I'm full of energy on this week's In-Between. I'm talking about a lot of different little things, then sharing a full-circle moment I had over the weekend.
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I'm full of energy on this week's In-Between. I'm talking about a lot of different little things, then sharing a full-circle moment I had over the weekend.
Let's see what we're chatting about:
That last bullet has a lot more nuance, so you'll have to listen to learn more! ;)
Connect with me:
https://in-between.co
@in.betweenpod on Instagram
@elizabethcheney_ on Instagram
@theinbetweenpodcast on TikTok
The In-Between Podcast on YouTube
Well, hello, hello, hello. Welcome back to an on an episode of the in between podcast. I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney. Oh, how's everybody doing? You having a good morning? Good afternoon. A good evening. Whatever time of day it is that you're listening to this. I hope it's going splendid. Hope it's going wonderfully. Oh man. Well, let's see. What are some updates in my life before we get started in this week's in between? for starters, I'm not going to bring up the weather. I know, crazy. She's not going to talk about the weather, the first part of the episode. Uh, maybe that defeats the point by even acknowledging that, but Still cold, still cold. There I go. I did it. I talked about the weather. Alright, maybe that's just like how I intro the show. Because everyone is curious about how Atlanta Weather wise is doing so still cold, but hey, we're not frozen on the road. So there's that, uh, other, other thoughts, other news. So around the web, what's going on? Oscar nominations came out and ironically, Barbie was not nominated for best director. Marco Roby was not nominated for best actress, but Ken was nominated as best actor. Like I said, I know there are some levels of irony there. Uh, it's not lost on me, maybe it's lost on the Academy, but everyone is, uh, talking about it. Um, America Forever got nominated for Best Supporting Actress, and that's great. I'm not saying she didn't deserve that, that's amazing, but acknowledging the irony of the fact that Margot Robey wasn't nominated, But besides that, the fact that Greta Gerwig wasn't nominated for Best Director and Barbie was literally incredible, whether or not you liked it or not. If you look at it from like a movie situation, like a cinema standpoint, and the way it connected and the little details and all the nuance, it was very impressive, very incredible. So it does seem like a slight dig that Greta at least wasn't nominated for Best Director. And also, like, Ken being nominated but not Barbie. And sure, I know there's more important things to be concerned about, but I just had to take a second to say it on the pod that literally, the uh, whole premise of Barbie is like, what's going on with the Oscar nominations. It's, it's a, it's a guy's world, and even Barbie's, uh, I guess, take down of the, the box office last summer, she still couldn't get a win, couldn't get a nomination, but, anyways, just thought that was interesting, and again, this is not to take away from America Ferrera. Her monologue was Meryl Streep level acting, it was incredible, incredible. But I mean, like, I'm sorry, Ryan Gosling was great, his facial expressions were, All that and a bag of chips. Why not Margot? Why not Greta? I mean, sure they were nominated for Best Movie, Best Adopted Screenplay, which is great, but I do think it was a little bit of a ironic dig that Greta didn't at least get the Best Director nomination. So, not that I know anything about what goes into submitting and nominating movies and all that stuff for the Oscars, but I feel like that was a little bit of a loss. A little bit of a loss. In other entertainment news, I went to Tina Fey, Amy Poehler's show this past weekend. It was really, really fun. I wasn't really sure what to expect. Uh, honestly, I guess I was expecting them to do just kind of stand up, but I guess they're not actually really stand up comedians. They're more like sketch comedy, improv. And just comedians, which is fine. However, they, they started the show with just the two of them kind of doing sketch comedy, doing a little bit of scripts, scenes, things like that. Then they each did their own stand up, and then they had a Q& A at the end. They were really funny, and I can confirm that Amy Poehler does laugh like a little gremlin in real life. Uh, it's like, mildly creepy, but completely endearing. So, that's, that's great. It's like, hehehehehehe. Um, hehehehehehe. Okay, no, it doesn't sound like that. I'm just kidding. But Anyways, it was really fun. It was really great night. side note, the Fox is always as a great time, even though it's not necessarily my favorite venue because it's just, it's beautiful. I probably says before the pod, it's a beautiful venue, but there, there's just so many seats and a little bit of stage and there's just, unless you're like right in the front or in the center, it's not ideal. But, whatever, maybe I'm just getting old and I can't see things anymore. I mean, gosh, partway through the show I was thinking, this would be so much more enjoyable if I had subtitles. God, I'm just, uh, just getting there. And it's not that I'm deaf or anything, but like, I, I was talking to my girlfriends about this the other day. I was like, I, I don't know if it's my ADHD or what mental health issue, but now in conversation or out in public, just whatever, where there's a lot of noise for whatever reason, I cannot hear what you're saying. It's like my brain wants to focus on all of the background noise, all the other things that's going on. So, yeah. I don't know. It's very, it's very weird. And then you throw in, like, somebody talking on a mic. And specifically, like, mics on stages, which I don't know what those are, like, what, DLR, whatever kind of mic. Oh, DLR, I