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Grounded Wildness
Let's face it. You've been surrounded by messages your entire life telling you to prove your worth through achievement, success, likability, and a million other forms of being "good." Over time, those messages become rules you follow, often without even knowing it. Those rules make you believe everything will fall apart if you slow down. They tell you it’s your job to be responsible for everything and take care of everyone. They make you feel guilty for saying no. They tell you to prove, please, and perfect your way through life. It's time to stop. It's time to break those rules – and start living in grounded wildness. Join speaker, award-winning author of 'An Overachiever's Guide to Breaking the Rules' and 'Grounded Wildness', and recovering perfectionist Heather Whelpley as she shares honest conversations that will empower you to stop performing your life and start LIVING it. If you're tired of burnout, hustle culture, and the weight of “should” and “supposed-to” and want more joy, impact, and freedom in your life, this podcast is for you. Learn more at www.heatherwhelpley.com
Grounded Wildness
EP. 28 - Four Ways You're Performing Your Life - Part Three: Perfecting
Today's episode is all about perfectionism! It's the third way we perform in our lives - and definitely the one I hear the most about.
You know the feeling of perfectionism. It's those unrealistically high standards and expectations that you feel like you MUST reach – and the inevitable stress, anxiety, shame, and worry that shows up when you don't. That's when the inner critic swoops in, berating you with a barrage of commentary: You should have worked harder. Done more. Why did you do THAT? Haven't you learned anything?!? You should know better by now. Are you stupid?
Yep. It's all really fun. And almost everyone I work with experiences perfecting.
In today's episode we'll cover:
- The REAL definition of perfectionism (it might be different than what you think)
- The root causes of perfecting and why it has absolutely nothing to do with you
- An antidote to perfecting you can use immediately to starting quieting the self-judgment
- We'll also talk about Barbie – and the best speech ever that encapsulates exactly why you perfect
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