Motor City Hypnotist
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Bouncing Back: Mental Resilience and Health - Part 2
Ready to build unshakeable mental strength? The journey continues in this essential follow-up to our Mental Health Resilience series, where we dive deep into the practical tools that transform how you respond to life's challenges.
At the heart of resilience lies emotional regulation – that crucial ability to recognize and manage your feelings before they manage you. We explore powerful techniques like cognitive reframing that help you see situations from fresh perspectives, breaking the cycle of knee-jerk reactions that often leave us feeling worse. You'll discover how changing your thinking quite literally changes your emotional landscape.
Self-compassion emerges as a game-changer for mental wellbeing. Many of us beat ourselves up more harshly than we'd ever treat others, creating destructive cycles of guilt and negative behavior. Learn to interrupt this pattern by treating yourself with the understanding you'd naturally extend to a friend in crisis.
Community connections prove vital for resilience. We share heartwarming stories of how simple acts of kindness – from jumpstarting a stranger's car to sharing homegrown vegetables with neighbors – create ripple effects of positivity that benefit both giver and receiver. These moments of human connection remind us we're not alone in our struggles.
The episode provides actionable strategies for setting achievable goals and embracing change rather than resisting it. This adaptability forms the essence of resilience – anticipating changes, preparing for them, and moving forward with confidence when they arrive.
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David R. Wright MA, LPC, CHT
The Motor City Hypnotist
David Wright: 0:00
In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast, we are back with Mental Health Resilience, part 2. If you've not listened to Part 1, you can jump back, listen to that episode and rejoin us, or just listen to this one and go back to that one. Either way, you get all the information and, as usual, we're giving away free stuff. Hang in there, folks, we'll be right back this sounds like something for the authorities in Detroit.
Announcer: 0:25
Joke's on you. I'm living to 102 and then dying at the city of Detroit.
Matt Fox: 0:29
Guys, like this antique over here, out of Detroit, spawned in the hellfires of Motown, take him to Detroit.
Announcer: 0:38
No, no, not Detroit, no, no, please Anything, but that no. Stationed in Drambuie, my guy is worse than Detroit. We did not have, as a unit, the confidence that we felt like we needed to beat Detroit. Let's go to Detroit. Now you're talking brother. I don't think so. He plays for Detroit. Now Do they have many farms in Detroit? Detroit it's in Michigan.
Matt Fox: 1:03
I go to school, I know where Detroit is.
Announcer: 1:05
Get ready for the Motor City hypnotist, david R Wright. Originating from the suburbs of Detroit, michigan, he has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis. Welcome the Motor City Hypnotist, david R Wright.
David Wright: 1:52
What is going on, my friends? This is David Wright and this is another episode of the Motor City.
Matt Fox: 2:00
Hypnotist Podcast. The Pi episode's over.
David Wright: 2:02
Yeah, we had. Pi 314 was our last episode. This is 315,. In case you wondered, that is Matt Fox, the other voice you hear. Yeah, we have. Pie 314 was our last episode. This is 315,. In case you wondered, that is Matt Fox, the other voice you hear. Yes, it is.
David Wright: 2:13
We're here in the palatial podcast, your Voice, southfield Studios, happy to be here Hanging out doing a podcast, enjoying a beverage. You know, just a normal Monday night for us. It's all good, this is what we do. It's all fun, so cool.
David Wright: 2:23
Let me tell you, folks, where you can find me. First, my website is MotorCityHypnotistcom. Check it out. All kinds of good stuff on there. You can find information, products, all kinds of stuff, especially if you're interested in a show of some type. There's the place to go. Yes, it is my social media links. Facebook and YouTube are both Motor City Hypnotist. Snapchat, instagram and TikTok are all Motor City Hypno. H-y-p-n-o.
David Wright: 2:48
Yes, and as usual, as we've done every episode, going back to number one and we're on 315, text the word HYPNOSIS to 313-800-8510. Yes, please, within a few moments you'll get a text from well automated text, but it's coming from me. It will give you a free hypnosis guide. It's a PDF that I wrote Again gives you kind of an overview of hypnosis what it is, what it's not, how it works and dispel some myths and misconceptions. That's yours totally for free, and also it will give you a link to my Google page Motor City Hypnotist Google page. If you could leave a review there, it would be greatly appreciated. Again, if you need that phone number, maybe you're driving, you can't find it, or whatever it's on the website, it's the same phone number on the website MotorCityHypnotistcom Sweet. So do that and you'll have that within a few minutes.
