Date with Cents
Date with Cents
How to Meet 50 Men Per Month So You Can Meet Your Future Husband By Summer with Kimberly E.
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Earlier this week, I made a post about meeting 50 men per month if I wanted to go from no dates to engaged by the end of the year—and the girls lost their minds.
"Where are we supposed to get 50 men?"
"I can barely talk to two men!"
"This seems counterproductive!" So I brought on my friend Kimberly, a dating coach and matchmaker in Atlanta who helps women land high-earning, high-caliber men.
In this episode, we're breaking down why 50 men is actually nothing when you understand dating like a funnel, where these men actually spend their time (hint: not at speed dating events), and why most of you have filled your calendar with responsibilities that don't have to be there.
You'll discover what matchmakers know about men in their 50s vs. women in their 50s, why focusing on a man's looks keeps you jumping through hoops for attention, and the exact events you should be attending instead of your girls trip to Jamaica.
Ready to stop wasting your youth on men who aren't giving you what you need?
It starts with my free training: Attract 3 Commitment Ready Boyfriends in 90 Days.
Happening On: Sunday, February 15th, 2026
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What you'll learn:
🔥 The 3-part dating strategy that helps you get pursued by the right men—without chasing, over-giving, or performing for a man’s approval.
🔥 How to meet commitment-ready, high-quality men ANYWHERE—even if you’re convinced they don’t exist in your city.
🔥 How to be unforgettable on dates and in conversation—without doing “the most” or feeling like a “pick-me”
🔥 Why being “a good woman” isn’t enough—and the mindset shift that makes men compete to commit to you.
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Late-Night Packing & Masterclass Invite
SPEAKER_02What's up, Lova Girl? Welcome back to the Date with Since Podcast. I am feeling super, super excited. I feel very optimistic and just really really proud and accomplished right now. I it's what it's late at night and I am packing for a flight, a 5 a.m. flight. I have to be at the airport by 3. I am headed to Mexico along with my bestie Jasmine, Dr. Jasmine. We are going to a retreat in Mexico. Tulum to be specific. So I am hopping on the plane, headed to Miami, picking her up in Miami, and we are flying to Tulum. And so yeah, I'm just super excited about that. And before I introduce this episode, I want to remind you that my free masterclass, Build Your Roster, attract three Commitment Ready Boyfriends in 90 Days. Commitment Ready Boyfriends in 90 Days is on February 15th, 2000. Well, duh, we're in 2026. February 15th at 12 p.m. Central Standard Time. And if you haven't registered already, go ahead and hit the link in the show notes. Or you can go to my Instagram profile and the link is there. You definitely want to be in the room because you're going to learn the three-part dating strategy that helps you get pursued by quality men who actually want to commit without chasing a man, over giving to a man, over investing, or performing for a man's approval. You're going to learn how to meet commitment-ready, high-quality men anywhere, even if you're convinced they don't exist in your city. You're going to learn how to be unforgettable on dates and in conversation without doing the most or feeling like a pygmy. And you're going to learn why being a good woman is not enough and the mindset shift that makes men compete to commit to you. All right. And uh you again, you can go ahead and register. It's at 12 p.m. Central Standard Time, February 15th, right after Valentine's Day. So if you had, you didn't have the Valentine's Day you want, you want to be in the room. If you did have the Valentine's Day you want it, and you really want to enhance things so that you can have the relationship that you want, not just the Valentine's Day, you need to be in the room. So definitely join at the link in the show notes. Now, this episode is very, I'm so excited to share this. It's actually an Instagram live that I did with my friend Kimberly from the Date Better Network. If you're not familiar, Kimberly is a dating coach and a matchmaker who she matches high-earning men with women. And um she's also like, I've actually had her as a guest coach in my program. I've guest coached, I've guest coached in her program a couple of times. And she's someone that I do respect in this industry. Absolutely love her personality. I love, I love like how she thinks. She has like this Instagram strategy that she came up with in order to meet quality men on Instagram that I actually have the course in my 12-month program, Curve to Cuff. If you come to my free class, you're going to see how to enroll into Curve the Cuff because we're reopening doors soon. Um shameless plug. But yeah, so I wrote a post this week about like if I wanted to be engaged by the end of the year, how I would do it. And one of the slides, you can go on Instagram right now and check it out, it went viral. And one of the reasons why it was shared so much, it was shared way more than people reacted to it. I think it uh had like 3,000 reactions, but like six or seven thousand shares. A lot of people was disagreeing. Somebody called me, lots of people called me delusional. But anywho, I talked about meeting 50 men per month. That would be my bare minimum. And like people was acting like that was the big deal. Like, oh my gosh, 50 men in a month. Like, how is that possible? I literally can do 50 men in a week. That wouldn't be an issue for me. I could do 50 men in a week. But that yeah, they were freaking out about 50 men in a month. And uh, she reposted my post on her page, and they was giving her the same type of objections about like, how is that possible? That doesn't seem doable, and people don't have a life. And so we literally went live together. We had an amazing conversation, and it just so many gems were dropped in this episode, way more than how to date 50 men. It is so, so, so good. I promise you, if you listen to this episode, you're gonna walk away with a brand new perspective on a lot of things. And even she even talked about some stuff that are that I don't even talk about. So definitely listen to this episode. And uh without further ado. Kimberly, I reaccepted you. Okay. Hey, I don't know what it dropped me out, kicked me out. I don't understand what's going on with IE today, but I was in the middle of saying, like, I I talked about like me meeting 50 men, like I would set a goal of at least 50 men. I literally was just saying that, yeah, kind of nice and conservative. Yeah, you could do more than that, because I would for myself, it probably would be a hundred bare minimum, right? Like, if I wasn't being so conservative, because I I don't be wanting to freak y'all out, so I try to be conservative when I talk about certain things, but 50 men at the minimum, and so many ladies, it blew them out, and then when Kimberly shared my post, what were they saying over there, Kimberly?
Where High-Earning Men Actually Are
SPEAKER_00Oh, people were messaging me, people were screenshotting the group chats. Like, where are we supposed to get 50 men? I can barely talk to two men, like what's going on? Like, this is just so much. It seems counterproductive, you're not getting to know anybody. Why are you focusing on meeting all these new men? I just I don't understand that process, and having the capacity to do it too. I think that was a part of it. And then somebody even commented if anybody is meeting 50 new men a month, that woman can't possibly be enjoying her life.
SPEAKER_03And I'm like, how would you not enjoy your life, maybe 50 men?
SPEAKER_02How could you not? Because my thought is if I'm meeting 50 men per month, the kind of men that I want, right? Because I had a client earlier today, she was just like, Yeah, this this guy, you know, he was he was dusty, he tried to holler at me. We were at Arby's. I was like, You was at Arby's. We were at Arby's. You got approached by exactly who would be at Arby's, right? Versus like actually at the places that y'all claim your ideal man is at. How could you be not living your best life if you were in the rooms with those kinds of men?
