Date with Cents
Date with Cents
6 Things I Do To Meet Quality Men Every Week On Dating Apps
I've been posting all the evidence this week on my Instagram stories…the caliber of men reaching out to me, the quality of dates I'm going on, the matches I'm getting…and many are asking "Torah, how are you doing this?”
In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the exact things I do outside of my profile to make sure quality men pursue me with real effort and consistency.
You'll discover the strategic moves most women completely overlook when using dating apps….and some of them are the exact opposite of what dating coaches tell you to do.
I'm breaking down the tactical things I'm doing every single day that make accomplished, intentional men show up in my rotation instead of low-effort guys who can't plan a date.
After listening, you'll understand why your current approach keeps you hidden from the men you actually want and what needs to change if you want to stop being frustrated and start getting pursued.
Ready to stop deleting apps out of frustration and start building the skill that gets you actual dates?
Join my Attract Him Online 30 Day Challenge HERE
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What's up, Lover Girl? Oh, I am back from my trip. Last episode, I was sitting on the floor of my friend's house in Orlando. We had a great time together, went to Universal Studios. We worked the whole time and then we uh went off to Nashville and for a business retreat. It was absolutely amazing. Uh again, I just love being around women who are really serious about their business, their bag, and the boys. And I just love that we were able to do all three. We were able to work on our businesses, you know, and um make our money. We were also able to really, really like just enjoy ourselves. We were serious about having a ball too, because we went to Universal and had an amazing time there, just had fun, and then we just enjoyed the boys as well. We were approached by so many yeah, really attractive, fun, amazing men. I think I told her, I think we could we should do a podcast together about our our adventures and all the men that we met and like the the types of men, and there would there was one man I was like, man, I would seriously date this guy if he lived in Dallas. I just I want him so bad. I was like thinking about him the whole time, and it was it's funny because he's like he's like this cute, like um older, older Caucasian guy, and I'm like, oh that one right there, if he lived in Dallas, that's exactly who I would one of the guys I would be dating right now. But anywho, we might do a podcast. If you're listening, girl, if you're listening to this episode, I think we should do it kind of talk about it. Anywho, this ain't about us, this is about you. I made this episode for you so that you can meet men online. It's getting cold outside, girl. And the summer is over. You're not gonna be outside as much as you have been, even if if you were outside. And you need to learn all the strategies to meet men. Um, that's why I am hosting the Attract Him Online challenge starting this Sunday, November 9th, where I'm gonna take you through 30 days of how to create an online profile to attract your ideal man and how to build your roster from online dating alone without ever leaving your couch because when it gets cold, girl, you ain't gonna be wanting to go to all these events. I know I'm not. So that's why I love that I I know how to date online. And so this episode is going to to really help hone in like some tricks that you can not tricks, but like strategies, tactical strategies, um, energetic strategies. And if you're interested in joining the challenge, it's$220. You can join at the link in the show notes. There should be an option of a payment plan. There's even, depending on the region that you're in, there should be some after pay, some karna. Uh, if it's available in your area, it should pop up. But you definitely want to join this 30-day challenge. Anyone who joins my challenge, they get results when they do the challenge. So even if you can't attend live, you definitely want to watch the replays because somebody was asking me, like, hey Torah, when's the next time you're doing it? Next year, this time, next cuffing season. Because next year I'm gonna have different challenges to do. But this is what I'm offering right now. You definitely want to jump in, at least get the replay so that you can learn these strategies and get these results. But without further ado, here is the episode, which is an IG live that I did this week that you definitely need to hear, especially if you're thinking about joining the challenge. This episode. What's up, love a girl? Welcome to another live. And um, yeah, so this live is six things that I do to meet quality men every week on dating apps. So if you've been following me this week, you have been not just this week, but this week, the past few weeks, you have been seeing a lot of the evidence that I've been posting about of how quality men are on dating apps. I've been showing you evidence of the men I've been matching with, the men that have, the kind of men that have been reaching out to me. I've been showing you the messages that they send me. I have been showing you the vo sending you the voice notes that they've been sending me, the the dates that they've planned to me uh for me, the dates that I've been going on with them, the caliber of the men that I've been attracting. I have been pulling back the curtain to show you so that you understand that there has proof that these men are on these dating apps. I have even taken my location and put it in different cities so that you could see. I've even put it in one of the harder dating markets in this country. I've done that just so I can give you evidence and show y'all that these men are out here, they're available. We just have to show up differently on the dating apps in order to pull those men out, in order for those men to come uh to be available to you. And so today I want to talk about outside of my profile because a lot of the things that I've been talking about has been what I've been doing in my profile. So I'm gonna be talking about what I do on a regular basis outside of my profile, like the strategy that I implement along with the profile, the dream girl profile that I've been telling you guys about. So it's real tactical things that you can actually implement today if you want to. And uh, and if you're listening to what I'm about to tell you, because I'm about to drop a lot of gems today. Hopefully, I ain't gonna take me that long. But if you're listening and you start to think, like, oh, I want to do this, oh, I want to upgrade my profile so this works, that's exactly what I'm going to be teaching you inside my attract him online challenge, which starts this Sunday, November 9th. Okay, I'm gonna be telling you more about it at the end, but if you're interested in getting the details of that as you're listening, all you gotta do is type swipe me, like swipe and me, in the live comment section, and you will be able to get the details or the information in order to um get the results. Uh, I mean, not the results, but get the get the details of the challenge. Um, type it as one word if you can. Try not to put the space in between, swipe me because I'm not sure if that automation is automating the way it should be, but it would be swipe, no space me. So yeah, I'm gonna get started. The first thing that I do when it comes to meeting quality men on the dating apps, is I set a clear intention. Okay, I set a clear intention. This is the foundation, this is everything, is I set a clear intention. So my big intention is I don't go on the apps to meet my dream man, like my husband or the one I'm gonna end up with forever as a long-term partner. I go on the apps to build my skill set of meeting that guy, of meeting my ideal men. Like I am going on there to learn how to spot him, to learn how to converse with him better, how to move that kind of man off the app and into real life. Because what I've realized, one, women, when you are like really desperate to find him, or you really need to