I Walked Away From A Good Man This Year - Here's Why

A few weeks ago, I walked away from a good man  after dating him for over a year and a half.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what made me walk away from a man most women would have stayed with and why I don't regret it for a second. 

You'll discover why looks and investment alone don't move me anymore, what happens when you try to adjust a man into generosity instead of requiring it from the start, and why you don't need a "good enough reason" to leave when something stops being in alignment with you.

Ready to stop staying with men just because they look good on paper and start trusting your decisions even when the room disagrees? Listen now.

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Transcript

Birthday Energy And Million-Dollar Support

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What's up, love a girl? Welcome back to the Date with Sins podcast episode. I am feeling excited. My birthday is coming up, May 26th. Shout out to me, Big Gemini in the house. I am feeling proud. I have it for those of you who don't know, this is my million-dollar year in my business. And one of the things that I was told was that, girl, you need a million-dollar delegation. You need million-dollar support. And so I'm very, very proud of all the systems that I've been putting into place the last few years, well, few weeks. And me training my support to be able to support me as the millionaire that I know that I am. And I'm feeling very grounded. Yeah, it's raining outside. I've had a lot of reflection time today. And I'm just excited to do this podcast episode. This episode was something that I've been wanting to do for a while now. And it is actually the perfect episode to piggyback from last week. I've been wanting to do this for a while, but I got, I y'all know that I launched Curved a Cuff. And so I've been really, really busy working with new clients, making sure I have the new curriculum. So I've just been doing rewind rewind episodes from the past.

Why Big Body Benz Is Gone

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But for those of you who don't know whether you missed an episode where I mentioned it, or you missed my Instagram story where I mentioned it, I let Big Body Benz go off of my roster. And some of you, well, many of you know me and him met over a year and a half ago. I think was that 2024? We met a fall, and I made a podcast episode of when we met, how we met. I made podcast episodes about the life we were creating as a man on my roster, right? So you guys have gotten to know him over a year and a half. You also remember back in May of 2025, that was last year, when I made a the podcast about why I'm not going exclusive with either him or Latin Poppy. I was just like, hey, this is, I thought I wanted to be married. I don't want to be married. I thought I did. No, absolutely not. And I named the reasons why these men, I didn't see these men in my future at this time. And I said things could change, but for right now, and you can go listen to that episode as well. But yeah, he's no longer in my life. And so people were like, Tora, you should do an episode. Of course. Of course, I was gonna do an episode. I just needed the time to to sort things out to kind of share the story.

The Valentine’s Day Question That Shifted Everything

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And basically what happened back in February, it was the beginning of February, and I was on a video call with him on FaceTime. And I literally just asked him, What are we doing for Valentine today? And this man said to me, Are you my girlfriend? And I was like, I literally looked up and I said nothing. I just stared at him. I just stared at him because number one, that question wasn't real. That wasn't a real question to be asking me because he already knew the answer to the question. We had been operating under the same terms for over a year and a half by both of our choices. I mentioned back in my podcast episode about how I was feeding him sweet potato pie in his lap, and he was asking me, hey, you know, we should be together. And I'm like, absolutely not, but we can continue because it was a great relationship. Like, if like if you want to be married, and the funny part about all of this is this when the first date we had, this man said he did not want marriage. And I said, Oh, well, this isn't gonna be anything serious for me. I want marriage. I know you don't want marriage. This might be our last date. I don't know. It just depends on how I feel. No pressure, though. And then all of a sudden, he decides down the line, he's like, Oh, I want to marry you. So we both decided that as long as he continues to want to date me, we are going to continue to date. And whenever he decides he doesn't want to date me anymore because I don't know, he wants to get married to somebody else, then we would not date anymore, right? So we're grown adults. And we were continuing to joy, enjoy one another. In fact, we had an anniversary. We celebrate, we celebrated our one-year anniversary where we went to all the places that he took me to when he first flew back to Texas. So we met, and then two weeks later, he flew back to Texas, took me to the winery, took me to the World Spring Spa, took me um to have like home cooked African delicacy. So he literally created like the anniversary date for us to, for us to have, right? So we we had all of that. But anywho, fast forward, I asked him, What are we doing for Valentine's Day? And he said, Are you my girlfriend? And so I'm like, okay, that's not even a real question. What I got from that was him saying, if you want to be treated like a girlfriend on Valentine's Day, you're gonna have to give me the title first. And to me, that is very problematic. Not only is it problematic because we have been operating in a way where you know that investment is the standard to gain access. Investment is not negotiation for a title. Um, investment is something that is required for you to even be in my life. And so that question also to me was like, oh, in this very moment, this level of thoughtfulness, this level of romance was now conditional on me giving him something that he wanted. At this point, he stopped operating from I'm dating you because I want to, and started operating, I'm dating you in a way until you give me what I want. And I'm completely unavailable for that. And in that very moment, the relationship changed for me. And everything that I felt for the relationship or any kind of hole that I had on the relationship, it literally left me. Like I felt like this immediate shift. And I was like, oh, okay, that's actually where we are. And I didn't argue with him. What he did follow up was because he caught himself. When he saw me stare at him without saying a word, he tried to backpedal. And he was like, Oh, but I'm going to Africa. Remember, I'm going to Africa to get you the jewelry that you wanted. That can be for Valentine's Day. And I looked at him again and I said, No, that's something that has nothing to do with Valentine's Day