SPEAKER_01Right.
Apps, Profiles, And Photo Strategy
SPEAKER_02Kimberly, I really want you to share with them as a dating coach yourself who has helped lots and lots of women get engaged. Yeah. You have helped lots of women, and not just any kind of men, you have helped women land high-earning, high-caliber men. And you're a matchmaker. Can you share why 50 men is like a nothing kind of thing?
Access, Resources, And Leveraging Networks
Lust, Looks, And The Real Cost Of Beauty
SPEAKER_00It's nothing because you have to think of dating like a funnel. And you have to know there's going to be people that you meet that it's not going to be a match for you. For whatever reason, there's going to be so many men that are not going to be a match for you. They're going to fall by the wayside so quickly, here and there. And that's the thing about it. You want them to fall by the wayside quickly because you don't want to waste your time, you don't want to waste their time. Um, you know what you're looking for. That's the first thing, too, is being specific about the type of person that you want. But the more men that you meet, the more opportunity there is that you're gonna meet the one. If you're only meeting two men per month, think about that. Two times 12 is 24. So you've only met 24 men in an entire year? In a year? How do you and you think that one of them is gonna just propose? One of those 24 will propose. How? What if those 24 men are not already for marriage? Like, there's so many things in the screening process, like for the things that a woman might want. Let me just talk about myself. If I were on the market and single and dating right now, I'd be meeting 50 or more for sure. And you want to have a strategy. The same, this is this is a thing. It's a mind thing, it's just all in the mind. When we think about our career, for instance, people have no problem going to Afrotech, going to um um AI conferences, going to women's conferences where there's thousands of women flying in to go to a conference to hear um people speak. And how many women are in the room? How many women would you meet at a women's conference that are sitting next to you? Hi, hey girl, hey girl, we're here at this empowerment conference. Okay, you might meet 50 women in a day at an empowerment conference, right? For women. Imagine that you say, Okay, this is my dating strategy. Torah and Kimberly are saying 50 is the minimum in 30 days. This is my 30-day block. What can I do to meet my 50? Well, why don't I add in a conference in every single month? One conference. So from now until February, I need to put a conference in there so that I can meet maybe 20, 30 in a day at a conference. So now it's like, what type of conference would my husband be at? What type of conference? Just like you said, Arby's, that's that's the place that she ran into somebody. You gotta see where would your type of man be? So I think it's a similar strategy as far as the way that we handle business and our career. We need to kind of think of it the same way as when we are looking for a partner. Yeah. And I think too many women want to think of finding their partner as like something that they shouldn't have to put effort into. But after college, unfortunately, after we graduate college, like that's the last real time where you're in a space where you don't have to put forth effort to meet lots of men that are, you know, maybe on your level. You are in classrooms with them, you're doing social functions with them, it's a sorority, it's the fraternities, it's all these events that are happening and being put on that you have to do no effort, just show up. After you graduate college, that's when so many people start feeling the shift. I don't have a lot of clients that are under 23. I don't. Everybody goes to work, you go to corporate America, then you realize, oh my God, it's not just happening for me. Oh, the men that I like are not just in the same room. Oh, I have to go to happy hour, I have to go to a conference, I have to do this outside of work. Like you used to just go to class, and there's boys, there's men in your class, you don't you don't have to do anything. It's the work and it's the effort that I think people are very resistant to like I don't want to put forth this effort into meeting a partner.
SPEAKER_02We use caring. We have a um, we have someone, Marcy. Why are you here? Marcy says, Why should women keep looking for men when it's men who benefit the most from marriage? Honest curiosity here. I don't think you're looking to understand. I think you're just here to be against the status quo, and that's okay. You already mentioned that you don't need a man to live. I feel like I'm in a parallel universe. I don't know why you're on this page. Like, this isn't for you. There's lots of women who want to get married, but they want to get married to generous men who are loving and caring and who are gonna take good care of them. I only date men who treat me amazingly and who invest in me. So I just don't understand why you're here. Like, what's your point?
SPEAKER_00If you're not here, and I think if women that don't want to be married and don't want to have a husband, then don't.
Time Value And Not Wasting Your 20s–40s
SPEAKER_02Yeah, like why being evangelized? You like over here like the Jehovah's Witness, like knock knock, you gotta shit and want men, like if but mercy is none of your business why they want to get married, just like it's none of our business why you don't want to be. You know? Like, seriously, it's it's none of your business. I don't even know why you're here like a Jehovah's Witness knocking on doors. Um, I will block you and assistant. I don't care if you're autistic, I will block you. Autistic I will block you. Um anywho, if you have questions about any of what we're talking about, anything that Kimberly said, I want you to put it in the question box so we don't miss your question, right? I want to make sure that we put, like, if you have a question based upon what anything that Kimberly has said, anything that I have said, put it in the question box. All right. Someone says yes, but your bandwidth is different in the adult world. Let me tell you something about things. And Kimberly, you can let me know. What I have noticed is that women have caused their bandwidth to be lower because we do too damn much. Girl. We do do and then we're like, I don't have bandwidth. Why are we doing so many things?
SPEAKER_00Oh my gosh, girl, that's a whole different live.
SPEAKER_03Even at work. Torah like at work, they that's a whole that's a whole nother topic. It's that's so big.
Calendars, Clubs, Galas, And Sports
SPEAKER_02What you I'm doing, I'm answering emails after hours because the boss told me it was a fire that I need to put out. You don't have to do that, right? I'm showing I'm putting my kids before myself. I'm saying yes to things because my family and friends asked me to. Y'all do too damn much and be wondering why you're exhausted. You don't have bandwidth because you don't have boundaries. If any woman is here that says she doesn't have the bandwidth to meet 50 new men a month, you don't have proper boundaries. And I guarantee you are doing too much. If I look at your life and we do a life audit, you're doing so many things that you do not have to do. I'll give an example. I have a client that was talking about bandwidth. She had two daughters that she was doing laundry for. Mind you, these daughters were preteen, right? And wow. She was doing their laundry, she was cooking for them, she was cleaning behind them, and she was like, I have so much to do. No, you don't. They have things to do. Why are you doing so much?