meet your dream man, like you need to be able to meet your forever person on these apps, you're gonna struggle. You're gonna struggle attracting men who actually fit the category. But if you focus on practicing being that woman who could just, she has tons of options of that kind of man, that is when you become magnetic. Okay. And so I know a lot of you, you think about dating apps, and you're like, Torah, but it just sounds like a lot of work. And I don't want to do that. I just want to find my man and be done with it. Put a one in the comments if you've ever felt that way. It was just like, look, I just I don't got time for the shenanigans. I just want to find my man, get on the app, find my man, go on a date with him, become his girlfriend, get engaged, build a relationship, get engaged, and just get married. Just I just want to do that, right? I get it. I seriously get it, like I really do. But that that is that is a big problem. That's one of the big problems that you um that's keeping you from what you want. Um, so when we're thinking about like I'm looking for my man, I'm gonna find my husband on here, every that like that energy just puts so much pressure on everything. It's a lot of pressure, like every match becomes high stakes, every conversation has to lead somewhere. Every date has to be something, it has to move on to something. And when it's not, you're crushed, you're disappointed, you get really frustrated, and you get really, really burnt out because it didn't quote unquote work out in your favor. All right, it didn't quote work out in your favor. Now, even if you do, there are women who quote unquote get lucky and they do get the man, they don't know how to recreate the process. So this is why you will see them talking to their friends or commenting online, like, oh, I'm glad I'm married. I'm glad I'm in a relationship. Because I wouldn't want to be out in those streets is because they don't, they don't know how to do it. They wouldn't know how to recreate. There's a never a time in my life where I feel like I'm gonna be, I'm so happy I'm in a relationship so that I don't have to be out here in the dating market. I'm so skilled that I'm never afraid to go back. I'm never concerned about going back, especially if I feel like the relationship isn't serving me. Or, or if the person is getting too comfortable where he doesn't see a need in order for this relationship to be beneficial for the both of us. Okay, I'm never scared to go out there, I never have a problem, I never have to hold on to a man because I'm scared of going out there in the streets. Okay. So, but when you are going on that apps and you're like, okay, I really need this to work, I really need to find my person, there's a place where you're living in scarcity. But if you don't have the skill set to do it again, you are already in a position for men to offer you below effort. You're already in a position for men to not show up for you once they get comfortable. Put a two in the comments. If you ever started dating a guy exclusively, he stopped taking you out on dates. He stopped showing up with gifts, he stopped bringing you flowers, he he stopped making you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. And then you felt like you were chasing him. Like, oh, can we talk more? Oh, I haven't seen you in a while. Oh, you seem so busy. Oh, oh, I think we need to have more conversation. You you're gonna be stuck with that. You're gonna be stuck with that. Y'all know how it feels to have a man and you feel like you're stuck. You never wanna be that way. You always wanna be willing to be able to jump back in the streets and be like, you know what? This doesn't work for me, right? This doesn't work for me, and be excited about getting back in there because you have the skills. Okay? So right now we're just hoping it works out because we don't know how we got here. And and that's that's not even power. There's no power with that at all. That's like us relying on luck. So every time I'm getting on the app, I'm learning more and more about how to spot these men, how to meet these men. For example, I will post what a man bought for me. I will post a man planning an amazing date for me, I will post a man putting a lot of effort, and you know what a lot of women zone in on? Ew. He he wrote you, you, your instead of your. He doesn't know the difference between the, ooh, he can't spell, ooh, and I'm like, that's uh that's why y'all are struggling. Because I know the difference between an illiterate man and a man who made a typo. I know the difference between a man whose first language isn't English, and he knows seven languages. He knows seven languages, and English wasn't his first language. Like, I know the difference. But we get caught up in it. He he didn't write that sentence grammatically correct, ma'am. He knows three more languages than you. This is the only language you know, and that's probably why you have it more mastered than him. Like, I'm able to sit there and spot the difference between an illiterate man, like I want you, W-O-N-T, versus a man who is very skilled, very resourceful, very on top of his game, very um, very intelligent. But don't want to spend, I'll give an example. So funny, Latin Poppy is, y'all know me and Latin Poppy. He takes me on a trip every single month, a really nice trip. And so I requested Arizona. I requested him to take me to Arizona uh in December. So he messaged me yesterday to buy the tickets, and he knows that I like to sit in the aisle because y'all, I gotta, I be peeing all the time. So I like to sit in the aisle. And so he sent me a message and he was like, Hey, don't you like sitting in the aisle? And it was spelled I S L E like an island, like an island. And he was like, Don't you like sitting in the aisle instead of A-S-L-E? However it's spelled, and I was like, Yeah, he didn't spell this right. Okay. He was like, Don't you like sitting in the aisle? And but guess what? Who cares? This is a man that owns a five million dollar company, he owns a five million dollar company, and the average woman would look at that and go, Oh, I could, I could never look at the spelling on the app because he, you know, he actually dropped out of high school. He actually dropped out of high school. And um, so and then in English isn't his like grammar, it's not great. But guess what? The way this man shows up, the effort, the intention, the way he's able to make my life easier. He's such a pleasure to date and to be around. It's like he's an he's a he's a really great guy, really amazing man. But I've learned to spot those men without thinking about oh, bad spelling. Someone said, calling me out, bad spelling gives me the ick. Like, it doesn't give me the ick. You know what gives me the ick, low effort. You know what gives me the ick? Men who can't afford to take me on dates. You know who what gives me the ick? Men who do not plan dates. That's what gives me the ick. That's what gives me the ick, not men who who struggle with spelling. I do not care. I'm looking for intelligence, not people who have bad English grammar. Because what is English, anyways? This is a bastardized uh standard of English, anyways, right? It's a made-up language, anyways. I really don't care about that. Like I need to, I really want to focus on the things that actually matter to me, and it's not spelling. And I often have women in my comment sections complaining about men in my posts who have bad grammar. And I'm like, that's why you're not meeting men now. That's why you're struggling now, because you focus in. I literally post all these men who are doing these amazing things for me, and you know what you chose to focus on? They can't spell. That's why you got problems. Okay? Right? So I'm learning, my intention is to build the skills, Torah. I'm learning more about how to spot them. I'm learning more about how to meet them, what kind of conversations these men have with me, what's important to them, what makes them lean in, what makes them pull back. I'm building the skill of talking to them, engaging with them. I'm experimenting. I'm collecting data. I'm not on the app like, oh, I want to find my man