Why Conditional Romance Is A No

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and everything to do with something we did decided on previously. Valentine's Day is something different. And I actually was done with the conversation at that point. There was nothing I didn't, there was nothing to argue about. I felt really, really complete inside. And I think he knew at that moment I was done too. So we got off the phone, and within an hour he sent me a message, and I didn't open up his messages again. Because we talk on what we talk on WhatsApp. That's the preferred because he has an Android, I have an iPhone, and um, it just works better for us. And whenever you go look at a WhatsApp message, it will say whether someone read it or not. To this day, after he reached back out to me, there's nothing from me that indicates that I read his message. I literally was done at that moment. Because it saved us both time. It saves us both energy. Now, people are probably gonna hear this story and call it petty or say that, oh no, like you did this for no reason. This man who you've been, you know, dating for a year and a half, you would do that just because he said that, because you didn't want to be with him, Torah, and you wasted his time, Torah, because he wanted to marry you and you treated him this way, blah, blah, blah, blah. He invested in you, he helped take care of you. And yeah, I'm pretty sure a lot of people think that I'm tripping right now. And that's you're right. I don't care. Because you and I have different standards. That might be something that you're willing to tolerate, but I'm not willing to tolerate a man who takes a dig at me because his question was a dig. His question also completely rejected the premise that he agreed to to be in my life, right? That's like double backing without us even having a conversation. I do not entertain men who do that. I do not entertain men who want to negotiate showing up for me in that way because I don't, I haven't given him a title. Like that's completely unacceptable to me. If it's a if it's acceptable to you, that is fine. But for me, it's completely unacceptable. For me, petty is leaving him because I wanted him to feel pain and chase me. I didn't want that man to chase me at all. I didn't want that man to come back and and beg. I didn't want that at all. Okay. It's when you want him to like know he messed up. You you want him to chase, you want him to suffer. I literally didn't want him to suffer at all. Okay. I didn't like a lot of women like to create an exit that's built around the man. You know, like he needs to learn this, he needs to react to this, like he needs to be able to tell this story. I didn't need any of those theatrics. That's not what I'm looking for. That is petty. Okay. When you're posting cryptic stories and post on Instagram, yeah, that's petty. For me, this was about discernment from my standards and my self-trust because the connection was no longer in alignment with me anymore. It was. It was like, hey, we're not gonna be together, but I actually enjoy your company. I actually enjoy the life that we share together. I actually enjoy spending time with you. I enjoy our conversations, I enjoy this. But at this point, this is no longer in alignment. Okay. This exit is built around me. It's built around my peace, it's built around my clarity. And I don't need him to understand or feel anything or to hurt or to come running after me in order for this to feel good to me, because it felt amazing walking away. I don't need him to understand, I don't need him to apologize. I don't, I don't need any of that. I just I'm I'm done. I'm done. And that is the difference. Um because I realized that, yeah, this is actually unacceptable to me. And I'm gonna move on. And this goes back to last week's episode where we talked about self-trust, and this connects directly to

