Dress to Feel Good

Your clothes are doing more work than you think. They are not just fabric and colour; they are signals, a kind of body language, and a daily lever you can pull to change how you feel in your own skin. We talk about why we started dressing alike, how a consistent look can create a clear identity, and why that “we’re acting as one” feeling can even help clients feel held and supported. 

From there, we widen the lens to the psychology of clothing, accessories, and self-expression. Rings, piercings, tattoos, shoes, and styling choices can reflect personality, mood, and belonging, whether you mean them to or not. We also get real about the moments when you stop making the effort: when you’re busy, when you’ve got kids, when your lifestyle is full on, or when you feel vulnerable and a bit down. That is often the exact moment when getting dressed with intention becomes a form of self-care rather than vanity. 

We dig into the debate about who we are dressing for and why it matters. Yes, other people notice, and social settings come with expectations, but we keep coming back to one thing: when you dress to impress yourself, your posture changes, your voice shifts, and you show up differently. Feeling right for the occasion helps you stay in the room, stay in the conversation, and stay confident. We also share practical examples like shoes at a posh wedding, the “jacket effect”, and a simple experiment you can try today to see how quickly clothing can change your mindset. 

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Dressing For The Right Occasion

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Dressing to impress. Right. Or dressing for the right occasion, I would say. Yeah, and the psychology of clothes in general. That's what we're going to be talking about. In this week's episode of Get It Real with the English sisters. Right then. Yeah. So we know that clothes do reveal a lot about a person. Well, it's body language, isn't it? I mean, if you're watching us on YouTube today, you can see that we're wearing mashing outfits. Yes, we are. And we decided you that a long time ago, didn't we? As you may have heard already, but you know. Yeah, it kind of developed over time. I mean, we've always liked to dress the same because when we were little, we would dress. We're real sisters, we're not twins, but we did like dressing the same. We had this thing, but we never used to be like you know, as we grew apart and grew older, no, we dressed differently, didn't we? We had our more or less we had our like individual styles, even though we always used to like what each other wore. Yes, we did. But then when the brand grew and we decided to create the English sisters, and then it became more of a brand, we thought, well, let's let's sort of like us a bit more of an identity. Yeah, a bit more of an image here, and we're just dressed the same. And then also when we did therapy with our clients, it was helpful. I think it was helpful for them to know that we were

Matching Outfits And Brand Identity

SPEAKER_00 1:16

even though there's two of us, we were acting as one in their interest in their interest, yeah, absolutely. So that also became helpful, and there there you go. I mean, this is all the psychology of clothes, yes, and not just clothes, accessories as we've talked about in past episodes, clothes and everything else that we decide to put on our bodies, and is it you're expressing uh something about yourself, like a a nose ring or an earring, a ring, tattoos, everything does express something about yourself, and about your personality and yeah, and sometimes I think we forget the importance of it. I think we forget how important it is to dress to feel good, and we might neglect ourselves at certain times in our lives. And we kind of forget about it, I think. I think we do, yeah. With with especially when you get busy and you may have kids or you've got a really busy lifestyle and you're doing or maybe you feel a bit down. When you feel a bit down, you tend to neglect yourself. Yeah, and I think that's a moment when you really have to give yourself that little extra push, isn't it? Yeah, and right because you are not feeling like uh that great because of whatever it is, I think that's when you really looking good and dressing to impress yourself is important. Well, I think when you're at when you're feeling vulnerable. They always say that women dress to impress men, they used to say that they used to say that, yeah, yeah. It's the opposite, you you dress to impress yourself and to make yourself. There's a lot of controversy about this because they say that

Accessories And Self Expression

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women don't actually do that, they always do it to impress somebody else, or the women maybe but mainly it's other women, but um, but there's but it's probably a healthy balance between all of that. I think it probably is true you do dress to impress other women and other men and whoever it is, but you also do there is a very big part of it that's important for you because you will change if you're dressed in a certain way and it makes you feel good. Your body will your your body posture will change, yeah. Your body posture change, your whole book posture will change, your how you speak will change, your head will be a little bit higher, you'll appear more confident, you'll probably want to be in that meeting for longer. Exactly. You'll be on that date for longer, yes, yes. Then if you feel as if you've like underdressed or you feel as if you didn't dress, you know, you didn't make that effort. Exactly, yeah. And a lot of the time we think, no, I can't be bothered, you know, to make that extra effort. I just can't why should I? Yeah, why should I? Yeah, why should I? No one else bothers. Like you might be with a group of people that no one else cares, or maybe where you work, they're all really casual and no one's bothered. Yeah, they're a bit like uh messy or whatever, yeah. But why should I bother? That's a question. Well, there are many reasons why you should actually bother. Yes, because uh as we do and we've come to learn and understand that the way you look is gonna have a big influence on your day and the results of that day. It's gonna make you either want to go home and crawl into bed or go out and have a party with your friends. Yeah, what was that thing they say to ladies

