The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast

Ep. 236: Cody’s Legacy: Loving, Losing, and Learning to Carry Both feat. Michelle

Season 4 Episode 58

Use Left/Right to seek, Home/End to jump to start or end. Hold shift to jump forward or backward.

0:00 | 49:54

In this deeply emotional listener episode, Michelle bravely shares her story of pregnancy complications, medical trauma, and the heartbreaking loss of her son, Cody. Through her vulnerability, she offers connection, validation, and hope to anyone navigating grief after loss.

💛 The loneliness of trauma and the power of having a space to share your story

🤰 Repeatedly dismissed concerns, ongoing bleeding, and the emotional toll of not being heard during pregnancy

🏥 Navigating a complex military healthcare system and the impact of delayed care and lack of intervention

💔 Water breaking early, hospitalization, and the devastating realization that something was seriously wrong

👶 Michelle shares the story behind naming her son and the profound love she felt during his short but meaningful life

🕊️ The heartbreak of delivering Cody at 24 weeks and spending just a few precious hours with him

😭 Processing the pain of losing a baby and questioning whether her grief is “enough” after such a short time

🏠 The surreal and painful reality of leaving the hospital and navigating immediate grief

🧠 The layers of loss, difficult interactions, and moments that leave lasting emotional imprints

🤝 The impact of meaningful support vs. harmful platitudes like “at least you have other children”

💬 How allowing emotions—rather than suppressing them—became a key part of Michelle’s healing

❤️ Navigating loss within a marriage, including unspoken guilt and the importance of communication

👦 The often-overlooked impact of grief on children and the importance of checking in with them

🎂 Annual traditions like birthday cakes and family photos that keep Cody’s memory alive

🌱 Growth, ongoing grief, and the complexity of moving forward

✨ A powerful reminder that grief is messy, emotions are valid, and perfection is not the goal

If this episode resonated with you, know that your story and your grief matter too 💛

For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.

Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.

Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.