Microaggressions Add Up Like Daily Paper Cuts (part 1)

A compliment that makes your stomach drop is still a problem, even if the speaker “meant well.” We unpack microaggressions, those subtle comments and behaviors that communicate bias, and we explain why they’re called micro even though the impact can be anything but small. Along the way, we give real examples you’ve heard at work, in public, and online, like “you’re so articulate,” “you’re surprisingly confident,” “I don’t see color,” and the passive aggressive habit of not bothering to learn someone’s name.

We also talk about what repeated microaggressions do to your mental health. Think of them like paper cuts: one is annoying, but daily paper cuts create real pain. That buildup can lead to anxiety, self doubt, emotional fatigue, and the exhausting inner debate of “Did I imagine that?” We get into why this happens so often, including unconscious bias and learned mental shortcuts, and why good intentions don’t cancel the harm.

Then we turn it practical. If you’re on the receiving end, we walk through steps to pause, validate what you felt, and name the issue so a real conversation can happen. If you realize you’ve said something that landed wrong, we lay out a clean repair: listen without defensiveness, apologize without qualification, and learn and adjust. Plus, a winner of the week story about a guide dog named Jerry who helps detect a dangerous blood clot, and a quick spotlight on Rio who needs a home. Subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave us a review so more people can find the show.

Recorded 4-6-26

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Cold Open And Topic Tease

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 0:10

In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast, we're discussing a topic that might be kind of small to you. It's called microaggressions. Have you heard that term, Matt? Microaggressions? I don't know what you're talking about. But we're going to be talking about that and explaining what it is and why it matters. Because you you probably know what this is, even if you don't know the term. So we're going to get into that. And as usual, we're giving away free stuff. Hang in there, folks. We'll be right back.

SPEAKER_01 0:44

This sounds like something for the authorities in Detroit.

SPEAKER_05 0:52

Guys like this can't take over here out of Detroit.

SPEAKER_04 0:54

What is pawn and the hellfire's the motor? Take him to Detroit.

SPEAKER_07 1:01

Detroit!

SPEAKER_08 1:06

Stationed in Drambuy. It's worse than Detroit. We did not have as a unit the confidence that we felt like we needed to beat Detroit. Let's go to Detroit. Now you're talking, brother. I don't think so. He plays for Detroit now.

SPEAKER_01 1:22

Do they have many farms in Detroit?

SPEAKER_08 1:24

Detroit to Michigan.

SPEAKER_01 1:26

They go to school and know where Detroit is.

SPEAKER_09 1:28

Get ready for the motor city hypnotist, David R. Wright, originating from the suburbs of Detroit, Michigan. He has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R. Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis. Welcome to the Motor City Hypnotist, David all right.

SPEAKER_02 2:15

What is going on, my friends? This is David Wright, and we are back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast. I am so excited to not be there. Yeah, that is Matt Fox, the other voice you hear. If he sounds a little bit different, it's because he's in Grand Rapids today. He's not in the studio, but he's still helping me out. So kudos to you, Matt. Thank you, brother. Appreciate you being here. Hanging out. We're here in the palatial podcast, Your Voice, Southfield Studios. You are hanging out on Monday evening. Matt's hanging out too, although in a different city, a hundred couple hundred miles away. Maybe not that far, but just 100 miles. Yeah, yeah, that that it's good. Yeah, you're you're close enough. So let me tell you folks where you can find me. My website is motorcityhypnotist.com. We are right in the midst of prom and grad season. In fact, I'm headed out this weekend to Iowa, Creston, Iowa, for an all-night uh or post prom hypnosis show at 2 a.m. on uh Saturday night going into Sunday morning. So if you have a post prom or post grad party and you're still seeking entertainment, do it now because dates are filling up quickly. In fact, the show, the schedule's already starting this coming Saturday. So if you have a show and you need entertainment for your show, uh stage hypnotist, now's the time to do it. Do it at motorcityhypnotist.com slash shows. You can have a quote within seconds and you can book online almost immediately. Check that out. My social media links, Facebook and YouTube, are both Motor City Hypnotist, and Snapchat, Instagram, and TikTok are all Motor City Hypno. That is H Y P N O. And as usual, this is episode 355. As we've done going all the way back to show number one, we're giving away a free hypnosis guide. Just text the word hypnosis to 313-800-8510. Within a few moments, you'll receive a text from me with a downloadable PDF. It's a hypnosis guide that I've written. It's a couple of pages, just your basic overview of hypnosis, how it works, why it works, and also dispel some miss and misconceptions. You can have that totally for free by texting the word hypnosis to 313-800-8510. You will also get a link to my Google business page for the Motor City Hypnotist. I would greatly appreciate you do clicking on that link and leaving a review of the podcast. Or if you've seen me in person doing a show, or if you've seen me personally for hypnosis sessions. Any review applies. We're talking in the podcast right now, so that's the main thing on the front of our mind. So, yes, do that. I would greatly appreciate that review and whatever platform you're listening on, whether it be iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, whatever it is, please leave a review there because it helps more people get a hold or get connected to the podcast. And whatever it is on your platform, connect, subscribe, link, whatever it is for you. Do that so you don't miss any future episodes. All right. It is time, man. It is time. Here we go. Wait, there. There it is.