David Wright: 3:38
Man so much great stuff out there. I know it is, it really is. It is time, matt, is it? Yes, it is, that's how winning is done. All righty, this comes out of Wales.
Matt Fox: 3:58
Okay, we're on the other side of the pond, we're on the other side of the pond.
David Wright: 4:02
All right, this is the touching moment. A rugby team carried a wheelchair-bound dad to the summit of Snowdon, helping to fulfill his lifelong dream. Okay, members of the Bangor Rugby Club helped Phil Thompson to the Welsh Mountains' 33,650-foot summit earlier this month, god bless. The 66-year-old has always wanted to reach the top of Snowdon but thought it would be impossible after a motorbike accident at age 19. Was he paralyzed? Yes, oh.
David Wright: 4:38
Phil's 29-year-old son, sam Thompson, plays for Bangor and when Mark Owen on the team heard about the dream, he knew he could make it happen. Oh, my goodness, this is great. The club had already been planning a fundraising trip to Snowden, aka WIDFA I don't even know how to say it W-Y-D-D-F-A, widfa, widfa. So this tied in perfectly. So this tied in perfectly. It wasn't what we'd initially planned, but it ended up being the perfect addition to our fundraiser, said Mark from Bangor in northeast Wales. Bangor Rugby Club is a very community-focused and Phil hasn't missed a game in over years, come rain or shine. That's great. So when I heard that reaching the Snowden Summit had always been a dream of Phil's, it felt only right to help him get there. The 41 year old told swns news agency okay, mark began planning the fundraiser in early may after hearing that some of their funding had been cut by the welsh rugby union.
David Wright: 5:37
As an active member of the bengal rugby rugby club, he wanted to ensure they'd be able to keep offering their youth activities. When we heard the WRU were cutting our funding, we weren't necessarily surprised, recalled Mark. That's why I thought we should do something ourselves. I'd initially thought we would climb Snowdon carrying tackle bags, which most people are on board for. Then Sam mentioned to me about his dad and how he'd always wanted to summit Snowden. Phil had an unfortunate motorcycle accident when he was 19 and has been in a wheelchair ever since, mark said. Hearing this part of the story made me really want to help and it fit perfectly with what we wanted to do. Mark had initially talked with Snowden Park to organize an electric wheelchair to take Phil from Camp Lianberis to the summit, but just days before the event they learned the wheelchair could only be used on another route and only go partway up. I would imagine that that makes sense.
Announcer: 6:39
Yeah.
David Wright: 6:41
You can only get a chair so far.
Matt Fox: 6:43
The terrain A mountain, it's a mountain You've got terrain to deal with.
David Wright: 6:49
So they decided to see if they could get a frame so they could carry Phil in his chair. Holy schnock, yeah. It was just three days before the climb so we were all a bit panicked. Luckily we found an amazing welding company, proweld in Karnforan, who sorted us a frame for free within the allotted time. I hope it was lightweight. The last minute save meant the whole fundraiser was actually able to go ahead. On the day of the climb everyone met at the club premises at 5 am and set off. The majority of the team started from the bottom carrying tackle bags until they reached Camp camp Lyamberis where Phil was waiting. Everyone partaking the fundraiser over the age of 16 helped carry Phil up Snowden until they reached the summit over three hours later.
Matt Fox: 7:35
Okay, so the top of the summit you said was 33,000 feet, yeah, 30. Is that, what is that? It's a. It's a high, what is that? Above sea level.
David Wright: 7:45
Because you can barely breathe at 13,000. It's hard to say it because it's in England, so I don't know. 3650 is the summit, 3650. Okay, I mean, it is so. To put it in context, Everest is if I'm remembering correctly I could be way off on this 26,000 and some change.
Matt Fox: 8:09
This is 33.
