She is Redefined
Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
So, if you’re ready to rewrite your story and make bold moves toward a life that feels authentically yours, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s redefine the rules of success together—while having a blast along the way!
She is Redefined
Season 2 Ep 3: Time is not your enemy. Here’s how to make it your ally
Time doesn’t have to be the enemy in your life—it can become your greatest ally. In this episode, we’re diving into the secrets of mastering time freedom, embracing feminine flow, and ditching the hustle mindset for good. Discover how to shift from scarcity and overwhelm to ease and alignment, unlocking more time for what truly matters.
If you’re ready to stop fighting against the clock and start thriving with effortless success, this episode is for you.
Let’s turn time into your biggest advantage.
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Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
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Hello, hello and welcome back to she Is Redefined podcast. Today I'm coming to you with a very fun topic, one of my favorite things actually to talk about and it's time, and I wanna talk about how time is actually not your enemy, although we have been led to believe that, and I wanna help you with four simple steps on how to redefine your relationship with time, because, ultimately, that is all we have. We're here, we have a limited time, to help you with four simple steps on how to redefine your relationship with time, because, ultimately, that is all we have. We're here, we have a limited time, and no one knows when our clock is up, no one knows when our lessons have been learned and it is time for us to pass on, move on, and it's a serious conversation and it's one that actually is very fun for me to talk about, because I really feel like I have a very great relationship with conversation. And it's one that actually is very fun for me to talk about because I really feel like I have a very great relationship with time. And one of the questions I get weekly sometimes twice a week is Katie, how do you do it all? You've got younger kids than me, you've got a horse. I don't have a horse. How are you able to get everything done and it looks like it just happens? Well, I'm going to walk you through those steps and you're going to walk away with this knowing exactly what I do to be able to have fun ride my horse six days a week, be on date nights with my husband, be present with my husband, be present with my kids, have two young kids and build memories with them, go to the library, go to the parks, make amazing memories, go to the cow farm an hour away. How am I able to do it all and still have a thriving business, as well as my clients who are crushing it? Well, I walk through my one-on-one clients. I hold their hand through the steps that I'm going to talk to you today.
Speaker 1:But you can massively change your relationship with time, what I'm going to share with you today. So a couple questions. Have you ever felt like you're constantly racing against time, like, no matter what you do, there's never enough time? What if I told you that time actually wasn't the problem? The real issue lies in how you view and how you use your time. We are all given the same 24 hours in a day, so ultimately, it comes down to how you view time and how you use your time. So today I'm going to completely shift the way that you think about time and how you use your time. So today I'm gonna completely shift the way that you think about time so that you can stop feeling like you're running out of it and start seeing time as something that you can control. Like, can I get an amen? Can I get a? Yes?
Speaker 1:Today's episode is all around redefining your relationship with time and these steps that can help you change everything for anything from your business to your family life. So first place, I have to start with this is do you have a scarcity mindset around time? And before you answer that, 99% of people do so. People believe that they have a lot of things that they have to do and ultimately, they don't have enough time to do them in their day. Like you have a lot of work to do, you have a lot to catch up. Do you have a lot to catch up on? Quote unquote your to-do list is super long and forget you doing anything for yourself. Does that sound familiar? That stems from a scarcity mindset, and it's no one's fault. That's what we've been led on to believe Time is limited. I don't have time for this because I have to do this, this like soul sucking task on my to-do list rather than actually living a flow life, a mindset where everything flows. I have been able to train my brain and believe that everything gets done in time with these four steps, and so I live in a state of flow.
Speaker 1:Society glorifies the hustle. Society makes people think that we constantly have to be doing more, we have to be more, and that we're out of time. It's like we glorify being exhausted and suffering, but we're being productive. We have a lot of busy work, so we're busy, which means we're checking a box, and all of that is a lie. All of that is tricking us into believing if we're productive, we're getting more done. If I'm multitasking, I'm getting more done, when really no one can multitask. Well, when I hear people brag how they're good multitaskers, like sure you believe that and I'm over here thinking false. That's not a thing and I challenge you to actually challenge yourself on this. When you're doing two things at once, tell me, are you really really doing both 100%? Like when you're on a walk and you're listening to a podcast, are you even enjoying your walk? Are you just like racing around trying to hear the words that are in your ears? That's multitasking. And the second you cut that shit out, your life is gonna change. No joke.
