right. And wherever you're listening here's the important part Whether you're listening to it on a platform like Spotify or iTunes or Stitcher or wherever connect like subscribe, whatever it is on your platform, so you get the show when it drops. But the other big thing is leave a review. That helps us out. It helps more people find the show and, again, the whole thing. We're doing this to try to reach people and to help them. So the more people we can reach, the better it is for us and the better it is for the people who are listening. There you go. So, yeah, definitely leave a review. That would be greatly appreciated. All right, it is time, matt. First one of the year, that's how winning is done, all right, okay.

David Wright: 7:55

So one of our favorite type of stories in our winners of the week involve animals, because we love animals. So this story is about a retired police dog who needed to snap back into service to save someone. Okay, in a story which reminds us that heroes never really hang up their capes, a retired police dog in the UK saved a missing person while on a walk.

Matt Fox: 8:16

Wait, wait, wait Saved a missing person.

David Wright: 8:19

Okay. The 12-year-old German shepherd named Bear received the Lifesaver Award from the Thin Blue Paw Foundation, a charity that helps police dogs and which had previously partially paid for one of Bear's surgeries. It happened that on November 28th, during a walk aimed at rehabilitating Bear's stamina following his surgery to remove some tumors, bear's sense of heroism was rehabilitated as well. His owners, both retired officers themselves, had taken him to the South Downs, the beautiful green hills of southern England, to celebrate the pooch's 12th birthday. Julia Pope, bear's owner, adopted him after his long career as a general police dog ended in 2020. Bear found several people during his working life who probably wouldn't have survived without him, but he and his handler never got any recognition at the time because they were simply just doing their job. During their walk, bear led Julia and her husband, ian into Deep Brush where a man had fallen down, wet, immobile and confused. Authorities were already looking for him.

David Wright: 9:32

When Bear found him, either the Thin Blue Paw Foundation or Sussex Police Department got word that one of their former canines had performed an additional rescue post-service career, and Bear was recommended for the Lifesaver Award, which was presented during a ceremony at Sussex HQ something which Julia said was completely unexpected For him to get this award now in his retirement, and for his former handler to have been there too is very special. We are all super proud of him, very cool. Do you want to see a picture of bear? I would love to see a picture. There's bear.

Matt Fox: 10:13

Oh, look at that. Yeah, it looks. He looks a little short.

David Wright: 10:19

His legs. Yeah, he's probably leaning down, maybe, maybe. I mean, he is 12 years old too, so I don't know if that affects his mobility or his stance or whatever.

Matt Fox: 10:30

He looks adorable.

David Wright: 10:31

Yeah.

Matt Fox: 10:32

He actually looks very intelligent yeah.

David Wright: 10:36

Well, it's great because I mean, think about it. He retired in 2020, so it's been almost four years, but his instincts are, he's still trained. His instincts are still there. He was still able to find someone, right, right which is great because he's just doing what he's been taught to do right, even if he's retired. So yeah, great story yeah, for bear and for the owners and for the guy he rescued for sure. Definitely winner of the week, thanks bear that's how winning is done I do enjoy good dogs.

Matt Fox: 11:11

Yeah, I always love animal stories, especially dogs.

David Wright: 11:14

I, I'm a good, I'm a big dog person, so I, I just enjoy stories about dogs. Yeah, yeah, especially so. Back to it sweet, yeah, absolutely so. We're, here're here, folks. Q and therapy Q&A.

David Wright: 11:25

Now, we've done these before, but a lot of times I like to revisit this because here's the thing we get clients calling in every day to the office. Every single day we have numerous calls about people coming to therapy, and I've, in being a therapist. Sometimes I take that for granted, because that call has got to be very difficult for a lot of people, right, because one it's. It's kind of saying I, I, I've tried everything, I, I, I'm, I'm, I'm at the end here, I need some help, end of my rope.

David Wright: 11:53

Yes, and typically when people call our office, it is kind of a crisis at that point, because most people don't call a therapist when things are fine, when they're happy, when they're well-adjusted, when life is going well, but when things go wrong and you have to deal with issues, it's just this innate human resistance to ask for help. Now, that being said, a lot of people call and try to find a therapist, but I feel like you need to do your homework first, right? I just feel like that behooves you to kind of do your due diligence and know exactly what you want to need when you go.

