Date with Cents
Date with Cents
Why Broke Men Keep Showing Up (And How to Change it Fast)
Broke men don't just stumble into your life by accident - they show up because they can sense which women will tolerate their inability to provide.
If you keep attracting men who either expect you to fund the relationship or can't afford to match your lifestyle, this episode breaks down why this pattern keeps happening and how to flip the script completely.
I'm sharing the real reason your success mindset is working against you in dating and my five Provider Proof tests that separate men who want to provide from men who want you to be their personal ATM.
You'll learn how to stop being the woman who fixes and start being the woman who receives.
If you're a woman who is ready to stop funding grown men and start dating men who actually invest in you….
It starts with my free training: Attract 3 Commitment Ready Boyfriends in 90 Days.
Happening On: Sunday, September 14th, 2025
Once you register, you will receive a confirmation email with the link to the free training.
What you'll learn:
🔥 The 3-part dating strategy that helps you get pursued by the right men—without chasing, over-giving, or performing for a man’s approval.
🔥 How to meet commitment-ready, high-quality men ANYWHERE—even if you’re convinced they don’t exist in your city.
🔥 How to be unforgettable on dates and in conversation—without doing “the most” or feeling like a “pick-me”
🔥 Why being “a good woman” isn’t enough—and the mindset shift that makes men compete to commit to you.
After the training, we will open the doors to my signature program, Curved 2 Cuffed.
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What's up? Lover girl, welcome back to the Date With Sense podcast, and today we're going to talk about something very, very prevalent amongst the lover girls. I get DMs about it. I am consistently coaching clients around it. I am consistently coaching clients around it and I am getting a lot of questions around the topic and it's basically like why broke men keep showing up. And it's so interesting, considering that most of the people that are struggling with this or bringing it up are women who are stable financially, who have a lot of stuff going on for them financially, who can afford to do a lot of things for themselves and feed themselves well and live well and vacation well.
Speaker 1:But man, the broke men are coming out like roaches. Every time you think you got done with one another. One's coming out of the socket, the refrigerator, out the ceiling, through the window in the car. You're like, ah, broke men. All right, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Let me get back on track.
Speaker 1:And when I say broke man, I am talking about two main types. First, you got the obvious broke man. You know he's the one that you know he's figuring his life out. He orders a ribeye steak, then his card declines and he's looking at you like, oh, you know, you got this, I got you the next time. He's been talking about starting his own business, you know, for the longest. And then you are around giving him business tips and coaching him around his business and giving him ideas and all the things. He's also the one who says that his bank account has been affected by his divorce. But he's been divorced for 16 years and his bank account still hasn't recovered. That's that guy. Okay, that's him.
Speaker 1:And then you got the other type. This is a man you know he might have a really great job, he might have a really great career, right, you know he may be an attorney. You know he may be an engineer, he may look great on paper and you're like, oh my gosh, I got me one of those and he can pay his own bills but he still can't afford to court you properly. So when you're out here, you're suggesting the new, you know steakhouse that you've been wanting to try and that you can absolutely afford yourself. He's like, you know, he's kind of like suggesting Applebee's. You know what? I hotel where you live, and so he, he can handle his basic expenses, but he doesn't have the income or he isn't willing to provide. Have the income to provide the kind of experiences that you're used to.
Speaker 1:It reminds me of a client that literally she's in the top 1% of people when it comes to income of what she makes. And so she was always dating a man who she had to fund whether it was vacations, whether it was just going out, regular dates, men who were building their businesses. She already had built her business and I remember one time, like she, she dated a guy that was on wall street. He was leaving wall street. Well, he left wall street. So we were like, oh, you know this guy, he you know wall Street guys, they make a certain kind of money. But when she recommended I mean seriously, I consider it a little, it's an upscale restaurant, but it wasn't like nothing crazy and it's something that she could afford where she regularly eats. And she recommended that to him and he recommended like a downgrade. He was like let's eat here. She was, and I was like girl, no, tell him no, tell him absolutely no. And then she was like, no, I actually want to go here instead. And then he goes are you paying for it? Just like absolutely not. And then he just started to go in on her as if she was being entitled and a gold digger which again, it's so funny because she has her own gold right.
