Motor City Hypnotist
Motor City Hypnotist
Bouncing Back: Mental Resilience and Health - Part 1
Resilience might be one of the most misunderstood aspects of mental health. Far more than just "bouncing back" or "toughing it out," true resilience is about developing mental, emotional, and behavioral flexibility that allows you to adapt when life throws unexpected challenges your way.
Have you ever noticed how some people seem to navigate life's difficulties with relative ease while others struggle significantly with similar challenges? The difference often comes down to resilience – and contrary to popular belief, it's not an innate trait but a skill that can be developed through intentional practice.
In this deeply practical episode, we break down what mental resilience actually means and provide concrete strategies to help you build this crucial life skill. Drawing from psychological frameworks like Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, we explain why physical well-being forms the foundation of mental resilience. The "big three pillars" – sufficient sleep, mindful nutrition, and regular physical activity – create the physiological conditions necessary for emotional stability and cognitive flexibility.
Perhaps most importantly, we emphasize that resilience must be cultivated during good times so it's available during challenging ones. Think of it as developing "mental muscle memory" through consistent practice. Simple techniques like mindfulness exercises (we share a powerful thumb-to-finger exercise that engages both brain hemispheres), deep breathing patterns, and engaging in personally meaningful activities all contribute to stronger resilience.
Whether you're currently facing difficulties or simply want to prepare for future challenges, this episode offers valuable insights that can help you develop the mental flexibility needed to navigate life's inevitable ups and downs with greater ease and confidence. Subscribe now and join our community of listeners working toward better mental health through practical, evidence-based approaches.
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David R. Wright MA, LPC, CHT
The Motor City Hypnotist
David Wright: 0:00
In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast, we're going to discuss resiliency and mental health. Now, I'm not going to try to demean or pander to anybody, because some of you might say resilience, what do you mean by that? We're going to get into that, we're going to explain it, I'll define it and we'll get into it. But, yeah, this is kind of an important topic because a lot of times with mental health issues, people start to address it but then they don't follow through. They don't stay with it. It's, but we're going to talk about that and, as usual, as we've done every episode, going back to number one, we're giving away free stuff. Okay, hang in there, folks, we'll be right back.
Announcer: 0:38
This sounds like something for Something for the authorities in Detroit. Joke's on you. I'm living to 102 and then dying at the city of Detroit.
Matt Fox: 0:46
Guys like this can't take over here out of Detroit.
David Wright: 0:50
Spawned in the hellfires of Motown.
Announcer: 0:54
Take him to Detroit. No, no, not Detroit, no, no, please, anything, but that, no, stationed in Drambuie, is worse than Detroit. We did not have, as a unit, the confidence that we felt like we needed to beat Detroit. Let's go to Detroit. Now you're talking brother. I don't think so. He plays for Detroit now. Do they have many farms in Detroit? Detroit?
Matt Fox: 1:19
to Michigan. I go to school, I know where Detroit is.
Announcer: 1:22
Get ready for the Motor City hypnotist, david R Wright. Originating from the suburbs of Detroit, michigan, he has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis. Welcome the Motor City Hypnotist, david R Wright.
David Wright: 2:08
What is going on, my friends? This is David Wright, the Motor City Hypnotist. We're back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast. Yeah, you are that's. The other voice that you hear is Matt Fox.
Announcer: 2:21
Well, hello, David.
David Wright: 2:22
He's joining me as usual on this fine Monday evening and hanging out doing a podcast, having a beverage or two and just enjoying life too. Yeah well, yeah, you started. You gotta have start on me, matt, because you guys just did your man cave. Happy hour podcast yeah, we did just finish. So if you guys want to jump into that and listen to that and come back and whatever, listen to it after it's fine, it's fine yeah, it's all good yeah, and vote, vote, vote, yes, yes.
David Wright: 2:47
So so I, and I'll bring this up, I did the post on my on my facebook page and on on the motor city hypnotist facebook page that there's a, a, an awards, I guess, category or or program called the podster podscars, podscars, a take on the oscars, but with pod in front of it, right right. So both myself, motor city hypnotist and man cave happy hour are both up for both nominated and for different areas and best podcast podcast studio for podcast your voice, this palatial southfield podcaster voice studio.
David Wright: 3:23
yeah, I can see. I can see why, because I don't, I don't know man. We've, we've had some, we've had some studios in the past. This is, this is the best by far. Yeah, yeah, room wise and set up and and everything Our, our very first one in Northville. Yes.