think that's a camera thing. I have no idea. But basically, like, the mic on a stage, yes, you can hear them, but there's almost like an echo, or it's just a little womp, womp, womp. I don't know. I'm just very sensitive, I guess. But I just can't hear. And I hear woomp, woomp, woomp. It's like from Charlie Brown, like the teachers are woomp, woomp, woomp, woomp, woomp, woomp. Sometimes that's how, how it sounds. So, there we go. There's, that is my dilemma, my crises when watching a movie. Other updates. No home. There is that. That's okay. Um, like I said, I think it was last week. It's just a matter of opening up the app and then it, it working out in our favor. That's literally how I choose to look at it. Like, all right, no homes, no homes this week, no homes that week. But you know what? Maybe tomorrow will be different. Maybe I'm gonna open up that app and boom! There's gonna be a home that I haven't seen yet because it just popped up overnight and boom! It's my home. It could be like that. That's, that's just, yeah. So literally looking at it with the glass half full. I have no prediction of where the house hunt's gonna end, when it's gonna just wrap itself up and it's not gonna work out, but that is how I'm choosing to look at it. Other, other updates, other news, got some pod collabs, I know I've been like teasing that for months now, but then my dog died and life just got turned upside down, so that's just how it be sometimes. Just kidding, it's not like your dog dies all the time, and if it does, well I'm really sorry, that's very unfortunate and I hate that for you. But, I, I do have a lot of the collabs scheduled, like this weekend I'm doing a pod swap, next Monday I'm doing a pod swap, the following weekend I'm doing a recording, the following weekend after that I'm doing a recording, maybe do a pod swap after that, just so much and it's great but I'm a little like, oh my god I'm overwhelmed, it was so funny this past weekend, Stan's like. Well, I was, it was how I just sang to you, I was speak singing, if you will, which does happen quite frequently on a daily basis in my life. Believe that, if you will, and Stan's like, is it just, is it just like a musical going on in your head full time? Like, do you live your life like a musical? And I looked at him and I was like. I feel so seen. Thank you, babe. And absolutely, absolutely. If I could live in some reality where I could break out in song and dance at all times. Bonus points when fellow patrons join me in said song and dance. That would be That would be my heaven. That would be amazing. Like literally right now I could just jump out song and dance and then you're in your car listening to this and you're singing with me because you know the words on the in between podcast. Yeah. Like it just, that would be so ideal. So yes. Is there a musical going on in my head at all times? Pretty much. Let's just choose to believe that. I like the, I like thinking like that. And I just also want to say how impressive I am, that I can accomplish and do all that I do on a given day while simultaneously having a full blown production going on in my head. Full song, full dance, full music. That's impressive. Maybe that's severe ADHD, I don't know. Maybe this is also why I can't sleep. But at least she's entertained, at least she is entertained. Speaking of entertaining, I have been the self queen care this week. You know, really? I'm really doing good, like with my habits, routines, like getting, I always say get back on the horse. I need a new, a new metaphor, a new thing, a new, a new thing. I was trying to think of like what grammar, what like English term I'm trying to use. It's not simile. I'm very ignorant when it comes to grammar, which that's okay. That's neither here nor there. Well, actually I should admit that like I'm actually very very bad with grammar. Not a great speller. Thank God for spellcheck, but I was like writing a email yesterday and I could not For the life of me, think about was it either or neither? Which one do I use? Actually, what's the rule behind that? So then I googled it. Thank goodness for Grammarly. And I got the answer I was looking for. In case you were curious, that's great. No longer a moron. But the amount of times that I will Google things to understand, well, which, which word do I use here in this context? Which Which comma? God, commas. I feel so stupid when it comes to commas. I feel like I have forgotten everything that I learned in middle school when it comes to commas. Other than like prepositional phrases. But anyways, uh, back to what I was saying. The amount of things that I will Google on a grammar level is embarrassing. And I'm sure all of my middle school, high school English teachers would be Very, very disappointed in me, but you know what? I'm not an English major. I don't claim to be. Okay? Okay? Uh, and that's just the way the cookie crumbles. So we all have our strengths and we all have our weaknesses and grammar and financial planning are two of mine. Oh, but anyways, where was I about the, the entertainment, self care, blah, blah, blah, back to my, my My habits and routines. So yeah, I've been didn't take care of myself. This is great. This is great. I'm so happy this past weekend. I literally did a face mask and a hair mask, which I've never done a hair mask I've been trying to do that whole thing where like you kind of train your hair And you don't wash it all the time, which sounds really gross. But, like, you're not supposed to wash your hair every single day. So I have these, like, little, I have different products that I'll use in between washes. Especially after, like, a really hard workout or something like that. Anyways, I got this hair mask. And it smelt heavenly, and I did it a few days ago, and oh my god, like my hair is still so soft, it smells so, so good, and I mean I've worked out a couple