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Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to another episode of the in between. I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney. Happy to have you all here. How's everyone doing? And I got any new faces, any new listeners? Well, if you are welcome, welcome for all my friends returning. Well, how's it going? Where are you been? More like, where are you been Liz? This episode's late. I'm sorry. I've been juggling a lot of balls. I'm going to get into it in a second, but, uh, all good things, all good things. So first off for all my. Friends who are like, I'm over the winter and went over the winter blues. I'm over these long days or actually lack of long days. He's more like long nights apparently, and I'm sure this is just specific to North America, maybe even more specifically America, maybe even more specifically the East coast. Again, I don't know. I'm not a geography or weather expert, but longer days are ahead. So first part of March, I think it's like the first week of March, March 6th, 7th, 8th, somewhere around that general area. We will, we will no longer have the 6 p. m. sunsets, so between March and October is when we have the longer days. We're about to turn New Leaf. We're about to turn the corner. For all my friends who are over the long, long darkness, we are, we're almost there. Now for my friends who are over the winter, well, we're not quite there. It's been a little warm, but we all know this is a fake out because March is always freezing, in Atlanta at least. So, longer days are ahead, but the colder, the colder moments, well, we're not quite out of the woods yet on that. Um, let's see. So, I didn't get to talk to you. Well, I did talk to you last week, but I had Audrey and Sarah from Completely Fucking Clueless on. We'll talk about that in a second, but I, I want to check in. How was your Valentine's Day? Not that it really matters. It's just a day. but I, I just wanted to ask, uh, because, well, as you all know, beforehand, we were, I was going to, what, romanticize my life. Me and Stan were going to have these, um, well, we were going to have an indoor picnic, and it was really cute. Stan got so into it. I just want to say, romanticizing your life, like that, that kind of mentality. It's really fun. Um, I didn't realize how, well it's not that I live a boring life, but it's really just kind of being even more intentional in all of the small moments. for example, I feel like me and Stan's banter has been like, on point lately. Like just being funny, going back and forth with each other, little bits, being silly. And not that we don't interact like that, like we just don't communicate, but I don't know, just It really is like a mindset. You just kind of get into this like, ah, I don't know. God, are you following? Does this make sense? I guess I'm just trying to say is you don't need Valentine's Day or even a lover to romanticize your life. You have to romanticize your life no matter what it is. And it's just kind of fun when you start to see it play out. You start to notice all the little things. And I'm like, man, I'm having fun. I'm having fun right now. I'm having fun with my husband. I'm having fun eating this food. I'm having fun doing this thing, whatever the heck I'm doing. So romanticize your life everyone. I love it. And on top of romanticizing our life, I mentioned I was doing that solid core workout, and one goal of mine was to do like a workout a month. I, even though technically I did the solid core workout beginning of February, I'm gonna tackle that into January, because I scheduled it in January. So, optics, right? Semantics, who cares? Uh, it's just, it's semantics, who cares? But I did sign up for a Pilates class next week. So, hey, I'm doing, I'm doing well. Granted, it's on a wait list, so I may not get in, but that's okay. Who's judging? Not me. Not me, says the cat. So, that should be fun. I'm proud of me for keeping up with my goals and habits and routines, or lack thereof, at least establishing some. Uh, speaking of goals, just a little quick, in between around the web, news around the web, cool headline. So, I don't know if any of y'all were Disney kids growing up. This show came out long Pretty long after I was like a Disney kid. Well, who am I kidding? I still love Disney, but you know what I mean? Like watching Disney channel. I was like in high school, so I definitely wasn't still watching it, but it was called good luck, Charlie. I think that's what the show is called and the older daughter, the main daughter on the show. Her name is Bridget Mendler. Uh, I saw her like trending and it wasn't like I recognized her name. There was like Disney star and I was like, what is going on here? So real quick, cause this is bad ass fricking love it. Bridget Mendler, who is a former, again, Disney star is a CEO of Northwood space, which is Essentially a satellite data startup. They've received six million