Date with Cents
Date with Cents
How My BFF Started Attracting Rich, Generous Men After Spending One Week With Me
My bestie Dr. Jasmyne went from never asking men for help with her luggage to having a pilot chase her through the airport offering to buy her whatever she wants.
The shift happened in less than one week—and it started with something as simple as letting a man put her bag in the overhead bin.
In this episode, Dr. Jasmyne joins me to talk about what actually happened on our trip to Orlando and Nashville that had millionaires at our table, a prominent head coach adjusting his game schedule around us, and wealthy men treating us like we were the only women in the room. She's breaking down the exact moments that changed how she sees herself and what she now expects from men.
After listening, you'll understand why the tiniest shifts in how you move through the world can completely change the caliber of men who pursue you—and what's keeping you from experiencing this level of attention right now.
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What's up, love girls? Welcome back to the Date with Sense podcast. I'm so excited for this episode. I'm feeling uh really excited, lit up, very playful because we have a special guest, and it's not your typical episode. Today we're just gonna have a conversation with my bestie. My bestie, Jasmine, Jasmine, Dr. Jasmine, all the things, the queen, my biz co-working buddy, my like girl, my my laughing partner, my the person that I talk to about the guys, everything. Yeah, we're having a conversation today with her, and the reason why I chose to have this episode with her today is because I feel like it's important for you guys to actually get an inside look and to hear what we're gonna be talking about today. Because recently I went and I visited her after my launch for C2C. I was like, hey girl, once I get done with my launch, I'm coming down to Orlando and I'm gonna hang out with you, and then we're gonna go to Universal, and then we're going to hop the plane to Nashville and go to our business conference and just enjoy one another. And it was an absolutely amazing time. I just think she's incredible and funny and smart, brilliant. Girl is freaking brilliant. I always learn from her and I get really inspired from her for her, like as a woman, as a business owner. And I just appreciate being able to be in a friendship with someone who is similar to me with a business background as well as a personality. I feel like our personalities match really well. Anyway, I'm talking so long. Without further ado, Dr. Jasmine.
SPEAKER_01:Bestie, I'm so excited to be on your podcast. I'm so excited.
SPEAKER_04:And y'all, I love this girl. I'm sure y'all know y'all love her, but I really, really love her. She works so hard for y'all. Like when we on our co-working calls, y'all, y'all not just getting a little here's a little workshop. No. She really has y'all in mind. So she says she's inspired by me, but I'm inspired by her, and I am honored to be on this podcast. Because even before I we became besties and met you, I would listen to your podcast. I'm like, oh my gosh, I love her. She's so amazing.
SPEAKER_01:So thank you for having me here.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, girl. Yes, absolutely. I always thought it was cool. And you was like, oh, I listened to your podcast. I was like, oh. And then I started listening to yours. Even though I'm not a this is my this is the girl that I told you about in terms of um she helps teachers leave the classroom and move into educational tech positions. And she's amazing at it. And the reason why I started listening to her podcast and like reading, I sign up for her email list, I read her emails, is because brilliance is brilliance. And I just get inspired by listening to her from reading her stuff, even if it's not in my niche. And even I'm not a teacher. But here's the thing: I have teacher clients. And when them teacher clients be trying to give me delusional ass stories about why they can't date or why they can't swipe and how they tired and burnt out, I'll be like, uh-uh, because I know Dr. Jasmine. And Dr. Jasmine used to be a teacher who was in administration and everything, and like really understands like how to be a teacher without overwhelm and how to show up and get great results for students without burning yourself out. So I don't believe none of y'all delusions because of Dr. Jasmine. Anywho. Nope, nope. So, people, the reason why you're listening to this podcast today, um, there the trip that we were on together, me coming to Orlando, then us going to Nashville, there was a quantum leap, so to say, when it came to when it comes to like men. And what I loved about the trip is that you would mention to me at like every single experience of the level up that you were having in the moment, or the level up that you were setting, the standard you were setting for yourself when it comes to men, when it comes to the types of men that you were expecting. And for me, I was like, yo, like this is actually important stuff for us to talk about because a lot of women don't realize how being close to proximity of a new standard, of looking at the possibility of a new standard, and then having pattern recognition of a new standard, of a new experience can literally change our life in 48 hours, in seven days. So before we get into the rig and moral, like before we had this trip, like what was your experience with men like or what you were used to? And like what kind of attention were you used to receiving?
SPEAKER_04:Yes. And I'm gonna, I am big on making examples. So I'm gonna use my teacher to making more money because not only do I help teachers lead the classroom but make more money. So I think before I was just used to whatever was around and was thinking that I had to just make do with what I had. Like, all right, this is what, you know, the people who are here, you know, yeah, it'd be nice to date somebody rich, or, you know, hey, I'm dating this stuff. Like I just was kind of not really clear on what I wanted and then not even thinking that it was possible. Like I just didn't even think about it. Cause that that's the thing. I don't think I didn't think it was possible. I just didn't think about it. So I feel like I was just kind of attracting anything, everything. And is that the before? So I think the difference now is like I know what's out there. I know what I can have. And just like me leaving the classroom, I'm like, oh, I'm I'm I can make more money, oh, I'm gonna make more money. I'm not, and not even a way of like shade. It's like, oh, I'm simply going to make more money. I'm simply only going to date this type of man without any drama. There's no drama. I don't need to call out the brookies no more. I just simply will not hang around the brookies in the most loving way possible.
SPEAKER_03:What I love about this is the truth is a lot of women don't think about it. Because it's not like they don't have access to it. It's not like you you're not beautiful. It's not like they're not beautiful. Like, first of all, you're freaking gorgeous, right? I mean, anybody, I mean, look, y'all, she's flipping her hair. Like, bro. So it's it's not that you can't have it. Most of us aren't really thinking about it. Like we walk outside or we walk into any kind, like we walk into a building, and we're really not thinking about all the opportunities in front of us. And I think one of the places where we um, I think was a big moment for you or like a big shift is like when we were boarding the flight. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. We're at the airport? Yes, when you were, when you were, when we were boarding, right? When we were boarding with your bag. You want to talk about that?
SPEAKER_04:Oh yes. Oh yes.
SPEAKER_01:You want me to talk about that? Yes.
SPEAKER_04:Okay. So as I was boarding, so I fly solo a lot. So I am here with my little carry-on bag. And it's not even a thought of mine, okay, let me just put my little carry-on bag on the at the top. And not tourists. She's like, um, excuse me, sir, could you help her with her bag? And also, could you also help her take it down? And I was just like, I just, I just didn't even, I've never even thought about doing that. I just never thought about it. And, you know, what man's gonna sit there and say no? To like, hey, can you please? And this was a man with whoever wife girlfriend said, Hey, do you mind taking this down? And when we get off the plane, can you take it down? Did that simple thing? I was like, oh wow, I'm not ever doing this again. I'm not doing it again. I I I that small thing, I'm like, wow, I just did not even think to ask that. And now it's a new normal.
SPEAKER_03:Like, I'm not I'm why would I, with my nails, in my essence, exactly what I look like, putting my own bag up there. Why would you do such a thing? Why would you do never again? And that's the thing, again, about being around proximity. Because I haven't put my bag up in an airport, in an airplane, since 2016. And so it's like it's a super normal. I don't care if you're somebody's husband. I don't care if you're a pilot on the plane traveling with us. I'm going to, I don't care if you're a few seats down. There will be no reason why I need to put my bat up in the airport. And I feel, first of all, I feel like that's dangerous anyway, for a woman to be lifting over her head and putting something up and then trying to pull it down. And I see women all the time. And then I will see women, men will ask them, hey, you need my help. No, no, no, I got it. I'm like, girl, you were like four foot eleven.
SPEAKER_01:That used to be me. That used to be me.
SPEAKER_03:Why would you do that? That that looks so dangerous. And so what let's talk about like what did it feel to let that man handle your bag for you?
SPEAKER_04:Honestly, it was like, wow. Like it was like, this is so nice. Like, that was my first thought. This is so nice for this to a small little luxury of me not have like a simple thing of me something I don't have to do. I think that's I know it may sound so small, profound, but it's like, wow, this is one less thing that I have to do for my life. And I could sim all I and the the best part is all I have to do is just ask. Nothing changed other than me just simply asking, me making my target. Because the last guy I asked to help, it was he was with his wife. And I guess he also was kind of a little bit surprised that I asked him. Because as soon as he put the bag up, I was like, Yeah, and do you mind also taking it down? So I'm on your way back when you went to This is when I was, was that on my way back or the last? When I was born in New York.
