Date with Cents
Date with Cents
5 Profile Mistakes That Make You Invisible to Quality Men
I just went on five dates in one week—including a man who drove six hours just to meet me and another who planned a seven-hour experience complete with private dining.
Three of these men… met them on Hinge.
When I posted screenshots, women flooded my DMs saying "that can't be my Hinge" and "dating apps don't work for me."
But here's the thing: dating apps are just tools, and if you don't know how to use them, you'll keep attracting the same low-effort men while quality guys scroll right past you.
In this episode, I'm breaking down the five profile mistakes that are making you completely invisible to the accomplished, intentional men you actually want.
I'm talking about the specific things you're doing right now that signal "broke boy energy" instead of attracting men who know how to pursue and plan incredible dates.
You'll discover why your profile isn't working and what's keeping the right men from ever seeing you as someone worth pursuing…but I'm not telling you how to fix it in this episode.
If you’re ready to stop deleting dating apps out of frustration and start developing actual skills that get you real results….
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What's up, love girl? Welcome back to the Date with Sense podcast. Last time we spoke, I was getting ready for a date with a guy that drove six hours that was driving six hours to meet me. It was such a great date. And we only we were together for two hours before he had to turn around. And I'm so excited to meet him. I also went on another date. So we're gonna call him Green Bay, the one um that I went for six hours with because he loves to travel different golf courses in the country. And so he's Green Bay. And then we have Tycoon Poppy, because he likes to just buy up a lot of land and properties here, different countries. Um I went on a date with him. It was a seven-hour experience. He's like the kind of man that like he called me a car, and then he called me a car to drive in his really nice car, and then he like had a whole itinerary. Um private dining. And when I say private, like the chef coming out there and only tending to us type of experience. Um like we we visited different places. We we were at the the last stop was like the Carlos Mencia show. We did a comedy show. I ended up getting on stage. Um like I got ragged on like the whole per like the whole uh whole show. It was such a great time with him. And then I went, so that's Tycoon Poppy, and then we have we're gonna call him Silicon Valley. I had another date, and he's so cute and nerdy and um just attentive, and he greeted me at the restaurant with flowers. It was so sweet, it was super sweet. So I had five days and one week, a weekend date with Latin Poppy. Oh, yeah, I went on a date with Big Body Benz as well. We went to Top Cough, that was great, really fun. He was sick of my ass because I act like I couldn't hit the ball because I wanted him to adjust my waist. Lamb Poppy with the weekend, date in Austin, um, Tycoon Poppy, Green Bay, Silicon Valley, Big Body Bends. It was a great time. And I shared clips of all of these dates on my Instagram stories, and I also shared the fact that I met three those three new men on a dating app. And I showed screenshots of us talking on the dating app, and people were like, What dating app? Like hinge, that can't be hinge, not my hinge, blah blah blah blah. Or talking about, you know, like that dating apps don't work for them. And I'm like, girl, dating apps don't work because they're tools. It's like a hammer doesn't work unless a skilled person knows how to take it and build a house with them. If you want dating apps to work, you gotta be skilled. And so this is what this particular episode is about. It's sponsored by my free class that I'm hosting this upcoming weekend. It's Thursday that you're listening to this podcast, so Sunday. I will have the link in the show notes, and it's called Um From Prop Profile to Pursue, um, how to uh show up online to attract amazing men. And yeah, I'm gonna be giving you strategies on how you can show up online specifically so that you can meet the kinds of men that I'm meeting online. A lot of people want to make this about you know, the type of app or the location, but I could go to I can go to all y'all locations and do this. You know, I can do this in all the locations. I travel all the time. I'm in different cities and states all the time. I could do this in your city or city. I should, I should, I should do tour on tour, dating men in your city, and then post it online so you can see. Right? It's all about developing skills, which is why I'm doing this free class to show you how to do it. I'm I'm not gonna talk about it too much right now because you're gonna hear about it a ton during this Instagram live by mistakes that you're making that's keeping you invisible to Quality Man. I'm gonna be talking about my free class. Then I'm also gonna be talking about my paid workshop that I'm offering at the end of my free class. It's a 30-day experience of and being able to like enhance your profile and meet different types of men. It's$220, and as a special bonus for those of you who enroll um at the end of the free class. So get your coins ready,$220 to be able to join that offer. And