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How To Give Something to Jesus: Example and Explaination #107

• Mukkove - The Mom Mentor • Season 4 • Episode 1

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In this episode, I share a personal story about helping my daughter manage her fear of sleeping alone after a power outage. 

I'll walk you through how I guided her to give her fears to Jesus using a simple but powerful imaginative exercise. 

We'll discuss the importance of using our bodies and imagination to connect with our faith, and how this method can be especially helpful for children. 

Plus, I'll share tips on how to identify thoughts that are not your own and how to replace lies with God's truth. Join the conversation and become part of the Healing Generations community for ongoing support and live workshops!


00:00 A Mother's Concern: Nighttime Fears

02:14 Introducing the Concept of Giving Fears to Jesus

03:26 Practical Steps for Giving Fears to Jesus

04:59 The Importance of Receiving from God

08:52 Heart Doodling: A Tool for Processing Emotions

12:56 Encouragement and Resources for Learning

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The other night I was sitting on the couch just winding down with my husband at the end of the day, and I hear this from the other room. Like, jump up to go in and see what's going on because it sounded rather desperate. And but then when I get in there, she's like, I just can't get comfortable. And I'm like, that doesn't make sense. There's got to be something else going on. And it was her first night sleeping back in her room after sleeping in our room during a windstorm and power outage. And we have trouble every time. She doesn't want to transition back to her room. She wants to stay sleeping in our room and be close to us. And from my standpoint, I don't understand that. Like, I don't remember like being afraid of the dark or being afraid of bad things happening when I was a kid. I don't think about those kind of things much now. So I have a hard time relating, but trying to stay compassionate and ask questions. And she shares that she is, in fact, and does in fact spend time on occasion thinking about what if somebody broke in the house and feels that she would be safer in our room than in her. And my like logical brain jumps in as like, you're not safer in there. Like you're on the middle of the floor, you're gonna get stepped on. And if somebody's coming after us, like you're right there in the middle of the floor, they would get to you first. Like you're better off in your room, farther away from the door. But also realizing like none of that logic makes any sense when someone is in an emotional state. It is not kind to use logic on them. So catch myself and be like, okay, that's not helpful.

SPEAKER_01:

But she had like calmed down and kind of saw my reasoning.

SPEAKER_00:

And so I asked her if she could give her fear to Jesus and realized, like, oh my goodness, why haven't I done this before? Like, I've had her give lots of things to Jesus over the years, and we've done like giving him fears or sadness or anger, lots of different things. But I'd kind of forgotten about it, I guess, and I haven't used it with her for quite a while. And so, in having her, like, I said, can you give this, can you give it to God? Yeah. So she did that all by herself. She closed her eyes and did her giving it to God in exchange. And so I was realizing as I was sharing this, like, oh, she's she's learned and grown. Like, there was a time when I was so frustrated at having to walk her through every step of it and reminding myself, like, she's just a kid, she needs practice. And so being reminded, like, okay, she's got the practice. Like, she didn't think to use the tool, but when I brought the tool up, she knew what to do. And if you're like, I don't have any idea what you're talking about, break that down. So when we give something to Jesus, it's very helpful to use your imagination and use your body. You can pretend you are like gathering it all up and putting it in a box. You can imagine that you wrote it all down, you can actually write it all down and you know, put it in an envelope, give that to Jesus. You can do whatever comes to your imagination, like grab it out of the air, like gather it up and give it to him. Like make those movements with your body that you are taking whatever this thing is, speaking out what it is, and like reaching out and giving it to him. And use your imagine to see him taking it from you, or to see that he throws it away, or he burns it up, or he puts it at the cross, or whatever he does with it. Because that part doesn't matter. Jesus can do whatever he wants with it. You gave it to him. So saying it, identifying what you're giving and using your body to like actually give it is very helpful, especially for kids as they're so concrete. And a lot of our wounds and issues that we deal with are from when we were kids. So, in a lot of ways, we're just as concrete in those, in those states, in those situations. And then once you've given it to Jesus and seen what he's done with it, you ask what he has for you in return. And that's not entitlement, it's not presumption, it's not selfish. The Lord promises that he gives us beauty for ashes. So we're just saying, like, I gave you my ashes, show me the beauty. You give me joy for mourning, and I'm giving you my mourning, my grief, my sadness. What do you have for me? I'm giving you my brokenness, and you give me wholeness and peace. And for adults, it's often seems like it's some kind of encouraging picture or a word, something that's kind of the opposite of what you gave. For my daughter, it's almost always toys. So she has an immense imaginary collection of toys that God has given her when she has given him things. And he will add to the collection. Like, he gave me more pieces for this set, he gave me more pieces for this. Like, okay, I don't really understand that either. But that's what he gives to her and how he's connecting to her right now. How she's connecting to him. And so realizing, like, there's a tool that I haven't been remembering to have her use when I've been dealing with being afraid of the dark, being afraid of losing me, um, this whatever it is of like, right, you don't need to manage this on your own. You can give it to God. And like the fear of the dark, she didn't the next night when the wind started again. Um, she didn't feel like she could just give that to God. Like that was more discussion, and it was more of a like him coming and helping her with it. It still, I don't think we got to the point where we felt like we could just give it to him. There was still some kind of a root there. And so when you're doing that for yourself and giving things to God, sometimes it's as easy and as quick as, God, I give you this. What do you give me? I give you my fear, you give me your promise of protection, we're good. Other times it's much more of a process of exploring what am I really giving him? How deep does this go? How big is it?