SPEAKER_00 5:29

That's how win it has done.

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All right.

Winner Of The Week Service Dog

SPEAKER_02 5:32

Oh, Rady. All right, here we go. I need something. Bring it. Come on. Luis Perez is no stranger to pain. At 45 years old, he has been battling MS most of his life, lost his vision at age 23 due to complications of this condition, and now receives regular plasma infusions to combat symptoms of his autoimmune disease. All of this has been extremely difficult and has led him to experiencing depression, anxiety, and self-isolation. Sure. In a heartwarming page turn, the story was shared with GNN about how Lewis decided a guide dog may benefit his life.

SPEAKER_04 6:17

I love this.

SPEAKER_02 6:18

He turned to the 501c3 nonprofit Dogs Inc., okay Dogs INC period. Yep. Where he was matched with a black lab named Jerry in September of 2024. Jerry? The dog's name is Jerry. With a G or a J? J with a J. Jerry. Okay. All right. You know what's funny, Matt? My my wife's aunt and her husband had a dog named Jerry.

SPEAKER_04 6:47

With a J.

SPEAKER_02 6:48

With a J. Yeah. Yes. It just made me think of that because I just thought it was somehow when dogs have human names, they become I don't know. There's something more endearing about it, I guess. You know, like our current dog, our our dog's name is Charlie. It's a human name.

SPEAKER_03 7:04

Yeah, yeah. It's a human name.

SPEAKER_02 7:06

Yeah. So he turned to the 503 nonprofit Dogs Inc., where he was matched with a black lame named Jerry in September of 2024. Jerry does more than lead Lewis, he has improved his confidence and socialization, and as a trusted friend and loving companion, and helps Lewis live his life to the fullest. Then he became something further still, a hero. Recently, Lewis was experiencing pain and discomfort that he attributed to his MS, but this time it felt slightly different. He had a lot of pain when moving his left leg in certain positions, so he was remaining in his recliner chair. Jerry kept persistently coming over to Lewis and pressing his chin down on Lewis's leg. Jerry had never acted like this before, and eventually Lewis and his wife decided to go to the hospital. After hours of waiting and testing at the hospital, Lewis was diagnosed with a blood clot in his left leg called deep vein thrombrosis. DVTs, yeah. Yes, DVT. It was exactly where Jerry had laid his head.

SPEAKER_04 8:22

Oh, see, okay, that's why I I am a big supporter, proponent for service dogs because they sense exactly what's happening. And for for a dog to sense a DVT, a deep vein thrombosis, yes, in his leg, yeah, that's immaculate.

SPEAKER_02 8:43

That is that that is amazing. And and we've done you know, Matt, over the years, we've done a lot of these winners of the week, which are dog stories sniffing out diseases or or maladies that the person didn't know they had or or didn't suspect that they had.

SPEAKER_04 9:01

Right.

SPEAKER_02 9:01

That's but this is really specific. This isn't just sensing a heart attack or a stroke, even those are impressive. But this is really particular. DVT is a very serious condition that can progress quickly, and it was crucial for Lewis to receive treatment that very night. If his dog had not alerted him, Lewis said he would have accredited the pain to his usual symptoms and would not have taken it seriously. The dog is now not only his guide and dear companion, but also his hero.