um, y'all know my free classes are amazing, my lives are amazing, and um, so you know the paid workshop is gonna be the implementation of this information. So I'm excited about offering all of it. So without further ado, here's the episode. Well, Seth Love of Girl. Welcome to my live. The five profile mistakes that make you invisible to quality men. That's what we're talking about today. And um, I'm talking about this because this live is off the heels of me sharing how I went on dates with five men, oh, delicious date with five men in one week. All of them accomplished and successful um and attractive. And three of them I met on hinge in one week. And um, I just posted in my story so people can see. Like, I like to come with receipts, even though I'm don't typically I'm not sharing everything that I'm experiencing, but I'm like, I need to show the girls I'm not, you know, I'm not lying, I'm not playing out here. I am really trying to show y'all that the problem isn't dating apps. We like to, we like to get on dating apps and we like to delete them and we like to say that something's wrong with them or it's trash. Dating apps are only mirroring what's happening with us in real life. That's it, right? So if you're having trouble attracting the kinds of men that you want, I really want you to think about um, are you even actually attracting these men offline? You know? Um, and then also I want you to think about dating app as a tool. We think of a dating app as something that's supposed to give us what we want, and it's not. It's like I give you a hammer and you're like, why didn't you, you know, why didn't you build my house? Hammer? I mean, I bought you. How come you didn't build my house? Hi, Ann. You can't build a house unless you're a skilled person that knows how to take the hammer and add it with some other things to build a house. You won't have one. The same way it operates with dating apps. Dating apps are not a genie to grant you the best men, they are a tool that if you are a skilled person, you can use it. And so this live is sponsored by my free class that I'm hosting this uh upcoming Sunday at 12 p.m. Central Standard Time, and it is called From Profile to Pursuit. And I'm going to show you exactly um strategies for you to actually create and enhance your profile so that your ideal men, the men that you're looking at, the men that you want, the men that's behind paywalls, the men that you know find difficult to believe are on a dating apps. I want to show you how to gain access to them. All right. I literally just did two clients, had two clients upgrade their profiles this week, and they've already sent me crazy messages about the types of matches that they're getting, right? One is living in South Africa, another one is living in New York. Out of the United States, in the United States, it don't matter unless you live in a country that's not socially free to women. Other than that, it doesn't matter. So let's get into today's lesson. Oh, type P2P, P number two P if you want the link to join my free class this weekend. And on this free class, at the very end, I'm going to share a special opportunity to join a workshop to work with me for$220. That's going to be an incredible experience. So, yes, I will be selling something on the free uh class, but you know, any free class I do is worth showing up for. It is worth any free class I do. So put P2P in the comment section and you'll get the free class, and you'll also get the opportunity to get the bonus uh special that I have for the workshop that I'm gonna announce on the free call. Anywho, okay. Most women, when they get on dating apps, they log on, they write some things that put them in a good light to describe themselves, they post some pictures that they think make them look, you know, really nice and pretty, and they don't realize that that is not skill. Okay. Anybody can throw up a resume. Not everybody can create a resume that has the top company's calling. Okay, so most of us we do this and we think our profile looks really, really great and we think we're doing right, but then we're realizing that we're not matching with the kinds of men. The only men that are matching with us are dusty men, men who want sex, um low effort men, men who can't carry on conversations. And so the first mistake that you're making is that your profile is reading like a resume. Okay. And what I mean by that is that your profile is basically you listing facts, right? You're listing your hobbies, you're listing what you like to do for fun. You're list, you're listing, um, you're listing like what do you like to do in your free time? You're listing what you want in a man. Like, you're just listing things, you're just making the list. What I'm looking for, a list. What I like to do, list. It's just facts. I like to have fun, I like to laugh, I like to travel. I'm looking for an intentional. I'm I'm it's just a list. That's all it is when you read it. And that comes off very resume-ish. When men are reading your profile and it reads like a list of facts, you're giving him information. But a man doesn't move from information, he doesn't make a choice off of just the information, the men that, not the men that you want, right? Because you're like, I don't let track these kind of men because the men don't care about the, they don't care what you put