Loneliness Fixes (part 2)

Loneliness doesn’t always look like being alone. Sometimes it looks like scrolling, posting, and still feeling invisible. We get real about the loneliness epidemic and the traps that make it worse, especially the way social media trains us to crave quick validation while offering very little true connection. We also share a mindset shift that helps immediately: online interaction is often surface-level, and your worth can’t be measured by comments, likes, or whether someone “responds.”

From there, we dig into the practical side of building adult friendships and why it feels so much harder than it did in school. As kids, proximity does the work for us. As adults, work schedules, family obligations, commuting, and fear of rejection can quietly shrink our social world. We talk about what actually grows friendship over time: repeated contact, shared experiences, and emotional openness. We also discuss a helpful benchmark many studies point to, around 50 hours together before a bond starts to feel real, which can take the pressure off if you’re expecting instant best-friend energy.

We wrap with specific, doable steps to fight social isolation: treat friendship like a priority, be the initiator, plan time together, accept that not every connection becomes close, and watch for red flags when effort is one-sided. We also talk about empathy as the foundation of real support, showing up, listening, and resisting the urge to “fix” people. If this hits home, share it with someone who might need it, subscribe for more mental health and real-life connection tools, and leave a review so more people can find the show.

Recorded 03-09-26

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Loneliness Part Two Starts Here

SPEAKER_03 0:01

In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotus Podcast, we are talking about the loneliness epidemic. This is part two. If you didn't listen to part one, you can jump back an episode or listen to this one and you can catch that one after we're done here. Either way works. You get all the information. But we are talking specifically today. If you are experiencing loneliness, what are some specific things that you can do to try to help yourself? Okay. And as usual, we're giving away free stuff. Hang in there, folks. We'll be right back.

SPEAKER_04 0:32

This sounds like something for the authorities in Detroit. Well, joke's on you. I'm living to 102 men dying at the city of Detroit.

SPEAKER_03 0:41

Guys like this can't take over here out of Detroit.

SPEAKER_02 0:44

Spawn and the hellfire's emotional. Take him to Detroit.

SPEAKER_00 0:50

Detroit!

SPEAKER_04 0:55

Stationed in Drambui. It's worse than Detroit. We did not have as a unit the confidence that we felt like we needed to beat Detroit. Let's go to Detroit. Now you're talking, brother. I don't think so. He plays for Detroit now. Do they have many farms in Detroit? Detroit to Michigan. They go to school and know where Detroit is. Get ready for the motor city hypnotist, David R. Wright, originating from the suburbs of Detroit, Michigan. He has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R. Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis. David O. Wright.

SPEAKER_02 2:20

Okay, so this has been a great day. Good. I'm just saying. Yeah. I'm not telling me about it. I'm not lonely at all. Okay, good. No, I just I just wanted to say it's been a great day.

SPEAKER_03 2:31

Yeah, that's awesome. But but fantastic.

SPEAKER_02 2:32

I want to get yeah, I want to take care of some of this stuff first before we die dive into it. Yeah, absolutely. So go ahead.

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SPEAKER_00 4:23

That's how winter is done.

SPEAKER_02 4:25

I see snow. Yes. I see a lot. I see a lot of snow. Yep. There's there has to be an animal involved.

SPEAKER_03 4:31

It is.

SPEAKER_02 4:32

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 4:33

So a group of snow snowmobilers in New Hampshire saved a young moose doe who needed a helping hoof. A moose?

SPEAKER_02 4:41

A moose. Okay. I've I know what a moose looks like. Uh-huh. I've seen a moose when I lived in Alaska. I I didn't know moose were in New Hampshire.

SPEAKER_03 4:52

I might be naive on that, but uh well, unless he unless he took a bus there. Go on. I mean, yeah, I'm just I guess. Go okay. Returning home for lunch after a morning zipping over the drifts four to five feet deep. Mike Dion told WMUR News that he and his friends came across an un unexpected sight, a moose buried up to its neck in snow. In New Hampshire. Yes. Okay. It was clearly in trouble. All they could see was a snout and the tuft of its mane above its panicked eyes. Yeah. Everyone looks at their cell phone, no service, Dion said.

