Date with Cents
Date with Cents
Attracting Your Dream Man Online: Live Dating Profile Audits
You’re relying on your pretty pictures to sell you, but quality men need more than a nice smile to know you’re worth pursuing.
If your dating profile isn’t pulling the kind of men you actually want, this episode is for you
I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes women make on their profiles and why most are just throwing content up without any real strategy.
You’ll hear me do live audits of three real profiles—showing exactly where women lose quality men’s attention and how to create an emotional experience from the first photo to the last.
We’ll talk about why listing what you don’t want makes you sound jaded and how to use every inch of your profile to speak directly to the man you do want.
By the end, you’ll know how to stop relying on looks alone and start creating a profile that makes high-quality men think, “She’s my dream woman.”
If you’re ready to stop attracting low-effort men and start getting messages from men who actually match your standards…this episode will show you how.
Join my Free Attract Him Online Masterclass HERE
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What's up, lover girl? Welcome back to the Date with Sense podcast. I am feeling refreshed, excited. I am so happy to be here. I spent I celebrated uh an anniversary with Big Body Benz. We met last year, September 28th at a party. And we literally was able to recreate a lot of our first date moments during our anniversary. Um it was so good. I enjoyed it so much. I'll probably post about it in my stories. And then I was also able to go on a weekend date, took a trip with Latin Poppy to um Austin, Texas, and really just enjoy nature and uh do my favorite things like kayaking and um so I I really enjoy like the the difference of spending like time with the buddy bands at like the winery and the um spa pools and then going to Austin to like really enjoy like the kayaks and I I went um Tubi. I posted a few of them in my stories for subscribers only of that, so feeling really refreshed off the end of that, and now I am excited because I am about to go on a date. A guy I posted about in my subscriber story. So if you're subscribed to me on Instagram, you would have seen this. I am going out on a date with a guy that I met on Hinge. Um he is actually driving six hours for this date. He really he lives in Dallas, but he he's into the uh fracking side of the oil business, so he's away a lot. And we had an amazing phone call yesterday, and he's like, Look, I gotta come see you. So I'm preparing for that to go to that date tonight to see him for the first time. I'm really excited about that. And speaking of Hinge, he is one of the many, you know, accomplished, handsome, intentional um men that I've been meeting online. Specifically my Hinge profile. Hinge is the main profile that I use, and it's because uh I spend a lot of time making sure my profile is the dream girl profile. And what I mean by a lot of time, like I do a lot of experimenting, especially to help my clients. Because if you have a dream girl profile, you don't have to swipe that like you rarely have to swipe number one to attract your man. Number two, you will start receiving amazing messages from men. Number three, they will be intentional about they will be your ideal man and then they will move you off the app to a date. Do you still have to go through some frogs? Sure, absolutely, absolutely, but for the most part, you will get even the the frogs are are are higher quality. And when I say frogs, it's like men that are my ideal man, but they don't want to invest in me or they take too long to ask me out on a date, but they you know, people would still consider them high quality. Another woman might love it, right? Um and so I love teaching these strategies for my clients to like level up their profile. I have one client um that literally just revamped hers to a dream girl profile. I'm so proud of I'm so proud of her profile, it's so hot. Um, and it's starting to attract this. Is the another reason the standouts, like the standout guys on hinge, those are the guys you gotta pay for with the roles. But when you have a dream girl profile, those men, you don't have to pay for, you don't have to give a rose because you the rose. I told her you are the rose now. Because she was like, I'm starting to see the standouts in my regular feed. That's what happens when you have a dream girl profile that connects with your ideal man. That being said, this episode is you know speaking directly to women who want to attract their ideal man on the apps, and they don't know the reason why. I did when I was promoting Curved to Cuff, I did an Instagram live tearing down three profiles. And when I mean tearing down, I mean like really doing like an audit of them. I asked them who their ideal man was, and then I audited their profile to see if it was in alignment with them and told them exactly why they were not getting the results that they wanted. It was my first time ever doing it, and so I'm like, you know what? It would be great if I did this, if I put this on the podcast, um, because I'm also gonna be creating a class to show you exactly how to do what I'm doing, um, how to attract the kinds of men that I'm attracting online, whenever I want to, right? And I'm gonna host, I'm gonna be hosting a class, a free class on uh October 26th at noon, no, at October 26th at um noon Central Standard Time. So if you want to get some up close and personal um understanding of why your profile isn't profiling, you're attracting them, you're not attracting the men that you want to attract, join my free class. You can join