on there. They was gonna swipe right anyway. But the men, the high-caliber men, the kind of men that I posted in my story, the wealthy men that I posted in my stories, right? The the fun, attentive um men that I posted, they are looking to feel something. They don't want to just read a bunch of facts. Reading a bunch of facts is not gonna move them. Giving them information is not gonna move them. They need to be able to read your profile and feel excited. Even if you're a beautiful woman, they're around, these kind of men are around beautiful women on time. Your picture isn't going to move them. I don't care how beautiful you are, the picture isn't just going to move those kind of men. Right? What you like to do for fun isn't going to move those kind of men, right? That your simple pleasures isn't just going to move those kind of men. The fact that you climb Kilimanjaro isn't gonna move those kind of men just because you listed the facts. Now you can share all of that, but in a way where he's able to feel something when he reads it, where he gets inspired by reading it, where he gets elated by reading it. Um I the one of the men literally drove six hours to take me on a date last week because he was so inspired. He was so excited. He said, Look, I gotta just know if you're real. I don't want to get emotionally invested because I, girl, I just want to know if you're a real person. I'm gonna drive it six hours. I might look desperate, but I just need to know if you're a real person or a catfish. I've been catfished on this app plenty of times. I just want to reach out and touch you to know if you're real six hours. I had to turn right back around. Okay, so there's a way to communicate exactly who you are, what you like to do for fun, how you like to uh show up, even your education. I talk about my business on my profile. You know, when people say, Oh, don't talk about your work, don't I talk about my business on my profile? But when I talk about it, it makes them feel something. When they read it, they're like, ooh, I want to know her. I want to I want to show up for her, I want to take her out. Ooh. Hey Shaquille, I love you. Yes. So there's a way to communicate without you listening, and it's one of the things that I'm gonna be teaching in a free class. So if you want to learn, come start with my free class P2P. Put it in the comment section. Start, start there. Because I'm gonna be showing y'all strategy. I'm gonna even be showing you behind the scenes of like what men are are saying to me, what I what I post, like I'm gonna be showing you all that. So if your profile is just a bunch of facts, if you read it and it just feels like you're reading, if you're if you're reading off facts, it is if it doesn't excite you to read it, girl, throw it away. Because every time I read my profile, I'd be like, Torah, I'd be like, Tora, this is amazing. You're that girl. Let me read it again. Ooh, Torah. That's how I read when I read my own profile. Tora, can I date you? Any man would want to date you. Any woman will want to be your friend when I read my profile. Okay? Anybody. That's how you need to be able to look at your profile and be like, oh, now some of y'all might be like, I had a client. I may, I re I help her revamp her profile. I told her what to do. And she said, Torah, you know, this doesn't feel like me. You know, so if you have the good girl, I say, yeah, because now they really see you. You can't hide behind your words. They actually see who you are now, and that makes you feel uncomfortable. But it's gonna be okay. Once you start, and then today she hit me up. She's like, Torah, I'm talking of four higher caliber men. I said, of course, of course you are. Of course you are, my darling. Right? Someone said, I'm excited I signed up because I'm ready to start dating again. I want skills this time. Yeah, let's go. Let's get the skills. Let's get the scales. Someone said, So instead of, so instead of I like music, I should say harmonies that feel like the ocean. No, and I'm gonna talk about that next. I'm glad you said that. Because the second mistake y'all is doing is y'all are making y'all profile poetic, like poetry, like it was written by Chat GPT, just like that. The profiles that sound like my spirit moves with the earth's rhythm. I'm drawn to a man who's grounded, yet ready to explore the sacred dots beneath the desert sky. Girl, what the hell is that? Who knows what that means, right? It sounds cute, it's performative, but what the hell does that mean? And what is the man supposed to do with it? How is he supposed to execute off of that? Like it's it's word salad. Yeah, we like it. It sounds good, it does nothing for the man. It does nothing for the man. It's like when y'all be selling, when y'all become coaches, y'all be like, I help you with power, purpose, and clarity. Girl, what the hell are you selling me? How can I buy? You wonder why I'm not buying from you. I don't know what purpose and clarity means. How is that gonna help me make more money? How is that gonna help me change my life? Be clear, not poetic, and that's why I'm not buying from you. The men are not buying from you because you're not poetic, buying, and and finger quotes for y'all who are listening to the podcast, right? No one knows exactly, Shaquelle. No one knows. Yeah, it's provocative and gets the people