SPEAKER_00 5:27

Oh boy.

SPEAKER_03 5:28

We couldn't call fish in game because I this was that was our first thought. Well, if we don't do anything, Dion remembers thinking the moose is probably not going to make it. Approaching cautiously, they found the animal was exhausted but calm. It had clearly been attempting to free itself without success. And Dion and his friends weren't even sure if its hoofs were on solid ground or not. Right. Slowly they began to dig the moose out, needing about 20 minutes on their hands and knees to do so. Eventually, we got her up and got her going, and she seemed to be in all good health, Dion said. I think she was happy. She wasn't aggressive or nasty. That's what we were worried about at first. It's a moose dough. It's a baby, it's a baby moose. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 6:13

After it was a boost. After it was free, the snowmobiler stuck around 10 minutes or so to make certain she was steady before they returned home. A fish and game department official told WMUR that moose are dangerous animals when cornered, spooked, or provoked. Yes, they are. The best course of action she recommended, if you were to find yourself in the same situation, is to call the department. Which they tried to do. Which they tried to do. The story is reminiscent of a story GNN covered in 2024 where snow snowmobilers in Anchorage dug a moose out that was trapped, but needed hours to free that beast as it had fallen and then frozen into the ice of Frozen Creek.

SPEAKER_02 6:53

Wow. You see, and that's where I know moose from is from living in Alaska. I was in Anchorage, you know, and I I know what moose are, I know what moose do. I know how they can they they can attack just because right, right? Right. So New Hampshire. New Hampshire. I need to study more, David. I need to study more.

SPEAKER_03 7:16

Apparently, so they migrated. They freed the moose. The moose is fine. Good. All good. What they call what they what'd they name her? They didn't say. Damn it.

SPEAKER_00 7:33

That's how women is done.

Why Social Media Feels Lonely

SPEAKER_02 7:36

Yes, it is. So go ahead. So so back to it. Boom. All right. I I just want to share with you. Yes. Over the past, what are we, 2026? Over the past five years, there was a there were times of loneliness with my social friends on the Facebook. Yep. All right. That's just it's a silo. That's just a separate thing from my personal life. And that's a understanding that folks have to have when it comes to feeling lonely. Yes. That is social media. That has no bearing on what you do on the daily. You wake up, you put your pants on, you go to work, you take care of your hopefully you put your pants on. Well, two times, you know, two feet at a time, you know.

SPEAKER_00 8:24

Oh, great Odin's Raven.

SPEAKER_02 8:27

But that that's the part of loneliness that a lot of folks kind of don't understand when they're feeling lonely. It's because no one on Facebook is liking me and they don't like my posts and what have you, or Instagram, or here's the thing.

SPEAKER_03 8:41

Just just imagine, just in general, social media, and let's just take Facebook alone. Yeah. And there's uh who knows how many other social media outlets, but but but even so, even there, you like, you make a comment, there might be some interaction, but but it's it's it's just it's it's surface level, it's it's it's all in and I and here's the thing, and I said it in the first episode on loneliness. Social media is a projection of what you want people to see, sure. It is not necessarily what you're really feeling at the time, right? So it is skewed, it it and there, there is some it's not accurate sometimes.

SPEAKER_02 9:22

So let me nerd out for a second, Katie Sackoff, yeah, Starbuck, yeah, Battlestar Galactica. Do you know what she's been doing for the past week, week and a half? I just saw her. Oh, what I I just saw her she is watching Battlestar Galactica for the first time.

SPEAKER_03 9:39

Yes, that's what I saw.

SPEAKER_02 9:40

Yes, and you know, people comment or what have you. If you comment, do you expect to get a reaction? You hope. No, I mean, you shouldn't hope. Well, I know, but that's the that's the whole point of what we're talking about with social media. You make a comment, you have an interest in the show that she was in, yes, and she is now watching her character in the show that she was in for the very first time. You want to be a part of it, you make a comment. If she doesn't respond, who fucking cares?

SPEAKER_03 10:10

And but here's the thing somebody like her, there's probably gonna be thousands of comments, it's impossible it to respond.