at the link in my I'll have it in the link in my bio by the time this episode drops or in the show notes so you can join us. So until then, listen to this episode. You're gonna love it, you're gonna get a lot of insight on what to do your for your profile. So without further ado, here's the episode. What's up, love girls? Welcome to my first ever live profile audit. Um, so today's profile audit live is sponsored by Curved to Cuff, which closes its doors tomorrow. It's my 12-month program for high-achieving Unchurched Women of Faith who want to build a rotation of two to three men in 90 days. Um, and so if you're interested in joining, you can type C2C to get information on how to join. But C2C is sponsoring this thing because I typically do profile reviews in Curved DeCuff so that a woman's profile is in alignment with the kind of man that she wants and that is of the quality of where men came out on her profile, and they're like, oh, this is my dream girl. This is my dream woman, she's speaking to me. So today we're going to run through three profiles anonymously. Um, shout out to you if you are on this call today to review. And so, first off, we are going to review Lady A. Where's her? Where's Lady A's video? Okay. We're gonna review Lady A. And I'm really excited about again doing this online. So, Lady A, she submitted her profile yesterday, and what she said was, because I I asked her, I was like, hey, like, what are you looking for? Like, what kind of man are you looking for? Because you gotta be, you need to make sure that you are specific on the kind of guys that you're looking for, because that's gonna affect what your profile looks like. If you're not clear on who that man is, you girl, you're just gonna throw some shit up there. And you're gonna be like, Well, I'm not attracting the man I want. I'm like, girl, this profile, you just threw it up. I don't know what this is, but you just threw it up. So this queen, she says, Um, I think I may need to be a little bit more specific so she has some self-awareness there, great, about the type of man that I want. But I what what I know so far is that I want him to be intelligent, handy, caring, generous, athletic, God-fearing, fun, likes outdoorsy things, a protector, a provider, handsome, tall chocolate. Okay. So um, when you think about the man that you're looking for before you do these profile reviews, I want you to think about his lifestyle. I want you to think about his income level. I want you to think about how he spends his free time. I want you to think about the discretionary income. Like what is how does he spend his discretionary income? That's what I really want you to focus on. I want you to think about his friend group. I want to think I want you to think about the conversations he's having with his friend group. I want you to think about the kinds of women that he he's probably dated in the past. Like these are the types of things that I want you to know or think about. And if you don't know the answers to those, you don't know your man well enough. Okay? You do not know your man well enough, and you need to start going to learn him. So looking at her profile, the first thing that I see on the profile is that she has the you're using she, her, hers pronouns. If this is hinge, she's on a hinge profile. Put a put hinge in the comment section if you have a hinge profile or if you've ever had a hinge profile. Put hinge in the comment section. So she has a hinge profile. So this is gonna be for you, anybody who uses hinge. I love hinge, it's one of my favorite platforms to use. I meet so many interesting men on there, I just think it's awesome. So she has the you're using she, her, hers pronouns, and for me, I think that's completely irrelevant to the man that she wants. It's a waste of space. This is precious real estate. Um everything that you say, everything that you post on here needs to be like if my dream man landed on my profile, I want him to see this. Like he needs to see this, and this is why he needs to see it. If you can't think of why he needs to see it, why is it on your profile? It's not important. So she she has the prompt, you're using she, her, and hers pronouns, but she doesn't, and she's not utilizing the photo prompt. So on hinge, you can put prompts when you tap the picture, you can have words that come on on the prompt that kind of describe your experience or where you're at, or like the location she doesn't have anything there. So she's missing out already on precious real estate. We have no idea what she wants this man to know. We do know she's a pretty girl. We do know she has a a really, she looks petite, very nice body, and she has a very nice smile. But again, that's all we have. We don't really know much about her as of now, as she lands. Now, for a lot of guys, uh, if we're wondering like why we only attract low effort guys, it's because they they see a pretty girl, they're gonna shoot that shot. But for the quality man that we're looking for, they are going to read through every picture, they're gonna try to find out so much. I have to share my screenshots of like what men have said to me on my profiles. Like, I've read through everything that you had. Like, oh my gosh, it's so amazing, like what you said, right? So the next thing she has, she has a poll. She has a poll. And the poll is let's talk, let's chat about healthy conflict resolution, how everyone needs therapy. My obsession with matcha latte already. This poll is all over the place because there's not there's not even a it's it doesn't tell a story. It's not your polls are supposed to be inviting men to an experience, leading men to an experience. It like he should be able to read