Date with Cents
Date with Cents
Profile 2 Pursuit Masterclass: How to Show Up on Dating Apps and Meet Amazing Men
You've been told dating apps don't work, but what if the problem isn't the apps—it's how you're using them?
I used to delete Tinder every few months out of frustration until I figured out the skill that changed everything.
Now I go on intentional dates whenever I want (from the comfort of my couch) with men who plan, pursue, and show up like grown men.
In this episode, I'm walking you through the exact mindset shift that separates women who stay invisible on dating apps from women who get quality men pursuing them consistently.
You'll discover why your profile looks like everyone else's and what quality men are actually looking for when they decide to swipe right and invest their time.
After listening, you'll understand the three missing pieces in your dating profile that are keeping accomplished, intentional men from even seeing you—and what needs to change if you want to stop getting low-effort matches and start getting real pursuit.
Ready to stop deleting apps out of frustration and start building the skill that gets you actual dates?
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What's up, little girl? Welcome back to the Date with Sense podcast. I'm your host, Torah Sense, and I am feeling well, I'm just feeling really, really, really excited. Right now I am in Orlando, Florida, recording this using my uh Biz Besties mic, microphone. Hey girl, I know you're listening to this podcast episode. I love you. I'm sitting in her living room. Um, and um basically, I would say this is like a a work retreat for me, plus like a celebration of the C2C launch. Basically, I came down here to spend time with one of my besties um that I love doing business alongside. She's an amazing coach for educate like teachers who want to leave the classroom and go into educational tech positions, and she's really good at it. And um, I just love being like I feel like I get a lot of work done just being next to her. And so I'm down here um getting work done with her and then also celebrating by just spending a whole day at Universal Studios. I think we're gonna go to Epic Universe. I've never been to that particular Universal Park, so I'm really excited about that. So we're just spending a lot of time together working right now. She's in a room writing emails, and um, so yeah, I this particular episode is my recent master class that I hosted this past Sunday called Profile to Pursuit Masterclass, the class that I was promoting the last two episodes. The replay is here, and um, I'm leaving it on the podcast for you guys to listen to because I want you to join my 30-day uh attract him online challenge experience. For those of you who really don't believe that you can attract quality men in your city on the dating app, first of all, listen to this masterclass and it's going to make you a believer. If you don't believe the masterclass will make you a believer, and so many women have gotten results just by listening to the masterclass and they've signed up for the challenge. I want you to join the challenge, and the challenge is a 30-day experience with me. And if you've ever had join one of my channels, you know, you know it's all about practical implementation and results. And so, in the chat well, in the challenge, number one, I'm gonna show you how to get more visibility by hacking the algorithms of the dating apps. Everything in the world pretty much runs off some type of algorithm, including the dating apps. I'm gonna show you how to channel your dream man so that you know exactly who you're talking to on your dating profiles. A lot of us are just making profiles, we're not even thinking about the type of man that we're looking for, so we don't know how to talk to him. I am going to show you exactly how to take photos and the five types of photos you can take with your phone this weekend so that they are also um they will also stop men from scrolling and just stay on your page and want to match with you. I am going to show you exactly how to how to um how to get momentum moving men from the apps to them requesting a date so that at the end of the 30-day experience you will be able to match with your ideal man and go on dates. The link will be in the show notes. The doors will be open until November 8th. You can you can uh sign up until November 8th. So definitely go ahead and do that. There's an option for a payment plan up until a certain time, you know, because I want to make sure that you guys are you know have an affordable option. And then there's a firm, there's an affirm option only in certain locations if it doesn't pull up for you. If Klarna and Afirm doesn't pull up for you, then it's not in your location. It's$220 to join. So I do recommend that you listen to this masterclass, become a believer, and then sign up. So without further ado, here's the masterclass. Welcome to Profile to Pursuit, how to show up on dating apps and meet amazing men. This training is sponsored by Curve to Cuff because the reason why I'm doing this training is for my clients. Every time I notice something that's happening with my clients, or I'm noticing a certain trend, or I'm feeling like, ooh, we need some new curriculum so we can fill in the gap. I create something new for my clients. And I'm like, you know what? Other people might want to join us. And so I've provided the space for other people to join us because this is the time we usually meet on Sundays. Curved to Cuff. We usually meet on for workshops on this time. And so, yeah, this is basically sponsored by CurvedCuff and the ladies. Uh, so thank you so much. And our agenda today, you're gonna learn how to show up on dating apps and meet amazing men. I'm gonna give a post-masterclass QA session. I don't know how long it will be because y'all know I got a flight to catch. We're gonna get there. And then an invitation to join Attract Him Online Challenge Experience with a 48-hour exclusive bonus. Um, again, sponsored by Curb the Cup, I created the challenge for my clients. They get it for free. But if you would like to join them, you can actually join the experience with us. I will give you uh the ability to join us at the end for$220. There's some payment plans for people who need to stretch out some stuff at the end. But if you stay, you'll have an option to join us in our experience, in the client experience. Today you're gonna learn the mistakes of repelling quality men online and how to avoid them, how to get noticed by successful and accomplished men, not just any men on the apps, successful and accomplished ones. The ones that y'all talking about, y'all want, right? In the three-part strategy that makes quality men pursue you online, and what makes men plan dates on dating apps, not just swipe, not just match, not just send you a hey beautiful message, because we we don't care about those, right? We don't care about those at all. Now this has happened, this is what happens when you know how to show up online. And I've shared some of these screenshots on Instagram. If you've seen some of these on my stories, put a one in the comments. Good morning. Paul says, Good morning. I really admire what you wrote in particular. A man that leads with ease. You also mentioned how you would compliment your partner's life. Very important to vibrate on the same frequency. This is directly correlated to my profile. This guy, Sterling, says, Hi Simone, you have a dazzling virtual image. This is the most solid pitch. I would like to move forward. I thought he was cute because it sounded like he was an angel investor. But guys, I made sure that my profile was set to wealthy neighborhoods, wealthy places, men of uh that men, and I made sure that it was a high level of like singles that could be in the area. Is it guaranteed? No, but I did my research to point it there in where I live. Gus says, You are so ethereal. I know flowers grow when you walk on the ground. Yeah, absolutely. Everything grows when I walk, everything multiplies. D says, I love everything I see and have read about you. You are the kind of woman that makes me want to be a better man. I think I have the qualities you see in command. I know you're my queen. I would love to take you to brunch. He's getting a little too far ahead of himself, but I get that he's really, really excited. Now, all of these men are uh when I pointed, if you saw my stories this week, I actually pointed my, y'all know I'm traveling today, I'm going to Orlando. I pointed my dating app, my hinge to Orlando in a wealthy area of where I think that my man would exist