She is Redefined
Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
So, if you’re ready to rewrite your story and make bold moves toward a life that feels authentically yours, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s redefine the rules of success together—while having a blast along the way!
She is Redefined
Season 2 Ep 8: Same Soul, Different Season: Embrace Growth Through Life’s Changes
Life is full of seasons, each bringing its own challenges, lessons, and transformations. In this episode, we dive into how to embrace the changes in your life while staying true to who you are at your core. Just like nature shifts from summer to winter, we grow and evolve through different phases—but it’s all part of the same journey.
Through storytelling and practical insights, we’ll explore how to honor each season, whether you’re in a time of bloom, rest, letting go, or renewal. If you’ve ever felt like a completely different person depending on the season of your life, this episode will remind you that every version of you serves a purpose.
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Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
So, if you’re ready to rewrite your story and make bold moves toward a life that feels authentically yours, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s redefine the rules of success together—while having a blast along the way!
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Okay y'all, welcome back to another episode of she Is Redefined. I have just like all the feels right now. I cannot believe we are coming up on our one year being in Texas, moving from California to Texas, and like we're coming up on a year and it's. It just blows my mind. If you were to ask me, does it feel like a long time? Does it feel like a short time? It honestly feels like a short time, but at the same time, it feels like a long time. Does it feel like a short time? It honestly feels like a short time, but at the same time, it feels like we've lived here forever, if that makes sense. It's just so crazy.
Speaker 1:We had a Friendsgiving like a couple weeks ago I'm not sure when this episode is going to launch or go live and we basically poured into all the people who made our first year in Texas completely easy. We had a very formal tablescape and it was a completely formal experience and everyone kept asking can I bring something? Can I bring something? And I was like absolutely not. This is a thank you for you taking us in as if we were family, without knowing us at all, and if you're from Texas or if you live in Texas. You know that they are the nicest people ever, like they really truly are, and God completely has brought us here. When you look back as to how we met each person who's in our life in Texas, god's fingerprints are all over it. He has orchestrated everything.
Speaker 1:Because it's funny, I was giving the story at Friendsgiving. I said a little bit of a speech explaining how I know everyone, so everyone got to know each other. But I also share with them the moments before that I met them. I can't even believe this is getting me emotional, but, like the moments before I met them, I was not supposed to be there. In that moment, like I had plans to go to this craft place, this craft store, this what I thought was a craft store because it had scissors in the front and it literally said color me or something. I'm like great, we'll go to the craft store, boys, because I've got nothing to do with you, we're new here. And it turns out being a hair salon, literally, and I was like, okay, now what do I do? So I went on my phone and I Googled coffee shops and I went to a coffee shop just like a mile away and when I walked in, I walked in at the exact right time where I met my best friend here and it's just, it's so crazy.
Speaker 1:I have chills as I'm saying this because God has brought us to Texas and God has orchestrated all the people who will act like family, with us being away from family. And you know, people are afraid to move and make big decisions and by no means am I telling you what to do. But if it's on your heart, I think it's on your heart for a reason and of course you're gonna miss family. I miss family. Of course it's hard being away from family when something happens and you're a three hour, two and a half three hour flight away. Of course that's hard, I'm not gonna sugarcoat that. But God puts people in your life that take place of the people that you left. It's just how the universe works, it's just how God works, and so if you have something on your heart, know and trust that God or a higher power has got you, because, let me tell you, we are living, breathing proof of that. Anyway, so my heart is so full. I'm having all the feels and look at me already like getting emotional within, like the first two minutes here. But welcome back to the podcast.
Speaker 1:I have a very fun topic, and kind of like a heartfelt topic, that I want to talk about today. This episode is one that I think will resonate with so many of you, because it's something we all experience, whether we're aware of it or not, and what that is is the seasons of life. And first I want to start with a visual. Imagine a wide, open field In the summer. It's vibrant and it's green. It's buzzing with life, like for me. When I think about this, I think about the pastures that I ride in. You can hear birds, you can feel the warmth of the sun and everything feels alive right.
Speaker 1:Well, now, picture that exact same field or that exact same pasture. It's quiet, the trees are bare, there's snow blankets on the ground and everything feels completely different. But here's the thing it's the same field. It hasn't lost its identity, and just because the season changed, it hasn't lost its identity just because the season changed. The same holds true for us.
Speaker 1:We go through seasons in our lives where we feel completely like a different person, but our core, at our core, we're still us. These seasons don't change who we are. They just bring out different sides of us, and today we're going to talk about embracing that transformation and instead of resisting it, let me take you back to a season in my life that felt like summer. It was a time when everything just clicked. My work felt fulfilling, I had so much energy and I felt like I was finally in my groove. I'd wake up excited, I'd go through my day feeling on fire and at the end of the day I felt so accomplished I just was on top of the world. I literally remember telling myself that I feel on top of the world. That is a perfect example of a summer season for me. But then let's that seasons happen in life.