Offline Social Skills Beat Online Struggle
Roleplay: Flirting At The Derby
SPEAKER_00Kimberly, if you want to share a little bit about that, I can I can send your client a cleaning checklist that that my daughter has in her room posted and it's on the refrigerator with check marks and a detailed of every single thing that needs to be cleaned. What day this is your monthly, this is what you handle. You yeah. So you nailed it, Torah. I don't know too much what to add to it, but absolutely, I don't know whether women do that to like to fill the space because during COVID, that's when like my business skyrocketed in 2020 during COVID. And I was like, what is going on? Like, I couldn't even keep up with my bookings. I couldn't, like, I had to figure out a different system, I had to just close my stuff because I'm like, I can't even keep the clients happy that I have what's happening. And I realized a lot of people that were keeping themselves so busy with things when all of that stopped and we couldn't travel. Um, companies were not sending their travel employees out, things were steady, people were working from home, people realized, oh, um, I am single. You can almost forget you're single. If you fill your life up with all these other things, that's why a single mom who has kids is she will still have such a happy, fulfilled life because those kids fill you up. You you're at the sports games, you're here, you're there. You can always make yourself busy to where you kind of forget that I needed to date or I want it to date, it was on my list, but it's not a priority. And so it's when things get still that we think about things, we reflect. And sometimes reflection is not always happy. And so filling things up and making yourself busy is a way to not have to think about those things and reflect. Even if you don't have the man right now that's planning dates, because the thing is, if a woman is saying, I desire a husband, and the kind of husband I desire, he's gonna take me on trips, he's gonna want to do romantic things with me, he's gonna take me on dates, he's gonna take me to rooftops, we're gonna be listening to live music. That's what I'm gonna be doing with my man, right? But if your whole calendar is full of all these responsibilities, you're staying up doing things for your boss, for your kids, for your sorority, you're in all of these organizations.
SPEAKER_03The church missionary board, you're doing everything.
Quality Interactions In Business Settings
SPEAKER_00Yeah, you can't disappear overnight because you're a responsible person. But in the meantime, you have to make space for the man before he arrives. So it might require you to just unbuse yourself for a little bit, let yourself have free time, let yourself have time that's just, oh, I'm not doing anything right now. Because what's coming, the man that is coming, that you're manifesting, that you're you're you're doing all these things to put it in place so that he's gonna have a position to step in, you're gonna have that space. You don't have to do it once he arrives, because I cannot tell you how many times I have had men say that they didn't want to date a woman anymore because she was too busy, or because she didn't have boundaries, or because um her career was overtaking everything. She was working more than the 40, 50 hours, she was doing this, she's doing that. And it's like, I can't, what am I supposed to do with a woman like that? She doesn't have time. She's working her regular job and now she's doing some project over here. These are conversations I've had multiple times with men. And although they'll say, I like a woman that's passionate about something, but let that passion get in the way of him wanting to fly you over to Africa to go and do something, or oh now he has a home over here. Well, he wants his woman over here. Oh, and you he wants you, oh, okay. Now it's in the way. All these passions and all these projects are in the way now. That's what I've seen, especially with high-earning men.
SPEAKER_02I've seen that, guys. I want you to think about what in your life that you have going on that doesn't have to go on. Mainly the responsibilities that you claim to have. Okay. So, for example, one of the things that I thought I need to have going on was cooking and meal prepping. I'm not doing that. I decided I'm out, like I'm completely outsourcing that. I'm not gonna be in my kitchen on Sundays chopping up chicken, chopping up steak. I'm not doing it. I refuse to. It's just taking up too much time that I don't have to do. You know what else I'm not doing? I'm not folding any of my clothes. I don't fold any of my clothes. I have someone come here and they do it, and it has helped me so much. I don't have to do it.
SPEAKER_01I love it.
Everyday Touchpoints And Serendipity
Kimberly’s Programs And Matchmaking
Final Takeaways: Make Dating A Strategy
SPEAKER_02Okay, I have a housekeeper that comes every single week. Think about what you have on your plate that your mom told you that you should be doing as a woman that you literally do not have to be doing. That's number one. Now, again, if you have questions, make sure that the questions are centered around the 50 men per week. We are not going to be answering questions that are outside of the scope. If you got other questions, that's not what we're talking about today. We want to stay on topic because people are concerned about how they are going to meet 50 men in a month. The one thing I will say is a lot of you guys are going out, but you are not in the vicinity of the man that you claim that you want. That's number one. You are spending time in places with men that you don't ever want to date. I know on my posts, people were like, Well, I guess I'm going to speed dating. And I was like, Your man, the man you say that you want, he's not going to be sitting there at a speed dating. Dating event. He's not there. He is going to be at a regular anything that screams singles, singles events, he's not going to be there. And you're going to find yourself in a place with 70% women and 30% men and 20% of that 30% of men you are not going to be attracted to. You're not going to like. And I was going to like, I went to like a celebrity poker night. I went to like fight night. I like dressed up in my in my my nice gowns. And I was around a lot of the movers and shakers in the D uh DFW area. And I would have many black women in my DM specifically tell me like there's no other black woman in the room. Like, how are you dealing with like just being in the room? And I'm like, they're not there because you're not there. They're not there because you're not there. And then we wonder, like, some of us are like, why do all of our men they marry out? I'm not seeing us in the rooms. That we claim I can't. Every I I talk to a lot of clients and they they're telling me the men that they want are making two hundred and three hundred thousand dollars a year. But I don't be seeing y'all there. I don't. I see the other girls, I see the other women's there. I see the other women's in the room. But I'm not seeing you there. I'm not seeing you working rooms. I'm not seeing you stepping. I'm not seeing you coming in with your best. I'm not seeing you at all. And so you're thinking that I'm in this special place where black women aren't accepted versus I'm not seeing y'all in the room. Someone said, Where are we supposed to be at? Kimberly, where they're supposed to be at my social lights.
SPEAKER_00I would create a calendar. I keep talking about this calendar. I would put together a calendar. I would get really clear on what your capacity is for going out and your capacity for like, you know, online dating. I think online is great. It's a really great supplement. But I think the highest caliber of men, if that's what you really want to date, is best in person. That's amazing. So what you want to do with your calendar is figure out, you know, how many events can I go to per month, per week? What's happening in my city? What's closest to me? What am I going to be able to do? Because it's like quality over quantity. Um, Torah talked about a private club. If you look at it and it's like, okay, this is what the private cup club costs. This is how many events they have per month. Okay, this is how many I can plug on my calendar. And because I'm gonna meet just so many men when I go out at this private club, that's gonna make up my 50 men per month anyway. If I go to one event per week there, even if I only go out once per week, that's four times a month, right? I'm meeting the highest caliber men. I might be paying more money for that private club. But now, if I'm already getting the results I want from that, maybe I don't need to date online, or maybe I do just keep one of my apps. I might keep one app and I join my private club. So you can make it up the way that you want to. If you like, um, it's not even really about what you like. It's about going where your guy is, right? Because he's not at stuff, like Torah said, um what did she say? The girl, I can't remember what she said, but like a pain and sip. Like your guy's not gonna go to a pain and sip. He's not gonna be at the normal places where women like, right? I'm not a fan of online dating, but I am willing. What sites do you recommend? Let's talk about the sites in a minute. Um, the specific site is not so as important as to like what you're doing on the app, what your profile looks like, the photos that you're using. That's much more important than me telling you a specific app because typically when somebody tells me the apps are not working, I look at the profile is trash. Photos you're using, garbage. Using photos from years ago, um, not taking new photos. Everything he needs to see, he should be able to see in that photo. He should be able to see your personality in the pictures that you're using on there. So what you're putting on that dating app, and there's millionaires on dating apps. There's millionaires on the apps. Some of my male clients that hire me are also on the apps, but they hire me too. Why? I think they think I'm gonna bring them a better result, and they tell me that I do bring them a better result than they're getting online. Torah, I was saying that a lot of the millionaires are using the apps too.
