Motor City Hypnotist
Motor City Hypnotist
Understanding Personality Disorders: Part 2
Ever wondered how personality disorders differ from multiple personality disorders, or how they impact relationships and daily life? Tune in to the Motor City Hypnotist podcast, where I, David R. Wright, explore these complex topics with a mix of humor and insight. We'll clear up common misconceptions and delve into the symptoms and behaviors of disorders like paranoid, schizoid, and schizotypal personality disorders as defined by the DSM-5. Expect to learn how these disorders can shape thought patterns and social interactions, and why setting boundaries is crucial for those in relationships affected by them. Plus, get a sneak peek into upcoming events and discover how you can get involved in our vibrant community.
While the subject matter is serious, we sprinkle in moments of joy and community spirit to keep things light. You'll hear the heartwarming tale of Rex, a resilient Shih Tzu whose story of survival and new beginnings at a pub in Wolverhampton will leave you smiling. Our episode doesn't just educate; it entertains and uplifts, making it perfect for mental health professionals and curious minds alike. Tune in for expert advice, real-life stories, and an engaging blend of education and entertainment that promises to enrich your understanding of the human mind.
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David Wright: 0:00
What is going on, my friends? This is David Wright, the Motor City Hypnotist. We're back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast. We'll be there in a little bit. Hey, free stuff. You know what? I totally missed up my lines because I was thinking we're right into the show. But it's fine, we are, we're ready. We're ready to go. How many cocktails you got there I just won? That's the same. Well, no, this is my second one.
David Wright: 0:25
Well, I dumped half the one out I had. So we're all good, we got free stuff. But hang in there, folks. We got free stuff coming up. We're going to talk about personality disorders. We'll be right back.
Matt Fox: 0:35
This sounds like something for the authorities in Detroit.
David Wright: 0:39
Well, joke's on you, I on you. I'm living to 102 and then die like the city of detroit. Guys like this can't take over here out of detroit spawned in the hellfires of motown.
Matt Fox: 0:52
Take him to detroit. No, no, not detroit, no, no, please, anything with that. No, stationed in drambuie, it's worse than detroit. We did not have, as a unit, the confidence that we felt like we needed to beat Detroit. Let's go to Detroit. Now you're talking brother. I don't think so. He plays for Detroit now. Do they have many farms in Detroit? Detroit to Michigan.
David Wright: 1:17
I go to school, I know where Detroit is.
Matt Fox: 1:19
Get ready for the Motor City hypnotist, david R Wright. Originating from the suburbs of Detroit, michigan, he has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis. Welcome the Motor City Hypnotist, david R Wright.
David Wright: 2:05
What is going on, my friends? It is David Wright, the Motor City Hypnotist, and we're back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast. Back on track. That is Matt Fox, the other voice, you hear? Yes, it is we're here in the podcast your Voice, southfield Studios, the palatial Southfield Studios. It's been very palatial today. We're hanging out doing a podcast, having a cocktail and enjoying life. We're talking about multiple personality disorders.
Matt Fox: 2:32
No, not multiple personality disorders, just personality disorders. So we're going to get into that Reel me back in.
David Wright: 2:39
No, no, that's okay, we're going to get into the nitty gritty of coming up. Let me first tell you where you can find me. My website is MotorCityHypnotistcom. Check that out. Grad night and prom night parties are fast approaching and I'm already booking up really quickly. So if you're interested, if you're on a family committee or a parent committee for your high school, um, go to my website and and you can get a quote and book your night. Uh, within a few minutes, as long as I'm available, because, again, schedule's filling up. So so get in there quick because if you want your date, it may be taken, but take a look and, uh, we'll help you out. My media links social media links Facebook and YouTube are both Motor City Hypnotist. Snapchat, instagram and TikTok are all Motor City Hypno H-Y-P-N-O and, as we've done every episode.