your poll and uh actually feel something. And with this poll, it feels like it feels coachy, it feels like I'm ready to be your coach. Healthy conflict resolution. I'm ready to, I'm ready to get deep into a relationship with you, like or how everyone needs therapy. Let's talk about this. Let's let's talk about how how I can high how we can be coaches, right? Very, very serious matter. Um, my obsession with matcha latte, very out of place here. It's not a cohesive story, so it's all over the place here. And uh it still really doesn't tell much about her. The only thing I know about her right now is that she's into therapy speak, maybe therapy, and she likes matcha latte. It doesn't really like pull me in. Okay. She has a voice prompt, but she doesn't play it for me. So I can't just I can't give her feedback on the voice prompt here. But now this one, she's like the way to win me over. So we don't even know much about her. I only seen one picture of her. And now she's going, the best way to win me over is being generous. Oh, you want to make my life easier? Love that for me. At this point, there's nothing here that says I should make your life easier. Why would I make your life easier? How did you pull me in so that I wanted to make your life easier? Or being peaceful. Life is stressful enough. Don't be coming here trying to stress a girl out. Well, it feels like she's a woman that probably had conflict with men in the past, and so she has to put it out there. Because if you live a life of peace, your ex like my expectation is men are gonna come into my life. Like, I'm only gonna have men in my life that bring peace, right? Because I have a certain level of standard, I have a certain way that I live. It's not something I have to announce, right? Because it's clear on how I live and who I interact with. So you gotta be very, very careful about like, hey, life is stressful enough. Especially if we're looking for men to be generous with us, especially if we're looking for men that come, like men that come to make your life easier, they're not coming to make it easier because your ass is stressed. Right? That's not why they're doing it. Now, there are some men who may be on their rescue high horse, and I don't I being in a relationship with a rescuer doesn't feel in alignment because those men will rescue everybody. They mama, they cousins, right? You won't even really have that man because he's trying to save the world, right? It's not just you. You gotta be careful about dating rescuers because they will pay your bills, they will fund you if if you need to be uh bailed out, but they also bail everybody else out. Gotta be careful about that. All right. You're really missing a lot of opportunity with the places. So now we're down where you can choose what you're looking for. She has life partner and monogamy. You're missing a lot of opportunity to describe what monogamy looks like for you and like the the kind of container that you're looking for here. Or life partner, like what does that look like for you? Um, how how does this lead up to like how could it lead up to a partnership? Like, we are missing prime real estate to really describe the monogamy that we're looking for, or describe the life partnership that we're looking for. Again, we have another picture. You look very beautiful. She has a bathing suit by the beach, a favorite memory, but girl, what the hell is this memory? What are where are you? Why do I care? Why would I want to know more about this? And you have back-to-back pictures where your face is obstructed. Shades in both of these photos, back to back. Again, a pretty face, very nice dress, but it's not, it's it's lacking. It's basically like, I'm pretty. It's like I'm pretty, be my provider. I am pretty, be generous. I'm pretty, be all the things that I want you to be. But there's not a lot of like who you are as a woman and why should this man care. So then you're like, the the then she's like, the best way to ask me out is by getting right to the point. No one wants to spend all day going back to back, back and forth, asking about the weather. Let's meet and talk about the details over dinner. Again, this sounds jaded. It sounds like you have a lot of whack experiences with men and a man who wants to court you, he actually doesn't want to date a woman that dates men who waste their time or feels like that's what she's been dating. He wants to date a woman that's like, oh, she's very clear on her standards. Like she, like, this is not a problem for her. But this feels very jaded because I've dealt with this so much. I gotta tell you in advance, versus like, oh, this is the experience that I would love to create with you. I would love to create this experience with you. Like the best way to ask me out is by making reservations at my um at my favorite restaurant. Like the best way to ask me out is to send me, you know, logistics or um or you know, calling me a like I want you to think about what if you wasn't pissed off at other men? What would you say? Because right now this feels like you're pissed off at other men and it's bleeding through the content. Another nice photo of you again. We have we have the same picture. I I don't know nothing about you, girl. I don't know nothing about you. So, next is my therapist will say, I dance to the rhythm of my own drum. I don't know what that means. I need a partner who understands that and can keep up, nurture that side of me and not try to dim my light. Again, it's feeling like jaded. It's feeling like I've dealt with so much mess. I need to announce ahead of time that you need to be ahead of my the mess that I've been with. Um, and I still don't know nothing about you. I