SPEAKER_02Oh, yeah, they are. I mean if you put them in low uh high-income network areas, yeah, you're definitely gonna see them on there.
SPEAKER_00They're on there. Um, they still hire me to find the matches, but they they show me and they they try to utilize what they're doing on the apps and the women they're pulling on the apps to tell me who I need to match them with. But oh look at what I'm getting on the app. Look at that, okay. Are you hiring me or you wanted to use your app? What are you what are you using? I I don't need to see what's in the app. I don't need to see these other things. This is who I'm going out with tonight. Okay, okay. I want to have a wonderful date. I'm gonna send you, send you your match. Do you know what I mean? And they still come back. Oh, the kind of women that you introduced me to, though. I mean, it's it's quality. I I will always pay for this. I will always pay for you to find me somebody. Thank you. Thank you.
SPEAKER_02Did you tell them where those men that hire you where they where they where they go?
SPEAKER_00They like forts, they they buy seasons tickets to the Braves, to the Falcons, to the Hawks. They buy season tickets and they go to the games a lot. They're in the VIP areas at the sports, uh, the sports events. So those are good places. Anything to do with sports related, I would say you're you're going down a good track if it has anything to do with that. The major sports events, the the um, what's the golf event in uh Augusta, the Masters? It's kind of hard to get into the Masters, but if you have a list of these places that you want to get into, you can get where you want to get. One of me and one of my friends, we go out, we go out all the time. We love to go out together. And we have it's so funny. I believe I can always get us into VIP, whether we have a VIP ticket or not. I'll tell her, I'm I'm gonna get us into VIP tonight. And she'll go, No, you're not, because I'm gonna get us into VIP tonight. I was like, Well, you don't have to do anything. I'm gonna get us in to VIP tonight. So it's like it's almost a competition. Like, I'm gonna get us in, I'm gonna get us in. Why not? Because and we're both married. It's not that we want to meet men, but we like being in the nice area. We wanna, we wanna hang out with the people that are over here, whether we just found out about this event or we had the the the ticket or not, we wanna see, can we get in there? So the same way that we're talking about these things, even if you decide some of these events are outside of my reach, some of these events are private, some of these events, how am I going to get in, right? Start figuring that out. Because if you never talk to people, if you never ask, and every man that you meet, here's another thing, is another tip, right? If you're meeting 50 men per month and 30 of them meet the qualifications for being like quality, let's say he may not be your man, but 30 of them are quality men, right? That means that they have what? They have access. They have access and have access to things and places that you want to be.
SPEAKER_02One of my friends, she went to the Monterey Carr show recently, and she got into was it the Louis Vuitton? It was she got into like a VIP and nose wristbands are 50K to just hop. 50K. She was talking about how she saw the CEO of this company, that company. She said, Girl, them girls were stepping. They didn't even let some of these men like the girls were stepping in the 50k you know marker, but again, that you have to like she didn't even pay for those. She knew somebody that knew somebody that got her a$50,000 event wristband, and she met so many people there so that she has a better uh opportunity to go back and have a same experience. So we're not even being in rooms, like we're looking for our man instead of seeing all the opportunities where we can be elevated in all aspects, which would lead to an elevated man. And now she's talking about listen, I remember when I only wanted to date men who made like 300k, 400k, then it went like to a million. She said, I'm not dating anybody making less than 20 million. Anybody dating less than 20 million, I'm just not, I'm just not gonna do it. But she had to start from somewhere, yeah. Y'all don't be wanting to start, y'all don't like being beginners because y'all are high achievers. Y'all love to win at everything and anything that causes you to question your ability to do things, you pull back instead of being like, I'm a beginner, I don't know what the hell I'm doing, but I am going to learn, I am going to study, I am going to improve myself, and the simple-minded will come here saying, 'Oh, you're doing all that for a man. This is not about a man as much as it is about transformation and elevation.' Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_03Men this will broaden your whole life.
SPEAKER_02Men are often conduits. Men are often conduits to that transformation and elevation. Y'all don't know how to leverage men because most of y'all have only received dick from men. So I understand why you think that it's a waste of time. I understand why you think that it's not important and we're men centered. Instead of understanding, like, y'all know men have conquered this world. Why aren't we utilizing what they have conquered for our own benefit? Stop letting men give you dick and let them give you resources and opportunities. Okay, I'm sorry. Go ahead, Kim.
SPEAKER_03Girl. Oh my goodness.
SPEAKER_00I gotta let that marinate. I want that on a t-shirt, but it would be so offensive. Stop letting men give you dick. Okay. You can get resources. It's it's like I think that, you know, everybody knows people like this, right? There's people who want to fight against just what it is. There's things that just are, and they don't like it. And I agree, there are some things in our world that it's not fair, and I don't really like it, but it's that way. Should should should men always have to open the door for the woman to walk through? I don't know, but that's been going on, baby, before I was here. And am I gonna stand on a platform and fight that my son shouldn't have to open the door? You know, no, I'm not. I'm gonna teach him the things that he needs to know as a young man. And the same thing with women, I think just like what you were saying, men can provide resources to you. So instead of us fighting and fighting, things should be this way, it should be that way, it should be this and that. You need to see the benefit in everything that you already have. You're looking at what you don't have, you're looking at what's not fair, but you didn't see all the benefit. There's a lot of benefits in being a woman. There's things, yeah, there's things that you will just get and you don't owe anything. I had to learn that, and I had to see because I would question and go, how did I get access to where I am right now? How am I still drinking champagne and we're eating caviar on yachts? And this is a situation, like I've been in places where a guy is trying to hit on one of my friends or my sister when she was single. I didn't have nothing to do with that, but because I'm with them, I'm on the boat drinking champagne and and and everything I want to do. The guy is just trying to date my sister, is coming to say, sis, what do you want? Let me make sure that you're okay too. So, what is my impression of that man? I like him. I like him, Tiffany. I like him. That man has come back to refill up my champagne. I like him. We're on his boat. He's telling me he likes my sister. Okay. Resources. I'm not fighting this, I'm not saying what's going on. I need to understand how to enjoy things and how to leverage things. As a woman, your presence is valuable. Just the presence of a woman. I didn't even realize, yes, I'm her sister. I'm also a beautiful woman that is sitting on his boat, making that man look good. From a distance, it looks like he has three beautiful women himself. Even though he wants to date this one, the appearance is that he's got three who are here looking gorgeous. And he's talking to, we're laughing. How does that look from a distance? An average-looking man, he's wealthy, but he's average looking, has three beautiful women on his boat laughing and giggling, we're telling jokes, and and we've sat here for two, three hours now.