Matt Fox: 12:36

Let me go back real quick. Yeah, so you just said something where a lot of folks they really won't use a therapist when things are good, right folks. They really won't use a therapist when things are good, right. So if you have someone there when things are good and you know they're sharing with their spouse, significant other, their friend, you know, close friend they're like you know what? I'm going to go start seeing a therapist and immediately the immediate thought is oh my God, what's wrong? Right, like nothing's wrong. I just want to make sure that I'm speaking my mind, I'm able to.

David Wright: 13:05

Well, here's my approach. Seeing a therapist, it's not necessarily. I mean, it could be to resolve a problem or problems Okay, it could be that, but it also could be just you want to improve yourself. There's not necessarily anything exactly wrong, but you just want to be a better person or better at certain things, like better socially or better in relationships or better at your job. So so all of these things are, you don't need an excuse or a reason to go to therapy, you just need to say I want to go, I want to do this to improve myself, but the folks around you.

David Wright: 13:41

The I'm at the, the I'm at the stigma and that's the thing we've been, believe me, from the beginning of time. We've been fighting this mental health stigma and and I, and, and you guys know, if you've listened to this podcast, how many times we've gone over statistics and studies and things that have shown that a majority of the population suffers from some sort of mental illness, whether it be anxiety, depression, ptsd, it's just ADHD, autism. I mean, there's so many, so many people are affected, and here's the and I don't say this in a mean way, but most people are screwed up. Well, I'll quote you Everyone's got shit, yes, no, everyone's effed up. Everyone has something they can work.

David Wright: 14:26

All right, sorry, I misquoted no, no no, that's okay, but the idea was there you get.

David Wright: 14:30

You got you totally understand what I'm saying, though. Everybody can do something to improve themselves. That's a fact. So we're going to talk about some questions that you might have and I, by the end of this, I want I want you to be comfortable seeking out a therapist and feel good about it. All right, so this is a question that I pulled a lot of these questions from online forums, you know, especially Reddit. I do a lot of Reddit with with mental health stuff. So one what first question that that we're going to cover here is why should I speak to a therapist instead of a friend?

Matt Fox: 15:10

I'm not a therapist or a doctor, but I can answer that question. You probably can, but go on.

David Wright: 15:15

I mean, in general, I get it. Your friends are your closest people. Sure, they're the people you chose. Now, and I've said this before, you don't choose family. You're stuck with what you get Right. Friends you choose. So you would think that they would be the ideal people to talk friend. They might not be totally honest with you, sure, just because they don't want the friendship to be affected. And here's the thing I've seen this in relationships in my own life and also in others is that when you start talking about problems and issues, sometimes that can affect the friendship Because the friend might say this is a little bit much and they might pull back. But again, the thought is, if it's a friend, they're going to be really helpful. I get it, I get that, I get that thought, but it's not necessarily true.

Matt Fox: 16:14

They may listen, but they don't really really have a proper solution.

David Wright: 16:18

So let me give you some reasons why a therapist would be better Go for it that way You're you way you're getting what you need. Yeah, One is, a therapist has professional training, whereas your friend does not.

Announcer: 16:30

I mean, that's number one unless they're a therapist.

David Wright: 16:32

Now if you have a friend who's a therapist, that's even the that's a no, no, no, no, no, no.

Matt Fox: 16:36

You can't mix that. No, you cannot, You're right.

David Wright: 16:45

But I'm saying a therapist has professional training. A therapist is objective. We weren't right back. A friend can be biased, correct? A therapist is objective because they don't know you when they meet you. They've never met you, they're just getting to know you, um, and they're confidential. Yes, I'm a friend could be confidential, but they might not.

Matt Fox: 17:04

They might have a loose tongue, they might let something slip at a party.

David Wright: 17:07

I mean, I've seen it happen, I've seen it numerous times. What?

Matt Fox: 17:10

happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

David Wright: 17:12

You share confidential information with a friend and pretty soon everybody knows. So that's a big thing. A therapist has training. They're objective and confidential. A therapist has firm professional boundaries. They will not tell you what you want to hear. They will tell you what you need to hear. They won't be soft because they're your friend, if that makes sense.

