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The One Where Author & Journalist, Nicola Slawson, Is Back On The Podcast!

Lucy Meggeson Season 1 Episode 156

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My guest on the podcast this week is the wonderful Nicola Slawson.

Nicola is a freelance journalist and writer, and founder of the award-winning newsletter, The Single Supplement. Her new book, Single: Living A Complete Life On Your Own terms, comes out on 13th February 2025. 

Nicola is single, but lives with her gay best friend, Tom, the father of her baby girl, Stella.

Topics that we cover are:

  • how she and her gay best friend, Tom, platonically co-parent their daughter, Stella;
  • how Nicola had been looking into solo motherhood but didn’t feel it was the right choice for her;
  • how the financial side of solo parenting was one of the main reasons she was against it;
  • how she came up with the idea to have a baby with her gay friend;
  • the moment she asked Tom if he wanted to have — and co-parent — a baby with her;
  • how they decided that they would actually live together;
  • their ideal future living situation;
  • how Nicola feels about any future romantic partner given her unconventional life;
  • how Tom & Nicola got pregnant — first time — using the ‘turkey baster’ method;
  • how incredibly grateful they both that their journey of having a baby was so ‘easy’;
  • how her book, Single: Living A Complete Life On Your Own Terms, covers the whole breadth of being single;
  • how writing a book about single life was the very last thing on her list, but how it came about;
  • how one of the main messages of the book is about not putting your life on hold when you’re single;
  • the idea of ‘happily ever after’ and how it is so ingrained in our culture;
  • how one her favourite chapters is about heartbreak;
  • the unspoken grief of no longer being single;
  • the nuance of being happily single but also desiring a relationship;
  • how proud Nicola is of the last 10 years of her single life
  • how we don't give ourselves enough credit for the things we deal with alone as single women.

Follow Nicola on Instagram: @nicola_slawson

Get a signed copy of the book: https://www.bookabookshop.co.uk/shop/single-living-a-complete-life-on-your-own-terms-signed-copy/ 

Buy Nicola’s book, Single: Living A Complete Life On Your Own Terms: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Single-Living-Complete-Life-Terms/dp/1035400731 

Join Nicola’s Substack, The Single Supplement: https://thesinglesupplement.substack.com/ 

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