The Rising Beyond Podcast
Are you ready to thrive as you are coming out of a toxic or abusive relationship? Join Sybil Cummin, a licensed professional counselor who has specialized in working with victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse for over a decade and runs a membership community for women on their healing journey. On this podcast you will finally feel understood and your experience will be validated as you learn tangible strategies to handle family court, coparent with your abuser, improve your connection with your children, and heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence.
Episodes
129 episodes
Ep 129: AImee One Year Later: Fighting Loneliness and Saving Time for Survivors of Abuse with Anne Wintemute
Post separation abuse resources are still scarce even though it is no longer a secret that abuse continues after a victim leaves the relationship.Feeling like you are on your own as you read and respond to your co-parent’s messages in y...
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Ep 128: When Hope Feels Out of Reach for Domestic Violence Survivors
Navigating the family court system with an abusive ex can feel like an endless, uphill battle. And with our current system broken and the current state of our world, the idea of “finding hope” and positivity may not feel possible.<...
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Ep 127: Stuck in Your Head? The Role of Emotions as You Heal from Abuse with Bre Wolta
Do you ever feel like you are stuck in your head?It may mean that you need to get out of your thoughts and into your body and emotions.On this week’s episode we do a deep dive with Bre Wolta, a relationship coach and certified E...
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Ep 126: Can Narcissists Change? What Family Court and Survivors Need to Know
What does the family court system and other systems need to know about the realistic time it will take someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or those who are high on the continuum of narcissism to actually change?That is ...
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Ep 125: Shining a Light on Family Court Failures with Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins and Erin Siegal
Transparency is a requirement for any meaningful change in our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. This is extremely apparent when you hear the horror stories of survivors day after day of their ...
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Ep 124: Leveraging Your Expertise for Better Custody Outcomes in Family Court with Julie Nabors
Coercive control and dv thrive in secrecy and so for many reasons victims lose their voices in the process of these relationships. Once a victim has left they have to make the decision of what parts of their story to share and wit...
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Ep 123: No Accountability for Abusers: Is There Anything a Survivor of Domestic Violence Can Do to Change This?
Are awareness and education the best option for decreasing the rates of domestic violence and coercive control?While it is important, we have been bringing awareness to the public since 1987 and it doesn’t feel like a lot has changed.
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Ep 122: The Hidden Damage of Isolation: Restoring Brain Health After Domestic Abuse with Social Connections
Isolation as a tactic of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence is fairly well understood, however are there larger consequences to continued isolation post separation?Similar to the scores from the Adverse Childhood Experiences Scale...
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Ep 121: Abigail’s Story: Exposing the Hidden Truth of Officer Involved Domestic Violence
What is Officer Involved Domestic Violence? This is an area of advocacy where we have known to be a problem for years and it is unspoken; a “dirty little secret.” Bruce Bieber agreed to share his story as a way to move this is...
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Ep 120: Finding Validation After Narcissistic Abuse: Building Friendships That Don’t Keep You Stuck
What happens when you finally find that one or two people who actually get the narcissistic abuse that you have gone through and continue to go through post separation?Oftentimes you might find yourself sharing like water coming out of ...
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Ep 119: The Typical Patterns of Abuse: Why They Continue to Work Post Separation with Nova Gibson
What is a typical pattern or blueprint for the relationship with a narcissist?Love Bombing happens first. Followed by devaluation. And then concludes with the Discard.And this cycle happens over and over again within...
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Ep 118: Behind the Curtain: Exposing the Failings of Family Court for Survivors of Domestic Violence
What is it going to take for there to be real systemic change? The state of our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse is horrific for so many families. And recently some of the unethica...
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Ep 117: Reproductive Coercion with Lynn Stroud
How does a narcissistic and abusive partner get you stuck in a relationship?Most of the time it is through love bombing, moving extremely quickly, and coercing you into a larger commitment, like living together, getting engaged or marri...
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Ep 116: Choosing My Battles When Coparenting with My Narcissistic Ex
Is it easy for you to choose what battles to fight and what battles to let go of when you are co-parenting with your abusive and narcissistic ex-partner?Many of the survivors I have worked with struggle to make this decision based on th...
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Ep 115: Understanding Generational Trauma and Its Role in Abusive Relationships
Why did I end up in an abusive relationship?There is no one reason or answer to this question with the exception of…your partner chose to abuse you.And I know that this answer does not satisfy anyone. So we are going to lo...
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Ep 114: Combating Coercive Control: Bringing Education into the Classroom with Lis Hoyte
How can we add a layer of protection for young people so that they can see coercive control in relationships a mile away?What if we brought education about coercive control and teen dating violence into our schools?In this episo...
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Ep 113:Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex
What is the difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting?If you have separated from your narcissistic ex-partner and you share children together, it is likely that you will still have to parent your children together in some capac...
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Ep 112: How Women are Framed in the Family Court System with Dr. Cocchiola and Amy Polacko
Our family court system continues to harm families on a daily basis. If you are a survivor of domestic violence, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse and share children with your ex-partner, you are likely experiencing this firsthand.<...
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Ep 111: The Realities of Court Ordered Reunification Therapy
If your children have not had contact or very little contact with your abusive ex-partner then it is likely that a judge will court order reunification therapy.What exactly is reunification therapy? And is it in the best interests...
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Ep 110: Playing the Narcissist’s Game: Is There A Way To Win?
“Playing the game” of family court and co-parenting when your ex partner is a narcissist is so mentally taxing and goes against every fiber of the survivors I work with.This episode is a bit of a rant after the themes of the moving goal...
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Ep 109: Effective Storytelling: How to Share Your Narcissistic Abuse Experience
What do you do with the story of your abuse?Who do you tell? What do you tell them? You will find yourself in many different situations with many different people where you will need to share the same story of your n...
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Ep 108: The Golden Child and The Scapegoat Child
If you share more than one child with your narcissistic ex, then it is likely that you have seen your children treated differently.Oftentimes a narcissistic parent creates a dynamic where one child is “the golden child” and another is “...
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Ep 107: High Risk Domestic Violence Team/Law Enforcement with Detective Brandon Wootan
Did you know that there are actually members of law enforcement that understand and want to find solutions to support victims of domestic violence and coercive control?I know for many of you this is hard to believe, and I have found one...
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Ep 106: Trauma Symptom Relief: All About Neurofeedback with Louise Finley, LPC, OMC
What would it be like to get a full night sleep? Or to be able to focus on the task at hand?After experiencing the trauma of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse many survivors find that their daily functioning completely goes...
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Ep 105: Trauma Therapy Options for Abuse Survivors and their Children
If you have experienced relationship abuse, then you have experienced trauma. And even if you do not meet all of the requirements for post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) it is likely that some form of trauma therapy will be a helpful part of ...
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