She is Redefined
Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
Each week, we dive into real, relatable conversations about everything from self-discovery and confidence to living life on your own terms. I’ll share inspiring stories, sprinkle in some practical tips, and just have a blast exploring what it means to be unapologetically YOU.
So, if you’re ready to rewrite your story and make bold moves toward a life that feels authentically yours, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s redefine the rules of success together—while having a blast along the way!
She is Redefined
Season 2 Ep 29: Ditch the FOMO, Trust Your Choices
Surrendering control might be the most powerful choice you'll ever make. During a magical seven-day trip to Newport Beach with my family, I witnessed firsthand how loosening my grip on life's reins creates space for unexpected blessings to flow in.
From the moment we arrived, the universe began confirming this path. My husband opened a piece of mail I would have ignored, discovering a $3,900 check from my second son's birth, nearly three years ago! This wasn't just a coincidence; it was evidence of what happens when we shift from controlling to receiving. The old, calculated Katie who climbed to a C-suite position by age 33 would have been shocked, but the new me simply smiled in recognition.
The magic continued as I embraced spontaneity throughout our vacation. I surprised myself by swimming to a distant dock (to my husband and children's amazement), manifested a long-held dream of treating my entire family to a Duffy boat excursion, and shared a perspective on decision-making that literally gave my family members chills: "I never have FOMO anymore because I believe whatever decision I make is the right decision and exactly where I'm meant to be." This simple yet profound shift has revolutionized my peace of mind. When you trust you're divinely supported, you only need to be 51% confident in any choice, then watch how everything aligns.
Perhaps most meaningful was marking one year since questioning my relationship with alcohol on this very same beach. Last year, I wondered why I was numbing myself during beautiful moments with my children. This year, I returned essentially sober, discovering that life's joy is actually more intense and anxiety-free when experienced with complete clarity. The woman who once thought alcohol enhanced fun now knows true freedom comes from being fully present for every moment, the challenging and the beautiful alike.
Join me on this journey of redefining what it means to live boldly and authentically. Subscribe to She is Redefined and discover how surrendering control might be exactly what you need to find your own magic.
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Welcome to She Is Redefined, the podcast that feels like a chat with your best friend over coffee. I’m Katie Smith, and I’m here to help you break free from all those outdated societal expectations and embrace the amazing woman you’re meant to be!
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Welcome to she is Redefined, the podcast where we break free from societal expectations, redefine our identities and step fully into the woman we were always meant to be. I'm Katie Smith, your host and guide on this journey of transformation. Here we're all about embracing change, cultivating confidence and living life on our own terms. Each week, we'll dive into topics that inspire, challenge and empower you to redefine what it means to be you. Dive into topics that inspire, challenge and empower you to redefine what it means to be you. So if you're ready to rewrite your story and live life that's bold, authentic and unapologetically yours, let's dive in. Okay, not gonna lie, I am recording this in my car with my kids as they're playing games on their little like tablet thing, and so if you hear a noise in the background, you might be hearing that right now, but that's why we are going to roll with it, because I'm running errands, I bought one of those fun little microphone things, because I have a little side project that I'm doing with horses actually, where I need like a microphone and like a chest mount camera, all the things. If you are a horse girl, you stay tuned for that Cause it's actually pretty cool and I have a whole separate like Facebook group for it. But I bought one of these fun little microphones and I'm like, wait a second, I can use this in the car when I'm like have some of my best thoughts and can just like record faster. Because that's what I'm all about these days. If you have been listening to me, you know that anything performance feeling I'm not available for. I'm available for alignment and flow and that's it. First things first. Because I said the word alignment and flow, I have got to brag about how epic of a trip it was to Newport Beach, california a week ago. We spent seven days at a beach house. We were there last year at the same beach house, but we were only there for four days and the seven days it was literal magic. I can't express or find the words to even share how magical and in flow it was.
