She is Redefined
Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
So, if you’re ready to rewrite your story and make bold moves toward a life that feels authentically yours, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s redefine the rules of success together—while having a blast along the way!
She is Redefined
Season 2 Ep 28: God's Got Me: No Permission Needed
Do you find yourself constantly justifying your choices to others? That exhausting cycle of seeking validation is robbing you of your confidence and peace. In this energetic and heartfelt episode, I dive deep into why we over-explain ourselves and how breaking this habit can transform your relationship with yourself and others.
At the core of our need to over-explain lies a profound wound — the belief that we're not enough without external approval. I share my personal struggles with this pattern and the liberating realization that true confidence comes from self-trust rather than others' validation. When we approve of ourselves first, we no longer need to justify our existence to anyone else.
This self-trust extends beyond conversations into every area of life. From striking up friendships at the park to following divine nudges toward new opportunities, I reveal how embracing your inherent worth creates space for meaningful connections and unexpected paths to unfold. You'll hear the remarkable story of how a simple breakfast outing with my sons led to a divine business connection that transformed my "God's Got Me" inspiration into something much bigger than I could have imagined.
The peace that comes from trusting yourself and your intuitive nudges is unlike anything else. Ready to stop over-explaining and start living with quiet confidence? Listen now, embrace who you truly are, and remember — you're powerful, you're capable, and you are redefined. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear this message today!
Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
So, if you’re ready to rewrite your story and make bold moves toward a life that feels authentically yours, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s redefine the rules of success together—while having a blast along the way!
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Welcome to. She is Redefined, the podcast where we break free from societal expectations, redefine our identities and step fully into the woman we were always meant to be. I'm Katie Smith, your host and guide on this journey of transformation. Here we're all about embracing change, cultivating confidence and living life on our own terms. Each week, we'll dive into topics that inspire, challenge and empower you to redefine what it means to be you. Dive into topics that inspire, challenge and empower you to redefine what it means to be you. So if you're ready to rewrite your story and live life that's bold, authentic and unapologetically yours, let's dive in. So we are gonna just keep on rolling, rolling Like I keep have that song right now in my head like rolling, rolling, rolling on the river. I am not a singer, but I just serenaded you, so thank you for still staying on if you're here.
Speaker 1:I am filming this in person again and I just actually finished one episode, and I'm hitting record again because today I have a lot of energy to want to record a podcast when, hand to God, I have not been wanting to record anything for weeks. I have fully rejected it, but I'm wearing my God's Got Me shirt and I'm feeling it, and so here we are, but I just recorded one episode and we're recording another one on a topic that I really like to talk about, and it's around stopping over explaining ourselves. Now, I'm always speaking about my own experience. By the way, I'm not talking about anyone unless I tell you I'm talking about one of my clients. But, man, I have always been an over explainer. I was gonna say by trade. But no, just, you know, natural, me always trying to overain to prove a point, to validate or prove to someone that I'm worthy of their approval. And what a giant waste of time that's been in my 37 years of living. And it's funny because when someone has to over-explain themselves to get approval from someone else, it's because they don't trust themselves and they haven't given themselves the approval. So they're looking outside 3D, their external world, to validate me, so that I feel like I'm enough. And that's a deep, deep wound that I think, more times than not, more people than not struggle with. And you're talking like me talking to you right now. I'm admitting that has been something I have completely struggled with my entire life and still do to this day. Now, what helps me with that? Realizing that I am enough, realizing that God knows my name. God's got me, I'm good. I don't need to keep looking to every person I talk to for validation that I'm enough and that I'm good when I bet you the person I'm talking to right now, that I'm trying to over explain and like prove that I'm good enough has the same thoughts about me where they're thinking what is she thinking of me? Does she like me? Does she approve of me? Does she think I'm pretty? Does she think I'm smart? Does she think I'm funny? Does she like me? Will we hang out again? The list goes on and I bet you you probably will start to notice that about yourself. You can admit that right now. Like, oh yeah, I've absolutely thought that before.
Speaker 1:I saw something on Instagram the other day. It was a reel of someone who was like I take my kids to the park and my kids make all these friends. Meanwhile I'm sitting on the bench and I have too much anxiety to talk to the mom next to me, and I was like, wait a second. First of all, I am not that person. I'm not tooting my own horn at all. I'm that person who's like how many people can I meet and get their phone number? Because I still consider myself new in Texas, but I was like, oh my gosh, I bet you there's so many moms who feel that way. I mean, why else was there a real creative about it? And then I thought that usually means because they well, number one, they might be exhausted. Or number two, they're like I don't know how to talk to another mom, I don't know how to make a new friend.