because I'm very, very clear about who my man is. So it's easier for me to spot him, to know where he lives, his lifestyle, and then talk to him on the app. And then Daniel, because he knows to bring an offering to her queen, headed to the store. Is there something I can grab just for you? That's the kind of energy that I that you want to be having when someone reaches out, because a lot of men are looking to extract from us. They're looking to experience us for their own dopamine hints. And you really want to attract men that want to add value to your life off the rip, not having you earn it. You're not, you shouldn't be in a position where you have to earn it because these men are getting immediate access to your energy just by messaging you. Okay, just by messaging you. So drop in the chat what's your biggest frustrating uh frustration with dating apps right now? Is it not getting any matches? Men aren't pursuing, conversations dying out. Let me know. Let me know where you're at. All the men are boring. I have to lead. Someone says, all poor communication, men not men not pursuing, conversations die out. Them asking my favorite color. All of them, all the above. I feel like I have to guide the conversation, not being able to understand, uh, and pluck out who a high profile man is, conversations and no effort. They don't hold the conversations, and I'm always asking the questions. Them wanting me to carry the entire conversation, too many matches, poor communication, conversations die, it'll lead to nowhere. Yeah, lots. Financial level of men, not meeting the guys I like. It used to be better, ready to see what can change. Scam accounts. Oh my gosh, scam accounts for the women, AI. I mean, I do be seeing men with AI profile pictures, and I'm like, sir, you know, I see no lines in your face. You don't even look human. Right? Okay, how long have you been single? Small talk conversation conversation immediately jumps to sex. Men who have nothing on their profile but pics and a few words, so they're misspelled. Okay, I I know. So look, y'all, I'm Torah, and I got called lame on dating apps. I remember. I remember that um when I first started getting on dating apps. This is why I create uh one of the reasons, you know, why I want to share a little bit of this is I've been using dating apps for years. And when I first started, for some of you who don't know, I actually create helped someone create a Christian single dating app back in 2009. I was her strategic planner. I helped draft it out, test everything. I researched all these different dating platforms. Um, and so when I first started, I actually had the same experience most of you are having. I would get matches. I got on Tinder first. Tinder was like the thing, right? And even people at that time, dating apps were so people really just thought that they were just hookup apps. So it was even it wasn't even cool to be on those apps at all. Now it's more acceptable. And so I would get men in my inbox asking me for sexual favors in the first line, asking me to have sex with them in the first line. I would get met men who matched, hey beautiful, said nothing. And I didn't know what I was doing either. I would, I remember sending a message, and a man called me. He said, he was like, You're lame. He told me I was lame on the app. And I never forgot that. I never forgot that. Or I would meet someone who seemed promising, but he, you know, he couldn't plan a date to save his life, you know, just asking me, so, so, so what do you want to do? You know, what are you up to? Well, and then the next day, what are you up to tonight? And then the next day, what are you up to today? Nothing, nothing comes out of it. And I remember thinking, like, nah, this can't be it. Like, there has to be a much better way of doing it. But the way my brain works, I think I have a very interesting brain ever since I was a kid. Every big problem I had from the time like me living in poverty and being homeless, from the time of like me being a teen mom to the time of like me discovering how I can get three degrees in four years, right? And um eventually getting my CPA license with being a full-time mother with to two kids, because I I um I adopted my little sister, right? To figuring out how to take care of four kids on$6 an hour because my mom dropped off all her kids. It's a whole story that I talk about. Like my brain always comes up with solutions of like how. I mean, this is like I it's like it's it's a waste of time to complain. It doesn't serve me to wish it wasn't happening, because it is. It is what it is. So, how do I just how do I figure things out and find a solution no matter what is the issue? And so I just started experimenting. I just started doing things, posting pictures, taking risks, saying certain things to men, um, testing out certain profile words, and um looked at what was working, look at what wasn't. And I started experimenting with my profile, changing how I showed up, testing different ways of communic communication. And over time, like I figured it out in a way that works for me. And I learned how to write in a way that made men actually pursue me instead of just complimenting me and disappearing. Because at first I was just relying on my photos. The first profile I ever made was just me and my photos, and just expecting men to be like, oh, she's so beautiful. I need to match her and I need to pursue her. That I was really relying on that. And then I learned how to show up in a way that attracted quality men, men who planned dates, who remembered the details, who showed up like grown men. And on top of that, I continue to figure it out when I left my marriage. Yeah, I went double time when I decided to leave, uh lose my marriage. And in this past year alone, there's so many different ways. I'm like, I can I need to teach my clients this. I never stop testing. I'm I'm experimenting with the dating apps every other week. I'm testing something new, I'm trying something new, and I'm figuring new things out that gets me success. And the results, men who send mature, thoughtful messages. Y'all seen the messages. I have tons. I have tons saved on my phone. Men who knew how to have engaging conversations. First, I thought men only wanted sex on the apps. Men on the apps are not looking for anything but a good time. But once I switched how I did things, now men are having good conversations. And then men who plan dates, not men who just wanted to be my pen pal. And I didn't have to be defensive and be like, you know, no hookups. So now the old way of thinking that we have here is that dating apps don't work. There are no good men on the dating apps, and I'm wasting my time. It's so funny because uh when I posted my experience of matching with men in Orlando and even included a man who booked a reservation for a date before we got off the apps. It was a man in the comment section trying to humble me, stating that, oh, you fail for this. Those men just want basically alluding to sex. Let me know when when you get a proposal. And my thought is every man wants to have sex with me. Any man that reaches out to me wants to have sex. What is your point? Like, what is your point? We want men who want to have who want to have sex with us and who is going to show up and court us properly and not try to get that sex from us before he earns it. Who's no, I'm not rushing for anyone to propose to me. If anything, I'm really enjoying how men are treating me overall. So therefore, one man trying to put a ring on my finger isn't as super, super exciting to me than what I'm experiencing. So, yeah, there are gonna be men who want every man's gonna want sex from you. That's just that's just that if he's reaching out, he wants to have sex, right? So we don't need to be in fantasy about that. The difference is quality men are on the ass. And I want you to think about your profile right now. What does it sound like? You know, I love God, I value family, I'm a foodie, as poor ready. Looking for someone who's ambitious and knows what he wants. Faith, fitness, and brunch on Sundays. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's all true. It's who you are. Y'all make sure y'all mute up mute up when y'all come in here because I'm hearing y'all. Someone said God fearing. There's nothing wrong with that. It's all true. But every woman's profile is basically saying the same thing in different words. You're just reading, Athena, turn off whatever you have going on because you're writing on the screen.
SPEAKER_00:And I don't even know how to get rid of that. I'm just gonna leave it because I don't know how to get rid of it.
