Date with Cents
Date with Cents
3 Mindset Shifts That Keep Me From Getting Drained on Dating Apps
I can talk to 40 men in a week, carry on conversations with five or six at a time, swipe multiple times a day, run a multiple six-figure business, go to pole class, date, and live my life…all without getting drained or frustrated.
When I tell people this, they ask "Torah, how are you not burnt out?"
The answer? It's my mindset.
I think differently about what's happening on the apps, and that changes everything.
In this episode, I'm sharing the three mindset shifts that keep me magnetic, energized, and successful on dating apps while other women are deleting them out of frustration.
You'll discover why focusing on the "wrong" men is draining your energy and what to do instead so you can stay in momentum instead of feeling stuck.
After listening, you'll understand how to stop making everything on the apps a problem, how to turn every unmatch and fizzled conversation into valuable data instead of disappointment, and why experimenting instead of complaining is the key to actually meeting quality men.
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What's up, love a girl? Welcome back to the Date with Sins podcast. You know, I'm just feeling so grateful. So grateful for life, health, and strength. Literally this past weekend. Actually it's been a few days. I I was sick, put down by a bug. Um, it seems every time I'm like creating something amazing and awesome and I and all of the energy is flowing. I get sick. But then I'm like, oh girl, that means you created something amazing, which I did. The Attract Him Online challenge is full and effect. The doors are open. Um when I say doors means we had our kickoff call. And it was absolutely amazing. On the the first call, we did a quality match readiness assessment, and it blew a lot of ladies' mind. I actually showed my personal profile. Um, because I told I said, hey, clients can see my personal profile and anyone who signs up for this challenge. And it was very, very clear based upon what my online profile was looking like, on what everyone needed to to adjust in order for them to start attracting their ideal match and their ideal man. So I'm so excited about this challenge. And if you were thinking about joining, you can still join. Like the same way we did the roster challenge, when you can just join throughout, you can still join. You just have to hop in and catch the replay. We've so far we've had the kickoff call. You can still sign up, it's$220. The link will be in the show notes. And as soon as you join, you'll have access to the kickoff call that we had, and you can join us live this upcoming Sunday for the first official curriculum call in the challenge. We have a Facebook group that's open, the ladies are on and popping. So, yeah, that being said, this podcast is an Instagram live sponsoring the challenge, and it's uh the three mindset shifts that keep me from getting drained on dating apps. I know you will appreciate this episode. I don't think anyone is talking or saying the things that I'm saying when it comes to dating apps. And so listen to this episode, take what you can get from it and start implementing immediately. So, without further ado, here's the episode. What's up, little girls? I'm back for another live. I know I've been missing from stories lately, but I've been busy and under the weather, I've been really sick lately. Um seems like every time I produce amazing frameworks and curriculum and wrote like solutions for clients and students. Uh the energy just put me on my ass. But yeah, I wasn't feeling well, but I'm happy to be here. Hey guys. Um, today we're covering the three mindset shifts that keep me from getting drained on the dating apps, and I think this will be incredibly beneficial to listen to considering that most of y'all are deleting your apps. Most of you guys are frustrated, and you delete them because you're drained and you feel like exhausted with it, like you're you're totally over it. And I was sharing with my subscribers the other day about how I talked to 40 men in one week on an app. And they were like, Okay, how are you doing this? I'm able to carry on five or like conversations with like five or six men throughout the day. Um, I'm able to swipe on dating apps multiple times throughout the day, and I also am running a multiple six-figure business. That's my full-time job, is what I do. I'm also able to go to my pole class. I'm also able to um go on dates with men throughout the week. I'm able to really enjoy myself as a woman, as a business owner, as a date, and still be able to like get on the apps, really, really um talk to a lot of men on the apps, and I'm not burnt out. People think that I'm burnt out, I'm not burnt out, I'm not exhausted, and I'm not frustrated. And the biggest, one of the biggest reasons why is because of my mindset, like the way that I think about the process. So it's not that I have more time than you. It's not that I have better men on my apps in my city than you do. And it's not that the algorithm just says, oh, we just we're gonna favorite Torah. She's the queen, and we're just gonna make sure she gets the best experience. And so today I want to share three mindset shifts, uh, three things I actually tell myself, three beliefs that I hold that completely change how I show up on dating apps, and uh why I also never get drained by them. So, welcome, welcome, welcome. And then you can