Spend Your Time ⏳ Wisely

In this episode of the Miss Adventurous Podcast, Tiffany Rouge gets real about one of the hardest lessons she’s been learning lately: how to truly spend her time wisely. ⏳✨ From navigating a partner’s sabbatical to sitting in silence at Vipassana, Tiffany shares the realizations that pulled her out of constant “doing” and back into presence with her son, her body, and her joy.

It’s an honest look at what happens when you let go of the hustle, the pressure to achieve, and the guilt—and instead allow life to flow. 🌊

✨ This is a good listen if…

• You’ve ever felt torn between building your dreams and being present in your life.
• You catch yourself caught in “busy mode” but long for more peace.
• You’re ready to rethink how you spend your most valuable resource: your time.

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Tiffany Rouge is a 🌸 mum, coach, and breathwork guide sharing raw stories, lessons, and real-life conversations about what it actually takes to grow, heal, and live on your own terms ✨💛. Through her workshops, coaching, and digital practices, she helps people reconnect with themselves, breathe deeper, and create lasting change 🌬️🌱.

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(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) So this episode of the Misadventurous Podcast is all about navigating the clear waters of your life, particularly if you are in a stable place, like you are living a life of routine, you have a job, there's a lot of maybe repeat actions that happen in your week, but you're still feeling the call to adventure, because I most certainly am. As someone who has just been on a few different adventures, well, it is true that life is one big adventure. So let's navigate this one together as I share my experiences with you. This is the Misadventurous Podcast, hosted by me, Tiffany Rouge. Life is one big adventure, and it all starts from taking that one teensy tiny step outside of your comfort zone. So I guess the easiest way to give context to my situation, and I guess the message that I'm trying to convey is to tell you a story about my life and the current situation that I'm in, right? So I am week four into a six-week sabbatical, if you call it, and the sabbatical is not my own, right? This is a sabbatical that my fiancé has gone on, he's gone to Brazil and taken my son, my two-year-old-ish son, with him. And I have stayed at home and been alone, I guess, even though, you know, like, I'm in my life and I have friends and I'm supported and all these sorts of things, like my mum's still in town and all that jazz. So I am amidst this sabbatical that isn't my own, but I've also felt the consequences. And like, we say consequences is often, you know, that's a bad thing, but this is, you know, in this case, the consequences are not a bad thing. Sure, there have been some bad consequences, but consequences are just like actions, right? Like there can be good ones and there can be bad ones. And there have been some great consequences of said sabbatical, the actions of my fiancé who has gone and left and taken my child with him, right? And the normal ones, like you would expect, which is like missing them, a little bit of loneliness, that wanting to have someone to talk to on a regular basis, because my house is very quiet right now, and I guess that's why I'm podcasting so much. I'm actually spending a lot more time in an intellectual basis, which has, you know, good, been really good for me, especially as we talk about consequences, right? Like giving me this space to not be in mum mode and not have the mental load or the responsibility of taking care of a household and making sure that my son eats and therefore my fiancé also eats. And, you know, I still make sure that the dog eats because he didn't go anywhere. But leaving those consequences, I've chosen to put myself through some stuff. I went on a 10-day Vipassana meditation retreat and it was beautiful. The amazing, interesting things that I thought I would learn, I learned. And then the biggest one that I have been denying myself, the lesson that keeps coming up. So in the Vipassana, in this breath work that I had when I went to Bali on my own. So, you know, having all this free time to go out and do these things for myself was, I guess, this truth that I had been denying myself, which is I'm not spending my time wisely. And it's been this big learning for me because I'm so mentally in the future and with my desires. And like Vipassana meditation is all about like when you are meditating in Vipassana, the ideal time or like, you know, the outcome is to just be fully present in the moment, not head in the future, wanting something to happen. And then when it doesn't happen, you get disappointed or head in the past, reflecting on things that happened that I didn't want to have happen to me. And therefore I feel aversion. So it's just being like fully present and aware in the moment of the body sensations of the current situation that I am faced with. And that is being 100% conscious of how I spend my time. Because if I'm fully present in the moment, I am savoring it. I am taking it in. I am choosing to enjoy it or be grateful or choosing to see a situation for what it is, not react to it and allow it to be an impermanent situation because moments pass. They arise and they pass all the time just as time ticks away. So the learning that came from me is that I have a 19 month old-ish son. I have a 20 month old, you know, he's got about he's about to turn two, right? He turns two in a couple of months. And I have spent probably the majority of his second year working on something for money. And if it's not for money, it's for the prospect of money. And it's to keep this household and the life that I currently live, these cool, calm, collected, shallow, clear waters that I have worked really hard to exist in is currently, you know, my life. And I guess I've been walking around with the burden of the need to create something that is going to bring me wealth and, you know, something in the future that is going to benefit me positively so that I can do something about it now, so that the thing that I'm wanting can happen to me in the future. And I guess I'm not embodying the present moment. I'm not fully present with my son because when he's asleep, I have to quickly run off and do something around the business or create a reel or create content or, you know, do something