SPEAKER_04 9:33

Right. It has to be that that dog has to be a the just a saint. Yeah, Jerry, Jerry the Saint. Do you do you want to see Jerry, Matt? I would love to see Jerry. Come on, I uh let me see what J Jerry looks like. Here's Jerry with Lewis's owner. Oh my gosh. Okay, so Dave. Oh my goodness, look at him. I know it's beautiful. That the the black lab, I had black labs growing up, Dave. Yes, I had two black labs growing up. Both of their names were fudge. You had both of them named Fudge. Yeah, fudge when I was a toddler, and Fudge when I graduated from high school. Okay, so they weren't there at the same time. No, no, but they they are amazingly smart, smart animals. And I stand by Jerry and what he did. Yep, that that's amazing. Thank you for sharing that.

SPEAKER_02 10:28

No, no, and and we always love stories with happy endings and good results because that's why it's a winner of the week. So fantastic story.

SPEAKER_05 10:36

Thank you.

SPEAKER_02 10:36

Awesome.

SPEAKER_05 10:37

Thank you, thank you.

SPEAKER_00 10:46

That's how winning it's done.

SPEAKER_02 10:49

Yes, it is. Yes, I know we always gravitate towards these animal stories, but they're so good. It's it's just like I just get attracted to these stories where animals are just an integral part of human society.

SPEAKER_04 11:04

So you you're you're aware of Animal Talk Radio. Absolutely, yes. And you were introduced to Animal Talk Radio by Jamie, and I was introduced by Animal Talk Radio from Jamie as well. And it was always, you know, the the characteristics, the behaviors of animals themselves. And dogs, cats, CNemies, whatever you want to call them. And the mini. And then the mini, right? And then pets, dogs, you know, they've been a part of our lives for centuries. Yeah, going back thousands of years, there's always been some type of an animal that somebody was connected to. So being that we're still connected to animals, and it's even a deeper for Jerry to recognize a DVT and a human, just think about what the evolution has has done. Yeah, yeah, has done for dogs, yes. Yeah, right. Yeah, yeah, it's amazing.

SPEAKER_05 12:01

Absolutely. It is thank you for bringing that up. Thank you for bringing that for me.

What Microaggressions Actually Mean

SPEAKER_02 12:04

Yes. So back to it. So today, folks, we are talking about microaggressions. Now, I asked Matt in the intro, have has he ever heard that term?

SPEAKER_01 12:15

I don't know what you're talking about.

SPEAKER_02 12:18

So, but we're gonna get into it because uh right off the bat, some people might say, Well, what the heck is microaggressions? So, here's the thing we're gonna explore the subtle but often overlooked issue that a lot of people experience. So micro, microaggression, microaggressions. So, so of course, the first question is so what exactly are what are microaggressions? What's the definition? What do they mean? So, I'm gonna read you just word for word the the the the definition, and then we'll go from there. Okay, microaggressions are subtle, often unintentional comments or behaviors that convey bias or stereotypes towards a particular group. They're called micro, but their impact can be anything but small. So, so let me let me let me give you a couple of of just general examples, and then this is what microaggressions could sound like. Wow, you're so articulate. Now, when I say that, that sounds like a compliment, right, Matt? Look, look, it's it's it's a it's kind of in between negative and positive speech at the same time. Well, well, give give give me your your your reaction as far as what the negative would be on that. Say that again. Say say what you said again. Give give me your feedback when I say you're so articulate. What what what are the negatives that you could take from that? But what did you say that was you know, what was the comment? I'm I'm telling you, you're just talking, doesn't matter what you say, and I say, Wow, Matt, you're really articulate. Okay.

SPEAKER_04 14:00

The negative part would be you're I don't understand, or you know, you're it's confusing. I don't I don't understand what you're saying because what you said, because you're so articulate, I don't understand the word inebriate.

SPEAKER_02 14:13

Right. And and and and I'm gonna go a little bit further. Okay, because I say, wow, Matt, you're so articulate. The the the inference is that I didn't think you were articulate until you did it. Oh, so you didn't think that was you didn't think I had a good control of the human language? No, personally, I think you do, but for the sake of example, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know. I got you.

