Depression and Asking for Help: Practical Ways to Reach Out When You’re Struggling

Reaching out when you’re struggling with depression can feel impossible—but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode of Giving Voice to Depression, writer and advocate Sam Dylan Finch joins us to share five practical, compassionate, and doable ways to ask for help.

From finding the right words when you don’t know what you need, to asking for a check-in that can make all the difference, Sam’s tips give language and structure to one of the hardest parts of mental health recovery: reaching out.

If you’ve ever wondered how to ask for help—or if you’re worried about overwhelming others—this episode will give you clear, realistic ways to connect with support before things spiral into crisis.

Link to Sam Dylan Finch's list:
https://letsqueerthingsup.com/2018/03/03/10-ways-to-reach-out-when-youre-struggling-with-your-mental-health/

Primary Topics Covered:

• Why asking for help feels so hard when you’re depressed
• Five specific, practical phrases you can use when reaching out
• How check-ins and small gestures can prevent a deeper crisis
• Why support from loved ones is just as critical as professional care
• The importance of early, upstream suicide prevention

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to the episode and hosts
 01:00 – Feedback from a previous episode on suicidal thoughts
 02:40 – Why “reach out” can feel impossible when you’re struggling
 04:00 – Introducing guest Sam Dylan Finch and his personal story
 05:20 – Realization after a friend’s suicide and his own struggles
 07:00 – Why loved ones are the first line of defense in a mental health crisis
 08:35 – Tip #1: “I don’t know what I need, but I don’t want to be alone”
 10:55 – Tip #2: “I’m struggling and what I’ve been trying isn’t working”
 09:30 – Tip #3: “I don’t feel safe by myself right now”
 10:24 – Tip #4: “I’m in a bad place, but I’m not ready to talk about it”
 12:46 – Tip #5: “Can you check in on me at a specific time?”
 14:30 – Why small gestures matter more than you think
 16:59 – Early prevention vs. waiting until crisis hits
 19:26 – Examples of simple yet powerful acts of support
 20:01 – Preview of next episode: tips for when things are more severe
 20:14 – Closing reflections and encouragement to speak up

Explore mental health and addiction treatment options: https://recovery.com/
Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/GivingVoiceToDepression/
Terry's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/givingvoicetodepression/