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The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast
Birth trauma is the dark and sometimes scary side of pregnancy & postpartum that no one wants to talk about. But, we're here to change that! I'm Kayleigh, a licensed therapist and birth trauma survivor, determined to bring birth trauma out of the shadows and into the light. When we talk about birth trauma, we take away its power and leave space for healing. Your birth trauma does not need to “happen for a reason." Birth trauma sucks and it’s okay to admit that. Join us as we navigate what it means to heal from birth trauma. You’ll hear from experts in the field as well as others who have experienced birth trauma. Storytelling and education are keys to raising awareness and better understanding how we heal trauma. We don’t do toxic positivity in this space, but you’ll definitely hear some dark humor. You’ll laugh and you’ll cry, but, most importantly, you’ll learn that you’re not alone and that healing is possible. Birth trauma is bullish*it, but your healing is not.
The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast
Ep. 215: Giving Yourself Permission: Identity, Advocacy & Reclaiming Joy
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What does it really mean to give yourself permission, especially when you’ve been conditioned to put everyone else first?
In this thoughtful and deeply resonant episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh is joined by Dr. George James, psychologist, speaker, executive coach, and author of I Give Myself Permission. With over a decade of shared history, Kayleigh and Dr. James reflect on growth, identity, trauma, and the invisible narratives that shape how we show up for ourselves, particularly after birth trauma.
Dr. James shares how the pandemic, racial reckoning, leadership burnout, and family loss shaped his work and inspired his book. Together, they unpack why “just take care of yourself” is not only unhelpful, but often impossible without understanding the systems, identities, and stories we carry.
This conversation is especially powerful for parents navigating birth trauma, clinicians supporting perinatal mental health, and anyone who feels stuck between survival and self-care.
In this episode, we discuss:
🧠 How internal narratives shape what we believe we’re allowed to need
🔑 What “giving yourself permission” really means (and what it doesn’t)
🫧 Why self-care is more than bubble baths and catchphrases
🌍 Social stress, leadership stress, injustice stress, and family-of-origin stress
👩👧👦 Why parents, especially mothers, are taught to put themselves last
🤰How perinatal trauma reinforces harmful narratives like “the baby comes first”
🗣️Giving yourself permission to advocate for your body and your life
🪞 How identity and lived experience influence permission and self-worth
❤️ Rewriting family scripts around affection, care, and masculinity
😨 Facing fear, perfectionism, and shame in everyday moments
🔄 Why permission is both a mindset and an action
🪜 Taking half-steps when full steps aren’t accessible
⚖️ Acknowledging privilege while honoring that permission is still possible
🔍 Doing the deeper work underneath boundaries and self-care
🤍 Learning to pause, celebrate growth, and notice where permission already exists
Key takeaway:
Giving yourself permission is not about willpower or positivity, it’s about understanding the stories, systems, and stressors that shaped you, and choosing care anyway.
Guest Info:
Dr. George James
Psychologist | Speaker | Executive Coach | Author
- 🌐 Website: georgetalks.com
- 📘 Book: I Give Myself Permission (available wherever books are sold)
- 📱 Social: @georgetalks
- 🔗 More info: igivemyselfpermission.com
If this episode resonated with you:
You are not failing at self-care. You may simply be carrying stories that once kept you safe. Awareness is the first step and permission can start small.
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