going. Ignore it. Or I believe in the magic of authentic connection and the beauty of vulnerability, seeking a soul who understands that love is both an adventure and a sanctuary. What is that some bullshit? Because what does that mean? What do you what the hell are you talking about? Again, how is the man what do you want the man to do with that? I don't even know what you're talking about. I always ask my clients when they send me shit like that. I'm like, girl, what are you talking about? And they're like, um, I don't really know. So why the hell did you send it to me? So you don't know what you're talking about. You don't know how to break this down to a five-year-old, and you want me to filter through it, I'm not doing it. The men are not gonna do it. Make it plain. It needs to be plain enough for a fifth grader to understand. If a fifth grader can't decipher what you're talking about, you need to rewrite it. Equally at home and stillness and motion. I'm looking for someone who can hold space for deep conversation while embracing life's spontaneous moment. What kind of spontaneous? We skinny dipping or we hopping out of a plane, right? Or we just planning to go on a date with no plan on a Thursday night. Like, what are we talking about here? Stillness emotion? Are we sitting in the corner looking at the wall? Stillness and emotion? We moving and we sitting in the corner? What are you talking about? It sounds beautiful, but when the men are reading it, they're not like thinking, ooh, let me plan a date. They're not thinking that. It sounds poetic, it sounds deep, but it doesn't sound like a real person. It sounds like AI trying to be profound. Okay? It's giving AI meets astrology blog. Not, ooh, this is a real woman that I can really connect with. Imagine you saying that to him at the table at a restaurant. His eyes are gonna glaze over. I believe in the magic of authentic connection. If you wouldn't say it sitting across a table from him, don't say that shit in your profile. Don't you say it in a profile you would not, if you wouldn't say it, if you wouldn't say it sitting in front of him, don't you put it on your profile? Right? Everything that's on my profile, I can say. I can say someone said if I have to hit a blunt to get it, I don't get it exactly. Sitting in front of him talking about, you know, I believe in the magic of authentic connection and the beauty of vulnerability. Seeking a soul who understands that love is both an adventure and a sanctuary. He's like, what did you say, girl? What is you talking what are you talking about? Right? Sounds weird. Don't do that. Don't do that. All right. Quality men are gonna respond to clear specific language. We can make you sound really good and really profound, but simple enough that a fifth grader can it uh understand it. All right, there's a way to write your profile, your bio that sounds exactly like you, not a poetry bot, and still feel very luxe and elevated and exciting. And I'm gonna teach you you um come to profile to pursue, come to my free class, put P2P in the comment sections, P number two P to enroll to my free class, and I'm gonna show you what that looks like. But for now, if your profile sounds like it belongs in a self-help book instead of a dating app, that is one reason why the men are scrolling past, the men that you want are scrolling past, the standouts are scrolling past. Mistakes number three. Mistake number three, your profile doesn't tell a story. Your profile is just disconnected pieces of information. I be I'll have a client submit their profile, and I'm like, why did you put these pictures up? Why did you write these words? And they're like, I don't know, I just threw something up, and I'm like, you don't know why? For every photo that you have on your profile, you should know exactly why it's there. Every word you speak on your profile, you should know. I can go through my profile, which if you want to see my profile, you're gonna have to join my workshop that I'm gonna, it's a paid workshop after I'm gonna be promoting it on my free class. It's$220. There's gonna be some bonuses for people who buy it during, and it's a 30-day experience because I want to make sure that I'm watching y'all and making and helping y'all get results. It's a 30-day experience for$220 that I'm gonna be promoting on my free class. But I get the profiles and I'm like, you don't know, I I know everything on my I know every single reason why I posted something. Every single poll. Y'all be choosing polls, be like, if we win the lottery, we can spend it on A Generational Wealth, B, a new house, C creating financial freedom for her for our legacy. And I'm like, girl, first of all, that's a that poll, those poll answers are for broke boys. I know y'all don't get it, but that poll answer is for is for broke boys. Um and I wouldn't put it up there. But secondly, you just you just you don't know why you did that. You just thought it would be fun to do the poll, but you don't even know why the poll even matters. How to utilize your poll so that men are like, yo, I'm trying to take you out, yo, I'm trying to experience you. Yo, what's up? Like, you are you are not just beautiful, but you are unforgettable. I'm gonna show y'all what the men be saying to me. I'm gonna be showing y'all exactly what they say. Okay. Your profile doesn't tell