SPEAKER_02 10:17

Who cares at that point? You just you comment, you know what? I'm glad you're doing this. Yeah, that's all you need to say because you are you you're proud of her for going to the point where she's gonna watch herself on television. That in itself takes a lot of fucking guts, yeah. And I'm sorry to drop the F bomb, but you could say F all you want, who cares? But it takes a lot of guts to go back and watch yourself.

SPEAKER_04 10:39

Are you talking about? You're like, oh my god, that escalated quickly. I mean, that really got out of hand fast.

SPEAKER_02 10:46

What I'm trying to say is when it comes to the loneliness part in social media, yes, it should not matter if you make a comment, you should not expect a reaction.

Why Adult Friends Feel Harder

SPEAKER_03 10:55

I I mean, yes, you're you're right, because you may not get chances are you're not going to get a reaction. That that's the whole thing. So, but then but that brings up the question. Why it seems like, and and this is this is probably factual because when I say it seems like it really is, it's much easier to make friends as children than as adults. Yeah, now why is that? Well, I'll tell you one thing. One, you're in school, classmates are your built-in friend group.

SPEAKER_02 11:20

Hey, hey David, David, do you like Legos?

SPEAKER_03 11:23

Yeah, I love Legos. So do I. I do too. You wanna you want to build a Lego together?

SPEAKER_02 11:27

You want to be friends? Yeah, let's make let's make the Death Star.

SPEAKER_03 11:30

Let's my mom's gonna come and pick you up. But but see, but that's a whole thing. Your your friend group is children, are your classmates, your neighbors, whoever's in your direct vicinity in your neighborhood. Sure, because I remember as a kid, Scott lived two doors down across the street were Debbie and Karen and Sharon, and then two doors down from then were David and Randy and Timothy. You re and you remember all these absolutely because we spent our whole childhoods together. Yeah, that that's that's kind of the point. It's just built in as kids that you have that friend, so classmates, neighbors, teammates. If you've ever done organized sports, I played Little League as a kid. I got friends through there. So so here's the thing as an adult, we don't have the only thing we have built in necessarily is our is our jobs, and much of the time our friendships, friendships are dictated by our environment, yes, for the most part. For the most part, your environment when you were a kid was in school or in your neighborhood, your environment as an adult is at work, or if you have other ex extracurricular activities, but as an adult, it just something changes, it's it's it's some suddenly feels awkward or complicated to meet new people.

SPEAKER_02 12:54

All right, so we're gonna break this down a little bit in this next in this next segment because we're gonna talk about how, yes, right? Yep, so absolutely. So before you get into that, let me share with you that I have been very fortunate and I recognize that it takes it takes a strong person to recognize they're not lonely. They might feel that they're lonely. It takes a strong person to realize okay, I have a strong network of friends, it's all about the network. You have to have a strong base, you have a strong foundation, you have to have a good network. They talk about that all the time, right? So when I was going through my BS of no longer being married, yes, I've kept around my my network of friends. And I love these people, yeah. And these people, there were there were about 25 individuals that helped me put my house up for sale by removing everything that was in the house, it was amazing, and I and I've contributed to to those 25, you know, network of friends to their causes as well. It's just we all come together in a moment's notice. Someone someone can say, I need some help with X, Y, and Z because of X, Y, and Z. And A, B, and C is D C and E. We just come together, yeah, and and we just support one another. That network, that support group is so incredibly important, and it takes a strong person to rely on that, right?

SPEAKER_03 14:34

And and it takes effort too. Oh, yeah, to be because here's the thing in our adult lives, we have work, we have family obligations. If you work at a job, you probably have to commute every day. Sure, you have personal commitments as far as your own responsibilities and doctor appointments and things that you have to take care of. So friendship often be or relationships with other people often becomes very low on the priority list because you have all these other adult things to worry about.

SPEAKER_02 15:03

And I and I use I use the number 25 very loosely, it's it's a it expands, it just continues to expand, but it's a network, it's a resource.