dollars in funding and it's continued to grow. But even though this is over my head, exactly what the heck she's doing, it's supposed to enable data transfer and communication with satellites in space at a lower cost. So it's easier, more affordable. Her accolades are so impressive, like doctorate degrees in all the fancy schools. She's like a part on the FCC commission. Like, this chick has done so, so much. It's so impressive. Um, but I just wanted to shout out, I may be meeting my goals by going to my little boutique fitness classes. And Bridget Mindler's over here just friggin creating space data collection and communication. Stuff that I can't even articulate because it's over my head. So, badass. And, uh, you know, I'm not even, I'm not even intimidated because I'm like, I know my lane and space, space, anything to do with space is not it. So cool, cool, cool, cool. And then just to kind of close things out on my little pop culture round out here, for those who are living under a rock, uh, Beyonce is releasing a country album. Can't stop, won't stop listening to the two songs released, specifically Texas Hold'em. I don't know why it's got a grip on me that I can't let go, but with that I have started to listen to some country music and I'm not a country girl, all right? Like, sure, I like some of the classic OGs, like a good Faith Hill, and some of you love me. Ooh, yeah, that's a good one, plus Tim McGraw, yo daddy, you know what I mean? But with that said, I don't really keep up with country music. I am fascinated by Jelly Roll though. That's a different conversation. Anyways, I'm assuming my algorithm has been serving me some country because well, can't stop, won't stop, Texas hold'em, right? So, I have now found Lainey Wilson. I already knew who she was. I already liked her vibe style. Very like, steedy, nixie, boho, hippie. Love it, love it, love it. So I've been listening to her music and I can't I can't stop. I love it. Am I a country girl? I don't think so, so I'm not going to go on a, on a limb and claim to be a country girly, but I am going to go on a limb and say I am a Lainey Wilson girly. However. This is my thing about country music. Actually, well, yes, this is my thing about country music with the exception of Beyoncé because I highly doubt she's going to be singing songs about beer, in the truck, on my truck bed, making love on a haystack or something. But, Lainey Wilson has this song. And, real quick, for anyone who's a Lainey Wilson fan, do not at me. I don't know much about her other than she's cute as pie and she's got a cute little accent. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I mean, I know she like did the hustle climb to climb and I'm not dismissing that. But again, please don't come at me. I am a new Lamy fan. So, country music, my beef with it. It's really a predictable one, but two, I just, why do we sing about beer in our high school love? It's just like, it's the same song almost for every artist, one way or the other. They may sound good on it. But it's like, either the same chords, or it's like, the same song. Lenny Wilson has a song called, Truck Like a Heart. And I made fun of it so hard, and now I can't get it out of my head. I can't stop singing it. I can't stop listening to it. So, the real argument here is, do you like it, or do you love it? I think I love it, but I also hate it. I hate that I love it. So, the lyrics are like, I got a heart like a truck. It's been run through the mud. I'm running on gasoline. The highway's all I need. I don't even know what that means, necessarily, in terms of like the metaphor for her, but this song is a banger, but it's got the most embarrassing lyrics I could think of, for me personally. If you're a country fan, you probably love it, and I'm now kind of talking shit, I realize, and I don't mean to. It's, like I said, I love it. I can't stop listening to it, but oh my gosh, it is a song. Comparing your heart to that of a truck. She's like, I got a need for four big tires. I'm like, Hmm, this is hysterical. But I can't, I can't stop. Like I said, so if you see me and I'm like, I got a heart, like a truck is being run through the nut. Yeah, that's me loving Lainey Wilson, but hating the fact that I love that song so much because well, hard suck truck. God, it's so good. It's so good. Why are the lyrics about your heart being a truck? Country music, I just can't get down with it. But, like, that shtick of y'all's. But I still I love it. It's a good vibe. Good people. Good vibe. Good people. So, uh, on that note, let's talk about what's been going on in between. I've been having some guests the past few weeks. You liked Kristen a little bit a lot. Then I had Sarah and Audrey from Completely Fucking Clueless last week. We talked about social media and Gen Z being online confidence. It was so much fun. Love, love, love. Can't wait for my episode to come out on their podcast. and we talk about self love and stuff like that. you