don't know what dance to the rhythm of my own drum. Does that mean I don't listen? Does it mean that I just go and come as I please? Does it mean that I I do angels? Uh I do angels in the sunflower field. Like, what does that even mean? Like, I don't I don't have an emotional connection to your profile. I look at it and it's like, I don't have an emotional connection, it just feels like you just threw it up. It's all about the simple things. What does that mean, girl? I see you with the pool, I see the glass, but what is happening here and why do we care? Take me back to where. I see that you are in a very nice blue dress, you look very pretty, I see yellow walls, but where are you? Why do we care? Why does a man want to know? And so, from what I'm seeing, is there's nothing on your profile calling in the man that you're looking for. Nothing, absolutely. You have a pretty dress, you look pretty, but it's going to attract a lot of low effort men because the profile is screaming. I have dealt with so much low effort men that I gotta tell you this, this, and this, and that so that you don't do what they do. But it the men that see that, they're just like, nah, I'm good. So that's profile one. Um, what's one thing you learn from profile one? Or what's the one thing you're gonna change from your profile from profile one? Because I'm about to move on to profile two. Profile two, this queen says, I'm looking for a God-fearing, kind, generous, protecting man. We need to be a lot more specific. Like I said, we need to be a lot more specific in the kind of men. If you're just joining the live, I talked about how specific that we need to get when we're when we're um thinking about the man. All right, we gotta get super specific. Alright, so her profile. Let me let me bring it up. Where is it? Okay, here she goes. First thing I'm seeing is she has a beautiful photo of her. It's a beautiful background. Her dress is nice, her hair is laid. The problem is we're losing out on precious real estate here because there's no prompt, there's no, there's no caption to who am I? Why, why is this picture amazing? Or like, why landing on my profile? Why won't you ever want to leave? Once you get to my profile, what's gonna inspire you to send me a message? Like when men hit your profile, your phone, your caption, your caption should specifically already pull in a man and make him want to send you a message. Your first picture, your first caption should make a man be like, ooh, I'm gonna send her a message right now. And this is not doing it mainly because it's just a photo. We're gonna scroll down a little bit more, but it does look like she's on a cruise. The next one is she has a poll, and she goes, the poll is pick the best one. An Alaskan cruise, an NBA All-Star game, fly to Portland, rent a car, and have a road trip. She just threw that up there. She didn't really think about the man that she was looking for. And it's and it's probably because she's not she's not clear on the man, she's not very detailed in the kind of man that she's looking for, right? So she threw up pick the best one. I'm telling y'all, if y'all are on hinge, your polls need to be magnetic. Your polls don't need to be some random shit that you just talk about. You need to think about the kind of man that I'm looking for, the type of experiences do I want to have. What am I going to add on those polls? So that if I'm gonna say pick the best one, I'm going to create an experience with the man. I'm gonna be like, what kind of experience do I want to create with this man? Or what kind of experience do I want to invite him to? And let's just say she wanted to add an Alaskan cruise, right? It might be something, instead of an Alaskan cruise, I might say something like, um, an Alaskan cruise in the middle of summer, where we are standing on the balcony and you're holding my hand and we're whispering, blah, blah, blah, blah. I think it's like 75 characters. You have up to 75 characters. That's going, that is more so something that's gonna resonate versus an Alaskan cruise, right? You wanna think, you want to start putting pebbles or like, or, or something that is going to invite a man to the experience that you want him to have when he reads your profile. Men, you want men to have an emotional experience when they land on your profile. All of this is just facts. Men are not gonna connect with you on facts alone, they're just gonna keep swiping, swipe, swipe, swipe. What do they feel when they land on your profile? The next one, the dorkiest thing about me is I do geography quizzes during my free time and next want to learn all the flags. Again, there's nothing wrong with this, per se. It does just it doesn't do anything, it doesn't, it's not really speaking to anything. Now, we like I would actually I would keep the I do geography quizzes during my free time, and I would talk about like how that makes me feel as a woman, or like I would talk about like how that lights me up as a woman, and then I would extend an invitation to him, right? Of him joining me or something like that. Like I would be talking in your profile, you should be talking to the man the whole time, way the whole time through. And a lot of us are just throwing stuff up that we're not talking to this man. We're not talking to him. We need a man to land on our profile, and it feels like he's reading a letter from us, right? We're just like, well, random stuff here, random stuff there. Hinges and app. All right, we're going down again. She also missed the opportunity for the place where there's life partner, life partner and monogamy. She has dating with intention, but again, it's it's not expressive. It doesn't, it doesn't, it