In-Between: Is it a weakness? Is it a strength? It's all about perspective

It's been a week. Maybe you're like me and your heart is heavy. It took me a sec to record this week's episode.  It's ok to take a break, especially when things don't feel actually "ok". However, this is a safe space and a space for joy and entertainment, and in today's episode, a place to recognize what we may view as a weakness, may actually be a strength. I'm also giving you an update on the "buying a house" progress/process, and why I feel like an introvert extrovert... or is extrovert introvert?  

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Elizabeth: 0:09

Hello, hello. Welcome back to an all new in between podcast. I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney. I don't even know where to start this week. You know, the episode is a little late. And just so you guys know, typically I record the week of when I have a guest, oftentimes that is recorded in the past, at least like, you know what I mean? It's, it's recorded ahead of time. The episode debuts, uh, but when it's solo, which is most of the time, at least right now, I record things in real time. Part of that is, uh, part of me wants to tell you that's because I just want to be cool and relevant, but oftentimes it's just because, well, life be lifin and I just, you know, that's just how it be. But it's more so just I would rather give you a more up to date update on what's going on in my life, what's the message, the in between. It also just kinda, I don't know, makes me feel a little bit more mature. Authentic and honest and vulnerable and lets you a little bit more into what's going on in my life. Um, but anyways, I, I apologize for the delay in the episode this week. To be honest, I, I've just been a little out of it. Um, I'm not sure if you have been on social media or turned on the news or just went to a news website. But there is a lot of devastating tragedy. Um, going on in the world. I'm sure you've seen what's happened in Israel. And I, I don't want to go too hard into this. One, because I know at least if you are like me, you've been saturated with the news and it's just absolutely heartbreaking, um, disgusting, devastating. Um, I don't even really know how far to go down the rabbit hole with it. But you know what I'm trying to say here. So, yes, oversaturated, so I know you've heard it, you've seen it, it's all over my social media and hopefully you're not like me, but I tend to rabbit hole when things like this happen. And so I have just been kind of over consuming coverage over what's happening in Israel and the terrorist attack there that happened earlier this week. So that's why I needed a break. I have felt a little out of it, unmotivated, a little, I don't, I don't want to be dramatic and say empty, but it's just, it's not a, it's not a happy time, you know, um, but you, you stick together, we don't condone terrorism by any means, and I just pray Which sometimes feels like all you have at the moment. But I just pray for this all to end. I pray for peace. I know that seems, at least to me sometimes, like I asked my husband, I was like, I just feel so childish to ask for peace. I mean obviously you ask for peace, but you just, when there's power at the forefront, if there is control, peace is probably never ever going to be an option. Um, and it's just absolutely devastating that it is at the hands of thousands, hundreds, thousands of civilians, innocent civilians. So I just wanted to take a moment to start this week's In Between, because I have a feeling a lot of us are hurting in our own way. I mean, I haven't seen a single person not hurt or moved, or when I say moved, you know what I mean, emotionally pulled in some direction from this. And, you know, there's reports all over the place about nuance and what got us here, and I don't even care to talk about that. Because humanity is on the line. And I truly believe in the power to be human, to be a good person. It is an incredible gift to live here and exist and experience life. And, as somebody who is a deep empath, this is heartbreaking. It's absolutely devastating. And I, I can't really wrap my head around it. This isn't a cop out. It's not to come off as ignorant. Maybe I am, I don't know. Maybe I'm not saying the right things. Maybe I'm not saying enough. But, this is me. Being honest, being vulnerable, showing up to at least voice how, how heartbroken I am. I don't know, I just, like I said, I can't really wrap my head around it. Um, so, hold your babies tight, hold your loved ones tight. Pray for peace. It's not silly, it's not stupid. If that's all you have to hold on to, then yeah, do it. Do it. I just... No words. And it feels really weird to segue from that into this, today's episode. Uh, but, you know, I was listening to a podcast earlier