In-Between: Putting All Your Eggs Into YOUR Basket

I know they say not to put all your eggs in one basket, but sometimes it's necessary. On this week's in-between, I'm talking about betting on you and putting said eggs all in the YOU basket. I'm also chatting about daylight savings time, upcoming collabs, why open enrollment and health insurance are a joke, and my first time experience with a Thai massage. Sometimes we need to treat ourselves and shouldn't' feel guilty about it. Join me on another in-between where I'm encouraging you to show up for yourself because life is hard enough already, make sure to love yourself in the process. 

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Hello, and welcome back to the In Between Podcast. I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney, and I hope you all are just doing dandy, doing fabulous, having the best day ever. I hope this message finds you well. Yes, that was an email greeting, but hey, no one's judging here at the In Between. Ah, another week. And since we lost spoke, we have shifted gears in terms of timing, daylight savings time, which again, I think that's what it's called. To be honest, I can't remember what, like the two different time. Things are called. I almost said time zones, but that's not correct. I think this is Daylight Savings. Correct me if I'm wrong. And if I'm wrong, this is about to be a little funny and a little awkward because I'm about to talk about it for a second. But, anywho, yes. Daylight savings time is upon us. What that means is it's brighter in the morning and it gets dark very, very early. And I do believe most of the human population, at least here, prefers the latter, prefers the, the other time thing. Again, what is it? Like time change? Time change. That's probably the better way to, to, uh, articulate this. However, as you all know, your girl is a little bit of an oddball. I like the cold. I like the darker months, the darker times. Um, I'm thriving. So the fact that it gets dark early, ooh, yes, I love it. I love it. I don't know why. I think it's because, at least for me and my goals, a lot of my things that I'm working on right now require focus time, focus energy, not, no distractions, and long, long daylight distracts me because you want to go outside, you want to play, um, I don't know, something mentally makes me feel like I can't just cozy up my office and work on stuff. I don't know, it's, I mean, it's definitely me, definitely mental, but it's, I love Daylight Savings Time because I don't mind it getting brighter in the morning. I really don't because I'd rather it be, it be darker in the evening. I tend to get more done. Um, I don't know. Like I said, it's, it's kind of, it's kind of weird. And you know, another thing that I love about Daylight Savings Time is I always feel like I'm one step ahead because you keep expecting it to be 630 PM, but it's actually 530 PM, therefore you actually have more time in the day than you thought you did. So for me, daylight savings time is just a continual feeling of being a one step ahead. And you know what? I will take all that I can in terms of that, that, that mindset, because well, life is Fuckin hard. Who's gonna argue with that? But anyways, daylight savings time. I know a lot of people are off on their routines like schedules, sleep schedules, things like that. I know my dog is like, uh, bitch, I'm hungry. It is 4 a. m. honey. You're not getting fed right now. So, Simma down. Simma down. Which, side note, recording this, I'm recording this Tuesday, comes out tomorrow, Wednesday. Today is my dog's birthday. She's 7 on the 7th. So, Simma down. Snaps for Luna! Uh, people have been asking how she's doing. She's doing a lot better. Um, honestly, all that we are worrying about now and having to deal with really is just all of the beautiful side effects of the steroids. And I say beautiful extremely sarcastically. So, you can just gauge how that's coming, right? Right. But, Daylight Savings Time, I know, I'm sure my friends with kids and my listeners with kids, I'm sure your lives are a little upside down, topsy turvy, but, hang in there! It's going to be okay. Maybe, maybe what I said about viewing it as like one step ahead is going to help you. And maybe I'm putting my foot in my mouth by saying that. I have no idea because I don't have kids. I don't know how crazy this, this time change is in that, in that kind of household. So, um, but I love it. I love it. I mean, everyone on my team is complaining about it. Everybody, I think everybody but me is complaining about it. So unless you're a fellow, a fellow daylight savings. Um, Don't at me. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I do like it. I do like it. I mean, think about it. I only get this time change like four months. You guys get the long, long, bright, sunny days for most of the year. Let me have my four months. Okay? Okay. And I was listening to a podcast. I was talking about this and it was talking about some, I don't even know how these surveys quote unquote surveys are done, but it was like, Oh, we like they estimated some sort of Some firm did a survey that was like, Businesses lose XYZ millions of dollars in productivity with delight savings time, and I'm like, What? What are you measuring that by? That seems like a very, very broad survey with like, how do you detail that? The spectrum just seems like pretty, pretty, pretty far from the different angles. So I don't really know, but maybe there's some truth to it. Either way, I will sit here and daylight savings time and enjoy my life and you can either join me or, you know, you can, you can, I don't know. I don't know where I was going to go with that, but I, I love it. And one more thing to add to the whole daylight savings conversation. So, I actually heard this on the podcast I was just referencing, and not that I didn't think about this before, but it's also probably safer for kids to go to school when it's not really dark outside. So, you know, there's just, there's just more, there's more, uh, there's more light in the morning. That was a really bad cheesy metaphor. Anyways, so basically it's safer with the daylight in the morning, um, and that's just, that's the way the cookie crumbles. I'm sorry. I'm sorry to say. I'm just sorry to say it. Uh, I only, I'm only saying this because I feel like everybody but me feels this way. So anywho, anywho, uh, daylight savings time. There we go. So we are getting, we are into November. Can you believe it? Thanksgiving is like in a few weeks. Kind of, kind of crazy to think about actually. And, you know, I am full steam ahead and betting on myself. Like I told you guys in that what three quarter of the year check in that I'm working on my goals, this and this, that and that. Now that the time has changed, you know, I'm feeling a little bit more motivated. Like, and again, you know what? Side note. It is also that mental, that mental, that mentality of I'm one step ahead because the time makes me feel like it's later, but it's actually not. I'm telling you, like if you kind of shift to your perspective on it, maybe that might help you embrace it more. I don't know. Uh, wishful thinking, wishful thinking. But, um, I am betting on myself I have, uh, I could told you a couple of cool collaborations coming up. Collaborations. Well, you know what I mean. Having some guests come on the pod. I am meeting with somebody on Friday who I'm definitely going to have her on the podcast at some point, but, um, she's going to help me with my website and some other type marketing business things. So that's exciting to think about. yeah, so, oh, oh, oh, and I went to this, uh, panel last week. Um, just kind of an intro to it, I guess, which I didn't realize I needed an even more elementary intro into it. This was more like, I would say mid to senior level career. I am more like just fresh out of college entry level when it comes to personal finances. I'm kind of joking. I mean, I'm not that bad. Like when I say bad, I mean like knowledgeable. I'm not. That ignorant when it comes to it, but if you were to tell me, like, what bullish and bearish means, I could not tell you. I'm like, they're both aggressive animals, so what does it mean if a market is bullish and a market is bearish? Great question. I would love to know the answer myself. Like I said, if you told me to go buy a stock, I would just look at you like, I don't know what that means. Like. Where do you buy stocks? Do you just go buy a single stock? Like, do you say, oh, Amazon. I'm gonna buy a stock of Amazon. Don't know why I said Amazon because, psh, why would they need any more stocks bought? Probably because they make a lot of money. I don't know. Again, I don't know what I'm talking about, but, that point being, there was a couple of people there, they're panelists, and I'm gonna, you know, shoot my shot. Hey, we're living in that delusional girl era, that do loo loo life, and I'm gonna shoot my shot and see about having one of them come on. Um, I mean, it does help that, I was checking out her bio and she loves empowering women, uh, to, to know and understand their financial freedom, financial life. So I'm like, Hmm, something tells me our missions align. So we'll see. I'm manifesting it right now. I'm going to shoot my shot and see if I get her on. I'm not even going to name her because this could be really creepy if it doesn't work out. But just know that your girl is, is put it out there. I may have found my financial person. And I think that she would be great on this podcast, helping all of us understand what the hell we're doing and how to save money and what is a 401k versus a Roth IRA and what is bearish and bullish mean, you know, um, I won't even, we might just need to stop there. You know