David Wright: 3:32
Going back to number one, text the word hypnosis to 313-800-8510 for your free hypnosis guide. It's a PDF that I've written. It's a couple of pages, it's not too in-depth, but it does give you an overview about hypnosis, what it is, what it's not, dispel some myths and misconceptions. Just text the word hypnosis to 313-800-8510, and you will receive that within a few minutes. Also, you will receive a Google link to leave a review. You can leave a review of the podcast. Or if you've seen my show, you can leave a review of that. Or if you see me in person for hypnosis, you can make a review for that. It's all in one review, so it's all good. Alrighty, that's it, matt, it's time.
Matt Fox: 4:23
That's how winning is done.
David Wright: 4:30
Alrighty, okay. So who's winning this week? Well, it's another. It's a dog story, which we love. We love dog stories. I'm already gonna adopt a shih tzu, for god's sakes. An adorable dog was adopted by a kind-hearted pub manager after the pooch's owner died in a car crash. What's the pooch's name? I don't know yet. What's the pooch's name? I don't know yet. Okay, oh, I'll tell you in a minute. It's in the story, okay, good, it's a pub owner, so it should be good. The two-year-old shih tzu named Rex Another freaking shih tzu I have to adopt.
David Wright: 4:55
Yes dashed into the busy bar after surviving the tragic car accident. Okay, accident.
Matt Fox: 5:10
Okay, yeah, was he driving? I don't know, it's crazy. No, no, don't shut me up. I don't know if he could drive like a chicken. The way this is written, I'm just maybe the two-year-old shih tzu?
David Wright: 5:17
oh, I read that. Regulars at the leaping wolf in wolverhampton, england, england, were startled when the lost pooch ran into the pub during a football match. Manager Dan Morris caught the runaway pup and took him to the veterinarian to see if he was okay and inquire about where he could have come from. But Dan was shocked to learn that Rex's owner had passed away in the car accident. That's how the frisky pup came to be a new regular at the pub and a real hit with the locals. It was last year's liverpool versus wolves match. It was crammed inside and outside the bar, said the 33 year old barkeep.
David Wright: 5:54
Everyone said there's a dog running around and we had no idea where he came from. He's been great. All the customers love him and they even buy him presents. He loves attention. He loves treats. He's so spoiled. If we have a takeaway, he has a takeaway. If we have roast dinner, he has a roast dinner. When we first took him there was a period where it was difficult. When you're trying to run a business and a new dog is running around the place, it can be tough. But now he just likes to sit down and chill. It's like he's found his new home, but now he just likes to sit down and chill. It's like he's found his new home. He's well-trained and we're so thrilled to have him with us. He also now acts like a bouncer for the leaping wolf, with his uncanny ability to sniff out troublemakers, you haven't got to the dog's name yet.
David Wright: 6:42
It was in the second sentence. I missed Rex. All right, oh, great Odin's Raven. He's been known to bargain visitors, who tend to be the ones that end up causing trouble in the pub. He sits and waits for people to come in and inspects them. We don't know how he knows which guests are up to no good, but he's usually right, dan told SWNS News. You know how he does which Gus are up to no good, but he's usually right, dan told SWNS News. You know how he does it he sniffs him out. Oh great Odin's raven, what in blazes are you talking about? He's a really well-behaved dog, but I think he needs a girlfriend.
Matt Fox: 7:24
Sexy dad.
David Wright: 7:27
Have you heard? I'm sorry, I got to give you a picture of Rex. Here's a picture of Rex in the bar Right. So Rex the Shih Tzu, yeah, okay. So have you heard about the puppy in New Orleans that was on the run? He like escaped twice. No, no, I've not heard that, so I'm gonna cross-pollinate here yes please the the dog's name in new orleans it was just on cbs 60 like yeah right, whatever, scrim, scrim, scrim, he got.