today. Oh, I ain't found my man, I'm deleting the apps. Oh, these men are trash because I ain't found my man. Like, oh no, I'm just experimenting. So that's the first thing that I do with on the app. So I'm not like, oh, I'm gonna meet my man today, or I'm gonna, or, or even, oh, I'm gonna get this date. Yeah, those things usually happen for me. But it's because my focus is always on experimenting and building my skills to be a woman who can always meet those kinds of men anywhere, anytime, on any app. And that's why I'm so good at it. So when you shift your intention from I need to find him, to I'm building the skill of being a woman who knows how to attract and spot quality men just in general, that's when the shift happens, right? All the pressure is off. You're not disappointed when things uh don't work out. You're just gathering data, you're getting better, you're practicing. Every conversation becomes a win because you learned something. Every match is a data point, every unmatch is feedback, okay? But what I'm realizing is that most women go on the apps hoping, hoping something happens, hoping she likes it, hoping um she meets her man. But I go on the apps knowing. I know, and there's a difference because hope, hope is really passive. Knowing is power, okay? I know I am always gonna need quality men because I'm focused on building the skills of a woman who's always attracting them. Okay. It's gonna be really hard for you to attract what you haven't practiced recognizing or interacting with, which is why most of y'all of y'all went into a room full of your type, full of your type. Some of y'all types are tall, attractive, you know, uh make good money, successful. Y'all don't even know how to start conversations with these men in person, okay? And you can't recognize what you're not looking for without the intention. So once you got that mindset shift, if you understand that mindset shift, put shift in the comment section. If you understand that mindset shift, put shift in the comment. So the next thing is tactical. Okay. The next thing I'm gonna talk about is very tactical, it's very easy for you to do. Is and it surprises people. It sometimes it even makes people like mad, especially like my clients, when I tell them to do this, is I take off all the filters. I take off all I take off the filters on the dating app, like all of them. Like the only thing that's filtered for me is that I'm seeking men. That's it. Now, I'm I have an age range filter, but even that's like a wide lens. I have it set from like 19 years old to 60 years old. Now, some of y'all hearing that, and y'all might be trying to come for me, you know, like, dog, you're trying to match with the 19 year olds, you're trying to, you're trying to match with the 60 year olds. No. Just relax. That's not the point. The point is unfiltered profiles favor, find favor with the algorithm. Okay. The algorithm favors unfiltered profiles. They favor my profile because they can push it out to more people. And that helps me get matched with men that I'm actually looking for. It doesn't start. Um, it like I'm not limiting myself. I'm getting visible on the app. I'm not trying to limit the men that see me. I'm trying to get visible with as many men as I can. So most women don't understand about the apps, is the apps, yeah, they do want you like to match. They do. They want you to get a dopamine hit of matching and come back. That's how they make money, okay? Because when people don't match, they delete the app, right? That's how they keep you engaged. That's how they keep you coming back. But when you're overfiltering, you're telling the app, I don't really want to match like that. I don't really want to be put out that like that to match. And the app listens. The app says, okay, you don't want to be visible. You don't want to be visible to these kinds of men. We just won't show you to a lot of people. Okay. A lot of women overfilter. What that means is they filter for politics, they filter for smoking or non-smoking or kids or no kids, or they filter for religion, they filter for ethnicity, they filter for height, they filter for education, right? They filter for all these things, thinking, you know, I'm protecting my energy. I'm protecting, I'm being selective. I'm setting standards. If you've ever done this before, put filter in the comment sections if you've been a filter girl. But what it's telling the apps is you're not a high quality user. And I'm not saying that you're not a high quality user. What I'm saying is you're not a user who is going to favor the algorithm. You're not going to really help the algorithm do its job. And so the algorithm doesn't help you. The algorithm buries you. You ever been on an app and you started swiping, and you're like, no one's on here. It's the same people. Or it's the dusties. I'm not meeting any men. A lot of times it's because you're overfiltered. Okay. Um, and even the men that you want, someone said filtered to the gods. And even the men that you want, you don't get to see them because the app decided that you're so picky, that you're so picky that you're not gonna be in his presence. And then also, sometimes people don't even list the things that you're filtering for. So, for example, uh type if you've ever filtered for a man with your certain belief system, right? Like say you filter for a man being Christian. Put put faith in the comment section if you've ever filtered for religion or if you've ever filtered for faith. If you're filtering for a man with a certain belief system, let's just say you want him to be a Christian, but he doesn't even, the man that you're looking for may not even have it on his profile that he's Christian. Okay? Maybe he doesn't list it for a particular reason for a particular person that he was attracting, right? Because of what people make that mean. Maybe he's tired of women assuming certain things. Maybe he puts spiritual instead of Christian. But he believes the same thing you believe. Or maybe he just left it blank because he doesn't think it's something that should be on like talked about until we get to know each other so that you can understand that this label doesn't properly identify my true beliefs. You're also not gonna run across that man because you're automatically filtering him out. Your perfect match is out there swiping, but you'll never even show up on his screen because you're filtered out, you're you filtered yourself outside of his life before he even knew you existed. So, number one, the algorithm buries you. And number two, the men that you could be matched with, you're not even gonna see them. I need to say this you're not too good to do your own filtering. You're not too good to look at a profile and decide for yourself. You're not a child who needs the app to protect you from seeing people you're not interested in. You shouldn't have to worry about having to filter everything up front. You should be doing the filtering yourself. Like you get to look at these men and decide. You get to use your discernment, you get to swipe left. That is what swiping left is for. Instead of just getting excited about all the options that are actually available to you. Instead of being like, oh, look at all these men who want to match with me. Let me find the ones I actually want. Like, oh, look at all these men I get to look at without leaving my house. Let's see which ones I'm actually gonna swipe right on. So I keep my filter super wide and I let the algorithm do its work for me. I let it show me more men. And then I'm often surprised, right? I'll go on an I'll go on the app. I typically do not date like much older men, but I'll see a man that's like super in shape and super attractive and and and and super restorative. I'm like, ooh, don't typically do this, but I'll make an exception because uh, yeah, you got it. Or even younger, right? Somebody might be 26-year-old that I've literally, I talked about me going on a date with a 26-year-old who sent me an Uber and everything that had a really nice romantic date, took me on a really nice romantic date, but again, he came at me super proper on the apps. He stated his case and he showed up like a