SPEAKER_03:Okay. So after our trip when you was going to New York, he was he that man was with his wife as well.
SPEAKER_04:Yes. Mm-hmm. Because he had, I was coming on and he was already a few feet behind me, so but he was the only first guy that I saw. So I asked him. So he was with his wife and his kids, and I asked him, I was like, hey, do you mind taking putting my bag up, please? Then also when we land, do you mind taking it down, please? And he had made a little face, but I think it was just a face of like, I don't think he was, maybe no one's ever asked him. But also, like, he was suit, he looked super proud to take it down, too. Because I didn't have to remind him. He just said, Oh, here you go. That's that thing.
SPEAKER_03:They be proud. I don't care who the man is. He feels like a super. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I got it. I got it. And I and I've I've told clients before, I'm like, you need to stop putting your own bag in the air. They're like, what if he's married? So what? Like, I'm expecting every man to take care of me when I'm out in the world. I'm expecting every man to be chivalrous. I don't think I deserve to be taken care of just in like just by a single man. Like, because if I have a man, like if the men that I'm dating aren't taking care of my friends, aren't making sure they're not chivalrous to my friends or like paying for things. Like, I wouldn't be dating him. Like, he needs to be looking at other women and feel and feeling like I want to make her life easier. Oh, let me, your friend flying down, let me call her an Uber. Stuff like that, like him taking care. So I love the fact that not only did you anchor into the moment of that tiny luxury, but you carried it on to the rest of your trips because you had a few trips after that.
SPEAKER_04:Like you didn't have to remind me either. And I and I got some more in my bag every time now.
SPEAKER_03:Because I literally was gonna text you. I was gonna text you. I was like, no, she grown, she don't need a reminder. She got this, and then you texted me and you let me know that you handle it. I was like, see, that's my girl. I don't have to tell her, I don't have to rescue her off the trying. I don't have to do that.
SPEAKER_04:I implement fast. Whenever, listen, when Taurus says give me some advice, I implement immediately. I don't, I don't have time to waste. No time to waste. And I feel like even that simple ask, I'm like, yeah, I should nor again normalize asking men for things. Like, I don't want to have any thoughts of, oh, I don't want to. No. I feel like I'm blocking a blessing. Like, if I don't ask, if I don't get in the habit of asking, then I already, we already know how things go down. Because I am also a divorced woman from a you know person who was not providing. But I want, I want to normalize for myself and making it normal to just ask for things that I want. Yes.
SPEAKER_03:And I'd be wanting us to ask for things from men at least once a week. If we don't ask like for a lot, at least once a week, we need to be asking men for things. They need to be serving and supporting us. And I think, well, and the guy that was uh that we asked that he was married. I I remember him having the baby in his lap when the plane was landing and he looked over his wife. He was like, Hey, I gotta get their bags. He was like, Hey, I gotta get their he gave her the baby and then he got up and I'm like, Yes, that's how it should be. So she heard him too.
SPEAKER_04:When you asked, she was like, What did she say? What did um she say? Oh yeah, yes, I don't think you heard it because I got I have ears. I have my teacher ears, I hear everything. But when you had asked, um, because you had talked to him, like it was low because you weren't yelling, and then she's like, Oh, what did um what did she say? And he was like, Oh, she she told me she asked if we could help her with the bags. And she's like, Oh, okay, great, yeah. That's what she did. Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, I didn't I missed that.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, she's like, Oh, what'd they what did she say? Yeah, oh yeah, it's funny, yeah.
SPEAKER_03:So thank you for being an ally. Thank you for being an ally for for single women on the plane. Appreciate that.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, yeah. Because you took both of our bags down.
SPEAKER_03:I mean you took both both of them. And I saw other people looking, like, yeah, go get y'all bags second down too. Anywho, after we landed, after we landed, my girl, I feel like we gotta go back to Orlando a little bit to kind of link these two stories. We have to. Okay, we gotta go, we gotta, before we get to the landing, because those are those are important linkings. We gotta run a little. We were winding it back time. We gotta, we gotta go back to Orlando. Okay. Reverse, reverse. So you made a statement. I don't know if you made it during the podcast or like made it before we got on the podcast. It was before we press record. We went to a restaurant in a wealthy neighborhood in Orlando, a place that you had been previously. Yep. Several times. Several times. And one of the things that you had said, like we met some really wealthy men there. Um, one of them was my favorite. Hey, Miles. I know you don't. Hi, my. I literally, if he lived here, oh my God, like I would seriously, Miles. Anywho, but like we we were surrounded by wealthy men who just wanted to be at our table, wanted to talk to us, wanted to buy us things, wanted to show off because Ted. Ted was trying to show off in your face, girl.
SPEAKER_04:Ted's the one who came up to me first. He's like, hey, I'm nice to meet you. Have a six pack.
SPEAKER_03:Girl, we he pulled up his shirt. I was like, Ted, sit your ass down. Right? You're rich and don't know how to act. That's why we, that's why we was gravitating towards the other ones, because Ted ain't know how to act.
SPEAKER_04:Yes.
SPEAKER_03:But just the fact of like having men, because they also bought us things to bring to the table. Like they were, and then they were asking, like, hey, what can we get for you? How can we, how can we do this? And so you mentioned earlier, you said you had never had the experience in the wealthy part of Orlando of being surrounded by wealthy men. Tell, tell us more about that.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah. So I'll give I'll give a disclaimer, but also, so me going, number one, I went, I was married before with somebody. So was married to a brokey y'all. I'm so sorry. So sorry.
SPEAKER_03:Don't you apologize and for being married to him? That's crazy.
SPEAKER_04:Other millionaires who could have approached me. I'm sorry. That's who I'm sorry to.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, okay, okay, okay. That makes sense.
SPEAKER_04:But that was one, but just like, I just never was like in a space, well, one alone or with friends to just be able to be available for that. So aside, take the brookie out of it. I just was not in a space to be available to have someone even have the opportunity to approach, right? Because some people don't go. I'm I'd be in the house all the time, too. But that was the first time where, cause that we they were definitely millionaires. They smell like millionaires, act like millionaires, that someone just approached me and just started talking. Like, hey, how are you? My name's Ted. Blah blah. What are you drinking? What are y'all drinking? I remember even we ordered drinks, and then you were like, hey, that's not what I asked for.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, don't give me that. Give me some, give me what I asked for. Giving me some Chardonnay when I asked for Merlot and a cat.
SPEAKER_04:Yes. So we were able to even revise, like, hey, that's not what we asked for. Like, thank you for buying the drink, but that's not what we asked for, baby. Take it back. Yeah, take it back. That's all we asked for. But I just have never been approached by that caliber of men. But I thought that was also my first time even thinking the possibility of believing that it could happen. Because we were wanting to go to nice restaurants. We weren't just trying to go get a little burger, even though we love a little burger. We wanted to have a burger in a nice place.
SPEAKER_03:Everywhere nice.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah. So I think that was the main thing. Just making myself available and open in a place where that man even would be lingering at an opportunity for that to happen. Because if I am just in my house ordering takeout or just doing what I wanted to do, that opportunity still wouldn't happen. So just being in a space and being open and looking cute and being present in the world. Because I believe I was just sitting there. I think y'all were taking pictures. I don't know what it was, but then he started came up and started talking. And I was just sitting there. So like, now I'm like, of course, millionaire should come up to me in the most loving way possible. Of course.
SPEAKER_03:I'm glad you mentioned that because I'm I try not to coach my friends to create like codependency stuff, like coaching for no reason. But I I kind of be in coach mode sometimes. And so I I I remember me pinpointing, like, hey, we're just anchoring in the space. We're just here anchoring in the space. We're here to anchor in the luxury. We're not here to get anything. We're just here to anchor and to receive. Anchor and receive this level of wealth, anchor and receive. If we see somebody who's wealthy, it's all evidence. I think I mentioned that to you. Like, uh, do you remember what I said to you about the evidence?
SPEAKER_04:Mm-mm-mm, remind me.