SPEAKER_02That's another thing. I'm glad you mentioned the average looking because we are used to men just giving us dick, and we are. I feel like a lot of us are very lust focused when it comes to putting ourselves out. Even women, right? Maybe we're not, maybe we're not asking for dick, but we're lust focused in terms of he needs to look like this in order for me to feel like it was worth it.
SPEAKER_00Torah, this is I need to write this down because this this is another lie.
SPEAKER_02It's very lust focused. This is why we're mainly receiving dick because it is, we're leading with the love. We're leading, he has to look like this for me to feel like all of this is worth it. And to be even if you're not attracted to these men, well, first of all, uh, that's just a different conversation about being lost.
SPEAKER_00I have a different perspective too.
SPEAKER_02Um anyway, I'm always gonna be I'm gonna be resource focused and action focused and investment focused first. But even like I'm I went out to a cigar lounge and I met a man, and a lot of people would think, like, oh, I wouldn't be interested in this particular man. I felt like he was highly attractive because of who how he moved in the room and what he owned, and how he commanded what he owned, and now this man is mentoring my son in his technology company. He owns a technology company. I haven't even posted about this yet, but he's been mentoring him for weeks in the IT field. Like, um, and I'm like, he's not six foot tall. Okay, he's not someone where you like break in the neck, but he's somebody who has access and resources and he's caring and he he's loving, and he is really stepping out for my son. And I'm just like, oh, resources, oh help, right? Support. What are your thoughts on what you were gonna say?
SPEAKER_00I don't want to take us down a different direction, but a lot of women that are very focused on what the man looks like and that being so important. Like, you know, it doesn't matter that he makes all this money. I'm just not attracted. I'm not attracted to him physically. This is just not my type. I'm used to dating men that look like a I've had women send me male models. The prize, they are the prize, yeah. Those men are the prize. And one, a lot of women have no idea the options that those men have. Those men have an inbox full of women that are saying, take everything. Why do you think he will ever pursue you? Those men don't really pursue. They're they're not even we're not even talking, what invest what? We're not even yeah, that's not even a thought that that kind of man is gonna invest in you. He's never had to ever invest in any woman to get anything. Women are literally throwing themselves at those kinds of men. And here's my thought that's different for a certain type of woman who is of a certain caliber, who is making roughly the same amount of money, and she is in the same position because I've had female clients that are neck and neck with the men, meaning, okay, he's a millionaire, and so is she. And so now she's like, that doesn't do anything for me because I actually have that access. I have all the things and the rooms he wants to get me into. I've I've been in those rooms. So now I'm not impressed by that. I do like somebody that's aesthetically pleasing to me, and those scenarios are a little different. And if it's that important, I think that those women should date the men that they like. If you like men that are attractive, that are not going to invest in you because you don't need it, date those men, but you cannot date them in the same way as you would date a different kind of man. And what happens is women like that have issues dating because they're mixing all the signals up. So you're you're wanting to date this man and you're kind of masculine about it. It's a masculine thing because I mean, anybody that is dating a man and the first thing is on sexuality and appearance, that is coming from masculinity anyway. That's a masculine place. So you're dating this man, it's coming from the masculine, but then on the flip side, you kind of want him to still treat you like a feminine woman. And there's gonna be some mix-up because then it's like, well, he didn't offer to take me out, he didn't plan this date, he didn't do all the things. Well, okay, because now we're flipping back and forth. If you're gonna date a man that's very attractive, a man that is used to certain treatment, women have been flying him out. He's not planning dates, he's not reaching out to you first, he's not texting, he's not doing those things. Guess what? You need to do it. That's for you to do because this is a whole different dynamic. So that's why I'm saying I would definitely have different advice on the flip around. If a woman is dead set on you got to date somebody that attractive, he has to be all this, that's fine. But just know what you're stepping into and step into that with power. Because if you can think about it, if it's like, okay, if I have millions, I live in the house that I already want to live in. Um a man that is just not aesthetically pleasing is not gonna add value to my life. If I'm thinking about it, right? Let me think. There's no way he's gonna add value. I don't want to have more kids. I don't need, I only want somebody that's aesthetically pleasing and that's gonna sexually satisfy me in the way that I want, then you gotta be willing to pay for that. And that's what the cost is. The cost is you plan it. The cost is, oh, that's my man. That you want that babe, go and get it. Here, here's the money. Mama got you. That's a totally different dynamic because it doesn't work the opposite way.
SPEAKER_02This isn't any talking point that I have ever talked about, but I completely agree with Kimberly. It's not one of my typical talking points, but I wholeheartedly agree. I agree completely that when we're going after the beauty of a man, I don't care if he's supermodel or even like hometown supermodel. Like, even if he's like hometown, everyone agrees that he's attractive. He may not be like Hollywood beautiful, but he's hometown beautiful. It still counts. It still qualifies if he's a hometown hero in that way. Um, you are going to have to pay to play with those kinds of men. Do not expect investment, do not expect for him to show up for you in certain ways. You're gonna have to show up for him, you're gonna have to perform for him if that's what you want to do, right? But that's what you're choosing. So when y'all come to me and y'all are like, oh, like 6'5, and he has to look like this and he has to look like that, that's a hometown hero. That that's that's him, and he and this is why you're jumping through hoops. This is why you're begging for attention. This is why he's not planning dates because you're focused on his aesthetics and not on his actions. All right. So I completely agree with Kimberly there. I and I made a if you're a subscriber, I literally made a series about dating for poverty and dating the prize. Here's the thing: even if the man is not supermodel, there are men that are the prize because of their status, because of the podcast they host, right? Because of because of whatever they're doing out in the world, they are a prize, even if they're not supermodel look. And I need y'all to understand you're dating for poverty there. You say you want a certain kind of man, and when I say dating for poverty, it does not mean he doesn't have money. It means that he's not gonna invest in you with that money, and he's gonna make you work when you don't want to show up that way.