David Wright: 8:10
Yeah, 3,000.
Matt Fox: 8:12
Oh, I'm sorry, 3,000.
David Wright: 8:14
So it's not like a huge mountain.
Matt Fox: 8:16
I'm thinking I'm in my 30s. No, no, you got it, you're all good, okay.
David Wright: 8:21
So yeah, I mean, it's not a huge mountain, but still to get a wheelchair up 3,600 feet that's a challenge, but they're rugby players, they can handle it yeah.
David Wright: 8:31
It was really a touching moment, said Mark. Sam got quite emotional at the top and thanked everyone telling them what it meant to him and his father. I know Phil's not a very emotional guy, but I saw he had a moment looking out from the peak as well as helping Phil check off a bucket list item. The GoFundMe campaign succeeded in raising over $2,100 in the first week following the event. Love this. A special thanks to ProWeld and CairnForn for fabricating the frame. Your skill and generosity made this possible, said Mark.
David Wright: 9:05
Wow that's great this challenge showed what our club is truly about community determination and looking out for one another. Here's to many more.
Matt Fox: 9:12
Love that yeah just great story.
David Wright: 9:15
Yeah, I mean, even on a 3,000 or 3,600, I know that it's probably. I mean, if you saw it it would probably look big, oh, of course, but in comparison, like Everest or or any of the other major mountains. But but the whole point is, sky's in a wheelchair. I mean, yeah, To get, even get them up a thousand feet would be a challenge, but 3,600 feet you got the whole team.
Matt Fox: 9:37
They're all got them on his back.
David Wright: 9:39
And again there's a whole team, so they probably just kind of all traded off and pitched in Sure, absolutely Definitely Great story, definitely winner of the week.
Announcer: 9:57
Excellent.
David Wright: 10:00
That's how winning is done. Yes, it is, so back to it. So, folks, we're here on part two of mental health resilience, and we talked about in the first episode again really, what that means, the definition of what resilience is, especially when it comes to mental health, and then we also talked about self-care and physical well-being and gave you some things that you can do to address that yes, self-care and physical well-being and gave you some things that you can do to address that?
David Wright: 10:25
Yes, so we're going to go from self-care and physical well-being and we're going to start this episode with mindset and emotional regulation. Now, when I say emotional regulation, people might not understand really what that means. But I'm going to go through some of these things and you'll kind of get the idea of it as we go. Okay, but but I'm going to go through some of these things and you'll kind of get the idea of it as we go. Okay, so the first thing is we want, we want to be able to, to be able to cultivate a growth mindset in your mind. So what that means is that events, things that happen, people, interactions, all of those are opportunities to learn and to grow. What about things that haven't happened? That's interesting. We'll get into that. Okay, we'll get into that a bit. So really the thing is, I guess the simplest way I can put it is embrace change, and I know that's very difficult for some people, but oftentimes when things change it's not our choice, we don't plan that, let me.
Matt Fox: 11:26
Let me add another wrinkle to that Feedback how to take feedback? Yeah, because a lot of folks will take feedback on a personal level, but you have to look at the positive of that feedback and then work from there instead of looking at it negatively or look at it, look at it as a personal attack. Yeah, Okay, yeah, I just had to throw that out there.
David Wright: 11:48
And you're right, because a lot of times it's very difficult to take criticism, even if it's constructive. And, again, having a good emotional mindset or a healthy emotional state means that you can accept constructive criticism.
Matt Fox: 12:03
Thank you for that clarification. When I say fear, I did mean constructive criticism, absolutely.
David Wright: 12:09
I know exactly what you're saying. So really, it's a chance for you to embrace these opportunities, even if they seem bad or even if they seem negative. You can't look at that as failures. These are all opportunities. So again, I know nobody wants someone to pass.
David Wright: 12:26
We mentioned grief in the first episode. To kind of hit on that as an analogy, came out swinging and we did. But even with that and let's just stand that same analogy to keep it even but even that it's not wanted, it's not something we enjoy, it's not something we're looking forward to, but it is something we can use to grow Absolutely and to help ourselves with that emotional growth mindset. So we mentioned regulation, emotional regulation. Really, what does that mean? It really, honestly, simply put it, means that you're able to identify and manage your emotions effectively. Many times people don't, they're not aware of their emotional state. A lot of times it and you can see this with individuals who might have a I'll use the term short fuse or short temper there's just the snap reaction but there's not this awareness of where you're at. Knee jerk reaction, yeah, knee jerk reaction Same.