SPEAKER_03:I know you're like so like it don't like it don't matter if a wealthy man is married, evidence. It doesn't matter if it doesn't matter if the wealthy man is not attractive, evidence. Like it doesn't, it doesn't matter if we see the wealthy man and they don't even speak, it's evidence. Like I always will categorize it as of us anchoring in the space of things. Okay. Of like it's evidence. And so when they came over, I was just like, evidence.
SPEAKER_04:I love it. So, because I'm my thought goes to some women can think, oh, they were nice. Oh, but they were married. No. Why are we trying to invalidate that? A ri a millionaire man approaches, and now and now it's just a thing. Millionaires approach me. Like, that's it. That's what happens. I don't care nothing, nothing else. Evidence. I don't care about nothing else. We don't implement evidence.
SPEAKER_03:See? Look at you. That's why you my girl. Implementing very quickly. So these men were taking care of us throughout the night. And I remember like Miles, I really liked Miles. Um, it was a funny story because Miles actually worked for, I guess he was the richest guy in the room. So he worked, but he was the most asshole ish. And Miles worked for him. And it was so funny because Miles had sued him 20 years before. Yeah, he sued Ted. And like we were, I was just asking a question, like, hey, why did you sue Ted? I said, You I heard you sued Ted. He said, Yeah, I did now. Do it again. I'm like, but you work for him now. He was like, Yeah, I'll sue his ass. He's an ass. This man is like, how old was Miles?
SPEAKER_04:Like 55, 60? Miles was definitely in his 50s, 60s. Still looking good for his age, but definitely 50s, 60s.
SPEAKER_03:Such a cute guy. Like, I seriously would have, I seriously would date me a Miles.
SPEAKER_04:He was like, What can I? Because I think the drinks were already taken care of. He's like, What else can I take care of you?
SPEAKER_03:Like, yeah, because we were complimenting, because I grabbed him from the bar. I was like, hi, Miles. I was like, I just want to talk to you. You know, I heard that like you are around here suing people and everything. And I just wanted to come because I haven't introduced myself to you yet. And I pulled him over to us, and I was complimenting. I was like, You look so handsome and I like your smile. And he was, and then you started complimenting him too. And then um, Nina, because Nina was there, my girl Nina. And any of y'all remember Nina, the um C2C fairy godmother that used to handle the C2C uh page. She actually lives in Orlando. We had dinner with her. Um, but she she started complimenting. He was like, oh my gosh, girls, you guys are so nice and wonderful. What can I buy you? What can I take care of? What did I do to deserve this? He didn't know how to act. But again, evidence. Millionaire men, wealthy men want to take care of us, right? Wealthy men want to like, they really just want to serve and support us, right? And Miles don't even have to work. He just decided, he just doing this just for the hell of it. You know what I mean? Just working with Tara for the hell of it.
SPEAKER_04:Right. Because we were out, I think, the Wednesday night or Tuesday night. Yeah. Yes. That was a Tuesday night, and they were out with friends just having drinks with their with their buddies.
SPEAKER_03:Yes. And um not to mention the other guy who was like stuck on Nina. He was like all in her face.
SPEAKER_04:Like Married too, because he he said he was married, and then he felt Nina.
SPEAKER_03:Right. One of her so bad. I'm like, sir, come on now. Um, but again, anchoring into the space, not having like different qualifiers. It's like, this is the space that we're used to being. Um, we're used to wealthy men taking care of us, we're used to millionaire taking care of care of us, and that's what we're gonna the frequency. And now talk about how that level of frequency led to what you did when we were getting off the plane.
SPEAKER_04:Mm-hmm. Okay, okay. So these are things that I was, I just wasn't aware that I was doing, but I more so I feel like I just made things more intentional. So as I get off the plane, I usually always smile and say thank you to the crew and the pilots and everyone. But, you know, this time that You had some stank on it. You added some stank on it this time. I say thank you so much for flying us. And I left out by a nice little, a genuine smile. I didn't just say thank you. I said thank you so much for flying us. And then get off the plane.
SPEAKER_03:Girl, that man. First of all, I have never seen a pilot walk after, like get off the plane and walk. Like I've never seen that before. So we walking out the plane, the pilot gets off the plane, grabs her wrists, y'all. Literally grab the pilot. I'm gonna say this again.
SPEAKER_00:The pilot leaves the cockpit.
SPEAKER_03:Leaves the cockpit to fall to get off the plane and grab her wrist. Like in a in a and when I say grab, it wasn't in an aggressive way, it was kind of like where he took his fingers and rubbed it across her wrist as in like, hey. Yep, because he was like, hey, I'm around, like, hey, and he was like, hey. And this man was so smitten, like he started walking backwards while she was walking forwards in the airport. He was walking back. I don't know if I don't know if y'all ever been to the gym and you seen Mofos on the treadmill walking backwards. That's how he looked, y'all. And he had his assistant pilot there who was ready to go because he was like, look, we gotta eat lunch because we gotta be back in the air in less than two hours. We gotta go back to Florida because we was flying to Nashville. Um, so anywho, anybody who's having trouble understanding the story, I went to Orlando. I spent time with Jasmine for the week in Orlando. We, you know, did some excursion activities in at Universal Studios. We worked a lot, we created things for our clients, but then we also had a business event we had to get to in Nashville. So we flew from Orlando to Nashville. So if you're confused, that is how things happen. So he's in the airport walking backwards, and then he full stop on Jasmine. He's like, Look, whatever you want, I'm gonna buy it for you. Listen, whatever you need, whatever you want out of here, I'm gonna get it. I said, Lord Hammer. I said, you know what, let me stop. Because if she's gonna get it, we're gonna let her get it. I started talking to the the assistant pilot. That man was hungry. That man was sitting, he was trying to be patient while the your pilot was trying to get at you. Girl, how did it feel?
SPEAKER_04:Honestly, like for one, again, I'm like one, I did not question it. I didn't say why is this happening to me. I said, Oh like anchoring in. I think when you told me when we're at the restaurant, oh I'm just we're just in this energy. I was like, oh, we in this energy, of course. But it was just like like because he was like, Hey, you, I was like, Hey, how are you? So it was just, I think because we had that encounter of me just saying, This is my frequency, I just went along with it. I didn't question it, I didn't start to get shy. I just started flirting with this man. I said, Hey, how are you?
SPEAKER_03:Girl, it looked like I don't know if you remember that Mario video, but you said he just the friend when he was dancing in front of that girl. That's what it reminded me of, oh baby, you got what I because because the girl was like blushing in that video. She was like, Oh, he's singing for me. That's how you was acting when the pilot was like walking around you. You was I said, this girl, do not she don't waste no time.
SPEAKER_04:It took me, because it took me, I didn't realize he was flirting until I realized he was flirting. And I was like, oh, okay, you flirt. Oh, hey. I think it was John. His name was John without an H. Without an H. Yeah, he said John without the H. John without an H. I forgot his joke with it, but he had a lot of jokes. But I was like, oh yeah, John, how are you? I was just already talking to him in less than five, and because I remember I told you he said a lot of things in less than five minutes. Tons. In less than five minutes, he let me know how beautiful I was. He let me know, yeah, I've I've heard about these men who go 50-50. What's that about? And I was like, I don't know, John. I don't know anything about that. Because, you know, people I date, they use they they are providers like you. And he's like, Yeah. And then I think it's when we were walking trying to find a jacket for you. And I was like, oh, somebody's shopping. I'm gonna go. And he's like, I'll buy you whatever you want in here. Like he was letting me know what he was about. Like he was letting me know right up front that he wasn't playing no games. Like, what you want? Your world.
SPEAKER_03:Well, listen, listen, pay attention, y'all. She told that man all she dated is providers. She didn't go back to like thinking about her being married to a dusty or or what'd you call him, a brokey. She didn't she didn't think about that. Like, and that's what I need y'all to do. When men approach y'all, y'all can't, I don't care if all the men you dated was broke. You never don't you tell these these men not. Don't you tell these men with money that it needs to be your baseline that you only date providers? And this is not about lying, this is about the frequency. Because the frequency that you're on, yeah, you only date providers. Yeah. That's the frequency that you're on. And so I love that she said that to you. He don't need to know what her standard was then because her standard is now is only providers.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, and then I was speaking the truth. Like I only date wealthy men.