SPEAKER_01:Um in different words, every woman's profile is basically saying the same thing. He's reading it in different ways. I know because I read I'm reviewing your profiles all the time. All the time. I always find it interesting when I have like people post any online profile reviews to get them when they first join C2C, they're ready to post their profile and then not realizing that three women before them wrote something similar. They're not even like looking and like look at what these women have done. Right. So when a quality man, the kind that you want, who's educated, has his life together, financially successful, plans dates, when he looks at your profile, he's seen the same thing 50 times. And those men that you are saying that you want, because I heard what y'all want. Y'all be wanting a C-suite of executives, y'all want people making at least 150k, y'all, y'all want people that is very um stable in their career, own businesses. These men have options, and I'm not trying, and I'm not talking about options and you have to perform for them. I'm saying just the reality is that they're getting matches with multiple women. Women are sending them roses on the apps. Women are paying to speak to these men. Y'all need to understand all the attention they're getting. So they're not swiping on the profile that just looks like everyone else's or blends in with the crowd, they're swiping on the profile that makes them feel something different. Meanwhile, the low effort guys they swipe on everybody. So those are the matches that you're getting. Okay, because they swipe on everybody. They're like, let me throw something at the wall and hope it sticks. It's not that quality men are not on the apps, it's that your profile isn't standing out to them, and that's not about being more attractive or more interesting, it's actually about communicating differently. Every single one of you queens are amazing. I know I talk to you all, some in my DMs, some in email inbox, some as a client, right? I know how interestingly amazing you guys are. You're just not standing out. And here's evidence that these men exist. I posted on my stories, you can press a one in the comments if you saw my stories, where I met three men in one week and went on a date with them on hinge, quality men. One of the guys drove six hours to take me on a date. Very successful men, right? We call him Green Baby because he loves to travel the country to visit different golf courses. Six hours just to know if I was real. Okay, treated me out to dinner for two hours and then turned his ass right back around. He thought he he was like, I feel desperate. I said, No, you feel intentional, baby, just like I like my man. That's how you feel. Just come on, come on to the six hour. I'm gonna give you the time of your life. Right? Two hours. I met the next guy on hinge. Some of you guys see. He's an eight-figure man, you know. The man showed he had he showed seven million dollars of cryptocurrency that he owns just in his crypto wallet, right? And super wealthy, super um fun, also very, very fun. Um, you see, he's eclectic, he's just he was just an enjoyable person. We had a seven-hour data experience. He had me, um, he sent his assistant to come pick me up in a car. Um, that assistant brought me over to him. We rode in his nice car around the city. He took me to look at some of his different restaurants that he owns. And then he took me to have like a private, like little chef experience um with some of his Asian homeboys, right? And so that it was so nice and it was crazy because he's like, What do you want? What do you want? And I'm what do you want? Obviously, this stuff is adding up. Obviously, he doesn't care. And again, just getting to be in that level of abundance, um, and then him just creating a whole itinerary for us. We ended up at a uh a comedy show, Carlos Mencia, where I ended up on stage singing my behamaff to keep sweat, nobody. Um, we were like stars of the show because they kept adding us into the show. It was such a great experience, such a great experience. He's it was just an amazing, amazing date. Um, I asked him, I was like, why we call him Taku Poppy? Because I'm like, why do you buy up so much land and property? Because as soon as he found out Tulum was getting the airport, he bought up a lot of land around there. And I'm like, he's like, because I like I like to play the game Monopoly, you know, I just like to own it all, right? That was also in the same week. And then I have my little nerdy, my little nerdy guy who worked at Apple. We call him Silicon Valley, so considerate. He asked me so many amazing questions on the app, uh, based on my profile. Literally, all of this was like based on my profile, and he had flowers waiting for me at the date. Super, super sweet guy. Um, so again, the new way quality men are on the apps. I put, I've literally been put pointing my app to different cities just to prove it. I was in Colorado this week, just this week, and someone challenged me, right? So they only match with profiles that stand out, and standing out isn't about the being the prettiest. It's not, it's about communicating differently. And dating apps have algorithms. I need y'all to understand the same way y'all be scrolling on social media, curating your algorithm, your algorithms are being curated on the dating app. Quality profiles are pushed out to quality profiles. That's why my anybody know like the standouts on hinge or the other, like you see men behind a paywall, you might have to send money, like pay money to like get access to them. These men are in my feed. I will see them in standouts, and the next thing you know, they're they're always in my feed because my profile is a standout. So therefore, my profile is always being pushed to quality profiles. Okay. The app wants people to stay on the platform and have good experiences. So when you have a profile that gets engagement, thoughtful messages, actual conversations, people swiping right on you, the algorithm notices. And it starts showing your profile to other people who also get engagement, other quality profiles. So, meanwhile, if your profile is generic and you're only getting hey messages and dead conversations, the algorithm thinks your profile isn't that engaging. So it shows you to other profiles that aren't that engaging either. It's like the app is saying, Oh, you serious? You know, let me show you to other serious people. So when you fix your profile, okay, you're not just attracting better men. You're literally getting shown to better men by the app itself. And you start seeing better men in your feed. I've attested to this, I've helped other clients do this. Um, someone said, Do you use a paid version of hinge? Yes, because I'm serious. I'm so serious. Absolutely. I pay to play. I think it's very important. If I want to have access to a certain kind of men that most women, I'm saying, I'm saying, y'all, like we want the 1%, but we're using 99.9% of effort that everybody else is using. Why do you think you're gonna get different results if you're using that kind of effort? I want the 1%, I want the 0.0%. So people can say I'm desperate for doing all that I'm doing, but that's what I'm attracting. That's what I'm experiencing because I put a lot of effort into all of this. A lot of effort. Okay. I don't I don't feel ashamed about it. I do what I gotta do to have the experiences that I want to have while other people look at me and call me desperate. I'm actually enjoying my dating life. Also, your phone, your photos are not enough. Beautiful women have great photos. I see it all the time. My clients are gorgeous, drop dead gorgeous, and people are swiping right by them. They get low effort or get scrolled past every day. And you know why? Because the top percent of these men, men, they see gorgeous women all the time. Right. Photos get him to pause for a second, but your words, your prompts, your energy, what you're communicating, that's what makes him swipe right and actually pursue. Photos alone don't create the feeling. They might make his dick hard, but they don't create the emotional feeling that makes him want to pursue. They don't create polarity, they don't give him the blueprint to pursue you. And that's why we're focusing on what most of women are getting wrong, the communication. Okay. And anybody who's interested in joining the challenge, we will cover photos inside the challenge, but today we're actually going to learn what makes them pursue. So some of y'all might be like, okay, you know, Torah, quality men are on these apps. Where all the profiles I'm seeing are so trash. Number one, I talked to you about the algorithm. That's number one. I already explained that to you. But if you're seeing blurry photos and Jim Selfies, profiles that say just ask or barely any information, bad