When You Feel Low And Neglect Yourself

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when they have the the blow, the the the blow dry, yeah, the the the the the hair the hair when you go to the hairdresser and you have a lovely hairstyle and you paint what it's called. Yeah, I don't well in English blow dry is called Yeah, I couldn't remember it, yeah. A blow dry, that's it. I think in American it's a blowout. Well, whatever. I didn't want to go down that road too much because I didn't want to make a mistake saying it, but in Italian it's called a piega, which means to actually fold to piegare to fold, so it's like your hair is nice and it's been styled by a professional, you've paid for that. You don't really just want to go home and hide and watch TV all night, you're more inclined to want to do more when you've got when you're looking good. So, in general, if you're looking good, it's gonna be affects our psychology a lot more than we think it does. That's what I mean, yes. It's not just about being vain and looking pretty and wearing makeup, or if you're a man, or what whoever you are, you know, whatever you want to be. It's not just about that. It's there's a lot Well, it's part of your identify, whatever you want to identify with, or whoever you want to identify as. You're clothes. You're gonna be confident in that. It's gonna make you feel more confident or less confident. Exactly. I know for sure if I go out in a tracksuit, no makeup on, my hair's looking scruffy, I don't feel half as confident.

Dressing For You Changes Confidence

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So nowhere near I wouldn't want anyone to see me for a start. If I bumped in. I would say that would be low self-esteem, wouldn't they? They would, but for me, maybe that is low self-esteem, but it's also part of how what I'm what I'm how it makes me feel. That I can't help it. I just don't feel as well. I'm the same. Yeah, we're both the same. I just don't feel as if I'm gonna be. I don't feel as if I'm gonna represent like who I want to represent. Yeah, I don't know whether it's more like a mask that I put on for the world. But even if it is a mask, if it makes you feel good, so what? We all wear masks anyway. If it's gonna make you feel better and want to go out and do whatever you want, you know, with your life. I believe, yes, that certain clothes give you the freedom, give me the freedom to do what I want. And the same way, if it's a nice, doesn't matter, casual outfit, that'll give me the same kind of freedom. But yes. Yeah. It's the same as the shoes, isn't it? If you wear high heels, you can't go on, you can't go around jogging, can you? No. So but you but if you were if you wore trainers maybe to a really posh wedding or something, you might feel out of place, unless it was our kind of wedding. Yes. So yes, obviously the clothes we wear are gonna it is gonna influence how we feel if we feel overdressed or underdressed, or if if we haven't made the effort and everyone else has. Yeah, and so many times we don't bother making that effort and then feel bad when that's the worst thing. That's a worse thing. If you if you're at home and you say, Oh I don't feel like making the effort, I'm not gonna make the effort, and I'm still gonna feel good, and I still want to go out and I feel confident, that's fine, and I feel great, and then you're you're fine, but not like as as we've had many a time people say to us, Oh, I don't feel you know, no, I think I should go home and change, or

Overdressed Underdressed And Simple Fixes

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you know, they don't feel absolutely 100%. So just make sure you make that effort and dress to impress yourself, and then you'll feel better throughout the day. You'll definitely feel much more confident. You will, you'll be surprised. It's so amazing. It it's quick, it doesn't matter what it is, you know. Just putting a jacket on can already make you easy confident. Absolutely. That's why it was invented, one of the reasons. Well, wearing a jacket, yeah, you can wear a jacket with a casual pair of trousers, no matter what it is, but you instantly feel more. You feel more with

Try The Experiment And Share

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it. Let us know what you think. Are you ready to dress to impress yourself? Because it'll have wonderful repercussions on the rest of your day. Yeah, you may feel you may be surprised. You think, wow, that really did. Just try the experiment, put something on you really like that day and see how you feel. I'm sure it'll make you feel better. It will definitely. Lots of love and sounds from the English sisters. Bye.