also adopt these same mindsets as well. And if you do, I promise you, you are going to see a massive shift in your experience if you adopt this, not just in your results, but even like how you feel when you're on the app. So you're not ready to just delete them, so to say. So the first mindset shift is that's not a problem. It's my it's my favorite thing to say. Clients come to a coaching call, this is one of the biggest ones. They come to a coaching call and they just tell me, Latura, this happened, that happened, and he said this and that. And I'm like, okay, what makes that a problem? They they already assume it's a problem, their brain has told them it's a problem, so therefore they're telling it to me as a problem. And I ask them what makes it a problem, and it causes them to have to really think about it like, ooh, how is this a problem? Why am I making this a problem? Um, and so that's something that I tell myself when I get on the apps. I'm human, things happen to me, I experience certain things, but when something happens on a dating app that most women would get upset about, I'm like, oh, that's not a problem. It's not. And what happens is most women will get on the dating apps and they're just like, oh my gosh, Torah, it's just these, all these young boys are swiping on me. I'm like 20 years older than them. Or, oh Tora, it's all the old men in my feed, or oh Tora, it's the conservatives that are swiping on me. It's the liberals that are swiping me. It's the Dust Demon trying to swipe with me, men in their cars. Oh, this man has a wife and he's trying to swipe with me. This man wants me to join his wife in the bedroom. He's trying to swipe with me. This man is looking for sex, he's trying to swipe with me. This man doesn't have anything in his bio. He's trying to swipe with me. I'm sounding like a preacher. Kimberly. They're so focused on what's wrong with other people. What's wrong with the men? Who's showing up wrong? The profiles that they that don't match what they want, the swipes that they don't like. And you know what? That is draining. That is absolutely draining. We don't realize how much energy that we leak when we focus on what's wrong instead of what we want. Because every time you look at a profile that's not for you, and you make it mean something, like, oh, why is this guy in my feed? Why are these men like this? They don't got no bios, they got fish picks, they got their shirts off and all the pigs. You're draining yourself. Hi. Thanks for making it alive. You're leaking energy, you're making other people's choices your problem. And you're making the fact that those people exist your problem. And that's something that I absolutely do not do. I don't make other people's choices my problem at all. Okay? So when I have a 19-year-old who swipes on me, I'm not like, oh, you know, all these young guys in my feed, the app is broken. I'm like, oh, that's not a problem. He exists in the world. Okay. He's God's creature. That's fine. I swipe left, I keep it moving, young man. Right? I keep it moving. When a guy shows up and all of his pictures are in a car or he's throwing up the middle finger, or he's like, you know, I just want, uh, if you got kids, I don't want you. If you plus size, I don't want you. I, you know, I don't make it a problem. I'm like, oh, that's that's not for me. Cool. Next. Um, when a man doesn't have anything in his bio, I don't sit there and I complain about it. I don't sit there and complain. I can I can swipe 50 guys with no bio, and I'm not gonna complain about it. I'm like, oh, that's not a problem. I'm only focused on getting what I want. The most I will do is post it for my students, my subscribers, or my clients, and say, hey, here's what you can learn from this. Hey, do you know why I didn't swipe right on him? Hey, like I use it as a teaching moment. I never but I do not focus on why it's a problem. Okay? I only focus on what matters to me. I'm not focused on what's quote unquote wrong. I'm not focused on who shouldn't be there. I'm not focused on the fact that there are men on the app who aren't my match because of course there are men on the app who aren't my match. That's that's how the world works. If I go outside, most of the men are not gonna be my match. Am I gonna walk outside and be like, oh, there's so many men that don't appeal to me. He's not attractive to me. He has his shirt off, he has his pants sagging down over there. Like, and by walking outside of the house just analyzing all the men in front of me that do not align with me, I'm not. It's overstimulated and that y'all would be drained with living. That's how y'all act on the apps. Y'all don't go on the apps like how y'all walk outside the door. Most people don't walk outside analyzing and thinking how just the world is full of people that they're not in alignment with. Like, they don't get over stimulated that way. What if we treated it the same way? We just go like no one goes outside like that. I hope you don't. That's weird. Go into the gas station. No one here is my match. Go into the grocery store. Oh my gosh, I why is he like this? Why does he look like that? Why is he smoking that like that? It's really weird. It's draining. It's draining when you do it on the apps, Kimberly. It's really draining when you do that. Um, so many of us make it a problem. We get on the apps and we start collecting evidence on why the apps don't work when we do that. We start making the list in our