what I mean? Like there's just so many layers to financial intelligence and financial freedom. Sure. But just knowing what to do. Like, I mean, for example, Not that this has anything to do with finances, but just in terms of like WTFs. Health insurance. Right now is open enrollment time at my company. I'm sure if you work for a company that offers health benefits because it's not universal here in America. You're probably going through something similar and not even worth mentioning the stress. That my open enrollment window was XYZ Elemental P and then my husband's open enrollment window is like a whole week after, okay? So my company, uh, I'm not gonna turn this into a shit talking of my company because I have more tech than that. But I'm just gonna say that they did us dirty this year with benefits, like, haha, big time. And the stuff went up. Stuff meaning the premium, the price, everything. My husband's company, they pay for his benefits. So I wanted to look at the difference in the, the provider network, all of that. And to see like, is it, is it better for me to get on his, I mean, I knew it was going to be cheaper, but is it crap benefits? Right, right, right. So, I've been harassing him to get any kind of paperwork he can and like, I don't know, companies are just tight lipped about this stuff. So thankfully, I was able to like get my open enrollment window extended by like two days. So, I could look at some paperwork that his benefits team finally sent him. His open enrollment doesn't even start for another week. So, that was fun. Did a bunch of numbers, uh, cratching, you know, crunching this, this, and this. It worked out that I'm gonna do his plan because it's gonna be a lot more cost efficient for us And it's pretty much the same coverage, but these are the things I just want to call out in terms of bullshit So I've I've kind of talked about barely talked but the whole housing market search how it all works It's all just it's set up against you. I'm starting to feel like insurance is the same mother effin thing. So First off why the hell is vision and dental separate from the rest of your body? Like, last time I checked, your teeth were a bone. So why, uh, your eyes are, is that an organ? I actually don't know if that's an organ. I'm assuming that's an organ. I don't know. If not, what is it? Body part? But is it body? All right. Well, I just, uh, I just definitely showed you guys how smart I was in paying attention to, like, biology and life science in, in, in high school and, and anatomy. But I, uh, I, I don't understand why in America we, we view that differently. And maybe that's every country. I have no idea. But... Something tells me it's probably just America, because money, somehow, it's all connected. But then, you know, when I was going through all of my company's stuff, and waiving the medical, the medical insurance, why the hell is like hospitalization, accidents, all these other medical things, separate, wha? It's all just horseshit. It's all just horseshit. What is an FSA? What is an HSA? I don't know. I don't know. Um, I mean, I do know what they stand for, but like I don't truly understand like what the heck. Well, I guess I kind of understand what an HSA is, but whatever. I digress. Point being, you have to pay all this money for shit coverage and Still, you have to pay even additional to like the shit coverage of the medical for all the other medical needs that maybe don't fit the box of your actual medical insurance. Did I lose you? Good, because that's the point I'm trying to make. This shit makes your head spin. It makes no freaking sense. God, it makes you want to get on a soapbox to start talking about that and big pharma and all of it. But, oh, and on top of all that, fertility stuff's not included. That's like a separate thing that maybe if you're frickin lucky your company buys into. So, again, all of this medical health care stuff that's not part of your insurance plan. I love that. I love that for me. I love that for us. So... Yeah, if you're listening and you, you understand benefits, how they work, insurance plans, all that, the 411, and how it's not a system rigged against us, I'd love to have you on and talk about it. Bring better reputation to health insurance in America. Give health insurance, health coverage in America, the fighting chance it deserves. Bullshit. We know it's not that. Unless you work for some sick ass company, most benefits suck. So... On that. And I'm not trying to be pessimistic, I mean, I am very, very grateful that I have health coverage. Because so many people don't. Because, well, this country doesn't believe in universal healthcare. Because the rich people need to stay rich, right, right. Uh, but, I am just gonna call it out that it's complete horse crap. It is. It is. Like again, there was like 20 different things to sign up for that were in addition to your health