David Wright: 7:57
He got out and he was on the run in in new orleans like a person owned this dog, like he was to be adopted, oh, he got away from a shelter he got away from a shelter twice and he was on the run twice. So rex and scrim should go bowling sometime. Oh, absolutely, because you know, like you said, rex needs a girlfriend he does.
Matt Fox: 8:18
So there you go so here's rex.
David Wright: 8:21
uh, those of you on facebook live, or if you want to come back to my facebook page, motor city hypnotist, you can watch this episode and see a picture of rex. So here's Rex. Those of you on Facebook live, or if you want to come back to my Facebook page, motor city hypnotist, you can watch this episode and see a picture of Rex sitting at the bar with a beer. Yeah, see, it's perfect and that is perfect. That is a very tall beer of something.
Matt Fox: 8:37
That is, it is.
David Wright: 8:38
What beer is he? What glass? That's a good question. Hold on, that's a good question. Hold on, let me. I'll tell you he's drinking a oh geez. It doesn't say oh, it's a Foster's oh there you go. So Rex is drinking, so yeah, Rex is drink at the bar with the Fosters he needs well, no, he doesn't need a home.
Matt Fox: 8:57
He's got a home.
David Wright: 9:13
He's in the pub. Go, you're welcome. Oh great, odin's raven, definitely our winner of the week. That's how winning is done.
Matt Fox: 9:23
Sometimes the stars just align, it is, they do.
David Wright: 9:26
Sometimes it does, so back to it. I'm sorry. Rex's owner passed away in the car.
Matt Fox: 9:31
That is sad.
David Wright: 9:32
But he's got a great place. Now the bar owner loves him. He's got a great home. He sees all kinds of people every day. That's what you get for letting Rex drive. Yeah, he's fantastic. What if he drinks water?
Matt Fox: 9:46
no, you've had your limit today. You drink water all right, folks.
David Wright: 9:55
So we're talking about today is part two of personality disorders maybe listen to part one, jump back an episode, catch up or just listen to this one and go back to that one.
Matt Fox: 10:05
And stay along.
David Wright: 10:07
The whole gist of the first one was an introduction to personality disorders and how they developed since childhood, which makes them very difficult to treat, unlike just and I don't say this in a demeaning way, but unlike simple depression or anxiety or PTSD, which are caused typically by a lot of times by circumstances, sometimes with a chemical imbalance. But a personality disorder starts in childhood and it develops into adulthood. Do you say it manifests in childhood? Probably it could manifest in childhood as far as, like emotional breakdowns or or behavioral issues. Okay, that's issues. Okay, that's possible. Yes, so we talked about because it's developed since an early age. It's very hard to address in therapy. It's not, it's, we can do it and I have seen many, many people over the years with personality disorders who have made progress. It's just very difficult because these behaviors and these thinking patterns are so ingrained that it's hard to get them changed. Fair, so let's talk about personality disorders specifically Now. These are grouped into different categories. We pull our diagnoses from the DSM, the Diagnostic Statistical Manual Number five Number five, that's what we're on right now, and they group them into different groups as far as personality disorders Group A, group B and Group C. Okay, so I'm going to go through Group A first. Group A are kind of described as as a pretty consistent dysfunctional pattern of thinking and behavior. Um, it kind of reflects suspicion or lack of interest in other people.
David Wright: 11:58
So the first one is the paranoid personality disorder. Okay, and this is lacks trust and is suspicious of others and the reasons for their actions. Believes others are trying to do them harm with no reason to feel this way. Doubts the loyalty of others. Is not willing to trust. Hesitates to confide in others for fear that others will use that information against them. Takes innocent remarks or situations as personal insults or attacks. They take it personally. Yep Becomes angry or hostile to what are believed to be slights or insults. They they overreact. Has a habit of holding grudges. I think I know a person like this. Hold grudges as in they'll bring something up from like 15 years ago yeah, absolutely just held on to it, and with paranoid personality.
David Wright: 12:50
The last symptom is often suspects a spouse or sexual partners unfaithful, with no reason to feel why.