head. All of the men are this or that. Nobody on here is serious. Everyone just makes uh want sex, everyone's a player, whatever. And then we wonder why we're burnt out. You're burnt out because you're making everything a problem. And when you start showing up on apps with that energy, when you start swiping with that frustration, you start messaging with bitterness. You start swiping with the frustration, you start going out on dates. Even if you even get to the dates, you start going on dates with the belief that it's not gonna work out anyway. Because it's all a problem. There's so many problems that you're focused on. And men feel that. It literally reminds me. I'm telling you, I literally, and I'm telling you, every time I do a live, somebody wrote a comment, a weird ass comment on a post of mine. I wrote a, I did, I posted an Instagram reel of a man who left me a voice note about the kind of date he was gonna take me on, how he was gonna wind me down on the date, the rose he would buy, the roses he would buy me, the car he would send me. And someone in the comment section was a weird ass comment, and she was just like, oh my gosh, does anyone else think that voice notes is crossing boundaries? I can't like why can't I would hate it if a man sent me a voice note without getting my uh approval first? I'm like, you guys are weird, and that's that's why y'all are struggling. It's a weird ass comment. It's a weird ass focus. But that's what happens when you only focus on wrong things. And we wonder why we find it really hard to meet quality men is because we're always focused on wrong things. Everything's a problem. Somebody like that who views stuff like that as a problem, uh, mind you, a lot in their life is a problem. Okay, but anyway, men can feel it. If you make it to the date, men will be able to feel that. They can feel the energy of annoyance, of passive aggressiveness, of guardedness. They can feel when you're jaded. All right, they can feel when you think that they're all the same. They can feel that. Okay? So the first mindset shift is stop making other people's existence your problem. The man who's not for you, he's not a problem. Swipe left and keep it moving. The conversation that went nowhere, it's not a problem. Unmatch. Keep it moving. The guy who unmatched you, not a problem. He did you a favor, keep it moving. When you stop making everything a problem, you stop leaking energy, you stop getting drained, and you free up all the mental and emotional space to focus up on what you actually want. And that's when the apps start working for you. So the first thing I tell myself is that's not a problem. I don't make other people's choices my problem. I only focus on what I want. And that alone will change your experience on the apps. Okay? So now the second mindset shift builds on this. If you got the first mindset shift, put a one in the comments. Now the second mindset shift builds on this. So because once you stop making everything a problem, then you start seeing things differently. All right, let me explain. The second mindset is nothing's going wrong. Nothing's going wrong. And what I mean by that is when something doesn't quote unquote work out on the apps, when someone unmatches me, when a guy doesn't meet my standards in conversation or um or in the way I want to be dated or the way I want to be talked to, when a conversation fizzles, when a date doesn't happen. I don't think something is going wrong. You know, I think nothing's going wrong. Typically, my clients come to me and they're looking, oh my gosh, like, what happened? What wrong? What I'm like, nothing. Stop thinking something's wrong. I I simply just think there's something here for me to learn. There's something here for me to figure out. There's a pattern I should be noticing. There's information that I'm gathering. And I know that sounds very, very simple, but it's a very, very huge sift because most of us, when something doesn't work out with dating, especially like the dating apps, like we immediately go to like something's wrong. This isn't working. The apps don't work. The men are like this, the men are like that. They think something went wrong, they think something something shouldn't happen, shouldn't have happened. They get wrapped up in a story about why it's bad, about why the unmatched was bad, about why what this man said was bad, about why the conversation fizzled out was bad. And when you think something's going wrong, you continue to focus on the wrong things. You continue to perpetuate that something is wrong. I don't like to do that. I'm like, nothing's going wrong. I'm just refining, I'm just aligning, I'm just learning. There's something here for me to know. There's nothing wrong. This is just data. This is just information. There's something here for me to figure out. So, for example, I spent time talking to a guy. He's a really handsome. He had great conversation. We're having a great time in the chat. We were vibing. What the kids say, we were vibing. Okay. And so he finally invited me off the app for a date. Hey girl. He finally invited me on the app for the date, but the location he chose was 40 minutes away from me. That's number one. The fact that like I'm used to men trying to choose places that are close to me. Or trying to at least he didn't even try to figure out where I live to determine where he should pick the place. I didn't care about that. I said because I because men send me cars for