Speaker 1:But anywho, regardless if it's type one broke man, type two broke man, both types leave you in the same position. It leaves you in the same position, settling for experiences way below your standards, and I get it. I completely get why that has probably been your experience or why you engaged in it. I'm guilty. I have my hand raised as somebody who used to tolerate it because you know as high achieving good girls. You know we've been grinding since day one. A lot of us have put our own selves through school. We've funded our own education. We've taken out loans for ourselves, right. We've climbed the corporate ladder. We bought our own cars. Many of us bought our first car on our own. I know I did right. We got our own first place on our own.
Speaker 1:And you're probably the friend that everyone calls when they need something handled, the family member that everyone calls when they need something handled because you get shit done. But somewhere along the way you started bringing that same energy to dating and now you're wondering why you keep ending up with men who don't meet your standards, who drain your standards, who, who conflict, meet your standards, who drain your standards, who conflict with your standards, who want to debate your standards instead of matching them, enhancing them, and over that's not the word I want to use of increasing your standards. And so today we're going to change that. I'm going to show you exactly why this has been happening and just give you a blueprint to flip the script completely, something that I help my clients with, something that you can easily implement in the next week, in the next day. But, like, let me paint a picture for you and you can tell me if this sounds familiar.
Speaker 1:You know you meet him on hinge or you meet him out and about at an event. You know he's fine, he's got really good conversation beautiful teeth, beautiful smile, probably even has a degree right, and you guys hit it off. Y'all got a lot of things in common. You know you got a lot in common. There's a lot of chemistry there. But then, over time, you start realizing, okay, hold up, something doesn't feel right. Anytime, something has to deal with anything. Financially, I am feeling like my coochie is drying up.
Speaker 1:Okay, there is, if he's the first type of broke, the obvious broke. You know he's. You know I want to take you on a date. I'm between checks right now. I'm investing everything back into my business. You know I got you next time and meanwhile you're the one paying for both movie tickets because you don't want to look broke in public with him with his ass. Or, you know, you go into his house. You know he's the one talking about yeah, babe, I'm gonna cook for you, you can just relax, I'm gonna just cook for you. But he asking you to buy the groceries to bring it to his house, right, acting like that's some grand gesture. Mind you, these are real examples from real clients. I remember I had a client where there was a guy who invited her out on a date and they were at a taco truck and this man went and ordered his tacos, paid for his tacos and then moved his ass out of the way for her to order and pay for her own tacos. Yeah, that's what we're dealing with here.
Speaker 1:Okay, and if he's the second type, you know he can cover his basics, but not really trying to or can't afford your lifestyle. So he may not be asking you to pay, but he's also not stepping up to your level. Ok, so, for example, you want to take a pottery class for a date. And he's just like, oh, that's too expensive for a date. And he's just like, oh, that's too expensive, that's too expensive for a date. You know. And let's just say, your birthday's coming up, you know he'll get you a little $25 gift card to Ulta when you're used to receiving trips and handbags.
Speaker 1:And in your head, you know, you try making sense of it for the first time, you think, oh, you know. You try making sense of it For the first time. You think, oh, you know, he's getting back on his feet. He's had a tough time. He's a good man, savannah. He's had a rough time in his life and he's getting himself together. And you know, once his business takes off or once he gets this dream job, he's going to really show up for me.