SPEAKER_03 15:13

And again, the other challenging thing as an adult is that we we even though as kids we have fear of rejection, we never had that, or rarely would you would would it prevent you from doing or talking or being with other people because it's built in. So so, but as an adult, you have a choice not to interact. As a kid, you're you're you're forced into the situation, right? So a lot of times fears of rejection come into play, and that's why maybe people feel like they're awkward or they don't fit in, or you know, what if what if they don't like me? What if I what if I'm bothering them? Shut up, Marty. And here's the thing shut up, Marty. I know.

SPEAKER_00 15:56

No, no, don't shut me up.

SPEAKER_02 15:59

He said back to the the the movie Back to the Future. When he went back in time and saw his dad, I kids just can't, I just can't face that fear of rejection of rejection. Right. He said that not two minutes ago in his own time. Yes, I know, yeah. It it's exponential, it it crosses over generations.

The Real Time It Takes

SPEAKER_03 16:17

So here's the other challenge that that maybe a lot of adults have, and it's skewed based on just information that we we consume on a daily basis. Movies, TV shows, even social media, it it that there's this kind of this myth that you meet somebody and you're best friends and you're locked in for life. And honestly, here's the thing many many studies have been done on this, and it shows that strong friendships have to develop over time, it doesn't happen instantaneously. No, of course, it doesn't happen immediately.

SPEAKER_02 16:54

You know, you know what the uh number one instigator of a friendship breaking up is between two gentlemen. Your this is your best friend for you know middle school, elementary school, middle school, high school.

SPEAKER_03 17:08

Yes, women, yeah. Well, um yeah, I I can get that. But but but again, here's the thing we can get a hold or get a whole other side about dysfunctional behaviors in relationships, yeah. So so we'll we'll we'll we'll address that in the podcast.

SPEAKER_01 17:28

Did I just find a topic for next to find a topic?

SPEAKER_03 17:31

Oh yeah, so it's interesting. Numerous studies have found that there's a certain amount of time that has to has to pass before a friendship becomes real, yeah. So what do you think that time frame would be in hours? Oh, what do you think?

SPEAKER_02 17:49

Hours and hours from from when you meet them to hours together. I would say at least a hundred and something. Actually, it's not that, it's 50. Really?

SPEAKER_03 18:02

50 hours depends on the person, though, sure. But I mean, the studies have found that, so the majority of people I found it probably takes a minimum of 50 hours to really make a solid friendship.

SPEAKER_02 18:14

I found a Toy Story friend within 20 minutes, yeah, and he's still my one of my best friends today. Do we talk all the time? No, do we pick up where we left off the last time? Absolutely, that's a best friend. Yep.

SPEAKER_03 18:32

So here's how friendships grow. Like say you meet somebody, you have something in common, uh-huh, repeated contact. That's of course what friends do, shared experiences, sure, and emotional openness. And that's the key one because a lot of times we can be with people every day and never be emotionally open.

SPEAKER_02 18:50

David, was there was there alcohol involved?

SPEAKER_03 18:53

I mean, maybe who knows?

SPEAKER_02 18:55

That's see, and and that that's a part of it as well.

SPEAKER_03 18:58

So, so consider it friendships are not a spark, they're a slow build. Yes, they are a slow build, and that's exactly how you should perceive them and address them and approach them.

SPEAKER_02 19:09

All right, so thank you for pulling me back.

SPEAKER_03 19:11

So, as far as what what you have friends, but what friends is a loaded word because it's a very general term. So let me ask you what if you have what what what makes a friendship meaningful?

SPEAKER_02 19:24

Who's your best friend, David?

SPEAKER_03 19:28

Probably my wife.

SPEAKER_02 19:30

Okay, so that that I love that answer. I really do. Who's your who's your best guy friend?

SPEAKER_03 19:42

See, I have that that's a tough one because I have a group of guys that I've that I've worked with and that I've known for like 30 years.