first dates. So I was like, okay, because he didn't try to get the date closer to me. He didn't offer to me halfway anything. He didn't consider my convenience. And so I don't I always ask for an Uber on a first date. If it's more than like 10 minutes away from me, 15, maybe 15. Uh give or take it, it depends on what it is. And so I asked him to send me an Uber since the date was far from me, and he said he was uncomfortable with that. He was like, Oh, I never did that before. I'm very uncomfortable. Now, I had spent a good amount of time, I was enjoying the conversation with him, and a lot of women would have been pissed. They'd be like, Oh, I spent all this time talking to this guy. He can't even send me an oor. He seems very successful and very established. He wants me to drive 40 minutes. What's wrong with these men? He's not even trying to make it easy for me. Ugh, men are so selfish. Something's wrong with men. Something went wrong here. I just let him know. I was like, oh, you know, I we're we're not aligned. It was it was a nice meeting you. It was nice to connect. You know? Nothing's wrong here. This is just information. This is just showing me something. I got curious because now I know. I'm like, okay, where where are certain things I can spot earlier? Like, where in this conversation was there a clue that he wasn't gonna send no Uber? Where was that a clue? There are patterns I can look for in this conversation. There are questions I can ask sooner. That's what needs to happen the next time. You know? Like what kind of men am I really looking for? Is it really, is it a man like that? Like, I need to be very, very clear on how that kind of man speaks. Am I looking for men who plan with my conveniences in mind? Absolutely. How do I determine that? Am I looking for men who who make things easy for me without having to ask? Ooh, let me add that to my profile. Ooh, let me add something to my match note. Ooh, let me let me add this. Let me add that. Ooh, let me have this. Let me weave this in my conversations when people ask me, you know, what I like to do for fun. Oh, for fun, I like to date men who make my life easier. I'm gonna talk about that a little bit later. But yes, you know how to spot it earlier. Now I know what to look for. Now I'm refining. Now I'm aligning. Nothing went wrong. I just learned something. And you can't figure this stuff out if you think something's wrong. You think something went wrong, you can't figure it out. Because if you're sitting there upset and frustrated and thinking something went wrong, you're not learning anything. That you can't hold to both energies. Okay? Can't do it. So you're st because you're just stuck in the emotion. You're stuck in the story. As long as you're stuck in the story, you cannot have the solution. As long as you're stuck in the story, you will you will not have the solution. So um it's like it's like being an entrepreneur. Like if I post an offer and no one buys, like as an entrepreneur, you you really you really just can't sit there thinking, like, oh my gosh, something's wrong. It's a problem. Things are bad. I'm not getting the result I want. No one wants what I have. Like, you can't do that. Those are the and if you do do that, those are the people who are not making money. Those are the people that are not making money. Okay. Because if you think that you can't solve for your sales problem, your marketing problem, right? I have to think if if I'm gonna put an offer out there and no one buys it, like, ooh, what could this possibly be telling me? What's not landing? What do I need to adjust? What messaging needs to shift? What's the pattern here? Then I can actually solve for it versus like blaming my audience for not buying, blaming social media algorithm. Oh, that's the algorithm, it's Instagram, like blaming that versus like, oh, how do I how do I solve this? The people who are solution mode are actually making money on Instagram. The people who aren't making money, they're more likely to focus on what's wrong versus finding the solution. Okay? I can I can always spot it when someone's able to make money as an entrepreneur. Now, so it's the same thing on the dating apps. When a conversation for me doesn't go anywhere, quote unquote, I'm not like, oh, something went wrong. I wasted my time. I'm like, nothing's going wrong. What did I notice? What worked? What didn't work? What do I want to try differently next time? When someone matches me, nothing's wrong. He like he did us both a favor. Now I have more space for someone who's actually aligned, right? I'm just learning, I'm just gathering information. There's a pattern I'm probably cleaning up. There's something here for me to know. And when you approach the apps with that mindset, you don't get burned out, you don't get frustrated, you don't feel like you're wasting your time because nothing's going wrong. You're just learning, you're just getting clearer, you're just getting better, and that's super powerful. So the second thing I tell myself is nothing's going wrong. Every conversation, every match, every unmatch, nothing's going wrong. There's just something here for me to learn. There's information, and that keeps me in curiosity instead of frustration. That keeps me in momentum instead of stuck. Now, the third mind shift is where it all comes together because once you stop making things a problem and you stop thinking something's going wrong, you unlock the ability to actually