Speaker 1:So I want to touch a little bit on the conversations I had at the beach house, kind of where things are at for me, and then also how like magic can happen when you really surrender and just let go of any kind of outcome or trying to control anything. Cause I really feel that the past like three to four months, I mean shoot, really feel that the past like three to four months I mean, shoot, I think it's all of 2025 is God has been teaching me the lesson of trust surrender completely and trust. The old Katie was one who was very calculated, Like that's how I actually got as far as I did in corporate America. I was a C-suite executive at the age of 33 and very, very calculated. And this whole season of my life, everything that has happened with my horse and then my son, has really taught me what self-trust is and support from a higher being when you just completely loosen your hands off the reins. If you're a horse girl, you know what I'm talking about. No more half halting, no more grabbing the reins Like Jesus, take the wheel status. Okay, you feel me.
Speaker 1:And so, over the beach house, um, I've just been looking so forward to this, everything that has happened with my son. I just remember thinking that when we go to the beach house, it's going to be like we like a reset, like we are so good, we're here, we're together, like we're going to live our best lives, and so I just had that attitude going into it. And so we get there and my mom hands me two pieces of mail and I was like, oh okay, one thing about me is I don't love opening mail. I don't really know why, but I usually just like open it like a day or two later after getting it. Well, my husband saw the mail on the table and he's like, hey, you care if I open your mail for you, I just want to see what, what we got here. And I was like, no, whatever, I'm going to go to the beach with the boys, like have fun.
Speaker 1:And my husband was going to meet someone else, uh, one of his friends, who cause we used to live in California, and he texts me a picture and he goes um, so you're gonna, you're just going to laugh at this. And I'm like what? And he sends me a picture of a check of $3,904 and like 21 cents or something. And I just literally laughed because I'm like, of course, of course this happened, of course I open a check that's written to me from guess from what? This is what's going to have you trip out even more. This was from my delivery with my second son, who will be three in literally two months, he will be three years old where they miscalculated things and I had a $3,900 credit that they just, you know, wrote me the check. Like I die, I can't even like make this up. So of course I'm like, yes, of course that happens. Now, is that abnormal for me? Kind of, I'd actually have not opened like thousands of dollars in the mail before. I've opened like 1200 and 1500, but not like $4,000. Like that was like a beautiful little surprise, but I wasn't surprised at all because of all the releasing of any kind of control I've been going through. It's like it did make sense that that happened to me, because I've been in such the receptive mode, because I literally don't try to control anything. Okay, we're back. I literally am at a Target drive up to get my order and so I thought I'd do this on the go.
Speaker 1:Anyways, so progressing, moving on into the week and the real conversation that I want to unpack with you, that actually happened with my two sisters. So the week we just I just was so like go with the flow, like I didn't really have any plans. I wanted to spend time at the beach. I literally was like, if you want to see me, this is where I'll be. Come if you want, don't come if you don't want. I literally was just like I'm doing me. I'm hanging out with my family, I'm trying to make this the most present, memorable trip ever. And I did want to do a Duffy boat because I've missed Duffy boats, and that was already planned. We did that, but I was just so go with the flow, free spirited, this trip.
Speaker 1:I literally got my hair wet and jumped in the ocean to the point of my husband then goes. So there's a public dock, so we go to this public part of the Bay where you can post up and hang out or whatever, and then there's like a little jumping dock that they put to like I would I don't know maybe 50 yards off of the Bay front, that you can swim to and jump off, and it's super fun. And so you know, all the young kids do that and whatnot. And I jump in the water and get my hair wet because the boys like we're like, mommy, are you going to go swimming? And instead of being like the Katie who was like no, I don't want to get my hair wet, you know, I was like absolutely, I'll go swimming, and they got a kick out of it. They like me jumping in getting my hair wet. They got an absolute kick out of it and it was like that's what it's all about. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:So then my husband goes I bet you won't swim to that, um, that dock out there. And I go, challenge accepted. And so what do I do? I swim my little booty all the way out to this dock, literally. When I got there and then turned around right, came right back, right back, cause I didn't like go up it and to jump on it or whatever, climb up on it to jump off. I did not do that. And when I was on my way back I was a little like he filmed me and I was like you need to stop filming, cause, like I'm hyperventilating, like swimming is so hard, especially when it's cold. Like no joke, I can admit that.