Matt Fox: 3:43
Great space it was. It was in the middle of everything with all the plans that they had for the building. But those plans kind of went south with COVID.
David Wright: 3:51
Yes.
Matt Fox: 3:51
But you know that is near and dear, because that was the first spot, that was our first spot. Yes, absolutely. But you know, things change and now here we are in this amazing space here. Absolutely, thank you to Jamie Flanagan for him.
David Wright: 4:04
For his vision. Absolutely Love it. Definitely go to my Facebook page. There's a link there that will take you to the Podscores. It's a Google form. Just look for man Cave, Happy Hour Podcast, your Voice and Motor City Hypnotist. Just vote on those three.
Matt Fox: 4:20
Don't mark anything else. It doesn't matter. If you're my friend, if you're friends with me as well, or you follow, yeah, or friends with me, make sure you do both because we're cross-promoting here, which is great because we're all part of the same family of shows. And you don't only have to vote once. Oh, you can do it multiple times.
David Wright: 4:37
I think I'm going to vote for myself like a thousand times. I wonder if I can take a day off tomorrow and just click over and over again. I don't know We'll see Vote early and often so yes, so check that out on my Facebook page and give us a vote. We greatly appreciate it. Yeah, it's probably bragging rights. I don't think we get anything you know, monetary from this.
Matt Fox: 4:58
You can then say you are an award-winning podcast.
David Wright: 5:01
Yes, we can. Yes, that's the dream. So let me tell you where you can find me, and then we'll have a little sidebar, because we've had some happenings at the home front in the last few days.
Matt Fox: 5:11
I heard.
David Wright: 5:12
So, first of all, my website is MotorCityHypnotistcom. Check that out. You can find information on shows, you can find information on personal sessions. Check it out. All kinds of info there. A lot, of, a lot of products as far as mp3 recordings for specific issues that you might be facing. So check that out. My social media links facebook and youtube are both motor city hypnotist, and snapchat, instagram and tiktok are all motor city hypno. That's h, h y p and we go hypno and again, as we've done every episode.
David Wright: 5:43
Going back to number one, we're on episode three 14 today. Text the word hypnosis to three, one, three, 800, eight, five, one, zero. Is this the pie episode? Yeah, three, three, 14. Yeah, 3.14. Yeah, yeah, it is Three, it is All right. 313-800-8510.
David Wright: 6:07
In a few moments you'll get a text back with a PDF that I wrote. It just kind of gives a brief overview of hypnosis. It's not too in-depth, but just kind of give you an understanding of what it is and how it works and it dispels some myths and misconceptions. You'll have that totally for free. You'll get it. And then also you will get a link to my google page, which I would appreciate greatly if you just leave a review there. Leave a review the podcast. And again, wherever you're listening, whatever platform you're on stitcher, spotify, itunes, we're on every platform. So wherever you're listening, subscribe, connect, like whatever it is on your platform, and again for that one, leave a review. The podcast would be greatly appreciated. So, matt, we've had some happenings at the right homestead over the past few days. Are you going to be the winner of the week? Well, I'm not. But Charlie's home, charlie's our new dog. Charlie is adorable.
Matt Fox: 6:57
Yes.
David Wright: 6:58
He's already found his favorite spot. You want to see, matt? I did actually.
Matt Fox: 7:01
Here. I'll hand you the phone. You can look at the photo. I'm curious.
David Wright: 7:09
Once he is full grown, is that still going to be his spot? I don't know, because it could be anywhere from 30 to 40 pounds is the estimate based on his parentage.
Matt Fox: 7:16
And based on the leg that I've seen of this table, it will hold a 30 to 40 pound animal, I mean he could probably get under there. Yeah, that might hole the 30 to 40 pound animal.
David Wright: 7:24
I mean, he could probably get under there, yeah, yeah, yeah, that might be his spot here. For those of you watching on facebook live, you can see. You know there's charlie he's adorable yeah, he's got those blue eyes, he does yes, and I've never seen blue eyes like this, except on a husky, and it's odd for another breed to have that. What type, striking, what type of breed is here? I'll, I'll, you can see his eyes better there there you go, there's gray gray blue almost. Yeah, they're just striking blue. Yeah, he's a bernadoodle.
Matt Fox: 7:53
So bernice mountain dog and poodle man, yeah he, he and uh, mom or dad traveled really far for that.