SPEAKER_03:Exactly.
SPEAKER_04:Men who I date, they always take care of me. Like, I don't have to hold the story of what was, because now I'm in different frequency. Like that man, John with no H, telling me, like, unprovoked, I said nothing about anything. He's the one. Cause I think we were starting talking about going out. Because I was like, yeah, I like to go out, I like to go to the theaters, I like to go to movies, different things. And then that's when he brought in, like, yeah, I heard, you know, people's, and I think he had a daughter. So this is a grown man, but come on.
SPEAKER_03:Y'all said, y'all said a lot in a little bit of time.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, you probably said a lot. But he literally, but without me saying anything, oh, that 50-50 thing. Like I said nothing. So now, moving forward, like anybody who even thinks of the idea, like there is no man that I talk to that does that. Like, I'm not even mad. Like, I think before when I was on the on the triangle, I'm like, oh, this man don't have no money. Why are you trying to? Now it's like, no, I just don't off that triangle, and I just don't talk to people like that. Like it's of course. Like I tell myself, of course. Of course he's gonna say something like that. That's the type of man I provide. But it was that moment where I really was like, oh wow, I'm I'm really in this frequency. Because for me, I am always anchoring in on what I want. I'm very big on words. I don't like any little word, I am intentional. I'm not gonna say, oh, I really wanna date a rich man. I date rich men, period. And I keep saying it. It's not a fake thing, but that was the biggest thing. I'm like, oh, the universe needed me to hear that. Like, I don't know. The universe worked just let me know in less than five minutes of how this man will pay for everything that I want. Everything that I want. And I was still, I was cute. I don't even know what I was wearing. It was airport, but I wasn't even clothes. I wasn't even all the way on. And this man was still like, what you want? Anything in here? He he didn't care nothing about his assistant pilot who was hungry. Or his lunch.
SPEAKER_03:He ain't care about the lunch needs.
SPEAKER_04:He doesn't get hungry no more. He just wanted what I was serving.
SPEAKER_03:I absolutely love that interaction because I'm like, okay, anchoring, anchor in the space. This is not about being attached to a guy. This is not about, oh, he don't live where I live, or, you know, we're not gonna see each other again. We may not. This is all about the anchoring. Okay. And that's what we always focus on. And how did that show up when we got to Nashville about the anchoring and not making it mean anything?
SPEAKER_04:It's just like once you once we tapped into it, it was just that that was just the bare minimum. And mind you, we weren't even, at this point in Nashville, we weren't going out of our way. We were just living our life, eating our breakfast, working, et cetera. And then another high earning man came up to us. Hey, how are you? Yeah, I'm um here for the game. Not as a player, not as the assistant, the head coach. The head coach. And I looked up his salary, girl. And he wanted us, he's like, hey, y'all want to get some drinks. Oh, we're going. We didn't change our plans. Let's talk about that.
SPEAKER_03:First of all, well, hold on. He offered us a ticket to the game. He was like, Hey, do you want to come to the game? Now we he would have came to the game, and then he he we said we can't go to the game. Uh-huh. Because we have plans.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, we already have plans.
SPEAKER_03:And then he offered us after the game to take us out. And then we were like, we'll let you know.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, because we might be hanging out with our friends after.
SPEAKER_03:Exactly. And so about the anchoring around that, you want to talk a little bit more about like why we chose to do what we did or like what I the anchoring that I was talking about there?
SPEAKER_04:Yeah. So maybe make sure I'm hitting on it. But for us, it's like we have, like, number one, the first like he's coming up to us. Like that's just our frequency. And then two, like, we had events scheduled. We're not about, okay, let me just change, oh, this guy's talking as a head coach. Let me just re- No, it's like, hey, how are you out? We have our plans. We do have events. Um, basically not wanting us to change our course of schedule. And then for him, he started accommodating us. He said, okay, so well, what about tomorrow? So he was adjusting to us. Like we were standing firm in our essence, in our just receiving mode, and he was making the alterations for us versus us trying to, no, girl, let's let's change our schedule. Let's let's do no. Like this is this is this is who we are, and he's adjusting to us of what we want. And I think he even like was like, oh, it'll have to be this hotel, wherever. Like he was making the adjustments. Like it was just that. I felt for me, it was like this is what happens when you're clear on what you want, and we're not just trying to be what he wants. We're being who we are and being showing up in that space of like, yeah, this is this is what happens when we anchor in. And of course, people want to buy us things. And most loving, humble, is also humble.
SPEAKER_03:And you know what's so funny about that is we ain't really had no plans. We didn't have no plans. I just was like, look, I assume we're gonna make some plans. So we're not even. Do you remember what I told you when I said we're not gonna text him? Because he gave us our his number. Do you remember what I told you? No. I was like, we don't need his number. We already have the we already have the frequency.
SPEAKER_04:We already anchored in. We don't need to text him. It doesn't need to turn into, oh, well, the the story alone is the win.
SPEAKER_03:That's the evidence. That's the win. That's the evidence. Like, we need to text him. We're gonna go out, we're gonna enjoy ourselves. The win, I I'm celebrating the fact that higher earning men have just been approaching us in Nashville with unprovoked, just coming around corners. We weren't doing anything. I think we were just about to wait for our Uber. We were just there. That's all they were doing, right? I remember one of the guys gave me one of his numbers, leaving the place. And again, I took the number. Remember the guy?
SPEAKER_01:We were sitting down. Yes. Yes. I took it.
SPEAKER_03:He was there to do some type of counts. Girl forgot what he was there to do. He was there for some mission.
SPEAKER_04:He was some pastor on a board. He was a board member, a board speaker on a panel.
SPEAKER_03:For something. And I was like, I'm not texting him. You know, we're not texting anybody. Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_04:The evidence is just what it happened. Like, that's it.
SPEAKER_03:The evidence is just what is because we're just anchoring into things, anchoring into the energy and allowing ourselves to just speak to the abundance. Like, if we can do it this time, we can do it tomorrow. And we can do it the day after that. And we can do it the day after that. Like, we don't need to be thirsty to text um a man because he fits. Because what they sit what that man was like 6'3, right? He was very attractive. He was cute. He was very cute. I could tell he is used to charming because he was very charming. But again, anchoring in, we can do this, we can do it again. Right. Like, there's no need to even like move towards.
SPEAKER_04:There's no coma. Like, we already received it. Yeah, we've already received it. Um. Do we miss anything else about that interaction?
SPEAKER_03:No, I just think not even when it wasn't high-earning men, it was like, because typically people assume when you want to date a certain caliber of men, like you don't respect men in general. And you want to talk about like how we interacted with all the men there, included like the valet people, janitors, like you want to talk about that?
SPEAKER_04:Uber drivers. Every I feel like we are, I think it's a piece of like being present. I think I touched on it before, like being present in that space, like wherever we are. Hi, how are you? How's your day? You're not cold out here. If this was also a Halloween weekend, you're not in your costume. Like, we know they value a driver, but we still ask about their costume. Like, I feel like us being present, and I feel like I feel like it's hard for me to answer that because I do this naturally. So you're gonna have to help me explain how other people aren't. But me and you, I feel like that's where we why we click self-ass is we do this naturally. Like we're just talking and then just soaking it in. I don't have a compare, I'm it's hard for me to compare it because I do this naturally.
SPEAKER_03:I get it. I think like most people, number one, are not present. They're in their heads, thinking about what they have to do, what they should have done. They're either in the past or the future. So what's in front of them is usually invisible, right? So they're not even like taking in account of their surroundings or who is in their proximity. I always know who in my proximity. I always know who's in the corner of my eye. Even if you think you approached me out of the blue, I knew you was on your way. Okay? I saw you. That's number one. Number two is most um, oh, I lost my thought just that fast. I was talking to everybody. Oh, we like we don't value humans. Typically, women objectify men and we only speak to them or we only give them space if we number one are attracted to him, or two, think there's a possibility for a relationship or a connection. And if we can't see the two, we don't entertain it. So we don't see these men as God's creatures that light up at the presence of women. And as a woman, I see myself as a gift and a contribution to society. And this is why I have no that this is why I believe in men investing financially. This is why I'm like, no, you didn't invest financially because I I truly believe I'm a gift.
SPEAKER_04:Right.
