Weight Loss in Midlife...How your Thoughts Impact Your Results

The way you think about midlife (and you being in midlife) is effecting the results you are seeing in your body.

So if you want to lose weight, it is time to take a look at your thoughts and make sure you are being intentional so you can get the results you want!

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Courtney
www.courtneygraycoaching.com

I work 1:1 with women to lose weight permanently, in an exciting, sustainable, beautiful way with mindset and strategy.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Courtney Gray podcast the show for women who are ready to lose weight permanently, and love their body love the way they feel. And look, I'm going to teach you how to stop overeating and obsessing about food and your weight. So you can be more confident and empowered to then create an even bigger life. I'm life and body coach Courtney Gray. And each week, I'm going to be teaching you how losing and maintaining your ideal weight can be so much easier than it's been in the past, in my taking care of you and achieving your health goals, you will live in even more amazing life than the one you have lived so far. Let's get started. Welcome to the Podcast, episode 92 weight loss in midlife and how your thoughts impact your results. Before we dive into the podcast, I want to make sure you are signed up for my free workshop happening this Thursday, October 19. The link is in the show notes. It's also on Instagram, if you follow me on Instagram, it is called How to not eat the candy because we are in October, but it's about so much more than candy. It's how to not eat whatever it is that you are eating that you keep telling yourself, you need to stop eating it. And if you did stop eating it, you would be healthier, lose weight, feel more in control all of those things. And I'm not saying never eat these things. I'm saying feel in control that you can not eat them even when you want them even though they're delicious. So make sure you sign up for that is going to be this Thursday. The other thing you can sign up for is a free consultation. If you are like the workshop sounds great. But I really want to just talk to you about how you can possibly help me then the link also for that is going to be in the show notes and on Instagram. And I have a bunch of different times available for you to schedule a consultation. And I want to talk about what to expect I had four consultations last week, it was a very busy week. And I will I had one of my new clients who did a consult with me. And she talked about how she was nervous. And so I wanted to just address this because it is so common. It is so common to be nervous or anxious, or a little bit skeptical, like what am I do. And still continue to schedule a consult because you are ready to take your weight loss and body and help seriously. So I want to talk for a moment about what happens on a console. Because for many of you, you've maybe never talked to a life and body coach about losing weight. And I want to just kind of share with you what it's like. So when you want to do a console together, we talk about what's going on with you right now we talk about your body, your weight, your obstacles, what you have tried, what has worked, what hasn't worked. And I will tell you this conversation, a lot of times you end up telling me things You've really never talked to anyone about it's very personal, it's very, can be very emotional. We talk about things that maybe you've never even said out loud. And so expect to be emotional. It's not a bad thing. But I think that sometimes people have said to me, I've been wanting to schedule consult for for a few months now. But I just was nervous and I was worried I'd be emotional. And so I just wanted to address that and say it's totally normal. It's, this is a big deal, your body, your weight, your self concept, it is a big deal. That's why I do this coaching because it is such a big deal. So we talk about everything you're going through. And then I give you clarity as to why you're not in the body you want what is not working, I give you clarity, some of these will be obvious to you. And some other thing. These are things that you have not really thought about before. And then if I think I can help you, we talk about what that would look like how we could work together to get you the results that you want to get you in a body that you really are enjoying being in to get you feeling in control about food for many of my clients to get them not thinking about food in their bodies so much. That's a result so many of my clients want. So schedule a consultation if you'd love to talk to me. And I hope you'll also be there at this awesome workshop that's going to be on Thursday, it's going to be a fun one. I'm going to teach you my three steps to not eating that thing in the moment. But it's called How to not eat the candy. So let's talk about this podcast. I've never really talked about weight loss in midlife and how your thoughts are impacting your results. But if you're like me and you're in midlife, you've probably been hearing a statement I hear so often. And I'm using this in quotes because I hear it so often weight loss is so much harder in midlife. And I want to talk about the truth of that. And I also want to talk about why that mindset can actually really derail you and keep you from getting the results you want. So let me just say this, I have no medical background whatsoever. So why am I talking about this? Because I want to talk about that and now What I'm going to give you some research I've done and findings of many, many studies. And then I want to say, Okay, this is what the research is