Speaker 1:And then the second type of guy. You tell yourself, oh well, you know, he's responsible with his money. He's not asking me to pay for things. But the reality is both types of men are basically letting you know that they cannot invest in you or that you're not worth the investment. Okay, because the first type he wants you to fund his dreams and coach you through life. And the second type wants you to lower your standards to match his budget. And what's really happening as a high achieving good girl, woman of faith, is that you've trained both types to expect this level of accommodation. Every time you step in and coach the first man, every time you offer help and assistance with the first type or cover your side of things for the first time, or every time you settle for less with the second type, you're teaching them that they don't have to step up. You're essentially telling them oh, it's okay, this is enough, okay. And both types can spot women like you from a mile away. This is no shade, this is just the truth. They know who will make excuses for them. They know who will hold them down while they figure it out. They know who will sacrifice their own standards for the limitations.
Speaker 1:Now let's talk about why this pattern is so hard to break, especially for us high achieving good girls, especially for us women of color, black women, who've had to be strong our whole lives right. You grew up watching the women in your family handle everything. Your grandmother worked two jobs and still made Sunday dinner. Your mama paid the bills, helped with homework, cooked, kept the family together, and you learned early that if you want something done right, you just do it yourself and that mindset has served you well. It got you through college when financial aid wasn't enough. It helped you land that job in corporate, where you're one of the few women in the room, one of the few black faces in the room. It's why you own your own Own nice car, own nice home, why your credit score is looking good.
Speaker 1:But dating you meet a man with potential and your natural instinct kicks in. You see, the man has goals, he's got dreams and you want to be supportive in that. So you start doing the most. You start editing the resume, researching the business opportunities for him. You're paying for things because you want to invest in your future together. You tell yourself you're being supportive, but really you're trying to create the man you want him to be, instead of accepting who he is right now. Meanwhile he's getting comfortable. Why would he push himself to level up when you're already accepting whatever he can offer? Why would he stress about improving his financial situation when you're making it work regardless of his limitations? Even if he's a man who has money and he's not looking to invest in you in any way, like financially or enhance your life financially, it's the same thing. Why would he stress himself about pleasing you when you're just pleased at whatever level he's offering you? Okay, and here's what I had to learn the hard way A man who needs you to coach him or fund him or manage his life isn't ready for the kind of relationship that you actually desire, and a man who can't afford to provide the experiences you want isn't in a position to be your partner either.
Speaker 1:You're not looking for a son. You're not looking for a son. You're not looking for a charity case. You also are not looking for a 50-50 homie, and you've already proven that you can do everything by yourself. You've already shown that you don't quote unquote need a man to survive right In this day and age, but you do. You do have the opportunity to date a man who makes your life easier, not harder, a man who can enhance your experiences, not just limit you to certain ones and I want you to think about how exhausting it is to be strong all the time at work. The one who gets things done with your family, the reliable one. The last thing you need is to come home to a man who needs you to manage his life too, who needs you to taper your expectations.
Speaker 1:There are so many stories of women who, literally, were wildly lit up, had created amazing experiences for herself on her own dime and she married him. And she married a man who couldn't meet her there and her light went out. It was dim because now she had to settle for the limitations of that man. Now, a man who provides a provider man, he's going to see how hard you work and think how can I lighten her load? You know, how can I enhance her life? How can I add value? She has so much value she's bringing to the table. How can I add to her value? How can I add value to her life? He sees your success and he wants to match it, not benefit from it.
Speaker 1:Now, when you're with a man who is a provider, you can actually relax. You don't have to be the main adult in the relationship. You don't have to be the one making all the decisions and handling everything. And the men who are ready to provide for you in this way they're not impressed by your ability to do everything for them. They're looking for a woman who knows how to receive what they want to give. And so that's the shift that we need to make from being the woman who is the I got it woman because I can do it faster, or who does everything because I could do it on my own, to being the woman who inspires a man to step up and actually add value to your life and actually add value to your life that actually can invest financially to make your life better. So now, how do you stop attracting mainly project men and start connecting with providers?
Speaker 1:Now it's something that I actually call provider proof looking or collecting provider proof. You have to become a collector of provider proof. Looking or collecting provider proof. You have to become a collector of provider proof. And provider proof is evidence that a man can and will actually provide in a connection, in a dating relationship Not just talk about it, not just promise to do it later, but actual proof that he has the resources, he has the willingness and the follow through to take care of you. It's all about watching what he does when you give him opportunities to step up. Does he handle things gladly? Does he step up to make your life easier, or does he act like your requests are burdens?