that is building towards this thing, which I've come to understand has been a massive snowball effect of my ego, right? And I come from a radio background and I've been feeling like I've been getting lost and caught up. And it's really easy to do in social media, which is, I'm sure you felt it, where you see someone who has a life, who's a couple of steps ahead of you on the journey of life, that you kind of turn around and go, I want this, I want what they've got. And for me, it's been coaches, it's been spiritual teachers, it's been healers, it's been people that are successful in the health and the wellness and the personal development space, because I want to be successful in the health, wellness and personal development space. And all I've been doing, particularly around this year, and I guess I've made quite a bit of progress, but what I've been doing this year is building the business so that I can be successful in that space. And it's been really informative. I've had beta programs go really well. I've created digital products and sacred container products for support for people that have gone down really well. And I'm very proud of what I've created, but it's also giving me the understanding that although I may feel like the time that I have spent doing these things, creating this and putting this stuff in place, my masculine brain, who is in charge of how I hold our life together and how I keep the clear waters calm, how I maintain the lifestyle that I currently have, that I have been spending it wisely in that sense, but not spending it wisely enough in the current sense of what is my divine feminine role that is indicative of the stage of life that I'm in. So in other words, right, I've been spending too much time on my business and building this thing because it's been a chase of the desire and of my ego to have a successful coaching business and not spending time really savoring these beautiful moments of my son who is almost two, who will never be almost two again. And I say not using my time wisely because I didn't waste the time. I don't feel like I wasted that time, but I think my priorities were on the money when I am fully a believer that I'm an abundant being and that money comes and goes and that everything I've ever needed when it comes to resource and money I have always got. So I've been sort of caught up in a notion and idea of something that I should have when I have not been looking at what is directly in front of me, what I do have, the responsibilities, the roles that I have as a mother and I have not been truly savoring and appreciating the time I have with my son. And okay, that might have been really obvious to someone who is a single mom or you know has decided to put their work aside and and been fully tunnel vision on being a mom. But being a mom wasn't something I wanted for a very long time. So this realization of me choosing to be present in the moment and be aware and actually like take the burden of trying to build this successful business off my shoulders and put it down and let it be sat there for a bit and it could be like for a bit or forever has been a really big challenge for me and it's taken some time to even integrate this into my life because I wasn't even sure if I was ready to do it if that was what I truly wanted. But interestingly enough the message that I need to do this for myself and my own sanity and to be happy, I need to release myself of the mental construct that I need to do these things, that I need to be building this successful business, that I need to be creating all these systems and content because AI is going to get me if I don't. And I found myself asking lately like why do people listen to me? Like why do you listen to me? Why are you listening to this podcast right now right? And I really do value the rawness and the realness of having beautiful conversations in person, real conversations with people. And when I hear this sort of like real raw stuff around what what other people are learning about their lives and how I relate to that, that brings me closer to them. And so in a way the feelings of I should be doing more, I need to be productive because when I was young I felt like I didn't get enough love. And so instead of me going and having a conversation about it and asking the sole caregivers, the people who I were most attached to and talking to them about it, I just became an overachiever. And I filled my time with the doing of things so that I could prove to myself that I am enough regardless of what you know the people, my caregivers thought of me. And that is not an example I want to be setting for my son. I want to show him that being fully present, being aware of my current surroundings, being in the moment and being happy in the moment to me is a big example that I want to lead by example and that I want to show him. So the learning from my Vipassana, the first few days all came through with all these business ideas and the pathways that I could go down, I have chosen to really just sit him down, sit him down for a bit and let them be down because I know that if I need to I can pick it all back up when I'm in a place where I need that. But I have so many other incredible opportunities that are already in my life that I'm currently enacting that I don't need to pile on top the business, the pressure to do this and to create content, to be constantly doing. And through this release of pressure, of feeling like I need to do that or do something and achieve I have almost set myself on a brand new adventure through the clear waters. Because in my mind I'm navigating on the ocean, I'm navigating how I get through and choose to fill my time when once I made that choice of actually I'm just gonna like do some more things that make me feel happy, it's amazing the interests, the practices, the habits that unfolded in my life. And these three things, the interests, the practice and the habits, I've been looking for and I've been wondering if they would ever pop up. Okay, it took the sabbatical, it took me being away from the two biggest things that are my attention grabbers, but I found it really profound that when I let go of the need to do business stuff and the content creation stuff, these beautiful forms of play, inspiration and self-care have intuitively come into my life. Like I've started listening to a new book which I will definitely be sharing a lot more about because it is hitting me in all the different