Six Self-Trust Steps In Real Time

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that. Okay, so if you didn't catch last week's episode, definitely go back and listen because it laid out six steps for how to actually trust yourself. And I'm gonna go through very, very quickly how this applies to this particular situation. Step one, the audit. The audit about being honest about who you've been in connection with men, where you've abandoned yourself, where you've where you've ignored what you knew. And I had already did that audit long, a long time ago, partly in my marriage, where I lost myself trying to hold up something that was eating me alive. And then I continued that practice as I met more men. So by the time Big Body Benz came along, I didn't have to audit in the middle of that relationship as much as I needed to just discern what I what I already, the work that I've already done. So the audit was already complete, which means that in the moment I can actually recognize that pattern. It was a very familiar pattern that could have been on repeat. The pattern of staying past my own knowing to keep something good looking intact. And I just wasn't gonna do it in again. I was able to recognize that pattern because I've done so much work on myself. I've already done that audit. I did not, I wasn't confused on, you know, he said this. What does this mean? You know, but he's done all of this. Should I give him another chance? I already knew that was a non-negotiable for me. Step two from last week's episode was knowing versus feeling. I felt really good with Big Body Benz. Chemistry was real, it was off the charts. You know, the travel was nice, the way we spent time together was nice. Oh man, it was it was so good. Like I really, really enjoyed our connection. And I just felt like when we went out, we just had such a great time. We looked good together. What I knew was that he wasn't aligned with where my life was going. I knew that. And I let the knowing lead the decision instead of the feeling behind it. Right? Because it felt really, really good to be with him. This is why I told him over the sweet potato pie we was having a good time in that chair, that this doesn't have to be more than what it is. Okay. We can keep the feelings that we have and know that we're enjoying it for what it is and don't pretend it is more. And I followed the knowing. I think on his part, he probably felt like he could change my mind on where I was. And I don't think he realized that he couldn't because he's been so used to women abandoning themselves for him most of his life, of women deciding that, okay, I'm gonna do this for this man because I'm really, really attracted to him. Because I'm like, what did he do for you? He didn't do anything for you. And like you're just like cooking for him, cleaning for him, traveling to him, paying to travel to him. And what did he do but look good? Nothing else. Okay, so they were going off the feeling that this attractive man was attracted to them and they were gonna win his heart. And I'm like, no, I don't, I feel, but I don't allow that to override my knowing. Step three from last episode is practicing leaving the small things. By the time Valentine's Day came around, I have been practicing walking away from misaligned things in very small ways for years and also big things. I've been already practicing that of telling men no, of saying no to conversations I didn't want to have, of being very, very clear of what I'm tolerating, what I'm not tolerating for man, just practicing walking away and leaving quite a bit. So when this moment came around, my body already knew the move. I had already built the muscle to leave. Hell, I lost I left my marriage. Okay, I can do hard things. So I was able to just leave because my practice game was on point. I already built the muscle in other areas. Step four, I didn't outsource my decision at all. At all. When Big Body Ben said what he said, I didn't text my friends, I didn't call my coach, I didn't hit up my mentor, I didn't search nothing on TikTok, I didn't ask anybody if I was overreacting to make the decision. Okay, I didn't because I had I I learned to trust my decisions. And so when I made the decision, I was like, oh yeah, I'm done. I'll just tell everybody about it after the fact, but I'm I'm pretty, I'm done. Okay. And it's funny because at one point I was like, you know, I think I'm like, I'm not opposed if he was to come back with a gesture and I put him on a repair plan, and then I decided against it. Actually, no, I'm not I'm not interested in that at all. Okay, I'm not interested. And we can talk about that a little bit later in the podcast. Uh, but step five of self-trusting myself. I mean, same thing. Self-trust, trust myself. I was, I knew what my decisions were, my non-negotiables were before I got in connection with Big Body Benz. I had already decided what kind of dynamic I would and wouldn't deepen into. I wasn't going to manage a life with a man who wanted to show up like that with me. I wasn't going to give a title to a relationship that wasn't fully aligned with me. And so those non-negotiables were set when I was clear, when I was sober. So BBB in that Valentine's Day question, he literally asked the wrong one. He literally asked the wrong woman. Because trying to get me to leverage a title so you can negotiate, renegotiate the terms of this relationship, absolutely not. We're absolutely done because of it. And I know I'm saying absolutely a lot, but that's because I mean it. And then step six, I built a life I didn't need him to complete. It's the foundation for everything. My life is absolutely incredible. The life that I've created, the love that I've created for myself, the relationship with God that I have, my business, my relationships that I have with people, with my son and my friendships and the body that I'm taking care of and the vision that I have for my life, that don't got a man's name on it. That's why I can leave any man. Will it hurt sometimes? Absolutely. Y'all know how much I cried over Letting Poppy when he left. Right? So when BB walked out of the picture, my picture was there was no threat of it falling apart. He was just a guest in my life. Okay. And again, from last week's episode, this is six places where the work I have already done brought me to this moment with Big Body Benz. And I'm so grateful for the relationship and the connection that we had. I learned so much dating him, and I really, really appreciate what we were able to do together. And I'm walking away with quite a few things that are helpful for me and continuing on with my