today that is a daily podcast, so it comes out Monday through Friday every morning. And they started theirs off talking about this, this situation and... They said, you know, we're here to entertain, we're here to uplift, we're here to lighten the mood. And this is like a business economics podcast. And you know, that is what I want to do. This isn't a gaslight or make small or make nothing of what's happening. This is just, this is a safe space. This is a place where we can feel, we can be vulnerable, we can be authentic. We can just take 20 minutes just to find a little positive corner on the internet, on the podcast web, whatever you want to call it, but if you are feeling, at least the way I felt, if you're feeling dark, empty, all of the above, heartbroken, devastated, exhausted. Because I just feel like it's more and more information and death and, uh, destruction. It is okay. It is okay to take a break. It is okay to take a blackout from social media. That's honestly what I had to do. If you follow me, you probably noticed that most of my stories have been quiet since Monday night. And it's just, I've been processing, I've been reading, I've been researching, I've been educating myself, which I highly, highly encourage you to do. And just... You know, supporting any way that I can, which maybe I'm not doing enough. I don't know what is enough. I think that's a gray area and I'm sure there's always going to be people who think you could do more and there's going to be people who think you're doing way too much. So all I am saying is however you may be feeling, you are entitled to that and validate that. It's okay if the product doesn't launch. It's okay if you don't post your story. Um, and it's okay if you do, because sometimes we need to find joy even in the darkest of times. Our own personal joy, no matter how big or small. So that is my message starting off this inbetween. Oh, man. So on that note, I am going to try to segue into giving you that little bit of positivity and freedom from. The doom and gloom of what seems like the world right now. Um, I'm not going to worry about what's going to happen. I'm not going to worry about what could happen. Because if anything, one thing I've been working on for myself this year is I can only control what I can control. And I need to let go of the things I can't. And that includes worrying or being anxious over things. And in this case, worldly, global things. They're important. I'm not saying you should turn your, your eye and not focus or not listen and understand and learn, but I am saying sometimes enough is enough and sometimes we have to, we have to turn off and shut down and that's okay. So, thank you for being here. Thank you for listening to me. Uh, this is a safe space for you and I appreciate you allowing me to have that same, same, that same safe space as well. And, uh, together, it feels, it feels dismissive to say we're going to get through this, but I truly, truly mean that. It's not gaslighting. It is truly from the bottom of my heart. The support is here. I am here. We are here, the Inbetween community is here, and um, no matter where this road goes, we're all together. So, thank you. Um, but in other news, uh, Like I said, this week's been a little, um, just not ideal for a lot of people, a lot of things. And because of that, I have been in my feels. If you can't tell, I am all cozied up. If you're watching this on YouTube, yeah, your girl did it. Another week, another week on video. I did the dang thing. I'm proud of myself. Um, you know what? And I also have to humble brag on my setup. Nothing like a halo light from Amazon, a nice tripod from Amazon, and a good mic. And an iPhone 13. And that is, voila! The, uh, the, the beauty that is the in between podcast technical setup. Uh, so, woo hoo! That's awesome right there. Um, you, not sure if you can really tell from here, but, uh, over the weekend, I decided at 11. 30pm, I was going to organize, or should I say reorganize my bookshelf. That is the background here. I did it color coordinated, and now that I'm like looking at the screen, I can tell that you honestly can't really tell at all. Maybe you can kind of tell like on my right the black and white colors, but anyways, I digress. I reorganized my bookshelf, and it felt very good to do it. It felt like, you know, marking off a to do list item. I mean, it was a to do, uh, to do, gosh, wow. Cannot get those words out. It was a to do list item. Been there for, um, an undisclosed amount of weeks, but no one's judging here, and, uh, I did it, and it felt great. Don't know why I'm pointing with you with my pen. Anyways, I'm gonna calm down and put the pen down. However, I organized a bookshelf, and let me tell you something. Well, actually, I think I've told you this before. But. There is something about a