SPEAKER_02 19:49

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 19:49

So I would say Scott and Chris, that they're like, you know, in fact, in fact, my my buddy Scott, I'm I'm going out to Shelby Township on Thursday. Okay. Because we are it's it's a weird sidebar for like 20 or two minutes. So I've I golfed with him. Uh he's golfed since he was a kid, but but they do this thing where they have these four events throughout the summer and they're like rider cup type tournaments. So I'm in this group this year. This is the first time I've I've done this with them because they needed another one. So Thursday is our we're meeting out in Shelby at one of the indoor golf places as kind of the season kickoff to establish handicaps. It's a good area, so yeah. So that being, like I said, that but that's one of my friends I've known for for 30 years.

SPEAKER_02 20:40

You have guy friends for 30 years that you will do stuff with still because you have a common interest.

SPEAKER_03 20:47

Well, and but here's the other thing, and I'm gonna I'm gonna add a little bit to that. The reason these friendships have remained is because we've done things together for 30 years. Now, I only see these guys in person, I'm not kidding, maybe once or twice a year. But and you picked up where you left off the last time you were together, but we're all in the same fantasy football league and have been for 30 years. Sure. That creates common communication and contact. We hang out at least a couple of times before and after fantasy season to gloat or to to celebrate or whatever you want to do, or to talk shit about the other guy, of course. Yeah, so so but there are there are things that keep us linked together, and that and that's the other important thing because and I'll give you a real life example. My best friend from elementary through high school, love that. So we we spent the night at each other's houses, we hung out every day, we played baseball together, we were on the same high school baseball team. So we we were just together the whole time. After high school, he went to the army, I went to college, still had contact. I went to grad school, he stayed in the service about. I'm gonna say six, seven years after high school, he came over and visited, and it was like nothing changed. Yeah, no, no, it was like everything changed. It's like we were totally different. It's like we weren't even in the same world. At that point, he had seven kids. Wait, I shouldn't say that. Yeah, he had a bunch of kids, he had a bunch of kids. I think it was four by the time he was 30. All right. So that's so which is fine, but but again, that our lives just went in different paths.

SPEAKER_02 22:33

He went, he had different priorities right when you guys came back together after that time of being separated.

Steps To Build Adult Friendships

SPEAKER_03 22:39

Okay, so so it and yeah, we're Facebook friends and we comment, but we're we're never gonna be close friends again because we're we're just totally went in different directions, and that happens sometimes. Friends that you have as a kid is not are not necessarily going to be your friends for life, even though you feel like they might when you're that age. I and I get that, yes, 100% get that. So here's how to build adult friendships. I'm gonna give you some specifics. Go for it. You have to treat friendship as a priority, it can't just happen, it won't just magically exist unless you work at it.

SPEAKER_02 23:14

What you wearing.

SPEAKER_03 23:15

Connection often requires planning and scheduling time together. You have to do that. Be the one who initiates. If you're the one who's always waiting for an invitation, then you need to take action. Be the initiator. Here's the problem: many friendships never develop because neither party takes any action to develop it.

SPEAKER_02 23:35

So let me throw a wrench in there. Yeah, a lot of friends that you feel you're close to, they'll say, Hey, this is happening this weekend. Can you come? You've had plans for two months. Yeah. And your plans have to happen because you spent money, it's a reservation.

SPEAKER_03 23:56

Maybe you're going out of town.

SPEAKER_02 23:57

Who knows? How do you let them down so they still come back?

SPEAKER_03 24:01

But but see, here's the thing: if you if you're close and you have that emotional connection, and that's that's what real friends have, your friend would understand that totally. Good. That and that's real life, but if they don't, that's a red flag, correct, and that's something to be aware of, right? So the best way to foster an adult friendship is repeated contact. That's really what has to happen, whether that's you hang out once a week and and walk, or you you meet up once a month for dinner, or maybe you have shared hobbies. I mentioned fantasy football. Sure, all the guys in this league have been there for that four of us have been there the whole 30 years. Yeah, so it it's it's like we just have that constant connection. And here's the thing accept that not every friendship is going to be significant or close. Okay, perfect. Not every potential friendship is going to be a best friend. That's just it's just a matter of numbers and odds. And that's okay. Here's the thing you have to find somebody where the connection feels natural, right? If it feels forced or you don't, it just you you can tell, you know what I mean. If you're with somebody and you're like, yeah, I'm not sure I like that, you know. I and I'm not saying that sounds judgy, and that's not not what I mean, but but you know, maybe there's some just some core values that just don't align, and and it's you're just never gonna be close friends.