Speaker 1:And that all stems from like, not loving yourself enough. That stems from you feeling like you're not good enough. I know that might sound crazy, but it's the truth. So you don't trust yourself to be good enough, you don't trust yourself to be lovable, you don't trust yourself to have a new friend or you have some belief that you have enough friends and you're good. When my best friends in my life have been within people I've met in the last two years, that's crazy. I'm 37 and I've got like long, long term friendships I'm like from high school. But I would say the closest friends that I have like my ride or die is that I've only known them two years, some less. That's crazy. That's crazy.
Speaker 1:And so you never know who you could meet, if you can give yourself that permission to be OK with who you are and talk to someone, and if they think you're a weirdo for talking about the park, that's on them and not you Do you know what I mean? This also goes into just like having the confidence that you bring something to the table, whether it be just you being at the park with your kids and being a good mom and letting them get outdoors and hit that reset button, if you know what I mean. If you have toddlers, getting them outside is like hitting a reset button, but also like you can bring a lot of value to someone's life that you don't even know. You can brighten their day by saying hi to them. It's almost like I like to think about it. When I go to places, I'm always like I want to smile and give someone like a bright part of their day and I want to say hi. And when I talk to moms at the park, I'm not going to say it's every time like, oh, I just happen to always make friends at the park or whatever. No, there are cases, handful of cases, where the mom just did not want to talk and I read the room.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm not like beating a dead horse, but I do think there's something, there's a meaning for every encounter that I have. So, like, I was supposed to be at the same park as you at the same time. So I'm gonna say hello to you and I just hope that you've had a nice encounter with me around, like I brightened your day in some way shape or form, because I truly think that that is what life is about. The small, ordinary, mundane tasks, things we do every single day is what makes up a great life. So if I'm at the park, I'm going to say hi to you. We can chat. Maybe we don't chat, but I'm going to hope that that encounter was positive for you and I'm going to believe it was positive for me. I'm going to choose to believe like, hey, I'm meant to be here at the exact same time as you how weird is that and hope you're having a great day. Boom.
Speaker 1:But this all stems from trust and confidence and love for yourself, and that's where people get it twisted, where sure we can be confident. Yeah, I've always been very confident in my life, but does that mean I've always thought I was good enough? No, that doesn't. So it's very interesting and this can also move into different parts of your life, like maybe you're being called to do something but you're not sure how to do it. So you kind of just like have this idea but you don't take action on it, or you start it and then you stop it. Well, that also goes back to moving without needing permission, because you trust that someone's got your back. You trust that God's got you. You trust that if the vision was dropped in and given to you, that didn't happen on accident there. If the vision was dropped in and given to you, that didn't happen on accident.
Speaker 1:There's some things out there. I try not to get as woo-woo as I once was on this podcast. If you want to go back to my woo-woo days, go back to season one. If you don't stay where you're at. But there's people who talk out there saying an idea planted in your head wouldn't even be there if it wasn't possible for you. So if you have this wild idea that you want to fly private, that's literally meant to be for you to fly private at some point in your life. I have that for myself. I see it. So I'm meant to experience that.
Speaker 1:Some people have a business idea. Other people have an idea to have kids. Other people have an idea to travel the world with their family in tow, but they don't know how to do that. Other people have the idea to start a nonprofit, like it could be anywhere, it could be anything, so that's not an accident. And so it's trusting the nudges you're getting and it's not looking for over, explaining as to why and it's just like move in that silent confidence that you trust yourself, you trust God's got your back and just take the small steps.
Speaker 1:Look it up. Ask Chad Chibiti hey, I got this crazy idea. Can you outline a map of how I can get there? And it might give you something super scary. What's your next step? Okay, can you bite, size this down for me? Because I need to do this in a safe, regulated way. When I say safe, I mean for your body, like I don't want your cortisol going through the roof because you have an idea to start a business, or you have an idea to pivot your business. You have an idea to walk away from your career and go all in on something else, like whatever your vision is, how can you do it in the way that sets you up for the most success, while you believe in yourself, because you got the message in the first place. God's got me, god's given me this vision Source. Whatever you believe in, how do I take the first step into doing there? And you don't need to get all in your head about money. You would be shocked at what happens if you just start taking the small nudges. You might run into someone as you're taking your two-year-old son to the bathroom and you're like God only could have your two-year-old son to the bathroom and you're like God only could have orchestrated how I met you just taking my son to the bathroom. It's just a crazy story for me.