David Wright: 8:01
Honestly, we went to belleville. There's a breeder in belleville that we used, that we contacted that specifically does burman do burbadoo they do.
David Wright: 8:09
They do just that breed. Yeah, wow, okay, and apparently they again the reason we kind of went this way. And I know here's the thing folks, I know a lot of you people out there have have issues with unethical breeders and that's not the place to get a dog. And and again, in fairness, and and I I don't want to have to justify it, but you know, we we did a lot of research and and really trusted these people. They have a great setup. It seems very legit, they care for their animals. So because I know a lot of you'd be like, oh, you should have rescued instead, but you know it's hard to get a puppy that's eight weeks old at a rescue.
Matt Fox: 8:46
You're not wrong, and there's always some, you know they want to say adopt, don't shop. Is that what they say? Right, however, for your household, for you and Kendra, and yourself and Ethan this is what the family decided on, and you all went in with it together. You are all in it. Yeah, it didn't just one person say, hey, I got a dog.
David Wright: 9:09
And the other two were like well, okay.
David Wright: 9:11
Well, in all fairness, kendra might be listening. She was like she was kind of iffy on it. I mean, not that she didn't want a dog, but you know, we lost our dog a couple years ago. It was two years in april. So it's honestly, for me it's even still fresh. That was a tough loss and and I and and I know because I felt part of me felt the same way man. Do I want to put myself back in the situation where, 10 years from now, I'm going to have to grieve again, but sure that's the whole thing with animals.
David Wright: 9:37
You know they're not going to, they're not going to typically outlive you. Yeah, and it's just something you accept by and the rewards far outweigh the grief you're going to experience. You are their entire life.
Matt Fox: 9:48
Yes, exactly and you that you guys have the biggest hearts, and I know that charlie is going to be very well taken care of and you know it in our household. You know we lost our puppy just over two years ago as well. Yeah, service dog was a the best human being I'd ever met. If I'm honest, and we honestly don't want to bring another dog into the household, we have a cat and I don't think we're going to want to bring, you know, bring in a new family member. Do your research, as you guys did, and that's the right thing to do.
David Wright: 10:31
Yeah, and I again. I know my son typically doesn't listen, but a big shout out to Ethan because he's kind of taking control of this. Good he, good man. He's the dog. Is we're crate training him in his bedroom, so he goes to bed with the dog. Is we're crate training him in his bedroom, so he goes to bed with the dog. And again, last couple of nights have been fairly sleepless.
Announcer: 10:49
Oh sure, Dogs whining and howling.
David Wright: 10:51
You know, last night was better than the first night. The first night was just yeah it was a lot of. I don't want to be, but I want to. That's what happens with puppies.
Announcer: 11:01
I want to sleep in your bed.
David Wright: 11:02
I want to be in your bed. I don't know if you can see, Matt. I got all kinds of punctures in my hand and on my arms. I didn't see that, but I believe you Nipping and biting.
Announcer: 11:10
It's a puppy.
David Wright: 11:12
That's what they do.
Announcer: 11:13
No bite.
David Wright: 11:26
But again a big shout out to my son flea stuff, great he's, he's handling it.
Matt Fox: 11:31
So we're at that age. This is a responsibility.
David Wright: 11:35
It is yeah yes, so yeah, we have charlie's in the house and he's getting used to everything and you know, we're, we're even. Even just after two days, he's starting to go to the door when he has to go pee.
Matt Fox: 11:46
I love it, which I he's they're pretty smart, they're doodles, they catch on pretty quickly.
David Wright: 11:52
So so that's a cool thing. Oh, I gotta go that's.
Matt Fox: 11:56
That's you ever watch jeff dunham and he talks about the dogs that he's had?
David Wright: 12:00
no, and I mean, I know jeff dunham, but I've not heard that bit to ever hear his bit as to why chihuahuas shake. It's hysterical, no I've not, I've not looked it up, just jeff dunham chihuahua story and you'll get it.
Announcer: 12:27
You'll find it. Start the base on that.
David Wright: 12:29
Yeah, all righty yes, so this story comes from florida and involves a plane crash, so bear with you serious but we'll get into it all right.