a story. It's a bunch of random, disconnected, you know. I got my hobbies over here. I got some photos of me uh at the club, at the lounge, on a staircase, in the bathroom. I got some photos, five photos of me um on vacay. Why are they there? I either see one side of you five different times or like seven different things that you're doing that are not cohesive. I'm not able to put them together at all. For example, I had a client submit to me and she wrote on her profile how spontaneous and adventurous she is, and all of her pictures was in the house, in somebody's house, in the inside. It don't, baby, that story don't it, the story don't work. That's not a story. You're you're like from the beginning of end, you are telling the man a man a story. You are talking to this man the whole way through. I show clients my profile. I'm like, look, let me show you how I'm telling a story and how I have his attention to the bottom of my profile. I want y'all coaches, put a one in the comments if you're a coach or you sell, right? You you're you sell digital products or something. Your sales page has to tell a story and capture that person's attention from the top to the bottom if you want people to buy. The same thing with your hinge profile, it needs to capture attention. But the first profile, but the first photo y'all be posting, it'd be like hit pronoun, she and her. Why do you want the man to know about your pronouns? It's precious real estate that we're losing because you use the prompt she, her, pronouns. Why did we do that? Right? What story does that tell? Okay? And Aliah, I'm glad that you're not in your car with a seatbelt no more. Okay? Someone says, I feel like some of these ninjas don't even read profiles, just be matching. And see, that's the thing. Y'all worry about the wrong thing. I don't worry about men who don't read profiles. I only worry about men who do. And the men who do are the ones taking me out on dates. The men who do are the ones that are following my directions because I give men directions all throughout my profile. And I only match with men who follow my directions. So if you go in a hinge and I have like the paid plan and I see all these men that have liked me or like tried to match with me, I'm like, oh, he ain't follow directions. Oh, he followed directions, XXX, X, X. He followed directions. Match, oh, he followed directions. Match and he followed directions because he he read my profile. The only way they would be able to do that match with me is if they followed directions from but my profile gave them the instructions. My profile told them what to do without telling them what to do. Made them think it was their idea. Okay. Someone says, How do you spread out time between your dates? I just decide when I have availability and I go. You're gonna have to determine what works for you, right? You're gonna have to determine what works for you. I just go on dates. If I have availability, I go on the date. I go on a date. Okay? I don't care about, I don't even think, uh, I don't even care about the men who don't read my profile. None of them matter to me. So waste of time. So waste of your attention. Put your attention on men who read. I went on a date about two weeks ago with a young man, and mind you, he was only 26 years old. Called me an Uber and everything. Very nice, elevated date. And the first thing he said to me, he says, I read every single word on your profile. And then he proceeded to tell me what he wanted to do, and it came from the instructions from my page. It came from the instructions. I say, you know what, young buck, you 26, but I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do it, young buck, but I'm gonna need an Uber. I'm gonna need you to call me an Uber because I don't I first dates, I require Ubers. So I so I can just be relaxed when I come on a date. And it was his first time. He never had a girl because he's 26, right? And he never had a woman asking for an Uber. And I was like, yeah, that's that's me. So if you want to date me, that's what's gotta happen. And um, he did it. Now, there were other men that were like, No, they didn't want to send me an Uber after having a great conversation. And guess what? I don't even worry about those men. I don't even worry. I'm like, okay, unmatch. You wanna send me an Uber? Oh match. We're okay. I'm okay. All right, next mistake. We got mistake number one, mistake number two, mistake number three. Oh, I didn't finish. Your profile doesn't tell a story. When your profile tells a story, this man gets a glimpse into who you are as a woman. It paints a cohesive picture. If it's just scattered information that doesn't add up to anything, he can't visualize his life with you. He's not able to really insert himself into your everyday life the way he could if you painted a picture. Okay, you can't, you like everything has to be cohesive. And when the pieces don't fit together in a clear story, men don't know what to make of you, so they keep scrolling. If you come to my free class this Sunday, I'm going to give you the opportunity to show you how to build a profile so that everything works together to tell one clear, compelling story about who you are. Um, but for now I want you to ask yourself: does my profile tell a story or is it just random pieces of information? I don't know why I put it. I