SPEAKER_03:And uh the gift to the the valet people, the gift to the janitor, the gift to every single people making a comment. Exactly. We made conversation with all those people. We made everybody feel like a superstar.
SPEAKER_00:Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_04:Mm-hmm. Even if they weren't present. Because remember, we had some people who were, you know, not so nice.
SPEAKER_03:Girl, and I kept trying until I got a little smirk out of them last day. I was like, look now, I know you probably don't like your job, but I'm gonna make you smile before I leave Nashville. And they did, I was like, oh, you're so, you're so beautiful, or like, oh, your skin is so good. It was not budging.
SPEAKER_04:Oh, no, but we still, listen, they still, you're gonna get a little smile out of us. But I think it's I think that's a big thing. Think present. Because even again, for the uh the pilot, I didn't expect him, I did not, I did not expect to see that pilot ever again in my entire life.
SPEAKER_03:He got out the plane, he left the cockpit.
SPEAKER_04:Listen, all I said was thank you so much for flying ass. And I I meant it. Thank you so much. I say this every, I don't say it every time, but I don't know, because again, the anchored energy, everybody's about to give this hello and hi. Thank you so much for flying the plane. And and here he is in the airport, like just me genuinely just wanting to interact with humans. I feel like for the for the girls who are not used to talking to other people like without getting something in return, this is good practice. And it's it doesn't hurt you to just say hello to everyone who comes your way.
SPEAKER_03:It's also good rejection therapy because women are so concerned about their, you know, the man that they really like rejecting them. But if you talk to everybody, it's not a problem talking to your man. If you talk to I have a gym, I have a gym crush. But he won't, he'll know it because I talk to everybody like I taught to him. I talk to everybody like that. And then when they be in groups of men, I'd be talking to all of them like that. I'll be like, hey to everybody, everybody get some time with me. But that's my crush.
SPEAKER_04:I love it. You got a gym crush.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I do. Huh?
SPEAKER_04:Can you tell me about your gym crush? I didn't. No.
SPEAKER_03:Oh my gosh. I probably girl, I'm gonna have to fill you in. Okay. But again, it's anchoring in because I would never, I would never. It's just anchoring into to fineness, to attractiveness, to it's it's practice.
SPEAKER_04:Like you said, like even if you don't want someone that's like, okay, I do find this between him attractive. Like, let me just get some practice talking, especially if you don't have practice talking to men who are not, you know, you're wanting things from. Just normalize talking. I I actually talk about this with my um educator clients. So like they obviously want big money jobs. They don't want little ones. They're like, oh, I didn't get this job. Okay, use this as data. Why did you not get this job? And let's continue refining our approach until we get the one that says yes. We were supposed to say no because that the guy said no. No. Okay, hmm. Let me think about. Hmm. How how am I how is it kind of right where they kind of stop talking to me? Was I smiling? Was I hmm? And then was I just trying to get something out of it, or was I just genuinely there to have a conversation? That's key. Like what we want, like us attracting a wealthy man and and wanting, obviously we want the monies, but we're not going at it transactionally. Like no one, even our business, we don't obviously we like money like making money, but we're not doing it just to make money. We are bringing value in every woman, women, period, bring men value. So that's why you need to enter wallet, entertainer.
SPEAKER_03:You should invest because you're getting so much value for being a woman. And I like if women go into this not trying to get, but literally just to connect, you won't ever have to worry about uh attracting men who want to spend or who want to provide that kind of value. Like, um, but it just or like even if you don't want a wealthy man, because there's women out here like, I don't want to do all that, that's fine. Women who want the 70k men, all you gotta do is just go in without trying to get stuff, and you can find you one of those as well. Like it's not a big deal.
SPEAKER_04:So you still gotta practice talking to anybody. Still gotta practice. Because even the ballet men that was like smiling, nice, hi, how are you? Um, they're like, oh, when you come back down, I think when I had left, I think you had already, yeah, you were already left that day. Because I had gone to the museum. It was so much fun. And even then I had people coming up and asking me questions. Oh, for the ballet, they're like, oh, are you coming back down? Oh, let me know and I'll I'll put the bags in the car for you. I open the door, open the door, all these things, just because I said hello, how are you? And again, I wasn't expecting anything of them. I just wanted to say hi.
SPEAKER_03:And that's the anchoring. Because I don't care. I'm like, oh, I celebrate. Men love taking care of me. They love it. They love taking care of me. Or, ooh, when we was at the bar and we sat by that filthy rich man. Oh. He's the and guess what? He didn't buy us anything. But guess what? A win is a win. Because all I did was like, well, first of all, I was like, I'm gonna stop talking to him. Because he ain't and the reason being was because he talked about how he bought the some girls that was like texting him. He act like he didn't want to talk to them. They were blowing his phone up. Some young girls. He talked about how he bought them something yesterday. He didn't offer to buy us anything. Again, it's not entitlement, but it's simply like you're over here getting the dopamine hit of my amazing conversation. And at the same time, you don't see it valuable enough to be like, oh, like these beautiful girls over here talking for their company. Um, but the winners of win. I was like, oh, we just attract wealthy men. Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:Because I was like another millionaire. Because and I want to remind to know also, there are rich brokies, number one.
SPEAKER_03:There are rich brokies. I had one.
SPEAKER_04:I was married to one. Are you spending it? I think there's a song with um Ken the Man basically saying, like, if you got Well, hold on.
SPEAKER_03:My mine was spin, he just spent it all every month. He spent it all every month. I'm like, where's the savings? There's no way all this money came in this month. And there's nothing saved. There's no way this bill got turned off. There's no reason why the lights got turned off. How are you gonna bring in six figures in a month and the lights turned off? Can you let me on can you help me understand that? Rich broke. Riddle me that, please.
SPEAKER_04:Riddle me that. If one plus one is two.
SPEAKER_03:That's another version of a rich brokey.
SPEAKER_04:Rich brokies, but again, that was a millionaire, more than millionaire. Yeah. He's like, what are you at? I don't like going to a hotel, so I just bought I just bought a condo. Right. I'm going to Miami. Condos are super cheap. There's only, they're only what, 950? And you can fit your yacht in it and everything.
SPEAKER_03:He's like, oh, I'm so mad. My plane's broken. Oh. He was acting so upset. He was like, my plane is broken. I was like, this dude is cracking me up. Rich people will be killing me.
SPEAKER_01:Like commercial, first class instead of my jet.
SPEAKER_03:He was so mad he had to drive like regular people. He was my plane broke. He was showing me, he was showing us pictures of the plane, his home, massive homes. He showed us his bed and the condo.
SPEAKER_04:Everything. But again, that was an experience that he should have tried. He gave us money for. Because who else is sitting there listening to all these stories?
SPEAKER_03:Exactly. He's getting a benefit of it. And I'm like, oh no, you're not going to get emotional labor from me because you done pissed your wife off. No, and I'm not lying. He literally told us his wife. Everything. We know everything. We know everything about his life. He was he was telling us everything. And I'm like, so you're trying to use us for emotional labor. And you did not offer a drink, a meal, anything. I was like, okay, it's time to turn off the conversation faucet because you are not looking to invest for this conversation of you're looking for emotional labor and I'm not going to give you anymore.
SPEAKER_04:Right. And it didn't even have to be like when you turn it off. Because one, I didn't know what was happening because I was You didn't know what was happening. When you were like, stop talking. I I didn't even realize what he was doing. Oh I started talking. But what I was going to say is like, even way we're like, hey, we're not talking to him no more, it wasn't like, all right, well, bye. It was just like, okay.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah. Like we didn't get up from him. We're just like, we're no longer going to turn our bodies towards you and insert our opinions or ask questions. Now, if you say something to us, we're going to be polite, but we're not going to fully engage into this conversation because you haven't fully you haven't invested. So we did it gracefully.
SPEAKER_04:I think some people might think, oh, well, he's not my anthem.
SPEAKER_03:He shook our hands when it was time to go and wished us well. But again, I understood. I was like, girl, um, I don't think we're his type.
SPEAKER_04:But that's okay. We still have a millionaire, millionaire energy.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, that's all I anchored into. I'm like, well, I was like, um, I remember when it's time for me to Venmo you the hotel that when we stayed together. And I was like, this is a down payment for the cheap condos in Miami. Make sure it has enough room for the yacht.
unknown:Whoop.