SPEAKER_03 14:38

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 14:39

Or here's another one. And again, these are just general off the top of my head. That's where you're from. Born when born and raised in South Detroit. That's where I'm from. So so again, it it's it's kind of like it's passive comment, but but there is some aggression towards that. A little bit, a little bit. I can I could hear that, yeah. And and here's another one, and this one I hear a lot from a lot of different people. Okay, I don't see color. I don't see color. And and it's kind of just like that means you do see color, yes, yeah. Exactly. Just the fact that you brought it up shows that you do see it, and then that's the problem with it. So there are a lot of examples, and I can give you some general ones. A lot of time, a lot of times these don't show up as necessarily actions but as statements when somebody has has these microaggressions. So, an example would be if you constantly mispronounce someone's name. Oh, that's the worst, even though you may know what their real name is or know how to pronounce the name, it's just this passive-aggressive like dismissal of another individual. Davi, I don't know what you're talking about. I'll give you a real life example. In and this is not getting political left or right, either way, but when when the presidential election was happening, Kamala Harris was running, but half of the population called her Kamala, not Kamala. And that was intentional for the most part. It's it's it's just it's kind of a it's a subtle jab towards somebody just to say, you're I don't really value you, so I'm not even gonna say your name right.

SPEAKER_04 16:35

Right, right.

SPEAKER_02 16:36

Yeah, or the another overt example would be like if somebody was on the street and you walk by them, and all of a sudden this woman like clutches her purse, like you're gonna take it. Uh-huh. Again, there's no interaction, there's no statement, it's just that subtle, that subtle action that says, I don't trust you. I think you're gonna do bad.

SPEAKER_04 17:00

Right.

SPEAKER_02 17:00

And and and here's the thing, most of these microaggressions are not intentionally meant to make to cause harm to someone, it's just people's natural reaction. But here's the thing intention doesn't erase the impact of it.

SPEAKER_04 17:16

No, it doesn't. It doesn't, yeah.

The Paper Cut Effect Over Time

SPEAKER_02 17:18

Right. So so what are the psychological impacts of these microaggressions? You know, so here's kind of kind kind of an an example I could kind of use.

SPEAKER_04 17:31

So, Dave, can I can let me ask you a question? Yes. Have you ever been on the subway in New York City? Yes. All right, so that there's microaggressions constantly on the subways of New York City. And what you just said, you know, ladies hanging on to their purse, people that are with their their luggage because they're trying to get to the airport, they're keeping her super close to them and then they keep moving it around. There's microaggressions all the time on the New York City subway. So I mean, what is your example?

SPEAKER_02 18:05

So so this is just a general, just a generic example. When you get a paper cut, it hurts. It's not a big deal, it's not really something you worry about or think about. Sure. But what if you got a paper cut every day? At some point, it's it's not it's more than annoying. At some point, it becomes painful and hard to ignore. So I I I view microaggressions as the same thing, they're like paper cuts, but over time, consistently, and eventually they have an effect.

SPEAKER_04 18:40

And over time, though the the aggression builds up. Yes, and there's absolutely where you you have you everybody has a a boiling point, everybody has that line that's and it happened if it started to happen every day, that's where we have problems in society because people just blow up, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:03

Right? Well, yeah, and and if you're a victim of these microaggressions, even though they might not be intentional, over time, you may experience anxiety and self-doubt, emotional fatigue, even, and you might start questioning yourself like, well, maybe I'm the issue here. Am I overreacting to this? Did they really mean it like they said it? So you start to start to doubt yourself and your own judgment as well. And in this internal debate and conflict, that's part of the damage, that's part of the harm that microaggressions cause.

SPEAKER_04 19:40

Right. Yeah, and microaggressions like you're you're talking one side, there's another side to that because you you you're feeling microaggressions. It's and I I just said it, it's building up. You can only stand so much over time.

SPEAKER_02 19:58

Well, it's just like any other emotion. Sometimes you can take emotion and take it until your cup is full, and eventually it's got to go somewhere.

SPEAKER_04 20:06

Yeah, where does it go? It either goes outward or inward. You lash out at another person because that one person that took you over, and then you're lashing out of someone, they're like, What the actual H just happened? Or you internalized it, and that's where it hurts, and that's where you start to get depressed and what have you. So, my my question is how do people deal with these microaggressions so they don't end up to the point where they lash out?

SPEAKER_02 20:39

Yep, absolutely a fine line that they have to walk, right? And and definitely we're gonna cover that, Matt, as far as the I'm gonna give you specific steps. No, that's okay. Because I get it.

SPEAKER_05 20:50

I get ahead of you all the time.

SPEAKER_02 20:52

That's the natural reaction. People want to know, okay, what do I do about it? But but but let's cover let's cover a little bit more ground. So I'm gonna walk you through a couple of scenarios. Okay, say that you say that you're in a meeting, Matt. You work in finance, so you're in meetings a lot.