change in your space. Now, I've mentioned this before, I thrive when it comes to the fall and the winter. As you can see, if you're watching this, I have a pumpkin next to me. I mean, look at how fall I am, y'all. This is fall, y'all. The Inbetween Podcast loves fall. Yeah. I just kissed my pumpkin. Is that weird? Is that weird? Um, okay. Well, this is moving forward. So anyways, fall y'all, change in space, change in weather. I just, it's, fall represents a change. Always has to me. I used to like be terrified of it despite loving the weather. Now, I embrace the change. I need the change. I really do. I really need the change. So, changing my space, making it feel more organized. Me and Stan got a storage unit for right now until we do figure out this whole house thing, which I'll get into in a moment. Um, but, I don't know, cleaning up, getting rid of some clutter, getting rid of stuff that I've been holding on to that I don't need anymore, cleaning and organizing my bookshelf. I don't know. It just made me feel good, made me feel very accomplished, made me feel that I am figuring out this thing called life. And it also helped ease my anxiety of the clutter because I have acknowledged that clutter gives me anxiety. Now, if you were to come into my apartment, would it be crystal clear and clean? No, it would not. But... It's not that it's a mess. Just know that when we get a house, it might be that crystal clean. I just need everything to have a place. That's all I'm asking for. I don't need my trash to be so clean you could actually eat my trash. I just want things to have a place. Is that too much to ask for? Does that make me crazy? Maybe it does. Maybe you identify. But either way, moral of the story, organizing your bookshelf. Highly recommend. It's going to give you a high that I cannot explain. It's a high that no drug or alcohol could give you. Although I was drinking an Aperol spritz, but that's neither here nor there. And you know what I just realized? I started this episode on a serious tone, which was absolutely necessary and warranted. However, I'm a super rude host and I didn't even ask you guys, how are you doing? Are you, hopefully you're doing okay, I, I, for as okay as you, I guess you can be right now. Uh, I hope that you had a great last week. I hope you're not navigating any major in betweens that are just... Um, at the lowest of the low, um, hopefully they're all at the highest of the high, but if they are at the lowest of the low or even just all over the place, understand that you are amazing. You are valued. You are important. You are supposed to be here and I'm so glad you're listening. So there's my, my really delayed intro, but anyways, uh, so I mentioned clean space storage, all that hoopla. Um, I'm also just like, besides the obvious fact, ready to be out of this apartment. I'm just tired of running into strangers. I know that sounds super weird. I love people, I don't mind that, but like when you live in an apartment, wow, I just realized that the way I'm about to open this is about to sound really crazy. So, you know, you live in an apartment, you're around a bunch of people and strangers. I don't really know my neighbors. Um, I mean, if I, certain neighbors I see quite often, we'll do the occasional like, hey, you know, you kind of like do a little wave, a little smile, a little head nod, if you will. That's fine. That's great. I love that kind of minimal contact. Um, but just as an awkward Pet peeve. And this kind of thing is also what makes me question whether or not I am a true extrovert. I think sometimes I mask myself to seem like a true extrovert because everyone just expects me to be an extrovert. But I actually think that I am introverted in some ways. COVID and my major depression really brought that out. I still get charged by people, but is it possible to be an extrovert introvert or introvert extrovert? I don't even mean like an introverted extrovert. But or maybe I am that I don't know I would love somebody who understands the science of this if this is even what you Would call science, but I digress so talking about just running into people I guess I just need to explain myself that I do love people But sometimes I don't and there's nothing that that person did I just don't want the social contact Anyways Let's get to the point here Liz. Geez. Hope you're following my story So, I don't mind the occasional head nod, like, you know, Hey, what's up neighbor? I don't know your name, but I see you all the time. I see you take out your trash. You've probably heard me, you know, ooh and ahh from my pup in some silly fashion, so that's fine. I can handle that. But it's like, walking down the breezeway, walking down the hallway of your building. And then there's somebody walking, and you guys have like a lot of distance between you, right? Like, they