David Wright: 17:38

They won't sugarcoat it. Yes, exactly, a therapist can prioritize you and your feelings, because that's their job. It's their job to do this and help you with the issues you're having. And in this one I find a little bit funny, but it's not. You don't have to feel guilty about taking someone's time up when you're going to a therapist because your insurance is paying or you're paying. You're paying for a service and with a friend. Sometimes especially if you're constantly dumping on friends sometimes I might feel like, oh, I'm doing too much, I'm putting too much on them. So that's why you should see a therapist rather than just talking to your friends or your spouse or your family do you remember the uh television show dear john, dear John, by chance.

David Wright: 18:23

I know that name. Was that the guy who was a killer? No, okay, so I'm thinking of a different show, different show.

Matt Fox: 18:36

It was a TV series television show and the therapist. Very first episode, john sits down and she asks him do you have any sexual problems?

David Wright: 18:46

Oh no.

Matt Fox: 18:48

And that was like the running thing. The first question she would ask a new member of the circle that would come in.

David Wright: 18:53

Yeah yeah, A good therapist will not do that, by the way people. Just so you know that is not the first question out of the gate.

Matt Fox: 19:02

No, no, no, no.

David Wright: 19:03

Yeah.

Matt Fox: 19:03

It was Bernadette Peters, I think that was the.

David Wright: 19:06

Oh, that's going way back. Yeah, yeah, ok, right, ok.

Matt Fox: 19:10

I think that's who that was. I'll have to look it up and clarify.

David Wright: 19:12

OK, next question how do I know when to see a therapist? Now, that's a very vague and general question, but but it's a question sometimes people think about. So here's what I would say when the world is burning, if you're considering Too soon, no, it's not too soon, because in and in a weird way, the world's always burning, something's always happening, there's some kind of crisis or something. In fact, let me back up a little bit because, again, matt's referring to the wildfires that are happening in.

David Wright: 19:45

California right now. Which is tragic For an individual, it could be something happening in your own home or something at your own workplace or something with friends, so it doesn't have to be a major catastrophe like these fires, although that definitely plays into a lot of people's psyche and their mental health it's absolutely devastating.

David Wright: 20:06

Yes, it is devastating and that's that's so. So so when you ask that question how do I know when to see a therapist I? The simple answer is we all go through ups and downs in life. So if you're considering seeing one, just go and do it, Because you can work out what you need to address once you're there. You don't have to have this oh, I have a major issue I need to address right now and, Matt we said it, I think, in the intro right after. You don't have to be in crisis to see a therapist. No, you don't. In fact, you brought it up. It might be better to see a therapist when you're feeling good, because it just kind of stay on track and avoid any issues down the road.

Matt Fox: 20:47

The important thing about that, I believe, is that if you go out and find yourself someone that you're comfortable with, you've done your due diligence and you have someone that you know is going to be honest with you and tell you what you need to know, not what you want to hear.

Matt Fox: 21:02

You have that in place and then you are consistent with that individual, with that therapist. Yeah, if things do go wrong, then you don't have to create a whole relationship and go through all of that, right, and you're not having to create a whole relationship and go through all of that and you're not having to recreate, you're not having to create work for yourself to try to get better. You already have that in place.

David Wright: 21:22

And I know this analogy doesn't quite fit, but a lot of times, even with businesses, you always have an attorney on retainer just in case, and I kind of look at a therapist like that. If you're already seeing a therapist even if it's monthly, as Matt said you already have that relationship established. So if something comes up that's a crisis or something that you feel something's wrong, you've already got that relationship established and you can address it immediately. Right, you don't have to wait three sessions to get to know someone and feel like you can trust them.

Matt Fox: 21:55

It's like rotating your tires you don't wait until you're riding on the rims to get on the chain you have to continually cycle those bad boys yeah.