grammar, group photos where you can't even tell which one he is, middle fingers, pictures with other women, kids that ain't his, you know, kids that are his, but he ain't claiming. And if you're thinking, you know, if quality men were really on here, why do all these profiles look like this? Your algorithm isn't showing you. Like you're gonna see these men, but you should also see the high quality men. I don't pay like these men are all in my feed. Do I care? No, I don't care because I have so many men in my feed that I'm interested in. So it's also not showing quality men to you because of the algorithms. You're being shown the men whose profiles are low effort, the ones who swipe on everyone, the quality men with the good profiles, they're in a different pool. And right now you're not in it. I want you to think about the the the feed that you've curated. You ever seen a video on somebody that was like, I'm on the wrong side of the internet? That's because they know they did not curate their feed for this content. The best thing for them to do is not comment because you know what's gonna happen, they're gonna keep seeing those types of videos. They should have never engaged, they should have never put their attention on that. I only put my attention on the good profiles. Now, some of you are getting good profiles, but the men aren't following through. The little the little bit of good profiles y'all do get, you do match up, you get excited. Oh, Torah match with somebody. I'm excited. Text for weeks, no date, ghosts randomly, right? Talking to multiple women, and you're not the top of the list. You know, you're just not the top. Doesn't plan actual dates. And you're thinking the app the the app's making all these men act little effort, even the ones that I'm excited about. I'm gonna teach later on about creating a clear blue a clear blueprint for these men on what it looks like to pursue you. And when your profile does give him that permission and invest his energy where you give him that direction. So the solution, the solution that we are going to we're gonna fix both problems. We're gonna get you into the pool with quality men and give quality men the blueprint to pursue so that you'll be matching with them and going on dates with them. Okay, someone says, damn, is it so difficult to just book a restaurant? It's not difficult when you have a certain kind of man, and it's not difficult when the man is excited about pursuing you. It's not difficult. When he's excited, they're like there's nothing's gonna stop him. Okay, but a lot of them are not excited, they're just matching. Think about all the men that you've matched with and you've had conversations with that you weren't excited about and you just left him on red. Because we ain't gonna act like y'all don't ghost people. Because I done seen too many of y'all dating dating profiles, and I logged in and I'm like, why you it says your turn? Why you didn't take your turn? Oh man, I'm not really interested. Oh, you're not excited. That man could be like, is it so hard to respond back to me? Is it so hard? You see how we judge men, but we be leaving people on red. That's how we show that we're not excited. That's y'all gotta keep that same energy. And now I learn said, don't change the subject. No, hell no. I gotta, I gotta, I gotta pull y'all's collar. Because it ain't that hard for you to respond back, neither. Right? Three strategies we're talking about today that make quality men stop scrolling, feel desire, and pursue you. Okay, that's what we're talking about. Strategy one, the emotional mirror effect. The problem right now that you're having, many of you having that you're either not getting any matches with the men that you actually want, or the men who do match with you seem low quality and unserious. And what that looks like is like you swipe right on men who look like they have their lives together, but they don't swipe back on you. Oh, that's so sad. Emotional damage. You see, all these guys, you think that they're like will be the perfect fit, but they never end up in your matches. Or the matches that you do get, they're sending hey, or what you're doing messages, conversations are boring, one-word answers, no effort. These men are planning dates, they're asking you to do all the work, basically. They're not planning dates, and you're thinking, this is a waste of my time. Why am I on these apps? And you just delete them, or just leave them there to the algorithm to dry up, right? Type yes in the chat if you've ever wanted while you're only matching with low effort men. Just type yes. Yes, yes, yes. We've all been guilty.
SPEAKER_00:I've been guilty, you know, and this keeps happening.
SPEAKER_01:Based upon what I mentioned before about your profile looking like everyone else, we want to make sure that this man actually feels something when he looks at your profile. Okay, when your profile makes him makes a man feel something, he naturally wants to engage with you. That feeling determines the kind of man who pursues you. So, quick example, before, you know, but before before we get there, the emotional mirror effect, the emotion your profile creates is the emotion men reflect back to you and how they message you, how they pursue you, and how they show up. So if your profile feels generic, it feels friendly, you get generic and low effort responses. But if your profile creates a specific feeling, a specific curiosity or warmth or intrigue or desire, quality may respond to that. They're mirroring the energy that's in your photo, in your um, in your profile. So a generic profile will attract more low effort men, and it will your it will list facts, it will sound like everyone else, right? And feelings-based profile will attract the men that you're looking for because it makes him feel something specific. He can imagine what it would be like to know you, and that's what makes quality men stop scrolling and create and crafting a message to you to get your attention. So, before something generic is I love trying new restaurants and spending time with my family. That's super generic. Some of you have profiles that sound like this, some of you have sentences that sound like this. It doesn't create a feeling. There's nothing about it where the man has a feeling. Here's a real example of a profile somebody sent me. Pick the best one. Some of y'all got the same type of stuff. It looks like this. It feels it may not be the same words, but that it don't you don't feel nothing when you read it. Pick the best one. An Alaskan cruise, NBA All-Star Game, fly to Portland, rent a car, and have a road trip to Seattle or Vancouver. What did y'all feel when you read that? Shit. Bored. What you think? What you think the man gonna feel when he read it? Not a damn thing. So why so why would he stay there? It's boring and whack. Aliah said a survey after place and an order from Walmart. Here's my client. We revamped her profile. She's she did her big one after I taught her this emotional mirror concept. Instead of grabbing drinks, let's sneak away for dinner, discussing our latest readover candlelight. Let's see a Broadway show and slow dance to the score in the middle of Times Square. Let's make our favorite dessert, savor each bite, and get lost in a nostalgic movie. Now, what did that make you feel? Put one word on how that made you feel sexy. So imagine a man felt sexy reading that. He's a ooh, this is sexy. Y'all writing on my screen. Y'all be careful, y'all writing on my screen. Sultry, turned on. If you got turned on reading this, imagine the man. You ain't no better than the man. And if he reads it, right? He's like, ooh, let's sneak away. It makes him feel it. And he's like, ooh, there's no wonder why after we we updated her profile, she got over a hundred matches. And mind you, she being had that profile. She being talking about Torah ain't no matches. She being said that. We updated this. She texted me and said, Torah, 100 matches. 100 matches. I said, girl, can I use your profile for my thing? Can I show the people how this works? She said, Yes, it's my dream. I love it. I gotta have her on the podcast. Here's what happens when you implement this. You will match with quality men specifically. The algorithm works in your favor. You will see better men in your feed. Because we she lives in New York. We literally, I said, we're gonna put your stuff in the financial district in New York. And those are the men you're gonna meet. Those are the men that are gonna be taking on dates. Those kinds of men. That's what we're gonna do. You're gonna see better men in your feed, which he did. You're gonna stop feeling invisible, which she stopped, and you're gonna match your matches, they are going to feel different from the start.
SPEAKER_00:So now she's just she's like, she's like, date booked, date booked.