coverage. And I'm just like, but this is health coverage, why is it separate? Because all those little things start to add up. Oh, you think it's just 5 here, 10 here. But then, by the time you get done tackling it all, it's still like an additional 70 plus on your bi weekly check. So multiply that by two. And that's your monthly payout to it. It's just... All I have to say is if I had stayed on my company's health insurance plan, I was going to be paying over 500 a month on health insurance. And it wasn't even good. It was basic. And it doesn't even cover everything. Because I wasn't going to sign up for every friggin thing. Sigh. So, that's fun. But you know what? At least it's Daylight Savings Time. Laughter. And like I said, if you're like almost everybody else but myself, you're probably like, damn Liz, double whammy on the negative. Screw Daylight Savings, and screw Open Enrollment. I don't know why we're starting things off so feisty and so negative, but uh, don't worry, we're good. We're good. We're still thriving. Let's go back to talking about more positive things. So, betting on myself, as you should all too, um, you know, gosh. I am always plagued with am I wasting my time with the podcast, chasing this dream, fulfilling this dream, going after this dream, this goal to, to make this what I know it can be. And even though I do not have the path to get there, it's like pure blind faith in myself, which saying that out loud makes me feel slightly crazy. But I'm also like. But, what else do I have other than that? I mean, sure you get validated by other people, by reviews. Hint, hint. Love those reviews. Send them my way. Give me some reviews on your favorite listening platform. But, jokes aside, it doesn't matter what people say. Good or bad. I mean, it does matter, what I mean. But, like, you have to be able to validate yourself. So, Of course I struggle with thinking I am just being a dummy and trying to be a little podcaster and a content creator and spread that love and humor entertainment and the fast facts about open enrollment to you guys. But there is a level of like kind of putting all my eggs in this basket. I mean there's certain things that I've sacrificed because I'm focusing on this. Um, but, you know, It's not called faith because it's, it's uh, certain, right? Faith is, I don't know the true Webster's Dictionary of faith, but it's, you gotta have faith. You gotta just trust the process. You gotta trust in yourself. and you know, I think the hardest part of that is the trusting in yourself. And it's like, that's the sad part. Like, why is that the hardest part? Trusting in yourself. And, you know. It is a wave, right? Like there's some times that I'm feeling great, there's some times I'm not doing great. I think we can all relate to that. But I, for the remaining of the year, I'm choosing to bet on myself. I told you guys like three quarter check in. I'm trying to get these goals done. I'm trying to work on the website and these cool connections and collaborations, shooting my shot with some different podcasts, which I've already done. And I've gotten some good, good answers. So I think there'll be some collaborations in my future. Shoot my shot with guests. I got Dr. Bhavna Singh coming on. We're gonna talk about holistic health and your gut health and hormone health and fertility. I'm going to have like the girl I said this, uh, meeting up with Friday, I'm going to have her come on the pod. She is a badass marketing entrepreneur, runs her own marketing firm and she's killing it, traveling the world, doing the damn thing. So it's like, let me get a note from your notebook and like figure out how to apply that to my life. Right, right. So I got some cool people going on. I got some other cool people that I'm trying to pitch myself to. I've got some cool collaborations and that's great. I am, I'm doing it. I'm moving forward. So I'm betting on myself. And I am putting all my eggs in this basket, at least for right now, and I think that's okay. So I don't know who needs to hear this, but I'm telling you right now that if you've been struggling with a decision, especially when it comes to, to following your heart and your, your, your dreams and your goals and what you, like the life that you know you can get. The life that maybe you don't quite have, but the life that you can achieve. This is for you. Put all your eggs in the damn basket. If you have too many competing baskets. You're just going to, you're just, if you have so many baskets, the eggs are never going to get full. You're never going to have a full meal. So at some point you kind of do have to put all your eggs in that basket. And I want you to think of the basket as you. Oh, scary to think about, scary to even acknowledge that, admit that, you know what I mean? But it's worth it. And I am hoping that the more we put our eggs in all that same basket. It's