showing us. And now what and what do we want to choose to think about it in order to take ownership and control of our own bodies and our own health and really advocate for the life and body we want to live in. And really, in the end, I want you to become aware of what you think about midlife and your body and how it is affecting your body. I want to start with the facts. Here are the facts that I have found, and you can do your own research and I guarantee you will find the same facts because many, many sources said a variation of this same thing, and then you get to choose what you want to do with them. I'm going to, I'm going to tell you my thoughts and what I'm choosing to do with these facts. So many studies show that even if women keep the same workout routine, that many women between the ages of 40 and 50. And then a few studies even said 40 to 65 see their weight increase and have a harder time losing weight. Many, many many studies said that these are the results that they are seeing of women in midlife. And a few reasons for this is happening, a slowing down of the metabolism and hormonal changes due to menopause. Specifically, I read a few different studies decline in estrogen and then there's other decline other as other hormones, but I'm again because I'm not medical, I'm not even gonna dive into that it doesn't even matter that I dive into that. It's just slowing down of metabolism and hormonal changes due to menopause, midlife, all of that. Also, the other reason this is happening that the women are seeing their weight increase and having a harder time losing weight is the amount of lean muscle we have starts to decline after 30. And if you have ever taken a science class, you know that muscle burns more calories. So if people continue to eat the same amount, amount of calories and do the same workouts, you can see how that is going to either increase weight or definitely not allow you to lose weight like you want to do. Okay, so what are we going to do about this? Our bodies are changing. We need to get curious and realize that what we are doing is not working. If you feel this way, what you are doing is not working. But we need to really get honest with ourselves. Are we being honest with ourselves? And are we taking radical ownership of our body in midlife? So ask yourself that question, are you taking radical ownership, there was a podcast I did a few weeks ago about radical ownership, but specifically rattle co ownership about the fact that maybe you are in midlife, possibly experiencing menopause in whatever way that looks for you. I'm taking a moment to tell you that I work privately one on one with women to help them lose weight permanently, and create a body they love. This is not a diet program. This is a customized program to teach you how to eat the way you want to eat forever. No more restriction, no more willpower, no more losing weight only to sabotage and then gain it back again. The problem is not you, we women are so hard on ourselves. And we think if we could just get motivated or more determined if we could find the right diet plan or cut out certain foods, we will lose weight and be happy. But the answer is changing your brain and how you think and feel, changing your self image and how you talk to yourself. Learning how to trust yourself. This is how you lose weight permanently. It sounds too good to be true. But I promise you it's not. The work I do with my clients is powerful, exciting and loving. And it's hard work to but the result is change forever. The women I work with are smart and successful in so many areas of their life, they just haven't been able to figure out their body. This is where I've come in, head to my website to schedule a consultation. And we can talk about all the details back to the podcast. And again, the reason one of the reasons why I wanted to do this podcast is I think that for I hear so often, weight loss is so much harder in midlife. And it comes from a place of of defeat of like it's a statement that you just say and then you're like almost like I give up like this is what it is it's out of my control. And that's why I wanted to give you those statistics in that research that says this is a fact it can be harder it is harder studies show that it is harder. But now the question is so and now what what do you want to intentionally think about this, and what is your part in it? What I don't want to see happen for you because I do see this happen sometimes is that people are using this broad mid life label as the reason why they are not in the body that they want to be in. And so I think I what I want like to encourage you to do is, if you're in midlife and you feel like yes to all of this, I want you to get curious and say, Okay, well, let me take a really honest look at how I'm moving my body. And let me take a really honest look about what I'm eating. I know for most people, most people at Every Size, say that they eat healthy. But what does that look like? And is your version of healthy? What you're doing working for you? And if it's not, and now what, what are we going to do at this point? You know, one other thing to consider here is that often like people are not only caring for kids that are getting older, but they're also caring for parents that now need more support, on top of working on top of a lot of times for people becoming more hyper aware of retirement, and as you're getting closer to retirement and finances, and what that is going to look like, for all of these reasons, it's a busy time. And it can be harder to make health a priority. So I want you to just really take a hard look at your life and really be honest with yourself, what is working? What is the role