Matt Fox: 13:26
thing.
David Wright: 13:27
Yeah, and you have to identify that and be able to manage that. And if it sneaks up on you and it comes out and you're not aware of it or you're not planning on it, that's something you need to be aware of. But it is something again. We look at positives and taking opportunities for growth. Say that you lose your temper and blow up on your spouse or your kid or a coworker. The important thing is to recognize okay, that was probably not good.
Matt Fox: 13:56
That was not the appropriate response.
David Wright: 14:00
Yes, okay, that that probably was probably not good, that was not the appropriate response, yes, and, and by doing that it helps you to kind of of recognize it before it gets too far, before you have to kind of backpedal or make an apology, which again you should be. So, to develop emotional regulation, we use things like deep breathing, which we mentioned as one of the steps in in the prior episode. The other thing is cognitive reframing and people say, well, what does that mean?
Matt Fox: 14:25
all right, so I'll call myself out on this. Yeah, and I'm not going to blame genetics. Yeah, but from an irish, german, french descent, if you will, scottish vv, vv, knee-jerk reactions are a part of your psyche and yep, it took me a long time to realize that in myself, and when I did it was too late, ah, and there was no going back. You, you know things had been said, things had been. You know, right, it happened. Yes, now, in my current state of age and still having the same genetics. Right, the cognitive reframing, because you brought that up, and I'm like bam, that is where the self-mindness comes in, to be aware that the appropriate response is not the first reaction.
David Wright: 15:22
Right, yes, and when I say cognitive reframing, it is looking at it in a different way. You see a situation, your normal perception. I'll make up just a random, simple example. Somebody says something to you and you're offended by it.
David Wright: 15:44
immediately you go to anger or go to defensiveness, or go to or or go on the attack yeah and, but yes, if, if you, if you reframe that in your mind and say what did they say, what was the intention? And many times you'll find out that the result was not the intention at all, it was just a misunderstanding.
Matt Fox: 16:06
That's why I have such high regard for folks like yourself as a therapist, because you, sitting there, are hearing things that you have a varying opinion on and you cannot show that emotion. You can't react to words that they said. So you know you, you have an important job to not react and then reframe. You're always reframing and helping that individual to see through what they're going.
David Wright: 16:37
You, you just see it in a different way, just to see it a different way.
Matt Fox: 16:40
Yes, exactly, and it's astounding to me that you do that and that you're so good at it, yeah.
David Wright: 16:46
Yeah, and it's really helpful, because if we can retrain our minds, then the feelings and the behaviors follow. That's where it starts, though you can't change behavior without changing your mind. Sure, that's the key.
Matt Fox: 17:01
And that's where social workers in this day and age they have such a tough job with the populations that are out there that they're working with Right. They have such a difficult job sometimes to not react, not show the emotion that they're feeling at that point in time when talking to a client or a customer or whatever you want to call it.
David Wright: 17:21
Absolutely, the other thing that you can do is practice self-compassion. So here's a big one, because a lot of times when we F up, we beat ourselves up more than anyone else ever could.
Matt Fox: 17:33
You don't know me yeah.
Announcer: 17:38
What in places are you?
David Wright: 17:39
talking about me. That's all I wanted yeah, that escalated quickly.
Announcer: 17:45
I mean that really got out of hand fast right, right, right.
David Wright: 17:49
But my point is that that nobody is perfect. We all have our flaws, we all have our deficiencies and and these are things that we can recognize and try to work on. But the big thing is is that that you have to be kind to yourself, because here's the cycle that happens somebody who's, who's, who's, I, I don't know let's say that they they have. I'll go back to the anger things I just mentioned that I will stand that same analogy Somebody who has this short temper and is snapping at everyone. They don't feel good about that. In most cases they feel guilty about it, but that just perpetuates a cycle because they get guilty and they beat themselves up and then it's more likely to happen again in the future. So the big thing is you have to have self-compassion and treat yourself with the same understanding you would try to give to a friend or a family member that's going through a tough time.