grown-ass man. And so I let him take me on a grown-ass date. Okay, it was like, ooh, I didn't expect this. I'm highly surprised. I love this for me. So I let it show it to, I let myself show me more men, and then I use my brain and my standards to decide who's actually worth my time. The common mistake is that women think filters protect them and save them time. Filters actually limit you. You're not protecting yourself, you're actually hiding yourself. Your job isn't to avoid the wrong men on the apps, it's to recognize the right ones, and you can't recognize them if you're not seeing them. So, and speaking of recognizing the right ones, where you're looking matters just as much as how you're looking, which brings me to number three. And this one is about strategy. This is less tactical and more strategy. So the third thing I do is I make sure that my location is pointed to high-income wealthy areas. No matter where I'm located, no matter where I'm living, regardless of where I am in the world or in the country, I am always researching the high-income wealthy areas. Why? Because those are the men that I want to date. Those are the men that are gonna have the resources to meet my standards, those are the men that are gonna have the ambition that I'm looking for. Those are the men that are able to afford the things that I would like for him to afford. So therefore, I'm all I research the location. So, for example, y'all know last week I set my local, I was visiting Orlando. And before I went there, I pointed my location to the wealthiest spots, the wealthiest zip codes in Orlando. I just didn't put Orlando, Florida. I gave the exact zip code. I'm putting it in the most wealthiest place in Orlando or the most wealthiest zip codes. Okay, wherever the money is, that's where my marker is. Okay, somebody in my blood, well, Torah, it's not about money. For me, yeah, that's a big part. That's a big part for me, is a man with resources. A man who is not going to have me lower my standards because he's he's already exceeded them. A man who's not gonna tell me what I'm but I like. I love when I don't ever have to worry about a man complaining about a check. As soon as a man complains about money, I'm out. Because I don't complain about money. Okay? I don't complain about what something costs and what and and what I'm able to afford. I don't want to date someone who isn't able to do that. I want someone to be able to come into my life and it's not an issue where I'm able to just have enjoy a date. We can eat what we want, we can do what we want versus him like trying to figure out the tip because he already paid so much money. The tip can be the same amount as what we pay. Okay? I love when I go out on dates with men, and money is not an issue. I but and also the money is also a good indication of the level of ambition, the level of resourcefulness. I love a man who can problem solve, men who typically make more money. Money typically are really good problem solvers. They're solutionists. I love a man who can solve a good problem versus like you tell him something that happens, he says, Man, damn, that's crazy. Damn, what you gonna do? I don't date those kinds of men. I don't date what you gonna do kinds of men. So that's damn that's crazy type of man. I date the man like, okay, what can we do about it? How can we solve it? Here, here, here's access to this. When I was on a date with Tycoon Poppy, um, the man that I that buys up property like Monopoly, the first phone call that we had, I was talking about my business and like things that I needed for my business. He was like, Oh, let me put you on the line with such and such. That's my guy. Let me put you on the line with such and such. Oh, let me have my assistant do this. Let me have my on the first call before we even had our date. Because he was trying to solve my problems ahead of time. But again, he's also very wealthy. Okay? He could solve my problems and I think he could lend me his assistant. He could do all these things. Those are the kinds of men that I want to date. So you can have the best profile in the world, but if you're showing it to broke men, it don't matter. You can be the most beautiful, magnetic, intentional woman on the app. But if you're showing up in an area full of men who can't afford to take you on a date, you're wasting your time. If you're showing it to men who cannot pursue you financially, you're wasting your time. Especially if you are in your 30s plus. 20-year-olds, I may not be talking to you as much, but y'all, at least y'all in your 30s, we don't have we don't have it. Okay. And proximity matters. So I remember I had a client and she was visiting Dallas, where her grandmother lives. And I was having, I said, look, I live in Dallas. So you if you come here and you tell me you're not meeting quality men, I'm I am calling bullshit. Because I live here and I date here. And she got here and she was like, Torah, I don't see the men. The dusty men keep pulling up. These men keep pulling up. I don't understand. And you keep saying that, you know, these men, you can find a lot of well-off men in Dallas. Where are they? And I'm like, Where the hell is your location? Where's your marker? Where are you pointing things to? Y'all know she was staying at her grandma's house, and her grandma lived in the hood. Y'all know her marker was pointed to where her gr around her grandma's hip code in the hood. And bless her grandma, because you know, I love grandmas. But her grandma wasn't living next door to men making multiple six figures, not even, not even touching six figures. She was living next door to men who were struggling to make rent. Or did some unscrupulous things to make the rent. That's where she was at. And I was like, girl! That's exactly why, because you're not gonna tell me about my city. This is my city. You're showing up in the wrong zip code. You're showing up in the wrong zip code. That's crazy. So one of the things that I always do so that I can have access to the highest quality of men is to point my marker in the highest network area. I don't live in the highest network area in Dallas, but my hit but my dating apps are pointed to that. Kimberly said, Dallas is where it's at, baby. I visited and had a ball. I don't live in the highest network area here in Dallas. But my dating apps are always pointed to the highest net worth areas, okay? So that I can get access to the highest quality of men. Okay. Men that are gonna be ambitious, men that are more likely to have resources, men that are not gonna flinch when I ask them, when I when I ask them to send me a car because I don't go on first dates unless a man sends me a car. Okay? Men that are not gonna flinch, men that have the money to pursue, men that have the lifestyle that matches what I'm looking for. Because a lot of, I mean, let's be real, like a lot of men don't have the resources to pursue. They don't have the money, which is why they're trying to negotiate you to go in Dutch and 50-50. They're trying to negotiate you to walks in the park for first dates. They're trying to tell you that no man will take, like, they're trying to get you on meet and greets and saying, like, no man is gonna want to do this and do that for you, even though plenty of other men are done. Like, there, that's what's happened. Okay, and they're gonna see a lot more of that in this uh in this economy. They don't have the flexibility in their schedule, okay? Because they're work, some of them are like working jobs just to survive. I remember having a client, my the client was dating, she met a guy in the park and he had like a son. And I was like, based upon what this man has said to you, I don't think he can afford to date you. I actually don't think he can afford to date you. Now you can continue to go on a date with him, but based upon how he's showing up, I really don't think he can afford to date you. And lo and behold, he couldn't. He was he was like, hey, since I paid for the first date, you won't pay, you know, you got the second one. I was like, girl, I was trying to tell you. I was trying to tell you the circumstances and how you met him, you know, him having full custody of