SPEAKER_00And I'll tell you something else for the women that's on this live. Please hear me. Your time is the most valuable thing that you have. Losing a little bit of money, you can make that back. I would much rather lose some money than lose years of my time because I refuse to value myself the right way, and I refuse to like look at the world as it is, as things are. And I'm gonna tell you this matching women that are 50s, 60s is incredibly more difficult than matching women in their 30s and 40s. And a lot of women don't know this. This is happening to us. I'm telling you this, I already knew it existed. Like, like generally, we know that we have value being younger, right? We've always kind of heard that. Like men date younger, men date younger. We know it, but we don't ever think about, okay, what happens when I'm in my 50s? We don't really think about it like that. I already have a plan for like this. Is I'm coming from a married woman, right? I'm married. If I'm no longer married in a year, what would that look like for me entering the dating market and I have a child? What type of man would I need? Because I'd also need a father figure and I need all these other needs met, right? And I will also be 42 on the dating market. All of these factors. So, as a single woman, if you're looking at this as a single woman, the reason this is so important is that you're not gonna give your time and your years away to somebody who's not giving you what you need. Why would you waste your 20s? Why would you waste your 30s? No, you can't go back and get time, but you can stop something right now. You can say, I'm not saying with the man I've been with, this off on back and forth relationship, he does the same thing and comes back to me. And why would I do that for another year when I know that's not gonna be my man? It's not gonna be my why would I give him my youth? You're giving him the best of you. Why would you give him the best? Because guess what? The men have it easier, they will have it easier as time goes on. So don't give them a pass now. Do you know how easy it is for me to match a 50-year-old man? I'm gonna keep it real. I'm gonna keep it real. Do you know how easy it is for me to match a 60-year-old man? Do you know how much I make if I have a single 60-year-old man to match? Do you know how much I make just to match one of them? If I have him, I can I can match him with another matchmaker's client. If he dates 60 year olds, right? Why is that? Do you know how much I make if I had a 60-year-old woman to match? Is not equal. So that's what I'm saying. You you have so much value, you have all these options and things on your side. Don't let men guilt you. It's a guilt trip, and they're using these tactics. Oh, she's a gold digger, she's only looking for this and that, she's only what men are the most pickiest. When I tell you to match, they are so picky. She has to be this, she has to be this body type, these kind of eyes, this kind of voice. I don't like the whiny voice, I like the sultry voice, but it's gotta be slightly raspy. But this what what? So, what me and Torah are basically saying, get what you need, get what it is that you need. You can be a little more selective, too. So if you're meeting more men, that means more options for you. So, you know, take your dating seriously. Take where you're spending your time and your youth, your 20s, your 30s, your 40s, you still you're still a young woman, right? Be aware of like how you're spending that time, and you're not giving it away to a man that is not gonna give you commitment. He's not gonna give you the things that you want, but because of, you know, I don't want to be lonely. So let me just let him back in, you know, because I feel, you know, I haven't really been dating, so let me just let him still keep using me because it's right out of the mouth of a matchmaker who matches high-earning men.
SPEAKER_02So I think it's very, very important to pay attention to and to rethink freezing when you hear 50 men a month in this in the environment that you are going to in the environments that these men are in alignment with. She mentioned about sports. What else do these men like besides sports where you could be, where you could um meet them?
SPEAKER_00Hi, we um they charity events, political functions and affiliations, galas. Um, they love supporting causes, they love unique art venues, art, those art gala and releases. Like sometimes they're on the board for certain things. There's a um, there's an art gallery in Harlem, New York that um has a very nice, like a lot of board members and they do events and stuff there. So if in if you're in New York, I would look into the galleries there to see where you can join and be a member. And there those members have meetings and events and things. And so sometimes it could just be purely because of interest. Like I'm interested in art, I'm interested in preserving um black history and preservation in the arts, right? So I want to be involved. And now you're in proximity to these people. When you look through like your local, uh, like your local magazine or some of those things, when you see these events happening and like certain people procuring pieces of art and stuff, those are very wealthy people because they don't have anything else to do. They don't have anything else to do other than like procure these odd pieces of art and like replenish these things and like do things that matter to them in their cities. So look at those types of things. Some little odd things like that. You will find connections with people that are very high caliber. What else, other than sports, private clubs, golf is always I I really want you guys to think about your lifestyle.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Right? Because she's giving a lifestyle here. It's it won't just be about the man, it will literally be for also your own benefit and your own opportunity. Some of you guys will start making more money because you're in these different rooms. Some of you guys will have more opportunities because you're in these different rooms, okay? Um I want you literally, I went to a gala recently. I actually met a guy there. I went to a gala and I had older women there. It was like a debutante thing for like older men and their daughters, but of course, other men that that were there, like their brothers were there. She was just like, Oh, you think this is a real debutante? Let me give you give me your number. Uh, give me your number. I'm gonna invite you to some real debut. And I thought that was great, right? So now I got this 70-year-old debutant from back in the 40s, the 50s inviting me to more events. Think about the lifestyle that what it creates. Many of you are planning your vacations this year. You're planning girls' trips. Why don't y'all go to the events where the men be instead of like having, I'm just saying, uh a low-earning Jamaican man rubbing mud on your ass. Let's switch it, right? I know y'all like it, but it's luck-driven. Can we move away from that, right? I know y'all like the mud on your ass and the and the stuff. I know you, I, I get it, right? And I know y'all like the little solo boat and the swings and all that type of stuff, swinging off the chandelier and Bali. I get it. But what if we decided that, okay, I'm actually gonna go to the Miami International Boat Show in February, where the yachts are, where the luxury brands are. What if I was gonna go to the Indian Wells tennis garden in California for the tennis course? What if I was gonna go to the Grand Prix? But the men I want are gonna be there. Or the Charleston Open, right?
SPEAKER_03What if I could Kentucky Derby's coming up? What if I could what if I took my$2,000 that I was gonna go to Puerto Rico and instead buy me a nice box suite for the Kentucky Derby and be in those rooms.
SPEAKER_02Because so much old money is there. Like, what if I decided to do that this year?
SPEAKER_00Change the lifestyle, change your life, and then develop your skills, your social skills, because now this is not online dating. Now this is this is in person. So you don't want to go to that event and and be, you know, a flat on the wall.
SPEAKER_02Kimberly, if they're suffering online dating, best believe they don't have the skills offline. When you have the skills offline, it literally transfers much easier online. You have an easier time posting and describing yourself, uh, taking pictures of yourself because you know how to move in the world around these kinds of men. If you're struggling online, meeting the men that you want, it's because your offline skills are not up to par. Ooh. Yeah. Online is just gonna magnify your lack of skills. Yeah. Go outside. Go outside, work on your communication skills, your energetic skills, your conversation skills, your attraction skills.
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SPEAKER_00I have clients all the time. When I say, How are you with flirting? How are you with meeting people? I'm good. I do good. I do good. Men approach me. Okay, let's roleplay. I'll I'll be the man, you be you. Let's pretend. We're at the Miami Open, we're at Formula One. Hi, beautiful. Is this seat taken? We just we just role play conversation. Do you know how much work they realize in that moment that they actually need to do? It's like, oh my goodness, I'm just I'm just not good on the spot. How? That's that's the spot. That's what it is. This is what it is. This is this is talking and flirting and talking about yourself. Where are you from? What do you like to do? You grew up where? Do you have family here? Do you like car race? Is this your first car race? It's not what like people don't know how to talk about themselves. You know how to talk about work, you know, talk about your career. The same way you can talk about your career and what you do for work and those kinds of things in your um you know, daily life or at work for business, you need to be able to do the same thing in the social setting. In the social setting.
SPEAKER_02You want to flirt with me, Kimberly? You want to be the man? I'll flirt with you. I'll be the man. I'll be right back. Okay, so we're gonna do a role play session. I actually want to accept the challenge. I think it's fine. Okay, we're on the so where are we?