going to feel better. It's going to be easier to do that. Um, but again, life is a little wave. Just kidding. It's not a little wave. It's a, it's a big wave. It's a, you know, if you've seen Clueless, like rolling with the homies, that's, that's basically life, rolling with the homies. If you heard it here first, there's, there's the wisdom for you this week. oN that note though, I, I was thinking to myself, you know what, I, I want to make a vision board. So talking about all this planning, betting on ourselves, I want to, I want to make a vision board. I feel like I say that every single year and I don't do it. Uh, I'm going to do it this year and I'm going to do it this year and I'm thinking Drumroll, please, about maybe having a little event. So if you're local to Atlanta, Atlanta area, I, you know, I'm probably going to be texting you, reaching out to you, being like, yo, you want to come, you want to come? But just like, I don't know, a get together. We can all talk about our goals, dreams, plans, whatever, whatever deep conversations you would like to talk about. And we can make vision boards. I can provide magazines, poster board, maybe bring your own poster board, but like scissors, glue, that kind of thing. Um, and if there is kind of an interest in it outside of people just from Atlanta, then maybe it could also be virtual. We could live stream it. We can all do it together because if you're anything like me, I do better together. Although I do do this podcast by myself. So that's pretty impressive. Uh huh. Let me just flip my hair back for you. But you know what I'm saying? Like plus arts and crafts are fun. It's like bringing back like elementary school, middle school, high school, maybe even college. You know what I mean? Just doing the, doing the craft things. So, yeah, look out for that on the Instagrams. Also look on the Instagrams because I'm going to be making some questions, some posts, some prompts for my upcoming guests. So I'd like your feedback, I'd like your insight, I'd like what, I want to know what you want to know. I want to know what you want to know. Like I said, especially with Dr. Bhavna, Dr. Bhavna Singh, she's going to, she's going to bring a plethora of knowledge that I think all of us really want to sponge and absorb. So, what are your questions? Send them my way at ndotbetweenpod. Uh, another thing to to mention, So remember how I was like, I got my planner! BRRRRRRRRR! Because I made a post. A lot of y'all wrote me, wrote me with like your suggestions. Uh, well. I got said planner. And, I'm not a fan. I honestly have no idea like why I got it considering how much I hate it. It's like, I'm like, did I confuse this with another one? But I'm like, no, because I nailed it down to like two and I was looking at them really closely. So I don't know what I liked about this one that made me get it, but I absolutely hate it. Um, hey, to each his own. So I'm not gonna shit on it, on the, the pod necessarily. If you really want to know, you can send me a message and I'll let you know. But what I don't like about it is each thing is like separate. So you have like a month section, then you have a week section, and then you have a day section. And they're all like, they're sectional versus it all being together. Like why is it like not a month, the weeks, the week, the day, the week, the day, the week, the day, right? And then the next month. Repeat, repeat, repeat. I don't like the fact that it's like in sections. I know this might make me sound mental, but when have I shied away from that? I do not like the fact that I'd have to flip from one section from the week to the day. Like, I want to be able to see my week ahead and then have to dos, focus points, notes, goal setting, like whatever the heck. I don't care, but I need to see the whole week. And the way they do their week, they don't even have like a Monday through Sunday or Saturday through Sunday. Like, it's It's like, all this weird goal setting stuff, and which I, maybe that's what made me think I should get it, but like, it's not... Mm. Me no likey. Me no likey. That's all I gotta say. I'm not a fan. So, back to the drawing board. So we are still in it with our post it notes. There's a lot of them on this desk. Uh, I mean, nothing's fallen through the cracks quite yet. But, I need to get this planner. Maybe... Maybe I shouldn't have put all my eggs in the planter basket. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. Um, but yeah, so, we're back to the planter board. The drawing board for the planner. If that makes any sense. That's okay. You win some, you lose some. And it is a shame, thankfully this wasn't like, I don't know, because sometimes planners be expensive. Like 50 something dollars and you're just like whoa there, you know what I mean? So, thankfully it wasn't like, it's not going to be a huge, a huge L in terms of my budget, but I mean. Honestly, if somebody needs a planner that is mediocre, I'm just kidding, it may work for some people, then I have one for you. Because I'd rather it not go to waste. But, yeah, I'm just not into it. I'm really not into it. I'm not. That's okay. That's okay. Um, but anyways, you win some, like I said, and then you, you lose some. So, uh, I want to share a funny story that happened over the weekend, um, and then we'll kind of get back into a little bit of goal stuff and then we'll close things out for today's episode. How's that sound? Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Okay. So, you know, I've been complaining a lot or I didn't want to use the word complaining because that makes me feel negative and it messes with my mental state on this. But. We talked about chronic pain last week, and I've been having a lot of neck issues and a lot of neck pain. It's just been driving me crazy. So I finally bit the bullet and scheduled a massage. Stan gets to go because I mean, I'm not gonna get a massage without him because homeboy's got his own issues. Why not? So I go and, or we go, excuse me, and this place like It wasn't that it looks sketchy, not at all, but I didn't know what to expect, but this place has raving reviews. So maybe it looked a little questionable, but I'm like, between that, the fact that it looks questionable, and the mass amount of reviews that are so positive, I had really high expectations. So we get in there, and they take us to the room, and I'm like, okay, they do not care about decoration here, they do not care to make, like, not that it was dirty, it was clean, sure, but like, They're, they're, it was, I was looking for, like, I, I, I, I could just tell, like, they, they didn't need to show off, because their talent and their skill would be enough. Like, that was the vibe I was getting, like, they're not going to impress me with some bougie luxury looking place, because their service is just going to be that exceptional, okay? So, I get on the bed. Whatever, face down. The woman comes in, and she is starting to really rub me, like, with the elbow, like, getting in it, and it was starting to be, like, a little, like, intense for me, and I can do deep tissue, but, like, ooh, I mean, she was, like, making my body arch, like, ooh, like, a trigger point, like, my body would, you know, just, like, ah, reflux. Well, I feel, first off, I didn't realize it because I was like, kind of like, hey, like in like a zen, like, you know, state, meditative state because it felt like it was pain, but it was good pain. So, I feel a shift on the bed and I'm trying, like, I don't feel her other than like her massaging me, but I'm trying to understand, like, given how she's rubbing me, like, I'm on my, I'm on my stomach, my face is down, but she's like rubbing me, my shoulders and stuff from the back versus the front. And this woman, like, I did see her when she came in, like, she is, she's small, she's a very small, very small person, and I'm starting to think, wait a second, is she straddling me? Because that was the only way she had to have been sitting to be doing what she was doing as strong as she was doing it, because there's no way she was, like, leaning across my body to do this, because I would have felt that. I didn't feel it. That's why I was, like, sitting there sitting. And then I, all of a sudden, I feel her knee shift. And it was like next to my rib cage and I was like, okay, yeah, she's straddling me. She's definitely straddling me. Didn't weird me out. Did not weird me out because like, I know sometimes like some like sketchy looking massage parlors, not that this was sketchy looking, I want to, I want to stress that, but sketchy looking massage parlors could, you know, front as possibly something else if you know what I mean. Wink, wink, hint, hint, eyebrow raise, eyebrow raise. So it wasn't like that. I wasn't like getting creeped out or anything, but I was just like, oh, she's straddling me. Okay. No big deal. No big deal. Well, then partway through the massage, I can tell she's standing up and she is standing up on the massage bed and all of a sudden she is on my back. It felt amazing, like absolutely amazing. But all of a sudden the most stereotypical like massage thing I've ever thought possible was happening to me and I didn't know how to, to take it. I was just like, okay, just please don't break my effing back. Right? So I was like a little bit more alert during that time. Next time I go, cause there will definitely be a next time. I'm not going to care. I'm going to say, I don't care if you plow me with a concrete truck, just do whatever you did last time, honey. Like that was just chef's kiss. So homegirl is walking all over me. I'm feeling some kind of way in the best way, but I'm just like, damn, I have never had a massage. This is amazing before and, uh, an hour and a half later, a hundred