his son, him complaining about money. Anytime, if I'm around a man and he's complaining about money, I already know he ain't got like that. If he's complaining about how expensive something is, right? I remember I had a friend who was going on a date with a man and she sent him a bistro restaurant. A bistro. The highest amount on the menu of a bistro, maybe it's like$25,$30. And he was like, I don't do fine dining on a first date. A bistro? That's how you're dealing. That's how you know. That's how you know you're dealing with someone. And this is no shade to those men. This is just simply saying that that's like that's beneath the level of where I date. And it's okay that that's where you're at. I'm not making fun of you. What I'm saying is I am out of the tax bracket of who I'm out of, I'm out of your dating tax bracket. I'm just out. Okay. Now people can come and say, Well, you don't even look that good to me. It doesn't matter. I'm dating outside. I'm I'm dating there. So whether you say I don't look that good, I don't, I'm not pretty enough, whatever, I'm there. That's where I date. That's the only, that's the only place that I date. So I make sure that I'm in proximity to men who are, who have that access. So, and to me, I'm not being shallow. Yeah, I'm not even scared of people saying that I'm shallow. I'm strategic. I know what kind of life I live. I know what kind of life I like to live, I know what kind of experiences I like for men to give me and where I thrive. And I would rather be single than date someone who can't afford to date me. I would rather be on my own. I would rather, well, I'm single now, but I would rather have no rotation. I would rather have no men. I would rather have no men than date men who don't have it like that. Okay? If I want a man who can plan, who can provide, who has the lifestyle that I'm aligned with, I need to be a visit, I need to be visible to those men. I need to be in their sphere. I need to show up on their screen. And the way you do this is by pointing your marker to where they live, where they work, and where they play. Someone says, I told a man the average drink costs 12 to 15, and I can hear the shock in his voice. I always attract the one who can't afford to date. We need some upgrades. So whether I'm in Dallas, Orlando, I pointed my marker to Denver, Colorado, one of the harder markets to date, New York, LA, wherever I'm always looking up. Where are the wealthy zip codes? Where are the high income areas? Where do the men with money live? And that's where I set my location. Right? It's literally just simple. Chat GPT, Google, wealthiest neighborhoods in whatever city. Point your marker there. Um, but a lot of women are just allowing their location to just be based upon where they are, or they pick their location based upon convenience. Oh, or I just put it where I am. Or, you know, no, I pick mine based on strategy and I put it where the men I want are. You're curating your access, and that's nothing wrong with that. And once you've got access, you need to make sure you're actually visible. You need to make sure that you're just not visible, but that you're being seen first. Which is why I do something a lot of women turn their nose off. But it works. The fourth thing. If y'all got the third thing, right? If y'all put location, if y'all got the third thing. Someone says, So when do they so when they ask, do you live in the wealthy area you chose to date, what do they say? They never asked me that. They never asked me that. I've never like men don't ask me ridiculous questions like that. Like that question is it's weird. Men don't ask me that. That's that's something I can't even conceive how that would even come up. I'm I'm concerned as why it came up in your brain. Like, what? Who has that? I've never been asked that. Like, why don't you live in this wealthy area? Like, men see amazing woman, they just want to date her. They they're not thinking about why don't you live in this location? That never happens. Um so the fourth thing, which a lot of women turn their nose up on, is that I pay. I pay. I pay on the primary, at least the primary app that I'm using. Right? If I'm using a couple apps at one time, I'm at least paying on my primary app. I pay to have access to the features that make it easier to be in the proximity to these men. Features that make it easy for me to see who likes me in advance, who I can respond to, who I should respond to. I have access to all of this information to be seen first. I pay to be seen, to have a priority comment or a priority like or to show up at the top of the stack. All of that's important to me. So I'll pay for the three months. I'll pay for the three-month package, right? I'll pay for the one month to see how it plays out and I'll pay for more. All that's important to me is to fast pass. I fast pass my way to being in proximity, and for that, like I will never apologize. When you think about all the places that you can meet high-quality men without having to look hard in real life, there's usually a price, there's usually an entry fee, there's usually a barrier to entry. Hi Marty. Now you can stay. Like when I go to a conference, a real conference, where there are men with lots of resources, they're building and growing. That's$1,500 for me easy. Okay. If I want to go to a gala, that's a couple of hundred dollars, at least a hundred dollars for most of them. And that's if you get the early bird ticket. If you want to go to a golf tournament where wealthy men are spending their Saturday, um, you're paying for it. Polo matches, country club events, um, you're paying for those spaces to be in the high net worth spaces. And y'all know I'm also a part of a private club that I pay for. I'm always around wealthy men at this club. I'm always around men who are moving and shaking. I haven't posted this in my stories yet, but there was an event at my private club where professional NFL players taught the women how to play football. They taught us the game of football. Basically, whoever their team was, like they like they came and they taught us the game. And I won an autographed um, what are the autograph like helmets? And I took a picture with them. It was so great. I haven't posted it yet. I don't know if I'll post it. But yeah, but I will, again, just being in a room with those men and just being in proximity to like have these conversations as if like we literally chilling on the couch talking, right? So that I'm always around these kinds of men, men with ambition, men with resources. There's a reason why there's a payment to be there. Because people who are there understand the benefit. They understand that you're not just paying for the space, you're paying for who's in the space. You think that you're paying for a man when you're on the dating apps, but you're paying for proximity to greatness, you're paying for access, and that's always there. Okay? Someone says, I have a spiritual restraining order against NFL players. I wouldn't think about it like that. I would literally think about the access, the connections, because those people are connected to people that aren't NFL players, that are wealthy or ambitious. Like that, it's all it's I look at it all as an ecosystem, right? I don't look at it as, oh, I gotta stay away from this, or oh, I shouldn't do this because they're like this. I'm like, oh, they're all connected. I've seen them eating lunch with CEOs, right? Of companies. Like I've seen them. So I would focus on more so anchoring in the energy of all of the connection of what it creates versus who we think the people are. Okay, that's what I would focus on. But that's why those places where those kinds of people are usually have a payment barrier that people can't afford to be in. It separates people, it separates serious from casual, it separates from women who are strategic from the women who are hoping, right? I don't like I don't think about it as oh, I'm paying for a man. A lot of women like I'm not paying for that. So desperate, I'm paying for a man, sure. Sure, sure, Jan, right? Let that be your strategy. I just went to Universal Studios with a friend of mine, and we both made