know, my goals for this year at the in between are to grow. So it was a really good conversation for me, especially with CFC last week, because it's about content creation and things like that. And, um, you know, like I'm not an old geezer, but I also know this millennial who swore off social media for most of the pandemic. It's been an adjustment trying to get back into it and figure out how to grow the podcast, grow my brand. It's really like a mindset shift. Um, like. Which is so weird to even say out loud, but you, you want to collect content. You want to film content, but you also don't want to act like you're filming content. So, like again, that's where I mean, it's like a mindset behavior shift. You just adapt to it. So, It was a great conversation. I, um, also have a recorded last week with the stay introverted podcast crew, so they'll be coming on next week and it was actually a really cool conversation. Not that I don't know what introvert introversion is or what introverts do or what they're all about, but I actually did not really know what's the word I'm looking for. I don't wanna say the full extent of introversion, but. Maybe I am saying that, so I'm just gonna leave that little nugget, that little like tip there. Not tip, why did I say that? Little hint, little, yes, I think hint is the right word. I'm like looking for a word that I'm like, I don't even think there's another word other than hit. Um, hit, I meant hint. but it's gonna be great. I'm really excited about that. So in terms of filming content, content creation, really trying to work on that myself. Um, but you know. Maybe it won't be as hard as I think it is and the reason I'm bringing all this up is I'm about to segue into a funny story in my opinion, but also just a conversation that me and one of my coworkers, uh, she's Gen Z, Gen Z, love her so much. We went to dinner last night and we were just talking about content cause she's trying to grow a following and get into vlogging and I'm like, what is vlogging? Not that I don't know what vlogging is, but we started talking about Instagram and sometimes how I don't feel comfortable on Instagram because, well. My high school friends are there and that's embarrassing, you know what I mean? And then she was talking about how sometimes on TikTok she feels that same way or feels like it's more performative, like it's more theatrical, like you have to have kind of a shtick kind of thing. And I was like, I didn't really think about that, but you're absolutely right. And she was saying how on YouTube it just feels more authentic because you're, you're just Catching content, like you're just filming yourself doing whatever, never thought I'd be the person to enjoy watching like 10 to 12 minute vlogs. Oh, what a day in your life, or here's my trip recap, or here's my February recap, but I find myself watching it. I like it and you learn stuff. Sure. It's still like selling products or showing things that are of interest to you, but it's just a different way to collect content and collect. Stuff to show your life and interest and I don't know, I'm kind of rambling now at this point, but it's just kind of cool. Sure, there's lots of dark sides to this, but it's cool to see the evolution of social media. Um, and it's also feels good to see some of like the younger generation, not that I'm so much older, but to see that like healthy relationship with it. Cause I feel like, like my girl from work, I know she's got it. And like the girls last week from CFC, I know they've got a decent grip on social media. Not to say we don't all fault her cause we do. So this geriatric millennial is just trying to get up to the caliber of the Gen Z's and to embrace that authentic content, so to speak. Um, but one thing that I don't think I will ever be able to keep up with is the Gen Z slang. So, co worker in mention, I follow her, I support her, obviously. Hello, girlies. Um, and she posted this cute video on TikTok. And I noticed, like, the comments, like, people are like, Oh, great, you look good, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like, comments are blowing up, lack of words, right? And this guy says, W, in the comments. And I am not that geriatric millennial y. I know what W means. It means win, right? Right. But her response was W's in the chat. Hmm. I wasn't quite sure what the hell that meant. So, my first assumption was, okay, W's in the chat, is that because like, her comment section is blowing up? Because people are like, oh, you look so good, honey, fire, sign, like, whatever the heck, fire sign, fire emoji, oh my god, I'm really making myself sound so old right now. But anyways. W's in the chat. So I'm assuming it's because her comments are just like blowing up. So, because I am who I am, and I couldn't just look this up on Urban Dictionary, the next day at work, I was like, hey girl, loved your video, so cute. BT dubs, um, W's in the chat, like, or, or I said W, that means win, right? She's