Speaker 1:When I first started this journey of trying to figure out how to feel in more control of my time, I remember I used to always have a to-do list and I'd always try to write as many things on that to-do list because it made me feel more important. Literally I'd be like, okay, what else can I add to this? Because three things is just simply not enough. I won't be accomplished with just three things on my to-do list. So I would pack shit on my to-do list, look at that to-do list and then maybe I'd turn on some music to get to work. And I'm trying to think of some content. So let me go on Instagram and get some content ideas. Yeah, that's a good idea.
Speaker 1:And then, before I know it, an hour goes by and I don't have a single content idea. I've just been watching everyone else's. I maybe saved an audio or two, but roughly I just lost an hour because I was trying to do content. So, okay, well, didn't do that one on the to-do list. So let me move on to the other one. Let me tackle some emails. Okay, I see a ton of urgent emails. I got to get to this person and now I have leads who are coming in and I need to reach back out to them. Okay, so I have a shit ton of emails I need to do now, so I'm already getting distracted by these that are urgent. Okay, I'm going to get done with that.
Speaker 1:I look at the clock another hour goes by and I need to tackle the people who are warm leads, who want to work with me. So now I'm feeling behind. I haven't even gotten two things off my to-do list, and my to-do list is extra long because I had to tell myself you won't be accomplished without having 80 things on your to-do list, and I haven't even tackled two. But I've lost two hours. That was the way I lived life. Forget riding my horse, forget trying to be present with my kids.
Speaker 1:So what would then happen is school's over. Maybe I saw my horse for 15 minutes before I had to pick the boys up from school, but those 15 minutes felt like a nanosecond. My cup wasn't full, and now I'm resentful. I hate my work. I've got such a long to-do list. Now I have to do stuff tonight, so forget me having any kind of time with my husband or time watching our shows, because I have work I need to do tonight because I didn't tackle my to-do list at the start of the day. And then I pick up my kids from school and now I'm not even present with them. I'm trying to do things while I'm with them, so they're asking me to play with them in the playroom and I'm in there, but I'm actually on my phone trying to just post my damn content that I didn't do earlier, just so I can check that box off my to-do list.
Speaker 1:That was a normal day for me, like I just walked you through the anxiety filled, running out of time, sort of resentful days that I used to live. Does any of that sound relaxing? Does any of that sound in control, and does any of that sound familiar to you? If that sounds familiar to you, you are not in control of your time because you're trying to split your time, trying to do more things at once, which actually makes you feel like you get nothing done and it makes you have a sense of loss of control. You are not in control of time, you just feel like you're running around with your head cut off and I want you to stop that.
Speaker 1:It wasn't until I made the shift where I'm like I'm going to be in control of my day and I'm going to actually focus on what needs to be done to move the needle, and I'm going to see focus on what needs to be done to move the needle and I'm going to see time as something that I can control. I'm going to be strict with my boundaries. Anyone who is a one-on-one client of mine knows that I live off of timers and do not disturb on my phone. So, in order to take control back of your time, you have to first here's step one you have to first set boundaries around your time. I had to stop seeing time as the enemy, as my enemy, and I had to start seeing time as a tool. Where it's available to me to use time, I can leverage time.
Speaker 1:And when I started doing that, everything changed. I realized that it wasn't about having more hours in the day. It was about making more intentional decisions and about how I spent those hours. And how do I make intentional decisions about how I spend my hours? It's boundaries, major boundaries with my time. And when I started to do that, I started to create real time freedom.
Speaker 1:So everyone I know who works with me intimately knows I live my life based off of the do not disturb option on your phone and timers. I live and breathe by those. Do they seem like basic? Sure, but I will beat this until I'm dead. I beat this drum until I am dead. The basic small minute stuff is what changes your life is how you completely quantum leap that.
Speaker 1:In fact, one of my one-on-one clients who I've worked with, going on two years now she's like hey, katie, do you actually still use timers in Do Not Disturb? And I said, abso-freaking-lutely, I do, every single day. I have one on right now. My phone is on Do Not Disturb and I have a timer to get my shit done now so that I can go live my life. And the reason why is I want you to try on your own, without a clock, to quantify time. Can you tell me how long five minutes feels? I'm sure you could at the DMV. I'm also sure you could. When you're out doing something really fun At the DMV time, probably five minutes probably feels like five hours. Maybe when you're out on a walk or you're walking your dog, or maybe you are out in nature, you're playing with your kids and you're having or on date night, something fun five minutes feels like a nanosecond. So without a timer, how are you even able to quantify time and get anything done? And without a timer, I think a timer and do not disturb have to go hand in hand. They are for me, they are for my clients. You got to figure out what works for you, but the two go hand in hand because you are working within a specific time limit and you have boundaries where you're not getting distracted Like sorry, you are not entering into my field right now, my energetic field, my mindset, because I'm focused on one thing at a time.