Matt Fox: 18:41
That's, those Irish genetics that are coming out.
David Wright: 18:44
Yep and going with that. The next thing is this is difficult. With training you can get there. Stay optimistic, yeah, Many times again. A pessimist is always going to look at the negative and the worst case scenario, and that causes anxiety, it causes depression, it causes physical issues.
Matt Fox: 19:06
My glass is less than half full.
David Wright: 19:08
Yeah, there we go, mine is also Mine is almost empty. Now again I can look at that and say that's a fact. But if it were that?
Announcer: 19:17
if it were that level again, it's better perception.
David Wright: 19:21
Is it half full or half empty? It doesn't matter, it's it matters.
Matt Fox: 19:24
It's the same and it matters what's in it.
David Wright: 19:26
Yes, well, yeah, that, that, that too Right. But but it's also just being aware of okay, how can I be more optimistic, how can I be more positive? And if you can get that up front, those negative emotions tend to be less harsh, yeah, less severe. Yeah, let's say here's a big thing, learn from past experiences, and I know the old adage is that with age comes wisdom, and I believe that 100%, 100. Well, put it this way, if I could go back to age 18 with the knowledge I have now, well, hindsight, I would be a king hindsight is always 2020.
Matt Fox: 20:09
you can't change the past right. Only thing you can do is change right the present and the future based on how you react in the present. Absolutely, it's like the Thanos thing, come on.
David Wright: 20:20
Yeah, but I mean, the big thing is that you learn from past mistakes or past, I'm going to say mistakes past experiences. Learn from past experiences. It's so frustrating to see somebody just do the same thing over and over again. That doesn't work.
Matt Fox: 20:38
Well, what's that? See, there's. What is that?
David Wright: 20:41
called. That's called insanity Doing the same thing over and over again and expect a different result? Right, Absolutely. The other thing you can do is to build a supportive network social connections, friends, families, mentors. Having a strong support system is going to help you be more self-aware.
Matt Fox: 21:01
Let me ask you this question. You've been in your industry for a very long time 32 years almost. Did you have a mentor?
David Wright: 21:09
Oh, absolutely.
Matt Fox: 21:10
How often do you speak with those folks you consider mentors?
David Wright: 21:13
Here's the thing, and I'll do a little sidebar here. So, starting in my my junior year of high school, I went to summer camp.
Matt Fox: 21:22
Yeah.
David Wright: 21:23
Up at, and it was with the church I was associated with at the time in Southgate. The pastor of that church also ran a summer camp, so I went up there when I was junior year of high school, so I was probably 15, 16.
David Wright: 21:40
Starting my senior year in high school, I started working at the summer camp as a staff member. I became a camp counselor Okay, a camp for adolescents, teenagers, we do like. I think at the time this gosh, this is 30 years ago, no more than that. You were still sniffing glue back then. Come on, yeah, it was my. It was my, my year, my graduating year of high school was 83, and I started working summer camp that summer Great, and I did that for seven summers all through college.
Matt Fox: 22:10
Until you were like 25? And into grad school, that's beautiful?
David Wright: 22:12
No, I was like, let me count 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23. Okay 23, my last year on staff, but I had a ton of mentors there. But here's the thing it's also experience, because I was dealing with teenagers and, yes, it was a Christian camp, but I'm not focusing on the religious. Well, that part is important, but the big important is just learning how to interact with people and help them with issues that they're dealing with.
Matt Fox: 22:44
It was the. That's where it started. It was the early eighties.
Matt Fox: 22:47
That was the best time to be granted a child, a teenager Cause we I look at people, kids, teenagers today and it's a totally different mentality. You support them and and everything that they want to do, Right, but there is a way that we did it back in the day. I'm a 74 kid, I was born in 74. I'm way ahead of you. You are, but I still have the mentality of growing up in the 80s and being able to go outside when the sun came up, on my bike all day, and then, when the sun came down and the streetlights came on, that's when I went home.