just thought it was cool to put up. Okay? It's easy to just think that the apps don't work. But when you really, when you really figure out you don't have skills, then you can be like, you know what? I just need to develop the skill set. Right? If you want to join my free class, put P number two P in the comments and you will get a link to secure a In my free class. Alright. Mistake number four. You're playing it way too safe. Some of y'all are so afraid of scaring men away that you actually don't want to say or give specifics in what you need from a man. This week. Y'all be on profiles. Y'all be like, I just want a good, honest, intentional, you know, gentlemen. I'm looking for a good connection where a man, you know, makes me laugh. Some of y'all be killing me because y'all be like, the way to win me over is laughs. Make me laugh. I'm like, that's the way to win you over. That's all it took? That's all it took to win you over is to make you laugh. I be asking clients who submit that to me. I'll be like, why did you send that to me? Is that the way just to make you laugh? The way to win you over is to be honest. The way to win me over is to be honest. And I'm like, baby, that is the bare minimum for humans in your life, period. Why is that what we're saying to the men on the app? The way to win me over. The way to win me over. Feed me tacos. Girl, no. What can a man do to stand out this week? Not in the distant future. Most of these men we're not gonna be talking to in a few weeks. So why would we forecast so much into the future? The way to win me over today, the way to win me over tomorrow, the way to win me over in the next seven days, specifically what you can do. Instead of surface, generic and vague. Some of y'all are worried about sounding high maintenance or demanding or like you're asking for too much. And I'm like, you're not asking for enough. And so because of that, you attract men who have no idea what you're actually looking for. And the low effort guys, they think you're all fair game. I had a man, I had several men, and one in particular, he said, and I'm gonna share these screenshots. He said, Look, reading your profile, I know I'm not the man. I know I'm not up the par to the man that you want. But by reading this, he said, I want to be that man. One day I'm gonna be that man. That's all he said to me. He didn't try to like weasel his way in. He was like, Look, I know I'm not this man. Clearly, I got a lot of work to do. It'll be it'll show men a mirror. That's not up to par. Someone says, What if you don't know what you want because you want what God wants for you besides wanting to be spoiled? I don't I don't understand the question. You're gonna have to write that again. I think there's some typos in there. What if you don't know what you because you want what God wants for you? Girl, you're gonna have to do that again. I can't, I can't. That's that's how y'all be writing on y'all profiles. I'm just joking. I can't do it. I can't read it. You're gonna have to rewrite that for me. There is a way to communicate what you want without sounding like a brat, without sounding like a damsel in distress. And that's part of the strategy that I'm gonna be teaching you in my free class. This Saturday. It's part of it. Type P number two P to join to get the link to join my free class. Okay? Because if you're playing it safe and you're keeping things vague, you're attracting everyone except the man you actually want. Okay? Now, last mistake, and then I'm getting out of here. If you got questions, come to my free class. If you got questions, come to my free class. Mistake number uh five, you're telling him everything so nothing stands out. I get my clients and they'll send me a profile, and I'm like, why did you live? Why did you put all this stuff on here? Why did you write all this stuff? You think the more information you give, the better. So you're cramming everything into your profile. So if your bio's like, oh, I'm a Jersey girl from Brooklyn, you know, I love yoga, hiking, trying new restaurants, traveling, reading, wine nights with my girls, brunch, and I love rescuing dogs, you know, Sunday farmers markets, live music, cooking, personal development podcasts. Girl, what girl? My head is spinning. Why? Why are we trying? And then some of y'all try to fit that in y'all's simple pleasures. Y'all go to hinge, and once y'all use a hinge, put a two in the comments if you use hinge. You use hinge and the simple pleasures. Y'all just throwing all that in there. I'm like, girl, no one wants to read all of that. And there's no connection. There's no connection. Right? I love being active, but also cozy nights, and I'm into fitness, spirituality, career growth, family times. I love Jesus and adventures, good food, deep conversations, and making memories. I think you are a comedian. Tell me, I gotta catch all the Pokemon. Hell no. You think that you're being descriptive, like, oh, I just I need he needs to understand me. No, he don't. He needs to want to take you on a date. He needs to know just enough for him to be like, ooh, I want to date her. Ooh. I want to take. He don't need to know. You give him all the information, like y'all finna get married. Like, this is information he needs to know to marry you. No, he don't need to know all that. The only information he needs to know is