210: HURT: Cancel Culture to Road Rage to Abuse

Are apologies really necessary after we hurt someone?

YES!

There IS a right and wrong way to apologize according to our brains. A sincere apology changes brain activity and an insincere apology actually creates more damage!

When we feel emotional hurt, from mean social media comments, to road rage, to relationship abuse, it lights up our brains the same way physical pain would. When we get hurt, or hurt someone else, we judge others on the actions that they took that hurt us, while we judge ourselves on what our intention or meaning was. 

Have you ever caught yourself saying:

Oh, I didn’t mean to do that… 

That’s not what I meant to have happen… 

My intention wasn’t to do…. 

If you’re in a relationship you will most likely get hurt as well as hurt someone… which is why it is so important to understand what our brains do when hurt happens. I have a simple tool that will help you navigate your hurt, apologize “correctly” and move forward together, stronger after HURT.