David Wright: 23:25
It is a different and I guess every generation can probably have these, can say this. But the big thing is is just having that connection, that nurturing place or people you can go to. Because here's what happens a lot of times with clients that I see they become depressed, they become anxious, they're having all of these mental health issues. They typically will withdraw because they don't want to talk to anybody about it. So you're not using a built-in support system and, granted, some people don't have that. Some people might not have a family, some people might not have a lot of close friends, but they might be resistant in talking to this support system about what they're going through.
Matt Fox: 24:11
And I know you probably answered the question, but do you still speak with those folks in your life?
David Wright: 24:16
Oh, I'm still in contact. In fact I just did, matt, and if you guys want to look, it's on my Facebook page. It's probably on my personal page, but I can get this link for you and put it on the Motor City Hymnist page. I just did a podcast episode with friends that I was with during these summer camp times. That's great. It's called Beyond Hiawatha the podcast and they interview prior staff members.
David Wright: 24:41
I love that About their experience at camp, what it taught them, what, what an influence they had in their life, what you're doing now. So so yeah, we, it's probably. It's probably not too long. I'm going to say it's probably a half hour, um, but but yeah, we talked about the influence campaign and I and I even said in this podcast my my work as a teenager, helping other teenagers, led me to, to my career and what I do today.
Matt Fox: 25:05
That's brilliant. It's really brilliant. I love that.
David Wright: 25:09
So again, get support from people around you and take advantage of those people. Not in a bad way, I'm just saying take advantage of their support.
Matt Fox: 25:18
No, absolutely, but you have to seek it out. You can't just expect them to say, hey.
David Wright: 25:23
No, they're not just going to offer people Right. I mean that might happen, but that that's an anomaly, it's not normal, but you need to seek out those, those mentors. Seek out support when you need it. That support, absolutely Okay. Here's another thing Get involved in your community, how, whatever that means to you.
David Wright: 25:41
You know, maybe it's a volunteering, maybe it's a support a food bank or an animal shelter or or you know that there are all kinds of things to do to get you out and and interacting with other people. Now, I know there's some resistance to that, with a lot of people who might be a little agoraphobic. That that's fear of public places, by the way, or open spaces, sure. But the big thing is, is that this, this is going to help you? You it's, it's, it's going to get you? There was a more positive mindset.
Matt Fox: 26:12
There was a story that I saw on the news here locally a couple of them and one was they were growing vegetables in their own garden, yeah, and then putting what they grew out on the curbside. And then we're donating said food to families in their community that had a need. And word got around and that individual's garden started to grow and it got bigger and bigger. Now they actually have a garden and it's a food bank bank. It's become a food bank for the community. Now are people taking advantage of that? I, I hope to god not right, but there are folks in your community that really need that support and if you've got really great soil.
Matt Fox: 26:55
Grow some tomatoes, get some cucumbers and zucchini. Plant those seeds and you're going to be able to give back more than you ever thought you could.
David Wright: 27:02
Here's the other thing, and I'm, and I'm going to be able to give back more than you ever thought you could. Here's the other thing, and I'm going to say this this is not even in my notes, but, as a therapist, this is something I talk to clients to a lot If you want to feel better about yourself, whatever issues you're dealing with and I know this sounds simplistic and trite, but it's just be kind, yes, be kind to other people. The more you do that, I guarantee it, and I don't say guarantee, but I guarantee, if you do that, you're going to feel better about yourself. Right, I guarantee it.
Matt Fox: 27:38
I actually had an experience today and I was walking into a CVS to pick up a prescription and there was a person that was getting out of their car. They were parked in the handicap spot and I look at those folks as they want to do things on their own. They don't want someone to say do you need help? Right, and this individual was. It was moving slowly but they, you know, had hand on the car, pushed themselves up onto the curb and they were moving at their pace. I looked at them and I smiled, as in a kind smile, as an. I'm proud of you for, you know, being that, being that person getting out there and doing your thing, did I want to offer them a cart, to you know, for them to walk in? Yes, absolutely, but that she, they didn't look like the person that would accept. Yeah, maybe not, and I and I made that call myself Did I think about it?