Speaker 1:But when I got back, the boys were like one of them was actually upset, he was worried about me and I was my oldest. He was like really worked up that I swam that far and I'm like don't you think I'm like a cool mom? Like come on. And my husband was like dude, like that's awesome. And I mean like who doesn't love their husband to feel like proud of them, right? Do you know what I mean Like? So he was all like, yeah, that was awesome to the point where then he wanted to do it and he was like, okay, this is no joke. So so it was just like so fun and carefree. Do you know what I mean? You're probably picking up on what I'm laying down with that. You're getting what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Well, a couple of days later, we go on the Duffy boat. I even did something where I bought a second Duffy boat, which was something I've always envisioned doing. I don't know why. It was like two years ago, where I'm like I want to some sometime on a trip. I want to just buy a boat, rent a boat for my family, have it be my treat, cover the drinks, cover everything. And the opportunity didn't present itself last year, but then this year it did through magic in the universe, and the way it all fell into place was like no other way than God orchestrating it all. But I was able to like I manifested that where I was able to pay for a Duffy boat and treat everyone to such a fun experience, when I know that that would be something that normally would just be written off, or like we're not going to do that. We have the beach house, that's enough. And I'm like no, I want to feel elevated, I want to bring back the memories of a Duffy boat, like it's so fun to see the Bay from that, that view, that vantage point on the water, and so that was really cool.
Speaker 1:And then, later that day, my sister, my younger sister, my older sister, we were all chatting and, just for context, I have an older sister, an older brother, me and then my younger sister, and so we were all chatting about, like FOMO and how, like, how do you make the right decision? And I feel like I always struggle with this because it's like I want to do this, but I want to do that and I can't make a decision and I'm super indecisive. Oh yeah, and my niece, jane, was there. She's actually twin, an identical twin. Her and her boyfriend were there and we were talking about this because of college, and I then said something.
Speaker 1:So, as matter of fact, which is my own belief, which is I never have FOMO anymore, when I was someone who literally, like FOMO ran my life, and it's because I believe whatever decision I make is the right decision Let me say that again for it to land for you I no longer live by FOMO, because I believe that whatever decision I end up going with is the right decision and where I'm meant to be. When I said that it was like I dropped the mother freaking mic, I'm not kidding. Everybody was like whoa. I think someone actually even got chills by it, which was crazy. But it's honest to God, the truth. But I want to like unpack that a little bit with you because it's given me so much peace in my life and I think it comes down to the fact of believing and knowing that I'm fully supported by God, no matter what.
Speaker 1:There's a reason I chose to go right instead of left. There's a reason I decided to go to this party, not that party. There's a reason why I was available to go hang out with this person and not available anymore to go hang out with that person or whatever, like if I had a plan and somebody asked me to do something but I was already busy, if you're following me. And there's a reason and it's because I am divinely supported and divinely protected. I've lived through so much in the past six to seven months that like I feel like I've aged like fricking five years, if I'm being totally honest with you. But because I've been through so much.
Speaker 1:I deeply believe that whatever decision I make is where I'm exactly meant to be, even if it was such a hard decision. And I have a rule. If you're a private client of mine, I have a rule. When it comes down to things, I only need to be 51%, not 50, 50, 51% and I'm good. And I believe and I trust that everything else works out for me from that decision. That's as simple as going to the movie or not. That's as simple as grabbing that cup of coffee or not. That's as simple as I'm going to take this route home over that route. That's as simple as leaving the house five minutes earlier or five minutes late. It's all divine protection and divine intervention. I truly believe that to my core.
Speaker 1:Living the game or living life playing the game of FOMO like, or living life playing the game of FOMO like. Did I make the right decision, waste so much of your time and more of your energy and that's all you have. You only have energy and time. Without that, you literally got nothing. And so it was so fun to have that for my niece, who's just 21, for her to be able to start living her life with more trust at that young of age. Gosh, what I would do to go back to Katie at 21 and just tell her chill out, girlfriend, relax. When's the last time you took a deep breath, girl, like, if I could go back I would, so that I can tell Katie, 21-year-old Katie, slow down, stop drinking so much. I know you're having fun, but is it the real fun? Because really it. Nothing is that important, nothing. It's only the meaning that you give it.