should I take her on a date or not? That's it. That's it. Hi, Nayasha. Class is 12 p.m. Central Standard Time. There will be a replay. Right? So when you list everything, nothing stands out. It all blurs together. Right? Men read that and their brain is glazing over, and they're like, oh, yeah, you know. Can't grab onto something specific. He can't have an aha moment, like, aha. Yes. She is the one I want to take out this week. You want to create a picture of what it would look like to be on a date with you this week, not marrying you. Right? There's a strategy to what you include and what you leave out. And that's something I walk through in my free class. This weekend, 12 p.m. Central Standard Time, Sunday. Put P number two P in the comment section if you want to be a part of that class. But if you're trying to tell him everything about you up front, you're actually making it harder for him to see who you really are this week. Someone says, girl, I'm about to delete my profile because I just don't know how to do it, it's too much. You want to be a winner? You want to be a woman who always gets what she wants? Or a quitter. We can quit. Or we can decide how to learn. We can be relentless and just learn. I never have to worry about can I get a date or not? Because I have the skill. It took me a long time to develop it. I remember when I remember when a man called me lame on a dating app. I remember when the dating apps were kicking my ass. When men were playing in my face on the dating apps. I remember those days. They would never play in my face now. Some man who actually dated me, followed me on Instagram and be giving me all kinds of props. They done seem my transformation. They be giving me all kinds of props. They be showing me all kinds of love. Because they know to upgrade. Hey y'all. They be sliding in my games. They're like, man, of course. I'm a changed woman. I know how to upgrade. Because if I wanted my dream job, if I didn't know how to create a resume, I wasn't, I'm not just gonna give up. Like, you know, I just delete my LinkedIn profile. I'm just gonna delete my LinkedIn. Because, you know, I just can't get a job. I'm gonna delete my resume. I'm gonna rip up my resume to shreds because no one is hiring. I'm not getting job offers. Like, no, y'all would never do that. This is more important. Your love life is way more important than your job, and I know y'all don't think so. It's way more important. Your job. Being loved and adored, receiving that kind of love is way more than being worked by the man. It just is. Okay, it just is. Nayasha, tell them, tell them, Nayasha, living in a small town. Someone says, I just paused one and I'm trying to curate just one profile, but it's a mess. I've changed the profile and still fake dating is a mess. Facebook dating isn't a mess. Your skills are a mess. I need y'all to reframe that what y'all think that the apps are the problem. And it's not. I have clients who use Facebook dating and are experiencing different things now. Okay. Like people, it's it's the same thing. It's like people are people have said they're sick of this economy, they're sick of what's going on in this economy. I don't say that. I just say, how do I just build an amazing business despite the economy? How do I learn the skills to flourish in this economy? How? And I just do that while people are on threads complaining about this economy. Why would I do that? Why would I be on threads complaining with y'all when I could be making money over here and building my business? When I could be learning skills and I work my ass off to learn these skills in this economy. I have people sliding in my DMs all the time asking me how by building a dating coach business full-time, multiple six figures, I don't have to go to a corporate job in this economy. Because I have the skills. I have a skill set. I don't blame the economy. I don't blame the coaching space. I don't blame the online dating coach. I don't blame coaches who ruined it for everybody. I don't do that. Like, oh man, coaches ruin the industry. I don't worry about that. Let me look, I need to go make some money over here. I need to go build my skills. I need to go hire this person, hire that person so I can always have these skills. That's how I think. You will always be a winner when you stop focusing on what's going wrong and only focus on what you can create. How you can make it right. Chris says that app is like a tree. It can do nothing without care. It will grow when you fertilize and feed it. Facts. I never think about what is going wrong. I only think about how, because everything is always gonna go wrong. There's always gonna be something that goes wrong. Are we gonna really waste our energy to focus on that? Or are we going to be um dominant in all the wrongness? Imagine all the wealthy freed slaves that were coming from slavery, they could have focused on the fact that they were disenfranchised. They could have. We can, and we were severely disenfranchised. But where are the opportunities despite the fact that I can't drink from the same water fountain? Despite where are the opportunities, despite I can't even live in that neighborhood? Like, what is the like find it in the most destitute circumstances? Right? But it's only if you want to win. That's it. It's only if you want to win. That being said, the