Speaker 1:When you collect provider proof, it will show you the difference between a man who wants to provide for you versus a man who wants you to provide for him. And, trust me, the difference becomes very obvious, real quick, when you know what to look for, okay, real quick. When you know what to look for, okay. Now, the only way you're going to be able to tell what man you're dealing with is to create situations where he can show you and this is not about playing games, and you know, testing a guy what I'm about to share with you. You know, testing a guy, what I'm about to share with you. I want you to think about this as creating an opportunity and gathering information about whether this man can actually provide or if he's going to be another project. That being said, I am going to give you five simple opportunities to present to men so that you can start collecting this provider proof. And, like I'm saying, we are not testing these men, we are not playing games. We are creating real life moments that will show you exactly what kind of men that you're dealing with.
Speaker 1:Um, so the first opportunity, it's the date request opportunity. It is you extending him an opportunity to plan a date that meets your standards. So when you get to the point where you guys are supposed to plan a day, or where he asks you out. This is the moment to offer the opportunity. I want you to tell him specifically about a restaurant you've been wanting to try, or an experience that you've been wanting to enjoy, or that you actually already enjoy, something very specific that matches your standards. Okay, it has to be something that already matches your standards. It could be. You know, I've been wanting to try this new blah blah blah on Fifth Street, or I've heard amazing things about that new steakhouse downtown, or maybe it's. I've been wanting to check out this particular exhibit. Or there has been this really nice wine tasting that I saw. That really looks fun. Offer that up to him. Let him know that you'd like to go. Let him know that you'd like him to book it. You'd like him to reserve it? Okay, so you need to look out and watch what happens. Does he handle the reservation and logistics without you having to follow up? Does he confirm the details with you, right? Or does he try to negotiate you down to something else? Okay, does he suggest starting somewhere else? More his like, more of his league?
Speaker 1:When you mentioned the place you actually want to go, again, this place is already up to your standards, something that you regularly would do on your own right. So if you're looking at this, if you're asking for the, I don't recommend using this opportunity to ask for things that you're not used to, because it gets into like, oh, I'm needing him to validate something within myself that I'm worth this and if you're a real man, you'll make me worth it. Like I'm not trying to get into that territory here. Something that you would regularly do on your own on a random ass Wednesday this is anchored into your nervous system so you know that if he would do it on a random like, if you would do it on a random Wednesday like, you want a man who would also do it on a random ass Wednesday, okay, and so you want to be able to look out for that, because a financially limited man will try to negotiate you down, not horizontally, now he might offer you something else if he's not into it. So, for example, if you're like, hey, I want to do this particular, I want to go I don't know if you randomly do like indoor skydiving, he's like, yeah, I don't think that it's going to work for my asthma, right. That doesn't mean he's financially limited, because he says that, but he may offer something in the realm of of that right that meets your standards, but a financially limited man will like try to negotiate you down Now. There's nothing wrong with a man who may be financially limited to you because he may be financially abundant to another woman. This is not about making him less than a man and saying like, oh well, you know he's not a good man, like he's not a good man, but compared to me he would be a broke or financially limited man. He may be abundant to another woman and so you have to make sure that, even if the man is good, you still are able to see this as a misalignment. Right, I'm going to be resentful if I continue to date this man if he tries to negotiate me. So that's opportunity number one.
Speaker 1:Opportunity number two is what I call the small request opportunity. This is where you ask for something small but very specific when the opportunity naturally comes up. Right, when the opportunity naturally comes up. So maybe he's going to the store and you mentioned hey, while you're at the store, can you please grab me a bottle of blah, blah, blah of what I like? Or if he's at Target and you ask for those specific coconut cookies you mentioned.