like, yeah, and I was like, okay, great, that's what I thought. So W's in the chat. Does that mean like, oh, win's in the comments section? Like, your comments section was blowing up, boom, boom, boom, yeah, girl. Of course, she proceeds to bust out laughing because, um, for those listening who may know what that means, W's in the chat does not mean your comment section is blowing up. Um, she says, no, W's in the chat, like personal wins. I'm sorry, what? W's in the chat, personal wins? How, how did we get here? Because most often slang, there's a way, there was a path to how that slang word got there. How the heck did W's in the chat mean personal wins? So then I was like, Oh, so I'm very wrong by this. And she's like, yeah. And I was like, okay, so just to make sure, and I'm not kidding, like this is literally how I communicated with her because I'm such a dork. So just to make sure I understand, because my ass is going to say W's in the chat. Have you ever seen me say W's in the chat? Side note, somebody come save me because I am trying way too hard. There we go. But I said, just to be sure, W's in the chat is the equivalent to saying all I do is win, win. I'm not wrong. She said, yes, you're correct. But I should be mortified for how embarrassing I am. So for all my fellow millennials, I'm not cool. I'm not. I can't keep up with the slang. And, uh, W's in the chat, not so much over here with Liz. But, uh, anyways, she's a cool, cool ass chick. And, uh, when we showed up, when I showed up for dinner, I wanted to make sure I looked cute and cool. Because also, I like, I'm trying to dress up and style myself more. But, because when you're with cool people, you want to look cool, play the part, you know what I'm saying? I'm being kind of funny. Actually, I'm trying to be funny. Um, but anyways, we show up where we're eating and this is like a nice restaurant and no shit. All of a sudden my drink just falls off the table. Wasn't touching it. I have no idea what happened. The table was not wobbly, but we're just talking and all of a sudden, boom, crash. Quiet, everyone's looking at me. I was mortified. I already feel so lame because W's in the chat. No, sir. Not I Nice restaurant. My drink just decides to fall. I have no idea. So they come and clean it up and I'm like, I'm so sorry I have no idea what happened They make a joke about a ghost, but I'm also like for real like maybe it was a ghost cuz like how the heck did that happen? Okay, fine. Whatever. We're good. We're good. Well, it's a sushi restaurant And just FYI, I do love sushi, but, uh, cannot use chopsticks. I've tried. Never goes well. Uh, one chopstick ends up, like, on one side of the room. Ah, I don't know. Maybe it's because I've got big hands. I don't know, but I cannot use chopsticks. Well, this is one of those fancy places where their table setting only has chopsticks. And I don't realize this at first until, like, after the food's there, and then I finally, like, quit talking, pull up my napkin, and I'm like, Uh oh. We have a problem here. So I've already embarrassed myself with this stupid drink. Uh And now I gotta wave somebody down and be like, um, In this super fine dining establishment, do you have a fork? I'm sorry, I'm an embarrassment to society! I got my fork. They were really nice about it. I over tipped because I was so embarrassed, which I probably didn't need to do because they were so nice. But also, just wanna say, like, I don't know, like maybe The older you get, the more awkward you are. So, like, when we see our older peoples, our parents, older co workers, whatever, like, Hm hm, oh my god, bleh, what is that? I'm just kidding, but, uh, I'm starting to wonder, like, maybe that just comes with age. Like, you are smarter and wiser, sure, but, like, you're less cool. Maybe not. I don't know. I'm trying to think of a cool adult. And, uh, I'm like, What comes to mind? Sigh. Jeff Goldblum? I know he's not everybody's cup of tea, he's just mine. Anyways, there's my geriatric millennial woes. Trying to be cool on social media, but also recognizing where I am in my life, and that is not W's in the chat. It's more like, all I do is win win. Thank you, DJ Khaled, for that one. Oh! Um, and then let's just see, the last bit of updates I have for y'all, I wish I could say, Oh my gosh, we've started the process or the process is over. But, uh, as you know, we've been looking for a house. And my update is that I think we may have found one. Isn't that exciting? I'm sweating bullets right now. Y'all have no idea. Yes, so we are so close to buying a house. Um, the reason I'm freaking out is one, buying a house is incredibly complicated. It's incredibly convoluted and it's incredibly just not fun. It's not fun. Um, every The house seems to have its own set of contingencies in terms of like, Oh, well their taxes are this because of that. Oh, this house is this because of that thing. Like this exemption, or that, or this, or that, or that location, or that