David Wright: 12:57
Yep, so yeah I'm just gonna ptsd over here on the side, absolutely. The next one in group a is schizoid personality disorder. Go on this one. And so there's a lot of overlap with a lot of these, so it's may sound repetitive, but it's not that they're their own distinct, but there is some overlap as far as symptoms go. Okay, uh, so schizoid personality disorder is appears to be cold or not interested in others, almost always chooses to be alone. Limits how they express their emotions, cannot take pleasure in most activities, cannot pick up social cues, has little or no interest in having sex with another person. Having sex with another person, okay, I mean, that's you know, it's pretty isolated and it's like you know nothing else beyond what's right here. Right, yeah, it's right there. The other one in group a is schizotypal, which is a little bit different from schizoid, but schizotypal how? How is typo spelled? T-y-pp-a-l? Okay, yep.
David Wright: 14:05
Has unusual thinking, beliefs, speech or behavior Now, that's pretty general. Feels or thinks strange things, such as hearing a voice whisper their name or just whisper in general. Just whisper their name Could be Okay. Has flat emotions or emotional responses that are socially unusual, depending on the laughing at a funeral, um crying at a birthday party.
David Wright: 14:31
I mean just, they don't fit the situation they're in. Okay, all right. Um has social anxiety, including not being comfortable making close connections with others. Responds to others in ways that are not proper, show suspicion or lack of interest. This is the big one. Has magical thinking, okay, the belief that their thoughts can affect other people or events. Like they look at them, they think something and they're going to feel the same way.
David Wright: 14:58
No no, they think that their thoughts can affect other people. Oh, they can control them or influence them. So they have like ESP of some sort. Yes, that that would be a simple way to put it. Ok, sure, believes that some casual incidents have hidden messages. So schizotypal. Is a little bit different from the other two in this category because there's some psychosis in this one. So the number 33. Yeah, yeah, could mean something.
Matt Fox: 15:25
Something or nothing.
David Wright: 15:27
Or could. Yeah, the next grouping is group B. Okay, and that includes some of the ones that we are probably more familiar with. Okay, and again, these are ones that come up quite often Borderline personality Okay, borderline has strong fear of being alone or abandoned. Ongoing feelings of emptiness, sees themselves as being unstable or abandoned. Ongoing feelings of emptiness. Sees themselves as being unstable or weak. Relationships are not stable. The last comment that you just said there, what Sees himself as being unstable or weak? No, was that the one? Yes, there was another sentence that you said has ongoing feelings of emptiness. Before that has a strong fear of being alone or abandoned. That's the one.
Matt Fox: 16:09
Yeah.
David Wright: 16:10
Yeah.
Matt Fox: 16:11
Yeah, they feel like they're just going to be alone.
David Wright: 16:14
Yeah, has up and down moods, often due to stress when interacting with others, threatens self-harm or behaves in a way that could lead to suicide. Yep, is often very angry. Shows impulsive and risky behavior, such as having unsafe sex, gambling or binge eating. Has stress related paranoia that comes and goes. That's borderline. We move into histrionic Now. I know I'm glossing over these pretty quickly because there's so many of them, but I just want to give you guys, and and we I think we have in some points in the past on the up on the podcast, hit these individually, but we may revisit those in coming episodes just to focus on each one individually.
David Wright: 16:58
Okay, and and and in regards to that, are there people that have that we know of in history, that have these types of disorders I I I could probably bring up some good examples that are current, but I would say I don't want to alienate some people?
David Wright: 17:16
I know no, and I'm with you. Um, that's a good question. Let let me. I don't want to guess, so let me let me look into that. We may come back to that. I'm going back to world war one, right, exactly? I mean, I mean it could be famous people uh, you know, van gogh or whoever. Sure, sure van gogh's cut off his own ear. So I, I mean there had to be some mental illness he just wasn't gonna.
Matt Fox: 17:38
He wasn't gonna listen to anybody anyway.