Looks Don’t Matter Without Alignment

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life. Number one, I am walking away where I finally realize that looks do not move me at all. Only a man who lights up making my life better. I used to be really into, you know, attractive men where the attractiveness was enough. Vaughn's dad, my son's dad, back in the day, like that guy, he was. The lover boy, you know, he was very, very attractive. I felt lucky to be dating him. And now that I look back, I'm like, girl, you made all these choices because that man was fine. You made all those choices because that man was fine. And Big Buddy Benz, definitely attractive, tall, handsome, you know, got his shit together. And he's the kind of man that a lot of women would stay with on looks alone. And he was also a really good test to the work that I have done. Because if I was still being swayed by attractiveness, yeah, I probably would have said, oh, you know, let's give it another chance. It wasn't that big of a deal. It doesn't matter. I probably would have lowered the bar. I would have negotiated with myself. Maybe even considered the title, like, oh, I might lose this man if I don't become his girlfriend. And I did not. And a handsome man cannot get my attention. It could not sway me if my standards can't be met. The only thing that moves me now is a man who is genuinely energized by adding to my life. He is genuinely excited about pleasing me. He can be attractive, maybe not attractive by Western beauty standards. I don't care. But if that is something that he is energized by, that is the most important thing to me. Okay. And so I'll give an example. And this isn't to like go into comparison mode between the men. But when I asked Latin Poppy, when I said to him, I said, hey, what are we doing for Valentine's Day? That man said, Oh, we're booking this, we're doing that. Make sure you dress this way. He bought me flowers. He bought me stuff off of my Amazon wish list. It literally was not a question. And this man knows that he, this is a man that's like, we're gonna grow old together. And I'm like, no, we're not. This is a man that's like, you're my woman. I'm like, no, I'm not your woman. Like he's like, you're gonna be my woman. I'm like, no, I'm not gonna be your woman. He doesn't take that personally. Okay. Um then with Big Body Benz, it was like, are you my girlfriend? Also, I told a story of how Big Body Benz invited me to a party and he asked me to wear a certain kind of dress. I had to tell him, if you want to, if you want me to wear a particular dress, then you need to purchase this dress for me. Like I had to tell him he bought it, but that's something I had to tell him. But with Latin Poppy, I was able to tell him, like he invited me to his family's birthday party. Somebody had a birthday party, and they were talking about like wearing jeans, and I didn't own a pair of jeans that fit me well. I haven't really worn jeans in years. I tried to buy jeans like two years ago, it just didn't work out. And I was like, I don't really have a good pair of jeans. And he was like, look, go, he said, I'm gonna take you shopping for some jeans. And when he wasn't able to take me shopping because he got tied up with work, he said, go get the jeans and I will pay for them. And the jeans I picked were like $130 a pop. And he paid for it. He was like, I've never, you know, paid for jeans at $130 for myself. But like, if you like it, I love it. One side was actually negotiating while another side was actually really energized by pleasing me. Okay. And so I can't unsee that. I can't unsee it. So attractiveness. Um, and not saying Latin poppy's not attractive. I think he's very, very attractive, but that shit don't sway me. It just don't sway