ways in terms of my interest, in terms of what I care about, in terms of the pathways where I want to send more of my attention and energy. I have picked up an instrument that I have been wanting to play for a long time and I didn't think I had the capacity to even like grow with it, but I had the opportunity to take some classes in Bali and here I am playing it on a regular like on a daily basis and feeling good like I'm achieving something with that and I am making the effort every day to hit my 10,000 steps, to tire myself out, to move my body so much that I don't feel like I need any assistance to get to sleep. I used to have CBD oil every night before I went to bed and I don't even need that anymore because I have exercised enough. I am moving my body in a way that is good and healthy for me and my dog Pluto's lost some weight I'm feeling really great about him, but also for me I'm feeling like great about myself that I'm getting stronger, I'm improving my cardiovascular health all because I let go of the weight on my shoulders and the turning point for me and the reason that I wanted to share this is because I spent today and you know whenever you listen to this it's just that humanization of like I spent the day previously to recording this doing the opposite I fell back into the web of doing of structure of business of creating a video and I did nothing I did nothing none of those instinctual things that make me feel good about myself did I manage to do today because I was busy falling back into old habits and old patterns and I think it's a really interesting phenomenon that can happen in your life particularly if you are feeling like maybe there's something lacking in your life there's no interest in anything there's no self-care going on or there's no desire for new things or maybe there's a desire for new things but there's no like motivation there's no motivation to do the things that you know you probably should be doing but you've got all these things on your to-do list that you feel like you should be doing but the why of why you're doing them doesn't actually allow you to be in a place where you can be in the flow of your life and this comes back to that water metaphor because when you are in the flow of your life all the stuff that is good for you will continue to flow into your life and that's not to say right like if you're in a negative place and more negative stuff keeps flowing in sure there's little bit of work that needs to be done but then you're looking at questioning why are you doing the things that you're doing and so for me it's a little bit lighter because I've had a big life realization I'm currently in this stage of my life where I need to be caring for an infant and giving him so much of my attention but it took for me to spend 10 days without any stimulation no book no phone no talking no contact of anything at all with another person just being here with my own thoughts to understand that it is not as hard as I make it out to be and I genuinely believe that life is not meant to be hard so if there are things in your mind that or your life that don't seem to be working and it's hard and you are like just going against brick wall brick wall brick wall ask the question is this what I meant to be doing is this my life is this how I want to be spending my time is this a good use of my time on the premise that time is the only resource in our life that is finite it is undefined of how much we have but we know we will run out of it money never going to run out as long as you're alive as long as you've got time you are going to be able to make money friends resources roof over your head all these things can be attained can be achieved but time is the only thing the only resource of yours that you will never get back and you never know how much you've got so to me it's the most precious resource we have even energy you know you can eat something you can go to sleep and you can replenish that but you need time to replenish your energy so I urge you to ask yourself the question how are you spending your time and do you feel like you are spending it wisely because for a long time for the last year I thought I was spending my time wisely it turns out I wasn't and that is totally okay like I feel no guilt about spending the time that I already have on my business and I also feel no guilt about letting my fiance take my son to another country no guilt on that I'm not like even giving any time to that right and if it is an internal dialogue where you feel that you know there is a bit of guilt there's a bit of attachment to maybe your children or you feel like you could never do something like that totally fine you know that may not be the path for you but I don't feel any guilt in this current situation because I've had to surrender and allow all these things to flow and therefore this sabbatical of my own time has flowed in because that is what I clearly needed. So yeah ask yourself am I spending my time wisely and is there something that I should be spending my time on that is going to bring me more peace joy and happiness and if the answers to those questions stir something up within you that's okay right we're supposed to be these fluid adaptable changing beings and that's cool too but if you need a bit of help with that and look I'm not making any promises because as you could just tell that I've you know I've put aside a lot of the support and the coaching that I can offer but I'm here right like I want to have a conversation I'm more than happy to share some thoughts so get in touch with me via the show notes at tiffany underscore rouge on instagram would love to hear how this has hit you and what is it that you feel like you are spending your time on and if you're spending it wisely do you feel like you're spending it wisely because I definitely did it and that's okay well that's almost it from me here on misadventurous if you dig what you hear and want to keep up to date with every single episode of the misadventurous podcast hit subscribe however you're listening to this right now and if you want to be even more of a legend and help other wayward adventurers find this path I'd love it if you head on over to iTunes and rate and review this podcast go on five stars for all that positivity right so until next time and don't forget it's the small choices that we make every single day that build up to that big change that you're working towards so stay with it