David Wright: 17:40
So no, no, don't shut me up. The next one is a histrionic personality disorder, cause the last one was. The last one was borderline Okay, that was just I thought. I thought you said there was another one in between that. Nope, okay, borderline. Now we're on histrionic Okay. Simply put, I can say these are the attention seekers in your life. Okay Always seeks attention, overly emotional or dramatic, speaks dramatically with strong opinions but has few facts or details to back it up. Okay Is easily led by others, has shallow emotions that change quickly, is very concerned with physical appearance, thinks relationships with others are closer than they are. I wonder what executive order is going to get signed next? Here's the thing that could fit in all of these somewhere, somehow or another. The two other ones in this group and again these are ones we know about. We've seen them.
David Wright: 18:45
Narcissistic personality disorder. They believe they're special and more important than other people. They have fantasies about power, success and being attractive. They don't understand the needs and feelings of other people. They expect constant praise and they want to be admired. They feel superior and they brag about it. Expects favors and advantages without a good reason, takes advantage of other people, is jealous of others or believes they are jealous of him or them. Man, that one Wow, I'm going to sign this order right now.
David Wright: 19:25
And the last in this group is antisocial personality disorder. Again, this is one that's commonly heard and we know about. Has little, if any concern for the needs or feelings of other people. Okay, often lies, steals or uses false names or cons people, has repeated run-ins with the law, violates the rights of other people, is aggressive and often violent. Has little or any concern for personal safety or safety of others. Impulsivity, recklessness. Has little if any regret for how their behaviors affect other people. Sounds like an aggressive bank robber, yeah. And just somebody who has no concept of empathy, no concern or no thought about other people and how they feel.
David Wright: 20:12
Man, so you said there was a lot of crossover. Yes, and there is a lot of crossover and a lot of folks fit into these categories multiple times. Yes. So to diagnose, it's got to be very, very pinpoint For personality disorders. It is very difficult to kind of put a diagnosis to that because you can meet all the criteria in one and all the criteria in another. But you can have in mental health you can have what's called dual diagnosis, just like you can in medicine. You know you could have multiple personality disorders together, okay, which would be. That'd be a big challenge. Tough, that'd be crazy. It's uh, it's a lot, oh great, odin's raven okay. Group c this is the third group. Okay, go on, avoidant personality disorder, which we started talking about originally.
David Wright: 21:09
We did talk about that earlier. Very sensitive to criticism or rejection. What are you talking about? Does not feel good enough important or attractive. Am I not dressed appropriately for you?
David Wright: 21:22
Does not take part in activities that include contact with others Okay, don't touch me. Is isolated. Does not try new activities and that include contact with others Okay, don't touch me. Is isolated, does not try new activities and does not like meeting new people. Is extremely withdrawn in social settings and in dealing with others. Fears disapproval, embarrassment or being made fun of. They fear that. Yes, they fear that, and that's the avoidant personality. The next one is the dependent personality disorder. All right, I'm interested in learning this. One Relies on others too much and feels a need to be taken care of. Relies too much on other people Okay. Is submissive or clingy? Interesting. Fears having to take care of self if left alone. So they fear being alone because they don't want to have to take care of themselves. Lacks confidence in their abilities. Needs a lot of advice and comforting from others to make even very small decisions Do I buy milk or no?
Matt Fox: 22:22
Yes.
David Wright: 22:23
Yeah, exactly, I mean, that's a great example of just a simple thing. They said that they would struggle. They send a text right, should I buy milk? Well, do you need it or not? Finds it hard to start or do projects due to lack of self-confidence. Okay, they find it hard to disagree with others, feeling they'll be rejected, based on just they just go along because they don't want to be rejected. They're like like, yes, yeah, you're right, even though might be totally contrary to what they believe.