SPEAKER_03Um, you want to be at the derby? I'll be at the derby. Okay. Hey, pretty lady. Ooh, you think I'm pretty?
SPEAKER_04Hey, handsome.
SPEAKER_00You are the most beautiful woman I've seen today.
SPEAKER_02Oh. I really appreciate you appreciating my beauty. I also think I'm really beautiful as well. So just thank you for just acknowledging that. Um, we're sitting here. Who who are you here with? Who am I here with? I'm here with you right now.
SPEAKER_00I like the sound of that. Well, listen, me and some of my guys, we have a section down here at the front. Where are your seats?
SPEAKER_02I am sitting over there in the dunking room. Like I have a spot in the dunking room, and I have two other girlfriends that are waiting for me, but I'm like, I'm like stuck over here with you because I'm having a great time so far. Okay.
SPEAKER_00Okay, well, I would love to have you over here in my in my section. Do you think your friends would mind?
SPEAKER_02I think if there were other men over there that are just like you, why wouldn't they be?
SPEAKER_00Well, they're not like they're not like me, but there are some some other nice guys over there.
SPEAKER_02Oh, they're not like you, so you're one of a kind, huh? I'm one of a kind. Oh, I like that. I really like that.
SPEAKER_01You know, are you are you single?
SPEAKER_02You're so lucky. Because I am.
SPEAKER_01Oh wow. Um, my name is Jeremy. What's your name? Torah. Oh man. Man, can you say that out loud for me? Torah. What does it mean? What does that mean? Oh Torah means God's wisdom.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_00Man, I'm about to ask you to marry me right now. Oh.
SPEAKER_03Oh God, let's go ring shopping after the Derby.
SPEAKER_00Let me see. Oh, okay. You're about a size. That's about a six and a half. I can see.
SPEAKER_03Oh, seven. Seven. Seven. Yes.
SPEAKER_00Man, I'll call I'll call my jeweler right now. You know, I own, you see all this land back here, right behind. Okay, so you see, this is the the front race right here. You see, right back over there by that yellow flag. So I own all the land that you see from back over there. And then I also own all of um, you know, look, you see right back over here where this um line is that's all mine back over there too. I own all that.
SPEAKER_02So you big dog. You big dog. So what first of all, what are you doing with the land?
SPEAKER_01Right now, it's just a procurement situation, and you know, that's bringing me in about 2.5 mil per month.
SPEAKER_00That's on a monthly basis. And that's just this land over here. I also do water filtration for the city. Okay. And I have, you know, I have a contract for that.
SPEAKER_02Oh, I didn't even get like I didn't even get that. Like, um, what inspired you to get into water procurement?
SPEAKER_00It was passed down from my dad.
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SPEAKER_00You know, I got into it with my dad, and he kind of taught me the process. And I even, I'm a certified plumber. I went to plumbing school and grew up doing the trades and just continued developing my skills. And so, you know, I've I've always believed in working hard and investing, and it's it's really paid off for me. I I I retired at 35.
SPEAKER_02So you're a hard worker, you're an investor, and you're handsome. I I just hit the jackpot. Oh my gosh. I hit the jackpot.
SPEAKER_00Miss Torah, Miss Torah, Miss Tora. I like I like the way this is. Let's go get my friends. Let's go get my friends. You know what? I can't let you leave. I was gonna let you out of my sight, but now I I don't I don't wanna let you out of my sight. I'm gonna come with you. Is that all right? Yes, can you?
SPEAKER_01Give me your hands, people. Oh, I love you.
SPEAKER_02You're gonna be my boyfriend for the rest of the event, okay? You're gonna be my boyfriend, okay?
SPEAKER_01I'm your man.
SPEAKER_04Oh, me getting a boyfriend at the Kentucky Derby.
SPEAKER_03Girl, they like to show off. They like to show off immediately.
SPEAKER_00You know what we do? Like the fact that you knew what your name meant, like on the spot. There's there's so many women that like have unique names and then they don't know, or just like, oh, my mom just came up with it, or whatever. Like, I love that you knew all of that and you locked eyes with me and told me exactly what it meant.
SPEAKER_02If I didn't know, I would have made it up.
SPEAKER_03Who would know? Nobody would know. I would have made if I didn't know, I would have made it up. Yeah, you're not gonna Google it. I'm gonna be just like I'm already in love.
SPEAKER_02So I would have literally made it up if I did not know what it meant.
SPEAKER_03Oh my gosh. You you did amazing. That's why you're doing so well.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. Um, but I but I'm glad that you were role-playing with me because I just really want them to see what the energy should be like. We talked about like on your call with your ladies last night, on um like energy, and we're literally waiting for men to notice us, and then we feel like we're being desperate or thirsty. Um, and I really want y'all to see like flirting doesn't have to be sexually inviting. If anything, we're playing. We're on a playground playing with each other. We literally was on the slide, swinging on the swings, on the monkey bars, just having a great time. These men, when you are in the midst of them, we can't be simply fly on the walls and waiting for men to notice us. We are literally bringing the energy. So if we are like, I think you mentioned Kimberly uh last night, you were talking to the girls. You said you were like, well, um, just because you are meeting 50 men and you enter those rooms, it doesn't mean people are gonna notice and approach you. You want to talk a little bit about that?
SPEAKER_00Yeah, yeah. I mean, you could have an introduction. I mean, I'm sure this has happened to people here, right? You have an introduction to somebody, maybe it's even a mutual introduction. And I tell a lot of my ladies to do this, especially when they're out all the time, they're at networking events, like especially when this is fused into your job and stuff. So you are meeting people all the time, and a lot of it is for business. And but don't ever think that meeting somebody in a business setting can't translate to something else. So let's say that you're running across people, you're at a conference, um, you have a coworker come up and make an introduction. Hey, Kimberly, I want you to meet such and such. He runs this and that. Okay, so I'm meeting this man. It is kind of like a business environment, but it doesn't have to stay that way. And I don't need to know that it's going anywhere right now, but I'm gonna come right into this. I'm gonna meet him. We're gonna have our interaction and we talk. It may not, he may not say, Oh, can I have your number? Are you single? I don't see a ring. It may not go that way, but it's about quality over quantity. I don't need to talk to him for an hour. The moment that we have, whether that is just 60 seconds, it needs to be a quality interaction right here. So I'm gonna meet him. We talk. Contact, all the things, right? And now I might say, you know what? I have to run. I have to go and take care of something. I need to go and do right. If he's interested, he'll find me. He'll find me. Or he might go and ask the coworker that he knows, right? The person that made this introduction. Hey, listen, I didn't get to get, you know, Kimberly's information. We we met, you introduced us, and she she's it seems like we could, you know, we might be able to do business or something. Do you have our LinkedIn? Do you have a contact number for her? We didn't get to can you let her know? Then that coworker can say, hey, such and such asked about you. Is it okay for me to share your number? Is it okay for me to share your LinkedIn? Yeah, yeah, share that. Okay. Such and such was asking for me. Every meet that you have is not gonna lead to something, but Tora's just saying, meet them. Meet them. Put your calendar together. Put the things on your calendar if you're a person that likes to plan. When I was dating like this and I knew I had to be out, I wished I had a dating coach. Oh my gosh. We won't go there. I wish I would have saved so much of my time because I was out all the time. I wasn't always in the right place, but I was out. I stayed, I knew that much. That much I got right. I was like, I gotta be out. There's no way I'm gonna meet men if I'm in my house. So I'm going out. But be out, be in those places, make those introductions. Even if me and this man talk, now we're going to another process of like, okay, he's interested. Is this even my type? Would he even qualify? What how do I how do I go through that process? But at least I'm meeting them. Let me put things on my calendar so that I can meet them. A lot of you have opportunities and windows to meet so many quality men that is like work-related, but not. Do you see what I'm saying? Let me give you an example. If you work in a hospital, you have opportunities to meet and come across men that don't work with you. You see what I'm saying? Within that hospital, and I know sometimes when we work, and even in like a corporate building or like a federal building, wherever you work, right? You might work in a space where like it's possible. But sometimes we get so we get this tunnel vision when we're at work that nothing else can break that tunnel vision that I have because okay, now I'm at work. I'm only at work, I'm at a work conference, you know, I'm at a I'm at a work something. So I'm turning off all of my feminine stuff to even be approached because I'm at work. You see, like if I was if I was a nurse, if I was any type of medical something that went into a hospital, there's so many opportunities and avenues, just about anywhere. Yes, you have bigger opportunities when you're in spaces where lots of those men are in one space. Absolutely. You need to be on and ready. But don't discount the everyday contact points that you can make. You get into an elevator, and uh a man that you don't know walks into the elevator.