square footage. Like there's no real rhyme or reason. So that's been really fun and so great for someone like me who likes to have control of situations and have like full knowledge of situations. So I've just had to like, Do what little research I can, ask all the questions I possibly can, and trust the people that I've hired to help me, like my lender or my realtor, which, as you should, but for me, being so hyper independent, Oh my lady, so independent, I have a problem with this. So, that's been not fun. On top of that, the area in which we are really considering buying this house was not on our list. Not that that matters. Um, it was one of those things where we were driving around in one area. Didn't like that area and then we accidentally stumbled upon this area and we're like, oh snap crackle pop. This is Cute, you know what I'm saying? Oh snap crackle pop. I could see us living here. Oh Snap crackle pop everything keeps getting checked off the checklist with this place. Okay, so now it's getting exciting and now it's like actually Oh, I could see this happening, but then, of course, the floodgates open of all the insecurities, the doubts, the imposter syndrome, and overthinking overwhelming feelings altogether of the situation. yeah, so that's, that's where we're at. It is a huge choice, a huge decision. Um, the reason I'm springing this up is because, one, I know that I will update you all along the process, right? But two, I just want to quickly give my thoughts on the matter as I am now at this point. It's interesting that we have found this house. We really love it. But now there's all this like, uh, now that we're actually here at the finish line, now there's all this like anxiety, which makes sense. Makes sense. We kind of talked about this last week on the CFC episode about like, why does Gen Z have his confidence? They talked about how like millennials were kind of fed the, the, the dream still, the American dream, buy a house, do this, do all this shit. it's not that I think buying a house is easy. On the contrary, it's not. However, there is so much rhetoric online about why you shouldn't buy, why you should buy, why you should only rent, why it's not okay to rent. just so much conversation with so, like, such, like, complete opposite viewpoints. And then there's so much in the middle as well that's extreme, right? I think that's really contributing to my thought process and why I'm having so much anxiety. I'm not saying you should just dismiss it, like just, just, just go blindly or just whatever. I'm just going to buy a house. No, do your research. But I think I'm trying to say here is each home is unique. And each area is unique. We were looking in four or five different areas, and I'm gonna tell you right now, each area was a completely different price point, a completely different set of reasons why, and a completely different set of expectations and things like that. That's overwhelming. So, when you're getting advice and seeing stuff online about renting or buying, it, there are so much nuance to it. It, it, there's so many things that factor into it. It's not fair. So, this is not me encouraging you to buy a house. This is not me encouraging you to only rent. This is me encouraging you to just think, what do you want? For me personally, I can't stay in this apartment. I'm over it. We've outgrown it for years now. We need more space However, we are not in a financial position where it feels okay to drop 3, 400 a month on a home to rent versus Spending 3, 000 on a mortgage. Yes, I know there's so much other stuff that comes with owning a house, but that's why you do inspections and things like that. And I'm also not gaslighting, because I'm also married to a man that's handy, who could help with certain DIY building crafty things. Okay? So, again, more evidence to prove that there is so many factors into making a decision. And, God, sometimes the internet just needs to shut up, because it's overwhelming! If you're anything like me. So, I think it just comes down to what you want. And then people are like, well if you're not going to see yourself in this house for like, you know, 10 12 years, then don't buy. It's like, I don't necessarily agree with that either. Because we are going to buy in the city and that means our home is definitely going to go up in value because the city is growing, is booming, is progressing. So yeah, but maybe if I bought a home in deep, deep rural South Georgia, it's probably not going to have a high ROI over time. But five to seven years is a fuck ton of a long time, okay? Like five to seven years is a super long time. We've lived in this city six years now. So, I think about All of the shit that has happened since we moved to the city. Like, my car accident happened after we moved to the city. All my mental health shit. The pandemic. Luna. Blah, bloop, bleep, bleep, bleep, blah, blah, blah, blah. So much can happen. So, you know, make the choice. Um, I know