SPEAKER_01:I love it. I love it. This is a guy responding to how I made him feel in my profile. He says, You give off that hot apple cider kind of vibe. Lights low, candles burning, jazz humming through the night air, windows crack just enough to let that crisp breeze in while we all talk about everything and nothing at all. Now, how do you think that made me feel? I never mash with him because I don't live there. I'm literally just testing different markets out. I don't live there. I don't live there. It's sexy, but I led with it. I led with that in my profile. And for those of you who sign up for the challenge, you will get my play-by-play in my profile. Why I did what I did, why I said what I said, what feelings were I was I evoking on. Okay. Someone says I hate those programs. Don't don't focus on nothing you hate. You're gonna get more of what you hate. I would only focus on the things that I love. I would only care, I would only look at I never look at the things that I don't care about. It ruins my mental algorithm. This is my profile. This is one line out of several lines that I wrote. He says, I actually do feel that something inside me shifted. It's that feeling you get when someone's energies matches yours. It's amazing. I created the feeling first, intentionally, so he can respond to me this way. If you're only matching with low effort men, your profile isn't creating the feeling that makes quality men stop scrolling. That is the gap. It's not creating a feeling. So, quick exercise: I want you to think about how you want a quality man to feel when he sees your profile. Type one word in the chat: peaceful, excited, intrigued, warm, comfortable, inspired. So, my client, when she updated her profile, she said, Torah, I've always wanted to be a guest on your podcast. And every she says, I know when you have guests on your podcast, you always ask them three words to describe their love life. And that's how I created my profile. Those are the words that I use for basically the emotional mirror. Is I use those words because I wanted that to mirror my love life. Some of you guys said desired, magical, intrigued, excited, home, safe, playful, euphoric, engulfed, warm, lots of warmth and intrigue, grounded and peaceful, motivated, homey and protective, curious. Yeah. And I want I want you to read your profiles. Do my profile get that word? Does it?
SPEAKER_00:And if it doesn't, then we have work to do.
SPEAKER_01:Put it to in the comments if we have work to do. If we have work to do. Some of y'all like, well, how do I do it? How do I do it? I mean, we're gonna do that in a challenge. We're gonna turn your words into your actual profile. I'm gonna take your words. If you join us in the challenge, we're gonna take it and I'm gonna help you build it together. We're gonna have a build session, a build session, and I'm gonna show you exactly how to do it in the build session. Okay. Now, strategy number two, the polarity principle. Strategy number one is about getting quality men to stop scrolling and read your profile. That's the first step, attention. But here's where most women get stuck because quality men are still scrolling past without swiping right sometimes, and even the ones who do match with you, nothing happens. He might not even message you, or if he does, it's low effort. Okay, and goes nowhere. He's either reading your profile, but he keeps scrolling, not convinced enough to swipe, or he swipes right on you, then doesn't send a message, just alike with no comment, or he says, Hey, what's up? No real effort, no engagement, or he does send a thoughtful first message, but then the conversation stays um surface level. The energy is flat, there's no spark, there's no momentum, no pull. I've been seeing y'all conversations and they be born, they be boring. You can tell that he's not invested, he's just going through the motions, and so are you a lot of times. And you're thinking, What's going on? Why you even match like me in the first place? Why you even match? Type yes if you've ever experienced any of these. Type yes. Here's why this keeps happening. Now, when we talked about strategy one, that will get him to pause and read, but then he's gonna ask, like, what's in it for me? And if you don't answer, he's gonna keep scrolling, or he's gonna match without investing. Okay, your profile tells him about you, but it doesn't show him what he gets from being with you. A lot of us have very selfish profiles. I want a man who's this, do this for me. I want this man, do that for me. Here's how to win me over. Green flags I look for. Right? It's all about you. And I want you to think about it from his perspective. He's reading and he's asking, what's in it for me? What do I actually get from pursuing this woman? What do I get? What do I get from taking her on dates? What do I get from being a green flag? What do I get from investing in her? What do I get from this conversation? And your profile doesn't answer the question. One of two things happen. He he keeps scrolling, he doesn't invest. Men actually want to know what it feels like to be around you. How does my life improve with you in it today? Especially we we talking about no coochie, right? How can you improve my life today? With no sex on the table, maybe no kissing, no holding hands on the table. What does he get? Like, how does my life improve with you in it? What does he get to experience with you? And when you like, without answer, there's no polarity. Most most women, most of our profiles is focusing on what about us, like, oh, I'm very passionate, my purpose. Oh, I'm looking for someone ambitious. I love Jesus. You know, that's fine. But what's in it for him? They're not just looking for a woman with a good resume, they're looking for an experience that wakens awakens their instinct to lead, provide, and pursue. And polarity is what happens when your feminine energy gives his masculine energy something to respond to. When he can feel what leading, planning, or protecting would be like with you. Yeah. He sees you as interesting, but when your profile doesn't answer the questions, he sees you as interesting, pretty. So he either doesn't message you at all or he sends something low effort. Okay? It's not irresistible. So showing him what he gets from being with you, the experience, the reward, the benefit to his life, it creates instant polarity and desire. Because we're spending a lot of time describing ourselves. We spend a lot of time talking about what we are, what we want from a man.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Without polarity, I love good food and meaningful conversations. With polarity, shows him what his life looks like with you in it. Okay? Here's no polarity. This is a real profile that someone sent to me. The way to win me over is being generous. Oh, you want to make my life easier? Love that for me. Being peaceful. Life is stressful enough. Don't be coming in here trying to stress a girl out. Why would anybody think that this is irresistible? Why would any man want to move forward? This is what polarity looks like. This is one of my clients who lives in South Africa. A man who drives impact at the highest level, delights in success, and values my joy as much as his. A problem solver and powerful leader who enjoys a woman that brings calm, peace, excitement, and makes him feel deeper. Do you see what's in it for him? Do you see what's in it for him? She's naming what she's looking for, but she's also showing him what's in it for him. This is my client, my another client. Be it a sweet note, a teasing glance, or a song just for you. I love making you feel like Superman. This is what's in it for him. A breath of fresh air after a long day at work. What's in it for him? And this is actually a video, it's a very nice video she has. So the difference is here's who I am. No, that's not what we just so we're not just talking about here's who I am, we're also talking about here's what your life feels like with me in it. One is about you, the other is about what he experiences. And most of us are not letting a man know what's in it for him. And this is what I've been realizing with a lot of my clients' profiles. I was like, hey, what's going on? What's what's why is their profile different? Why are they not getting the results that these women are getting or I'm getting? I'm like, oh, they're missing this. I'm studying all these profiles. I'm spending hours looking at different profiles, and I'm like, oh this is another thing that's missing. This is why I love this word. I I treat it like a science experiment. What happens when you implement this is more quality men are gonna swipe right on you. They see what's in it for them. Right? It's the difference between here's who I am and here's what your life feels like with me in it. I love trying new restaurants, turns into I'm the woman who turns a Tuesday dinner into a story you'll tell your boys on Friday. I value family turns into I'm the woman who makes coming home feel like the best part of your day. See the difference. Quality men respond to the second one because it creates desire, it makes him think, oh, I want that in my life. I want to be the man who gets that version of her. I want to experience what she's describing. That's the pull of polarity. He's not just curious, he's compelled. Because your presence gives his leadership a place to land. We talk about we want a man to leave so bad, we ain't got nowhere for it to land.