Speaker 1:So not too long after that, I found myself in a completely different place. It was my winter season. I felt stuck, drained and unsure of my next step. I don't know if you can relate. It felt like everything slowed down. I started doubting myself, going down these rabbit holes. That didn't serve me at all. And that was my winter.
Speaker 1:Have you ever been in a winter season, maybe somewhere where you felt like you're just waiting for the fog to clear? I used to resist those seasons Like no, it's summer all the time. I got to do this. Sorry, my friend, nowhere is there summer all the time, not even in sunny Southern California, all right. So I used to resist those seasons, but those are winters and I think what's wrong with me? Why can't I just get it together? But over time I realized that those quieter seasons were just as important as the busy and exciting ones. I said this all the time. You know every time you have a dip you better get prepared for the pop that you're going to go back up and you're probably going to skyrocket past the last pop you had. So here's the thing about life seasons they're all temporary but but a fun but. But they're all necessary, just like nature. We need to balance the growth. We need to balance letting go and rest to become who we're meant to be.
Speaker 1:When I think back to the version of me from like gosh four to four years ago, it's wild to see how much I've changed. And I recently was on a podcast and she actually said that she's like the noticeable difference in you within the last 12 months was like stark. She's like I can't even tell you how much, how different you look, you seem, the way you hold yourself. And when I look back even farther than just the past year, to the past two to four years when I really started my business. I mean, if you saw me back when I was in corporate, you would not even recognize me, not just in what I was doing, but how I carried myself, how I thought, how I dreamed, the narrative that was in my brain that took over my life. I was, I was living someone else's story, someone else's narrative, but what's interesting is, at my core, I am still the same person that I was back in corporate America. I still have the same soul, the same essence.
Speaker 1:What's changed are the layers that I've uncovered in every season that I've gone through. And think about a specific fall season like a specific fall season in my life, a time where I had to let go of things that weren't serving me anymore. That was a painful time. Letting go and surrendering is normally a painful time, and that's why often, more often than not, people don't even like to let go or surrender, because it requires a grieving process of letting something go a relationship, a friendship, a contact, a business. Letting go is never easy, whether it's a career path, whether it's a relationship or whether it's an identity you've been holding onto. But the version of me needed to shed those layers so that the next version could emerge. And that's what I want to talk about and that's the beauty Each version of you has a purpose.
Speaker 1:The you who hustled and worked late nights she taught you about drive and ambition. Thank her, love on her. The you who slowed down and lead in to rest and surrender and slowing down. She taught you about self-care and balance. Love her her for that. You don't have to pick one version to love or celebrate over the other. They are all a part of your story. Here's a realization that changed everything for me.
Speaker 1:Seasons are not linear. We are Kind of groomed to think that everything happens linearly linearly, if that's a word in this linear old fashion. I mean, I can even relate that back to when I was a first time mom and I was like why is my kid not just sleeping longer and longer and longer every week, every day, every month? Like what are these crazy leaps that they're going through? And like why is he not having his two hour nap when he normally has two hour naps? And I remember the sleep consultant when I was on the phone with her. She's like, mama, sleep is not linear. And I remember thinking that was such an interesting moment because I wasn't really fully in, like 100% in my business yet to understand the personal development and the universal laws that I know today. But I remember that moment being like huh, I am looking at this new baby as like a robot a little bit, or a textbook a little bit, and like life is just not that way. Seasons are not that way. We like to think of life as a straight, straight path. You know point A to point B, but the truth is it's actually more of a cycle. Just like nature has spring, summer, fall and winter, our lives move through cycles too, and let me give you an example.
Speaker 1:Just a few months ago, I hit what felt like a winter to me. It was a second winter and it was probably my worst winter. It was frustrating because I'm over here like didn't I go through this? Like haven't I already, like taking care of this? Isn't this put to bed? I caught myself thinking like didn't I already deal with this? What am I doing here again? Why does it seem like things are getting worse? I don't know if that's ever sounded familiar to you, but this time the winter season felt way worse. It felt different. It felt worse. And do you know why? Because I was different Because I was at a higher level than I'd ever been, so of course, my winter was going to feel more intense. I wasn't the same person. That happened during my first winter.
Speaker 1:I had tools I didn't have before to handle this winter, like self-awareness, confidence, the ability to trust the process, the ability to think that everything is working out for me. And that's what's so beautiful that even though you're going to revisit a season, it's never going to be the same because you've evolved and even if it feels worse or harder like I was just sharing with you you have more tools to help you get out of that. And there's always that saying new level, new devil. I wouldn't say there's like devilish or anything like that, but there will be a setback because everything has seasons, it's all a cycle. So it might feel harder, it might hit harder, but you will know more to be able to handle it even better and pop out of it quicker, to then pop up like straight up, skyrocket, like my recent pop.