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And what lost my train of thought.

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Like, where did it come from? Because sometimes where it came from matters. Because we'll need to forgive, we'll need to repent, we need to feel the feelings that we weren't allowed to feel when that event actually happened. And there's not a checklist of like you need to do all these things. It's partnering with Holy Spirit and saying, lead me, show me what of these things do I need to do. And sometimes, like, he just does it, and we don't have to. But other times that's part of walking in relationship is I want to sit with you in these feelings. I want you to see where these thoughts came from. I want to see, want you to see that this isn't true and it's not for me. It's not my character, it's not when I speak over you. When I do this process, I like to do a heart doodling. Sometimes I just journal. Um, but I like to do the heart doodling to give space to feel the feelings and to give space to write down the thoughts, because often when the thoughts get written down, I can see much more easily which thoughts are not mine. Like just this morning, I was doing I did a heartdoodle before coming on to share live. And I could tell that like I was avoiding it and I wasn't looking forward to it, which was like, that's so crazy. Because like when the story happened with my daughter the other night, I was so excited to share. I'm like, I know this will be helpful because it would have been so helpful to me with my other kids. And um, but this morning it was like, I don't know. So as I wrote down my thoughts, um, I don't know if you'll be able to see. But so I have one part of me that is like, let's go, this is good. We're excited about this, like we have a plan. And then there's this little one, because I was like, so there's part of me that feels like I'm not so sure. And I was like, well, so how old does that part feel? She feels really young, like she doesn't have much resources, she doesn't have a lot of options, and so she's not so sure. And she doesn't know if anybody will listen, doesn't know if it makes any difference. And then there's the accusing thought of can you really do a good job? And you don't even know what you're doing. So there's that difference between my thoughts, even though it's like a broken, wounded, immature part that's having the doubt, those accusations aren't mine at all. But while it was in my head and I was just kind of avoiding it and letting it stir in the background or whatever, I wasn't aware that those doubts of whether I had anything to say and whether it made any difference. I wasn't aware that those there was lies mixed in with that. Like the enemy was speaking to me in the midst of my own doubts and insecurities. So putting it on paper helps me see, like, oh, okay, these are lies. I can just address them with truth. And sometimes that in itself is a process because sometimes the lies feel really, really true. Sometimes we see them like, oh, that's a lie. Never mind. But it's not always the case. Sometimes there is a big process because that lie feels so true and has been reinforced by your experience so many times, or by really big event. And that's okay. Like Jesus is fine with that. He wants to walk with you through that. But by putting it on paper, I can see, like, oh, these aren't even all my thoughts. And in this case, like I separated it out by like, okay, I have part of me's excited, part of me knows this is what I'm supposed to be doing. And then there's part of me that's like, uh, let's just avoid that. Let's let's not let's just shrink and be small. So I, you know, was able to sort out those two pieces, those two parts on paper as well, and see their different thoughts and their different feelings.

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And I don't know.

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I don't want to ramble. I feel like I'm rambling. So if you're watching this, you're listening to this, and you have questions about what I'm talking about how do we give this to Jesus? How do we identify what different parts are thinking? How do we identify the enemies talking instead of us? How do we receive from God? Like that in itself could be something new to you. And I don't want it to sound like any of these things of like give it to God and see what he has for you, to sound like you should just know how to do that. I've spent years learning how to do that, practicing with Holy Spirit. So I don't want it, I should have said that at the beginning. I don't want it to sound like you should just know how to do this, and there's something wrong with you if you don't know how to tell who's talking or to receive from God or to give it to Jesus. There's no condemnation. You don't automatically know how to do those things, but you can learn and practice. And so if you have questions, if you want to give me feedback on, like, yeah, it totally sounded like we should just know what to do, um, whatever. Like you can leave a comment here, you can um join the healing generations community on school, and you can leave comments and message me there. And um, I do teach heart doodling with Jesus in a live workshop once a month. So you can join in on that too, and look forward to seeing you in the future.