She is Redefined
Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
So, if you’re ready to rewrite your story and make bold moves toward a life that feels authentically yours, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s redefine the rules of success together—while having a blast along the way!
She is Redefined
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Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
So, if you’re ready to rewrite your story and make bold moves toward a life that feels authentically yours, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s redefine the rules of success together—while having a blast along the way!
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Welcome to she is Redefined, the podcast where we break free from societal expectations, redefine our identities and step fully into the woman we were always meant to be. I'm Katie Smith, your host and guide on this journey of transformation. Here we're all about embracing change, cultivating confidence and living life on our own terms. Each week, we'll dive into topics that inspire, challenge and empower you to redefine what it means to be you. Dive into topics that inspire, challenge and empower you to redefine what it means to be you. So if you're ready to rewrite your story and live life that's bold, authentic and unapologetically yours, let's dive in. Welcome. Okay, what do you think? Did you hear that intro? Like, oh my gosh, I freaking love it. Like I buzzing obviously you can probably hear it, I can't stop smiling. My face hurts. Like we're here, we're doing it, we're redefining ourselves and we can do it over and over and over again and not give a shit, because we're here to be unapologetic and authentic and ourselves and follow our true north and be in alignment and just fucking live life for ourselves. I swear that's what it is. Oh my gosh, I'm so honored that you're here, thank you, okay, I've got a fun topic that I want to talk to you about.
Speaker 1:I want to talk to you about freedom and I want to talk to you about what is required to get freedom. So let's start with just a question Did you know that, in order to have more freedom in your life, you actually have to be more disciplined? Yeah, you heard that correct. For more freedom, you actually need more discipline. Now, sure you're probably thinking, yeah, okay, katie, sure, so I have to do more, I have to do more action to have my freedom, right? No, no, no, I'm actually not saying that at all, and I think we mix up the word discipline all the time. I think people think discipline means like doing stuff, like action taking. I honestly got caught up in that when I first like I wouldn't say heard the word because obviously, but like, when you think of discipline, like in the personal development realm, I kind of thought it just meant doing more. But actually that's not what I'm talking about at all. What I want discipline to mean for you, and what I mean in this context, is actually you focusing and choosing to let yourself have something you want every single day. It's being disciplined to put yourself first. It's being disciplined to choose joy every single day to then feel like you're living a life of freedom, because that's ultimately what is happening when you look back or when you even think of freedom. It's ultimately being able to do whatever you want, right? I am very good at helping you find little ways of doing that every single day, which then make up your weeks. So then you got freedom-filled weeks, which then they make up your months. Freedom-filled months which then make up your year, and that makes up your life. You Freedom-filled months which then make up your year, and that makes up your life. You want a freedom-filled life.
Speaker 1:It starts with daily, disciplined stuff and it's not even adding more to your to-do list. I'm the farthest person of telling you add more, do more, meditate, blah, blah, blah. No, that's not what I'm saying at all, because I'm a busy person. My life is not boring at all. I don't have a ton of time. I'm a mom to two toddlers, boys at that. If you're a boy mom, you freaking know what I'm talking about. They're feral, they are crazy, they're off button. It doesn't even exist. So, boy, mama of toddlers and for those who are new here, I have a two-year-old and I have a three-year-old. So like yeah, I'm like in it. I've got a husband who I adore. I have a business with one-on-one clients, several one-on-one clients who I have to service. I have a podcast. That's what you're listening to. It's weekly. I have then gotten into a really good routine of content but, like, I have to serve you through this platform, so this requires time. And then I have a crazy amount of animals Like, if you don't know, I have three dogs, three big ass dogs who need to be fed and walked and petted and have attention, and then my prize at the end here, last but definitely not least, I'm a horse owner who's a big part of my life.
Speaker 1:My horse is a huge part of my life. Like that's what I think actually makes me so unique is, like how important my horse is, and I have been in the horse world for going on 11, 12 years now. I have not met another woman. Actually take that back At the current barn I'm at. There's a mom there who has a two-year-old.
Speaker 1:I don't meet very many horse owners my age with young kids, because it's near fucking impossible. It literally is, and I make it work, and I make it work honestly, effortlessly. It's like I need it as much as it needs me. I need my horse as much as he needs me. I need that time as much as that time needs me, and so I share that with you, because I am the farthest thing from having all this time. I don't have a personal assistant. It's me, my husband. I don't even have a team. I hire out a VA occasionally if I need that. I'm a one-man shop and I prefer it that way. I never want a large team. That gives me anxiety.