Speaker 1:The second step is you need to really have some accountability with your language around time. Let me say that again because I got a little sassy. What I mean by that? What you tell yourself about time and the language you use about time, such as I don't have enough time, needs to completely be removed from your vocabulary. I used to always say I have so much work to do and barely any time to get it done. I used to always say I'm always behind all the time, but when I switched to then saying everything works out, I'm exactly where I need to be and I have all the time for what matters. Then, all of a sudden, that started working out for me. It's like affirmations, but for time. But people think you should only say affirmations for money, for the big vision and all that stuff. Affirmations is literally the thoughts that are going on in your head, the internal narrative. Once you get that thing unlock, your life changes. So what you say matters and how you say it to yourself and how you're viewing time every single day matters instead of making something up.
Speaker 1:She has all the time in the world because she's got eight assistants, she's super wealthy and like it's totally different. She comes from that family. It's totally different from her. I don't have that. I have this situation. I don't have every time I'm working, five jobs like all this other stuff, when it's like everyone has to start somewhere and where they start is the language that they use. So, number one, you have to set boundaries with your time. Number two, you have to start acting like time is abundant, because you need to treat every moment as it counts. So is it counting to help you get to where you wanna go, or are you just stressed out, feeling like you don't have enough time?
Speaker 1:The third step that I like to walk people through is actually planning their ideal day. So this is a fun exercise. We're now shifting into something where you can have more fun in your day and that also adds to feeling like you're in control. So take 10 minutes even today to write down what your ideal day even looks like and ask yourself what do you want to spend your time on? Where can you choose fun during the day? I've been talking a lot about this on Instagram. Remember to choose fun in your day. Remember to choose fun. Choose joy, because that will make you feel happier, and when you can choose fun throughout your day, you're going to feel like you had a really good day. So that's a better day which turns into a better week, which turns into a better month, which turns into life. Like. You begin to have fun in your days where life actually is funner, by you simply choosing to have fun.
Speaker 1:Now this can start small, like okay, take 10, 15 minutes to yourself and really have fun. Use the boundaries while you're having fun. Don't do fun and be distracted. Like have fun, whatever that may be for you, move your body, listen to some music, have a dance party, make the food. You know I've been doing so many new things that sound fun to me, like I planted plants in our front yard and those girls are thriving. I'm so proud of that because I have, like a brown thumb.
Speaker 1:And then I was like, hey, maybe I could figure out how to make sourdough bread. So I went to a sourdough bread making workshop and now I make sourdough bread. Cool. I wanted to learn how to make my own butter literally churn butter. So I found a local dairy farm which is an hour away and the boys and I go every two weeks. We pick up some heavy cream and we churn our own butter and it is so fun. Like, tell me how I'm able to fit those things in with everything else I have going on.
Speaker 1:If I didn't have a relationship with time, that was in my favor. Are you following? So you have to pick what your ideal day looks like. You've got to start small. Don't make this big, overwhelming thing because you've got to get your footing with this. Choose fun throughout your day, even when you're presented with options. Maybe you already chose fun in the beginning of your day. Don't make it stop, keep that shit going. So your presented options. Which one sounds funner? Go with that one. Always choose joy and always choose fun. You're going to feel like you're in more control of your time. I will actually explain why this is happening. I didn't know if I was going to go here, but here I am. When you choose fun and you just choose something for yourself over the other option that doesn't sound as much fun, you instantly put yourself in a higher vibration because you're feeling lighter, you're feeling joyful. That's higher vibration. That's basically what I'm teaching you what to do here.
Speaker 1:And then the fourth and final step is I live my life by working in flow. I don't force anything anymore. I cannot tell you. I'm literally like holding my head right now, like the regret I have from how I used to live my life. I used to do all of my work because I had to get all this work done. Just my situation about the little to-do list that was 80 feet long and I'd be so resentful that I never even saw my horse. And it wasn't until I started working with a mentor who was like you have got to not do that. Whatever is going to make you feel better, you always need to find time to do that. So I find time to see my horse every single day, whether I'm alone or with my boys, my cup is still full. So please don't force anything because you think you quote unquote have to.