five mistakes, number one, your profile reads like a resume. Number two, your profile sounds like it's poetry written by ChatGPT. Number three, your profile doesn't tell a story. Number four, you're playing it safe. Number five, you're telling a man, you're trying to tell a man everything. Like I said, the good news is all of this is fixable, and I'm teaching you exactly how to fix it in my new masterclass. Free masterclass this Sunday at 12 p.m. Central Stand Up Time, Profile to Pursuit. And inside of Profile to Pursuit, I'm gonna teach you the big mistakes most women make on dating apps that I didn't even cover on here that repels high quality and intentional men and how to avoid it for good. I'm gonna show you how to stand out and get noticed by attractive, accomplished men like you saw in my stories. Even if you feel like your inbox is full of low effort messages or crickets. I'm gonna show you the three-part strategy to making your dating profile unforgettable. So quality men feel compelled to reach out and pursue you and not just swipe and move on. And I'm gonna be showing you why listing your hobbies and values is not enough and what to do instead to inspire men to match with you and plan a date within a week. All of those men plan a date with me within seven days of matching with me. Go check out my stories. Go look at my stories. Type P number two P to get the link to sign up for my class. And after the masterclass, right after the master class, I'll be opening the doors to my workshop experience, attract him online, which is where we will build your irresistible profile together in real time. It's a 30-day experience. And that class is$220. So if you want to join me for 30 days and get the bonuses, because the bonus is the first 25 ladies who join the workshop, they're gonna get actual screenshots from how I talk to these men. Actual screenshots. That's the bonus. Okay? But I'm gonna walk you exactly how to craft a profile that makes quality men pursue you, not just match and disappear. And we're talking about the photos, the prompts, the energy of it all. I'm gonna help you build it out over 30 days. And you'll get a live build session and a replay in case those can't come live, where I'll walk you through crafting the profile that attracts your ideal man. Many of y'all have a profile, but you don't know who your man is. We're gonna discover that so you can be talking to that man. Y'all, I'm gonna be like, Well, who is your man? You tell me I'm like, your profile is not talking to that man. We need to talk to him. You're gonna get two group feedback calls where I review profiles live so that you can see what's working and what's not working. In that workshop, the paid workshop, photo selection guide that shows you exactly which five photos your profile needs that you can take with your phone ASAP. A message template pack so you know how to respond and screen for quality men, 30-day community access for questions, support, and accountability. And then a bonus is a red flags checklist to help you spot secretly low effort men fast and redirect your energy because y'all spend too much time focusing on low effort men. The investment for this workshop is$220. If you join the free class, you have a chance to receive the bonus when you join the workshop. But I'm gonna be promoting the workshop at the end of this free class. My free classes are amazing, but the workshop is implementation. The free class is information. The workshop is going to be implementation. Type P2P if you want to join my free class. And then also have the opportunity to work with me for 30 days in my group workshop experience to implement P number two P. Alright. Thank you guys. I hope you enjoyed this. I hope you learned something, and I hope you're gonna implement something today. Okay? I am gonna jump off of here. I got some more work to do, and I got a client call coming up. But I hope to see y'all later. Bye. It starts at 12 p.m. Central Standard Time on Sunday. Alright, girl. You heard the episode? You heard the class that I'm promoting, the free class, the paid workshop that will be available after the free class. If you want to join my free class and have an opportunity to join my paid workshop, join at the link in the show notes. She can get access. She can join me. And I am going to show you what it looks like to be skilled instead of uh, you know, being a woman who quits, just being a woman who wins. Like I said in the live, I don't quit when I want what I want, and that's why I I have succeeded so much in my life, not just you know, career-wise, but like in all areas of my life where people simply have given up. And I never want you to give up. If you want something to go after it, is it gonna be hard? Duh. Nothing worth it is easy. I just need you to not take it so personally. The reason why dating we want to quit or dating apps, whatever, is because we take it so personal instead of gamifying it, instead of refining a skill set and like really improving who we are as women. Online dating has made me a better woman because of who I had to become in order to succeed at it. So, yeah, if you want to become uh an elite squad of women, a gladiator squad of women that's not out here complaining, but is actually winning out here, join me. The link is gonna be in the show notes. I'll see you Sunday. Bye.