Speaker 1:Loving right, the key is being very specific versus like hey, grab me something, or grab me a snack Right, or surprise me. Give him the exact detail. Not only does this give him the opportunity to please your preferences and follow through on the small things, but it also gives him the opportunity to financially support your small requests and you can be able to see if he's able to do it. You know, or like does he remember without you having to remind him? Does he get the right brand or the right flavor? Does he seem happy to do this for you, or does it feel like you're inconveniencing him? Now, I do know that men can be handicapped when it comes to grocery shopping. That's why I cancel all Instacart orders. Where a man is shopping for me, it's on my nerves. I don't know what it is Right, so I want you to account for that level of handicap.
Speaker 1:I remember I had big body bins. Go get me some some of my favorite protein shakes from the store and I sent him the picture of the item and he literally bought me the opposite flavor of the item. I sent him the picture and everything he bought me the op. I appreciated that, because the protein shakes that I get are not cheap. I appreciate that he went and got me those protein shakes. I was so mad when I got the flavor.
Speaker 1:I one of the recent guys that I added to my roster he I actually made a small request for our second meetup. We had a first date and then, after our first date, he I asked him. I said, hey, can you get me a bottle of Pellegrino? And not only did he get me a bottle of Pellegrino when I showed up, he poured it for me the whole time. He got me a nice glass and poured it for me the whole time. So, okay, I'm like, oh, this opportunity he was able to show up for. Provider men are going to remember you know what makes you happy and they want to get it right and they want to to please you and to financially show up for you, even with a small request. And then project men they're going to you know they're probably going to act like they forgot it and then hope that you let it go Like oh yeah, I forgot the cookies. Oh, I forgot the bottle, I forgot it. Right, just watch out for it. Not saying you got to cut them off, right, because he claimed he forgot it, but please keep note of the patterns.
Speaker 1:Opportunity number three is the standards opportunity, because when you first start dating men, you need to be very clear about your standards early on. We're not waiting. One of the things that I make it very, very clear on our first video call is that I expect a date Soon as we get off the call. I'm expecting for you to go into planning. I mean not soon as we got the call, but like when you leave the call.
Speaker 1:When a man leaves a call with me, he knows that I want to date. He knows that I do not do good morning text If it's not attached to anything like logistics or or an ass or an added value to my life. He knows these things. He knows what I'm looking for, right, my expectations and what I'm looking for in a man, and I've been telling people on video calls all this week. I'm also looking for a man who will invest in me financially. They know this before they leave the video call and I don't apologize for it and I basically say it with my chest and I just I just watch them. And so if you do the same thing a provider man he's going to respect that and he's going to step up to meet your standards, but a project man will start talking about how you know maybe materialistic women are, or gold digging women are these days, and why a man's character and love should be enough. Now, a man's character is important but, sir, I need you to understand that dating me does require a financial investment. Dating me does require for my desires to be met.
Speaker 1:Opportunity number four this is the generosity opportunity. This is to give him a direct opportunity to be generous by asking for something that goes beyond the bare minimum. Okay, this is an opportunity for him to spend money to make your experience better, even when he doesn't have to. So you could ask hey, could you send me an Uber tonight for our date, even though you have your own car? This could be like oh, if you do plan a job to the date, would you mind covering valet? Or could you grab flowers for our date tonight, when he's already planning to see you? Or it's like oh, I'm having a long day, can you order me some DoorDash? Okay, you bring me some food? Bye, that's something that I'll ask for. You know, you know how to cook, you know how to go and get groceries. But let's see. If he wants to be generous. Let's offer him the opportunity to be generous.
Speaker 1:I remember when my grandmother died. She passed and transitioned. I could afford my own plane tickets. I could afford my own hotel stay. I did not choose to pay for it. I hit up two men and I asked them. I hit up Latin Poppy, I hit up Big Body Benz and I was like, hey, can you get the flight? And I asked Big Body Bins. I said, hey, can you get my hotel, can you handle my hotel? And I could have afforded that. But I'm giving them the opportunity to add value into my life. My grandma passed. Invest in me, right.