dollars for 90 minutes, by the way, which is a frigging steal. So if you are in the Atlanta area, I will give you that. I will give you the name. I just give it to you now. It's called I heart massage. I think technically it's like, I love massage, but the logo is like, I with an heart. So, I don't know if Google Translate a heart as into heart or as into love, but it's called I heart slash I love massage and it's in Decatur. Oh my gosh. So I made a tick talk about it because like it was just an experience. Um, man, like felt like I had been hit by a truck in the most amazing fucking way. And I made a tick talk and people were like, oh, that's a Thai massage. So, and I Googled it. Apparently the walking on your back, that is a Thai massage. So it was amazing and as me and Stan got finished, I was like, did she walk on your back? Did your girl like walk on your back? He's like, yeah, I was like, Oh my God. And like, we both were like, yeah, our backs were like cracking in the best way. Blah, blah, blah. I look up and there's literally bars on the ceiling. So I mean, I didn't catch that when I first walked in, but I also wasn't looking for bars on the ceiling. So there's that, but these chicks were so set up. They were set up to just hold on and just bring you to. Relaxation heaven, I guess. So, there's that. But let me tell you something. I feel so much better. Of course it didn't cure all my pain. I mean, I wish. But it was so needed. And I just want to say I know we can't all afford luxury things. I mean, shit, I know I can't half the time. But sometimes we need them. Like I can't give myself a massage. I wish I could but I can't and my injuries my pain needed it and I am so glad I did it again 100 for 90 minutes. You can't make that up but The pain that I was feeling it is so subsided is so much quieter. It's so much more mute than it was I I don't know, I just, it's making, it's, it's already, I can already tell, like, it's, we're just a couple of days past and I can already tell it's made my, my work days better, I've gotten more accomplished, like, it's just, and again, it's just worth saying, like, how much chronic pain can derail you and take you down, so to speak, so. Take care of yourself, girlies, take care of yourself, take the massage if you need it. Um, get the haircut if your hair is down to your ass and you're tired of sitting on it. Like just don't, don't deny yourself what you may deem as a luxury or nice to have because you know what? There's a will, there's a way. And in this case, I found a banging ass massage place that was a banging good price and poof, it got me to the, it got me over the hump, got me through, through the pain. So... I told Stan, I was like, I'm gonna start going here like every three to four weeks and, and do it more routinely cause I actually feel like if I do that on top of like how much I work out and things like that, it's going to help, help the chronic pain. So teach his own, but that's, that's my, my two cents on that. So yeah, it's been, it's been a week. Um, benefits are expensive, but we are betting on ourselves, babies. We are betting on ourselves so, so hard, and it's, it's a good feeling. It's a scary feeling, and it's a feeling that I'm sure will also induce some anxiety, because imposter syndrome, hello, but it's, it is something that is worth doing. So I'm going to end today's episode just saying a lot can happen in the rest of the year. We have like, what, a little over a month and a half. Keep crushing your goals, your ambitions, your dreams, your plans. Don't take no to heart. If you get told no in a job interview, you get told no on this or that, whatever. One door closes, another one will open. Maybe sometimes five doors have to close, but one is eventually going to open. and just don't lose sight of that. Don't lose sight of you and what your worth is and what, what you deserve. Go after it. Bet on yourself. Put all the eggs in that damn basket. And you know what? Let me give you a few examples of that. So for me, all the eggs in my basket is betting on the podcast and the growth I want to get with it. At least for the remainder of the year and into the next year. Putting all your eggs in one basket could be like, alright, uh, I want to look for a new job. Um, I also want to find a house. And I promise I am not, this is not life imitating art in my discussion points here. But, that's a lot of stuff. Looking for a job, like they always say, that is like a full time job. And looking for a house, I can tell you right now, like that is, just, I don't know the word, but let's just say negative. That's a lot of bandwidth, a lot of mental, mental focus, little mental bandwidth. Maybe it doesn't make sense for you to do both. Okay. Okay. So you put all your eggs in one basket by, you're just going to focus on looking for a job right now. And maybe that's just for two weeks. Maybe that's