Speaker 1:So if you're in a season right now that this feels familiar at all to you, I want you to ask yourself how am I stronger this time around? How am I handling this better than me two years ago, four or five years ago. What have I learned that I didn't know before? That's where the magic happens. So how do you embrace the season that you're in right now? First, I like you to name it. Take a moment to really think about where you're at right now. Are you in a summer season where it feels like everything is full of life and like possibility? Does it feel like a fall, where you're letting go of things that no longer serve you? Possibly a winter, where you're resting and reflecting? Or maybe is it spring, where new ideas and opportunities are starting to bloom? Start by naming your season, and that will bring you a lot of clarity.
Speaker 1:For me, naming my seasons helped me stop resisting them. It helped me actually stop going crazy as well. Where I'm like what is happening, I just need to like go, go, go, no. So in one of my fall seasons where I was letting go of business, this was just like a couple months ago. I poured so much into a project, so much into a project, that then it felt like a failure. At first I was like how am I literally about to surrender to this? I'm gonna completely retire this. Stop even focusing on it, like when I shifted my brand hello. But once I recognized that this was part of my natural cycle, I realized that it wasn't failure at all. It was clearing space for she Is Redefined, which I realized that it wasn't failure at all. It was clearing space for she is redefined, which is my new thing now, which has taken off.
Speaker 1:I could have never told you that in the thick of my winter, in the thick of my fall, could never have told you that the second thing you can do is practice gratitude. Oh my gosh, I cannot tell you how much gratitude has changed my life. It is like a drug. Even in the hardest seasons there's something to be grateful for. You got a heart that's beating. You've got limbs to move around. You have a family.
Speaker 1:I tell you every time when I get down in the dumps and I just had a really amazing one-on-one call with a client of mine who was struggling at the time of our call and I was telling her you know, for me, when I get into this deep, dark place, I just remind myself that like hey, I'm still here, I'm still breathing, I'm still on earth, I still have my family, I still have my friends Like God could have taken me at any time, but I'm still here, so I'm doing something right and I have friends and I have kids and I have a spouse and I have a horse. So I'm doing something right that I'm still here, because, you know, god takes people in a second and so my time's not up yet. So I'm going to be grateful to still actually breathe and be in this exact moment. With winter times, it might be the stillness that allows you to reflect that you can be grateful for. It might be the energy that you'll need to chase your dreams. Gratitude will shift your perspective and help you see the beauty in every phase, and it will change your life.
Speaker 1:And, lastly, trusting the process and truly believing that everything works out for me has changed my life, and I know I keep saying that phrase. It's changed my life, but it's the God honest truth. You don't have to force growth. You have to trust that the season that you're in is exactly where you need to be to prepare you for the next season. So let me leave you with this. I know this was like a lot. I'm kind of like sharing a lot and pouring into quite a bit.
Speaker 1:Obviously, I always try to do that, but let me leave you with this you are not defined by any single season in your life. You are a culmination of all the versions of yourself, each one adding something to the masterpiece that is you. We want to live in the highs and avoid the lows, but we have to look that the culmination of them all have made you who you are today, which is further than you were before. If you're in a season of bloom, soak it in, girl. Celebrate the shit out of it, truly. If you're in a season of rest, honor it and give yourself grace, and also soak that up. Soak up the calm before the storm. Every season is temporary, but every season has a purpose and through it all you remain you, the same soul, just evolving with each new chapter. It's beautiful, it's so beautiful. I love this stuff.
Speaker 1:And where this, really the inspiration of this episode, came from? When I was writing, actually in the field, in the pasture where I keep my horse, and I couldn't believe how different the ground looked, because we're now in fall, heading into winter, and it did not look the same and I was like, wow, I remember just writing in here a month ago I always post about it and it looks so different now, and it reminded me of people and myself and humans and how we're the same soul, but we change and evolve all the time and each season will feel different, but it's the same us, and so embrace it, lean into it and truly trust that everything is working out for you. Oh, my gosh, that's it. Thank you so much for being here with me today. I am so honored. I love you so much for listening.
Speaker 1:I hope you got something out of this and, if you did, I'd love to hear about what season you're in right now. Dm me, tag me, share this episode with someone you think needs to hear it, and remember, whatever season you're in, you're growing, you're evolving and you're exactly where you are meant to be. Okay, my friend, until next time. Embrace it all. I love you. You're crushing it. I'll see you here next week. Bye.