SPEAKER_01:I was dying laughing.
SPEAKER_04:I was dying laughing. I said, damn, I'm gonna get both. We both gonna have spots for both of our boats. We'll have condos right next to each other.
SPEAKER_03:Yes, girl. And and the anchoring, the proximity, being in proximity to the new standards, looking at the possibility, like the possibility of the well, the possibility of tiny moments of luxury from men who are even like coupled, right? And the pattern recognition of if I do this, then that happens. If I show up this way, that happens. That literally builds up into so much evidence that you cannot go back. You literally have a changed life because of it. So, how would you feel like your life has changed because of all of that? That like literally the trajectory of your life is going to be a lot better and different.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, I would say normalizing, normalizing wealth. And even one thought I had is the the conversation he was having, someone could have easily said, oh my gosh, 950? That is you think that's cheap? Oh my gosh, you have a boat. Oh my god, like we're just like, yeah. I was like, oh wow, that's a steal. I said, that's a steal.
SPEAKER_03:I was done. I said, I know you did not tell this man that was a steal. I said, why is she playing in this man's face?
SPEAKER_04:Who is it? But I think the thing is like just normalizing it. So like to answer your question, I just normalize that this is what I receive. Like, I want to normalize it because I feel like it's easy, especially if you have not had a millionaire approach you, if you've not had these conversations, like normalize that you can do it. Like I tell my teachers, you can make$100,000. That's why I say it. I say it like that. You can make$100,000. You can have millionaire men, wealthy men approach you. You can be in a state of receiving, and it can be normal. I think that's for me, that's the biggest thing. Like it's normal. Like I don't have to, I didn't have to do anything different. All I did was smile, and that pilot was on me. I'm just being myself. So that's the biggest takeaway is normalizing it. Because I think sometimes people think it's it's like 10 steps to get what we need to do. But no, all we did was anchor in, receive, and believe that this is my normal. And I it's like I'm not accepting anything less moving forward. Like this is the only thing that I do. And I tell my brain that it's normal too. So another millionaire comes around, I'm not gonna be like, oh my gosh, he's a millionaire. What do I do? What do I say? I'm gonna talk to him just like I talked to John with no H, Ted, who got sued or sued Miles. This is who I talk to. This is who I have anchored in. Yeah. Like this is possible, and it only gets better. Like we're just getting started. Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Speaking of the anchoring, this was actually the first time we've been around each other around men. Like the first time we were in person, it was a women's conference. So we were just like kicking it. So, what was it like being around me and like how I move when it comes to like us being in proximity to men?
SPEAKER_04:Yes. So again, remember at the restaurant, because again, they came up, but then you were like, oh no, I want to go back and just get in the present. So I was like, mmm. So again, it don't take me long. I was like, okay. So I just need to be just be in this. Like, I could, we could have easily said thank you for the drink and just turned around and just kept talking. But you were like, oh no, let me just get in this energy, let me just get in this essence. Like, we don't care. You didn't care. I still want to be around this, this energy. And I was like, okay, so let me get around this energy. Like, it's I'm like, oh, simply that. So I think seeing you, and then I think because I know your personality, like maybe people thinking you're doing some other facade, all you do, all you're doing is being yourself. Like you're being your complete self. You didn't have to put on. You were just genuinely interested in talking to him, interested in just being, again, yourself, but you said let me just be around this energy. And I was like, oh wow, I this is what she's doing, this is what she means. And again, for me, for someone who talks to people often, if anyone is like, how does Torah do it? All she's doing is being herself. She's not doing anything different than what she was how y'all see her on the podcast talking about how she's feeling, how she feels, you know, how she's feeling today, her desires. In person. So I was like, this is what she's doing. She's be herself. I love it. So I think me seeing you just be yourself and all like that's all you're doing. And if anything, you're just you allow yourself to be playful. Like you just, you're not putting on anything, you're just in your aura. And I think that's why it's also important for you to believe in yourself. Not just believe in yourself, but just like know that it's within you. Like there is even, you know, all the thing that Tori teaches, like it's still within you to believe that you are capable of whatever it is you want. You were just being yourself. And I was like, oh, I love this.
SPEAKER_01:She's just being herself, and she just anchored.
SPEAKER_04:I was like, let me anchor in. Myself and aura farming the hell out of everything. Yeah, that's right. We're aura farming. I was like, what's aura farming? And then I'm like, oh, now I aura farm. I mean, aura farming everything.
SPEAKER_03:Because we listen, we went to go work at the four seasons to aura farm. Like in it, like we didn't have to meet nobody. We didn't have to meet a man there. It literally, like, we was there farmer, and we met like three older people that we had an amazing time with. Like they were in their 70s, and the one girl, one lady was I say girl, 94. 94, yes. Giving us advice. Right, giving us advice. I was telling her about the men that I'm dating, and then she's gonna call me over talking about don't marry them. Don't marry them. Mind you, this woman was married 47 years before her husband died. Don't marry. She she said, just you can live with him. But don't marry.
SPEAKER_00:She said she was happy.
SPEAKER_03:She said, she said, I said, why? Why are you telling me this? Look, she had to tell me. I knew I knew why she said, I just wanted to hear. And she was like, her voice. She said, I guess, what I said in the whole supposed to be using my voice.
SPEAKER_00:She was like, she said, because when he died, I said, I'm free.
SPEAKER_03:Listen, she said she was serving and supporting that man for 47 years. She she said, she's like, I put him and my kids before myself. And it wasn't until he died that I felt never married.
SPEAKER_00:I said, girl, you ain't gotta worry about me.
SPEAKER_03:I am not pressed for marriage right now.
SPEAKER_04:We're dating. Listen, go ahead. Just the way you were talking to her, like the way that it was the same. Like I feel like me being around you with the men, it's like nothing changed. You're just present. And the I feel like the if you can get yourself talking to more people, again, me and you, we talk to people. So again, it's hard for me to explain that, but if you're not someone who talks, there is no major shift to be done but to be present. And we were kicking in with her, just how we were kicking in with John with no H.
SPEAKER_03:And my same way. The same way. We like the same way. Now, of course, we would have gave him in a little bit more side eye. Yes. But for the most part, we were literally just saying hi and enjoying people and being very curious about people's lives. Because remember, because remember when the coach approached us, remember what happened? And he was like, Where y'all from? And then we both turned around at the same time. We said, Where you from? At the same time, like we was twins. I said, This girl is on my wavelength. Because who do that but me? No, listen. Don't be asking me a question. I'm the only one asked the questions around here. Right back. Where are you from? Where are you from? We asking me no questions? Let me ask you a question. Because you already did we even tell him where we were from? I don't know if we ever. I think we found out more about him first and then we started. Okay, yeah, we're not giving up no information.
SPEAKER_00:Excuse me?
SPEAKER_03:Where are you from? I mean we did do that. Where are you from? And we turned around at the same time. Where are you from? I was like, this girl is my girl. She is my spirit animal for sure.
SPEAKER_04:It was nice. I thought the biggest thing, because even something that subtle, because someone else could have been like, oh, where are you from? Like, why are you asking me questions? We're just like, where are you from?
SPEAKER_03:Yeah. I think he loved that. No, he I know he loved it. They all loved it.
SPEAKER_00:Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_03:They definitely all loved it. They love us. Hell, even the even the um housekeepers loved us.
SPEAKER_04:Everybody loves us. The um the people we had the four seasons, they weren't men, but they were they wanted to take a picture with us. Oh, they did take pictures.
SPEAKER_03:I'm like, let's take pictures. They loved us. That 94 year old wanted all the pictures with us. Don't marry, never marry.
SPEAKER_04:Never marry. Never marry. And they were also because they were wealthy. They were like take digging this whole trip, but we weren't over there, uh, not like we were around people with money and we just After it like we was there too. Exactly.
SPEAKER_03:You stayed at this hotel? No, we just here. We literally took an Uber to go to somebody else's hotel. To work. And then we went to the W to our farm over there.
unknown:Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_03:Just looking at people and waving at people. Literally, we all we did was to go anchor into the energy.