David Wright: 12:39
A trio of brave locals were honored recently when a small plane crashed in Florida, catching fire almost immediately and with all souls, both still alive and yet trapped inside. Residents rushed to their aid, receiving the hero's accommodation from the Boca Raton Police Department. Okay, the small Cessna Skymaster aircraft was approaching North Perry Airport when it crashed into a tree. It was a miracle no homes were hit, said Laura Ingram, a mother of three who lives two houses down from the crash site. We heard this weird sputtering noise and then a boom. It sounded like a car explosion. We ran outside and just saw smoke and fire coming from behind the trees. We ran outside and just saw smoke and fire coming from behind the trees. The passengers, the pilot, an adult and two children, all survived with non-life-threatening injuries, goodness. But there was no time to celebrate as black smoke began to fill the cabin. Phone camera footage shows a group of locals coming to the rescue One brings an axe, another a hose to battle the growing blaze. Their efforts ensured all four were rescued from the, from the plane, and the fire was put out.
David Wright: 13:51
Honored in front of the county one rescuer, eddie crispin, said he was more intimidated receiving the award in front of the cameras than it was to be a hero, which kind of makes sense. I mean, you know it's instinct. At that point you're just acting right. My neighbor, where the plane actually crashed, had a water hose and was hosing the plane down. Another guy showed up with an ax. He was actually trying to break the window. It was just pretty much all going on at the exact same time, but we did manage to pull them out one by one and everyone ended up being safe, goodness gracious. So I won and everyone ended up being safe, goodness gracious. So yeah, I guess if a plane crashes in your neighborhood, I try to help out. Stranger things have happened in Florida. I have a good friend that I work with and she lives actually in a fly-in community. The only way to get in and out is by airplane. So I'm used to in Florida and so I'm used to hearing a lot of these, a lot of private pilots in Florida.
Matt Fox: 14:48
Right.
David Wright: 14:48
I mean there are all over, but there are specific communities, especially in Florida, that kind of cater to that. So anyway, just again, just people just doing people stuff, people stuff. They just wanted help, they wanted to save these people. Good story Bam.
Matt Fox: 15:07
There it is.
Announcer: 15:16
That's how winning is done.
David Wright: 15:19
Yes, it is so back to it.
Matt Fox: 15:23
Yeah. So I have to. I have to say this yes, Plane crashes. People rush to the plane to save the four individuals in the cabin of the plane. A small Cessna, yeah, Yet somebody had the gumption to.
David Wright: 15:38
Matt, I was just going to say that. Somebody is recording while everybody else is in action, saving people Right Put your freaking phone down and lend up a mat. You've seen these stories and I don't want to get off on a side tangent on the soapbox, but all of these like like people being attacked or somebody being everything that happened in cincinnati, or a fight and and people just stand back and record. Nobody intervenes anymore. Well, I shouldn't, because this is a good story where people did intervene.
Matt Fox: 16:04
It's a beautiful story. Yes, they did intervene, so that's the difference. So, but it's that one person that is just videoing. Is it a CYA thing? Is it an insurance thing?
David Wright: 16:13
No, it's just as human beings. We've been trained to capture every moment on our phones. You don't send that to AFB. You don't send that to AFB. All right, I know, right, yeah.
Matt Fox: 16:22
That's not a funny video.
Announcer: 16:23
There's no reason to record it.
David Wright: 16:24
Right For posterity's sake. Just, I don't know, it's an incident. You want video. I don't know.
Matt Fox: 16:30
Let's say it could be for the insurance company. Hey, you know, this is it. I mean maybe FAA.
David Wright: 16:34
might you know need that? Somebody should stand there recording while everybody else is saving these people and I'm so happy they did.
Matt Fox: 16:45
I really, really, really am.
David Wright: 16:46
Yeah, absolutely.
David Wright: 16:50
But put your phone down and lend a hand, fair enough. So, speaking of that, we're talking about resilience today. Okay, so resilience and mental health. Now, first of all, and again as I said in the intro, I don't want to like pander or think less of people, but I want to define what resilience means and then we can apply it to the mental health area that we're talking about, thank you. So resilience is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging experiences, especially through mental, emotional and behavioral flexibility. So I want to focus on that last part of that, especially through mental, emotional feel not in control. So we go back to being flexible as far as your emotions, as far as your mental health, as far as your behavior, that when something unexpected comes, it's not such a shock because some people get locked into their and it's a mindset thing. People get locked into a routine, a structure, and they and they expect things to happen ABC, in that order, and when it doesn't, it just throws them off.
Matt Fox: 18:14
So it's like them taking. They're afraid to take a step outside of the box.