experiment and have fun on the apps. So the third mindset shift is let's try this. Let's try this. I'm always in experiment mode. I'm always trying something new, I'm always testing things, and this is what keeps the apps fun for me. This is what keeps me from getting burnt out because I'm not sitting there frustrated when things aren't working. I'm like, okay, what can I try? What can I test? What can I adjust? So, for example, if I'm not getting a lot of um, if the app seem kind of dry, and if I'm not seeing the kind of men that I want to see in my feed, I don't just sit there and get mad at the app and be like, oh, my app's dry. I'm like, oh, what can I try? Do I need to update my bio? Do I need to change a prompt? Do I need to swipe out a picture? Do I need to up the update my location? Do I need to adjust my filter? I don't get mad at dry spells. I get curious and I start testing. Like it, like a scientist, right? What what what what is the um what's the what's the thing the scientists use? Oh lord, we learned it in the fifth grade. If y'all figure it out, I can't remember the name off the top of my head. The scientific method. Scientific method, yes. Just change, you have the hypothesis and then you test the variable. Test the hypothesis, changing variables, okay, until you can prove the hypothesis or not. Another thing is men are always asking me the same questions. How's your Monday going? How you doing? How's it going? How's your day going? What are you up to? How's your weekend? Like, they're gonna ask me that 30,000 times a week. Um, and most women like you get tired of answering the same questions over and over again. You get frustrated, and so you're like, uh-oh, these men don't know how a conversation. They're all the same. They're so boring. I'm tired of answering the same questions over and over again. So stop. So stop. Right? So I don't the way I think is I just come up with a solution. I become a solutionist. I test things. I said, let's try this. Let's try this. So, like, um, I remember there was a day when like six guys in a row asked me how my day was going. And in the past, I've tried copying and pasting the same message. Oh, that worked for me today. Everybody asked me the same thing. I sent them the same thing. That was one way I tried things. Um, it it it it happened again. And I was like, ooh, what if I, what if I uh came up with several ways to not answer that question directly and to get them to do what I want them to do. I remember someone asking, like three people asking me the same questions back to back, and I was like, ooh, how do I use this as an opportunity to have the kind of date experience I want? Because they asked me, how was I doing? Right? So I'm always coming up with ideas to make my dating experience better versus like, oh, they're all asking the same question. Girl, you're stuck in the problem. You're stuck in the problem, you're not coming up with solutions, okay? Um, and so instead of getting annoyed, like I like to come up with different ways to make the question work in my favor, right? One guy might respond with a question back that works in my favor. Another guy, I might send something playful that will be in my favor. And sometimes I share these with my subscribers of how like Aeropodamen. You're definitely like, um, and I and I love doing, I love sharing this with my clients because I get to see. And um, so I'm testing, I'm experimenting. I'm like, ooh, let's let's try this, let's see what happens. And I don't get burned out because I'm always finding solutions. I'm always in let's try this mode. I'm always looking to make things different, how to make things better, how to make things work in my favor. And my results over the years have even dramatically improved because of this. All right. The types of men that I'm meeting, the quality of the conversations that I'm having, the success that I'm having on these apps. I'm thinking, let's try this instead of it's not working. Right? Like what happens, like when you're if you're pulling teeth in a conversation, most women just keep doing the same thing over and over again and get frustrated. I I keep pulling teeth, I keep pulling teeth, I keep pulling teeth. Well, what you're focusing on the problem. What if you experimented? What if you tried something else? What if you responded differently? What if you tried being a bitch? What if you tried being a valley girl? What if you try like what if you tried to just do something fun or silly or quirky or what you think is stupid? Why don't you try? Okay? What if you asked a different kind of question? What if you created a different standard? What if you shifted your energy differently? Like, but we don't be wanting to try experiments, especially as high achievement good girls. We everybody want to get it right. Everybody just Everybody just wants things to magically work in their favor. That's not how success works. All right. I'm telling you, most of the women that come to me wanting that man, their man, it's usually the 1% kind of man. But we be acting like 99% of women. That's not how this works. You want a 1% man acting like the 99%. The 1%, the woman acting like the 1% is going to get the 1% man. Okay? Because she's on his frequency. All right. The women who are successful in the apps, the women who are meeting quality men, who are getting pursued, who are having great experiences, they're the ones willing to be the 1%. They're the ones willing to