SPEAKER_04:And that was that was the win. Like, I think some people make, oh, I went all the way out. Because I used to think this way. I'm going out. I didn't find a good guy. I'm like, no, now it's like, no, I'm in this energy. People are approaching me. Even if people are not approaching me, I'm in here. I'm observing. I'm absorbing it. Because we do, we one thing, we both be what watching the room. We both do that. I'm like, who's in here?
SPEAKER_03:Exactly. And the thing is, us not looking for it. It just came to us. We had unlimited men the whole trip. Like unlimited. And we could have like talked to all of them. We could have carried on connections. And it's just like we can always do this again. We can go to another city. We can be in our own city. And it's nothing.
SPEAKER_04:Yep. This can be recreated. And I and I have that with no doubt. I think some people who are like, oh, I have it. This is my only chance to meet. No. I could go right down the street and go anywhere. I feel like it's operating also from abundance. Like I'm not ever gonna run out of men. If you tell yourself that, if you tell yourself that you're gonna run out of men or only broke guys approach me, then guess what?
SPEAKER_03:That's all that's gonna happen. And I'm only believing that only I'm always in wealthy men's faces. They always in my face.
SPEAKER_04:And they want to be in my face.
SPEAKER_03:All the time. They want to be in my face.
SPEAKER_04:Wanna be my energy.
SPEAKER_03:So that's the thing. Speaking of wealthy men, and auto farming and pattern recognition, proximity. Um I also am excited about a shift in my life that I'm making. So we just talked about that Dr. Jasmine's elevation. Like I'm really looking to be really elevated in the next few months, and I'm really, really excited about it. I um, those of you who do not know, I did end my relationship with my uh the dating coach that I hired, and nothing personally, it wasn't what I was looking for. Um I always know how to get what I need from a coach. So I don't regret anything. I I really love what I was able to come to the conclusions of. You know, I'll say that. Like I really appreciate that, but it it wasn't a good fit. And for those of you who are listening to this and you remember me talking about her in the past and you followed her and you joined her programs and stuff like that. I don't want this to be like, oh, you know, should I, you know, get out of the program? No, girl, stay. If it's for you, it's gonna be for you. It just wasn't for me. And I just spent my time researching um another one that I think is going to be the right fit because off the rip, you know, it I didn't have to pay anything to like for her to like start getting like for me to get results. Um, but I'm really seeking to surround myself with millionaire, billionaire men. Like that is the standard for me at this point. And I was talking to Dr. Jasmine about it. We was co-working Saturday, who worked seven hours on a Saturday, but me and her. And we have the most fun. We get so much fun. I know. It's so we turn that pomodoro on 25 minutes on, 25 uh five minutes off. And I was so excited. I was telling her, I was like, oh my gosh, I found this coach. I got so much value from her, and I'm not even working with her yet. Excuse me, she's been so generous, and I'm like, I already like I truly feel like this is true in alignment with where I want to go, and I don't have to like kind of like fight to agree with it. Like my body Your face was lit up.
SPEAKER_00:You're like, girl, yes.
SPEAKER_03:Yes, yes, yes, yes. Like, um, I like I was super, super excited on the call, and it was so crazy because when we were supposed to have our first call, she actually sent me a message telling me, turning me down for mentorship while I was on a call when I was working with uh Dr. Jasmine.
SPEAKER_00:And Dr. Jasmine, I was about to, I was about to cry. And you were you were your heart was broken. Broken broke bad. She was like, she doesn't want to work with me. No, y'all, she was broke. Broken.
SPEAKER_03:She's like, oh, you know, you're a dating coach, and you know, I typically do not work with, you know, people for my because of my intellectual property. I don't work with dating coaches, you know, because of my intellect. I'm like, girl, I don't want your shit. What what um what did Lil' Zay say? I don't want your shit.
SPEAKER_04:I don't want that shit. He said, I uh you said I'll sign whatever. I don't want none of yours. Like, I just want you to mentor me.
SPEAKER_03:Exactly. I'm like, anything I want I can do, like to point to, like, seriously, I whatever I need to sign, I just want you to mentor me because I'm trying to get to an a space that I don't want to go to my deathbed knowing that I didn't go after it. I mean, disgustingly, you know, I just really want to have that kind, like, I really want to reach for the stars in terms of my social circle, in terms of the men that I'm dating. I want it to be like, again, no one believes me when I say it. You know, there was somebody at the gym today. Speaking of nobody believes, I'm I'm pivoting. No, I'm not pivoting, side side quest. And this man, he was just like, yeah, ain't nobody. He was asking me what I was working on. And I was like, today, I because typically in the gym we ask each other what we're working on. I'm like, oh, I'm working on my legs today. He was like, oh, working on your legs. He said, Yeah, women, y'all, y'all work on your legs to be competing for men. I'm like, I don't understand. Like, why? First of all, I'm in my brain, I'm like, men always want women, like always got some shit to say about women, especially broke men. Anywho, and then I said, Well, I don't, I don't necessarily would say women are competing, but women would like to look nice for the men that they want. I think that's reasonable. If women are doing it, I think that's none of your business, you know? Um, depending on who the man is and how much he's investing. He's like, what man ain't paying for like I was just like, he broke. I don't know. I had a recognition. Cause I I never because this thing is, if I ask him for$10, he would give it to me. That's like$1,000 to certain men.$1,000 for like$10. So I know who I'm talking to. But anywho, that's a that's like the side quest of like men judging women for what they're looking for. But I want to like him not believing me or him not believing that. I want to be to a place where I tell people stuff and they don't believe me.
SPEAKER_04:I want people to think, I think I said that on my podcast the other day. I was like, I want people to think I'm crazy. Yeah, yeah. Go ahead. You think whatever you want.
SPEAKER_03:Look, I also listen, people, people gonna be like, yeah, she's definitely slutting out for that. She's definitely a whore. Because no way in the world she could be doing that without us without slutting it up and opening up her leg. She has to be giving some coochie.
SPEAKER_04:Let whoever think whatever. Because while they're doing that, you on a yacht, you got a cheap little condo for only$9.50 with your boat, okay, with your man in Miami. That's what you're doing.
SPEAKER_03:I'm Hella Week. I'm Hello Week. But that's the that's where I want to anchor in because the woman that I'm working with, like, first of all, this is her lifestyle, right? She's actually in the field, which is exactly what I need. And watching her do things with men, watching the income that she receives from men, watching how she's regularly interacting with these kind of men and going to these types of events that, like, look, starting at 4K a ticket. I'm like, look. And she ain't paying for it. I'm like, okay. There's a possibility.
SPEAKER_00:Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_03:There you go. She's the proximity because she was like, she's the proximity. But I ain't tell y'all, after she, after I bit, I was like, I was, I was willing to beg. I didn't beg. I had my dignity. I let her know that I would absolutely love the chance to get to work with her and whatever she needs to feel safe. And then she got on the phone with me. She felt safe, and now we're working together. I'm not going to say her name because I just want to work with her a little bit while longer. And before I like, I think I was premature the last time I shared. So I just want to kind of keep this to myself and like do this kind of work. And I'm so excited. Because she's been texting me all day. I'm like, yeah, this is what I'm looking for. That's what I'm looking for. Yeah. But girl, I think that's our episode. How you feel? How you enjoyed the episode with me?
SPEAKER_04:I loved it. I want you to tap on for the people where you said that you are, you don't want to die without knowing you've done everything. I feel like you need to expand on that a little bit for the people.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, yeah. Oh, because my new mentor, she was like, ooh, that's deep. I have been married. I've had a child. I have left the marriage after realizing I lost who I was, like, started discovering who I was, and it's been like an amazing experience, really exploring me being single as a full adult, as a 30-year, 30-something-year-old woman almost in my 40s. I have dated so many amazing men past that. I have dated generous men. I've dated men who really served and support me. And I feel like before I go exclusive or before I lock myself down in and marrying anybody, I want to put, and I've mentioned this on another podcast, like I want to push myself to capacity of being in places that people in my family have not even considered to be real, to where people in my life don't even realize is available and say that I've done it. Like I've lived it. I've dated those kinds of men. Like, like you uh, what I'm gonna argue with a podcast bro for I've dated those men. What am I worried about a brokeie at the gym for? I've dated those men. I've literally so I wanted to be like like this has been your standard. Yeah, this is your normal. Because the because if I'm able to do that, I get to change other people's worlds easily. I get to shift them where they'd be like, oh, it's not possible. I'm like, how I did it. What are you talking about? Huh, it took me a year to get there. Hey, it took me two years to get there, especially like when people think it's like naturally to people. I'm like, no, this actually wasn't natural to me. This is something that I've built on like Lego blocks every year. And this is my new built, like my new thing that I'm building, my new layer. And next year, people are gonna say I'm just naturally like this when they don't know the work that I put in and how much money I put into it. And when I get on my deathbed, when I tell my grandchildren, yeah, your grandma did this. Let me tell you something.