David Wright: 18:18
Sometimes yeah and and but, but a lot of times when you're yeah and, but a lot of times when you're, when you're unwilling to take that step out, things become more difficult to manage because you're trying to make situations fit into your box and sometimes they don't. I'll bring up death of a loved one, for example.
David Wright: 18:36
We all logically and rationally know that loved ones are going to die at some point sure but when it happens that the the reaction to that sometimes and I can't say it's too severe because everybody's different, but it it's it's it's not something that's in your schedule, it's not something that's in your box, so it just throws you off mentally, emotionally, behaviorally, and that's where the problem comes outside influence, trying to break down a barrier that you don't want to be broken down. Could be yeah or that. That is very difficult to deal with Because, again, let's say we'll, just since I hit on grief right up, right up front it's come out.
David Wright: 19:19
That's a difficult thing to manage and it's hard sometimes it's difficult. But see, that's the point of resiliency is that you push through these hard things and that ends up making you better because you've learned something. And I'm not saying there's a lesson in death. Every time Life is upended for some reason. You have to be able to kind of work through that and not just fold because it's different or unusual or not what you expect.
Matt Fox: 19:51
So, if I may share, yeah. You know, there's been folks in my lifetime that have passed away Grandparents and uncles, absolutely. I've learned a lesson in every one of them, and the lesson is how to celebrate their lives, and it's their lives that you're celebrating. Because everyone's different Right. You celebrate their lives in different ways. That's the lesson that I've learned is yes, it's heartbreaking that they're no longer with us, but you want to celebrate the life that they did have.
David Wright: 20:20
Well, and it's a good point you bring up Matt, because I was just at you know, my uncle, gary passed away a couple of weeks ago and we were even discussing, my siblings and I and my aunt and a couple of other people but kind of the consensus was, you know what? And it was kind of I know this rationally in my head, but to hear it it's different. But they said you know, this is all just for us, he's different. But they said you know this is all just for us.
Matt Fox: 20:44
He's gone.
David Wright: 20:44
Seriously, the service is really for the people who remain. That's what it's for, amen, yeah, yeah. Yes, you want to honor their life and respect what they've done and the impact they had, but really it is for the survivors. Sure, that's what a funeral is for.
Matt Fox: 20:58
When my uncle passed just a couple months ago, really, my sister who was a pastor down in Alabama she actually did the service at the funeral home and at the grave site as well, and that kept it even more close-knit, as in it was for us Right.
David Wright: 21:14
Because my sister had that control. Her sister was a part of it and she was leading the service.
Matt Fox: 21:20
It was really a beautiful service and it was a great celebration.
David Wright: 21:23
So the question then comes okay, what happens when these things happen, or when these incidents happen, that kind of throw us off track of what our mind expects? So here's the thing Building mental resiliency. It really means being able to bounce back from adversity. And here's the thing, folks, this is hard, it's not easy, because if it were easy we wouldn't be talking about it.
David Wright: 21:49
I mean, it wouldn't even be a subject, but the ability to bounce back from adversity. It involves a combination of self-care, of your own mindset and developing coping mechanisms. So if, in general, you have a taxing life, let's say, and you haven't kept up with your self-care, and your mindset is negative and you don't have very good coping skills, these things are going to upend your life. So I say this in a way that if you establish these things when times are good, when it turns and it will at some point you're going to have some unexpected event happen Sure, you'll be better equipped to manage it and get through that. So I guess the moral of that statement is work on it now, before you need it. It's kind of like let's relate this to professional sports. They play the games, but there's a lot of practice, there's a lot of prep ahead of a season ahead of a game.
Matt Fox: 22:53
What's the, what's the term?
David Wright: 22:54
muscle memory you know but?
David Wright: 22:57
but our minds have muscle memory as well, it's in it and this is the important thing. If you do it now, you're going to be prepared when you have these adverse things that come up. So I'm going to give you a breakdown of some strategies to kind of enhance your mental resilience, please, and this will kind of help you as you go forward. Number one is self-care and physical well-being. So we're kind of going to revert back and don't want to get off on a like an education lecture, but anybody who's had a Psych 101 class knows Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. You may have heard of it, I've heard of it. Go on.
David Wright: 23:34
So Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, it's a pyramid and at the top is physical wellness, your own personal being, your own personal body, physical body. The mental stuff comes way later because if you don't have a stable home, food source and income stream, that is going to affect things much more because you're not stable. Everything is up in the air to affect things much more. Because you're not stable, everything is up in the air. So let's adopt that as far as Maslow's hierarchy is that your physical self has to be first.