are 20 feet ahead, and you're like, oh God, here they come. And you don't know what to do with your eyes. And maybe you guys are normal, and you're not like me, and overthinking these kind of interactions. But as we're walking up, I'm like, oh gosh, they're getting closer. Do I make eye contact? Do I not make eye contact? What do I do in this situation? Uh, and then like at the very last minute, I dart my eyes up and it's like, Oh, hey, and you kind of smile and I don't mind the smile. I don't mind the eye contact right there at the moment. It is the leading up to that moment that I come and glued on the inside. It is that moment leading up to it that I'm like, Oh my God, what I do with my eyes? Do I look down? And then I think, be confident, Liz, be confident. But then something just feels very. alien about just looking forward and not acknowledging the fact that there is a body coming up the other way next to you. But then if I look at them while I'm walking towards them, that's kind of creepy. So I do not know what to do with my eyes. Leading up to that moment is honestly, just very demoralizing sometimes. Hey, I have like a extreme internal conflict with myself and we're talking all the matter of like maybe seven seconds. So welcome to my brain. Welcome to my mind. Uh, it is fun most of the time, but sometimes it's terrifying. So we're just quite unusual, but anybody else? Anybody else? Is that just a me thing? Is that just something I should ask my therapist about? I'm just kidding, but... Anywho, wow, we kind of went all over the place there. So, don't know if that's an introvert, extrovert, extrovert, introvert, awkward human. I have issues. I don't even know. I don't even know. Do you just stare at people? Do you just look ahead and just ignore them on the peripherals? Because then if you do that and you just like own your place, you own looking forward, you're just gonna be a strong person just walking looking forward. Then what happens if they look at you to do the smile? You know, the nice acquaintance smile. Then you're a dick. Then you're an asshole. And then if you look down, you are, you're not confident. So I don't know. Either way I look at it, it's a lose lose for me. So, would love your thoughts. Would love your thoughts. So back to the house. So, okay, well, why do we need the house? Well, because apparently I came and walked down my damn hallway without having like, I don't know, a minor anxiety attack. So, Oh Lord, good times. Good times. But the house, I think I mentioned this a few weeks ago and you know what, to be completely honest with myself, I think I've mentioned this several times on the pod the past year and a half. We're going to start the house hunt. We're going to start the house hunt and then it doesn't go anywhere because well, the house hunt is extremely overwhelming for anybody who has not done it yet. Just letting you know, and let me tell you something, I've barely tapped, I barely, I barely touched the tip of the iceberg. You know what I mean? Now, my friends who have bought houses, all of my listeners who have bought houses, especially in like recent times, it is, it is crazy. It is crazy out there. So we got pre approved. The interest rate wasn't as high as I was expecting, but I was also expecting like eight something. So don't. Don't get all overly positive. It was still pretty high. I was over seven, but there's, if there's one thing I can say about all of this, it's kind of crazy. All the things that can contribute to a mortgage or an interest rate or your whatever. And then how also so many things don't actually help you. So I know I'm kind of speaking cryptically here, but part of it's just cause I'm kind of learning how this works. All this to say. We're about to start this process. We've been pre approved as of like yesterday and I am not sure what to expect. I am sure you're going to get lots of updates on the in between. Maybe I should just make an episode about, I don't know, real estate. Okay. That's actually a great plug for me to once again, remind, I really want to finance person on this podcast. So if you have any suggestions, I would love them now, but anyways, uh, uh, the house hunt is. Okay. We're just going to see. At least now, this is, this is the good thing. At least now we know what we're dealing with. We know what our house price should be based on what we're going to put down and based on what our monthly payment can be. Like what we're comfortable with. And you kind of have to have a little bit of wiggle room and you have to factor in all these other things. Um, but, Or not even a but, I was going to say with that, but I was going to say, at least now we have a full picture, and at least for someone like me, who normally has a thousand things going on in my mind at any given moment, and always