Speaker 1:And then the last thing I want to touch on, just because I mentioned alcohol, was this time last year was when I had the first thought of not drinking anymore. I remember being on the beach with my sister-in-law and my nephews and my sons and they're running around having fun and I was like how, my third beer. And I remember feeling buzz because I'm a lightweight. And I remember being like why am I doing this? Like this is such a beautiful moment. I'm on the beach in sunny Southern California with my family, with my boys playing while they're young. Like why am I? Like trying to numb from this joy right now? But that thought didn't totally stick. It was the first thought that like, kind of was like you know, it was like seated in my brain. Thanks to God. And then I remember thinking like what's the point of alcohol? And then I officially kind of stopped drinking.
Speaker 1:Although I don't have, I don't believe in absolutes, so like do. Am I completely sober? No, but I would say 99% of the time I'm sober. Like I bring my own non-alcoholic drinks everywhere, I make my own mocktails, like I have a blast with this stuff. And I did dabble in the THC seltzers for a hot second. I don't love those, but I did dabble in that for a little bit. That was just recently with everything that went down with my son. I needed to find a way to relax a little bit, along with therapy and everything. But it was so wild coming full circle where I was at the beach again and I didn't have any alcohol, maybe had a drink here, never finished a single drink.
Speaker 1:Um, my mom tried to make me a drink. I ended up taking a couple of sips and not even drinking it. Like I'll say yes and I'll be honest with you. Like I want to party. There's parts of me that misses that. Like that sounds crazy, probably. And you might be laughing at me, but literally I kept joking the whole week Like I wish I was fun still. Now, of course I'm still fun, like I was.
Speaker 1:I feel like I was the funnest of the people everyone because I wasn't getting like buzzed or anything and I was like, yeah, you guys want to do shots, I'll pour them for you, no problem, you guys want to do this, you want to have a dance party? Like I am still fun, so don't take it out of context, but I joke where it's like man, I remember the version of me who was doing the shots and was having a mimosa at 10 AM and I was like heck, no, I'm not touching that. I put sparkling water with my orange juice. Like I just don't love the feeling anymore and it's crazy where I've gotten to a point that I don't like any feeling of being intoxicated at all, whether that be a THC seltzer or whether that be alcohol. Like the second, I feel like the edge coming off of like me being sharp. I hate it and it's so wild.
Speaker 1:But it was also super liberating. Where I'm like, dude, I really have outgrown alcohol and it's no more. It's no longer on the pedestal and I am still a freaking good time without it and my anxiety is like I don't have any anxiety and I don't know about you. If you've ever had anxiety after you drink, you're like did I make a fool out of myself? Oh, my gosh, like all of that is completely gone because I don't drink, because I don't care to drink, I don't want to drink and I feel like life is so good.
Speaker 1:So why numb it? Because when you numb some of the emotions, like frustration, grief, sadness, anger you're also numbing the good emotions, like joy, like beautiful, sweet moments with your kids and peace. You're also numbing peace because you numb it all. It's not like, hey, alcohol, can you numb this sad thought for me, but keep all the good ones. It doesn't work like that. And so, yeah, this was kind of just me sharing things on my heart about such a freaking, epic trip.
Speaker 1:Um, all the things that came from it, the beautiful conversations, and I'd say the biggest one is give yourself peace, knowing that whatever decision you make at any given time on any given day is the right decision and exactly where you're supposed to be, and that it's gonna open more doors because of every decision that you make, because you are divinely supported and you're totally loved and you're chosen and all the good things are coming your way that you make, because you are divinely supported and you're totally loved and you're chosen and all the good things are coming your way. I love you so much. Thank you for being here on this little like car ride chat and hey, maybe I'll do more of these later, I don't know. All right, catch you later. Bye. Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of she is Redefined. If today's chat resonated with you, don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss out. Remember Bye, until next time. Keep embracing who you are, because you're powerful, you're capable and you are redefined.