Matt Fox: 24:12
So you said self-care, my brain went to pedicure, haircut shower. No, no.
David Wright: 24:18
But, matt, that's a good point you bring up, because I talk about self-care a lot with my clients. It's one of my main things I focus on, and it could be getting your nails done, it could be getting a massage, it could be playing a video game, it's whatever your mind can get a hold of and feel good about. That is self-care. It doesn't matter what other people think. I've had people say well, you know, I really like watching shows on TV, but I know it's a waste of time. I'm like well, no, do you enjoy it? Do you get some satisfaction from it? If so, it's not a waste of time, it's just another mode of self-care.
David Wright: 25:01
So prioritizing physical health is number one, got it? Because, again, looking at Maslow's hierarchy, your physical health is number one. On top of that, some of these things I know we're beating a dead horse because we've probably said these millions of times during this podcast run at regular exercise, good diet, sufficient sleep, uh, all of those things have to be put together and dialed in, and this goes whether you're suffering with anxiety or depression or OCD. Ocd is a type of anxiety, but any kind of mental health issue. The number one thing is the big three pillars, and I talk to my clients with this all the time A good sleep pattern, which means for adults, seven to eight hours every night, same time every night, and we're going to get into specifics later.
David Wright: 25:54
But good sleep pattern, a good diet. Now I'm not saying when I say diet, I mean your intake of food. I don't mean cutting back food to lose weight or anything like that, I just mean like a healthy choice. Now, here's the thing.
David Wright: 26:11
Your, your veggies, yeah, yeah when I say healthy choice, that that that's for some people. I've talked to a hundred people can mean a hundred different things, but what I'm going to say is just to be more conscious of what you're eating and and its effect on your body. Chips and beer won't do it.
David Wright: 26:27
Yeah, that's probably not the best choice. And I will say to people sometimes I'm not saying eliminate all those things, I'm saying we have to look at moderation and when it's appropriate. If you're doing it every day, that's probably not good, sure, but but definitely sleep, food and exercise. You need to be physically active. I even tell clients this. I say, hey, listen, I know, and it's not realistic to expect that you're going to go to the gym for four hours every day.
Matt Fox: 26:56
No, it's just not, there's just not going to happen, there's not enough time, even an hour every day.
David Wright: 27:01
So I tell people what can you do at home? Do you have a two-story house? Walk your stairs, right, I know I brought this up before. Walk around your block, just move, just have some activity in your life. Definitely those three things are needed to prioritize your physical health.
Matt Fox: 27:19
Two out of three ain't bad.
David Wright: 27:21
Yeah, I know. The second one, as far as self-care and physical well-being, is practice mindfulness. Now, people kind of balk at this, even when I talk to clients about it. I I I've brought this up to clients who actually rolled their eyes like, oh, I've heard this a hundred times before. The reason you've heard it a hundred times before is because it works right, that this is something that that that we've we've used over years and it works. So what? What is mindfulness? Honestly, mindfulness is being aware of the present, of this moment. Now, that can be done with a mindset. It can be done physically, with tactile sensations. So those of you I know you can't see me on the audio, but I'm doing something with my fingers here.
David Wright: 28:06
You're just putting your, your, your thumb touching my thumb to my each finger on both hands at the same time try going revert, try doing the opposite of each hand.
David Wright: 28:15
Oh, that's yeah, that's hard, yeah, that's tough to do, yeah but anyway, this seems just like it, like a simple thing, but by by one. We're using both hands. What that does is it engages both hemispheres of your brain, right and left, because your left hemisphere controls your right side, your right hemisphere controls your left side. So by doing it with both hands, you engage both hemispheres of your brain and it just brings you into this moment where nothing else is around. And it sounds simplistic and stupid. But this works. No, it really does, and there are millions of ways to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness could just be. Oh, I'm sitting at this table right now. I'm talking into a microphone, I have a drink in front of me, it's just being present right in this moment, so that all that external noise gets shut out.
Matt Fox: 29:03
Last week I was in the Finger Lakes in.
David Wright: 29:06
New York.
Matt Fox: 29:06
Yes, you were, and on a family vacation. The kids are on the lake and I'm sitting on the beach in a lounge chair and the sun, the water, and it was just me, because everyone else was doing their own.