needs that tether to the ground for something, especially if it's something that my brain cannot quite wrap its head around like this whole buying a house thing, it's good to see the framework. The lender we're going to use, she is fantastic, she listed like She gave us this whole diagram and chart and I don't know, I can't even explain it to you on the podcast right now, but it made sense and it made me feel, it made me feel rooted in this. It made me feel a little less like, what in the hell am I doing? What in the hell are we going to do? And what in the hell is the first step? Because now I feel like I have a game plan. I have a finish line ish. At least like a rough draft of a path to the finish line. And again, like I mentioned, there's so many things I can factor into this and factor into that. And if you can find a home that the, the seller will buy down your rate and this and this. That could change things a little bit. It's crazy. It is absolutely crazy. But, before you get overwhelmed, assuming you're about to start this process or you're considering it. Um, just know that there are people out there, lenders, realtors that are supposed to make your life easier and just expect that from them, demand it from them. And if they don't give it to you, then find someone else because let me tell you, we talked to a couple of different lenders and not one of them gave us this kind of framework. Not one of them literally walked us down the aisle like this. Not one of them held our hand the way that this, this person's doing. Shout out to Shannon Bradshaw at BankSouth because, uh, you're making this very scary journey just a little bit more approachable, which I don't know if that's the right word to describe that, but it is what it is. So now the in between just turned into a business and finance podcast. Just kidding. Uh, First off, disclaimer, do not come to me for financial advice. I am the one seeking financial advice. That's also not to say that I'm a hot mess with the expenses, but that is to say that your girl is newer to the whole like Budget and actually following the budget and not just like flying by the seat of her pants. If you haven't caught on, I'm trying to do less flying by the seat of my pants this year and more buckled and set up for success. So, less loosey goosey, more tidy, whitey. Ew, that was really bad, wasn't it? That was really bad. I, I regret saying that. I regret saying that. You know what's funny is I technically could have edited that out, but You know, sometimes you just need it for comedic value. So, um, but anyways, oh my goodness, so where else are we? Um, the Braves are in the playoffs, if that's what they're called right now. We went to the Braves game on Monday. It was a good time. It was a great time. However, Braves not doing so good. So hopefully when this episode comes out tomorrow, they're going to win that game because... Well, then they're kind of just SOL, they're out. Also, side note, side note, very shocked that I'm an actual Braves fan. Not that the Braves aren't good. No, I just mean baseball. I just mean sports in general. Do I still call the uniforms costumes from time to time in an embarrassing fashion? I sure do and I catch myself as soon as I do it, but I still say it because to me, what you may call a uniform, I call a costume. That's just the life I lived before this moment. All right, once a theater girl, always a theater girl. All right, I am a former actress, would still love to act but That's a whole like box of worms. Maybe one day I'll unpack. Let me unpack the trauma of when I tried to be an actress. I kind of touched on it on the weirdest cool episode last summer. So if you would like to kind of hear a very short, short like retelling of that story, go check out that episode with my girlfriend, Ashlyn, my acting buddy, Ashlyn. But anyways, I digress. Braves, four more theater girl worlds collide. My husband's super happy and I actually understand it. Um, but anyways. Don't get your hopes up for football, or soccer, or basketball, or God, golf. Even though I went to a golf tournament, I didn't actually watch the golf tournament. I was more just drinking and going to the swag store, because that's what I do. Like, if I played golf, I'd be in the golf cart, driving it. I wouldn't actually play. Anyways, I do like the Olympics, does that count? Does that make me kind of sporty? Just know that in the case of the Spice Girls, I was not sporty Spice. I was every other one but Sporty Spice. Have you ever told you the story about how when I went to basketball camp in 7th grade, which my mother forced me to go to because she's like, you're tall and you have broad shoulders, like you have the body for a basketball player. And I'm just like, I have never played basketball in my entire life. I was 13, yeah, 13. It was middle