She’s That Founder
150 | Why Most Female Founders Are Losing Their Power, Confidence & Direction To AI & How The Top 1% Use AI Differently
The most dangerous thing AI can do isn't to give you the wrong answer, it's to give you a good enough answer, right when you've stopped trusting your own instincts.
Hey, hey, hey. Welcome to She's That Founder Thursday edition. These are the quick rants kick in the pants, velvet boot moments that represent me standing in the future, pulling you toward the even stronger, better, more powerful version of yourself with AI as your copilot.
Welcome to part two, and on Tuesday I told you there was something I hadn't said yet, something that determines whether AI multiplies you or quietly replaces you in your own business. And I told you it cost me something to learn and I meant that.
Here's what I didn't tell you. This isn't just something I've watched happen to other founders.
This happened to me recently, and honestly, I'm still in it enough that this feels a little uncomfortable. But that discomfort is exactly why I'm telling you.
I was working on a positioning question. Something about how I show up as the founder of my business, as a thought leader, what I say, how I communicate, what I do, that kind of question that lives right at the center of your identity as a leader and the kind that deserves your full attention. And I was tired, not catastrophically tired, just really low bandwidth.
The kind of tired where sitting alone with a hard question just felt like too much to ask of myself at that particular moment on that particular day. So I opened AI before I even sat with the question myself for five minutes before I'd asked myself what I actually thought. I just went straight there to the LLM and AI answered confidently with structure, with language that was technically correct.
And I read it back and I didn't agree with it, and honestly, that's not a big deal. That happens a lot with ai, but here is the part that scared me. My first reaction wasn't, that's wrong, that's not aligned, that's not me. My first reaction was relief. I was relieved just to have an answer. Even one I didn't fully believe, because deciding is hard and I was done and an answer.
Any answer felt better than sitting with the uncertainty a little longer, and that is the thing that nobody talks about now, that AI is more significantly knit into our day-to-day processes. It's not that AI gives us bad answers. Sometimes it gives us extraordinary outputs. It's that sometimes it gives you good enough answers at exactly the moment that you're too depleted and vulnerable to demand better from yourself. And if you're not paying attention, if you don't have rules, that can become a habit and the habit becomes a pattern, and the pattern quickly erodes the thing that makes you singular, unique and irreplaceable in your business.
Your judgment, it replaces your judgment. Permission like ai, when it answers those questions for you, gives you permission, it tells you what to do, and sometimes we just wanna be told what to do. But perspective is, help me think this through. And that's the relationship that you wanna start building with ai, one of perspective, because one grows your judgment and one quietly erodes it.
The scariest part is that both of them feel exactly the same in the moment, especially when you're fried.
So here's the rule that changes everything and it's the rule I use and I want you to steal it. “AI informs, I decide” that's it. Four words. That is the whole framework. AI informs. I decide. Just like if you're doing a little Google search back in the day because you want a little more information about somebody, you wanna do your homework about something, right? AI informs I decide.
So when I'm preparing for a high stakes executive coaching session, for example, AI can help map the power dynamics, but I decide whether those dynamics reflect my actual experience and how I wanna show up as a result of understanding that.
When I'm pricing a new offer, AI can pull competitive data, but I decide ultimately what my work is worth. And when I'm designing a delegation system, AI can structure that workflow, but I decide what stays in my hands every time, no exceptions. And here's how you know which side of that line you're on.
You can ask yourself this one question before you open any prompt. Am I asking AI what to think or how to think? And if you're asking it, what to think, you're asking for permission. If you're asking it how to think, you're asking it for perspective, and that single question is your diagnostic. It changes how you engage with your AI tools.
So use it every time AI informs. I decide, I'm just gonna pause here for a second. Because it is Women's History Month, and I think this point lands differently when we say it out loud in this context. the women who built before us, the ones that we are celebrating this month, they didn't have ai, they didn't have the tools we have. What they had was unshakeable trust. Or sometimes shakeable trust in their own judgment in the face of every system that told them their perspective didn't matter.
That's the inheritance that we're sitting on, and I will not watch us hand that judgment over to an algorithm. Even a brilliant one. Just because we're tired, frustrated, burned out, and we needed the uncertainty to stop, that's not progress. That's a pattern. And girl, we are better than that.
Here's what I know. After 24 years of coaching founders, your instincts are your data. Your judgment is your most valuable asset, and every time you outsource a decision, even to very smart ai. You are making a withdrawal from the account that funds your leadership. With all that said, real talk, the founders I'm most worried about in the AI era are not the ones who aren't using ai. They are the ones that are using it without this rule, the ones slowly handing over the steering wheel while the car still looks like it's driving fine.
And stay with me here because this is the thing. AI doesn't make you a better leader. It amplifies the leader you already are. If you're leading with clarity and conviction, AI will amplify that. If you're leading from anxiety seeking approval, avoiding hard calls, AI will amplify that too.
It's a mirror and a megaphone, not a replacement for the voice inside it. And here's the part that matters for what I'm about to tell you. Knowing this rule is not the same as living this rule. Awareness alone doesn't break a pattern of looking for permission from ai. I can tell you AI inform you decide all day long, but if your decision making muscle has been quietly atrophying, you need more than a framework.
You need someone in your corner who can see what you can't see yet. Call it out with love and help you reclaim your instinct systematically.
Hey girl, here's the problem. You've been making decisions, but somewhere along the way you stop trusting that the decisions are fully yours. Maybe it's been happening slowly. Maybe you've been outsourcing the hard calls to AI or to your team, or to whoever's loudest in the room, because it's easier than sitting in your own discomfort of your own uncertainty, and now your business is running, but you're not running it, not really not from the CEO seat that costs you.
In revenue, you're leaving on the table in a team that's waiting for a leader who never quite shows up in a version of your business that looks successful from the outside, but feels hollow from the inside. The solution is not another framework. It's not another free resource. It's a private strategic partnership built around you, your business, your judgment, your next level, and that is CEO Clarity Consulting with free range thinking.
Six months one-on-one. We rebuild your decision making from the inside out with AI as your leverage, not your substitute spots are intentionally limited. And if you felt something in this episode, that recognition, that discomfort, that's not an accident, that's knowing that you're ready. The link is in the show notes.
Book your CEO clarity session now and don't wait until next month when the pattern has three more weeks to compound.
Let's bring it home. Tuesday, we talked about how I use AI as a cognitive leverage tool, not a content machine exclusively.
Anyway, I also shared the five conditions that tell me when to reach for AI and the workflow that stopped me from being the bottleneck in my own business. But today the reminder is this, the tool only works if you are still the one leading. AI informs. You decide every single time you're diagnostic.
When you're not sure which side of the line you're on. Am I asking AI what to think or how to think about something? And this Women's History Month, the most powerful thing you could do for the founders who come after you is model what it looks like to lead with your own judgment intact. That is the legacy.
Okay, levy, I'll see you on Tuesday. And until then, remember this, the most powerful thing AI has ever done for my business and for yours is to show you how much you already know.
You are that founder. Go act like it. I'll See you next time. Lovey.