Stop Training Men Into Generosity

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me. Number two, what I'm leaving with is I am not programming generosity into any man. That's a follow-up from what I just mentioned. Because BBB is a black presenting man, and I say black presenting because he is African, and there's typically a difference between black American and African men, but in this country, they are socially black, like a black American socially. Um, he was tall, handsome, again, had his stuff together. Women have been making him the catch his whole dating life. So he has never been in the position to be generous by default. Women made it so easy for him, especially considering women are not. I think a lot of women are just thirsty for handsome, accomplished, tall black men. I think we're really thirsty for those men. And black women typically like to date within their race, so it's super thirsty. Black men, African or Black American or Caribbean, whatever, they are more likely to date outside of their race, no problem. Actually, Big Body Benz has dated outside of his race plenty of times, while there are black women that will only want someone who looks like him. So again, black women are super thirsty for this kind of man. So they would go all out of their way to cook for him, to pay for things for him, to offer. They was flying him out. They was flying this man out. So generosity within him wasn't by default. It was something that was very, very new to him when he came to me. And he was like, yo, I've like, I've basically never done any of this for a woman before. He said, I appreciate how it's challenging me, but sometimes I feel like I'm not enough for you. When and instead of thinking I'm not enough for her, he should have been thinking like, this is the kind of man that I need to be if I want a woman like that. If I want a woman like this, because all the other women that were showing up for him, he didn't want them. He didn't like them. He kept them around because it served him. And a lot of men do this, whether we know it or not, a lot of men keep women around that serve them. That's just the truth. And so he wasn't programmed for generosity. He was somebody I had to adjust to generosity. When something came up, it like I remember one time I ran out of coffee and I was on the FaceTime with him. And I was like, oh, you know, I just ran out of coffee. And he was like, Oh, you should. He said, Well, why don't you just get you some more? To me, I was like, I'm not used to that. I was like, How about you get me some more? You on the phone sucking up this good conversation that don't really benefit me. How about you? I didn't say that part to him, but in my mind, I was like, How about you get me some? And he ordered right on the call. That's the kind of adjusting that has to happen, you know, with him. Like we've been talking this on that. That's the kind of adjusting that he had. Or even like when you come to my house, don't come to my house empty-handed. I'm not used to a man coming to my house empty-handed. So letting him know, like, or having me, if you want me to come to your house, don't be empty-handed when I come to your house either. Make my life better if you want me to come to your house. So that's something that he had to adjust to. Um, and so what I'm walking away is I'm never doing that again. I'm never going to adjust a man into generosity because my standards have increased dramatically. If generosity isn't in his blood, if he doesn't wake up smiling about being generous, if he doesn't wake up clacking his feet to be generous, I don't want no parts of him. I don't even want him to look at me. If it's not a part of how he relates to women in general, how he relates to providing with women in general, how he how he relates to making the woman he's with feel taken care of, I would never, ever, ever date him. I think about Poppy. When my friends would fly into town, he will offer to send them Ubers. When me and my friends would go to brunch and lunch, he would offer to send money to pay for their lunch and brunch. Did Big Body Benz do that every now and again? Yes, but it was off the heels of him learning about other men doing that for me. So I bet he was just like, I just gotta keep up because this girl has men doing this, doing that. And if I want this girl, I have to show up. But generosity was not programmed in him. He's probably entertaining a woman right now because what? A man like him, he's not gonna stay not talking to a woman. He's probably entertaining a woman right now that he don't gotta do none of that stuff for. And I love that for him. The third thing I'm walking away with is I really, really trust my dating decisions.

