The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast
Birth trauma is the dark and sometimes scary side of pregnancy & postpartum that no one wants to talk about. But, we're here to change that! I'm Kayleigh, a licensed therapist and birth trauma survivor, determined to bring birth trauma out of the shadows and into the light. When we talk about birth trauma, we take away its power and leave space for healing. Your birth trauma does not need to “happen for a reason." Birth trauma sucks and it’s okay to admit that. Join us as we navigate what it means to heal from birth trauma. You’ll hear from experts in the field as well as others who have experienced birth trauma. Storytelling and education are keys to raising awareness and better understanding how we heal trauma. We don’t do toxic positivity in this space, but you’ll definitely hear some dark humor. You’ll laugh and you’ll cry, but, most importantly, you’ll learn that you’re not alone and that healing is possible. Birth trauma is bullish*it, but your healing is not.
The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast
Ep. 174: Shoulder Dystocia, 3rd Degree Tear, & Feeling Dismissed feat. Lauren
In this listener story episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, I’m joined by Lauren, a writer and mom of two, who shares her powerful and vulnerable story of an unexpected and traumatic birth. After a smooth pregnancy and a well-prepared plan for an unmedicated delivery, Lauren’s labor took a sudden and intense turn involving prodromal labor, a failed epidural, vacuum-assisted delivery, and ultimately, a shoulder dystocia that left both her and her baby in physical and emotional recovery.
From feeling dismissed by her doula, to processing the chaos and fear of delivery, to the quiet realization that what she experienced was, in fact, birth trauma, Lauren opens up about how she slowly pieced together her healing, with safe people, supportive providers, and her own learning.
She also shares how she approached her second birth with a different mindset, opting for a planned cesarean and giving herself the space to reclaim control, safety, and peace.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
📍 Why prodromal labor caught Lauren completely off guard
😞 Feeling dismissed and unsupported by her doula
🧠 The emotional whiplash of a birth that didn’t go “according to plan”
🚨 A failed epidural, vacuum-assisted delivery, and shoulder dystocia
💔 The complexity of bonding after a traumatic birth
🛠 How Lauren processed her trauma and found validation
📚 The impact of books, podcasts, and getting off social media
💡 A different approach to her second birth: planned C-section and true informed choice
🧷 Why healing doesn't have to look one way, and why the "middle ground" matters
📚 Resources & Mentions:
- Push Back: Guilt in the Age of Natural Parenting by Dr. Amy Tuteur
- Article on shoulder dystocia and trauma (coming soon!)
- Lauren’s writing on Substack: Live Learn Letters
- Follow Lauren on Instagram: @livelearnlauren
💬 Listener Note: This episode discusses medical trauma, shoulder dystocia, emergency interventions, and bonding difficulties. Take care as you listen.
🎧 Tune in wherever you get your podcasts, and if Lauren’s story resonates with you, please share this episode, rate it, and leave a review—it helps others feel less alone.
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Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.