it our business to get an all-access pass, to skip all the lines, the express pass. We made sure because we didn't want to be standing in line for hours with the 99%. Nothing wrong with the 99%, but I didn't want a 90%, we didn't want a 99% experience. We wanted to ride the rise as much as we wanted to. And people were standing and waiting in line because like we didn't want to do that. We wanted to be the 1% who got on fast. We did a 1% activity by paying for access to have a 1% experience. We didn't just pay to go to Universal Studios, we didn't pay to be the cool kids. We paid so we can have an experience that we wanted to have, so we can be in proximity and have easy access and fast access to the rides. So for me, I'm not wasting my time. I'm actually enjoying myself. And I really want to reframe this for you guys who really are concerned about what it would look like if you paid for the apps or or your image if you pay for the app. I think a lot like some of you really care way too much about what you look like versus going after what you want. You're caring too much about looking stupid or being embarrassed or or looking crazy instead of just going after doing the crazy things that are getting you the crazy results. We see women on this app all the time having a crazy result. And we're like, oh man, God, God, do you hear me yet? Or like, when will this happen for me? Do the crazy shit. A lot of these women are on here doing the crazy stuff. Okay? They're doing the 1% that you don't want to do because you're so ashamed of what you could look like to people. Okay? When you pay for premium features on a dating app, you're not desperate, you're decisive. You're not buying a man, you're buying back your time. And your time is worth more than$20 a month. Your time is worth more than$30 a month. Look, we spend that on an appetizer.$30 on an appetizer. On some uh anyway, your energy is worth more than that. You're saying I value my time, I value my energy, and I want to move faster towards the connection I want. Alright. Okay. Okay. Right? Free is for women who have more time to waste. Premium is for women who really want to maintain energy and proximity. So now that we talked about all like this tactical stuff down, the mindset, the filters, the location, the premium features, this next point is more energetic. And this is what keeps you magnetic. But if you understood point three, write pay to play. Pay to play in the comment section. Someone says, would you suggest revamping an existing profile to open up the filters and get a better algorithm or delete and start a new one from scratch? It just depends. Either or. It just depends. Either or can work. If you've been dormant for months and months and months and months, maybe delete. If you've been on the apps, maybe not delete. So the fifth thing that I do, and this is energetic anchor, and this is what keeps me at magnetic and keeps me on the apps, is that I celebrate every piece of evidence that supports the experience that I want, that supports the man that I'm looking for. Even if I get unmatched, even if the conversation doesn't go anywhere, even if it doesn't result in a date, even if none of that stuff happens, I still celebrate the evidence. Because what I know is when what you focus on expands. And if you're focused on all the ways it's not working, quote unquote, you're gonna get more of that. If you're focused on all the men who ghosted you, all the conversations that fizzled, all the dates that didn't lead anywhere, that's what you're training your brain to see. And that's the energy you're gonna carry into every time you open the apps. That's why you want to delete them. Every match, that's why you be leaving these men on red. You'll be like, oh, he he with the same shit. He ain't say not, but good morning, beautiful. And you're like, he with the same shit. You leave him on red. I'm bored with this conversation. When you focus on the evidence that it is working, even in small ways, you stay in momentum, you stay magnetic. For example, I um I would have a guy reach out to me. I had a guy reach out to me. He was telling me, like, oh, look, queen, like, you're long distance. I didn't realize you were so far away. Like, I would absolutely spoil you. I would absolutely treat you like a queen and planet this weekend if I was there. Now, who cares if he was serious or not? I don't know. I don't care if he was lying, I don't care if he was telling the truth and I was quote unquote missing out. I don't care if he even says that to every woman. I take that as evidence. And I'm like, ooh, men on this app want to spoil me. Men see me and think that's the woman I want to spoil. Men want to take care of me. Men want to want to put an effort in dating me. I don't care. I don't care if he said all that and he never followed through. I take it as evidence because that man chose me to say that too. Uh, like he that I like he looked at my profile and he thought, this is a woman that I want to say this to. This is a woman I want to support. That's data. That's proof I'm showing up as that woman. And I'm just gonna take it as a win. A win is a win. I also had some of you guys, no, no, no. I also had a guy, really attractive guy, handsome, successful. His profile was on point, and we were talking, we were talking throughout the day, and he was like, that day, he was like, look, I want to take you on a date. And are you, I'm going to London soon. Are you available for a trip to London? And I was like, you know what? Let's see how the date plans out, let's see what happens. And so he planned this date, he made sure that the location was close to my home and not like focused on him. He made sure it was really close to my home. Like he was being very thoughtful, he was being very unintentional, and then like an hour before the date, he unmatched me. He unmatched me. Okay? Now, a lot of women would look at that and take that, like, really be bent out of shape. And take that as rejection of oh, what did I do? What did I say? What happened? Did I take too long to respond? Because he did ask me a question that I didn't respond to because yeah, I was busy. Did I mess it up? And I just took it as proof. I was like, oh, handsome men love inviting me to go out and travel. They absolutely don't do like successful, attractive men see me and they want to plan international trips with me. That's who I am. That's the kind of woman I'm showing up as. They want to take me on dates. I don't even think about the unmatching piece. I don't even think about it. It's like done. I don't make that mean anything about me. I was talking to a client recently who I helped rebuild her profile. I helped her rebuild her profile. And um before I was telling her about what all the things are happening, she said, Torah, you celebrate everything. I said, I do. You get upset that somebody unmashed me, mashed you, and I'm looking at the fact that you are attracting a much higher caliber of men. Much higher caliber of men. These men are on your level. That is what I celebrate everything. A man blink at me the wrong successful man blinked at me. All of that's evidence. All of it. Right? There was, we, I was in um Nashville with my friend. We were at a business thing this past weekend, and we we got approached by the head coach of Tennessee State. Ooh, tall, handsome, handsome guy. Right? He's uh he's making at least 400, 500K a year, right? He asked to take us on drinks. I told her, girl, we're not gonna do it. He asked, he invited us to the game. I let him know we were busy because we had some business to do. He wanted to take us for drinks after that. I said, I don't know. I don't think like we'll see, because I knew that we were gonna be meeting a lot of people there. We haven't seen it nobody, and I didn't know we were gonna end up hanging out for dinner, which we did hang out for dinner, right? We did hang out for dinner, and instead of thinking, like, oh man, I'm missing out, I'm missing out on this opportunity for this man, blah, blah, blah. I was like, ooh, hair coaches want to talk to us. Ooh, that's all I did. And I left it at that. We didn't text him because he gave up, gave