doesn't describe anything, it doesn't really tell a man much. What does dating with intention actually mean to you? Um, we have a photo, she's very beautiful. It says selfie, it's black and white, but again, she's not taking advantage of the prompts. So far, the only thing I know about this woman is that she's pretty and she does yoga, she does geography quizzes and learns about the flags. But nothing about like where a man would want to land and he was like, Oh, I can see myself in her life. Oh, I I can see me um how she will be on a date right now. Like I can I can feel her personality through the screen. We're the same type of okay. She has a picture with friends, never do that. Never. This is not their dating profile. This is yours. The last thing you want is for somebody to look at your profile and look at your friend in the back, be like, okay, you cool, but who was her? Who was Shay? I was I was on your page, but now I'm like, I want to talk to your friend. It's about you. Take everybody off your page, and this is about you, including your kids. Take your kids off the page. We're the same type of weird if you hate receiving way too many calls and text messages on your birthday. Again, why does this matter to a man, your dream man, your ideal man? Why does this matter in terms of how you are going to land a date in the next week? Like, we should be creating a connection here so that he wants to message you and he wants to plan a date. But there's nothing happening here to where a man is kind of like, ooh, who is this? The way her profile makes me feel. Oh absolutely amazing. I just feel coming to her page. She makes me feel alive. We're just talking about facts. You hate receiving too many calls. I don't know what I don't know why anybody should care. You got another girl. So we got another photo on this, me and my best friend. Why do you have why we still have other women on here? Why do we why are we including other women on the profile? This is not about not being a girl's girl. This is your dating profile. This is you saying, hey, man, I am inviting you to invite me on a date, and here are all the reasons why you're like, hey, here are my friends. Here's me and all my friends. Take those girls off the profile. I go crazy for sunrises, weekend getaways, being on the water, hanging out with the dog, Bible study with friends, and driving around looking at big homes. Again, I don't feel nothing. I feel nothing. I would probably feel more of something if you took two of these things and really went into depth as to why sunrises are important for you or why hanging out with your dog is important. But I would make but that you I would get more out of that. Like you would create more connection with that than trying to list all those things. Less is more. Okay, less is more. Um, the less things you talk about, just go into depth about it and create emotion, like it should create an emotional connection on your profile. And right now we're just throwing some things out. It's not really catering to a specific kind of man. I still don't know what kind of man you're looking for based upon your profile. I should know what kind of man you're looking for based upon your profile, and it's not a cohesive story. We were talking about the NBA games, Alaskan crews, geography quizzes, sunrises, birthday text messages. There's no cohesive storyline of like who you are. It's just it's all over the place. My submission to National Geographic, beautiful photo. We are not, you still didn't utilize photo captions. I don't know. We could be really highlighting it, and you didn't do that. And the same thing with your last photo. Um, yeah, we're not capitalizing on the photo. There's no clear storyline, there's no emotional connection. I don't know what kind of man you're looking for in this profile. It's not really speaking to a specific kind of man, and so you you throw it out there, you're just gonna get what you get. So that's the second profile. The third profile, she didn't she didn't really give me much either. I think she just told me she didn't want a project man because you know she considers herself a really powerful woman who's done a lot of work for herself and she's also very successful. So this is the last profile. But before we get into that, what what did you learn from my last review? What did you learn or what are you gonna do for your own profile based upon my last review? Okay, the last profile, and if you're new here, if you just jump on the live, this prof these profile audits that I'm doing today, they are sponsored by my program Curve to Cuff, which is my 12-month signature program. I do this all week in my program. I review profiles from women who post them in the community and I tell them exactly what to say. Now, in the in the program, I go much deeper and I tell them I go and they also have courses in there in order to go upgrade. Okay. So whenever I review their profiles, I give them a personalized video that I record reviewing their stuff, like they have me reviewing at each stand, and I give them examples on. What they could do differently, and then I also point them to a course that they can take in the program because I've created like different pieces of content that they can go to in order to make their profile better. So if you're interested in joining c2c, the door is closed tomorrow. If you're interested, put c2c in the comment section and you'll get a link to join. But this is the last queen. Beautiful first photo. She looks amazing, but again, she's not utilizing the prompts. She's not utilizing the prompts at all. She looks so gorgeous. Her hair is beautiful. The outfit is pretty. She looks so like, oh hey. But