David Wright: 22:52
Sure, endures, poor treatment or abuse, even when other options are available. Again with this one. A lot of times this is and it could be a battered spouse either way, men or women, but they just continue to take it. There are plenty of folks out there that will not treat you as such. Go on. No, I know Yep has an urgent need to start a new relationship as soon as one ends. Okay, they don't want to be alone. Interesting, and the last one on this on the group C, is obsessive compulsive personality disorder Again, ocd. We've heard it, we've seen movies. I don't know if a lot of them have. Could you clean up the side of your table over there? Thank you.
Matt Fox: 23:38
There we go. Now it's lined up.
David Wright: 23:39
Now it's lined up Again. We know what this is. Focus is too much on details, orderliness, rulesliness, rules. Thinks everything has to be perfect and gets upset when it's not. Cannot finish a project because reaching perfection is not possible. Right, needs to be in control. Cannot assign tasks to others. They cannot delegate because they don't trust other people to do it the way they would do it. It does take a lot. Yes, it does, and that's that's one I can understand a little bit.
David Wright: 24:09
Ignores friends and enjoyable activities because too much focus on work or a project. So they see there, they don't. They don't have fun time. Right, cannot throw away broken or worthless objects oh, that's a big one. Is rigid and rigid and stubborn. Is not flexible about morality, ethics or values. So here's the.
David Wright: 24:31
I will say one thing with ocd, their more morals are locked in. There's nothing that's going to sway that wherever it lands on the spectrum, kind of like catholicism. Yeah, yeah, holds very tight control over budgeting and spending money. So so here's the thing, and it's noted, and I want to bring this up obsessive compulsive disorder is a little bit different from obsessive compulsive personality, yeah, okay. So thank you for the clarification. Yes, because the personality disorders develop during childhood, all the way up into adulthood.
David Wright: 25:07
Obsessive compulsive disorder is an anxiety disorder and can happen at any time during your life. Sure, so again, symptoms might overlap, but the beginning of it is different. Okay, if that makes sense, it does so. Here's the thing. Most of the time, people with personality disorders don't I'm not going to say they don't acknowledge it. They might know that something's wrong, they might anger and their frustration is projected outward that this person wronged me. This isn't the way things should work. I quit this job because they asked me to do things. And really, all of these personality disorders affect daily living, because how you interact with others, that's, that's what the world is made of. So what I'm hearing you saying is that everybody in the world has some type of personality disorder. They, they know they could have, they could have some symptoms of a personality disorder.
Matt Fox: 26:21
Well, that's what I'm trying to get at. Not necessarily have that full blown disorder Everyone's got symptoms of.
David Wright: 26:26
Well, sure, we could lean towards certain ways, but we know, like with OCD, yeah, lining things up as long as it doesn't affect anything, that's totally cool. Sure, it's what you prefer. However, if, if it affects you from, for example, I had a client who had ocd years ago. This is a one of the examples I bring up quite often. He was a hand washer, but it was not because of germs, for him it was. It was this, the, the structure and the process that he had to get right. Like, okay, so as good as it gets the character that Jack.
David Wright: 27:04
Nicholson who was on the SNL 50th anniversary last night he made a cameo.
David Wright: 27:09
Yes, but, yes, that character and as good as it gets, there was a process that he did. He had to do it that way. He had going to bed, he had to put his hands down at a specific point and he had to stay straight. Yep, it was the the. The betrayal was amazing. So with with my hand washing guy, he knew his hands were clean but with him, if he put the soap down wrong he would have to start over. It was the process that he was it.
David Wright: 27:37
If he put the soap down wrong, he would have to start over. It was the process that he was. It wasn't. It wasn't about germs, it wasn't about cleanliness, it wasn't about being clean. It was the process that he couldn't get right in his head and if it wasn't right he had to start over.