interest rates are a thing. So, like, that's a whole other conversation. So, like, let's take that out of the picture just for a moment. well, I know you can't really. I know that plays into it. But, like, it's not like we're putting 20 percent down on the house. Because, like I don't have a Daddy Warbucks, neither does Stan. So, and I haven't won the lottery yet, and this podcast is not a top ten podcast on Apple or Spotify yet. So, obviously the money is not in the bank. The commas are limited. But it's coming. So, I'm just saying. If you're like me, and you're like, what do I do? I don't have the answer for you. But, my advice is, trust your gut. And if you find yourself going back and forth and you're just unsure because, well, all the internet says this and that and this and that's too many factors and, and because you don't have Daddy Warbucks to, to take care of you, it's scary. You're going to be okay. Right? You're going to be okay. No matter what. No matter what. You're going to be okay. We're going to get through this. But, just keep in mind, so many things factor into decision, so many things factor into what's a good move for you and your family, versus what the internet's opinion is. And I just, I just want to keep that at the forefront, because like, I have freaking lost my mind, especially the past week now that we are like, oh, I think we're going to buy this house, overthinking that's infiltrated my brain since, overwhelming. And it's because now that it's like, oh, it's game time. All of that, that rhetoric is coming into my head. And it's like, why do I want this house? What, what is my situation? And like I said, I, we don't want to stomach paying that much money for rent when we could pay just a little bit less and it could be equity and we could, you know, build, like build wealth that way, right? But again, we're looking in the city. It's not like I'm looking for a home in the country. Not to say that that doesn't appreciate in value, but you know what I'm trying to say. That's all. So, this is your, this is your friend, this is your BFF Elizabeth saying, don't overthink, but I know it's easier said than done, everyone. Okay, okay. Whew. So. Lots of balls in the air, but man, it's exciting. This website's about to launch. I'm so close which I know I feel like I said every single time now But like I'm actually for real for real this time gonna be so much fun And then I have such good episodes planned for March I'm gonna do kind of like a woman's wellness series, even though it's not necessarily going to apply to women. Okay. So my, my, my friends that are on the dude's equation or don't really care about women things, don't worry, you're going to get something out of it. Okay. Okay. But I'm having a financial wellness conversation. I cannot wait for y'all to hear Emily and then Dr. Bob is coming on and we're going to do a two part series, one on gut health hormones, and then one on fertility and hormones. Ooh. And then I'm looking for one more guest. So if y'all know any kind of bad ass women that want to talk about a bad ass subject. I would prefer a woman speaker, but badass subject nonetheless, for my women's wellness his women's history. I was trying to say series and history, and it came out as history. for my Women's Wellness Month series. At me. Holler at me. I would love to talk. I'm looking for a chicky. Looking for a babe. You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? Alright, so, on that note, uh, I appreciate you. I love you. I hope you're all doing great. Longer days are ahead, but don't forget, the cold is not quite gone yet, everyone. Uh, and listen to country music. Remember, heart like a truck. Woo! Been poured through the mud. That's, that's the words we're gonna end on on this week's episode. So, uh, if your heart's like a truck, my heart's more like, maybe, an electric vehicle. Efficient. Sexy. But maybe ahead of their time. I'm just kidding. I don't even know where I was going with that. Just kidding, I'm ahead of my time because I can't keep up with the Gen Z slang. W's in the chat. Alright, on that note, I need to shut up because, like, I'm just going to keep embarrassing myself and making my case as a geriatric millennial even more and more probable. Alright, well. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend, uh, a family member, a coworker would appreciate it. Love it. And follow me on Instagram if you're not doing so already At, in between Pod, pod as in podcast, and then my personal at Elizabeth Cheney, and then at the in between podcast on TikTok and YouTube. Wow, I can't say that on TikTok and YouTube. Until then, I will see you next week. We have the State Introverted Podcast on, great conversation, and then boom, we're in March, y'all. We are getting through 2024 with a vengeance, and maybe I might even have a house update, so fingers crossed. Let's hope she doesn't ever think that one. All right, y'all, until then, I'll see you next week. Bye!