again, she's not utilizing the prompt. So now we just have a pretty face, but we don't have nothing to go with that. So now she's like, her polls, if we won the lottery, let's spend it on. Once again, there's no emotional connection here. She's like, let's spend it on experience, put it into savings, the best of Amazon. It's not really speaking to the kind of man that she's looking for. That's like it's just something that we chose to do. It's not strategic. It's not intentional. We need to be very intentional about our profiles. We think about the man that we're looking for. This isn't very intentional at all. It's simply like, if we won the lottery, let's just spin it on these random things that I thought of. Versus like, how does this even like what kind of connection am I making with the man that I want to connect with? Like, what experience am I inviting him to? And if I'm really speaking to that man, would I be talking about if we won the lottery? Or would I more so be talking about something this week? Let's agree on. Like, for example, I might use a promo, let's agree on um first dates planned within the first week of connecting. If there's something that you want to happen. Right? You could do that. If you wanted to do polls. Right? But we just focus on random shit that nobody cares about. Like that's probably no one cares, right? Um my simple pleasures, a warm cup of K Cola writing in my journal, having the sun hit my skin. Okay. I would expand upon why. I would try to, I would, I would expand upon like what like what makes this a simple pleasure. I would create the emotional experience as in like what creates a simple pleasure, and I would be asking men questions throughout my profile. Every single profile I have, y'all didn't ask a man one question. You didn't invite him to anything, you didn't extend it invite. Would you like to blah blah blah? What are your favorite blah blah blah? Um, would you like to blah blah blah? There's no invitation, there's no conversation. Y'all were just throwing up a profile and y'all were not having conversation with men. Um, again, she has life partner monogamy. You guys are really missing the mark here. You guys could be using this as precious real estate to expand upon what life partnership means to you, what monogamy means to you, but it's not really intentional what we're doing here. She has another picture, her face is obstructed because her glasses are huge. It's a beautiful photo, but her glasses are huge in obstructing her face. I do not recommend posting too many photos with it, no more than one photo if you're gonna obstruct your face. No more than one photo. But it's a very nice photo. But she's she doesn't have any picture prompts, she doesn't have any captions on her photos, so therefore she's missing out on an opportunity to describe the experience that she's having. She's missing an opportunity to invite a man to the experience that she's having. She's missing opportunity there. The next one, she has a very nice photo, but again, it's she's got too many selfies already. It's too many, it's screaming. Like she has too many, too many, too many faces just up above, and you got to be careful about that because it could be like, okay, is she comfortable with her body? Right? You want to make sure you're showing more of yourself than up top. The one thing you should know about me is I'm more than capable of taking care of myself and handling things. I just don't want to always, especially out of work, I like a partner that ebbs and flows when it's time to take the wheel. This sounds like a woman who's tired of dealing with brokies. She's like, look, but she doesn't want to be seen as a gold digger at the same time. That's the kind of language she's using. She's using like, okay, I'm tired of dating a man that's not on my level, but at the same time, I don't want y'all to think I'm a gold digger. Don't do that. Be very clear. Be very clear. If you I would take it, I would not use I'm more than capable of taking care of myself, especially considering one of the things that you specifically said is you want a man who's powerful. Why would you need to lead with I'm more than capable of taking care of myself? You're an adult. Right? We want a powerful man. That's not what we lead with. Because that's not something that he needs to hear. Right? I just don't want to always, especially out of work. So that's key for men. Like I've been dealing with a lot of men who made who let me take care of things all by myself. All right. I've been dealing with men who don't know how to take the wheel. Because if you were, if you were a woman who always dealt with powerful men, you wouldn't have to write this. Don't tell on yourself. Even if it's true, don't tell on yourself. Don't let these men know you don't date powerful, you haven't been dating powerful men. You need to act as if you've always been dating powerful men. You need to show up on here as if you've always been dating powerful men. Do not show your hand here. The next photo, we it's a full-body photo, and she's out somewhere, but I can't, I don't really know what's happening here, and it's not nothing's being described. So it's just a it's just a photo of her, and it's dark. It's a dark, it's a darker photo. I would switch, I would edit it and lighten it up. I think it could be a really great photo if we edited it and brightened it up. It's it's a look, it's a it's too dark. I can't really make make you out. So we got a bunch of selfies, and then we got this dark photo where we can't really make you out. You should not go out with me if you don't like to work on yourself. Every bad experience you have is someone else's fault. I consciously like