Speaker 1:So I share this with you because the way I've been able to map out my life is based on discipline, and so I actually want to walk through that with you today. So how does one do all this? How do I do all this and how do I still feel like I'm living my best life with all of this? Because so many people have told me my life overwhelms them. They can't even imagine having this many things going on, and it is just normal for me. I prefer that. Well, this is what I do. I have discipline around, choosing happiness and joy and finding ways to do what I want every single day. That is literally my secret, and some people might think, well, that's pretty fucking selfish. You bet your ass it's selfish. I think actually more people should be selfish. I think we should stop this people-pleasing pandemic and just simply start doing the shit we want to do.
Speaker 1:Now I'd love to be riding my horse all day. Is that realistic? No, so, obviously there are boundaries. Obviously there is a compromise, but I find a way to see my horse six days a week with my kids or solo. Now I also have an amazing partner who is supportive of this, but guess what? Guess what? Are you listening? He hates horses and he literally hated me having a horse, for I would say I've had horses now 12 years, I'd say up until 2020, he finally was like okay, now I had bad horses too, so that's probably one thing. I shattered my wrist in 2016, eight screws in a plate or in my right wrist, and it happened two weeks before we were supposed to go to Thailand, so that didn't really help. But he's hated me having a horse because of the time commitment and God bless him. He always wants to hang out with me and he didn't really understand for the longest time bless his heart how important having me being out there and my time with a horse is to me. It feeds my soul.
Speaker 1:I'm not one of those people who can just see a horse on the side like, oh, it's so cute, you can wave. No, I got to be up there. It's in my blood. I got to own one. I have to own one. I'm not going to lease. I got to own. I'm a freak, I have to do that. I admire the people who can just lease. I'm like good for you. You're saving a lot of money and your time, good for you.
Speaker 1:So in the beginning of my relationship with my husband, he was like like he had such a problem. He's like you're gone for three hours and it's like was I Like it felt like 30 minutes and like it took me a while to understand everything. Like that, again, me being real, raw and honest. And so it took time. And then the horse I have now Skids. I got him in 2019. And that horse is my heart horse and he, like Ryan, just loves him too. So that definitely helped. But regardless, ryan began to come around to, okay, I can't get rid of these horses for her, I just have to kind of accept it. And now she's got a cool horse, so like we're good.
Speaker 1:But before that, I still had to find a way to juggle everything, and so compromise is key with this freedom-filled life and being able to do everything. Number one you gotta be selfish Already talked about that. But number two, you have to understand that you have to compromise on the things Like am I going to get my nails done every week? No, do I get my nails done once a month? Yes, I do. And does my oldest come with me to do that? Actually, he does so. Like I find a way to make it work with all things considered Okay, and so compromising is such a huge part of this.
Speaker 1:But so what I have noticed with working with clients is and also when I just like interact with my Instagram audience is people rarely have fun during their day. Or they'll chalk it up to like yeah, you know I got to squeeze my kids, or like have a moment with my kids, but it's not like they considered that like fun. And mom to mom Like I don't think that's my version of fun. I think that's love. My version of fun is me being out with my horse, like solo racing in the wind you know the wind blowing through my hair. I'm jamming out to music. I'm just like in the moment, like that's fun. Does that make me a bad mom? No, does that make you a bad mom? Absolutely not. So like, let's just your version of fun. But you're trying to make that be your fun. Don't do that. This is what I need to help people do is honor and accept and own what you want I just did. That's not my version of fun. I love my kids, but my version of fun is here and so I find a way to have that throughout my day. Now I also.
Speaker 1:I just have to say this, even though I feel like I shouldn't, but I'm going to anyways like we're also using our best judgment here. Like, if your version of fun is like going on a bender, like obviously I hope that's not what we're talking about here, because if you're probably in my world, you know that I don't really even drink anymore, and it's more which I don't care. I don't care if you drink or not. That's not what I'm saying here. But, like I want you to find authentic fun, like what lights your soul on fire. Fun, not like let me just, like you know, throw a few back and numb out and like forget about things. Fun Like there's a time and a place for that and that's not what I'm referring to. So just going to throw that out there.
Speaker 1:I don't know why I felt the need to so anyways. So I want you to think about what is something that really lights your soul on fire and that you can find a slice of every single day. I don't know if that's music live music. I don't know if that's you turning on like some music soft music in the background as you cook and light a candle. If it's something that feels like you have up-leveled your experience when you're just at home. I don't know if that's you getting some new blankets and you have your new beautiful blankets these like lush blankets on your couch, either you know decorated, or something that you cuddle up with when you watch Netflix with your spouse, or whatever. Like I don't know what that is. I don't know if that's getting some candles. I don't know if that's you taking a bubble bath.