just for a month. Doesn't have to like do it for the indefinite three months, six months, whatever future. A week, two weeks, whatever, but don't stretch yourself too thin and understand it's okay to prioritize big goals, big tasks. Um, even though your mind may be saying, you're going to do it all at once, cause that's definitely what I struggle with. And I know that's definitely an ADHD thing, but it's also just an achiever thing. It's just a person with dreams and goals and ambitions and expectations within themselves. And that's not necessarily wrong. Sure, all of those things I just said can turn into a toxic spin eventually, but they're not bad to have. And when they do turn toxic, well, most often your mental health's going to go with it. And then you can reassess and change and rick a rick a rewind, right? Right. So, bet on yourself, put all your eggs in whatever basket it is, understand that you can't do everything. But you, at least not all at once, you can't have it all all at once, but you can have it all intermittently, and it's just about finding your flow, finding your, what works for you and your systems. I talked about productivity, productivity hacks last, last week. So, and if I can talk about productivity hacks, maybe there's something to be said about what I'm saying. You know what I mean? Like, I actually don't know what I mean by saying that. I guess what I'm saying is if I'm confident enough to share what's working for me, even if it's on a small scale, I'm just saying, bet on yourself, babes. We're all works in progress, always, even when we land the job, even when we find the house, even when the podcast strikes gold and you've got thousands of downloads per episode. We're still a work in progress. There is beauty in that, there is frustration in that, and there is everything in between. So, understand the ebbs and flows. It's just part of life, ebbs and flows of yourself, ebbs and flows of just everything. So, on that note, I'm gonna let you go. So on that note, I'm gonna let you go. Uh, that was a very weird transition into, to letting you go. But, I love you all so much. I know life is just Overwhelming to say the least, with decisions and choices and what if we do this and what if it's the wrong choice and why didn't I buy a house in 2008? Oh yeah, because I was in high school. Sigh. But, with the ebbs and flows, there is doors that are going to open. You have to trust that. So my, my, my words to leave you by this week until we get to meet again, unless you're following me on social media then you get to hear from me all the time. Thank you. But bet on yourself, trust yourself, put all your eggs in your basket, put all your eggs in the you basket because you're worth it. Doesn't mean you're going to fail. And there also doesn't mean that if you slip up or you do make mistakes or it doesn't work out the way you want it to, it doesn't mean it's not going to take you down a path that's going to lead you right to where you want to be. Or. Spoiler alert, even better, it leads you to a door that you didn't even know existed and gives you more than you could have ever dreamed of. That is magical. And that's what I choose to believe in, and that's what I want you to as well. So I hope you all have a wonderful rest of your week. I hope this, this episode brought you energized and screw open enrollment and bullshit health insurance. But also I am humbled. Thank you gosh that I have it. But more importantly, trust you, babe. Love you, babe. Believe in you, babe. And it's all going to work out. I promise. A freaking pinky promise. This is me pinky promising you, okay? Awesome. Alright, well, so. 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And I get, I got a little pop, I got, I got some pops on it. So that's kind of exciting. So if you're listening or watching on YouTube, thanks for the love. And if you're not, well then welcome to the podcast new listeners. All right. On that note, I'm going to peace out. I'm going to go walk my dog on her birthday. She's seven on the seventh. I think that's, uh, there's some luck to that, right? Lucky little lady. And I again, hope you all have a fabulous rest of your week. Don't hate daylight savings too much because I don't want it to go away and I will catch you next week on an all new in between. So stay tuned for more. Follow me on social media to see what else is going on in my world. And remember another thing to say. About the, the, uh, vision board party presentation. I'm kind of toying with that idea, so I would love to know if you're interested. And if so, we'll get it going. But until then, I, I hope you have the best week. I love you all so much. You're all amazing, amazing people! Ah! I'm so lucky to get to do this and talk to you and, and hopefully empower you. Because I know you guys inspire me. So, until then, I'll see you next Wednesday. I'm Elizabeth. Bye!