The Rising Beyond Podcast
If you're trying to protect your children while navigating an abusive ex, this podcast is for you. Because leaving the relationship didn't end the abuse, and no one prepared you for what came next.
The Rising Beyond Podcast is for protective mothers navigating the overwhelming reality of sharing children with someone who continues patterns of manipulation, coercive control, or emotional abuse after separation. Join Sybil Cummin, licensed professional counselor, who has spent the last decade helping survivors and their children navigate this incredibly difficult chapter. Every week, we share trauma-informed education, nervous system insights, protective parenting strategies, and honest conversations about family court, post-separation abuse, and healing, so you can feel more confident, more grounded, and better equipped to protect both your children and yourself.
Whether you're in the middle of family court, struggling with parenting alongside someone who continues patterns of control, or simply trying to become the parent you want to be after everything you've survived, you'll find validation, practical guidance, and hope here.
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Ep 34: Maintaining Hope During Post Separation Abuse
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If you thought that the abuse would end after you left your abusive partner, you may be stunned and extremely overwhelmed by the continued abuse. Post-separation abuse can look different from the abuse when living with your abuser, but it can be just as harmful if not more.
So, how is it possible for you to maintain a sense of hope while you are still being abused?
What is hope?
Wikipedia says that hope (noun) is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large. I prefer the definition of the verb, hope; expect with confidence.
It is important to hold onto hope, not as the belief that life will always be rainbows and butterflies, but one that includes the reality of the situation we find ourselves in.
Here are some tips to maintaining hope as you go through post separation abuse:
- As you learn more about abuse, look for the opportunities of what you can use to better your situation and choose information that has a positive outcome, not just the horror stories.
- Put as many safe people around you and your children as possible.
- Acknowledge your progress, even the small victories
- Write down your goal and put it in places you can see it
- Get therapeutic support if the hopelessness remains and if you have thoughts of harming yourself or others.
Links:
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