SPEAKER_00:That's what creates the pull.
SPEAKER_01:He can imagine how dating you would feel for him. He sees what he gains. He wants to step into that world because he can feel what it would give him. One makes him think, oh, she seems kind of cool. The other one makes him think, you know what, my life will be better with her in it. And guess what? You ain't gotta you ain't gotta cook or clean or do laundry or do none of that. For him to see what's in it. I need to meet her. Okay. So when your profile shows him that more quality men are gonna swipe right on you, they're not just pausing to read anymore. They're thinking I need this in my life. Men send thoughtful messages first because your profile showed him what his life looks like with you. He's already imagining it and engaging with that vision. Already. Conversations will build momentum because he's invested at this point. He feels what he he can gain. So he's asking questions to see if the reality matches what your profile promises. He initiates more, he doesn't want to lose access to what you're offering his life, so he's consistent and present. And these men will move towards meeting you. He wants to experience in real life what your profile showed him was possible. Here's an example. My client, he's like, Look, I gotta figure out a way to make you react this way. What's in it for me? Right? I gotta figure out a way. Another man sent that. This is my voice note that I wrote on my profile, that I made on my profile. And this man's like, let's do it. I love how you're talking. He wants everything I'm talking about. Because it's this whole voice note is yeah, I want it, but here's what's in it for you as well. Again, this is um my profile. The guy says, Good morning. I really admire what you wrote in particular. A man who leads with ease. You also mentioned how you would compliment your partner's life. I didn't say that, but that's basically what he got out of it because that's what's in it for him. He says, Very important to vibrate on the same frequency. Very important. The key. If quality men are still scrolling past your profile or they're matching with you, but not messaging or sending low effort messages, or the energy feels flat, the conversation stays polite, it's because your profile isn't showing them what they get. It's not answering what's in it for them. And that's the gap. And that's what we're going to fix in the challenge, in the 30-day challenge. So, quick reflection does your profile just describe you or does it show what his life looks like with you in it? Type in the chat about me or about him. Tell the truth.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Again, some of y'all are like, how do I show what's in it for him without bragging or sounding like a pygmy? Because you don't gotta sound like no pick me neither. We don't play them type of games. We're gonna do that in a challenge. You're gonna feel so confident in like what you're saying to this man, even if some of this stuff feels thorn. Now, strategy threes, the pursuit blueprint. It's one of my favorite ones. Now, the problem that you many of you are experiencing is that men chat with you, but they're not planning dates. They're passive, they're not pursuing. You're like, man, I feel like I gotta do all the work. I'm pulling teeth. Excuse me, I'm pushing so much stuff around, right? You match with the guy, you start talking, and it goes okay, but he's not making moves, he's just chatting. Days go by, he hasn't asked you out, or he asks, What do you want to do? It's frustrating because you're not asking for too much. You just want a man who is going to put some effort into courting you. Type yes in the chat if you ever had a conversation like this. And it keeps happening. One of the biggest reasons why it keeps happening, y'all, and y'all don't even realize it because some of y'all have some good quality men in your DMs. It's because men do not know how to win with you yet. Every woman is different. I remember having two women on the same coaching call. One woman was like, Torah, it's been two days. Like, why is it? He asked me on a date, it's been two days. And the woman on the same call was like, He's so weird. He wants to go on a date so fast. What the hell are men supposed to do with that? They're gonna think women are crazy. Because we're not clear. We're not giving them a blueprint of direction. So I had two women. I said, Do you hear what's the name just said? She said the man was weird for trying to go on a date within uh this week, and you think the man is weird for not planning a date. The men don't know what you want, they're gonna default to their usual approach, which is not what you want. It's their safe zone because they don't know how you're judging them. Some women want coffee dates, some women think that's low effort. Right? Some women need three dates before they'll meet in uh three uh days before they meet in person. Others are ready after one phone call. When your profile doesn't give him clarity on what you want, he doesn't consciously think what are her standards. He just feels unsure, so he defaults to whatever's familiar, sends generic, you know, messages, texts, does whatever his usual approach is, which probably isn't what you want. Meanwhile, you just think he's not serious. Meanwhile, you're probably thinking he's low effort. Now, some of them probably are, and I'm gonna show y'all on the challenge how to handle those men. He's just unguided. He needed a roadmap for how to win with you, and your profile didn't give him that. Without the blueprint, we have type one guarded. This is the prove yourself energy. Yes, guys, as a replay, prove yourself energy. It's closed off. It's that actions speak louder than words, energy. Looking for someone who actually follows through. Going back to this, the being generous. Oh, you want to make my life easier? Love that for me. Guarded, it feels guarded, being peaceful. Life is stressful enough. Don't be coming in here trying to stress a girl out. Guarded. When a man reads that he thinks you're pretty, or he thinks you're interesting enough to swipe, it's like, oh, guarded. Because you're like, prove it to me, versus sending an invitation. The second type is vague. It's pleasant, but it gives zero direction. There's no clarity on what you want. So that might look like, oh, I love good conversations and trying new things. Looking for someone genuine. Where's the direction? This is an example of a vague profile from a client. Win me over. The way to win me over is with deep thought-provoking conversations that spark curiosity and growth. If you're into exploring ideas that challenge the mind and inspire transformation, we'll connect instantly. There's no blueprint. There's nothing there. Yes, word salad. Oh, that that's your profile. I already reviewed your profile, so right? You're working on it, okay. Y'all, that's her profile. So it's vague. So it's like, how does a man actually win her over this week? Or it's future focused. It's future focused, it's serious about the future, but no roadmap for today or this week. Looking for someone to build a life with. Family and faith are everything to me. Listen, y'all not even about to talk to some of these men two weeks from now. Why is that on profile? So here's an example of someone who's future focus. We'll get along, and the future focus part of it is live your life by clear, defined core values, understand the art of compromise. You are emotionally available. Those are the future focus. The mere reading is ain't gonna be probably being your life next week. It's not a blueprint. Okay. It's not a blueprint. And what happens with all three is he's unguided. So he defaults to his usual approach. His unguided approach. Is it safe to pursue her? Can I win with her? Will it feel good when I get it right? When your profile answers all three, pursuit isn't force, it's natural. It isn't force, it's natural. The pursuit blueprint has three parts. Permission. Is it safe to pursue her? Openness to pursuit. Two, preference, your your clarity of desire. All right, well, first let's go back to permission. Opness pursuit. Is it safe to pursue her? So your profile signals openness and not guardedness. Most women's profiles feel a little closed off, like prove yourself to me, or I've been hurt before, or it's a little neutral and vague. But your profile, when you have when you give a man permission, it says, Oh, I'm