Trusting Your Choices When Others Disagree

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I make dating decisions from an amazing place. I do not make them from a place of fear, not from a place of scarcity, not from what I'm scared to lose. I make my dating decisions based upon what I actually want. And I know that I'm making them right because of those things, and also because I'm not swayed by anybody else's read on the situation. I know that as a black woman who is surrounded by black people and has a predominantly black audience, black woman audience, that most of everybody was rooting for Big Body Benz to be with me exclusively. They like the way we look together. They were always saying oh, we love how you look together. They were like, Oh, I that's the one that I pick. I'm team BBB, because that's the kind of man we're taught, black women are taught to want. And most people were saying, pick him. And I would always be like, Why? Do you not see? I wasn't sharing everything, but I'm like, do you not see what this the little bit I am sharing with y'all? Do y'all not see what I'm putting out? And I never stated this publicly because again, it I enjoyed people going back and forth on not knowing who I was gonna choose or not, but I put out enough information for people to be able to see things. And I'm like, to me, I felt like it was no comparison. If I wanted to, if I wanted to choose one of them based upon how they were showing up in my life, if I wanted to go exclusive, if we're looking at how Big Body Benz, what Big Body Benz was able to show up with versus Poppy, and yes, Poppy did break up with me, but the way he was able to rectify all of that was top tier, in my opinion. He didn't complain, he didn't ever insinuate that I was asking for too much or that I was out of his league. He always went above and beyond to make my life better. He always went above my standard. He knew what my standard was, and he said, I'm going to raise you this. I know your standard is you need to be taken on a trip once a month to repair things with you. I'm going to raise you this. I'm going to make sure you get this. I'm going to make sure I surprise you with this on the trip. I'm going to make sure I handle this. Every, it seemed like every month he took over a new bill. Every single month. And then with and then with him surprising my son with that car, above and beyond. I didn't like above and beyond. That's not even something that I required. Okay. It's not even something that I required, but just making my life better in so many different ways, in a way that I didn't have to adjust for. I didn't have to, I didn't have to do any of that. Okay. So if I would have listened to most people around him, I probably would have ended up exclusive with the man who wasn't close to being my most aligned partner. And I would have done it because most people thought he was the prize. And I'm just going to be completely honest about that. I feel like most people liked us together. They wanted the black love. Again, I do feel like black women have a thirst for black men in a way that black men don't have for black women, meaning that we have to have this or we don't want to date, kind of thing. And this is coming from somebody who's worked personally one-to-one with hundreds of women, black women, so to say. Anywho, I make good dating decisions. I trust my own decisions on men. And I do not care what other people have to say. So I'm very, very like, even when the room is loud, like I just don't care. I know what makes the most sense for me. And that's what I go. Like, I'm not confused about it

You Don’t Need A Big Reason

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all. And here's what I want you to take from this episode. A man does not have to be an asshole or a jerk or do something crazy or disrespect you blatantly for your leaving him to be valid. A lot of times we don't think it's valid enough to walk away from a man unless he's done something crazy. You don't owe a man more time because he's been good to you. You don't need to give a man deeper commitment because he wants one or because he invested in you. Whenever you decide it's not an alignment, that's enough. Whenever you decide that it's outside of your non-negotiables, that is enough. You don't need a good enough reason. That's for good girls. Good girls need a good enough reason. I didn't, to me, my reason was good enough. And also, what I want you to take is you don't have to leave just because you're not the best fit either. If it's not a non-negotiable for you, you can enjoy a season with a man. You can date a man who isn't your forever and just call it what it is. You can leverage the amazing feelings that come with that. You don't have to leave if it's not a if it's not going against your non-negotiables the moment that you sense he's the one. Because I have some clients are like, Torah, what should I do? I know he's not the one. When should I leave? I'm like, you leave when it doesn't make sense. You leave when it crossed boundaries that are non-negotiable, standards that are non-negotiable. But the work here is just staying honest with yourself about what you have and trusting yourself to take action when things change for you in a way that matters. And so, yeah, that's the story. That's what happened. It wasn't this big thing, it literally was an instant decision that I felt. And I'm really, really happy that it was made, and I'm happy for the both of us. And if you have listened to this, and a lot of this has resonated with you, whether you have thought, man, like I could never do that, or man, I think I'm actually too thirsty for a certain kind of man.

Coaching Invite And Final Takeaways

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Or I get confused on how to handle men that aren't terrible. And one-to-one coaching, I help you build into the woman who doesn't fall apart when it's time to let a man go, or isn't confused when it's time to man to let a man go. I will show you how to build a life, a personal life, a career life, a dating life, so delicious that no man becomes the center of it. I don't care how attractive he is, how tall he is, where you'll develop the kind of self-trust where your gut gets the final say on every man that you date. And you get to a place where ending a relationship, ending a connection, even one you were excited about, enjoyed, even one where he was incredible to you, it doesn't set you back. It doesn't send you back to him three months later, wondering if you made a mistake either. And you'll date as a woman whose life keeps moving forward no matter what any man decides to do. So I do invite you to work with me one-to-one to become the woman whose peace and time and forward motion do not depend on a man. If you're interested in working with me, you can book the link in my show notes or on my Instagram. You can go to my Instagram and book, and so we can have a conversation about what your life looks like and what it would look like to work together to create the love life that you desire. So that's the story with Big Body Bends. And I'm very I'm looking forward to this year. I'm already having such a great time, and I love the fact that I'm able to have these lessons to present to you so that you can learn them before you have to go through it. So all right, girl. I will see you next week. Until then, bye.