SPEAKER_04 21:06

Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 21:08

What what would be your reaction if somebody said to you, wow, you're surprisingly confident. Was I not before? Exactly. Exactly. On the surface, that sounds like a compliment. Uh-huh. But if but underneath it, the suggestion of that statement is they didn't believe you were confident.

SPEAKER_04 21:33

Correct.

SPEAKER_02 21:33

Right. So it's like this, it's like this passive aggressive insult, even though it's framed as as a compliment.

SPEAKER_04 21:40

Right, right. Do people realize that they actually do that? Or is it more of a knee-jerk reaction to what they just decide?

SPEAKER_02 21:48

Yes, you're good. Great question. Sometimes there is awareness, sometimes there's not. Sometimes people are unaware that they're even doing this. Sure. And that and that's what makes it. more complicated because it's easier it's easy to get angry at somebody for saying something like this but they might they might not even realize it they might not even even be comprehending they're saying this or that it has an effect so so that's the tricky part because it is not necessarily intentional although it could be right here here's another one that in in in this this this this this is probably again it's a generic example but I know it happens let's say you work in an let's say you're a minority and you work in an office building or an office and someone repeatedly confuses with you with the other person who's your same ethnicity so that can be very like off putting like oh whether you're whether you're black you're Asian you're hispanic it doesn't matter but but that person is is I I'm I'm and I'm gonna say with this example probably out of ignorance doesn't focus on on names in particular or individuals so it but but it is still kind of an insult like oh I'm the only other Hispanic person here so you think I'm Jose and not Pablo you know what I mean I mean it's it's it's just this this this this kind of a classification that oh you're in that group I don't really need to know right so so here's kind of a reflection question for people to kind of look at and and kind of examine think about a time when when something small or you or or inherently insignificant made you feel bad it stayed with you it made you feel like like you're less than you were probably a victim of a microaggressive statement.

What To Do When It Hits You

SPEAKER_04 23:56

Huh so we we talked about again you asked Matt is it intentional or is it not in this section we'll we're gonna cover this why do people do it it if if if these microaggressions are damaging to other people why do people do it so oftentimes again granted they come from unconscious bias mental shortcuts that our minds take based on your culture your media your upbringing you know what people around you believe right so it's not always bad intentions a lot of times it's ignorant because people don't know any better it's it's kind of like saying you know kind of like making a racist slur but you're not trying to be racist you're just not you you're just ignorant do you know what I mean you know can I can I share an example with you in that absolutely right and you know I I've been victim to not victim I have been the aggressor I'll just say it out loud I've been the aggressor to microaggression where one of my best friends in the world and I said something at dinner one time and he looked at me like I had just offended him and his entire race and I didn't and I didn't realize what I said. Well sure on your end it was not intentional. I was you know just being me and what I said when he looked at me he said that's one and I didn't understand what he said and five minutes later I I said it again trying to be funny and he looked at me and he goes that's two and that's when it clicked okay that I was offending him and he he he is very he he's a very emotional person and for him to look at me and just the seriousness in his face he said that's two I understood what I said and I I apologize profusely because I didn't realize that what I was saying the word the one word I said and it's not an offensive word but it was how I said it right and that's what caused him to become offensive yeah of what he said and again it goes to my point that it's it's not intentional you're not trying to do harm no man and to this day to this day I now I to I I now know I you people who are emotionally intelligent have to understand it's not what they're saying but it's how they're saying it yes and and again that just completely different yep and that just kind of reinforces the the the the the fact that good intentions don't cancel out the harmful impact somebody feels what they feel so it's just good to be aware of that. So what if you're on the receiving end of these microaggressions what do you do so so there's I'll tell you what you do Dave you do exactly what my best friend did he gave he gave me an opportunity to recognize what I said yep you and and and if they don't understand it you got to give them three strikes right sure and and theirs and that's where it lies and you have to give them the opportunity to recognize what they said and how they said yep so so let me tell you if if you're on the receiving end of this here's some things you can do remind yourself yeah that statement felt off but my feelings are still valid because a lot of times we'll dismiss our feelings and say it's not a big deal I shouldn't worry about it.