SPEAKER_02I literally, that literally got me into my private club. I went into an elevator with a guy, and he was like, How are you? I was like, I'm doing so amazing. How are you? He was like, Oh man, like never heard anyone say amazing. Mind you, he was on the board of that private club. And I asked, and he asked me what I was doing. I was like, Hey, I'm applying to be a private club. He said, I'm going up there with you. He literally was about to leave to go to his car. He said, I'm going up to the club with you, and I'm recommending you to the club. Not only did he that, I had a tour with the tour guy. He said, No, I'm gonna give you the tour. He gave me the tour of the thing, and he put in his personal recommendation, and I got in the club just by being in the elevator and having the good energy and the yeah, it's that easy.
SPEAKER_03Resources, yeah.
SPEAKER_02Well, guys, I think we done gave a lot. I didn't anticipate to be on here this long, but I think the girls came to get like a lot out of this. Umberly, would you let them know where you want them to go to like find more about you other than Instagram, uh, the program that you have that they can be a part of? Would you like to share that?
SPEAKER_00Yeah, well, I have the Date Better Baddies. It is a private group of women. We have coaching, live coaching sessions twice a month where we get together, we talk about dating techniques. All the women in there are single and dating. Some of them are in relationships now. We've already had one engagement since we had the group. So so excited. It's just like a really great safe space to talk about who you're meeting, how you're dating, um, how other women are dating in the group, how they're finding success. So it's a really awesome group. It's only$39 a month. You can't beat that. We have our own Facebook and our own IG private group. And so I think that's awesome if you're just starting. If you want me to work with you on a dating strategy for you, specifically on what you should be doing. And this is what I was talking about with looking at 30 days out, six months out. This is my goal and this is what I want to reach. This is the type of men that I want to meet. This is this is what I want. This is a city that I live in, right? I'll help you plan that out. That's what I love to do. So you can book a session with me to do that if you like to.
SPEAKER_02Any matchmaking services you want to promote here?
SPEAKER_00Because I know I have one space open right now. My matchmaking stays full. I have one space open to add somebody new for matchmaking. If you're in Atlanta, I can take you on for matchmaking. We will talk about your preferences, talk about your look at what you're looking for, and I do everything. So find your matches, interview them. I plan the dates for you. So you'll have an amazing date somewhere, whether that is, you know, a rooftop restaurant here in Atlanta, wherever you want to go, we do all the whole concierge. So you'll have your date planned for you, and then you always get feedback from your date. So if you want to know what your date thought about you, all those things, you will get feedback, and I'll give them feedback from you as well. And um, so far, all of my people are meeting wonderful matches. I have somebody that is getting married to the, you know, my last person that I just matched, they're gonna be getting married soon. Um, so it's really wonderful. You can book a consultation with me or you can DM me if you have questions about matchmaking. My clients that work with me, my women that are working with me as far as date coaching, I don't think that any of them really need. Uh-oh, sorry. My phone fell off the stand. Um, they don't really need matchmaking because they're meeting quality men on their own. If you need matchmaking, it's a little more of like, well, I don't want to do all this work. I hear Torah and Kim talking about I need to go here, I need to go there, I need to be on like all these places. If you just don't want to do that, that is where you need matchmaking. That means, okay, you find me a man is making 300K. Then it becomes my job, right? And I do all of that vetting and sourcing, and I find them and plan the date and all of that. So it's done for you.
SPEAKER_02And if you're listening to this audibly because you can't watch it for any reason, you can find her at Date Better Network OneWord to find her on Instagram and send her a DM. Um and then for me, if you type number three, F-O-R-M-E one word in the comment section, you'll get the link to my free class that I have coming up February 15th. Um, build your roster, how to cut how to attract two to three commitment ready men in 90 days. You definitely want to join that free class because I'm all like not only am I going to teach you my strategies and my blueprint, but I'm also going to tell you exactly what you need to do if you want to enroll in my 12-month uh program, Curve DeCuff. So it's three for me. Number three, F-O-R-M-E, one word. One word, y'all. Check out the typos. But Kimberly, I'm so glad that you took out the time to come and go live. Three for me, y'all, not three for her. They got it. They got it. Okay, thank you, Kimberly, for just taking out the time to come and give you responsibility. Um yeah, you have a uh really amazing perspective and um experience, and I just the girls just need to know it. Ain't only me. It's a matchmaker who's talking about this, someone who's been in the dating coach business for a very long time. So thank you, Kimley. I love you guys, and y'all have a great rest of your day. Bye. Bye. All right, love a girl. That was the episode. As I always say, implement whatever you got from this episode that landed with you the hardest, that you have the most resistance to, that is the thing that you need to be applying immediately this week if you can, within this month if you can. It's time to think about your love life differently and stop overly romanticizing it. There has to be a strategy, and we do have to like when it comes to treating it like a part-time job, so what? That it's a job. So what? Why wouldn't you want this to be a part-time job of choosing your life partner? We don't have any problems job searching like a part-time job. This should be the most important decision that you make, and yeah, it should be a part-time job. And if you don't want to be a part time job, then expect bottom of the barrel results and bottom feeding men. That being said, I am about to get ready to go to bed for Mexico in the morning, and I love you and uh I'll chat later. Bye.