David Wright: 22:03

So it's preemptive in a way. You can do preemptive therapy, yeah. So, other than that, when to go to therapy, I'll give you a couple things. If you feel like you're becoming overwhelmed by life, whether it be job, whether it be family, whether it be relationships, whether it be responsibilities, that's a big sign. If you're having trouble functioning in your daily life, like you can't get up or you can't, it's things that, only things that that you, only you, know when something's going on, like like I know for myself, I know when I'm not right, I can feel like I feel really overwhelmed or I feel really stressed out, or I feel really anxious. So so you kind of know when these things come up and it's it's not the typical, if that makes sense. So signs it's time for you to see a therapist, and I'm just going to list a few out for you.

David Wright: 22:57

You don't feel like yourself, for whatever reason. Something's different. You don't feel the same. Your relationships are suffering, whether that's a marriage, whether it's a child, whether it's a spouse, whether it's a friend, but you see relationships starting to be affected by whatever you're going through. That's, that's a problem. You feel like your emotions are out of control.

Matt Fox: 23:22

Hmm, yeah Well, when it comes to emotions, everyone likes to say they wear their heart on their sleeve. And at what point do they let that get out of control?

David Wright: 23:36

Well that that's a good point, because a lot of people the opposite of that would just be to be closed up totally.

Matt Fox: 23:42

Right.

David Wright: 23:42

So there are two extremes, right, you're definitely right about that. So you got to be in the middle somewhere.

Matt Fox: 23:47

Too much emotion not enough emotion.

David Wright: 23:49

Yep, absolutely.

Matt Fox: 23:50

If there's not enough emotion and the world is burning around you. Right, that's when you need to make a change.

David Wright: 23:57

Yes, absolutely. Another sign that you probably should see a therapist is you're altering aspects of your life to accommodate your feelings. I'll give you a good example Somebody who has social anxiety will never go out. Sure, they'll change their behavior to accommodate that fear and that anxiety. Okay, that's a problem because it prevents you from doing things you might have enjoyed before, like going to a concert or a sporting event or out to dinner, right, just simple things. And if you're spending way too much time thinking about your emotions and challenges that you have, if you're just constantly ruminating and staying stuck in that thought cycle and worrying, definitely that's probably a time to go see a therapist. Got it? Yeah, so, folks, we're going to come back. This is part one. We're going to finish up part two. I still have a lot of questions to answer and we're going to do that in the next episode. I know we kind of split these up because you know half hour typically, by the time we start the show and get going, we're pretty much talking 15, 20 minutes to get all this information in, which is fine. But that's why we split them up sometimes, because we want you to get all the information. So that's why there are a lot of parts of one and two because I feel like 15 minutes we're just. We're just scratching the surface and we want I want to give you something that you can use and put into place and help yourself. Thank you, all right, so we will be back for part two of Therapy Q&A Before we take off. If you're on Facebook Live, stick around. We're doing another episode. If you're on whatever platform you're on, skip ahead to the next episode or we'll be there on Tuesday or Thursday Before we go.

David Wright: 25:36

Somebody needs a home. Who's that? Lily? Lily. Lily is a mixed breed female. She'll be about 60 pounds. She's dog friendly. Cat friendly is unknown. She's kid friendly. Activity level is medium high. Okay, she was born in October 2024. Fun, so she's only about four months old. There's Lily, oh, 2024. Fun, so she's only about four months old. Uh-huh, there's.

Matt Fox: 25:59

Lily. Oh, look at that face, I know. Look at that. Aw, all of a sudden I want to have a. I need a dog.

David Wright: 26:04

I know, look at that, though. That is such a beautiful face, look at her. She's adorable I know A little paw.

Matt Fox: 26:12

It's like a beagle. Yeah, it does look kind of a beagle-ish. Definitely she's got a little.

David Wright: 26:20

A little closer Matt.

Matt Fox: 26:21

There you go, she's got lab and she definitely has some lab with the ears and the nose but, definitely quite a little bit, Maybe a little Dalmatian too.

David Wright: 26:30

Maybe because of the coloring, yeah, so anyway, lily needs a home. Detroitdogres rescuecom. Slash, adopt, love it, check it out, she's waiting Somebody. Somebody go get her tonight. Please Look at that Adorable She'll sleep right next to you, I bet. All righty folks, that is our show for today. Change your thinking, change your life, laugh hard, run fast, be kind we'll see you next time.