school, 7th grade. I went to this two week basketball camp. And I jammed every finger in my hand. If you're watching this right now, it was like crab, like crab claws. I had tape on the last two fingers, then my, uh, index finger and middle finger on both hands looking like crabs. Because I kept jamming my fingers. Um, so because of that and also because, well, I am not a basketball player, I never really made a goal, but I learned that because I'm tall and I have long, long freaking arms, I'm good at blocking. So guess who they put on defense? Crab Claws, and by the end of the two weeks, I got most improved player. I am sure that was them just, I don't know, feeling bad at the fact that I was so incredibly bad and awkward that I kept jamming my fingers. And they kind of went down one by one. So it's not like I jammed all of them all at once. No, no, no, no, no. It was like one little piggy went down. Two little piggy went down, three little piggy went down. And by the end of it, I just was all taped. That was pretty embarrassing. And my mom was so proud of me for winning most improved player. I don't even know if it was most improved player. It was something. It was something. It's because your girl found her strength. And you know what? I say this story, not even to realize a great way to bridge this into what may be a weakness. There may be strength there too. What you think is a weakness? What you may come to a situation thinking you're gonna be weak or it's gonna be a weakness, or you're not gonna succeed. You kind of more or less set yourself up to fail. Is that your mindset? Uhuh. There is strength to be found. There is strength within the weakness. Um, it's interesting. Did not think that my crab claw seventh grade basketball. Camp experience would, would be able, would be the thing that takes me to this next point in the conversation, but speaking of finding strength within the weakness or view, you know, just kind of reshifting your mindset against something that you view as a weakness that ultimately could be your strength. Um, tomorrow, remember I talked about this being, uh, recorded and filmed in, uh, real time. So tomorrow, I'm actually, I was asked to join the women's panel, uh, employee resource group at my company. Um, I'm going to be a panelist and to talk about neurodivergence as an adult, I am specifically talking from the lens of someone with ADHD and I'm going to talk about just, you know, More so how I have learned the most about my ADHD in my adult life and actually in recent years and how I am learning to cope with that and deal with it. And so today earlier I had a little coffee, you know, a virtual meeting with one of the DEI. Employees members who is coordinating this who's also going to be a co panelist with me. She's fantastic. I want to have her on the pod. Her name's Alex. Oh, you guys would love her. But anyways, we were talking about the presentation and kind of what I needed to put together. Apparently I have to put slides together and I'm like, what am I going to put on a slide? Like. Hi, I'm Elizabeth and I have ADHD. I don't even know. It's so awkward. So awkward. Um, but I'll figure it out. Maybe that's me admitting that I've been procrastinating, but either here nor there, no one's judging. Right. But anyways, uh, we were just talking about the questions and basically you kind of talk about what is your superpower. Then you talk about what it's like, your experience with this neurodivergence and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then taking questions at the end and then having closing thoughts. So when I was talking to her, she was asking me questions like, you know, what's, what was being a big lesson you've learned, how have you learned to deal with this in the workplace, and that's establishing better boundaries, not being afraid to advocate for myself, um, like, for example, I, I am really, really tight. I'm a great project manager. I'm smart. I am the ultimate creative problem solver. I love complex issues. It's like a puzzle that I'm just ready to get my hands on. However, I do not respond well when you come at me with like 17 things in one breath. That will absolutely overwhelm me. And for the longest time, I used to think, well, Elizabeth, you seem to get it together. Like, these people can handle it, why can't you? Well, fun fact, not really anybody can handle that. Uh, it just was a little, just a little bit crazy. It's being delegated by somebody who maybe is a little unorganized themselves. So, long story short here, I learned to put boundaries in place and say, hey, hey, wait, can you slow down for one moment? So you just said, okay, one, two, three. All right, cool, cool, cool. Okay, and then what was the second thing? It was blah, blah, B, C, D, E. Okay, okay, okay, cool. Um, okay, so let's get back