times, like I've taken like my little in between, I don't know why I'm doing like quote marks, in between showers, um, which is literally a shower, I'm just not washing my hair, so I'm very impressed, um, and the reason my hair is pinned back right now is because my bangs are so, so, cool. Freaking long at the moment that I just did not want to deal with styling them But you know a slip back look is cute, you know that little middle part So I'm actually trying to get my bangs cut this weekend. Hopefully that will happen. Hopefully that's that will happen But yeah, that's that's all the thoughts and the updates and what's going on my world pissed about Barbie Oscar nominations Went saltina namey. It was great Full blown musicals in my head at all times. swaps, pod collabs, out the ying yang. Which, side note, I am gonna be so exhausted after this weekend between the two on Saturday and then the two on Monday. Whoo, whoo. present me is thinking about future me, and I'm already I'm already ready to take a nap. I am ready to take a nap and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not gonna let it spiral my anxiety. I am processing this on the pot as we speak. It's all good. It's all good, but I am just thinking, whoo, I'm gonna hit a wall. That's okay. That's okay. Just gonna have to take it easy up until that point. Moving on. Moving on Lots of energy today, my friends. Lots of energy. I do have a point for today's episode. Not that there's not a point at every episode. But, I wanted to talk about, this is about to sound so cheesy, but the power of words. Oh, well, who are you, a philosopher, Elizabeth? Obviously, words are important. Words are powerful. You know, younger, you'd hear the phrase, Dicks and stints may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. And, you know, I used to say that to the bullies in elementary school when I was younger, and I would tell myself that. But, in reality, that is the ultimate gaslighting, because words really do hurt. Like, words, like, we internalize words. And if you don't have the emotional intelligence to understand, like, Um, what is being said to you from maybe a negative lens from that person, like they're projecting onto you, you can internalize it. If you're not well versed and, emotionally mature, you may not understand what you're going through, right? words can help you articulate, help you understand, it can bridge the gap. Uh, language is, is very important. I mean, it's literally how we communicate. And if you, if you have a minimal. Emotional range, you know, how are you going to know how to process certain things? So words and language can help you. As you all know, because I'm very, very open about this, I went through my mental health crisis, uh, after my car accident, and it was really heightened during the pandemic, basically because, well, everything in the world was stopped, and all I could focus on was the fact that I was not okay. And in that period of just, you Absolute emptiness, darkness, even though at this point in my mental health spiral, I did not understand that I was was going through a depression like at that time I did not know at that time. I just was beating myself up. Why am I not good enough? Why am I unable to do anything? Why can I not do this? And at this point? I was getting to the level where I wasn't like taking care of myself like not showering not washing my face my teeth like yeah It was it was really bad very bad But depression everything is overwhelming the idea of brushing my teeth that was overwhelming so how does this relate to words? So even though I did not know what was going on, I could not articulate, you know, tell you directly, oh, I, okay, so the reason I feel empty and numb is because I'm depressed because I've been ignoring my mental health and this is the outcome. We're not good. We're not, we're not good. I Um, would find comfort and solace in different accounts on Instagram. And they were, they were like quotes, they were words of affirmation. Most often there wasn't even pictures in these posts. It was just words, words about self love, words about empowerment, confidence, words about peace, giving yourself grace. There was this account called WeTheUrban. I'm sure most of you have probably heard of it. It's a really, really popular account on Instagram. And basically it's just affirmation after affirmation, um, various topics about relationships, love, friendships, family, your self worth, beautiful, beautiful stuff. And I remember at that like Prime of my, my, my depression, I relied on that account as a source of just life, a source of existence, a source to keep going. I held on to those posts every single day as the lifelines to get me through that day, through that moment. They made me feel seen, they made me feel heard, and now looking back on it, I can tell that account, those posts were the beginning of me learning to love myself and, and knowing why that's so important. But it was their words, their affirmations that helped lead me there. That constant positive reinforcement, if you will. And the reason I'm bringing all this up nowadays, sure, I love to support them because I know how much it meant to me, but I don't really, need those posts like I used to, so I'll just keep scrolling, keep scrolling, whatever. I'll like it, like I said, just to kind of keep the, keep it in my algorithm and also keep that support, but again, I do not rely on them like I used to. Well, this past weekend I was scrolling. And I came across one and I, I couldn't tell you what it said. It wasn't about what it said. I just, I paused because I hadn't paused in a long time. I hadn't stopped and read something they'd posted and really internalized it and let it seek in, let it seep in, let it soak in. And even though I couldn't remember what this post said. The point is, when I was looking at it, all of a sudden I