David Wright: 28:33
Yes, but here's the thing, you were aware of it. Yes, I looked them in the eye and I gave them a smile. Let me give you another good story. I was at Kroger Gosh. It was cold out. Oh, the K Roger. Yeah, I, I know it was cold out because I, I remember I had my. I had a coat on, but so I went into Kroger I it was on the way home from work.
David Wright: 28:51
So this is like nine at night, like Kroger's almost closing down. They close at 10. Parked like like facing me, but one spot over, so like kitty corner. Okay now, right, right.
David Wright: 29:10
So as I'm walking out I see the guy standing next to his car and he just like. He's like, hey, man, I'm just checking my, my battery's dead, do you have jumper cables? And I'm like, oh, dude man, I'm sorry, I, I, I don't. I said I have jumper cables at home. I don't have any in my vehicle. So we talked for a little bit and he's like yeah, I'm trying to get home, to get to my mom, and this guy's probably in his 30s, 40s.
David Wright: 29:31
I'm trying to go. I got some stuff from my mom. I'm trying to get home, my battery's dead and I don't know, I don't have anybody, I've anybody. I've tried calling people and I'm like dude, I'm sorry, I don't have jumper cables, so I so I'm like no kidding, our house is probably three minutes from the kroger. Okay, turn out, turn left, make another left or you're in my subdivision, okay. I got home and I thought for a minute and I'm like I'm going back. Yeah, grab my jumper cables out of the garage, threw him on my my explorer, drove back to kroger. He's still there, sure, I drove up and I'm like brother, I got you. See, he's like whoa, are you serious? Yeah, that's great. And I jumped his vehicle, got him on his way. Guy gave me a hug in the parking lot. He was so appreciative.
David Wright: 30:17
It's called being kind, like you said earlier, see, but that's the thing, and this that's the thing, and and and this, this was not. I mean you could say again you can make an argument that, oh, you had to go out of your way. Well, yeah, a little bit. Yeah, I had to drive back home and get them and drive back, but it was 10 o'clock at night, your day was over, but the point being is I.
David Wright: 30:37
it just feels so good to help someone, and if you can just get people to do that, you're just going to feel better.
Matt Fox: 30:48
Everybody wants to help somebody. Everybody wants to help. Not everybody wants to help, I'm sorry. No, everybody wants to help somebody. However, if you do help somebody, are they going to take advantage of that, and that's where that line's where people go. I don't want to help somebody.
David Wright: 31:05
But let's use my example. What's the worst case scenario? How's a guy going to take advantage of me?
Announcer: 31:12
I don't know.
Matt Fox: 31:12
No, no, I get it.
David Wright: 31:13
My brain can go in different directions, but I will say that there are people who probably would think that way. But here's the thing.
Matt Fox: 31:32
But this goes back to mindset if you're always thinking the negative, yeah, it's going to limit your ability to feel good. That that's the whole point. I I'm going to continue to live vicariously for you. Absolutely do that. No, I know, I'm happy that you did that you know, no, no, it just speaks volumes to the person that you are.
David Wright: 31:40
This is a big thing. As far as again, if you want to feel better about yourself, help other people, it is. And I know for some people it's like, oh, I don't like people. But no, here's the thing that this is how you make connections, this is what makes us human, sure, yes, yeah. Next thing Okay, setting goals and taking action.
Matt Fox: 32:01
All right, setting goals and taking action, all right. So are we talking intentions? Are we talking smart goals or just?
David Wright: 32:05
goals. No, we're talking smart goals, but here's the thing Set realistic goals. And these are smart goals Small, measurable, attainable, specific, measurable Time measured Realistic time bound, realistic time bound, but you know what's?
Matt Fox: 32:17
new these days, not just smart goals, smarty goals, oh goals, smarty goals, oh. What's the why? What's the why is you? Oh okay, what do you get out of that?
David Wright: 32:28
goal. Right, those smart goals, but. But here's the thing if, if you're having, or if you're struggling with something, you need to break it down into manageable steps, things that are easily attainable, one at a time. I'll go back to the workout. I've used this example a lot when I say to clients you need to be more physically active. You're not going to go to the gym for three hours a day. Every day, you might start at 10 minutes a day. That's fine. It's a manageable, achievable goal. That's the important thing. Make it achievable. Don't make it easy and it's realistic, but make it realistic and achievable and time bound 10 minutes Yep.