SPEAKER_02 25:34

So when your bride listens to this episode, yeah, part two of loneliness, uh-huh, she's going to want to be your best friend even more. Yeah, I would hope so. Yeah, because your answer was who's your best friend? And it was my wife. Yep. And that is as an individual, you have to have that friend that you 100, 150 will tell your soul to. Who do you consider those friends so you don't feel lonely 100 to you're gonna give them 150, you're only gonna give them 100.

SPEAKER_01 26:11

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 26:14

So it the the there's definite silos, and I hate to use that word.

SPEAKER_03 26:19

No, and but but I get it, I understand that, and and and that's and and it's just like any other relationship. If I said to you, okay, get married, and just don't worry about anything after that, you don't have to do any work, just coast. What the did you hit them it'll make a lot?

SPEAKER_02 26:39

Did you hit the lottery?

Rejection Fears And Red Flags

SPEAKER_03 26:41

It it's it's never going to work with without putting in work, it's not going, and it's the same thing with friendships. So, let me let me give you a couple of uh reflection questions for listeners who who are listening, and just kind of something to take with you. Go ahead. Who in your life could become a closer friend if you invested more time? Not your partner or your wife? I mean, it could be maybe maybe that's the person that that you want to become closer, a closer friend with. What if you're not married? Maybe it's a best friend, okay? So so ask the question again in that context. Who in your life could become a closer friend if you invested more time? The other one, and this is another thought for for reflection. Meaningful friendships are often nearby. We just haven't nurtured them yet. Okay, so there could be very there could be possibilities of of close friendship with many of your circle, but you haven't put the time in to foster that, to grow that, to invest in it. Sure, they could be across data. They could be, yeah. I mean, it could be, yeah. So I know as an adult connecting with people can feel challenging, especially a lot of people who deal with social anxiety in and in low self-esteem. And believe me, I talked to a lot of clients, and here's the here's kind of the sad thing, and this is a pattern, and I can say it from experience. I've seen this probably, I'm gonna say in the last 10-15 years. Okay, young males are lonely, like I'm talking ages like 18 to 30.

SPEAKER_02 28:19

I you know, I could see that, and I understand why it's the 18 to 30. It's that that's that Gen Z. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03 28:27

You know, and and often the and and and I can be I can I'm I'm making a general statement, but applies to most all of them. Most of them are are you know, they're nice kids. They're they're they're just polite, they're very timid and very unsure of themselves, and they lack confidence, and they just don't have that social the ability to engage socially, and their hair is long and they just don't know. Yeah, sometimes, sometimes, yes. But but but it's like, dude, you got you got a lot going, you got a lot going for you, right? And and it's just that self-deprecation prevents people from taking that risk and risking rejection. Because here's the thing that's real, rejection is real, it's going to happen, and and I know that sucks and it doesn't feel good, but if you avoid things for fear of rejection, you're never going to accomplish what you want to accomplish. Of course, you have to take that risk. Yeah, so again, the two things I want you to think about who in your life could become a closer friend if you invested the time to do so, and who are some nearby meaningful friendships that you haven't nurtured yet or that you could nurture more.

SPEAKER_02 29:37

And you you reach out to these individuals, you want to try to nurture these friendships, and if you get rejected, move on to the next. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 29:49

Because listen, people that there are billions, millions, billions, trillions, whatever. What are you, Trump? Yeah, I know. That's why I'm saying you know, I was just trying to make fun because I know you know I know. There's a lot of people in the world, let's just say that. And here's the thing uh not everybody's gonna be your best friend. That's just a fact. Yeah, not everybody's going to be a friend. That's okay too. Right. Find the people that you connect with that that that that that get you. That was the term I was looking for, Matt, that get you, because those are the people that that understand and and will be supportive and will be meaningful friendships for you.