to live life through the lens of the world as your oyster. Go create it looking for someone to create it with. I still I actually don't know much about you. Other than you you want to take care, you you know how to take care of yourself and and and you like to journal and stuff and you want to win the lottery. I don't really know much about you. But this you should not go out with me is a no. Because the assumption is that you date men who are who are great already. So we don't need to talk about who we should not go out with. I wouldn't use this prompt at all. I would never use the prompt you should not go out with me if, because it's going to have you focus on the negative, it's going to have you talk about what men aren't doing or haven't been doing or what you don't do, like, no, and it's gonna show your hand, it's gonna say, like, oh man, like, okay, okay. Um, and then I consciously like to live life through the lens of the world. Is your oyster go create it looking for someone to create it with? Like, but I don't even know what that means. I I haven't seen in your profile how you've done that. I haven't seen in your profile how you've lived that way. I don't know your story. I don't know your I don't know who you are. Uh then you have a picture, looks like you are at a retreat on a pillow. Again, there's no poles there. Uh, but you look beautiful. And then there's another picture with you in a beautiful beautiful dress. But it doesn't look like you. How old is that photo? That photo doesn't currently, I don't think that photo looks like you now. I could be wrong. I I just don't think it does. Make sure your photos are current and by current within the last year or two. I wouldn't even do two years. I would I would do last year in the last 12 months. Um, that's my that's my recommendation, what I'm seeing. I don't know what kind of man you want. There's no story tell. Like, I don't, it's not telling a story about the woman you are. I really don't know who you are. I don't know what you are about. I don't know why I should connect with you. I do know why I shouldn't. So that needs a that needs a whole upgrade as well. That needs a whole that needs a whole upgrade as well. So the common themes. What are y'all gonna change based upon what I said about this profile? So the common things that I'm saying is what I'm saying is that we are relying on our pictures to sell us. We are relying too much on our our beauty. The beauty ain't gonna get it, girl. We're relying way too much on the beauty and not enough on um our our words and um the express the experience and emotional connection that we can create through our profile. We're relying way too much on the photos, right? Um, we are not creating an experience from the time a man lands on our profile to the end of the profile. That man, it that man should be, I mean, wrapped up in your profile from start to finish. To where he I remember a man, a man, I'm gonna share, I'm gonna share with the comments that men make on my profile. Because I share my profile in my uh in Curved the Cuff. Um and every time I do my profile, I've done my profile over the years several different times. And I get these messages. I had a guy recently, he was like, Man, I know I'm not up to par with the kind of man that you're looking for, but I just want to say like your profile. Like, your profile is amazing. Like, I I want to be that man. He was like, I know I'm not that man, but I want to be that man. Um, or I will have men comment and they say, Oh my gosh, I want to experience this. Can I experience this with you? Um, so yeah, like I said, this is what I do weekly in my 12-month program. If you have questions, put your questions in the question box. I'll answer a few, but I gotta go get ready to put my makeup on because I'm going to a celebrity boxing match tonight. And uh it starts very, very soon, and I want to make sure I'm really beautiful for it. And I have a really nice dress. And but if you have questions, put in the question box. I'm gonna answer a few before I go. Um, but this is what I do weekly in Curve the Cuff. I will review your profile and I will tell you, I will tear it down, but I will build you up with the content for you to make it better, for you to attract the kinds of men that you're looking for, and so that you can learn how to get a date within 48 hours and date the men that your ideal type. Okay? Thank you, girl. So you can date your your ideal man. When you come into Curve the Cuff, we have what we call the quality man finder. And if you are unclear of the kind of man that you're looking for, the quality man finder, there's no way you will use a quality man finder and not know what kind of man that you're looking for. You can start with that and then build your profile out from there and be like, oh, okay, now I know what kind of man I'm getting very clear on the kind of man that I'm looking for. And you build your profile out from there. Um, because you'll you'll know, like, oh, this is what I'm supposed to be saying. I'm also going to be updating my Date Quality Man online course. So if you join C2C this round, you will get access to that brand new curriculum of you're gonna not only see my profile, see what's behind the scenes of how I got men messaging me and how I'm consistently getting matches with no issue. Um, and then also how to create your own. I'm gonna be updating all of that. So type C2C if you're gonna join or if you want to join. Someone says, Can you give an example of a super specific description of the kind of man that we want? Sure. I had a um a client when we did her quality man finder, one of the things that what we did was she was like, oh, so what I realized