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#179 | What is Your Partner's Shame Response?

July 14, 2025 • Alan Lazaros and Emilia Smith

Ever wonder why small comments turn into big arguments? In this powerful episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the four hidden shame responses that quietly shape how couples react, communicate, and connect. You will discover how blame, defensiveness, withdrawal, and self-criticism often stem from unconscious patterns and what to do instead. With relatable stories and expert insights, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to create emotional safety and deepen their relationship.

Show notes:
(2:22) How shame erodes relationships
(7:16) The four main shame responses
(12:38) Real-life examples of shame in action
(14:01) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(20:16) The difference between shame and accountability
(23:02) Coaching and creating emotional safety
(25:43) Outro

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