Speaker 1:I literally one morning God was like get dressed, get ready, take your boys to breakfast. It was actually a morning. We normally go to church. I'm like, sorry, ryan, I'm actually going to take the boys to breakfast, just feeling really called to do that. I know we'll catch up church next week and also, by no means am I saying you need to go to church every week or you're a bad person. That is actually not what I'm saying. But I just woke up and said I wanted to go take the boys to breakfast and like, boom, let's go. So I did that, literally as my son Decker. He had to go potty, really bad. So we're rushing into the bathroom and out walked somebody I had recognized from the boys old school, who now is an instrumental part of God's got me.
Speaker 1:And I can't tell you anything more than that when I just take the nudges to follow and notice how they weren't even related to one another. It's not like I was looking up local vendors or screen printers. I was literally like, oh, I'm just going to go to this breakfast place because that's what sounds good and I really just want to do that with the boys. It's a Sunday morning, like I want to enjoy this, and Decker had to go to the bathroom and then we ran into each other as they were leaving because the bathroom is by the front door Crazy, crazy stuff. So follow the nudges, what is it? But that goes back to trust Again, self-trust, knowing that God's got your back and not having to explain yourself to anyone, having to feel that you need to share stuff to get people to buy into your idea. Just keep it close to the vest, that's the biggest thing. And just take the little subtle nudges that come that make no sense but might be related. You don't even know yet.
Speaker 1:It's like oh, go get your car wash at this car wash or whatever and I'm not trying to sound too out there like all of a sudden I got these, like this voice said something to me. It's literally not that it's like an urge, if you will, where it's like, okay, make a shirt, katie, make a shirt, and this is what it's going to look like. Like I did get what it was going to look like, but just make sure, okay, I made the shirt. I could have ignored that and not done anything. I've been like that's stupid. It's just. I'm not a, I'm not a swag merchandise brand. You know, I don't. I'm not creating a clothing line. Well, I wasn't thinking that at all. I was just literally like you told me to make a shirt for everyone in my family, so I did, and it is now a thing like okay, cool. And then the next thing hey, why don't you go to breakfast with the boys? How nice does that sound? You know what that does sound really nice, let's go. Now.
Speaker 1:The difference between the urges are it's got to be something you want to do Like it sounds good. It sounds good. It's not like hey, go work out and exhaust yourself to the level where you can't calm your heart rate down and you're now having to drink tons of water and get in an ice bath to cool off? No, no, no, it's not like that. It's like, if it's an urge that sounds appealing to you, usually that's an alignment hit by God, who's like helping you to guide you and orchestrate you where you want to go.
Speaker 1:All right, I wonder if I explained that well enough. I don't know, but that's my message for you is follow the little urges, follow them when is it going to lead, and do not do this to get to somewhere. So like I have a client who goes like okay, I did all these things. And then, like it's been a week now, so now what? It doesn't work like that. It doesn't work like that at all.
Speaker 1:Like I wish I could explain to you when I was paying, I paid like 200. It was actually crazy. So God told me to create these shirts, all these things. And then when I was checking out I kid you not, are you sitting down when I was checking out, the price for all the items that I wanted was $222, which is an angel number 222. Cannot make this up. So obviously God was like yes, thank you for listening, keep going. And then it's turned into a business Like I can't even. It's shocking, I don't even know how to put it into words. It's crazy. So follow those nudges.
Speaker 1:Trust, don't over explain. These are kind of like the highlights I think that I've talked about because I just do these off the cuff, people, sorry, it's not like I want you to take notes or anything like that. I just want to speak from my heart and help get the message to come through, because this trust and this peace that you can have believing God's got you is unlike anything I have ever experienced, and now I want to give that to people who can also experience that and just live their day with just more peace. It's just such a beautiful, amazing thing. Also, side notes I'm working on hats and they are looking so insane. I can't even tell you I'm so excited. They're just a little bit more of work, which is interesting, so stay tuned on that. Anyway, send this to someone you think could hear it. Love you for being here and I will catch you on the next episode. Bye.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for tuning in to this episode of she Is Redefined. If today's chat resonated with you, don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss out. Remember this is just the beginning of your journey and you've got everything you need to create the life that you want. If you enjoyed this episode, I'd love for you to leave a review or share it with another woman who's ready to redefine herself too. Until next time, keep embracing who you are, because you're powerful, you're capable and you are redefined.