Speaker 1:So you're extending him the opportunity to spend money to enhance your comfort or show thoughtfulness, not because you need it Cause, girl, you high achieving, we know you got it like that but because you want. You want a man who happily wants to invest in you financially, happily. So be able to just look at his response right, does he handle it gladly because he wants to treat you well? Is he excited about it? Does he feel like he was your hero in this situation? Or does he act like you're being extra Right? Does he suggest like, if you ask for the Uber, he's like don't you have a car. Does he make you feel bad for asking? Right, because a generous man, he sees these requests as opportunities to show he cares. But a cheap man, a financially broke man, will make you feel like you're asking for too much, even for small luxuries. And it gets to the point where, once you are expected and anchored in to all of this, like it just shows up, the generosity just shows up.
Speaker 1:I know like when my friends come into town, like some, like the men, will offer like, hey, I'm going to send you some lunch money, I'm going to pay for lunch. Right, I'm going to send you brunch money, I'm going to send you some money. I remember I was traveling to get my hair done. It was a day trip and Big Body Ben's just slid me a hundred dollars just so I can get some protein. That morning he was like, hey, make sure you get some protein in your breakfast this morning. Right, because I know you need it. Generous opportunity I could have bought my own protein for breakfast and for that I sent him a picture of my nice. I got a really nice steak that morning. I sent him a picture back like look, look at the protein you got me.
Speaker 1:Now the fifth opportunity is the problem solving opportunity. This is not necessarily a financial one, but I want you to basically extend the opportunity for him to solve a problem. I want you to share something that you're trying to figure out. Maybe you need a good mechanic. Maybe you're looking for a specific networking connection, right. Maybe you're looking for recommendations for something specific Doesn't have to be too deep, but something where his input could be helpful.
Speaker 1:A provider man engages with your life. He wants to make things easier for you. A project man will listen or change the subject, and that's pretty much it. He'd be like, damn, that's crazy, damn, that's wild. You know, I hope you find what you're looking for right. Or our project man doesn't even have the resources to provide it. So if you're looking for specific networking connections and you know he don't, he's a lone wolf, he ain't got no darn network. He couldn't help you, right? He's not able to help you. Do this.
Speaker 1:Um, for me, one of the problems that I'm getting solved right now is my credit. Hey, let me solve right now is my credit. Hey, let me, let me be a? Um, let me be an authorized user on your card. Hey, can you? You know, my credit is messed up right now. I need you to problem solve for me. Like, can you solve this problem by applying for this on my behalf? Like that's what I've been asking for. I've I've been looking for homes and, um, big body bands. He was just like, just send me the homes, you know I'll apply for them, cause I know your credit's trash oh my God, this is. This is before Latin poppy came back, um, because now I'm not moving anywhere. But like, yeah. He was like, yes, send me the homes I'll apply for, I'll apply for the homes. Again, problem solving it doesn't directly cost money, so to say, doesn't directly do that.
Speaker 1:Again, provider men are going to see these opportunities to add value in your life Project men are going to see them as inconveniences or expectations they can't meet. Like I'm not going to be able to help her here Now. I know some of y'all are listening to this. You heard all of what I said and you felt your stomach tighten up. You felt your throat close.
Speaker 1:Dora, I could never, I could never ask for those things. I don't want to sound high maintenance or a gold digger. What if he thinks I'm using him? And that's the good girl programming? That's exactly what's been keeping you stuck with the broke men? You've been conditioned to never ask for anything. You've been conditioned to pride yourself on being low maintenance, that you don't need much. So it's easy for a man to be with you or to prove like you're not other girls by not requiring nothing. Um, ti made me sick when he had that song.
Speaker 1:You know, a woman asked for everything, she get nothing. A woman get nothing. Asked for everything. Shut up, ti. That's not how this thing goes. That's how it goes right.