into, um, T, U, V, W, X, and then we can hit Y, Z at the end. Taking control of the situation that fits my needs, because I'm going to tell you one thing. It's gonna go in one ear, and then it's just going to be chaos. It's not even gonna go out the other ear. It's just gonna get convoluted, and I'm gonna mix point A with point B because well, you just gave it to me on one breath. So with that said, we were talking about, you know, like I said, coping with it in the workplace and in life and blah blah blah blah blah, and so I said to Alex, I think the biggest thing that I've learned about myself, like the biggest lesson and biggest offering that I could give to somebody who may be experiencing this, or struggles with it themselves, is understand what you may view as a weakness you judge, you judge yourself for. Maybe others have made you feel small, uh, for, for before. That's happened to me, um, just because. I don't know, I wasn't, it's not even about meeting expectations, but everyone has different learning styles, everyone has different needs, and unfortunately some people can't even acknowledge their own blind spots and can't acknowledge their own shortcomings in certain things. But the main point being is recognizing what I thought was a weakness, a setback, is actually a strength. Um, and I, I, I view that way with a lot of my stuff, my stuff being, I guess my mental health issues. Oh, goodness gracious. You know what I mean? I mean, such as my anxiety. Sometimes it drives me absolutely crazy. Most of the time it drives me absolutely crazy, but I feel like my anxiety. Even be, even though I've, I've learned more to control it and I have better, much better systems in place and things to kind of de spiral the spiral, so to speak. I also am very deep. I'm empathetic I feel like I really have a grasp on the complexity of what it is to be human. Do I have all the answers? That is not what I'm saying, so do not, do not misconstrue. I just mean... Actually, on that example, I may not know, but I'm always going to be open to listen and to hear. Because I've overthought every single thing in my life at some point, I feel like I am able to see things from so many different angles and different perspectives. And I'm not saying that sometimes I don't pop off or get some kind of way about something, but I, I do find that I can bring a grounding, a sense of middle ground. And a lot of situations, even if not at first, it will come around eventually. Um, and in this example of ADHD, specifically in this conversation, yes, sometimes I feel insane. Like where I feel like I have so much I have to do, and I have a to do list that's a mile long, and if I don't do everything right now, then it's not going to happen, and I'm a failure. Oh, yeah. And I still work on that inner narrative, I'm not going to lie. But... The strength that comes from it is I am able to juggle multiple things at a time. And before you say, well, that's not always like healthy, Liz. I have also established boundaries from other people, but also within myself when I am juggling too much. Case in point this week, I just did not have it in me to record this week's episode because I was so heavy. My heart was so heavy and I took a beat. I took the moment that I needed. I took a pause from social media today, which was very important because I think I was starting to spiral a little bit. And I did the pod on my time when I needed to do it. Now, I'm sure down the line when I have sponsors on this thing, they're not going to be as keen on that. But then maybe they will because I am authentically me and I'm always going to be honest and straightforward with you guys. Um, so what I thought was a weakness is actually a strength. I am I think being able to process multiple layers of information at any given moment has also helped me be a better project manager, a better, um, complex thinker. I am able to see super puzzled situations at work, uh, things that need to be fixed, and I can see high level and I can come up with a really good game plan to make it work for everybody or find that common ground or the most efficient way possible. I am, again, not saying I have all the answers, but I am just trying to showcase once you change your lens and look at things from a different perspective, what you may view as a weakness is actually a strength. And I think there's power in that. It gives us back our own power within ourselves, which is the most important thing. Believe in yourself and literally the world is your oyster. Love yourself. Believe in yourself. Trust yourself. That's all you need. Trust in yourself. Have self worth, have self confidence. It all ties in together. What's more important? All of it. I'm not going to pinpoint one. It's all important. Make sure you know that you're worth it. Make sure you know that you're