David Wright: 33:09
And that time bound will change as you get more into it. And when you set these goals, then you have to take action. Here's the thing, and this is human nature in general, I think A lot of times when we're having a difficult time or a challenge or a mental health issue, we always think, oh, if I just wait it out, it'll pass. Here's the.
Announcer: 33:26
Thing.
David Wright: 33:26
You've got to take action because chances are it's not going to pass, it's only going to get worse. That's exactly what I was going to say. And you have to take action when it's in its infancy, because once it becomes an old person it's so much harder to get rid of.
Matt Fox: 33:42
Or a toddler, yeah, or a teenager, absolutely.
David Wright: 33:47
And and here's the big thing, this is so tough for so many people embrace change, be flexible and adaptive. I know that goes against every a lot of people's just psyche that I want things in this order in this timeframe. I don't want to veer off. You say embrace and that's a strong word right Anticipate, anticipate.
Matt Fox: 34:14
Things are going to change, cause if you know things are going to a change, then you can see what that change is and then you can take steps to then embrace Right.
David Wright: 34:23
And this goes back to the whole title of this episode. Embracing change means you're resilient, means you're handling it. You know that a change is going to come, you're ready for it, you address it and you move on. Sure that that's kind of the whole point of this whole episode is that you can incorporate these strategies to help you just become to feel better Again. Whether it be anxiety, depression, it doesn't matter what you're dealing with. Whatever unhappiness or whatever issues that you're dealing with, these are the things that you need to embrace change.
Matt Fox: 35:00
Things will get better when you embrace the fact that things will get better.
David Wright: 35:07
And just know again. It's goes back to the thing that events in our lives some are good, some are not good, but they all make up what we are Right. So learn from mistakes, embrace change and just try to be happy. That's a trite statement. It's probably not the right thing. Try to improve yourself. That's the key.
Matt Fox: 35:35
And it's okay to reach out for help.
David Wright: 35:37
Absolutely, but that's the whole thing. I'm a therapist. I want people to reach out for help. I want people to come in and talk about their things. And, matt, I know I've said this probably thousands of times on this podcast I say this to every client that comes in Everybody's effed up. Everybody, everybody should be talking to someone. That is the key. So, if you're dealing with, if you feel like your mental health has been suffering or feel like you're struggling, maybe you need to build some resilience, maybe we need to implement some of these actions that will help you to get to where you want to be. And if you follow these steps, these are tools.
Matt Fox: 36:14
We'll get there. These are definitely tools to help you be better yeah, absolutely, and resilient.
David Wright: 36:21
So that is our episode for today folks, resiliency and mental health. So before we leave, somebody needs a home. Who dat?
Matt Fox: 36:28
who dat geo geo? How do you spell geo geo?
David Wright: 36:33
all right, is it born 2021 okay, schnauzer male okay, it's about 10 pounds, okay. Another small puppy dog friendly yes, okay. Cat friendly unknown okay. Kid friendly yes. Old over five okay, most schnauzers Okay, it's about 10 pounds Okay. A small puppy Dog friendly yes, okay. Cat friendly Unknown Okay. Kid friendly yes, old over five Okay, most Schnauzers are over five. And activity levels low. So he's only four. Four years old at max. Oh, it's born in 2021.
Matt Fox: 36:57
Gio needs a home. Oh, come on, look at those ears, they're so fluffy, they're so fluffy. Take a look, matt. Oh, come on, geo, take them.
David Wright: 37:14
Geocaching. Geo needs a home. Detroitdogrescuecom slash adopt. Geo wants to sit in your lap tonight, yeah.
Matt Fox: 37:26
Or tomorrow night. Yeah, he does Go get him tomorrow. Come on those ears, those ears are. I'm sold on the ears, I know it's just just you know.
David Wright: 37:32
All righty folks, that is our show. Change your thinking, change your life, laugh hard, run fast, be kind, we'll see you next time.