about my man, and this is this is without the quality man finder off the top of my head, looking looking at it. She was like, matter of fact, let me see if I can let me see if I can pull up uh one of my clients' quality man finder responses. Let me see. Let me see if I can do that right. If you got questions, put it in because I'm about to go to do my makeup. Very soon. So put your questions in the question box. Well, let me let me see if I can pull a response from one of my an actual client who did the quality man finder. Okay. Okay. So he earns 200k a year. He's in tech, but he's someone that is in mechanical, he's in mechanical engineering in a startup. He cares a lot about his work instead of being morally opposed or turning a blind eye because it pays the bills. He could be in uh self-employed or employed, but he's been promoted a few times, of course, if he has been employed. He has boundaries to avoid being a workaholic, but he also loves his job, his work, and he's good at it. He lives in downtown San Francisco with an option of flexibility or for work from home. He his typical work days in the office or co-working space, but sometimes he likes, well, after work, he likes to go to the gym and go to dinner, but his evenings are often spent on dates, networking events, catching up with friends. Um, like I can keep going on, but like we have a whole thing. Like it's very long. It's very long. I want you to think about you ladies that are in business and then how you how you realize like who your person is. Do y'all see the difference between I just want to provide a man who's like generous, you know, who um who's godly? Do you see the difference? The quality man finder helps you. Like I sent, I told her I was like, look, you just do the quality man finder and we'll start helping you meet the kinds of men that you're you're looking for. Someone says, What if your life is boring because you're a caretaker? Should I go get a life first then start dating? Uh I would say like uh tons of my clients are caretakers. I would say, number one, define boring, right? Because a lot of us think that boring means, you know, one thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean boring to another person, right? So sometimes I feel like my life is like regular, and people be like, oh my gosh, you have such an amazing life. And I'm like, I feel like it's I feel like my life is very regular. I don't, I like I don't think of it like, oh, it's so incredible, but I get why they say it, right? So what does boring mean? And then two, dating actually makes your life more exciting. Y'all know how many places I discovered or experiences that have enhanced my life because I went on a date with a high-caliber man who introduced me to new things. Oh my gosh, like VIP experiences because I decided that I date I wanted to date a higher caliber man and what he's introduced me to. No, you don't wait to build your life, you build it simultaneously with dating. Someone says the quality man finder is a part of C2C. Yes, it's a part of C2C. It's in module five. The quality man finder. Alright, guys. The doors closed to C2C tomorrow. Someone says your life is not regular at all. You're literally about to go to a celebrity boxing match, your life is anything but regular. And I get it. Like when people tell me, I'm like, okay, I get it. But for me, it feels like just another day. Especially because I'm heavily introverted and I spend most of my time at home. Y'all don't understand, I spend most of my life at home in my house. I don't, I don't leave often. I just, my life is just very curated. I spend most of my time inside my house, but my life is extremely curated to where I want to meet men, I want to meet new women. This is how I'm gonna live my life. Okay? D, girl, I know who you are. Girl, I listen. I know exactly. Girl, you thought I could forget you. D, quit playing. Quit acting like you're not that girl. She's acting like I don't know her. That's crazy. That is wild. Now, you guys are interested in joining to C2C. We do have a is this for me call. You can go look at the link uh in my stories to get the Zoom link. That's tomorrow if you want to join. Um, and or if you want to see the details to enroll into C2C, just type C2C and you can um get the details to enroll. It's a whole pamphlet that you can look through. Testimonials in the pamphlet, there's what's included in C2C, it's module pro like what you're gonna learn in the modules. So if you hit C2C, you're gonna get details on what it looks like to join C2C. Um you'll get a lot more information. The link will come when you just type C2C. You'll get the link. So, alright, my good people. I gotta get ready for the boxing match. I'm so excited. Before the boxing match, is a there's a five-course dinner. Oh gosh, I'm so excited. Bye guys! Alright, girl, that's the episode. I know you got a lot of gems from that. I love the fact that you are able to really see more inside of my mind of when I am looking at profiles, and I hope you're able to see some of the mistakes that you have been making and how to clean those up. Definitely join my free class October 26th at uh 12 Central Standard Time. You can find out about this in the show notes, or you can sign up at the link in my bio. I hope to see you there so that you can really figure out exactly what to do to take your profile to the next level so that you don't have to be exhausted or drained or overwhelmed. Why am I not attracting the man that I want to attract? I'm gonna show you how to create an amazing profile, become a dream girl profile to attract that kind of man. So, all right, girl, go ahead and do that. I'm about to go on my day. See you later. Bye.