worthy. And yeah, we all have weaknesses and there's times where these things that I'm saying there is strength in there that, well, the weakness side comes out. Because I am mother effing human and I make mistakes and I absolutely spiral. But I can also stop. I can also get back on the horse. I can also check myself and, uh, start over. Try again. There's always a new day. There's always a new hour. There's always a new month. However you want to look at it, there is always a new beginning. I mean, shit, the new beginning can happen in a day. Who said that, well, this day is a loss at lunch when things didn't work out your way? No. Easier said than done. I, I will give you that. But, it's all about perspective. And the more you check in with yourself, the more you skew that perspective when it starts to falter, the easier it gets, the easier it gets. And then also, even when you do need those moments and those breaks like I did this week, You're a little less harsh on yourself. Now, I say that to you, and that is not to say that earlier, like yesterday, when I was scrolling and I saw all these other people's content and things, I was like, why can't I be posting right now? All these other people are posting, they're all posting stories and talking about this, and sure, they're acknowledging the situation, but they're also, like, posting their, their job, or their, their content, whatever you want to call it. I judge myself a little bit, but then I said, but you know what, I just got to do me Work's been a little crazy. Work's got a lot of stuff going on right now. And, you know, with the house stuff and trying to figure all that out. Luna, taking her to all of these vet appointments like twice every two weeks is just kind of crazy. It's just a lot. So, I guess all that rambling to say, we have moments of weakness, yes. but there's also moments of strength, and I'd be willing to bet there are more moments of strength and resilience than there is weakness. But weakness isn't bad. Weakness isn't negative. Weakness is vulnerability sometimes. Maybe we could interchange those words. I don't necessarily mean weakness as a negative thing at all, plus, I don't know. What may start off as weak can become strong. Ooh, ever thought about that? So, no matter where you're weak right now in your life, understand with enough work, labor towards it, whatever it is, you will get stronger. I mean, think about working out. If you keep lifting weights, eventually, yeah, you're going to be ripped. There's no denying that. Apparently, there is science behind that. So if you take that idea and apply it to whatever it is in this sense for you, think of it as a muscle. It's got to flex it. Well, that is about all she wrote for this week's In Between. I really appreciate you all listening to me this week, or watching me. Remember, humble plug, if you would like to watch me on YouTube, it's the Inbetween Podcast in Dash Between. Um, but, I appreciate this community, I appreciate this, this media form. I really do love it. And, being able to just come out here and be open and raw and, Just spell my life out for you and hoping that you are either giggling or at least resonating some partial way through it. That just brings me so much joy. So thank you for being here. Um, and I would love it if you're enjoying the show to leave me a five star rating. If you're not subscribed or following the show, you can do so on any major platform, Apple, Spotify, all of the things. You know, it's funny as I thought it didn't really help you when it comes up in, in results, but. Fun fact, it does. It absolutely does. So, would love it if you would leave your girls some love. Um, and you know, hey, if we start getting enough traction here, I might start doing some shout outs. Mm hmm, mm hmm. So, there you go. 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That's where you're gonna see all my laugh updates and just keep up with me on the daily and then the podcast end up between POD for all podcast updates and things like that. And then if you are in the TikTok, the, to, to, to toss. Wow. Okay. That was weird. Uh, I'm the in between podcast on there, so. Hey, we are all in this together, whatever this is. Oh, I know, life. We are all human. Um, just have some compassion. Have love. You may not necessarily have to understand all of the, the angles of something, but you can still offer compassion and love. And that's how I want to leave today's message. So, I love you, and I want you to give yourself a hug. So, squeeze yourself a little tight and remind yourself that you are amazing, you are worth every single thing, you are meant to be here, and I am so glad we found each other. So thank you so much. I will see you next week for an all new InBetween. Without further ado, this is Elizabeth Cheney signing off. Ciao!