SPEAKER_02 27:34

It's not that big a thing don't do that. If you feel off something is happening second thing pause and choose so here's the thing you don't have to respond immediately if you feel a victim of microaggression but it's good to just wait for a moment realize what's happened and then have that conversation. Now here's the thing the next step is name this name the issue that came up to the person who did it and say that comment felt me made me feel uncomfortable can we talk about it so you're opening the the you're opening the the channels of communication to talk about what was said so that hopefully they can understand why they why the thing they said was hurtful to you. And then the other one is find support talk to other people who may experience the same thing so the other thing is wait real quick real real quick Dave.

How To Repair If You Said It

SPEAKER_04 28:41

Yes so my example you know the uh the the experience that I had in this microaggression one I was not being aggressive okay two we were having a good time drinks were flowing we were having a great dinner there was there was no aggression in what was said it was how it was said so and they may not understand that they are being aggressive it's just how they are saying it I'm actually doing a presentation about the difference between positive and negative speech and it's not how you say it it's how you say things how you say it changes things. Yes absolutely the positive and the negative you are being fun you're being positive you're being jovial but it's being taken negatively exactly so and and that is that fine line that we all have to walk in how we say things.

SPEAKER_02 29:37

So what when someone says something that is microaggressive they probably have no idea that they are it's that that's entirely possible yeah you're right they may have no idea what they're saying is offensive or so instead of so instead of looking at it as to how it's how people are taking it how can people that are saying it be more cognizant of what they are saying is it's perfect perfect because that leads us right into this next thing as far as if if you if you have said something that can be considered a microaggression and you didn't even know it that's fine because you didn't know but once you know here's the things that you can do if you're wondering have I done this before have I said something that that offended somebody else yeah so here's the thing there are three things that you need to do if you feel like you've you have you have hurt somebody with a microaggression state okay listen without defensiveness apologize without qualification sure learn and adjust honestly those three things are really the whole basis of honestly all of mental health listen without being defensive apologize without qualification and learn and adjust that that that is the concept of therapy in a nutshell those three items is it that easy though David I mean on paper it is so here's the thing though awareness is our first step if we don't know something is happening we have to be told so if you're unaware I don't want to say you get a pass but but at the same time if you're not aware you're doing it how can you change it right and awareness is number one.

SPEAKER_04 31:32

And so I I have yet to forgive myself for the transgression right I still I would still reflect on it I I know I did it I know I said what I said I didn't mean it offensively but it made somebody defensive and they did fence that's really kind of the frustrating thing because there was no ill intent on your part but because because consciously you wouldn't do that but then once you hear it you're like oh my gosh that that's not what I meant at all. And that's not that that's not me that's not who I am that's not how I represent exactly myself or anybody I I am everyone's best friend to a fault.

Part Two Tease And Adopt Rio

SPEAKER_02 32:13

Sure yep it hurt me more than it hurt them after it came to light yeah absolutely and and that's part of growth when it comes to not being microaggressive absolutely cool so folks we're gonna get into we're gonna do uh microaggressions part two you know we split these up into two parts we always do this it's just so we can cover everything that needs to be covered so in the next episode I'm gonna cover if you're a victim of microaggression what can you do? What should be your response? How can you handle it? And that's gonna be coming up in the next episode microaggressions part two if you're on Facebook live stay with us we're gonna record another episode if you're on whatever platform you're listening on skip ahead to the next episode if it's not there it will be there on Tuesday or Thursday so before we leave who is it who is it somebody needs a home show me Rio Rio with an R I O R I O Rio was born in 2013 oh a senior puppy it's a mini poodle mix male seven pounds dog friendly yes cat friendly yes friendly over eight activity level is medium Matt you're Matt I I wish you were here and I I want to see your reaction in person but I'll look on the video anyway 13 13 year old poodle for Rio for Rio oh come on oh they're adorable puppy look at look at come on look at him he's adorable i he's i the matt i picked this one because as soon as i saw it i'm like this is like the ugly dog that's beautiful you know what i mean he you know what like his mouth is dirty he looks like he's been rolling around and shit i his name is rio and he dances on the sand yeah that one you he was dancing in the mud i think but anyway rio needs a home he's a senior dog seven pounds somebody please bring Rio home and love him for his remaining days please detroit dogrescue.com slash adopt Rio's waiting for you guys fun he looks he looks fun he does he just looks like just you want to love him that's what it looks like all righty folks that is our show for today again Facebook live people stick around we're doing one more episode everybody else skip ahead to the next one whenever it drops in the meantime change your thinking change your life laugh hard run fast be kind we'll see you next time