David Wright: 27:50
And he would so. So my point on that is a lot of times he would be late for work or miss work altogether, and and for him, him, it was like, well, no, I have to do this, I, I, he, he wasn't, he wasn't seeing. I mean, he knew it was affecting him negatively, but it didn't stop the compulsion that that movie as good, I'm going to go back to it as well as it gets him locking the door a specific way the way the locks had to be locked, yep, the way he did wash his hands, the water was super hot and it was super hot every single time, yep, and locks had to be locked. The way he did wash his hands, the water was super hot and it was super hot every single time. And he had to start over. That portrayal is guaranteed.
Matt Fox: 28:25
Exactly what it is.
David Wright: 28:26
It is a good portrayal and I do. They did kind of they get it with that movie. They did For the most part Correct. So here's the thing, if you feel like, and For the most part Correct. So here's the thing, if you feel like and I might be talking to family members or friends of people who suffer from personality disorders, because many times people with personality disorders are resistant to treatment because they don't think anything's wrong. So let me ask this question you have a person in your office and they have a spouse who is like that. How is this individual, how are you helping them to deal with their spouse or partner or whoever they're?
David Wright: 29:04
with Honestly if I'm dealing with a partner of somebody who has something one of these, one of these I will be honest with them and tell them listen, if you're here to change that other person, that's never going to work, thank you, that is just not going to happen, okay. So what we need to do is work on you and get you to a point where you are strong enough to say I want to be out of this relationship, okay, or I want to stay with these conditions and setting boundaries. Do you invite that other party?
Matt Fox: 29:37
into the conversation.
David Wright: 29:39
Yes, oftentimes that will happen. And what happens when you do invite them? Well see, but that I know it's a tough question to answer.
David Wright: 29:48
Yes, it's tough because there have been so many over the years. Some people respond and some people are happy, but most of the time here's the thing. I've dealt with a lot of couples over the years and most of the time here's the thing I've dealt with a lot of couples over the years and most of the time here's majority of the time, and I don't want to burst people's bubbles or pop their bubbles or whatever, but a lot of times when couples come in together, I know who the initiator is in this session.
Matt Fox: 30:12
I can see it.
David Wright: 30:14
I don't even need to hear him talk. I can tell by body language, love, that I know who can see it. Yeah, I, I don't even need to hear him talk. I can tell by body language, love, that I know who's the one who wanted to be here and who's the one who didn't. And I can see it but beyond that, can you tell who has the, the compulsive dis? You know?
Matt Fox: 30:29
well if they come together symptoms when they come in.
David Wright: 30:32
If a couple comes in together, then I can kind of get that through a couple of sessions, okay. Yes, yes, but here's the thing with personality disorders most of the time they don't seek therapy. I shouldn't say most of the time that there's a large portion that don't seek therapy because they don't think there's anything wrong, because they think this is the way it should be. Um other, if it's not causing distress in your life, it's just easier to let it go and just think that this is the way it's supposed to be. So can I ask you a very naive question? Yeah, what's the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist?
David Wright: 31:11
Psychiatrist is a medical doctor. They have their MD, their license to practice medicine. They could go into a I mean, they don't often choose to but they could go into a hospital or they could practice as a pediatrician or a family doctor. Okay, a psychologist is strictly trained in mental health. Okay, they don't have a medical degree. So if you see a psychologist and their doctor Dr, right, let's say it's because they have a PhD, not an MD. Okay, so a psychiatrist is the only trained medical doctor in mental health, but both can prescribe medication, no Psychologists cannot prescribe medication.
David Wright: 31:49
That's what I was getting to Nope. Psychologists can only do therapy, Even if they're a doctor. They're not a medical doctor, so they cannot prescribe. I just wanted to understand who can and who can't.
David Wright: 32:01
This is confusing to people and I'm glad you brought that up, matt, because this is a sidebar from what we were talking about but a lot of people don't know. They see all these initials at the end of people's names. They have no idea what they mean. What is LPC? What is LMSW? What is MDHIP? What is PhD? Slash LC I mean there's so many.