you are playing? And let's not give all of our power over to midlife. So what are your thoughts? When you hear these studies? And what they're telling us about midlife and weight loss? Where do you lean, there's really, I feel like two different ways you can lean, there's two categories, you can lean into the Okay, I hear that. And I think let's go, I'm going to figure this out. Or you can lean to this as out of my hands. And I want you again, to be honest with yourself, where do you lean? Because the way you lean the thoughts you have about that research is going to really dictate the results you create in your life. Are you the type of person that things like this is just how it is in midlife? This is what I've been doing all along is no longer working? And or I don't know what to do, I'm eating healthy, I don't know what else I can possibly do? Is that going to be you because if you think those thoughts, if we think about the model, we think about how our thoughts create our results. Thinking like this is just how it is in my mid life is probably going to make you feel resigned, it's going to make you feel discouraged, possibly angry. And then you're probably not going to start trying to figure out ways to crack this code, try to figure out ways to double down on figuring it out for you. Since we're all different. Where if you think I'm going to figure this out, I hear Courtney, I hear what you're saying, I hear that research. But I'm going to figure this out. And from there that feels like you're committed. And from being committed, you start to actually figure out okay, how can I make this work? When I hear this about midlife, I'm like, let's go, I'm going to be the one to figure this out. Here's the way I look at this. When I hear the study saying women are keeping their same workout and they're increasing their weight and having a hard time losing weight. My thought right away is the workout needs to change. When I'm hearing the study say is the way women did things no longer work. So to me, I think gotta be willing to shake it up. Let's go. And then when I hear that metabolism is slowing down, and due to hormonal changes, there's like a decline in estrogen or all these things. i My first thought is get your hormones checked. I did that. I thought I that's what I did. When I started going, what's happening here what's going on? I'm noticing some things happening. It's like let's change our hormones. And then if you do the research and you start getting curious, you start hearing so many experts, doctors, experts, scientists talking about how our diet affects our hormones, how our diet affects our experience of menopause. And so then this leads me to what of course I'm here to teach you is how to learn the mindset of how to eat the way you want to eat, the mindset of how to look at what you're doing and be curious and say, This isn't working for me. The studies prove it's not working for me. So what can I do? What can I do to change it up? What can I do to get curious and figure out? Clearly that's not working? What can I do to change things up? Now if you're still with me, there's another response that I want to talk about. A third one, we have the two we have the people that are like, let's go I'm gonna figure this out. We have the people that are like, Oh, this is kind of out of my hands. What I've been doing is not working. But then there's another like thought and more thought responses. A lot of times people tell me I'm doing the work. I'm eating healthy. I don't know what else to do. And it's a little bit of a I've done all I can hear and that really leads them to being frustrated a little bit victime sometimes a little bit confused, but it's more of a screw this I'm doing all I can and again make sure if you are here you have a hard look at the facts acts of how you are eating and how you are moving your bodies. Make sure you get your hormones looked at, how are you sleeping, and your mindset about all of it. So here's what I will leave with you today, clearly and recap. Our bodies change in midlife, stuff is happening. But we need to change as our bodies are changing. And if you really intentionally decide what you want to think about the fact that you're in midlife, and you want to intentionally think about what the studies are telling you, and you want to think something powerful, that makes you feel committed, you are going to have so much easier of a time figuring this out, losing weight, maintaining your weight and living an amazing life. It's when we slip into the hole, I'm eating healthy, I've tried all the things, my body is betraying me the type of mindset that really keeps us stuck and usually keeps us spinning. So that's what I want to encourage you today is really decide what you want to think about midlife and I'll tell you what I think about all this stuff that I'm hearing about midlife and all the research. I think that we need to change things up. Our bodies are changing, our situations are changing. But with that change we also are able to start thinking more intentionally for ourselves and start changing the what we believe is possible for us. All right, mid lifers. That's all I got for you today. You will be seeing me live in my workshop. How to not eat the candy this Thursday, happy Tuesday. If you are ready to lose weight and keep it off permanently, if you have tried diets and you know they don't work and you're ready for real change. I would love to have a conversation with you. I coach women privately one on one, and I'm currently offering consultations to talk about working together. click my link in the show notes or head to Courtney Gray coaching.com Or you can find me on Instagram at Courtney Gray coaching