experiment. They're the ones that are willing to think differently. They're the ones that's like, hey, let's see what's happening. Let me test. Right? They're flexible. They're curious. They're emotion. And that's what keeps me engaged. That's what keeps me energized. That's what keeps me from getting drained on the dating apps because I'm not making the app work against me. I'm making them work for me. So, like I said, the third thing that I tell myself is let's try this. Let me experiment, let me test, let me see what happens. And that mindset alone will help you keep from burning from the app. So those are the three mindset shifts that keep me from getting drained on the dating apps. That's not a problem. Number one, that's not a problem. I don't make other people's choices my problem. I only focus on what so I'm not looking on the dating apps, worried about a man's choice to have a fish or his shirt off at the gym or sitting in the car with a seat. I'm not making that my problem, right? Or a man asking for sex or comparing me to, you know, Cavis Samuels or whatever. I'm it's not a problem for me. Number two, nothing's going wrong. Every conversation, every match, every unmatch, every conversation that fizzles out, nothing's going wrong. There's just something for me to learn. There's this information that I'm gathering, there's a pattern that I'm noticing. And then three, let's try. Let's try this. I'm always experimenting. I'm always testing. I'm always finding solutions for things where most people would get frustrated. I never stick with the problem. I always look for a solution. And when you adopt these minds, three mindsets, you become the 1% of women. 99%. And that's why they won't have 1% of men. That's why they will always be out of reach of 1% of men. Because being uh dating 1% of men, it requires for you to do 1% of things, and most people are not doing them. And that's what I'm teaching you here. So now those of you who are here, y'all know that I'm teaching y'all how to be the 1% in my attract him online challenge that just launched this past Sunday. We had a kickoff call. We've already updated the we already opened the community. The ladies are pouring in, and you still have a chance to hop up in there. You still have a chance to hop in the replay, take your quality match readiness assessment. I love creating assessments for my students on the kickoff call. If you join today, you can immediately go watch the replay for the kickoff call. And you can take your quality match readiness assessment that will determine based upon your answers why your profile, like how ready is your profile to match with quality men. It's a very detailed assessment, and you will appreciate your results. It will open your eyes dramatically. So if you want to join the challenge, you can type swipe me in the comments. You can type swipe me. You can still join as$220. You just will watch the replay. Start and you can join us for our next live session on this upcoming Sunday, which I'm really excited about because I'm going to be showing, I'm going to actually take you through another quality man um mapping, your ideal man map, so that you can figure out who exactly your ideal man is, so you can actually talk to him on the dating apps. Because right now, y'all don't know who y'all talking to. Y'all just throwing words up there because they sound good, but not necessarily because you're talking to your man. You should be talking to your man all throughout the dating app. Okay. You can still join. It's$220. There's an option of a you can use a firm. There is after paying to join us. Phase one, Ideal man clarity map to get clear on who your man is. Phase two, dream girl profile build, a live workshop where we rewrite your whole profile using my three-part blueprint. I'm going to show you how to create desire and inspire action with quality men by just using your words no matter the platform. Phase three is creating your picture presence plan. You're going to create a plan so that your profiles match your new profile energy and inspire a man's masculine instinct without him over sexualizing you. All you need is a friend and a phone. No professional photographer needed. Okay. Phase four is match to meet momentum, activating your algorithm for lots of matches, even if it currently feels dead. We have a community that's already activated. Soon as you sign up, you can get the replay today and start your assessment. Join the Facebook group, get involved, take your take the assessments. I'm excited to have you. And um yeah, I love you guys. Thanks for coming to my to my live. And I hope you got a lot out of this today. Well, I know you did. I don't hope you got a lot out of this. Anywho, one of my men about to come. I gotta go fine. Alright, girl, you already know what to do. Implement. Start today. What's one new belief that you can implement this week? You don't have to start implementing all three. Think of one and practice coaching yourself on believing that every single day. Maybe for maybe for the next 30 days. You take on that one belief and you practice it daily until it becomes second nature. Because anything that we currently believe now is due to repetition. Okay? The only way to believe something new is through repetition. So, all right, girl, and um definitely join the challenge. We're still in there. Go ahead. Um there's still options for you know a firm and after pay to join us. So uh yeah. All right, girl. Bye.