SPEAKER_01:Let me tell you something. Don't marry them. They only millionaires, build normalized asking me for shit.
SPEAKER_03:Always ask men for shit. Mike, listen, my grandchildren, if mom have grand, if mom had me some grandchildren, they cannot come to my house, especially if they're girls, without them being put on game. Always ask men for shit. What you ask your daddy for this week? What you ask your granddaddy for this week?
SPEAKER_00:Go ask for some shit. Always have something to ask for. I always have a wish list.
SPEAKER_03:And that and that don't marry him. I'm telling my child, listen, if that man can't fully, fully provide for you financially without blinking, do not marry him. That's now again, I'm not saying this has to be y'all's standard, but I want my granddaughter. My granddaughter just gotta have a different standard. She can't go down, go out like me. Mm-mm. No.
SPEAKER_04:I wanna I also want to add one of the episodes that I listened to with you where I was like, oh my gosh, I love her, was when you talked about your lessons learned from your divorce. That changed my life. You didn't even know you'd be changing my life. I was like, oh my gosh, like it is possible for me to have gone through hell. And then I'm like, she's on the other side and thriving. And then when you speak about you, you know, you've um overcame that challenge, you're dating wonderful men, and this is just the beginning. Like when you I love seeing you continue to want to grow and evolve to know that you're not done. Like you're literally not done. Like you are constantly working out. Even y'all can look at her and say, okay, I want to be like Torah, but like Torah is working hard for this, and she's not done. So I just want to say, like, you are amazing. Like, I am so honored to just be even be in your presence. And I love that you have literally been working for what you want. That's why I want them to want you to repeat what you said. Like, you are willing to, like, you do not want to accept anything less, and you're like, I am not gonna die without going after everything I want, no matter how long it takes. Because your thought wasn't like, okay, I'm gonna meet this lady and I wanna, I wanna do this by tomorrow. You're like, no, this is what I want. This is my short-term, long-term goal. Listen, she had, listen, she was, she knew exactly what she wanted. Torah knows exactly what she wants, even in a mentorship. Like, this is exactly what I want to learn.
SPEAKER_03:But y'all, y'all don't know what she's talking about. I literally sent my mentor a Google Doc. Hold on, let me pull up my Google Doc, right?
SPEAKER_04:Cool. I don't know how amazing y'all coach is. She practices what she preaches. She could have just showed up and said, mentor me. She goes, No, this is exactly what I want to work on. This is exactly what my goals are. This is where I'm at right now. These are my current challenges. This is my where I want to be like very specific. That was half half our call yesterday on Saturday. You just figure out what you want. Mentorship on. And that's why she has the result that she wants. So she's putting in the work. No matter how long it takes. No matter how she.
SPEAKER_03:I just pulled it up. It's called my lifestyle and dating mentorship profile. I'm like, my I got my short-term goals, three to five months. Look, one of my one of it, one of the goals is receive a luxury gift on the first date. So that's one of my short-term goals. I have a few of those. My long-term goals is my one to three year. And one of those, and one of those long-term goals, I got like 10 of those, 10 is have seven to 10 elite social events or high society outings on my yearly calendar. I have my relationship status, my intentions for joining. I have my profession, my strengths, my weaknesses. Um, I have my living situation. I have what I'm seeking, my goals for the mentorship, not just my goals, but for my mentorship, my location. Um, yeah, those are that's my little document.
SPEAKER_04:That's the important of being specific of what you want. So whether, so you have specific goals, but like for the people, I want a man be very specific on what you want. And she has, she knows there's gonna be work to get there. She knows she's gonna be uncomfortable in certain parts, but she's willing to do it because I'm not about to be on my deathbed and not going after I want. And that's why I love you.
SPEAKER_03:Thank you.
SPEAKER_01:I love you too, Bestie. You're everything you want, and I'm so excited to witness it. Thank you.
SPEAKER_03:I'm scared, but I'm excited at the same time. Girl, she just gave me a two-week turnaround for my first project, and I'm scared. But you're gonna do a scare. I'm gonna do a scare, but I love you so much, and I'm just so glad that you're in my life, and I feel like being around you also motivates me and inspires me as well because of like who you are as a woman and just how you show up. I just feel like we feed off of each other. Yeah, you know, it's like a fee you give, I give. It's like reciprocity. And I'll be like telling the men that I date. I'm like, yes, my friend, Jazz, this is what we're doing. This is what they'll be talking about. Tell her, tell Jazz how I'm like, why are you gonna give her a nickname? I stop giving my friend a nickname. Her name is Jasmine. Don't be, I don't know why they be getting comfortable. But yes, I love you so much, girl. I'm so glad you came to the podcast. And I'm glad people introduced y'all. Y'all, I'm gonna put her information in the show notes. It's gonna be in the show notes. Because y'all, y'all be emailing me, y'all be emailing me, sending me DMs like where's your friend? Pretty rich teacher. Pretty rich teacher on Instagram. She has a podcast. Find me on TikTok. You can find her on TikTok. She has great TikToks over there. And on top of that, she has a course. She ain't finished the course yet, but she's gonna be promoting a course. So if you want to get on her email list, if you're a teacher and you're looking to leave the classroom and make more money to make more money and have a better lifestyle, so you can just go to Universal Studios in the middle of the day without taking PTO.
SPEAKER_04:With the Express Pass.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, yeah, with an Express Pass, right? If you want to be able to do something like that, like definitely look out for her course that she has come out. Can you tell them about your course a little bit before we get out of here?
SPEAKER_04:Yes, yeah. So I have two offerings right now. So I right now I work one-on-one with women who want to go specifically into the ed tech space. So educational technology, six-figure positions, my mentorship. So if you all have learned what Tor does, I do this for teachers who want to leave the classroom and I help you from I don't know where to start, I don't know how to do this job, I don't know how to do my resume all the way to evaluating your job offer and making sure there's no money left on the table. So that's the mentorship. My course is for the teachers who are like, I don't know where to start. I don't know if I want to go into ed tech. I don't even know. Can I leave my contract? All those things. So I have the exit plan course that's releasing next month. I am still working on it because I want it to be, I don't want it to be a course that just sits in your inbox. It's going to be a exit plan course, and you will implement your exit plan whenever you want. So make sure you search Pretty Rich Teacher for everything. And then you'll, I'll pop up. And if you're on Instagram, TikTok, podcast, everything, you'll find me. But yes, that's my offering.
SPEAKER_03:And the thing is, like she said, like what I do, like I literally will listen to what she's talking about or her clients. And I'm like, I'm stealing that.
SPEAKER_01:We be stealing, listen. I'm stealing that from my clients. We be stealing stuff. Like, oh my, you do that with your clients? I was like, what?
SPEAKER_04:I'm doing this with mine. Like your ROI that you created to make sure your clients get a return on investment. I was like, uh-uh, I'm making a course for my clients. So they know how to get a 10K ROI in my program. I'm gonna show you how to make the money back. I'll also be talking about you how we absorb any type of mentorship we're in. And I because I even like the way that you even mentioned, like, you know, you work with the other coach, but like you still absorb the information. Some people are like, oh, I did that, I paid, it didn't work. No, we're like, oh, we're gonna make it work. We're gonna make this information work.
SPEAKER_03:Exactly. Just like my last, just like my last coach. I'm like, I got, I'm gonna get what I came to get, you know. So well, thank you, Bestie. I love you so much. And I know the people loved you as well. And um, until next time, tell the people bye. Tell the people bye, girl.
SPEAKER_04:Bye, everyone. Thank you so much for having me. Y'all have the best dating coach ever, and y'all, she is evolving nonstop. So if you want not just the best dating coach, but just someone who is willing to do what they need to do to get the results they want, you are in the right hands. Okay. Work with my best team.
SPEAKER_03:Yes, work with me, please. Bye, guys.
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