Speaker 1:A woman who asks for everything, she gets the best chance at asking for everything from a man who wants to provide it. And even myself, right, even though I ask for a lot, there is still a place for me where I'm like oh, shoot, like, can I ask for that? You know there's a place where I'm like ooh, like. For example, I've never asked a man for $1,500 on the first date before. That's something that makes my throat close. But I plan on doing that. I plan on making that.
Speaker 1:One of my goals is like asking a man for, not necessarily like, not even asking for it, but making it clear that I want him to do it for me. I want him to give me $1,500 on the first date. That's something I've never done before, but because I have, like, the skills of asking for other things, because I have built up my muscle, that's the next place I'm going right. We can always improve, we can always grow, but the good girl programming is telling me you know, tori, you shouldn't ask for that on the first date. Why not? Why not ask for it? Why not request it?
Speaker 1:And these are all the opportunities that I have presented to men that I am using right now, that I have used and that is prepping me for more. Okay, I want you to stop priding yourself on being low maintenance, trying to prove that you're not a gold digger. Meanwhile, these same men have no problem asking you to come to their house on the first date. They have no problem asking you to eat it from behind on the first date. They have no problem asking you to. You know, loan them money, support their dreams. They're comfortable receiving from you, but you've never been trained to receive from them.
Speaker 1:You've been taught that asking for things makes you gritty or difficult, but a man who's imitated by you, having the level of standards that you want to have and making the request that you want to make was never going to provide for you anyway. Right, these opportunities that you're presenting for men are not about being difficult. We're not trying to be difficult here. We just are offering opportunities to see if he's excited to step up where the man sees our needs as burdens, because the provider men want opportunities to show you that they can take care of you. This is how you shift from broke men, roaches right, like coming out like roaches to providing men showing up for you, cause now you have the space, you, now you have the frequency, now you have the standards where he's like oh yeah, this is a woman who wants my investment, she's ready for my investment. I can feel that she's ready for my investment. Versus like, oh, like she's in the trenches with these, with the brokies what a lot of say broke, no, like she's, she's in the trenches with them. Like, I don't think she's, I don't think she's ready for me, I don't think she's on my level because that's what she feel like she belongs.
Speaker 1:So once you started offering these opportunities, you're going to weed these men out so quickly and you're going to pull men who are ready to show up for you. Okay, you're not too demanding, you're not ever going to scare away the right ones? Never, ever, ever, ever. Your standards are not too high. You've just been accepting too low for too long. The bottom line is broke. Men keep showing up because they know they'll be tolerated. They can sense which women will carry them, will fund them and make excuses for them.
Speaker 1:But when you start collecting provider proof and offering these five opportunities, you stop being the woman who fixes and you start being the woman who receives. You stop over-functioning and you start letting men show you who they really are. Provider men will rise to meet your standards. Project men will eliminate themselves. They will be gone. That's why, when clients be like Tora, why, like these men, keep running away, duh girl? Why is that a problem? Stop making that a problem. You'll finally know what it feels like to be with a man who adds to your life instead of draining it.
Speaker 1:And if you're ready to make this shift, if you're done funding grown men and ready to experience what it's like to be provided for regularly financially, not just emotionally, you need to join me inside of Curve to Cuff and Curve to Cuff. We just don't teach you how to spot providers. We help you become the woman that men actually invest in and you'll stop falling back into fixer mode and start practicing how to ask, how to receive and how to expect more, without thinking that you will receive the support around all of this. So come, work with me in Curve to Cuff to stop attracting the projects and start dating men who want to provide. If the doors are open to Curve the Cuff, there will be a link for you to enroll.
Speaker 1:If the doors are not open, you can join the wait list. You know whatever it is, but figure out how to, how to, when you can come in, what time you can come in. Get ready, because this isn't just about changing your dating strategy. It's about becoming the woman that provider, men pursue, protect and provide for, because you deserve that kind of love and it's time for you to start acting like it. All right, queen, I'm going to see you next episode. Bye.