open to this. Effort lands here, leadership lands here. Masculine effort lands here. He can feel that pursuing you won't be a waste of his time. Your tone and energy tell him that. Your words tell him that his effort will be appreciated, not tested. Preference, clarity of desire. Can I win with her? Your profile gives him direction. What do you value? What impresses you? What are your standards? Do you want thoughtful planning, right? What does that planning look like? What matters to you specifically? This is where he learns how to stand out to you this week. Not next month. This week, how he stands out. He's not guessing. He knows what success looks like with you this week. And then three, payoff. That's the emotional reward. Will it feel good when I get it right? Your profile shows him the payoff, what it feels like when he shows up the way you want. Your warmth, your appreciation, your response when a man pursues you properly. He can feel that when he gets it right. With you, it's rewarding, not draining. That's what makes him want to keep pursuing. Most women hint at what they want. But they don't give men the clarity they need to pursue successfully. But it's not our fault. We've been taught to hint. We've been taught not to be so expressive, not to be so clear about our desires. That's that's what they've done to us as women. But we have to relearn that. And the beautiful part about all of this, right? Well, before we get to the beautiful part, here's an example of my profile. Here is my prompt, my poll. Ask me anything about what makes me say yes without hesitation. How I respond when a man leads well. Y'all notice men have been responding to that. The tiny ways you can put a smile on my face this week. This poll gives permission that I'm open, it gives preference, because you can like really quickly figure that out, and it also gives payoff. How I respond when a man leads well. It gives all three in here at the same time. Okay? And my answers to them are even more amazing. So, guys, if you want, um, the first whoever enrolls in the first 48 hours will get my screenshots of how I be responding to men in the first 40 hours how of how I respond to these men. Okay. And the way they just respond to these polls are absolutely insane. Okay. Here's my here's my client. She's doing the same thing with her profile. Leave a comment if you want to meet here. Our sweet spot. A little luxurious, a little silly, a lot of sexy and completely ours. Two dreamers checking off goals and laughing through it all, and she has a video there. And the men are going crazy over this video. You see the video? My reaction when you plan for perfect first date. It's a cute video. They love it. But there is her permission, is there and payoff is there. She has preference in her in the rest of her bio, but permission and payoff is in this one screenshot. The beautiful part is when you give a man clarity, he pursues with intention. It feels like he just gets you. What happens when you implement this? Men ask you out faster. He shows up with effort, he follows through. You stop doing all the work. You attract men who want to lead. Here's her profile. Here's them responding to that video. Allow me to learn some of your likes and dislikes, dietary restrictions, allergies to coordinate a fitting first date for this reaction. Love. Hey, what's the reaction? I'm trying to get the reaction. Now, this is a the next one I posted in my stories. This is a guy who matched with me in Orlando, extremely handsome man, well-educated, successful guy, planned a date. He responded to what I put in my profile. I'm gonna let you listen to it.
SPEAKER_02:Salone, I presume that's how you pronounce your name. Uh, I just want to send you a quick voice message. I'm just in between calls at work, and uh, you're so sweet to leave me a message kind of updating me on how your week has been going. Sounds like it's going very well. I feel blessed. The highlight of my week, um, it's been kind of a tough week. I I I sort of uh an old back injury popped up, and uh, was sort of struggling with that yesterday, had to go to the doctor, took the day off, but I'm feeling better now, so I guess that's the highlight of the week. I guess I suppose second only to getting a message from you. Uh so I saw your initial message for um men who you actually like to connect with, which is to set a reservation. I've already got one set for Saturday at 8 p.m. for us, and uh, I don't even know if you're available, but uh stop. Uh I hope you can join. And uh I don't even know if you're available, but uh I hope you can join.
SPEAKER_01:Again, this man made reservations because of my pro what my profile said. The direction, the blueprint. This is Orlando, y'all. I don't live there. I just point at my thing there. He saw me, he saw my profile, he knew exactly what to do because of my blueprint. He said, I saw what you said in your profile. Look, I'm trying to get at you, girl. I got a reservation. I don't even know if you're available, but I said the reservation. Now, people can be like, oh, he's desperate, or you can be like, he's intentional.
SPEAKER_00:He's intentional. You don't guys how do I mute people? Cause y'all let me see. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:I'm trying to, I have so many screens up. Um here's another, this is an older version of my profile, but I shared a screenshot of this very handsome, this guy's 26 years old. Handsome Latin men. Ooh, so handsome. But he said, I read all your captions on each photo. I wish I could plan for Sunday because that's what's on my profile. But I unfortunately have some other things to attend to. What other days can I steal from your week to take out the beautiful person I see before me? 26-year-old young man. Sent me an Uber and everything. Had a had a we had a beautiful date. Somebody says, yes, develop frontal cortex. Get out, get out of my get out of here. 26. Quality men of all different ages. I don't I don't discriminate as long as their frontal cord, their frontal cord, low. Right? This is an older version of my profile. 26. If you come, somebody said, Can you tell what it said about Sunday? If you join my challenge, you'll see my profile. Anyone who's this my anybody who comes, there can you see my profile? Anywho, exactly. He grew up for the right profile. Exactly. Because this man didn't never send an Uber before. He was like, hey, I'm I don't understand. You don't have transportation. I was like, Yeah, I don't first dates. I don't drive. And he ended up sending it. Right? So the key, if men chat but don't plan dates, they don't know how to win with you. They don't know your standards, they don't know what impresses you. So they play it. Say, okay. So quick reflection. Does your profile give men clarity of what success looks like with you? Does it show your standards, what you value, what impresses you? Type clear or unclear. And guys, if this has been a really great session, you know, I would absolutely love if you could post on stories and tag me. And you know what? I'll give y'all a little, I'll get I'll enter y'all on the little raffle. You can win a one-to-one, a private one-to-one call with me. I usually offer these. I don't know why I didn't offer it today. Yeah, go ahead and post it. We'll raffle you in. Um last time two people won. I was only supposed to give it to one person, but I decided to be generous. But I would love for y'all to tag this training specifically. Right? Okay. Here's how it works all together. Strategy one, emotional mirror effect, it creates attention. Your profile makes quality men stop scrolling. Strategy two, the polarity principle, it creates desire. He's not just reading, he's swiping right. And when he matches, he engages. Strategy three is a pursuit blueprint. It creates action. He's not unguided anymore. He knows exactly how to win with you. He pursues with confidence. And when all three work together, quality men stop scrolling on your profile. They swipe right because they're magnetized. They match and pursue with intention. You go on dates with men who plan and leading. You stop doing all the work. Because the problem ain't the abs. Do y'all see how the problem ain't really the abs? Your profile just isn't doing these three things. It's not making him stop scrolling, it's not making him desire you, it's not making him pursue. So that's why I'm promoting the 30-day attract him online challenge, which is