David Wright: 32:25
The general population doesn't know this and it just confuses them. Ok, but yes, you're, a psychiatrist is a medical doctor who can prescribe medication. A psychologist is a mental health doctor who cannot prescribe medication. So someone with a disorder, who would they see? They should see a psychiatrist because it's a mental health disorder. Okay, I just want to make that differentiation clear. So here's the thing Personality disorders.
David Wright: 32:51
They can disrupt your life and they definitely disrupt the lives of people around you. If you're in a family or a marriage or have kids, they can lead to social isolation, suicidal thoughts. A lot of bad things come from personality disorders. So the big thing is just to evaluate has somebody told you this or do you feel like something's not right? And if you have a family member or a friend who has a personality disorder, it might be worth having a conversation. Now, it may or may not go well, it doesn't matter. The point is you have to take care of yourself. So many times it takes a crisis to get somebody into therapy, which is kind of honestly, I can say that for most of the population, most of the couples I see are on the verge of divorce by the time they get to my office Right, because they're in crisis at that point.
David Wright: 33:43
Yeah, and instead of doing therapy when it was just 20% bad, they waited until it got 90% bad and said, oh, we need to do this and it's too late. Then Right. Yeah, because they're already made up their minds at that point Plus most of the damage has been done Right, there's no going back.
Matt Fox: 34:00
Yeah.
David Wright: 34:01
Sometimes, unfortunately, all righty folks. That is our episode on personality disorders. Wow, so, if you have any further questions, those of you, just go to the Facebook page. You can message me, you can email me. You can go to my website and send a direct message. If you have any questions or concerns or you want to seek therapy for a personality disorder, just hit me up Again. Any of those sources email. Well, you're not my email, but social media, my website and you can call the phone number as well.
Matt Fox: 34:34
Yeah, what's that phone number? What's the phone?
David Wright: 34:35
number again, it's 313-800-8510. Thank you, and that will. You'll just just to be up front. You'll probably get a voice message, but you can leave a message and I will get back to you asap. Thank you all, righty. Before we leave oh, who? Who are we gonna adopt this time? David mary, mary mary is a mixed breed, was born december of 2024. Oh, she's only a month old. Holy crap. Oh, what, wait what? Two months old she? Okay, two month old puppy and is already up for adoption. Yes, were they born in the shelter? I don't know. That's a good question. It's a female. Okay, she'll be about 40 to 50 pounds. Dog friendly, yes. Cat friendly, unknown. Kid friendly, yes, okay. Activity level medium high mary. Take a look at this.
David Wright: 35:22
Oh, come on look at that face mixed breed. She looks like a lab. She does look like a lab with something mixed in. I can't quite tell, but uh, let's see here Looking at the maybe golden little gold, a golden lab.
David Wright: 35:38
Just think the golden I see with the eyes and the ears. I kind of oh my goodness the ears kind of look more. I don't know the kind of look I can't even tell. Yeah, it's fine, but she's beautiful. Yeah, she is a beautiful looking little puppy. Yep, wow. So Mary, is that Detroit dog rescuecom slash adopt? She wants a home. Look at that, take her home with her. She's two months old. She probably potty trained, maybe I don't know, but if not, she's young, She'll learn. Yes, absolutely. And look at that face. Who could say no to that? I can't, I just can't. There you go. Why do you do this to me, david, I know Mary, detroit dog rescuecom slash adopt.
David Wright: 36:21
Alrighty folks, that is our show. Join us next week Monday night. Um, join us on Facebook live on motor city hypnotist. Um, facebook page. We will uh record live so you can kind of join in and have part, be a part of the conversation, please. I'm hoping next week we're gonna have let me tease this but uh, one of my therapists I work with terica. She's a certified sex therapist. She is going to be in next week. That's our plan that she'll be in next week, uh, for an in-person interview and show sexy time yeah, yeah, all right, your thinking.
David Wright: 36:58
Change your life. Laugh hard, run fast, be kind. We'll see you next time.