Speaker 1:I don't know what your version of fun is, but that's the work that you need to do and figure that out, and then that's what you need to incorporate at some point every single day, as much as you can, and this is not for you to do more. So this should not stress you out. This should actually provide you relief. This should actually feel like a breath of fresh air where I'm actually giving you your permission to do the selfish thing that you want to do. Maybe, if it's you not getting your nails done every day, it's you like doing your nails at home, which I actually do and, like I'm obsessed, I don't know if I could even go back to having someone give me a manicure because I'm so anal about them being perfect to the cuticle, if you know. You know I do, however, get pedicures, but maybe it's you wearing lipstick. Maybe it's you wearing the mascara, putting on the concealer, doing your hair. Maybe it's having fun with your hair, doing new hairstyles. Again, these are just examples, something that you need to figure out.
Speaker 1:Listening to music at home I think I already mentioned that, but if you're a live music kind of person, go somewhere and hear live music every single week and stop saying you'll do it next time, you'll do it next time. Find a way to do the things or buy the tickets Now, when it's something bigger, like that. I don't want you to think like you got to buy tickets every single day for music or something like that. I just want you to find ways where you can still get that feeling without it being that thing. You know what I mean, and it takes some creativity. And guess where you can go for creativity tips. It's a little thing called Pinterest.
Speaker 1:I've been all about romanticizing my life, where I'm trying to just spruce it up a bit. Like I drink lemon salt water every single morning. I've been doing this ever since 2017. I've talked about this before in the podcast, ever since I read the book Own the Day by Aubrey something oh my gosh, I'll link it in the show notes. That book changed my life. I literally wake up and I drink salt and lemon in my water every single morning. But this is what I did. I then pre-mixed that into a jug and it's this like cute, beautiful little container in my refrigerator. So all I have to do is wake up, go over to the refrigerator and fill up my cup. I don't have to do the salt thing, squeeze the lemon and stir it around, which, like, takes more time. I have it done, pre-made, ready for me, and I also always have candles non-toxic, of course and I also always have this like fun ambiance from YouTube that I have playing in the background in the evenings while I'm cooking dinner or when we're just hanging out one Saturday morning and it's really my thing for fall. I've started this like three years ago and now the boys love it. I've always, when it turns a little bit cooler, like in the fall time, I will find like cozy fall ambiance. Look this up on YouTube. You will fall in love.
Speaker 1:It's smooth jazz with like this beautiful image. Some of them look like super fake but like I don't even care and it's on our TV and it's like this mellow, like coffee shop kind of jazz and I love it. I literally feel like I just had an upgraded experience. Like smooth jazz playing in the background. The boys love it. I think it kind of mellows out the vibe of the house too. So things like this that make you feel different, that make you feel elevated it's an elevated experience, like drink your water out of a wine glass as if you're at a restaurant, romanticize.
Speaker 1:These are discipline actions To circle back to the conversation of freedom takes discipline. This is that. This is that and I think people don't realize it it's just a choice. It's a matter of a choice. It's a matter of like how you want to feel inside, that feeling you're longing for, that doesn't get out of your head. You've got to choose to find ways to feel that. You have to choose to spruce things up a bit like shake it up, have fun, take a bubble bath, eat a snack, have the ice cream I don't know what it is Play the music, light the candle, do it and do it every day. You will literally find your mood is brighter. You'll find that that was a really good day. You'll find yourself saying, yeah, it was a really good week.
Speaker 1:When your friends want to recap at happy hour or whatever and normally it's talking about how doom and gloom everything is and you're kind of like actually, it's been kind of good, it's been kind of good, yeah, and they're going to look at you like you're a freak, like an alien. What do you mean? Work sucked right. You know what I mean. But no, you'll be like I'm good, I'm good. And then you get to do that again the next day and then the next day and then another week. And also you have a month and you're like things are feeling pretty good and people are gonna begin to notice you. People are gonna begin to be like what is going on? Hey, like what is it? And you'll be like oh, I just, you know, found a way to have more fun during my. Isn't that weird? That's it, my friend. That's it. That's it, okay. That's it for this episode.
Speaker 1:I liked Game Short and Sweet. You know this If you're new here. I liked Game Short and Sweet. If this served you at all, please send this to a friend who needs it, especially as we head into fall. They might like my little like ambiance thing I told you about. Or you know just the Pinterest tips like get the pumpkins.
Speaker 1:We're fall, like let's just go there, let's do it, let's romanticize our life, let's find the freedom, let's find the fun, and it comes through discipline, and you'll find that you feel more free when you are more disciplined. That's the other part I forgot to say. You will find that you're more free, you have more freedom, when you are more disciplined. Okay, I love you so much. I'll see you here next week. Bye. Thank you so much for tuning in to this episode of she is Redefined. If today's chat resonated with you, don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss out. Remember, this is just the beginning of your journey and you've got everything you need to create the life that you want. If you enjoyed this episode, I'd love for you to leave a review or share it with another woman who's ready to redefine herself too. Until next time, keep embracing who you are, because you're powerful, you're capable and you are redefined.