David Wright: 29:19
Thing.
Matt Fox: 29:19
And I just sat in the chair and I did the thumb to finger thing, oh good, good. And it really helped me to center myself. Yes, like just I was being in the present, I was taking in everything around me, the quietness, the peacefulness, but I I had other things in the back of my head.
David Wright: 29:35
you know I'm like, okay, how's work going you know, right, right, what are we gonna do tomorrow. Yeah, like our brain sometimes it's like this radio that's just blaring right and it just it really helped me to center myself and bring me back to where I was at at that point in time.
Matt Fox: 29:52
It works it really does.
David Wright: 29:55
Another thing you can add to the finger touching if you want to kind of supercharge your mindfulness, is do deep breathing while you're touching your fingers. And I say this to clients every day, and and I day and you'd be surprised, matt, how many times I just it's not pushback, but they're like really what's that going to do? But here's the thing if you do it, you will notice a difference. You will feel it If you just take your time and just take a deep breath in. And there are a lot of methods for doing this there, and I forgot the number method. It's breathe in for four seconds, hold it for 10, exhale, for I don't remember the exact numbers on there there are apps that'll walk you through that.
David Wright: 30:36
Absolutely. So definitely practicing mindfulness is going to help. The other thing we kind of hit on in the midst of that engaging activities. You enjoy spending time in nature, engaging with the arts boy spending time in nature, engaging with the arts Again, just maybe hobbies that you have, maybe you like to paint, maybe you like to craft things, maybe you like woodworking but something that would just focus your mind into an activity that you just enjoy Word searches, coloring books, yeah, crosswords TV shows. We mentioned that.
Matt Fox: 31:22
Video games?
David Wright: 31:23
Yeah, and I know video games is kind of a it's a it's a tricky one, because in moderation and I want sugar crush is the devil.
Matt Fox: 31:30
Let's just say all right.
David Wright: 31:31
Yeah, yep, and then the other one. If you're having a hard time kind of focusing on this again, my suggestion is, you know, go talk to a therapist for one or two sessions. It doesn't mean you're broken or something's definitely wrong, but they can help you with these skills and help you to be able to be mindful and focus on those things. That will help you feel better. I love that. I love that Absolutely. So I know folks, we always do parts one and two, as is the case with mental health resilience, because I still got a bunch of stuff to share with you, sure, so we are going to do a part two. So this is part one and we'll be back with part two. Those of you on Facebook live stick around. We're going to record another episode. Those of you on audio, go to the next episode. If it's not there, it will be there on Tuesday or Thursday. So before we go, speaking of dogs and we got a new one this week somebody else needs a home. Who would it be?
Matt Fox: 32:34
Who is it?
David Wright: 32:35
larry, larry, larry, larry, larry impractical jokers. Yes, yes, yes, larry, I. So we had a fit. We had a family friend. His name was larry. He passed away a couple years ago, a year and a half ago, maybe. Sure, it's been fun, but whenever we had like like we had a patio nights or just get together and I just will always walk into the crowd of people, larry, yeah yeah, that's kind of sad, but anyway, larry was born in 2023. Okay, two years old, you're a year and a half to schnauzer, he's a male, 10 pounds, small dog friendly, selective, selective.
Matt Fox: 33:05
That's a first, that is a first.
David Wright: 33:06
That is a first Cat friendly Cat friendly is always unknown, we never know that. And kid friendly over five years old. Okay, activity level is low to medium.
Matt Fox: 33:18
Does.
David Wright: 33:19
Larry have a mustache. I don't know he might. I mean, if you kind of put it, what's up? Mustache there's.
Matt Fox: 33:22
Larry, hey, mustache, yeah, hey, mustache, stop calling me mustache, okay, mustache, okay, larry.
David Wright: 33:28
There's Larry, larry, he's adorable.
Matt Fox: 33:31
There you go, matt, you can take a look, isn't that blonde coloring?
David Wright: 33:33
Yeah.
Matt Fox: 33:35
He's got the blue-gray eyes. Yeah, a little bit.
Announcer: 33:37
Yeah.
David Wright: 33:38
He's so cute he is, he needs a home. Larry needs a home. Detroitdogrescuecom. Slash. Adopt. Larry wants to go home with you. Please take me home. Check it out. All right, all righty folks, that is our episode for today. Change your thinking, change your life, laugh hard, run fast, be kind. We'll see you next time, so you.