Speaker 1:And I don't care if you work for corporate America or not, this applies to everyone. Always choose flow, what feels best and do that what feels the most fun thing you can do. That's work related. Do that first and then do it again, and then do it again. You will be shocked as to see how many things fall into place because you're in alignment. And alignment is flow, alignment is joy, alignment is fun. Some people get so caught up in the word alignment and the word purpose. Literally, my friend, your purpose and alignment is flow and fun and joy. Mark my words. You give it three days of doing this. Your life will change. You're going to see synchronicities, new people are going to come into your life. You're going to find that, like the last three days have just been more pleasant nicer people, nicer encounters, good luck, good fortune. It's not an accident. You're literally getting into alignment when you work with flow.
Speaker 1:So one-on-one client of mine, who's brand new, just came on. She was like I want this flow life. You seem to have so much time. I don't know how to have time. I'll probably never have time freedom. How are you doing it all? And so I worked with her. In a week she's already seen that she's feeling better with these steps that I just literally walked you through.
Speaker 1:I go a little bit deeper with my one-on-one clients and there's much more accountability. Her life has done a 180 in seven days. I think it was actually five days because, like when I really got her through this, we worked together closely on the first two days and then by day five, she was like I'm a different person, like she was able to fit so much more into her mornings. She found a brand new client of her own. Her life completely changed and and she felt like she had more freedom when, technically, she did more things. This is what I'm teaching you to do. This is in flow. And she's like, oh my gosh, this is it. And I'm like, girl, we got six months together. Just wait, buckle up buttercup. Like let's freaking go. This is the funnest thing for me to do. It's the funn and I'll be honest with you.
Speaker 1:I have always been able to do a lot of things in a short amount of time. Like you asked my mother-in-law I remember when I was dating my husband she's like how does Katie like just do so many things? I just have always naturally been, I guess, selfish in a sense of like, if I've got time, I'm going to go quickly, do something real quick, and I'll go out to the barn and I'll do something, and my husband would be watching football or whatever. Like I just believe I can do it and so I'll do it. That's why I talked to you about the mindset shift. Like time is a mindset thing, this whole life on earth is a mindset game, like it's a mental game. So you want to start having a freedom-filled life.
Speaker 1:Start with what's the narrative upstairs in step two. Like I said, step one is boundaries. Step two is the narrative that's going on, the language that you're saying to yourself. Step three is have fun and try to design your ideal day and see what happens when you try to do that. See what happens when you execute on that ideal day. And then step four is live in flow, not force. Never force anything. Don't ever use the word should. I should be doing this. Boom, you're out of alignment. I just snapped. If you heard that. Never say I shouldn't be doing this. Boom, you're out of alignment. I just snapped if you heard that. Never say I shouldn't be doing this. Never say like I can't do that because I have to get this done Bullshit, those are man-made constructs. These are things that corporate America wants you to think and believe. When, literally, try it for three days, try aligning yourself with flow, peace and joy and fun for three days and watch what happens. You can do anything for three days. I mean, I'm literally telling you to have more fun. So, like, try it, okay. Okay. So those are the steps.
Speaker 1:Now, if you like what you're hearing, I have something really fun coming down the pipe for you. It's actually all around time freedom, and it's a series that I'm going to be rolling out where I'm going to help you go through, step by step, transforming your mindset, designing your day and creating time freedom that you've been craving. So keep an eye out for that. If you want to be one of the first to find out, you got to be in my Freedom Society Facebook group, my exclusive group. I love those people. I'm in there all the time. They're going to be the first to know. And if you're on my email list, of course, you're going to be one of the first to know. Also, send me a message on Instagram. How are you struggling with time? And I'd love to help you work through it together.
Speaker 1:I do free coaching Fridays every Friday on my Instagram. Completely utilize that. You don't have to wait till Friday. You can DM me anytime. But this is a fun subject for me. It's something that I can really help people with, and so if you're wanting more time freedom, why wait? Why wait? It doesn't even matter what you're doing business owner or not and it's just fun. All right, my love. That's it for this episode. I will catch you here next week. Have a beautiful day and thank you for being here. Bye.