his number. We didn't do any of that. We just went to go hang out with the girls and anchored into that energy. That's all I said, all you gotta do is girl. We're just gonna anchor into the energy. That's all you want to do, and then keep it moving. The men are gonna keep coming. And literally, we met so many men that weekend for the Tennessee State game. We literally met so many different men. It was crazy the amount of men that would meet. Even the pilot on the plane approached my friend, and he was like, Look, I'll buy whatever you want in this airport. Just tell me the word. I'll buy whatever you want. Because all we did was focus on the energy and the angry, not what we couldn't do, not what we could do. It was simply like, these men, these amazing, handsome sex. That's all we did. The guy Orlando last week that I showed you that literally booked a reservation for a date before, like while we were in the app. The second thing he told me was he booked us a reservation based upon my profile. But then I told him, I was like, ooh, I don't even live there. I'm sorry. Just let me know. I just want to give you, I just want to be fully transparent before you we go through with this. And man, he was just like, when he found out I wasn't local, he got really sad. He left me a voice note, and he was just like, I don't, I can't do long distance. Like one of the things that I really value is like dating, like being able to date a woman locally. He didn't unmatch me. We're still matched. He was like, You're so sweet, you're so this, you I'm so excited to talk to you, but I really want to date a woman locally. I was like, a win is a win. A win is a win because not only is he attractive, not only is he successful, not only did he follow my instructions from my dating profile and book the reservation without hesitation, not only did he plan a date, but these men see my profile and they immediately take action. These men book reservations on my app. I don't look at, oh man, I fell through. I should have never told him I wasn't local. Look at what he did. I missed out. Look at the kind of I just might look at the kind of men who are attracted to me. Look at the kind of response my profile is getting. Hey, that allows me to be super excited about being on the app. Super, super, duper excited about continuing to be on there because I only look at the positive, I only collect evidence that supports what I want. Even if I see a profile that may I may not match with, I might see him. He might comment and he might say something incredible to me, but I'm just not, I'm really not attracted to him. Right? But he sends me something very thoughtful. He may not be my type physically, but he has the kind of profile that I'm looking for, right? Educated, articulate, you know, successful. Like I'm like, oh my gosh, smart, intelligent, wealthy men, they love me. They see me and they want to connect. That type of thing, right? I remember having like this young guy, he was like 19 years old, and he's like, Look, I just want to say you have one of the best profiles I've ever seen on here. I'm not the kind of man that you're talking about, but one day I want to be that kind of man, and I'm like, Yes, my profile is doing what it's supposed to do, not oh my gosh, the 19-year-olds that can't do nothing for me or sending me comments. That's not how I train my brain to think. Because when you train your brain and look for evidence that supports your desire, you stay in momentum and your reality. I was telling my friend when we were out and about, she was like, Man, like this new frequency of like men approaching and men doing this. She was like, I like I really appreciate being connected to you this weekend. And I'm like, Yeah, because I I prime my reality for the algorithm that I want. I know if you go on your Instagram, your algorithm is based upon what you've trained it to look at. The content, whether it's beauty content or fitness content or or or influencer content, you've trained it to be that way. Well, reality is also an algorithm, whether you know it or not, whether you realize it or not. It's an algorithm based upon how you've trained it. And I've trained my algorithm so well that I that I'm not even pressed about being approached in public and trying to make stuff, force stuff to happen with men. Like I'm not, I'm not pressed about because I know it's in abundance because I've trained my algorithm that way. You could do the same by being on the apps, right? You stay in attraction energy, you stay magnetic, you stay excited, you stay open, and men feel that. They can feel when a woman is excited to be on the apps, they can feel when she's open, they can feel when she's not bitter or jaded or analyzing everything today. They can feel when she's going through the most, and they can feel when she's abundant instead of scarce. So I celebrate everything, every good conversation, every thoughtful message, every well-planned date attempt, even if it doesn't happen, every compliment, every man who shows interest in the way that I want to be interested in. Because all of it is proof that the kind of man I want is already showing up. And when you believe that, more of them show up. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy in the best way. Most of us women, we're collecting evidence of why it's not working. I collect evidence of why it is. Most of us are focusing on the 90% that didn't work out. I focus on the 10% that did. And guess what? My 10% grows, it multiplies. Your energy determines your results, and your focus determines your energy. So focus on what's working, not what's not. Okay? So those are my five things. If you got the last thing, type celebrate. Type celebrate. Alright. But I also have a six thing. This one's tactical, but it's very powerful. It's very simple because most of us are not doing it because we're treating the app like a chore instead of a skill. Um, so this is very simple but very powerful. Is when I want some motion on the apps, when I want like lots of thoughtful comments, if I if I want a date this weekend, if if I want the apps to be popping all the time. I don't get on there and just do like a 20-minute block. I don't like mindlessly get on the apps, you know, where I'm just sitting and swiping and mindlessly just swiping through. I use several blocks throughout the day. I like I work for 25 minutes and then I take a five-minute break. I work for another 25 minutes. I take a five-minute break. I work. But some of those five-minute blocks, I'm swiping. And my focus is swiping. My focus isn't, oh, let me get on the apps to see what's going on. I was like, oh, here's your designated swipe time. And I set my timer and I swipe. And it's sprinkled throughout the day to have access to different kinds of men of different kinds of time. Some of you may be familiar with Coach Lee from Sweet to Elite. And one thing she teaches her clients is she teaches them to do it like seven times a day, starting at like 6 a.m., seven minutes. I am not that strict with how I do things. I typically just make sure that I make time. And she she tells you to do it so strictly to help people develop the discipline. I'm already disciplined to do it. So I take like dedicated time throughout the day, like five minutes here, and I do it maybe four to five times a day where I'm messaging people, where I'm swiping, and it's just a dedicated. And when my timer's up, I'm gone. I'm not, oh, I gotta keep going until I get a match. I'm like, oh, it's done. It's time to go do something else. It's time to go back to work. It's time to take a walk. It's it's time to do this. Thank you, Queen. Right? So the algorithm sees that I'm an active user. And that activates the algorithm. It lets the algorithm know, oh, she's active. She's not just logging in once and disappearing. It lets people know that this person is going to be responding. She's going to be messaging. She's going to be matching. She's going to be talking, a high-quality user. It supports the algorithm. It tells the algorithm push this woman. Show her to more people. She's engaged. Okay? It's kind of like the more you show up, the more you're seen. The more