a step-by-step system to transform your dating profile and start getting pursued by quality men. Somebody said my profile is activated. And I did a few things based off on your podcast episodes, and things have already changed. Can't wait for the challenge. Yeah. And guys, I'm going to be answering questions at the end. Some of you guys were asking questions that were not relevant to what I was talking about in the moment. So I'm going to give you the opportunity to answer, ask questions. Phase one of the challenge, your dream man clarity map. And this is so important of like why we're doing this, because you need to get crystal clear on who you're trying to attract and making sure your profile speaks directly to him. Every time, like I look at your profiles and I'll ask clients, I'm like, who are you talking to? Who is your man? And how do you know you're speaking to them? Like a lot of women are like, oh, I want someone ambitious and kind, but that's not specific enough. We need to go deeper on who that man is so you know what to say to him. And so in that phase, I'm gonna show you exactly how to pull up the dream man clarity map so you can figure out who your man is and how to talk to him. You're gonna divide, you're gonna define the exact type of man you want. Not just his job title, but also his energy, his lifestyle. Okay? What your old patterns were versus the type of man who actually fits the woman you're becoming now. Your him blueprint. So every word in photo choice after this aligns with attracting him. And then we're gonna do phase two in the challenge, the dream girl profile build. We are going to rewrite, we're gonna do a whole workshop session on that day. It's gonna be like a three, four-hour session of just building your profile out together. Okay. Rewriting your entire profile using the three strategies from this training: emotional mirror effect, polarity principle, and pursuit blueprint. This is where the magic happens. We're transforming your profile from generic and forgettable to magnetic and unforgettable. You'll join me for the live build, you'll rewrite your bio imprompts so they create feeling, show polarity, and give them in the blueprint to pursue. You'll start seeing your new energy reflected in the words. And when you'll walk away with your dream girl profile, then we have picture presence plan so that your photos match your profile's energy. We need the photos, they are extremely important. Some of you already have great photos. And for the ones who don't, I'm gonna show you how to get your photos using just your phone in just a weekend. So we're not doing professional photo shoots. We're teaching you how to take great photos with your phone that show the real you and attract your dream man. So you'll learn the specific types of photos you need to tell your story, what not to include in your photos, how to take phone photos that look natural and magnetic, and get feedback from us so you know what photos are working, what not. So you'll work up with the complete Love A Girl look book. And then the match to meet momentum method to activate the algorithm. When my client started making changes and she was like, Taurus, still no matches. I said, Let me look, let me look. Okay, we need to activate this algorithm. This is what's going on because some of y'all's algorithm is dead, it needs reactivation. Just like if you left Instagram and you're a service provider, you came back and you're like, oh, no one's liking my post. You gotta reactivate things. You gotta do that with your profile, too. So your profile is optimized. We get now, we have to work with the algorithm. I'm gonna show you how to create a daily rhythm to keep momentum going without living on the apps. How to message in a way so that you're able to get dates within 24 to 48 hours, and how to go from matching with a man to a date without doing all the work. So you have actual dates on your calendar during the challenge. That's why it's a 30-day experience. At first, it was just a workshop. I was like, no, I need to make sure they get results. I need to make sure that they get results. This structure works because you get clear on who. You're attracting first, so you're not wasting time on the wrong men. You build your profile with intention using the exact strategies that make quality men pursue. Your photos match your energy, so everything works together, not against you. You'll learn to turn matches into dates without chasing, without doing all the work. And by the end of our 30 days, you'll have a complete system that attracts quality man, creates desire, and gets you pursued. Not just matches, but actual dates with men who plan, lead, and follow through. So four phase of transformations, weekly calls, my per my personal profile breakdown. I'm gonna go through my profile and show you my profile. Uh, private community support. The investment is 220 for 30 days. There is a payment plan because it's 30 days. If you're a if you're a client, do not pay for this. It's free. I did it for you. This is all for you, but I'm inviting guests to our party. Okay, I'm inviting guests to our party. But this is created for clients. Do not pay. You could spend another six months swiping and getting nowhere, or you could spend 30 days fixing the actual problem. And the fast action bold is if you join in the next 48 hours, you will get the match chat bolt. It's my private collection of real conversations showing exactly how I handle situations, right? How I spark interest, how I handle curveballs, how I inspire pursuit, how I turn awkward moments into date invitations, from witty comebacks to bold invitations. You'll get the strips, the strategy, the strategies, and the receipts. Okay. This bonus is for clients and people who join in the next 48 hours. Okay. Here are the live call dates. Go ahead and screenshot that. November 8th is when we kick off. Screenshot it. I can go back to it later because I gotta keep going. Right? So if you're tired of swiping and getting nowhere, men who don't pursue, feeling invisible, the challenge is your answer. You'll leave with the profile that tracks quality men photos that match your energy and confidence in how you show up online. Actual dates with men who pursue and the actual system that works. Are you ready to join? I'm going to put the link in the chat. Alright, girl. That masterclass was so good. It was so good. And that's exactly why you need to be joining me for the 30-day online challenge. We live in a time where we've never had so much access to quality men all over the country, all over the world. Our mothers didn't have this kind of access. Our grandmothers didn't have this kind of access. They just they had to go to and bump into their husbands down the street at church. Our great-great-great-grandmothers, they did not have the access. And we have the access. Like, you know what we do with that? We complain. We complain about it. We spend way too much energy complaining about all the men um who are not a good fit instead of spending time learning how to be the one percent woman on the dating apps so we can meet the one percent man. I am so grateful for the opportunity to have this kind of technology during this time where other people, other women, even in different places of the world, they do not have this kind of opportunity. And so I'm like, every opportunity I get, I am going to maximize it. And so, yeah, we're I'm gonna meet some men on the dating apps that are not a great fit, but I'm meeting some incredible men on the apps because I know how to leverage it, and I want you to leverage it too, and I want you to pass down this knowledge to your daughters because technology is only going to take up more space in our lives. There's nothing we can do to stop it. The only thing we can do is master it so that we're not the ones complaining, we're the ones benefiting from it. So I would love for you to join me as a part of the challenge. You have until November 8th to join us. The link will be in the show notes. And uh I look forward to seeing you in the challenge. Oh, also, I'm gonna link information if you're interested to you know, learn more about my best bestie. Her name is Jasmine. And if you're an educator or someone who wants to go into the educational tech field, uh she has so much knowledge and she's she offers amazing coaching. So I'm gonna link her in the show notes as well. So all right, uh until next time. Bye.