SPEAKER_02 30:29

There is so much that goes into a friendship that goes into a partnership, that goes into a best friendship, yeah, that goes into somebody that you're going to pour your soul to, and how they react to it and how they treat you. You have to pay attention to how they treat you. Absolutely. Because if they just blow it off and not ask any questions, that could be a red flag. Absolutely. So you you you really have to protect yourself.

SPEAKER_03 30:59

Yeah, I I would kind of even compare this in an analogy, it doesn't fit every category, but it's just like a marriage relationship. You have to work at it, it's not going to just happen. It's the same thing with friendships. You have to put effort in. Oh, yeah. Both both sides have to put effort in. And if one side is not, that is your red flag. Right. That tells you something that this person is not as invested as I am. So do I keep trying or do I move on? And that's a question you need to answer on your own.

Empathy And Finding Your Tribe

SPEAKER_02 31:29

As a good friend, as a good friend to many people in this world, if they ask me a question, I will respond. Help me understand. Blah blah blah. Just help me understand so I know how to help. Yeah. I don't want to fix. That's not my job. Right. My job is to support. Yep. Help me understand. Yeah. And then I can provide resources. I can provide people that they can talk to.

SPEAKER_03 31:56

You know, honestly, sometimes I and you'll get this when I say this, Matt. Sometimes it's just being there. Yeah. Sometimes it's not saying a word. Honestly. Being next to somebody and saying, I'm here. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:08

I hear you. I understand. I I hear you. I understand. You don't have to fix it. Yep. And that has been as a friend, as a partner, I'm not here to fix. I'm here to give support and correct. Just understand. Yep. That that's empathy.

Bojax Needs A Home Closing

SPEAKER_03 32:26

Yes. Yeah, absolutely. And and in friendships, you need to have empathy. Yeah. So so again, those of you who are struggling with loneliness, hopefully, this gives you some insight and hopefully some encouragement and and some motivation to be able to establish closer friendships and not be and again not not be lonely. I I know it sucks because you feel like you're alone and there's nobody and nobody understands you, but I guarantee you, if you put some work in, you will you will connect with people. You will. Yes, you will. You will find your tribe, and that's what I like to call it. Everybody has a tribe, yeah. Whatever that is. Hi, yeah, hi. Hey, uh, yeah. All right, that is our show. Oh man, that was good. That's loneliness part two. Uh, before we leave, who needs a home? Somebody needs a home. Who is it? Bojacks. Who that not wait, wait, wait, what? Bojax. B-O-J-A-X. Yes, bojacks. Go on. Born February 2025, so just over a year old. Oh, it's a puppy. It's a terrier. Okay. Terrier mix, male, 15 pounds, dog friendly, yes. Cat friendly, unknown, kid friendly, yes. Okay. Uh, activity level is high. Yeah. Terrier. Hello. Bojax. Oh, come on. I saw that face, and I'm like, no way.

SPEAKER_02 33:51

Come on. How could you not? How can you not, Bojax? That that that is. Come on. The the I'm I'm like smitten.

SPEAKER_03 34:08

I know. I I was too when I saw it. Yeah. I am smitten. I saw that and I'm like, holy shit, this this this dog needs a home. I gotta, I have to tell people.

SPEAKER_02 34:16

I have to have a conversation with Holly tonight because okay. Bojax needs a home.

SPEAKER_03 34:22

Bojax, Detroit Dog Rescue.com slash adopt Bojack. Okay, look at that.

SPEAKER_02 34:28

Just do it again.

SPEAKER_03 34:29

Yep. See, come on. There you go. Just look at the face and go get them. All right, folks. That is our episode. We'll be back next week with whatever. I don't even I haven't I don't have a topic yet, but we'll figure one out. So we'll be back next Monday evening, right around eight o'clock. Join us on Facebook Live. Again, I I want to I wanted people to check in and say hello and and and let us know you're listening. Did I hear you say top 10 Olympic moments? Oh no, but that's a good idea, Matt. We haven't done the top 10 list in a in a minute. No, we haven't. And that's a good that's a good that's a good one. Yes, since we just have the Olympics. Yes, we did. Okay, remind me. Text me text me later. I will text you. Alrighty, folks. That is our show. Change your thinking, change your life, laugh hard, run fast, be kind. We'll see you next time.