you're active, the more the app pushes you. The more the app pushes you, the more quality men you see in your feed. So instead of logging in once a day at the end of the day for 25 minutes and then disappearing for 24 hours, I'm popping in and out. Five minutes in the morning while I'm having my coffee, three minutes at lunch while I'm on break. A few minutes in the evening while I'm winding down, it keeps me circulated. It keeps my profile fresh in a rotation. And it keeps men seeing me at different times of the day when they're active too. The CEOs that are waking up at the crack of dawn, right? The men that are taking a lunch break, men are going to happy hour, right? Even the night owls that are working on projects late in the night. Okay, so a man who's checking the app at 7 a.m. is probably different from the man who's checking at 9 p.m. The man that's checking at 7 a.m. might be um ambitious, might be starting his day with intention. The man checking at 9 p.m. might be winding day, you know, winding down after a long day at work. By being active throughout the day, you're showing up in front of more men and more moments and more context. And when you do short bursts and you time yourself, you're not getting burnt out. You're not sitting there for 30 minutes feeling overwhelmed at all the profiles and all the messages and all the decisions. You're just popping in, engaging, and popping out, right? It's light, it's easy, it doesn't feel like work. So that's um that's the sixth one. Short bursts, staying active, keep the energy circulating. Most of us are treating the dating apps like a chore. They log in once, they swipe until they're exhausted, and then we don't touch it for days. I'm gonna I treat the app like a skill that I'm practicing. I'm checking in multiple times a day and I'm staying visible and I'm staying active. Now, there are some weeks where I'm like, I'm not on the app, so it's not because I'm overwhelmed. It's not because I hate the apps, it's not because I don't believe it'll work for me, it's because I'm prioritizing something else, like a launch, right? Or I'm creating new curriculum for my clients, and I really wanna wanna lock into that, right? So if you got that one, post swipe in the in the in the chat. And if you're listening to this and you're like, okay, Torah, I get it. I need to shift my mindset, I need to be more strategic, I need to change my energy, I need to stop overfiltering, I need to pay attention to my location. But I like I really need help with my profile, I really need help talking to men. I I really need help on how to like meet these men on the apps to prime my profile. That's exactly what we're gonna be doing in inside the attract him online challenge. The attract him online challenge is a step-by-step system to transform your dating profile and start getting pursued by quality men from the comfort of your couch. It's 30 days. So if you want the details on joining, if you want to join us, it's$220. And if you type swipe me one word, swipe me in the comment section, you will get the details. There's payment plans available. Um, here's everything included when you join the challenge. Phase one, your ideal man clarity map. You're gonna get clear on who you want to attract before you write a single word. Because how can you know what to write on your profile if you don't know exactly who you're talking to? Your ideal man, his lifestyle, who he is. This is where we're gonna map him out so that your profile speaks directly to him. Phase two is your dream girl build, profile build. That's a live workshop where we're gonna rewrite your profile or your prompts using my three-part blueprint. I will show you how to create desire and inspire action just by using your words, no matter the dating app platform, whether you're on hinge, bumble, whatever, match, whatever. Phase three is creating crafting your picture presence plan where you create a plan so that your photos match your new profile energy and inspire a man's masculine instinct without him oversexualizing you, right? All I can't remember the last time I got a like, you so sexy. You know, all you need is a friend and a phone. No professional photographer needed. I'm gonna show you exactly how to do this. Phase four, the match to meet momentum, uh meet momentum, activating your algorithm for lots of matches, even if it currently feels dead. Learn exactly how to turn matches into dates within 24 hours without chasing a man or without working too hard. Okay. Plus, you'll get weekly live coaching calls to get real-time strategy and support as you implement everything. Access to my personal profile. If you actually want to see my profile and see how I apply these principles to my profile, you get access to that. Profile audit timber so you'll be able to look and check out the box. Like, does my profile have this? Does my profile speak to this? Does my profile speak to that? So that you can start doing this on your own. And then private community support. We have a private Facebook group where you can connect with other women over the course of 30 days who are doing this work. Again, the investment is$220. There are payment plans. If you type swipe me in the comment section, make it one word if possible. I'm not sure if swipe space me is gonna pull it up. It might. Y'all can let me know. And uh you can grab your spot now. Okay? Your dream man can't find you if he can't see you. So let's make sure he can because it's getting cold outside. We're not outsiding, outside the way we were over the summer. We want to meet men online during this time because we ain't going outside the way we were, because we get it's getting cold out here. We need new strategies, we need better strategies. We need to be able to meet men in the summer and in the winter time. Okay? All right, so that's the end of this live. Um, any quick questions about what we talked about today? Today, this is not the time for you to be getting coaching. Anything that we talked about today or about the challenge that I can answer, that I can answer really quick before I jump off here. It's hot in here. It's weird because it'd be cold. It'd be cold in the mornings, it'd be hot in Texas in the afternoons. I'm so happy you guys enjoyed it. What were your takeaways? What were your takeaways? First, set a clear intention. Two, take out the filters, three, point location to high income areas, four, pay for the I pay to play. Five, I celebrate every piece of evidence. Six, short frequent burst of activity throughout the day. Alright. Any other questions about logistics or about what we talked about today before I hop off? Oh, you think I'm brilliant? Thank you, Queen. That's such a great comment. Me being brilliant is one of the best compliments I can get. Yes, it's my pleasure. Um clear the filters because I have my filter strict. I don't know how to point the app to a specific zip code. I would just Google. Thank you, Nala. Questions, takeaways? What were your takeaways? Any questions? I think we're good. I think we're good, huh? I already did a recap. Y'all gonna have to watch it again. I already recapped like two times already. I just recapped it again. Any others? To keep the energy moving is my biggest takeaway. Yes. Okay, I don't think anybody has any questions. Um, alright. Well, I love you. Uh bye. Alright, girl, that's the episode. Implement today. Even if you don't plan on joining the challenge, which you should, girl. I don't even know. I don't even know why you wouldn't. Okay.$220 is an option for payment plan for the amount you would spend at a single brunch. I don't get it. But um, and even if you can't attend live, I just don't understand why you wouldn't want the replays. So I would I would go to the link in the bio and I would I would I would sign up for the challenge. Join us on Sunday live on replay. But yeah, even if you don't join the challenge, these things can get you results this week if you apply it. Okay, that's why I love doing these podcast episodes. That's why I love going live, because I love providing value, even if you don't pay me so that you can get the results that you need. Okay. Alright, um, until next time. Bye.