felt this, this tug, this pull in my chest, and it took me back to a time when I needed them, when I needed those posts more than I needed food, more than I needed water. That's how much my survival depended on it, on these words, these words, these affirmations. So, in this beat, in this moment where I paused and looked, I remembered the power. That this, this account, the power and magic it held over me, and what it did for me. And I just needed a moment to recognize and appreciate, like, wow, look how far I've come. I, I no longer need this. My, my inner narrative, my anxiety, whatever you want to call it, all the things, is so good now. Not that it's, you know, perfect, because that's a different story, but I have managed it so well. I've, I've developed so many great tools that. I don't need the constant positive affirmations from other sources, I can do that for myself most often. Don't get me wrong, I still love these kind of posts and I still need them from time to time but it's not like I used to. And it really got me thinking just the power of language, the power of words. We always talk about the inner narrative of ourselves, like how we speak to ourselves and why that's important and I've definitely learned that it is super important. If you can't pick yourself up, if you can't love yourself enough to pick yourself up or to get the help that you need, like, how are you going to do that? How are you going to move forward? affirmations, positive inner narratives. That's how we do that. I remember during this time, when I was just mentally unwell, so to speak, and even before the car accident, when I first started having this idea of like, not even necessarily a podcast, but something more out there for me, like a dream job, if you will. What is this dream job? And I started, uh, saving quotes that spoke to me. On the notes app I had this quotes folder on our notes app on the phone and I, I would go and look at that all the time. Anytime I felt self doubt, anytime I felt low, I would go and read all the quotes that I was collecting and aggregating. Again, that positive reinforcement, language, the power of words. this is one part to say, hey, again, be mindful of how you talk to yourself. I think that's very, very important. But also don't disregard the power of language, the power of words. And what you may need in your, in your journey, or where you're at currently, the current chapter in your life. It's not weird. It's not lame. I don't know who needs to hear this. I'm, I'm simply saying this because like there was literally a point where my life depended on this. I needed this source of constant positive reinforcement, constant positive, you deserve to be here. I'm glad you're here. I remember there was one post that said, I'm glad you're here. Oh man, Liz back then needed that more than anything. I needed to be reminded that it's, it's a good thing that I'm here. I need to be here. This is just some stranger account. So be mindful of how you talk to yourself, but also be mindful of the type of content that you're consuming, especially if you're in a low place. Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words, yes, they actually will hurt us. So be mindful of what you consume. Be mindful of how you talk to yourself. Realize the power. And, and, and not even, not even just extending this to you. Think about the interactions you have with other people and the language you use around them. I mean, a thank you, I hope you have a great day, could change someone's path for that entire day, that entire week, you have no idea, it's just so crazy, these micro moments we have and, and what impact they can have. It's beautiful, but it can also be overwhelming if you really think about it, but, sure, be a good person, it comes down to that too, but more importantly, be kind to yourself. Be careful what you say. Be careful what you consume. be careful how you interact with others, with your family, with your friends, with your co workers, with strangers, with the door dash delivery driver. All of them. Words have power. I don't know, it was just, it was an interesting, sure you could call it maybe a full circle moment when I had that, that moment this weekend. And I looked at the, the We the Urban post and I just had that memory of, wow. There was a period of time where I depended on this like life and death, and here I am trying to make my own type of posts and content like that, which is really cool and, and just a beautiful thing to recognize in my own, my own growth journey. Uh, but that's, that's all I just wanted to share is it's pretty impressive. And also, side note, in a little nerdy sense, it's really cool that there are accounts like this that exist that provide this kind of content. So, just keep putting your light and love out there and the rest will be Gucci, so to speak, as the cool kids say. The rest is Gucci, Gucci, Gucci. I'm just kidding, I have no idea if people actually say that, but, uh, I did, so there's that. On that note, you girl's gonna go, I got some things to do. I got all those pod swabs to prepare for, got all these questions to finalize, I'll finish, show up an email out. So, uh, very excited about that and I hope you all have a great rest of your week. If you're not doing so already, you can follow me on Instagram at in between pod POD or my personal at Elizabeth Cheney. You can follow me on TikTok at the InBetween podcast and on YouTube at the InBetween Podcast. So, uh, yeah. I appreciate you being here. I hope you enjoyed today's episode. Feel free to share with a friend, a family member, a coworker, or hey, maybe that stranger or better yet, that DoorDash delivery driver, that would be great, maybe a little weird, but who cares? It'll be great regardless. So have a fabulous rest of your week and I will catch you on an all new Inbetween next week. I'm your host, Elizabeth. Bye.